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im in a rut and want to get out.co-dependancy.my husband is now 9 months sober by the grace of god.my kids are now teens and dont need me as much.and my grandparents whom i spent many years looking after passed away this year.my kids are busy having there own lives my husband has his meeting(which i am happy that he goes so much,he is really working his program),and my grandparents are gone.i do go to my meeting when i can.but who am i? what do i like to ?where do i start?feeling quite lost.everything that ive been busy doing for 16 years has come to a stop.i also started my family quite young(17 years old) so i took on the role of care taker before even becoming and adult to know who i was.wouldnt change a thing,love my family. and everything that has happened makes me who i am today.but who am i?
Well, your life isn't over yet, that's for sure. My dad just passed away and his wife said to me, "I still haven't decided what I want to be when I grow up." There's nothing wrong with trying a new path, finding a new passion, a new hobby, and do it just for you. The only way to know what you like to do, is to go out and try stuff. I got invited to go indoor rock climbing a few months ago and I knew it wasn't my thing, but I went anyway. It was exhilerating to get to the top of the wall and ring that dang bell! I just joined a tennis team to meet new friends and I also started going to meetings and taking a yoga class at the gym. I also taught myself how to knit a few years ago and I find that to be a very relaxing pass time. It's time to start taking care of yourself, just do it one step at a time.
Kids dont need you as much , husb is going to meetings ,now is the time to get to know the real you . Make time for meetings for yourself you too need to recover from the effects of someone elses drinking . The good news is you dont have to do this alone , once settled in this program you will have all the support you need to find out who you are. Louise
i have been in meetings for a year and a half and i do get so much out of them.i get to go about once a week and i find when i miss one i fall back on my stinking thinking.i would like to go to more but my job tends to have me working hours that meetings are held.i joined a gym yesterday(never have done that before)maybe some physical activity will be good for me as well as a little tanning.canadian winters are a little depressing without the sun.and a member shared a thought last night.turn resentments into gratatude.it works,a little at a time.one day,one hour,one minute,one second right?
