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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
earlier this week I posted for the first time about my (musician) AH; he just got back to town, has a gig in the city where we live (he'd been gone a week) and slipped in that there's a good chance the guys would hang out after the gig (they're done playing by 12:30am). I think he is paving the way to stay out and drink--but I didn;t take the bait...I asked no questions. he is a big boy and I always worry about his drinking and driving but like the rest of it theres nothing I can do
he also made sure to let me know that he was disappointed I didn't find a way to bring our 3 kids to NYC to hear him play this week (we live 2 hrs away). Hmm, why would I find it difficult to keep kids entertained in a club?
sorry for ranting but I have already learned how much support there is here. When he planted the seeds about stying out late, swear my first thought was, 'I will post about this tonight!'
Hey, rant away! That's one of the great things about this board. We can ask for and share ESH, or we can vent and rant if that's what we need at the time. ¨-but I didn;t take the bait...I asked no questions. ¨ Good for you!
Welcome! Please don't apologize for sharing your expeience. It sounds slike you handled it great. I, too, know the moment of panic when the late-night-with-the-boys set up happens. Al Anon has taught me how to detatch, and after a year of faithfully attending meetings, it has gotten much easier. My AH still drinks occasionally (we have a 2 and 5 yr old), and I never dreamed I could be as ok as I am after having reached a point of such dread and fear in my life. I encourage you to try some face to face meetings as well as coming back to this site. They saved me and my family. I just read some of your earlier posts. Only you can know what is best for you and your family, but the experience, strength and hope this program has to offer can help you get better so you can make strong, clear decisions. Sending you support and understanding! I love this site too. :)
That's what we're here for. Youre right that you are powerless over him. he is going to do what it is he is going to do and youre focusing, now, on what you need to do. good for you.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
