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Ive been in my own apt for 2 weeks and I worry about my husbands safety constantly esp. at night. During the day he will text me and he seems ok but at night he blocks my number and I have no communication with him. I know exactly what he is doing, he's drinking. I know I cant do anything about his sobriety he has
to get sober on his own. I just worry about him. I'm having to accept that at this time he is not in a good place. I have to give him up to HP. Im taking it one hour at a time.
. I just worry about him. I'm having to accept that at this time he is not in a good place. I have to give him up to HP. Im taking it one hour at a time.
Meetings are open every day of the week, holidays, too....seems to me that you are thinking too much of him and not of you.....self abandoning is common wlth us codas....we cut them loose and still think about them .......Programme helped me big time with that........programme has taught me through the meetings, steps w/my sponsor, slogan practice, literature a new way of thinking....NOW i think about my needs and my welfare first....
yea, i will do what i can for those who want to help themselves, but I show them the respect and dignity of living their lives, even if they are drinking poison, i let them to their choices as i detach...let go.....concentrate on me and my programme....it takes practice and working in the programme, but it CAN be done
I am sober, emotionally, one day at a time and that is working my programme.......I am glad that you realize that you have to give him over.....you left for a good reason.....it shows me you want to take care of you and reach out to a better way of life......its hard at first....i know, but it gets easier with working the programme......if you can get into fac2fac meets ea. day or on line, but get into meets each day the first 3 months or so, and work steps w/a sponsor you will be amazed at the changes that will take place in you for the good.........
PEACE
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
I understand that worry. Oftentimes, it came from a misplaced sense of responsibility as in if I don't do anything something awful might happen to him or her. Well, something awful did happen to him and to her and never what I thought would happen and never at the time I thought it would happen. It took me awhile to let go of that sense of responsibility towards grown adults and sometimes it still rears its head but with program - not anywhere near as often as it once did. Lots of prayers for you and for him. I learned to stop projecting and focus only on what I could see, hear, and do. That also came with program work and the process was slow going, but I sleep now much better than I once did - and my A is still practicing.
Texas "Acceptance" of the facts. This is all happening and there is nothing I can do about it. That is the hardest part. I struggle all day with what I could have done to spare my family From the mess AH has made. But then I remember I did not make this mess.
