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Debilyn


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One thing we share a lot here is this,"Nothing changes if nothing changes."

I found it very ok not to answer the phone if I didn't feel well, listen to the message when I felt like it.

When we answer the phone, open the door, we are letting that in which we do not want.

It is up to us to make boundaries. We have the power to choose what we want in our lives. We can control what we do or don't do.

I am a believer in not using the word try, I use the word do. I will keep my serenity........don't try, do.

Sure hope you get feeling better. Colds are no fun! hugs,debilyn please let us know how you are doing!



-- Edited by Debilyn on Monday 23rd of January 2012 12:16:02 AM

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I'm sick with cold symptoms, didn't go to church.  A few minutes ago my 26y.o. grandson called and asked me if I could pick him up from the hospital, said he had gone there this morning by ambulance.  I told him I was to sick and to call his mother, she is A/A and they don't get alone.  I called her after it kept bothering me, she was aware that he was at the hospital, I asked her what was wrong with him, she said you don't want to lose your serenity do you?  She said she was already depressed about it.  I said ok and hung up.  Now of course the stinking thinking has kicked in.  I'm really not feeling well, chills,achey, fever, etc.  It may sound like a pity party, but life is a struggle living in the same town as 2 A/A adult kids and an adult grandson with angermanagement issues along with adhd and substance abuse issues. OK! The remainder of today my focus is on keeping my serenity.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



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Hi Highlyfavored

I understand This is certainly a very difficult situation for you. I urge you to take care of yourself because if you do not you will be unable to be there for anyone.

Rest, drink fluids, read alanon literature , pray and let HP handle the family.

I know coming here, reading and joining the online meetings are also very helpful when I do not feel up to a meeting



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Thank you all for your support.  I do feel better today, wanting to feel well enough to go visit my friend for a few days, its a cold and rainy day, we need the rain so I won't complain.  I'm learning recovery is a process, a long process.  I'm learning to say no and not feel guilty.  What I'm working on now is the stinking thinking of my love ones  being in need ie. hungry, homeless etc.  Someone told me today my grandson lost his job and is talking about killing himself.  All I can do is pray for him, I sent a reguest for prayer to my favoriate site.  If any of you would like to add a prayer for him, please do.



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