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ParisMemories


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Today everything my AH says has made me irritated. He is not drinking, he is just being who he is. But everything has gotten on my nerves. I realize I just need to let it go. I missed my meeting yesterday, and this is the consequence. I am angry and frustrated. Full of resentment about things I thought I had forgiven. But for some reason today I just want him to be somewhere else. I look at him and all I can think about is how much he has hurt me, and then I get angry at myself for ALLOWING myself to be mistreated. This too shall pass. Sigh.

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Mari1978


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It is good you have awareness about how you are feeling.
I hope it passes for you soon. Tomorrow is another day. Take care of you.

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Debilyn


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Hey this is normal for everyone! It does not have to be becuz they are an A! It takes work to live with someone. Are you guys making new memories? Doing fun things together? Going for drives? Playing board games? reading to each other? cooking together?

there are so many things we can learn about someone. I had a book of questions I just loved. I read a ton of books about guys. I liked the "Manual" so very much. I will have to find this other one, as it is funny. It is written by the husband. so real.

sometimes we just need to play with each other, find the kid in both of us. melt together. non A husbands drive us crazy too, that seems to be their job.

hugs,debilyn



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ParisMemories


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Thanjs fir the feedback. Debilyn you are so right, it is normal for everyone and we need new memories in place of the old ones. Today is a new day. Hugs

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PP


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Take good care, Paris.  I, too, take comfort in knowing that this too shall pass.



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Hi Paris

I hear you and do understand.  The deeply buried anger, resentment, and self pity surprised me as well.

Steps 4 through 9 truly lifted the pain associated with the past and  I was set free. 
 
Today I can remember the past pain  but I do not feel  it  and that is  a miracle


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Aloha Paris...be grateful for the recovery you have...you have learned alot and have good experience...Yay!!  Resentments for me was like taking hostages (get the picture) and what was nasty about it was when I took them they were with me all the time and I even had to take care of them.   It sucked until I learned forgiveness and letting go and playing fair.   Keep on keeping on...good work.  ((((hugs)))) smile



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Paris - nothing to add except that I'm really glad to see you posting at the board. I like seeing your shares. Happy new memory building!

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Tasha


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Debilyn -WOW - that was a great post!

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