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I have been coming and reading and occassionaly responding, but been crazy busy getting us unpacked and still have a bit to go. I left the island I lived on Sunday night and have moved to the main land where I know not a sole with my 2 girls for those who don't know me. I took my girls to see their dad today for the weekend and have to get used to this again from a bigger distance with dettaching and letting them go with him.
My neighbors in my apartment complex smoke outside their apartments which face my door and it stinks, trying to use the back door entrance more. The other night neighbor straight across came home drunk at 3 am and woke me up being loud outside with his other loud drunk friends, fun fun, I had to be at work at 8 a.m. It is every where you go and I know it, good thing I have Al-anon. Someone tried to pick my storage unit lock and I couldn't get into it until the maintenance guy fixed it 2 days later. There was a huge stain in my living room carpet that maintenance guy had to finally catch me today my first day off since arriving here to try to shampoo out and it didn't come up. I put alarms on my doors and windows and leave my outside light on, but not the back one my other neighbor doesn't like it, ha. I have with the help of my 14 year old unpacked every room except mine and a big closet full of boxes I didn't need right away that I can slowly work on and find homes for it all. Oh yeah and my mailbox key doesn't work which doesn't really matter I gave everyone the wrong address anyway, geez right, haha!
I called and found a Saturday morning meeting at 9 am and I will be there before work and find out when and where other meetings are that will work around my schedule. I had an issue at work with a girl creating a crisis where there was none on my third day at my new job and she was reprimanded and I still feel bad for her, she was crying and said she needed a personal day after being talked to and went home. I was her in a previous life! Well so things have really been crazy, but I do see the good of things coming down the pike and I am dettached from said neighbors and fellow work mates. Trying to fall into a routine so I can spend time doing fun things with my kids when they get back on Sunday evening. It will take awhile and I am okay with things needing time to fall into place. Trying to stay calm and serene with all the changes this move has brought and make my house a safe haven for my kids and I. Sending you all love and support!
-- Edited by Breakingfree on Friday 15th of June 2012 03:28:03 PM
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Oh myyy .. well .. you know it sounds like you handled it all extremely well and you are truly a work in progress. I have heard some serious stories this week if I didn't know better I would say that there was a full moon out!! There isn't so I don't know exactly what all of the weirdness with people is about lately.
Congrats on the move!!! Woot woot!!! I hope to follow in your foot steps sooner than later!!
You are right though it all just takes time to adjust and having the ability to wait it out is truly a gift.
Hugs P :)
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Second hand smoke is a real issue for me because I have asthma. At the last place I lived the smoking was unbelievable!
I am so glad you are settling in. I know this is a temporary place for you. My last temporary place was 4 years. I hope the job will work out for you too.
I certanly can relate to seeing people as I was and being so grateful.
SO glad to hear you guys have landed safely in your new place, albeit with a few challenges. Do stay safe...sounds like you got it covered...as a single gal I'm paranoid about safety...if you want any additional tips, I am happy to share my experience.
It will feel like home in no time. Keep reminding yourself what you left, and all that you have to look forward to! In the midst of it all, enjoy those moments, laugh with your girls, and remember the chaos won't last forever!
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Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us. -from Pema Chödron's When Things Fall Apart