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when being called a "freak" feels good
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Today i had my eval at the club.... young hard body little lady approaches me and shakes my hand and takes me to her office for the health questions....then she asks me my age....i tell her and she looks at me like i am NUTS!!!! Good feeing for me....I am gonna like this girl.....she was no way believing i...
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Made myself feel icky. Now what?
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Sigh. Ooops. Had a 2 day "honeymoon" as ABF "quit" drinking on New years Day and was charming, sweet and delightful for the duration of his sobriety. I know better than to believe it is anything more than a blip, but it's hard not to enjoy the relaxed, friendly atmosphere when it m...
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Take care Friend in the East
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I'm thinking about you all in the east during this show storm. Prayers that you stay warm and safe. I wish I could send a little sun from AZ.....this pic taken at work. -- Edited by Cathyinaz on Friday 3rd of January 2014 11:16:29 PM
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my "one word"
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This morning I woke with a cough/cold/headache so just lounging on sofanwatching rose bowl and some morning talk show excerpt. They interviewed author of "just one word". He said people rarely keep list of new years resolutions. His idea (abbreviated by me, as I understand it) is inst...
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Courage and boundaries
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I just landed in JFK. In about an hour I will be f2f with my AW. During my long flight home I had a lot of time to read posts and think about detachment and boundaries. I decided that I will need a boundary if this marraige has a chance. I will go to couples counseling. I will encourage family activities. But f...
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Anyone have a morning Al-Anon routine?
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I've decided I want to start every morning off with 10-15 minutes of Al-Anon related activity. Sort of a daily practice to keep me grounded in the program and get the day off to a positive start. Read from a daily reader and... something! I haven't figured out what the "something" should be y...
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atheos
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Just a WHOA moment
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I was just looking at FB and someone posted some 20-25 yr old (high school or college?) pics one of which had AH in it. Everyone looks so cute and fresh faced and he is leaning hard on someone, with a drink in his hand (ONLY person with a drink) and just this totally out of it expression. This is around when we...
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Coming home after 3 days without AW
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Today I fly back to the northeast with my daughter. My AW has been there since 01/01. Being apart from her felt good. I felt stronger I did not miss her. I did not long for her to see how much I loved her and how the last 11 years are in ruin because of her behavior the last three months. I started to feel detache...
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Need Some Support
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Dear Al-Anon Members, Thank you for taking the time to read my post. I am in a difficult situation, because a few months ago I ended my relationship with an ex-boyfriend who is in inpatient treatment recovering from a heroin addiction. Under normal circumstances, a breakup would be much easier to han...
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Sometimes progress kinda just sneaks up on me
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At work today, I am slammed...Busy as a bee.....I worked 5 hours instead of the 3-4 it has been....5 hours is NOT a rarity, I have worked that many many times before...In fact: Because I am careful and do it right the first time, I actually get more done in less time becuz I am careful and this is YEAR END ti...
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Found Some Courage
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I have been checking in here off and on for over a year and I've made a few posts. My husband is a binge drinker and can go long periods of time without drinking. This makes it very easy for me to be lulled into a false sense if security. I decided quite a while back ago that I needed the support of Alanon and sho...
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In The Forest
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The Whole Serenity Prayer
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The Serenity Prayer God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference. Living one day at a time; Enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; Taking, as He did, this sinful world as it is, not...
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oldergal
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family disease
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Hi all, need to just write on here and clear my mind its going a bit AWOL!! I have the focus on myself, my life , recovery 99% of the time and then BANG, I loose my focus. People in my life have been affected by different illness e.g my mum is a codependent adult child. I have learnt to accept and detach i love he...
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THIS IS BETTINA I AM NOT A NEWBIE IM AN OLDIE
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HELLO EVERY ONE , HAPPY NEW YEAR!
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New Year Resolution: Join MIP and stop lurking
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It is true, I have been lurking for some time. New year- new beginnings. I wanted to finally introduce myself to all of you and say that you are an amazing group. I have been taking Jerry's expert advice and really really listening. I hope eventually I can offer some useful ESH. I drank, smoked, and drugg...
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Peek a boo .. I see you ..
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So after freaking my kiddo out by all of the contact again .. we are back to no contact and I'm ok with that at this point. Honestly so is she. She doesn't trust his motives and neither do I. The therapist says it's better for her not to have contact with him at this point. So I'm taking her at her advice an...
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it is not easy!
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Boy, it is not easy to get this typed. I am dealing w/ a new computer at the library--free internet service. I guess I shouldn't complain. I am frustrated though. I don't need to get feedback from this post. I just need to say Hello & that I am still on the right track! Kathleen
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Hoot Nanny
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I was unkind to my exAH.....
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We had an agreement that while he took on the responsibility of my 5 year old to live with him an hour and a half away he would remain sober and actually begged me for the opportunity saying he needed this chance. So I per usual trust an A and go along with the agreement, but he was meeting with an AA sponsor an...
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OMG
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This is Bettina under another name, I purchased a new lap top and have been trying to get back in for over a month. The website just would not recognize me or let me back in. Anyway, glad to be back. What's new?? I really missed coming here and missed you all, HAPY NEW YEAR! hugs Bettina
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Beatrice
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if ya dont' see me as much...no worries....TAX study time is here
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Hey you all Between the club and work, especially w/this old returning client who is probably a disaster, AND my home schooling me in income Taxes (an event I have to do ea. year) I am gonna be busy....this first Quarter and into April is my "HOPEFULLY" money making time I am gonna pace my...
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To ignore or not to ignore?
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I am an alanon newbie. However I am in AA myself and have been sober for 2 1/2 years. I met my fiance in treatment. We were just aquaintences, then friends, then started dating a year later. We are engaged and living together. Getting married in 2 months. I love the man and don't plan on leaving him....
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The things people say...
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Happy New Year to all my friends on MIP.  I've been pondering about the past few years and in particular thinking about some of the things that I've been told that drove me mad when I first heard them which then turned out to be hugely helpful and enlightening. I remember being furious, feeling let dow...
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Wishing everyone a Happy and Serene 2014....
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It seems to me every year with al-anon, my sponsor, MIP and the steps life gets better and I get healthier. After 3 years of al-anon I can only look forward to another year of feeling and growing out of the old me and blossoming into the new me. I no longer blame anyone else for the way my life is turning out, b...
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I think I made the right decision.. With all of your help :)
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I get a call today this morning from our local hospital stating that my son was there getting ready to get discharged and wanted me to go get him to drive him to our local mental health. I told the nurse if he is already there and he is thinking of suicide then you guys should transport him. Well then she said...
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My resolution.
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Melly1248
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Blame
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Blaming yourself or someone else is usually a way of avoiding some painful but significant realization. I just read this and thought "this is a keeper for me". Perhaps it will be useful for someone else, too.
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New Year, New You!
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From an outsiders perspective, like most of you, I am kind, loyal, strong-willed, skillful, hardworking, and empathetic, and yet very few people are aware I was in a relationship with a drug addict. My goal was always to enable the addict first by keeping his disease top secret from anyone who loved a...
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msjuliet
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Constant fear of A father's death
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I've been a member of alanon for about 7 months. One thing i can't get relief from is my constant fear of my father's death. I worry about it often. I am terrified of the pain i will feel. I am 30 my A father is in his early 50's. Please help me :(
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family dynamics ..
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So, my family that came together for Christmas and my mother's funeral are gone back home now. Sad to see, this wasn't a 'family gathering. This was more or less a defect fest .. (No criticising .. what I judge in them either was in me or still is) .. I saw my part, however .. my sister's are 13 years older t...
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Learning to Let Go
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Dear Al-Anon members, For the last few months, I have been silently recovering from a breakup with my ex-boyfriend who was a former heroin (opiate) addict (in treatment for the 3rd time) in Tampa, FL. My story goes something like this: Met this wonderful, amazing, good looking guy in his late 20s c...
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msjuliet
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Question inre photos
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Does anyone know how to send a personal photo from a home computer through our PM system? There seems to be no attachment button and I'm not sure what insert URL means. Thanks.
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alternative meanings for MIP
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I think that I have a great alternative meaning to MIP: Meeting In my Pocket I'm loving doing this, it really is like being able to attend a lot of mini meetings throughout the day! I don't have many meetings in my area so this is a great supplement to F2F meetings. Thanks for listening to me, I will kee...
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KennyFenderjazz
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Boundaries, tantrums, and thank HP for support systems
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Once I learned how to set boundaries for myself one of them what that I wouldn't get dragged into the 'poor me' party my husband sometimes throws for himself. He's been in a mood lately, so when a co-worker called in and left him with a crap-ton of work today, he started texting me. Him: So (co-worker) ca...
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SpiderArcana
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new year, new me!
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Yeah, I think it is possible that I could be working on a new me. I went to the meeting I have been missing & am already getting a new perspective. I am already seeing things differently. It seems easier. I don't know if it going to last but my head is clearer. I am enjoying sleeping in even though I eat br...
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I'm a recovering addict...
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...DRAMA addict, that is! My mom was the queen of, well, drama queens. Her moods would swing wildly and unpredictably, which gave rise to the hypervigilance that is a hallmark of an ACOA. (Disclaimer: neither of my parents were alcoholics, but the family disease "infected" them - and...
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The Things People Post
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When I first came to this forum/board I listened first, and then when I decided I was brave enough to post I did. Knowing that anything I said or revealed or asked would be fair game to any one on this public message board. I knew there was kindness and understanding here, but I also knew that this board is w...
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oldergal
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Trying to let go of beloved son
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This morning I find myself feeling like I am slipping into a dark, deep hole of hopelessness. I am trying hard to turn over my son to my HP. We have had several years of all of this pain and anxiety trying to deal with the beast of a disease. I feel like we are losing the battle and he is slipping away throug...
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WHO wants to keep up with the "Jones's"????
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I discovered something about me since joining this club...... I drive into the parking lot and i see new SUV's and the "hard body" chicks walking in w/their up to date gym attire and i see them on their Iphone 5s's and I look at me I drive a Ford Ranger, now 12 years old, but kept nice, I use an Ipho...
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Is it wrong for me to ask my A dtr what step she is on?
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she went to crisis intervention ctr, rehab, left rehab ama, faked sobriety, attempted suicide, was hospitalized, send to state hosp as 1013, then another rehab for a month, which worked...she has been out for 3 mos. she goes to 2-3 mtgs a day plus out pt counceling and meds. she is proud of her monthly...
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This time….
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he ended up being flown to Philadelphia for some kind of emergency surgery. I don't know what kind of surgery except that it was abdominal and no doubt exacerbated by his alcoholism. He named me as his emergency contact, but I have done no "contacting." I have come to the point of thinki...
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Hope for ME just for Today
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Happy New year. I say that with just a twinge of sarcasm. Just a twinge. I suppose I always hang on to a little bit of hope the my AH finally realizes that he needs to take action. I imagine that he is letting his denial cloud how crappy this disease is, which makes it easier to postpone his recovery. Well, t...
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New User - someone to listen?
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Hi all, I am a new user to this site and a little bit nervous but here goes.... I have been with my ABF for nearly six years and living together for 5, I say he is an alcoholic but the truth is I am not sure what he is, a possible binge drinker but is it the same thing? Sorry I don't want to offend anyone with the inc...
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weird start to my New Years--could use some alanon hugs..PLEEZE
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well, today is Jan 1, 2014....I am lookin forward with an open, positive mind..... headed out to my new club to "play" and i need it... last night my ptsd began to kick in.....as ny eve was one time i at age 15, to get away frm the offender's advances, I locked myself in the bathroom w/a bottle of...
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Making funny
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I got rained down on Monday and promised a make up today and so I went in. No rain today other than a very very gentle drizzle just when work was done...kinda a kiss. When I started an elderly couple walked from the lobby to seaside to enjoy the view...it was enjoyable and always is after a storm. Upon t...
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Surrender and some basketball!!!!
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Hey all WEnt to club and was not "myself" but mostly myself and i met this really neat lady and she had a basketball and she said "you play???" I told her all my trophies were in either tennis or pool (billiards) or horse shows, lol...No basketball, but I used to play in HS.... so w...
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crumbs
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The other day, I was watching a morning talk show and a life coach was on discussing goals in the new year. She suggested leaving the crumbs behind so you can eat the cake. I really like this suggestion. I have been obsessed with the crap my AH has put us through. He is in recovery and doing well, and when...
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New user first al anon nye with AHq
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So last night was Hard. I attended my first al anon meeting online and it was helpful to read other shares from people struggling with their AH. Ialso replied to more posts because I know that no matter what I post it feels really good that someone says that sucks I'm sorry try to move on. I read the replies...
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New user first nye with AW
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So last night was Hard. I attended my first al anon meeting online and it was helpful to read other shares from people struggling with their AW. I also replied to more posts because I know that no matter what I post it feels really good that someone says that sucks I'm sorry try to move on. I read the replies...
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im getting better.
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Exactly 3 years ago today the largest crisis in my life came to a disasterous head. A horrible incident occured that I dont even feel the need to go into. That is actually the point of my post. It did pop into my mind a couple of times over this holiday period but!!!! Did I feel the need to relive it, discuss i...
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Can you come back from a situation like this (married to nondrinking A)
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My AH and I have a 9-month-old baby. We love him more than anything and are great parents, except to the extent that our problems may affect him. I want to know whether anyone has had major power struggles with an A and has been able to heal the relationship. My husband hasn't had anything to drink in ab...
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I feel like I am isolating. Input requested.
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Hey Guys, My name is slogan_Jim and I am grateful member of al-anon. I am concerned. Over the holidays I have had some issues with isolation arise that have had me questioning what this is really about. I am turning down social functions for other social functions or not doing anything at all but I have j...
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Happy New Year to All!
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So far so good for 2014. 2013 was a rough year for me so am hoping 2014 will be better. I am going to take each day very positive and take better care of me.
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Jen61
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Thank God for this program.
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This has been the worst year, I think, in my life. AGF moved out, 2 days before Christmas, took the kids with her, and seems to be "blocking" them from talking to me...don't hear from them, they don't respond to calls and texts, and she keeps saying she'll have them call me, but then doesn't. ...
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Ending the year on a really nice note
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My daughter's car's starter quit doing its job, has sat in its place for a month waiting for some human to take pity on it and fix it. Weather was bone cold, then as it warmed up, I bought the new equipment, jacked up the car, got on my back and slid under the car and said, uh..... Keep in mind I am fairly mechan...
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my heart is broken
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I guess to start out I am angry. I feel as though I am getting back on a rollercoaster ride that I really dont want to go on again.. I am really not sure I can. In November my husband went to treatment and I seen changes that I never felt were possible. I feel during this time I suffered alot financial, emotion...
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Linda
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Holidays were hard- back with the Ex
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scared to say it after 6 months apart from ex-AHBF I went over to his place (his mom got for him) and told him how much i missed him... high to be around him then the next day depressed, anxiety, anger, confused... he drinks a lot nowadays since i'm not around anymore to make him hide it and try to be sober aro...
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Really!!!
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A few hours ago I stood in my garage and shouted at HP...you gotta stop this now...This was 36 hours of heavy rain and a lightning and thunder storm right over Hilo. "If it has no use...why do it"? an attempt to sponsor the HP that one was. Okay an hour or so later the rain and thunder and lig...
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down in a hole
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it took all I had to pick up this computer today what do you do when you physically, mentally emotionally can not take any more? when your so deep down in a hole surrounded by darkness crumpled up in a puddle of despair knowing you cannot take anymore pain but all you options will cause you more pain hati...
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I need a good cry
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New to the board. Really need to vent somewhere. hubbs has been in aa for about a year now, but the last 3 years have been ****. We're both vets & he's 100% disabled. Guess what my finances are tied to. We got him off the pain meds this summer when he was put on naltrexone (?) after antabuse didn't faze h...
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DragonMoon
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newbie here.....but feling very old
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Humbled and long rant I do believe the Holidays have thrown me. Living away from my family, I am able to work on one piece of my dysfunction/codependancy at a time. I can pull out pieces of my shattered childhood/early adulthood: examine them, read a book, do therapy, and add some experience to my adult...
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