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I'm worried my mom has a drinking problem. Every late afternoon/early evening she starts drinking, and usually has about 3 glasses of wine. If you don't say anything to her she's ok, but if you say even the smallest thing to contradict her it sets her off. She starts shouting and being sarcastic and cynical and yelling about how everyone hates her and she should just leave. We stop talking to her and she just keeps going on and on for at least 10 minutes. Sometimes she does leave to sleep at her parents or brother's house. In the morning she doesn't acknowledge it, but acts kind of cold towards all of us. I'm starting to suspect that this anger is caused by the alcohol, but no one else in my family says it. It really upsets me and I want to do something to change it but nothing seems to help.
welcome, km. The only requirement for al-anon is that someone's drinking has effected you so even if youre not sure what is going on with your Mom, I think al-anon should help you. I am sorry to hear about your struggles. My Mom can be very easily angered as well. Keep coming around the boards.
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Michelle!
No one can take away your peace of mind unless you let them.
I hope you are able to make it to face to face Al-anon meetings. They helped me to understand the disease and people around me. I am sending you love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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My first thought was wondering how old you are. Are you ok to stay there without your Mum? Are there other adults in the house? Maybe this is my mothering side coming out. Your safety comes first though.
I'm sorry your Mum treats you that way. My Mum can say awful things as well. The meetings have helped myself a lot and from there it opened up discussions with my siblings about what was happening. I'm 42 now and it has only been in the last 2-3yrs my sisters and I have acknowledged and accepted alcohol was part of the madness in our house. At the moment I am the only one in recovery.
Welcome! I am sorry you are having to go throught this. It sounds very painful. Please continue to listen to your own "inner voice" and disregard what others around you are thinking and saying about it. Al Anon (or Al Ateen depending on your age) meetings and this site can help with the pain and confusion someone elses drinking is causing you. If it is a problem for you, then it is a problem, and Al Anon can help. Keep coming back. We care and you are not alone. Big hug.
