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imom · imom

In my recent self-discovery I have realized that one of my biggest character defects is to overreact to things. For the past two days (yes, one day at a time) I have been working very hard and being pretty successful at being calm and understanding and as accepting as possible when dealing with my AH. ...

jlm889 · jlm889

I am new to Al-anon and wondering if it is really for me? I grew up in a home where religion was never discussed and has not been a part of my life. I want to be a part of Al-anon but this issue just makes me feel out of place. Any suggestions? Thanks!

tired of trying · tired of trying

OK, so I already have custody of my AD 16 year old son, now her 4month old has been placed with us for the last month and I am struggling what to do. Of course we love our gd to pieces and she is an easy baby BUT we are in our 60's my husband has health issues, I have a full time job and we are exhausted. I know everyo...

Findinghope · Findinghope

This week managed to somehow get worse for me. My AH is battling a pattern of weekly relapses, and then we found out this week that his ex-wife is trying to stop a planned visitation we had with his daughter for next week. I don't know what to do. I've tried comforting him, myself, and am just devastated. W...

IWannaFly · IWannaFly

I think it must have been a full moon. In April I kicked out my ABF of 5 yrs on the verge of a mental breakdown feeling my life force being sucked away I mustered up the courage and did it. Then..... a month later, several heartfelt promises, pleas to come back I let him back in. Just when I was starting to be...

Dolly Llama · Dolly Llama

I just need to share this. It saddened me. Was walking down the street to grab some takeout. This drunk guy hit on me. I immediately recognised him from one of my al anon meetings. He grew up in an A home, also a member of AA, and is homeless. He didn't recognise me at all. I am so sorry he has apparently relaps...

katfshh · katfshh

I am determined this time to get off this ride. He was sober for 40 days. Everything here has been fine. We have been getting along well, he has been going to meetings and really making sure to get there even if he didn't feel like it. Last night, he said he was going to stay awake to watch a movie. I went downs...

Abigail426 · Abigail426

Dear friends, By the grace of my higher power and of the program I am able to recognize that everything that happens in my life happens for me and not to me. Having that said, relationships and communication are areas of my life that need a lot of work. The only way to improve is practice, right? I've been &...

CDK · CDK

Tonight, I went to my 1st step work me

Katy · Katy

I think I have come along way, at times i have been enraged by my husbands lack of care for me and inhability to read my mind and to show me love when I need it most, so I am trying to drop the BUT, the justification of if you would only do this I would do that, and it's becoming clear to me it's me thats got to do thi...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My A wife is a stay at home mom and has been for the last 5 years, since our daughter was born (we also have a 3 year old son). She has expressed interest in getting back into the workforce a few times in the last couple of years, and just recently an opportunity working with a friend that seemed perfect sudde...

imom · imom

I am new to this website but not new to alanon, although it has been quite a few months since I have attended a meeting. How do I stop arguing with my AH about his drinking? He has cut way back but the fact that he is drinking again bothers me so much. Our marriage counselor asked him to stop drinking this w...

kay115 · kay115

Hello everyone. I decided to get back on here, close to a year after my final post about moving out and leaving my AH. My life has changed so much. I am now divorced from my AH, I live in a new city, have my own apartment, a decent job, a new boyfriend, a whole new life. I think I have wanted to believe that this m...

Abigail426 · Abigail426

Well, this is my first time on the message board and I am quite excited! I've been attending al-anon for just about 3 years but don't always find the time to go to a meeting. I no longer live with my alcoholic mother but still maintain a close relationship with her and keep a distance from her drinking. I am...

Amandakay · Amandakay

Background: My father was an alcoholic until I was an early teen, I'm the oldest of 3, I'm on my 3rd marriage and my current husband is in rehab for his drinking problem... I just got off the phone with him and I just feel completely manipulated but I think I may have been manipulating the conversation som...

E14 · E14

How do I approach my daughter about her binge drinking?

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

It was nice to have a couple woman my age. The second half of the meeting was lots of cross talk and nomal conversations back and forth with lots of interruptions, I asked if they considered it cross talking and I was met with defensiveness. Maybe I should have just flowed with it? I am from the same size sm...

keeka8 · keeka8

Hi there, I am a 35 year old woman who has fallen in love with a 45 year old man. I am crazy about him. The way we met is amazing.. and he has traits that I have dreamed about in a man. I am not an addict, I can socially drink. However since we have been together, I will NOT drink in front of him. I respect and admire...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Does an Al-Anon meeting locator mobile app. exist? If not, it would be great to have one developed. Just a thought .

E14 · E14

My son in law called me today to say that my daughter is having more and more incidents of drinking till passing out or becoming very beligerant. They have a 3 year old daughter who is in the picture. He has asked me for some guidance. Advise please.

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel like today that I am not motivated & have the blahs. I guess that sometimes I need to be stimulated & paid atttention to more. I am seeking to find something outside of me that should come within. I don't have the strength to do what is needed to move forward today. I am not sure why I feel this...

lscrum12 · lscrum12

I'm the 23 year old wife of a 25 year old alcoholic. We started dating 7 years ago, and I knew he drank, but I was just so in love with him I told myself it didn't matter. His drinking really didn't bother me until we got married. I've done all I know to do to get him to stop. Threatening to leave just makes it wor...

silent · silent

im the one thats doing all the contacting not him,but i do know my feelings for him arnt the same,at all i know what works for me and that is just what ive been doing by coming here posting ,meetings church havent missed a sun,staying around healthy ppl,i figure im just doing a flip flopping because its on...

bratarella · bratarella

I just recently got out of a relationship with a man who I moved to Ohio to be with. I did not know that he had a drinking problem and three monthsa fter I moved here to be with him his mother passed away. He then began drinking heavily and became more depressed. He has told me over the course of our relatio...

Country Boy · Country Boy

My father passed away about 1 1/2 years ago from liver cancer. He was a recovered alcoholic for the last 25 years or so of his life. My wife is an alcoholic, in fact she is the alcoholic my father was. Drink, pass out & repeat. He was never mean or abusive, just not available. My AW yesterday in the middl...

clencher · clencher

My mum has been a drinker for all my adult life. She's in her 60s now and the drink is really starting to take it's toll. She's currently in the middle of a health crisis where she is having trouble walking, her motor skills are poor and her memory is shot to bits. I have been to a local al-anon group in the...

silent · silent

it felt good talking to him,by texting and hearinghis voice one time,i havent even heard another word from him,no texts or calls ,i guess he meant what he said that he really did miss me and that he couldnt just keep on texting,i allways thought that alcoholics/drug addicts had no feelings at all caus...

Julie3310 · Julie3310

so i have some good and bad news...... the day after i wrote this recent post, he called me from the unknown number and was in a rage. I knew what time it was. he was putting me down saying "everyone has told me no matter what my baby mama will always be here for me" that was a dagger to my heart bc sh...

Smukke · Smukke

Hi all, I would like to know how you would handle the following problem: I joined an expensive gym and paid for one month. After a few days I figured out that I do not like the gym and I do not want to go there anymore. According to the rules I submit a notice letter, giving notice until the end of the month. The...

Jude Moloney · Jude Moloney

About 3 years ago my husband started to not have any interest in me.. My Mom died 2 years ago and since then Our marriage has gone down hill from there. He drank a lot, he does no speak to me and will not say sorry when he hurts people's. My brother and 2 sisters are in AA, my brother has cut all ties with us I am to...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yesterday was my first Father's Day w/o my dad; as most of you know he died of cancer just before Christmas last year. The day wasn't bad because I kept busy I guess. My cousin told me to think of the good things; which I did & didn't even cry. I spent my day cleaning, laundry, karoake which I haven't don...

New Al-anon Member · Mommyof5

06/18/2012 I am a recent member of Al-anon, as well as a member of AA. I had a drinking problem for quite some years. 1999-2007. My last drink was January 7, 2007. Since that time I gave birth to two more children, got married and came to find out that my husband is a heroin addict. I transferred my addictio...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

One of my qualifiers is my AD (so is my AH). Last month I sat with her and her two sisters (they are all in their 20s) and told them that I had asked their dad for a divorce. At first they all seemed to take the news pretty well. But once some questions were asked about his finances and the impending loss of his h...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Running out the door to spend the day with my Dad but wanted to wish all the Dad's of MIP a very very Happy Father's Day! Jen

karen412 · karen412

I am trying to work on an issue that has been a part of my life since my AEXH has been in and out of recovery. Our children, 11 and 15 yrs old, recently found out he was drinking again when he offered our 15 year old an open door policy to his home. On a weekend that he does not have visits, our son went to his hom...

dragonflys · dragonflys

OK, so I feel a little bit better today. A lady that I met in a F2F meeting invited me to her church today. I was really scared but I did it. My son (13) would not go, so I went and took my daughter with me. She did great and really had a good time in Sunday School. When I walked into the church with my friend b...

silent · silent

texted my ex a ,he texted back ,just small talk,then texted all morning the next day,still i didnt show any love or wanting us back i just kept it all talk,but im ok with it,my feelings arent what i thougt they were gonna be as of melying back to him like he had wished for i know,talk tohim drunk last nite and...

CDK · CDK

Hello all. :) I decided to go on a road trip this weekend. Im not gonna lie, it was really difficult for me to go off and have a life without my A. I missed him very much, and had a full melt down when I got home. Told myself that it was ok because that WAS hard, and dealt with HALT. Anyway, I had some neat lessons a...

hotrod · hotrod

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dragonflys · dragonflys

Ugh, I want to have closer relationships with friends. I dont even know how to do that? I feel like I am just complaining when I talk to my friends. They dont want to hear all my problems, do they? Everyone has problems in their life, why would they want to sit and listen to mine? My therapist asked me w...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, I am working the steps in a group and we are in the middle of step to. I do have a Hp, however while working on this step I fined that my connection and faith are becoming stronger. I feel so much better in general and feel like I am actually doing some of the work. My exabf is back out there and n...

pineapple · pineapple

I had lunch with some friends today. After an hour or so one of them asked ¨And how is _ ?(A)¨ I said it had been a rough week and I didn't want to talk about it. He then said ¨we don't mean to pry, but we care about him. And more importantly we care about you.¨ Well, that opened the floodgates. I told them the l...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Hi,Here I am again with the same issue. My parents came to a school sports day to watch their grandchildren. While there Mum's mouth started flapping again. Yabbering on about various members of our family (not in a good way), telling me what I shared on facebook was a crock of bull****. Yesterda...

Chaya · Chaya

I have been going to meetings for a couple weeks now and they are helping so much. I would really like to get a sponsor at this point, but I am scared of (1) rejection and (2) another failed relationship. I do not trust myself to ask another woman who will be positive in my life. I don't trust my picker and I do...

PP · PP

I have a wonderful sponsor that has been with me for about 4 years and I feel disloyal even raising this issue. Since I have never had a sponsor, I don't know how these relationships best work. Sometimes I feel like maybe it has traveled more into the friend realm and the boundaries might be a bit skewe...

Path to Serenity · Path to Serenity

My A son got word today that his best friend tried to commit suicide. He was in tears telling me about it and is currently at the hospital where the friend is on life-support. The friend has been going thru a crisis in his marriage - he came home to find the house empty - the wife had moved out with the two ch...

Shelliebear · Shelliebear

More news... After my last post I did not post for a while. I watched my mom miraculously go further downhill. She drank one night and then in the morning while still drunk she dropped a wine glass, cut her knuckles on it really bad. I had to rinse her hand and bandage it. itwas bleeding a lot, probably beca...

Mwvd · Mwvd

I don't think I have the energy to stay in this marriage now that I know he is an alcoholic. I am very sad but know that to stay would be a really bad move. He is a sweet drunk but I gotta get out. Without resources, I don't know where to go. Is there a clearinghouse for housing options...others who may wan...

beckylee · beckylee

I am so happy today. My daughter is in town visiting. It's so strange. That only now, that this life change has happened. That I see clearly. I feel like Im coming out of a strange haze. I had been living in. I never realizied how my life had shrunk. Living with the Alcoholic. I am seeing my children in a whol...

Jenv · Jenv

Hello all, I was at my nieces graduation from highschool and afterwords there was a party for the graduatels at my sisters(the alcoholic) friends house. I was helping to get the food ready and my sister said something rude. I could tell how the day was going to go so my daughter and I left to avoid a drunke...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I have been coming and reading and occassionaly responding, but been crazy busy getting us unpacked and still have a bit to go. I left the island I lived on Sunday night and have moved to the main land where I know not a sole with my 2 girls for those who don't know me. I took my girls to see their dad today for t...

QueenK · QueenK

I have been with my husband for 16 years and it has been a very rocky road. He has gone as long as 2years sober before he began having weekend drinking binges. He has started drinking more lately and I am noticing the affect it has on my children. My 12 year old daughter has so much anger built up inside of her...

Julie3310 · Julie3310

The pain I have inside is excruating. I have been on an all time high and happiness from not hearing from my ex the past 2 weeks. The last I heard from him he wanted to hang out and i didnt want to see him, he called me saying he was at the beach with his friends and he was with his baby mama instead (he lied to me) a...

Kath72 · Kath72

My exhusband and I have agreed to try to work things out if he stays sober. He is currently in a residential correctional facility. Everything seemed to be going well until I told him I was going out with my sister to a street dance to celebrate my birthday and I would probably drink. I'm not a big drinker m...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

My beloved 16 year old puppy died on Sunday. She has been my faithful, loyal loving friend in the midst of all the craziness in my life she was the constant that keep me grounded and always always loved me unconditionally. I am devastated. It is taking all my strenght simply to get out of bed and go on. Just...

callmemara · callmemara

I hear "work the steps" a lot. Is there a workbook or something? Thanks!

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I need some help figuring myself out today. When my husband and I were separated for about 2 months in February, my son overheard a call that his dad received and became suspicious and mentioned it to me. I made a note of the day and time and went digging. I found out that the number belonged to a young girl...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just a little bit, just a little bit of anxiety today. I am doing better even w/ the pain! I am so fortunate that the doctors know what they are doing. I just wish I had private insurance of some kind. I am taking each test one at a time. I can only afford what I can afford these days. I can't spend what I have &am...

CDK · CDK

Hi everyone. :) Im working HARD TODAY at staying in the moment. Ive had some struggles with my best friend in addition to leaving my A. She turned on me, and fussed at me for being upset only two weeks later. In addition to that, she called him and asked him to be part of an art show. While, she certainly has t...

PP · PP

I have been attending Al Anon meetings for several years and have said to myself and others many times Let Go and Let God. This morning I had an experience where I got it...it is even hard to put it into words. As I mentioned in earlier posts, my husband's recovery program is Celebrate Recovery, which i...

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	overreacting (Preview) In my recent self-discovery I have realized that one of my biggest character defects is to overreact to things. For the past two days (yes, one day at a time) I have been working very hard and being pretty successful at being calm and understanding and as accepting as possible when dealing with my AH. ...	imom	5	434	Jun 22, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	New and struggling with "God as we understood him" (Preview) I am new to Al-anon and wondering if it is really for me? I grew up in a home where religion was never discussed and has not been a part of my life. I want to be a part of Al-anon but this issue just makes me feel out of place. Any suggestions? Thanks!	jlm889	6	612	Jun 21, 2012 by atheos
	grandchildren-help (Preview) OK, so I already have custody of my AD 16 year old son, now her 4month old has been placed with us for the last month and I am struggling what to do. Of course we love our gd to pieces and she is an easy baby BUT we are in our 60's my husband has health issues, I have a full time job and we are exhausted. I know everyo...	tired of trying	5	512	Jun 22, 2012 by Diva
	In need of serenity today (Preview) This week managed to somehow get worse for me. My AH is battling a pattern of weekly relapses, and then we found out this week that his ex-wife is trying to stop a planned visitation we had with his daughter for next week. I don't know what to do. I've tried comforting him, myself, and am just devastated. W...	Findinghope	2	505	Jun 22, 2012 by orchidlover
	Broken promises - disappointment is the worst (Preview) I think it must have been a full moon. In April I kicked out my ABF of 5 yrs on the verge of a mental breakdown feeling my life force being sucked away I mustered up the courage and did it. Then..... a month later, several heartfelt promises, pleas to come back I let him back in. Just when I was starting to be...	IWannaFly	13	893	Jun 21, 2012 by Bettina
	double winner friend relapse (Preview) I just need to share this. It saddened me. Was walking down the street to grab some takeout. This drunk guy hit on me. I immediately recognised him from one of my al anon meetings. He grew up in an A home, also a member of AA, and is homeless. He didn't recognise me at all. I am so sorry he has apparently relaps...	Dolly Llama	3	415	Jun 21, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	I'm Back and here we go again... (Preview) I am determined this time to get off this ride. He was sober for 40 days. Everything here has been fine. We have been getting along well, he has been going to meetings and really making sure to get there even if he didn't feel like it. Last night, he said he was going to stay awake to watch a movie. I went downs...	katfshh	8	599	Jun 21, 2012 by katfshh
	Bittersweetness (Preview) Dear friends, By the grace of my higher power and of the program I am able to recognize that everything that happens in my life happens for me and not to me. Having that said, relationships and communication are areas of my life that need a lot of work. The only way to improve is practice, right? I've been &...	Abigail426	2	312	Jun 21, 2012 by orchidlover
	My HP has a sense of humor... (Preview) Tonight, I went to my 1st step work me	CDK	5	487	Jun 21, 2012 by Desirae
	Still discovering who I am and why? (Preview) I think I have come along way, at times i have been enraged by my husbands lack of care for me and inhability to read my mind and to show me love when I need it most, so I am trying to drop the BUT, the justification of if you would only do this I would do that, and it's becoming clear to me it's me thats got to do thi...	Katy	3	594	Jun 21, 2012 by glad lee
	Embracing & accepting God's plan for us... (Preview) My A wife is a stay at home mom and has been for the last 5 years, since our daughter was born (we also have a 3 year old son). She has expressed interest in getting back into the workforce a few times in the last couple of years, and just recently an opportunity working with a friend that seemed perfect sudde...	usedtobeanyer	8	736	Jun 21, 2012 by Jerry F
	ending this cycle (Preview) I am new to this website but not new to alanon, although it has been quite a few months since I have attended a meeting. How do I stop arguing with my AH about his drinking? He has cut way back but the fact that he is drinking again bothers me so much. Our marriage counselor asked him to stop drinking this w...	imom	10	651	Jun 21, 2012 by abbyal
	One Year Later - Need advice about moving on (Preview) Hello everyone. I decided to get back on here, close to a year after my final post about moving out and leaving my AH. My life has changed so much. I am now divorced from my AH, I live in a new city, have my own apartment, a decent job, a new boyfriend, a whole new life. I think I have wanted to believe that this m...	kay115	7	656	Jun 21, 2012 by karen412
	First time (Preview) Well, this is my first time on the message board and I am quite excited! I've been attending al-anon for just about 3 years but don't always find the time to go to a meeting. I no longer live with my alcoholic mother but still maintain a close relationship with her and keep a distance from her drinking. I am...	Abigail426	6	602	Jun 20, 2012 by orchidlover
	Manipulated or Manipulator... (Preview) Background: My father was an alcoholic until I was an early teen, I'm the oldest of 3, I'm on my 3rd marriage and my current husband is in rehab for his drinking problem... I just got off the phone with him and I just feel completely manipulated but I think I may have been manipulating the conversation som...	Amandakay	5	592	Jun 20, 2012 by pinkchip
	mother of adult alcoholic (Preview) How do I approach my daughter about her binge drinking?	E14	3	716	Jun 20, 2012 by canadianguy
	My first meeting in my new town (Preview) It was nice to have a couple woman my age. The second half of the meeting was lots of cross talk and nomal conversations back and forth with lots of interruptions, I asked if they considered it cross talking and I was met with defensiveness. Maybe I should have just flowed with it? I am from the same size sm...	Breakingfree	4	356	Jun 20, 2012 by Jackie11
	In love with a Man in Recovery! (Preview) Hi there, I am a 35 year old woman who has fallen in love with a 45 year old man. I am crazy about him. The way we met is amazing.. and he has traits that I have dreamed about in a man. I am not an addict, I can socially drink. However since we have been together, I will NOT drink in front of him. I respect and admire...	keeka8	17	689	Jun 20, 2012 by Diva
	Al-Anon Meeting Mobile App? (Preview) Does an Al-Anon meeting locator mobile app. exist? If not, it would be great to have one developed. Just a thought .	Green Eyes	0	357	Jun 20, 2012 by Green Eyes
	Sober mom 8 years - Son-in-law called to say daughter has drinking problem (Preview) My son in law called me today to say that my daughter is having more and more incidents of drinking till passing out or becoming very beligerant. They have a 3 year old daughter who is in the picture. He has asked me for some guidance. Advise please.	E14	3	544	Jun 20, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	some days I just have the blahs! (Preview) I feel like today that I am not motivated & have the blahs. I guess that sometimes I need to be stimulated & paid atttention to more. I am seeking to find something outside of me that should come within. I don't have the strength to do what is needed to move forward today. I am not sure why I feel this...	Hoot Nanny	4	416	Jun 20, 2012 by Andrea12
	Could I benefit from Al-Anon? (Preview) I'm the 23 year old wife of a 25 year old alcoholic. We started dating 7 years ago, and I knew he drank, but I was just so in love with him I told myself it didn't matter. His drinking really didn't bother me until we got married. I've done all I know to do to get him to stop. Threatening to leave just makes it wor...	lscrum12	4	1059	Jun 20, 2012 by goingbananas
	blameing myself (Preview) im the one thats doing all the contacting not him,but i do know my feelings for him arnt the same,at all i know what works for me and that is just what ive been doing by coming here posting ,meetings church havent missed a sun,staying around healthy ppl,i figure im just doing a flip flopping because its on...	silent	6	561	Jun 19, 2012 by imom
	What Went Wrong? (Preview) I just recently got out of a relationship with a man who I moved to Ohio to be with. I did not know that he had a drinking problem and three monthsa fter I moved here to be with him his mother passed away. He then began drinking heavily and became more depressed. He has told me over the course of our relatio...	bratarella	6	547	Jun 19, 2012 by orchidlover
	Fathers day revelation (Preview) My father passed away about 1 1/2 years ago from liver cancer. He was a recovered alcoholic for the last 25 years or so of his life. My wife is an alcoholic, in fact she is the alcoholic my father was. Drink, pass out & repeat. He was never mean or abusive, just not available. My AW yesterday in the middl...	Country Boy	5	577	Jun 19, 2012 by orchidlover
	Struggling to cope (Preview) My mum has been a drinker for all my adult life. She's in her 60s now and the drink is really starting to take it's toll. She's currently in the middle of a health crisis where she is having trouble walking, her motor skills are poor and her memory is shot to bits. I have been to a local al-anon group in the...	clencher	2	404	Jun 19, 2012 by orchidlover
	saddened (Preview) it felt good talking to him,by texting and hearinghis voice one time,i havent even heard another word from him,no texts or calls ,i guess he meant what he said that he really did miss me and that he couldnt just keep on texting,i allways thought that alcoholics/drug addicts had no feelings at all caus...	silent	7	566	Jun 19, 2012 by pinkchip
	when I break it off, he BROKE INTO MY HOUSE! (Preview) so i have some good and bad news...... the day after i wrote this recent post, he called me from the unknown number and was in a rage. I knew what time it was. he was putting me down saying "everyone has told me no matter what my baby mama will always be here for me" that was a dagger to my heart bc sh...	Julie3310	5	815	Jun 19, 2012 by pinkchip
	Boundaries, anger, detachment (Preview) Hi all, I would like to know how you would handle the following problem: I joined an expensive gym and paid for one month. After a few days I figured out that I do not like the gym and I do not want to go there anymore. According to the rules I submit a notice letter, giving notice until the end of the month. The...	Smukke	5	692	Jun 19, 2012 by Smukke
	Struggling to cope with rejection (Preview) About 3 years ago my husband started to not have any interest in me.. My Mom died 2 years ago and since then Our marriage has gone down hill from there. He drank a lot, he does no speak to me and will not say sorry when he hurts people's. My brother and 2 sisters are in AA, my brother has cut all ties with us I am to...	Jude Moloney	3	594	Jun 19, 2012 by Jerry F
	it wasn't that bad; feeling the love! (Preview) Yesterday was my first Father's Day w/o my dad; as most of you know he died of cancer just before Christmas last year. The day wasn't bad because I kept busy I guess. My cousin told me to think of the good things; which I did & didn't even cry. I spent my day cleaning, laundry, karoake which I haven't don...	Hoot Nanny	1	368	Jun 19, 2012 by ilovedogs
	New Al-anon Member (Preview) 06/18/2012 I am a recent member of Al-anon, as well as a member of AA. I had a drinking problem for quite some years. 1999-2007. My last drink was January 7, 2007. Since that time I gave birth to two more children, got married and came to find out that my husband is a heroin addict. I transferred my addictio...	Mommyof5	3	389	Jun 19, 2012 by Mommyof5
	Letting Go and Letting God Can be Really Tough (Preview) One of my qualifiers is my AD (so is my AH). Last month I sat with her and her two sisters (they are all in their 20s) and told them that I had asked their dad for a divorce. At first they all seemed to take the news pretty well. But once some questions were asked about his finances and the impending loss of his h...	Green Eyes	5	584	Jun 18, 2012 by glad lee
	Happy Father's Day (Preview) Running out the door to spend the day with my Dad but wanted to wish all the Dad's of MIP a very very Happy Father's Day! Jen	Jennifer	2	352	Jun 18, 2012 by canadianguy
	Protecting my Children (Preview) I am trying to work on an issue that has been a part of my life since my AEXH has been in and out of recovery. Our children, 11 and 15 yrs old, recently found out he was drinking again when he offered our 15 year old an open door policy to his home. On a weekend that he does not have visits, our son went to his hom...	karen412	3	491	Jun 18, 2012 by jorjorjor
	Reaching out (Preview) OK, so I feel a little bit better today. A lady that I met in a F2F meeting invited me to her church today. I was really scared but I did it. My son (13) would not go, so I went and took my daughter with me. She did great and really had a good time in Sunday School. When I walked into the church with my friend b...	dragonflys	2	409	Jun 18, 2012 by glad lee
	ive sorta relapsed (Preview) texted my ex a ,he texted back ,just small talk,then texted all morning the next day,still i didnt show any love or wanting us back i just kept it all talk,but im ok with it,my feelings arent what i thougt they were gonna be as of melying back to him like he had wished for i know,talk tohim drunk last nite and...	silent	8	454	Jun 18, 2012 by silent
	Little lessons from my trip: (Preview) Hello all. :) I decided to go on a road trip this weekend. Im not gonna lie, it was really difficult for me to go off and have a life without my A. I missed him very much, and had a full melt down when I got home. Told myself that it was ok because that WAS hard, and dealt with HALT. Anyway, I had some neat lessons a...	CDK	4	412	Jun 18, 2012 by Mattie
	TRADITION 4 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t49639433/alanon-tradition-4	hotrod	0	608	Jun 17, 2012 by hotrod
	Trying to Change (Preview) Ugh, I want to have closer relationships with friends. I dont even know how to do that? I feel like I am just complaining when I talk to my friends. They dont want to hear all my problems, do they? Everyone has problems in their life, why would they want to sit and listen to mine? My therapist asked me w...	dragonflys	3	602	Jun 18, 2012 by Jerry F
	step 2 (Preview) Hi everyone, I am working the steps in a group and we are in the middle of step to. I do have a Hp, however while working on this step I fined that my connection and faith are becoming stronger. I feel so much better in general and feel like I am actually doing some of the work. My exabf is back out there and n...	Tracy	1	501	Jun 18, 2012 by Jerry F
	detachment-denial? (Preview) I had lunch with some friends today. After an hour or so one of them asked ¨And how is _ ?(A)¨ I said it had been a rough week and I didn't want to talk about it. He then said ¨we don't mean to pry, but we care about him. And more importantly we care about you.¨ Well, that opened the floodgates. I told them the l...	pineapple	12	785	Jun 18, 2012 by Debilyn
	Mum - A bit scattery (Preview) Hi,Here I am again with the same issue. My parents came to a school sports day to watch their grandchildren. While there Mum's mouth started flapping again. Yabbering on about various members of our family (not in a good way), telling me what I shared on facebook was a crock of bull****. Yesterda...	Tracey C	3	412	Jun 18, 2012 by Debilyn
	Trust issues in asking for sponsor (Preview) I have been going to meetings for a couple weeks now and they are helping so much. I would really like to get a sponsor at this point, but I am scared of (1) rejection and (2) another failed relationship. I do not trust myself to ask another woman who will be positive in my life. I don't trust my picker and I do...	Chaya	6	568	Jun 17, 2012 by Chaya
	Is it time for a different sponsor? (Preview) I have a wonderful sponsor that has been with me for about 4 years and I feel disloyal even raising this issue. Since I have never had a sponsor, I don't know how these relationships best work. Sometimes I feel like maybe it has traveled more into the friend realm and the boundaries might be a bit skewe...	PP	11	870	Jun 17, 2012 by abbyal
	Walk with me (Preview) My A son got word today that his best friend tried to commit suicide. He was in tears telling me about it and is currently at the hospital where the friend is on life-support. The friend has been going thru a crisis in his marriage - he came home to find the house empty - the wife had moved out with the two ch...	Path to Serenity	5	509	Jun 17, 2012 by ilovedogs
	More news, my mom is gone for 3 weeks (Preview) More news... After my last post I did not post for a while. I watched my mom miraculously go further downhill. She drank one night and then in the morning while still drunk she dropped a wine glass, cut her knuckles on it really bad. I had to rinse her hand and bandage it. itwas bleeding a lot, probably beca...	Shelliebear	4	569	Jun 16, 2012 by Jerry F
	Planning to move out (Preview) I don't think I have the energy to stay in this marriage now that I know he is an alcoholic. I am very sad but know that to stay would be a really bad move. He is a sweet drunk but I gotta get out. Without resources, I don't know where to go. Is there a clearinghouse for housing options...others who may wan...	Mwvd	4	523	Jun 16, 2012 by Mwvd
	Gratitude Family graditude (Preview) I am so happy today. My daughter is in town visiting. It's so strange. That only now, that this life change has happened. That I see clearly. I feel like Im coming out of a strange haze. I had been living in. I never realizied how my life had shrunk. Living with the Alcoholic. I am seeing my children in a whol...	beckylee	3	419	Jun 16, 2012 by PP
	Sister assaulted me (Preview) Hello all, I was at my nieces graduation from highschool and afterwords there was a party for the graduatels at my sisters(the alcoholic) friends house. I was helping to get the food ready and my sister said something rude. I could tell how the day was going to go so my daughter and I left to avoid a drunke...	Jenv	13	827	Jun 16, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	The crazy move and settling in (Preview) I have been coming and reading and occassionaly responding, but been crazy busy getting us unpacked and still have a bit to go. I left the island I lived on Sunday night and have moved to the main land where I know not a sole with my 2 girls for those who don't know me. I took my girls to see their dad today for t...	Breakingfree	3	608	Jun 16, 2012 by Dolly Llama
	HELP ME! (Preview) I have been with my husband for 16 years and it has been a very rocky road. He has gone as long as 2years sober before he began having weekend drinking binges. He has started drinking more lately and I am noticing the affect it has on my children. My 12 year old daughter has so much anger built up inside of her...	QueenK	6	443	Jun 16, 2012 by QueenK
	On cloud 9 till lighting striked again! but I got up! Just want you guys to hear my battle (Preview) The pain I have inside is excruating. I have been on an all time high and happiness from not hearing from my ex the past 2 weeks. The last I heard from him he wanted to hang out and i didnt want to see him, he called me saying he was at the beach with his friends and he was with his baby mama instead (he lied to me) a...	Julie3310	13	658	Jun 16, 2012 by PP
	Feeling like I'm crazy!!! (Preview) My exhusband and I have agreed to try to work things out if he stays sober. He is currently in a residential correctional facility. Everything seemed to be going well until I told him I was going out with my sister to a street dance to celebrate my birthday and I would probably drink. I'm not a big drinker m...	Kath72	4	503	Jun 16, 2012 by Jerry F
	I Have Lost My Best Friend (Preview) My beloved 16 year old puppy died on Sunday. She has been my faithful, loyal loving friend in the midst of all the craziness in my life she was the constant that keep me grounded and always always loved me unconditionally. I am devastated. It is taking all my strenght simply to get out of bed and go on. Just...	surfgirl123	13	1019	Jun 16, 2012 by callmemara
	working the steps? (Preview) I hear "work the steps" a lot. Is there a workbook or something? Thanks!	callmemara	3	762	Jun 16, 2012 by Tigger
	TRUST (Preview) I need some help figuring myself out today. When my husband and I were separated for about 2 months in February, my son overheard a call that his dad received and became suspicious and mentioned it to me. I made a note of the day and time and went digging. I found out that the number belonged to a young girl...	WornOutMrsFixIt	12	666	Jun 16, 2012 by orchidlover
	some anxiety but that is just me! (Preview) Just a little bit, just a little bit of anxiety today. I am doing better even w/ the pain! I am so fortunate that the doctors know what they are doing. I just wish I had private insurance of some kind. I am taking each test one at a time. I can only afford what I can afford these days. I can't spend what I have &am...	Hoot Nanny	3	351	Jun 16, 2012 by orchidlover
	Trying to stay in the moment... (Preview) Hi everyone. :) Im working HARD TODAY at staying in the moment. Ive had some struggles with my best friend in addition to leaving my A. She turned on me, and fussed at me for being upset only two weeks later. In addition to that, she called him and asked him to be part of an art show. While, she certainly has t...	CDK	9	664	Jun 15, 2012 by glad lee
	EXPERIENCE of letting go (Preview) I have been attending Al Anon meetings for several years and have said to myself and others many times Let Go and Let God. This morning I had an experience where I got it...it is even hard to put it into words. As I mentioned in earlier posts, my husband's recovery program is Celebrate Recovery, which i...	PP	3	492	Jun 15, 2012 by PP
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