Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

MIPers, I need your help to stop my last hour from turning into a full-blown slip :). Thank you so much for whatever ESH you have to offer to keep me on track!! I posted a few weeks ago about how challenging it has been for me that my partner is so busy with work and school. Now, it's Thanksgiving eve and my co...

DavidG · DavidG

... how much tolerance does this forum have for family members of other addictions- ? that is apart from alcohol addiction. I know we family members tip-toe around some topics- it is what we are used to back in the day! we are in the USA in 2011 [and plan to be back next year....]. I did not get to Alanon mee...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

Well, I put a note in my husband's truck last night telling him that I was moving forward with divorce plans. I did that because when we discuss, it so often turns into an argument and we end up saying more hurtful things. So sick of every conversation, even pleasant ones, being a land mine. Anyway, I had S...

Lyne · Lyne

Last night in my F2F meeting our topic was what we learned about trust in our childhoods. Well what I learned was to "trust" people that abused me and let me down. And I have carried this all through my life, including my current A spouse. I think everyone I have been close to has hurt me and/...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi All, had a bit of a slip over past couple of weeks and wanted to share my growth to express how this slip was part of my journey. I have been getting resntful towards mt sober ABF because he is working hard and only getting to 1 meeting a week. He is talking to his AA friends inbetween and doing his reading...

mama24181 · mama24181

So my daughter took off very drunk in her car from ohio to drive down to see friends in north carolina. I knew the route she takes so I called the state police in each state she would be going through and told them she was drunk. What if she killed some a small child , a whole family and she could have killed her...

Gaby · Gaby

I called a counselor actually a intervention counselor. What has me confused is when speaking to this interventionist, he says to me that I do not need to allow my son to hit rock bottom in order for him to get help. I can try to help him before hitting that bottom. I say to him that I have truly done all I can d...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone Off to shop for Thanksgiving.....I'm so glad I am doing this. I am grateful -- Edited by Cathyinaz on Tuesday 26th of November 2013 02:08:55 PM

Gaby · Gaby

My son has just been caught up in web of lies. I feel my hurt is turning into anger!! I l

scgrl · scgrl

I'm a "newbie" to the board.but an "oldie" in living with alcoholics. Been through 3 interventions with my mom, and married an alcoholic 17 years ago. I apparently learned a lot.right? Basically, the two closest people to me are both alcoholics and we also have four boys to...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Oh brother. AH claims that it will be cheaper for him to buy a small house instead of renting. Is he kidding me? He says, even though this separation is going to be short lived, he still wants to invest in a home. I'm not real keen on him using marital assets for a home purchase right now but instead of ro...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

That's my idea for a new reality show...like it? lol. Basically we put a bunch of codependents and a bunch of alcoholics on an island together and the last codependent standing (after the rest have collapsed in a screaming heap or swum out into the open ocean crying hysterically) wins. I feel like a con...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning all Today is the day for packing up my things and get ready to take my little vacation to visit my sister. I'm a little anxious but at the same time excited to be going. I have never left others during a holiday to go somewhere by myself. Yes I"M GOING.... I leave tomorrow morning for a...

maryjane · maryjane

I heard a new acronym..... WAIT- Why Am I Talking? This is for when I know I don't have to justify or argue or make my point or explain or anything else. I can just be happy with MY choices.

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It's taken me a long time and every once in a while I can get sucked into the he's really ok and I'm the one who isn't thought process. Then I am given what I call a "gift" a reminder that NOOOO .. I'm doing just fine and stay on MY side of the street and let him do what he's going to do. I have some foo...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Help...I've fallen, and I can't get up... I'm writing from the bedroom, and I've noticed lately that I don't want to leave the room since the A is out there. The A lives out in the living room on the computer and sleeps on the sofa. When I am home I stay in the bedroom and venture out only for necessities. ...

Rose50 · Rose50

My son called me this evening after no contact for almost 6 weeks. I'm feeling very emotional right now...just hearing his voice and he sounded really sad. I don't know where he was calling from and I didn't ask but he told me his insurance lapsed. I have a feeling he's in a hospital or some medical facili...

el-cee · el-cee

Listening to this saying from old timers in alanon has never meant that much to me before. Living life on lifes terms!! I am getting it though. I think it means accepting people for who they are and not what we want them to be. Not really having expectations of anyone. For example, my son had some money tod...

Clou · Clou

It has taken over 10 years, but I accept that I am powerless over alcoholism and my life is unmanageable. Being married to my AH for over 32 years, and accepting some very unacceptable behavior the last ten years, has taken quite a toll on my life. 10 years ago I organized an intervention for my AH. I th...

Mattie · Mattie

I am trying to use my tools but the situation is getting too much for me -- like using a spoon when you're trying to bail out a sinking boat. Since I've been separated from my A for a number of years now, he's no longer drinking around me, which is excellent. But I'm still paying the price for the fact that I c...

oldergal · oldergal

FOR STINKIN THINKIN!! ONE THAT MOST PEOPLE COULD UNDERSTAND....LOVE TO HEAR IT, THANKS

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

I've found a disturbing pattern in myself - as soon as anything at all might be wrong, I start thinking the worst, and working myself up to the point that I'm thinking about divorce. My husband called, but I didn't have a chance to talk to him. He was upset, said it had to do with work. Of course, now I'...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Today is Monday I do know that. My Ahs found a job with a huge cut in pay and has to commute close to 2 hours to work. I'm very depressed lost my Sponser due to her own trouble at home, I manage to lose 3 more friends well they really weren't friends because they all had strings attached to them. I know how to sor...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

I just set my appointment with the attorney to file for divorce. God works in mysterious ways and I prayed for clear vision to see what I needed to see and hear what I needed to hear and boy did he listen. I am proceeding as if AH wasn't sober and no looking back. He is the same controlling, "don't ques...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

As I become more familiar with Alanon I have heard a few people talk about the "Adult Child movement." On Friday night a man in my group said it happened in the 80s or 90s in Alanon (I forget which.) He said a lot of people in Alanon were upset about it because they don't want to look at their o...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

So I was talking to one of my long-timer Al-Anon friends yesterday and she informed me that I use sarcasm too much and that it's really a defense mechanism that many of us in Al-Anon use due to being around the alcoholics in our lives. She suggested that I look up the word, "sarcasm," in the Al-...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Not sure how I'm going to clean up this mess! My AH got in last night and claims he had a spiritual awakening. He suggested doing a daily devotional together, just out of the blue(it was the first words he basically spoke to me in the past 2 months). I told him I needed to think about it, and then....thin...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Mahalo MIP family for your unconditional love and support in "Sucky, sick feelings" the acceptance allowed me to inventory the event and my part in it and at first I questioned my intentions because it seem no appropriate in subject matter however the inventory reveals the core nature...

Earthmamajenny · Earthmamajenny

Hi...this is my first post here. I haven't been to a meeting in awhile...cause I'm sooo good at detachment when my alcoholic is practicing sobriety....just kidding/poking fun at myself....I've needed to go and have let it slide. I'm currently out of town and my husband stayed home to take care of the...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I guess I should start by saying that it is my..well..lets just say I am hyper emotional. My AH who verbally abused me for 10 years, then got into drugs and hanging out with thugs and being out all night, who then went to Rehab for 20 days..and came out a hugely different person. Treats me differently tri...

Gaby · Gaby

Well today I woke up with an appetite ( which is not the normal fore ). But I woke up better then yesterday. I reached out to my son last night and all I asked was "are you ok, that is all I want to know" well his response was "yes". That was all. Next week the holiday will be here and if thi...

Lyne · Lyne

Thanks to all who supported me in appreciating the blessings I have. And once I gave up my little pity party, I figured out if all were willing, that we could have Thanksgiving dinner on the Sunday after Thanksgiving. They all agreed! This is a blessing. Getting rid of negative makes room for posit...

Minibee · Minibee

Hi i am a 44 year old adult child of an alcoholic father. He drank from before I was born, I left home at 18, I have not had contact with him for more than 12 years. My mum lived with him for 27 years, had 4 children, left him when I was 27. She lives near me. My two sisters are in contact with us and are 4 to 5 hours aw...

Jerry F · Jerry F

This is about seeing the humor in things rather than the critizism. I have a business and one of my clients is a small hotel in Hilo. My office is it's gardens and property and I am beyond blessed. Sometimes the blessing are humor which comes in strange confusing ways. I was clearing the leaves ou...

el-cee · el-cee

My son, the son who takes after his A father in so many ways, including a problem with alcohol has been living with his friend and his family and staying with me from time to time also. I finally set a few boundaries around him since Alanon and they have helped protect me from my ex and now my sons destructiv...

Kent · Kent

I am a recovering alcoholic in AA with 3.5 years of sobriety. I went to a few al-anon meetings with my then girlfriend (now my wife) prior to getting sober. My wife had been a devoted member of al-anon for more than ten years, but since the birth of our son almost two years ago she has been to maybe five me...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

I am half-way through reading 'The Complete ACOA Sourcebook; at home, at work and in love' by Janet Geringer Woititz. In reading that book I have learned that;My behaviours and self-image is based on the stories that I absorbed growing up. There was much inconsistency in the messages that I was being...

John · John

I have a glass top coffee table and under the glass I have many recovery related books. AA. Al-Anon, NA, Coda, ACoA. As I was looking through the glass this morning, I thought, "Grab one, randomly open it and share a paragraph from the page that is opened". I reached under the table, let my hand fumble...

Gaby · Gaby

Well my son and I have had very little communication. I know he is in a dark place. I have to fully surrender and give god his child that he blessed me with. I pray and pray and have hope my son gets back on the saddle to sobriety.. I truly have to take care of me. I am praying for strength .. I can't do no more for m...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and I've survived it. Aloha Family...just recently got back from a "meet the commanders" meeting at the police department. This is the third time the first two with a different focus. This one was standing up for me as a Hawaiian National who was assaulted by the police. I went for the...

neshema2 · neshema2

This is a picture of my "mama" Aunt Helen...Maternal Aunt...She is in a nursing home now, going down that spiral that Alzheimer's takes our loved ones down....Do they know they are sick?? Do they really know that life is ebbing away, slowly, inexorably??? I think they do.....I think they...

John · John

If you used mIRC in the Thursday night meeting and have it set to log the activity (chat) in the room, please let me know, I need a copy of Thursday nights meeting on Step Three. Or just send it to me at johnfreifeld@gmail.com. I didn't know until this morning that my mIRC settings were not logging the me...

John · John

Hi Everyone, I literally hate having to post this stuff but each year our bills come due again for the MIP site. The domain name registration, the web hosting, message boards, etc, cost money. If you can make a donation that will help offset some of the expense it would be gratefully appreciated. T...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Hi all, my AH comes home from a missions trip to Haiti tomorrow. I will be picking him up from the airport late. I am working on having no expectations from this trip of his. He has contacted me via text a few times, but nothing earth shattering, LOL. I am very ready to move on with my life and I am afraid t...

Lyne · Lyne

OK, so I can't have Thanksgiving dinner with my son and his family because they are eating with his in-laws this year. I was just writing to my sponsor. Yes, I can choose to have a pity party, poor me, and a big boo hoo. Life is so unfair! And then my alanon brain kicked in and I am so lucky to have a son I am...

Mattie · Mattie

I am in a coffee shop where I often hang out. It's on the edge of a sketchy area of town and sometimes homeless people and panhandlers come in. You know what I mean -- unkempt, torn and dirty clothing, hair that hasn't been washed or combed in weeks, and so on. Just now I saw a homeless person approaching...

Tasha · Tasha

.... to screw in a light bulb????? None. They detach with love and let it screw itself.

1lostmom · 1lostmom

Hi, I'm new here, and I wanted to share my story and get some support. I was a good kid. I grew up in a very nice neighborhood, my mom stayed at home with my siblings and I, and my dad was a teacher. I could find things to complain about, but in the greater scheme that is life, I had a relatively easy childho...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It's my birthday .. goooo me! I was reflecting on the past two years today and the changes that have come either from outside forces or just because it was time. What has changed .. a LOT! What hasn't changed .. a LOT! I had to laugh to myself. Let's see this all started 2 years ago (well longer however...

Buford · Buford

Hello, i am new to this forum. I am in a long distance relationship with a recovering addict, who joined NA 6 months into our relationship. We've been together about a year and a half. Today, she told me that she is going to a "dance party" (rave) to see how it makes her feel. She says she is prepa...

Gaby · Gaby

I am hurting do much. I texted my son and he usually responds right away. I feel something is wrong. I just don't want to know. I am praying every minute for both he and I. I am falling back to my depression. I just need some support. I love my son but I can't help him if he is not ready. How after 5 months of recov...

Debilyn · Debilyn

for the loving parents of A children

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Today didn't get off to such a great start. I've been having a hard time getting myself together in the mornings, especially with the weather getting really cold where I live. I have thyroid disease and adrenal fatigue that I'm newly learning to self treat, for lack of funds and a doctor who will liste...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Frequently of an afternoon, we walk down to the local park and daughter and I sit on the swings, swinging and talking about this n that, while the dog runs around sniffing things and then peeing on them, and every few minutes he runs over to stare sideways at us for a while, because he just doesn't underst...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had to delete my account abruptly because I think it became compromised I'm hoping that enough time, new name and new email address will do the trick. I have been a lurker and reading daily for my dose of the wise people on these boards. Things are going good .. I'm still married .. probably will be fo...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Sigh, ABF came home from work 5 hours early today and stomped off to his room "I DON'T want to talk"... I sensed something more than the usual hangover/tantrum was going on and I was right; he eventually opened up and I won't go into details but it turns out he's being bullied quite horribly at...

alexmaui · alexmaui

I have a family court order of protection against my husband. I filed citing his harassment after months of calls to my cell phone voice mail and to my work place I never felt physically threatened. But his constant calls to, my job-- up to 12 times a day--- began to affect my co-workers and how I was v...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I have read much on the subject of detachment. How much can you detach while living under the same roof. My AH is asleep snoring on the couch when I come in from work. If he wakes up he is repeating himself or telling stories that don't make sense. Like many on this board, I have been married for many yea...

John · John

Hi Everyone, I literally hate having to post this stuff but each year our bills come due again for the MIP site. The domain name registration, the web hosting, message boards, etc, cost money. If you can make a donation that will help offset some of the expense it would be gratefully appreciated. T...

oldergal · oldergal

My friend the counselor tells me he discourages addicts in recovery from setting too many goals. How do people get better, then? I wondered. He explains they create new habits by focusing on short-term outcomes they can control. The point is the process, not the finish line. My son in recovery (with...

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	Practice and Recommitment (Preview) MIPers, I need your help to stop my last hour from turning into a full-blown slip :). Thank you so much for whatever ESH you have to offer to keep me on track!! I posted a few weeks ago about how challenging it has been for me that my partner is so busy with work and school. Now, it's Thanksgiving eve and my co...	BlueCloud	1	272	Nov 27, 2013 by Jerry F
	Alanon, and other addictions...? (Preview) ... how much tolerance does this forum have for family members of other addictions- ? that is apart from alcohol addiction. I know we family members tip-toe around some topics- it is what we are used to back in the day! we are in the USA in 2011 [and plan to be back next year....]. I did not get to Alanon mee...	DavidG	16	825	Nov 27, 2013 by DavidG
	Can I Vent?? (Preview) Well, I put a note in my husband's truck last night telling him that I was moving forward with divorce plans. I did that because when we discuss, it so often turns into an argument and we end up saying more hurtful things. So sick of every conversation, even pleasant ones, being a land mine. Anyway, I had S...	wornoutmrsfixit	7	484	Nov 27, 2013 by ilovedogs
	trust (Preview) Last night in my F2F meeting our topic was what we learned about trust in our childhoods. Well what I learned was to "trust" people that abused me and let me down. And I have carried this all through my life, including my current A spouse. I think everyone I have been close to has hurt me and/...	Lyne	2	277	Nov 27, 2013 by el-cee
	Triangle upside down and laerning patience. (Preview) Hi All, had a bit of a slip over past couple of weeks and wanted to share my growth to express how this slip was part of my journey. I have been getting resntful towards mt sober ABF because he is working hard and only getting to 1 meeting a week. He is talking to his AA friends inbetween and doing his reading...	Tracy	3	340	Nov 27, 2013 by oldergal
	Tough Love tough love dui (Preview) So my daughter took off very drunk in her car from ohio to drive down to see friends in north carolina. I knew the route she takes so I called the state police in each state she would be going through and told them she was drunk. What if she killed some a small child , a whole family and she could have killed her...	mama24181	14	863	Nov 27, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Very confused.. (Preview) I called a counselor actually a intervention counselor. What has me confused is when speaking to this interventionist, he says to me that I do not need to allow my son to hit rock bottom in order for him to get help. I can try to help him before hitting that bottom. I say to him that I have truly done all I can d...	Gaby	8	493	Nov 27, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Relaxed and having a good time (Preview) Hi Everyone Off to shop for Thanksgiving.....I'm so glad I am doing this. I am grateful -- Edited by Cathyinaz on Tuesday 26th of November 2013 02:08:55 PM	Cathyinaz	12	414	Nov 27, 2013 by Melly1248
	Just a web of lies.. (Preview) My son has just been caught up in web of lies. I feel my hurt is turning into anger!! I l	Gaby	8	511	Nov 27, 2013 by neshema2
	So happy to find this board!! (Preview) I'm a "newbie" to the board.but an "oldie" in living with alcoholics. Been through 3 interventions with my mom, and married an alcoholic 17 years ago. I apparently learned a lot.right? Basically, the two closest people to me are both alcoholics and we also have four boys to...	scgrl	6	295	Nov 27, 2013 by Peggy7
	He wants to buy a HOUSE???? (Preview) Oh brother. AH claims that it will be cheaper for him to buy a small house instead of renting. Is he kidding me? He says, even though this separation is going to be short lived, he still wants to invest in a home. I'm not real keen on him using marital assets for a home purchase right now but instead of ro...	ilovedogs	10	548	Nov 27, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	So you think you're detached... (Preview) That's my idea for a new reality show...like it? lol. Basically we put a bunch of codependents and a bunch of alcoholics on an island together and the last codependent standing (after the rest have collapsed in a screaming heap or swum out into the open ocean crying hysterically) wins. I feel like a con...	Melly1248	15	676	Nov 26, 2013 by Mari1978
	Getting ready to go (Preview) Good Morning all Today is the day for packing up my things and get ready to take my little vacation to visit my sister. I'm a little anxious but at the same time excited to be going. I have never left others during a holiday to go somewhere by myself. Yes I"M GOING.... I leave tomorrow morning for a...	Cathyinaz	22	560	Nov 26, 2013 by John
	WAIT (Preview) I heard a new acronym..... WAIT- Why Am I Talking? This is for when I know I don't have to justify or argue or make my point or explain or anything else. I can just be happy with MY choices.	maryjane	11	719	Nov 26, 2013 by Jerry F
	Seeing things Differently (Preview) It's taken me a long time and every once in a while I can get sucked into the he's really ok and I'm the one who isn't thought process. Then I am given what I call a "gift" a reminder that NOOOO .. I'm doing just fine and stay on MY side of the street and let him do what he's going to do. I have some foo...	SerenityRUS	4	431	Nov 26, 2013 by abbyalana
	Stuck in a Rut (Preview) Help...I've fallen, and I can't get up... I'm writing from the bedroom, and I've noticed lately that I don't want to leave the room since the A is out there. The A lives out in the living room on the computer and sleeps on the sofa. When I am home I stay in the bedroom and venture out only for necessities. ...	Raven Juniper	8	616	Nov 26, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	Call from my son (Preview) My son called me this evening after no contact for almost 6 weeks. I'm feeling very emotional right now...just hearing his voice and he sounded really sad. I don't know where he was calling from and I didn't ask but he told me his insurance lapsed. I have a feeling he's in a hospital or some medical facili...	Rose50	12	500	Nov 26, 2013 by Debilyn
	Life on life's terms (Preview) Listening to this saying from old timers in alanon has never meant that much to me before. Living life on lifes terms!! I am getting it though. I think it means accepting people for who they are and not what we want them to be. Not really having expectations of anyone. For example, my son had some money tod...	el-cee	8	1383	Nov 26, 2013 by el-cee
	Acceptance and looking forward to the next chapter (Preview) It has taken over 10 years, but I accept that I am powerless over alcoholism and my life is unmanageable. Being married to my AH for over 32 years, and accepting some very unacceptable behavior the last ten years, has taken quite a toll on my life. 10 years ago I organized an intervention for my AH. I th...	Clou	7	389	Nov 26, 2013 by PP
	Things are not going well (Preview) I am trying to use my tools but the situation is getting too much for me -- like using a spoon when you're trying to bail out a sinking boat. Since I've been separated from my A for a number of years now, he's no longer drinking around me, which is excellent. But I'm still paying the price for the fact that I c...	Mattie	13	599	Nov 26, 2013 by rehprof
	DOES ANYONE HAVE A GOOD DESCRIPTION (Preview) FOR STINKIN THINKIN!! ONE THAT MOST PEOPLE COULD UNDERSTAND....LOVE TO HEAR IT, THANKS	oldergal	13	887	Nov 26, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	Running for the hills (Preview) I've found a disturbing pattern in myself - as soon as anything at all might be wrong, I start thinking the worst, and working myself up to the point that I'm thinking about divorce. My husband called, but I didn't have a chance to talk to him. He was upset, said it had to do with work. Of course, now I'...	SpiderArcana	3	300	Nov 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	Update;;(( (Preview) Today is Monday I do know that. My Ahs found a job with a huge cut in pay and has to commute close to 2 hours to work. I'm very depressed lost my Sponser due to her own trouble at home, I manage to lose 3 more friends well they really weren't friends because they all had strings attached to them. I know how to sor...	Wisdom67	3	247	Nov 26, 2013 by PP
	Limbo Is Over (Preview) I just set my appointment with the attorney to file for divorce. God works in mysterious ways and I prayed for clear vision to see what I needed to see and hear what I needed to hear and boy did he listen. I am proceeding as if AH wasn't sober and no looking back. He is the same controlling, "don't ques...	wornoutmrsfixit	10	523	Nov 25, 2013 by ilovedogs
	The "Adult Child Movement" (Preview) As I become more familiar with Alanon I have heard a few people talk about the "Adult Child movement." On Friday night a man in my group said it happened in the 80s or 90s in Alanon (I forget which.) He said a lot of people in Alanon were upset about it because they don't want to look at their o...	WorkingThroughIt	17	1530	Nov 25, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Is Sarcasm Really a Shortcoming? (Preview) So I was talking to one of my long-timer Al-Anon friends yesterday and she informed me that I use sarcasm too much and that it's really a defense mechanism that many of us in Al-Anon use due to being around the alcoholics in our lives. She suggested that I look up the word, "sarcasm," in the Al-...	Green Eyes	17	3988	Nov 25, 2013 by Green Eyes
	I made a mess! (Preview) Not sure how I'm going to clean up this mess! My AH got in last night and claims he had a spiritual awakening. He suggested doing a daily devotional together, just out of the blue(it was the first words he basically spoke to me in the past 2 months). I told him I needed to think about it, and then....thin...	ilovedogs	24	850	Nov 25, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	Gratitude... (Preview) Mahalo MIP family for your unconditional love and support in "Sucky, sick feelings" the acceptance allowed me to inventory the event and my part in it and at first I questioned my intentions because it seem no appropriate in subject matter however the inventory reveals the core nature...	Jerry F	7	465	Nov 25, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Suspect relapse (Preview) Hi...this is my first post here. I haven't been to a meeting in awhile...cause I'm sooo good at detachment when my alcoholic is practicing sobriety....just kidding/poking fun at myself....I've needed to go and have let it slide. I'm currently out of town and my husband stayed home to take care of the...	Earthmamajenny	4	384	Nov 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	OH My Gosh I am in the middle of a BREAKDOWN! (Preview) I guess I should start by saying that it is my..well..lets just say I am hyper emotional. My AH who verbally abused me for 10 years, then got into drugs and hanging out with thugs and being out all night, who then went to Rehab for 20 days..and came out a hugely different person. Treats me differently tri...	sadsusie	7	481	Nov 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	Good morning.. (Preview) Well today I woke up with an appetite ( which is not the normal fore ). But I woke up better then yesterday. I reached out to my son last night and all I asked was "are you ok, that is all I want to know" well his response was "yes". That was all. Next week the holiday will be here and if thi...	Gaby	2	269	Nov 25, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	Thanksgiving update (Preview) Thanks to all who supported me in appreciating the blessings I have. And once I gave up my little pity party, I figured out if all were willing, that we could have Thanksgiving dinner on the Sunday after Thanksgiving. They all agreed! This is a blessing. Getting rid of negative makes room for posit...	Lyne	6	283	Nov 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	my non alcoholic mum is turning into the alcoholic in my life ....help adult child critical parent help (Preview) Hi i am a 44 year old adult child of an alcoholic father. He drank from before I was born, I left home at 18, I have not had contact with him for more than 12 years. My mum lived with him for 27 years, had 4 children, left him when I was 27. She lives near me. My two sisters are in contact with us and are 4 to 5 hours aw...	Minibee	3	7061	Nov 24, 2013 by Minibee
	Leaf Blowing.... (Preview) This is about seeing the humor in things rather than the critizism. I have a business and one of my clients is a small hotel in Hilo. My office is it's gardens and property and I am beyond blessed. Sometimes the blessing are humor which comes in strange confusing ways. I was clearing the leaves ou...	Jerry F	19	571	Nov 24, 2013 by Tasha
	Oh, well this is a new situation!!! (Preview) My son, the son who takes after his A father in so many ways, including a problem with alcohol has been living with his friend and his family and staying with me from time to time also. I finally set a few boundaries around him since Alanon and they have helped protect me from my ex and now my sons destructiv...	el-cee	9	596	Nov 24, 2013 by oldergal
	In need of some perspective from "the other side of the fence" (Preview) I am a recovering alcoholic in AA with 3.5 years of sobriety. I went to a few al-anon meetings with my then girlfriend (now my wife) prior to getting sober. My wife had been a devoted member of al-anon for more than ten years, but since the birth of our son almost two years ago she has been to maybe five me...	Kent	13	706	Nov 24, 2013 by Kent
	Read a book. I get myself so much better now (summary) (Preview) I am half-way through reading 'The Complete ACOA Sourcebook; at home, at work and in love' by Janet Geringer Woititz. In reading that book I have learned that;My behaviours and self-image is based on the stories that I absorbed growing up. There was much inconsistency in the messages that I was being...	slogan_jim	10	509	Nov 24, 2013 by pinkchip
	This Mornings Reading... (Preview) I have a glass top coffee table and under the glass I have many recovery related books. AA. Al-Anon, NA, Coda, ACoA. As I was looking through the glass this morning, I thought, "Grab one, randomly open it and share a paragraph from the page that is opened". I reached under the table, let my hand fumble...	John	6	523	Nov 24, 2013 by DavidG
	Holidays ;( (Preview) Well my son and I have had very little communication. I know he is in a dark place. I have to fully surrender and give god his child that he blessed me with. I pray and pray and have hope my son gets back on the saddle to sobriety.. I truly have to take care of me. I am praying for strength .. I can't do no more for m...	Gaby	5	386	Nov 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	Sucky...sick feelings (Preview) and I've survived it. Aloha Family...just recently got back from a "meet the commanders" meeting at the police department. This is the third time the first two with a different focus. This one was standing up for me as a Hawaiian National who was assaulted by the police. I went for the...	Jerry F	11	570	Nov 24, 2013 by el-cee
	its detachment time again..... (Preview) This is a picture of my "mama" Aunt Helen...Maternal Aunt...She is in a nursing home now, going down that spiral that Alzheimer's takes our loved ones down....Do they know they are sick?? Do they really know that life is ebbing away, slowly, inexorably??? I think they do.....I think they...	neshema2	8	472	Nov 24, 2013 by grateful2be
	Does anyone have the log of Thursday nites meeting? Topic Step 3?? (Preview) If you used mIRC in the Thursday night meeting and have it set to log the activity (chat) in the room, please let me know, I need a copy of Thursday nights meeting on Step Three. Or just send it to me at johnfreifeld@gmail.com. I didn't know until this morning that my mIRC settings were not logging the me...	John	0	273	Nov 23, 2013 by John
	Donation/Contribution Sign is Lite Again (Repost) (Preview) Hi Everyone, I literally hate having to post this stuff but each year our bills come due again for the MIP site. The domain name registration, the web hosting, message boards, etc, cost money. If you can make a donation that will help offset some of the expense it would be gratefully appreciated. T...	John	1	321	Nov 23, 2013 by PP
	Need support (Preview) Hi all, my AH comes home from a missions trip to Haiti tomorrow. I will be picking him up from the airport late. I am working on having no expectations from this trip of his. He has contacted me via text a few times, but nothing earth shattering, LOL. I am very ready to move on with my life and I am afraid t...	ilovedogs	14	558	Nov 23, 2013 by John
	growing up in alanon (Preview) OK, so I can't have Thanksgiving dinner with my son and his family because they are eating with his in-laws this year. I was just writing to my sponsor. Yes, I can choose to have a pity party, poor me, and a big boo hoo. Life is so unfair! And then my alanon brain kicked in and I am so lucky to have a son I am...	Lyne	8	250	Nov 23, 2013 by el-cee
	They never change! (Funny) (Preview) I am in a coffee shop where I often hang out. It's on the edge of a sketchy area of town and sometimes homeless people and panhandlers come in. You know what I mean -- unkempt, torn and dirty clothing, hair that hasn't been washed or combed in weeks, and so on. Just now I saw a homeless person approaching...	Mattie	11	490	Nov 22, 2013 by flinn66
	How many alanons does it take... (Preview) .... to screw in a light bulb????? None. They detach with love and let it screw itself.	Tasha	9	740	Nov 22, 2013 by Melly1248
	New here- my story and disappointment (Preview) Hi, I'm new here, and I wanted to share my story and get some support. I was a good kid. I grew up in a very nice neighborhood, my mom stayed at home with my siblings and I, and my dad was a teacher. I could find things to complain about, but in the greater scheme that is life, I had a relatively easy childho...	1lostmom	6	523	Nov 22, 2013 by Mari1978
	Neither here nor there .. (Preview) It's my birthday .. goooo me! I was reflecting on the past two years today and the changes that have come either from outside forces or just because it was time. What has changed .. a LOT! What hasn't changed .. a LOT! I had to laugh to myself. Let's see this all started 2 years ago (well longer however...	SerenityRUS	9	383	Nov 22, 2013 by ilovedogs
	SO in recovery going to a rave (Preview) Hello, i am new to this forum. I am in a long distance relationship with a recovering addict, who joined NA 6 months into our relationship. We've been together about a year and a half. Today, she told me that she is going to a "dance party" (rave) to see how it makes her feel. She says she is prepa...	Buford	31	792	Nov 22, 2013 by grateful2be
	Not in a good place right now.. (Preview) I am hurting do much. I texted my son and he usually responds right away. I feel something is wrong. I just don't want to know. I am praying every minute for both he and I. I am falling back to my depression. I just need some support. I love my son but I can't help him if he is not ready. How after 5 months of recov...	Gaby	13	539	Nov 22, 2013 by pinkchip
	a true quote... (Preview) for the loving parents of A children	Debilyn	9	571	Nov 22, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Guilty feelings are here again. (Preview) Today didn't get off to such a great start. I've been having a hard time getting myself together in the mornings, especially with the weather getting really cold where I live. I have thyroid disease and adrenal fatigue that I'm newly learning to self treat, for lack of funds and a doctor who will liste...	Raven Juniper	12	587	Nov 22, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Lessons by dog. (Preview) Frequently of an afternoon, we walk down to the local park and daughter and I sit on the swings, swinging and talking about this n that, while the dog runs around sniffing things and then peeing on them, and every few minutes he runs over to stare sideways at us for a while, because he just doesn't underst...	Melly1248	7	401	Nov 22, 2013 by Tasha
	Back back back :) (Preview) I had to delete my account abruptly because I think it became compromised I'm hoping that enough time, new name and new email address will do the trick. I have been a lurker and reading daily for my dose of the wise people on these boards. Things are going good .. I'm still married .. probably will be fo...	SerenityRUS	9	649	Nov 22, 2013 by Green Eyes
	On a less happy note.. (Preview) Sigh, ABF came home from work 5 hours early today and stomped off to his room "I DON'T want to talk"... I sensed something more than the usual hangover/tantrum was going on and I was right; he eventually opened up and I won't go into details but it turns out he's being bullied quite horribly at...	Melly1248	23	734	Nov 22, 2013 by wp
	violation of an order of protection (Preview) I have a family court order of protection against my husband. I filed citing his harassment after months of calls to my cell phone voice mail and to my work place I never felt physically threatened. But his constant calls to, my job-- up to 12 times a day--- began to affect my co-workers and how I was v...	alexmaui	9	440	Nov 21, 2013 by SerenityRUS
	How Do You Detach While Living Together? (Preview) I have read much on the subject of detachment. How much can you detach while living under the same roof. My AH is asleep snoring on the couch when I come in from work. If he wakes up he is repeating himself or telling stories that don't make sense. Like many on this board, I have been married for many yea...	wifeofalcoholic	8	1486	Nov 21, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Donation/Contribution Sign is Lite Again (Preview) Hi Everyone, I literally hate having to post this stuff but each year our bills come due again for the MIP site. The domain name registration, the web hosting, message boards, etc, cost money. If you can make a donation that will help offset some of the expense it would be gratefully appreciated. T...	John	23	623	Nov 21, 2013 by Jill
	A share about creating new habits (Preview) My friend the counselor tells me he discourages addicts in recovery from setting too many goals. How do people get better, then? I wondered. He explains they create new habits by focusing on short-term outcomes they can control. The point is the process, not the finish line. My son in recovery (with...	oldergal	2	297	Nov 21, 2013 by PP
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