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Tasha · Tasha

Yesterday I was startled by some of the things I read here about a certain poster who shared an article he wrote - and then I just burst out laughing! What a silly life we create and live, trying to control our controlling nature! LOLOLOL As a person affected by an alcoholic father and a codependent mot...

Sam813 · Sam813

So today is my brother's 1 year sober! I'm so happy and proud of him, he is doing great. He is the reason I started alanon and coming to this board. Sadly, although my brother is sober, ever since I became pregnant with my 1st child last year, I've noticed my husband has been increasing his drinking. H...

John · John

While I truly feel that the subject of Essay's has already gotten more attention than it should have because it took time and attention away from the newcomer and others in need of our time and attention, several people have PM'd me and asked that I be willing to copy my response to the thread about Relat...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

There is a man at one of the Al-Anon meetings I used to go to who was very maniplulative and a jerk to be honest.. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with person's such as this? Thank you.

milkwood · milkwood

When I voice an opinion on anything it gets discounted. So I don't say anything. When I said that an action hurt my feelings, I was told 's*** happens'. This afternoon AH said that our relationship counsellor had told him that affairs often happen when the spouse is pregnant or has recently lost a love...

John · John

"Honey, I am so so sorry I said you were a stupid idiot, I didn't mean it as a news flash, surprise or anything like that, I honesty thought you already knew! So, that's my side of the street... Thinking a stupid idiot would have already known something before I told them... I'm really sorry."

Beatrice · Beatrice

"When you allow the wrong people in your house, stuff will come up missing Like: Joy, Peace, Love, Hope, Faith. Wishing you Peace and Blessings

missmeliss · missmeliss

Sometimes I could swear that every single thing I do to try to improve my situation or "do the right thing" is met with such opposition from the universe that I might as well give up. I mean really, sometimes, you rise to meet every challenge and get to the finish line and get struck by lightnin...

PP · PP

I don't know how to type this out, so I will be thinking as I type. I have a few friendships that maybe aren't really friendships. Maybe I am not being a good friend, maybe I don't know what a good friendship consists of, I don't know, but this is my struggle lately. I have one friend in particular that I s...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

So, I am trying really hard not to beat myself up. I do it so well! I have been taking martial arts for 5 Years. Started in my 40's. Today I went to a tournament. Was my first one with this school. The young guy running our competition was clueless. He always had a slight look of confusion on his face. He was in...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

So, after coming to a certain amount of acceptance about the way my relationship with my AH is, I started to wonder about some pretty specific things. Obviously, I want to live my life as much as possible, and I don't want to let his issues hold me back. One thing we were going to do together was learn to r...

New user name · andromeda

Hi all, this is Ilovedogs. I decided to set up a new user name and connect it to my personal email, instead of the old one which was connected to my joint email that I share with AH. I have an update, too, and I'm feeling more and more like I'm being pulled to make a real drastic change. AH was traveling this...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Now my AH is back into liquor again. Back into being belligerent again. Back into making stupid decisions '"because of the alcohol". He is having himself a pity party. He is soooo tired, poor me I haven't slept for 48 hours. (cause he drank all night and we had guests to entertain all day). an...

Jerry Froggie · Jerry Froggie

On Relationships Your relationship with others does not depend on the other person. Your own altitude toward life in general determines how others see you. A positive attitude instills confidence of you in others. Refusing to put the other person on the defensive makes them feel safe around you....

oldergal · oldergal

It seems when I have vented about someone else (alcoholic son) it turned out to be taking someone elses agenda! Regardless if it was my son or not, it was another human being. Then when I really thought about it further I wouldn't have had that vent on my mind if I would have never expected anything with in...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

Hi everyone, I hope you're all doing well today. If you can indulge me for a moment, I'd like to share about my day. This morning, we had another planning meeting for the intervention..it is going well. After which, I went food shopping and out to lunch with my AM. We both had a really really good time.....

Lyne · Lyne

I was just emailing my sponsor, and realized that for years, I think I begged my spouse to spend time with me. Her priorities were never our marriage, and it is with the help of alanon, that I am breaking my codependency on her. Not that I will be great at this anytime soon, but I know that I can, actually I...

Jerry F · Jerry F

This was the subject for discussion (in part) at my morning meeting and the crowd was into it so all I had to do was sit and listen. My now sponsor was there and my former sponsors also ...in spirit; thank you God. There was a 9 year anniversary and tomorrow an 18 monther, a young man who has followed the s...

el-cee · el-cee

Has anyone ever read this play by henrik ibsen? Its all about a woman who lived to please and entertain and make the people in her life happy. A crisis occurs and she sees the reality of her life and she leaves her family to go and find herself. It was banned in many countries when it came out in the early 19th...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

This weekend is suppose to be my STBAX's visitation .. isn't this sad .. he actually gets brownie points because he took them yesterday .. on a milestone note this is the first Saturday in almost a year he's had the kids. He's suppose to have them for almost 72 hours some of which is their choice and so...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Recent posts having sparked a few debates has me thinking about the phrase - you don't have to join every argument you are invited to. Theres this guy in my town who is very bible-thumping religious and thumps on a few things as being worse than any others (um, not my perception of The Word) and he loves to...

Truth · Truth

I am so grateful today my sponsor called. I know she didn't exactly tell me everything but that is okay. I am just happy she was having a good day.

pinkchip · pinkchip

I will be getting married. After such a rocky relationship history it is strange. I can easily see how you straight people have it so much harder in some ways because I totally would have married 2 of my past partners (one of them whom I designate as my ex-A), had I been legally able to do so at that time. ...

sunshine23 · sunshine23

Been a month since i moved out. I can feel myself recovering but I know there are still a lot of underlying "injuries" I substained through the years. They are just hidden away and I will need to deal with them to enjoy full recovery. I used to wear my wedding ring on my necklace to remind myse...

Luiza · Luiza

Last night my husband came from work and he had a few drinks before coming home. He came into the bedroom to check if I was awake (I was) and then proceeded to ask questions about the fish tank...apparently the fish were acting weird. As I had made some changes to the fish tank set up - with his agreement - he...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

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oldergal · oldergal

How does speaking my words, opinions and thoughts tie in with my recovery? Sincerely, og

Truth · Truth

I don't know if I am allowed to do this but I want to ask for prayers for the families for the recent fallen police officers in Canada. I hope their families will find peace.

missmeliss · missmeliss

Sigh. Don't even know where to begin with all of this. It might not make much sense. It might be too much about what the A is doing. It might sound like a lot of whinging. It'll certainly be long. But let me preface with, I feel OK. I know I can navigate my way through and I know HP has my back. One foot in front o...

Truth · Truth

So I had a little bit of a scare last night. I had to phone the ambulance for my three year old. He had asthma as a baby. Well he ended up with croup. However because of the asthma he gets terrified he cannot breathe. He was screaming. Well of course I got a little emotional so good thing my safety training...

sadsusie · sadsusie

My AH has been "trying" to get sober..."trying" to make things better...but wait...I'll quit next weekend. Meanwhile, my life is ticking by. I love him, but I don't like him. When he drinks I dispise being around him, and find his behavior completely belligerent and I refuse b...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

It's amazing when you come out of depression to realize how depressed I have been. I had no idea. I'm making a conscious effort to make the most of every day, choosing to be happy and focusing on just the kids and myself. It's working, and then nighttime comes, kids are asleep, AH falls asleep in couch usu...

Truth · Truth

I have been singing my son the song "Four Hugs a Day". So yesterday when I dropped him off a daycare. I went to go give him a hug good-bye and he said "no mommy I need four".

DavidG · DavidG

There is no evidence so far that Jerry has used any copyrighted material... If it happens to be, then he should be given to option to delete them himself. it is not good Alanon to censor anyone, based simply on suspicion. Any member has the right of reply if there are any issues raised. Otherwise we mig...

neshema2 · neshema2

Wednesday's client whom i have been killing myself to clean up his books, teach his off. mgr. how to cover him b/c he is so irresponsible, well Wed. was a hay maker i never approved of him buying the office building he got b/c it isn't a good "cash cow" the debt he owes for the rent he is potentia...

el-cee · el-cee

Is it just me or has this forum got a bit manic and chaotic? It could be me, Im fed up and wanted to hear some good stuff but I just cant get into it at all. Its like there are prickly undercurrents everywhere. Manipulative people with snide comments, hidden agendas everywhere I go. At work I have a 'friend'...

neshema2 · neshema2

yep, my post on living in the right now is true blue....I am working the beejeebers out of the slogans mentioned and lots of self talk BUT today, yea, Friday is my "junk food" day and today was no exception....didn't make so much at today's job b/c it was slow...thank god the elder boss tipp...

mm830 · mm830

I feel very disoriented in my thoughts but will take a few steps back and pray for clarity. Funny how you stumble on lies sometimes, in this case a five month lie of omission. My grandmother has this saying "an ugly thing will show its head." And all her wisdom of ninety years is right. The only...

tortuga · tortuga

Good morning lovely people, I'm making progress in letting it all go. After having had several temper tantrums, and sad depressed episodes, I feel I'm resurfacing again in my new project 'life'. In fact circumstances are good, since after 2 weeks I will be moving away from here, leaving this country...

milkwood · milkwood

I'm so grateful for the arms and ESH of MIP and alanon - the difference I feel now compared to my low points a few years back is astonishing. That difference is helped by you, I really valued yesterday's feedback a lot. I slept for ten, well needed, hours last night, and woke to see a beautiful falcon flyi...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

For those of you who have decided not to get a divorce or separation, how do you cope with living with your AH? I find that reading my literature is very helpful and a private counselor helped me but I would like to hear what you do to get through the storms. I still experience anxiety, sadness and frustra...

HisMrsWright · HisMrsWright

Good morning! This morning I am thinking about a lot of things that I probably shouldnt be because its making me nervous. As an Al Anon I know we are supposed or should rather, stay on our side of the street and essentially mind our own business. What is the best way to handle situations when you suspect th...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight I had a blow up with my dad. On the way home from work, I stopped by to grab a sandwich. I walked in and set it on the table. Him: "What are you doing for dinner?" Me: "Pita place" (I turn on the sink to wash m...

Debilyn · Debilyn

In our "Frequently Asked Questions," It gives us the guideline for mip. One is we follow copyright laws. This is not censorship. As mods we follow the rules, traditions etc. It's not personal. We have had ones come on only to rile things up, sell things, gossip, use horrible profanity, the...

Jerry Froggie · Jerry Froggie

Addiction -- A family Disease Where there is addiction within a family there is also strife between the other members not addicted. Basically there are two situations to talk about. The first concerns parents who have an addictive child. That child may or may not be an adult. The second is a scene that...

DavidG · DavidG

I learned to speak, and I learned to speak for myself... I went through a long periods where I had so much to say... but in recent times this has slowed down, thankfully... In m first years I really wanted to reach out and help people who shared. I was one of those who really wanted to do my 12th step first!...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

My AH keeps asking me to go out with him. I have gone out a few times with him and our daughter. He usually expects more to come out of it later...but I keep saying no. Right now he isn't drinking. I don't think he is really truly sober yet, as he does not go to AA meetings and keeps NyQuil around. My sponsor say...

Luiza · Luiza

Hi. I am brand new here.I have been living with my husband's 'drink problem' for around 9 years now. We have a 7 year old child.Until earlier this week I was still hopeful that he would change eventually and everything would be wonderful. Now I am tired of waiting and sick of excuses. Even though things...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

Well, .. I have specific challenges I face and this place really makes me stay on my toes .. I have gotten rid of a ton however there is more to go .. really my next project is filing .. that will eliminate a lot of crap and give me a little more storage. They come in and do random inspections .. ugh .. I'm reall...

lenii263 · lenii263

My daughter has had a drinking problem for years. She seemed to function anyway. She even got a college education. Now that her kids have grown and left, she is barely functional. She can't work, is sick all of the time. I think her brain cells are affected, as she repeats and doesn't remember things rig...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

When you think that it won't get worse in terms of watching someone self destruct they manage to surprise you and yes it does .. what sucks is when it can affect the kids and myself. STBAX just got another judgment against him which means that he could wind up getting fired from his job. I know that there...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Busy at work but it feels good. Little hot outside now....110 degrees but I have AC

The well man came and it's the pump. 3500 to replace so I'm happy we still have water. Have a meeting at 6 so I will see ya all later. (((( hugs )))

el-cee · el-cee

Step seven tells us to humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings. I know I cant expect miracles or shortcuts, I need to do the work. Thats where jerry comes in, I hope you dont mind me mentioning you. Jerry talks about opposites a lot and my plan is to work out what the opposites are and then focus on one for a...

grateful2be · grateful2be

A few weeks ago, I met with a service man from a heating and cooling firm in our area to do routine maintenance on my air conditioner. He asked if I wanted him to do service on my water heater for an additional cost which made sense to me since it is 10 years old. He discovered he couldn't do the work of servi...

Truth · Truth

I am excited to go my next sessions at the domestic violence shelter. I just have a feeling this is what my HP needs me to advocate. It doesn't matter where you are coming from. It's where your going.

milkwood · milkwood

I would be snug in excellent soil with warm sunshine warming my face and able to enjoy the moment since just for today I have no obligations or outstanding issues. How lucky is that?! How simple my life can be. Sometimes I struggle with the simplicity of it all - silly me

Its 8.30 in the morning here...

sunshine23 · sunshine23

Today at my f2f meeting, we went through patience. I thought I was very patient with my AH. I gave him many years of chances after all. In fact, I was not very patient with my AH for many years because I expected something from him. I did a and automatically expected b. when b did not happen, I am frustrated a...

texasgal · texasgal

I finally made a decision a few nights ago. I had long conversation with my HP and decided to file for divorce. My soon to be ex ah was all talk abt divorce. He told me he was filing but he actually never did. I have a few weeks before my big move and when I leave I want to be able to leave and be free from him. Slowl...

mercedes1959 · mercedes1959

Hello fellow alanoners - Today I really felt like I turned a big corner. For the past 8 months, everyone here and in the chat meetings have listened to me complain about my co worker. Today, I feel like I turned a big corner in detachment. I can't even tell you what she wore today. She has been the elephant i...

lookingup · lookingup

I'm missing my a bf already,sounds dumb,I make him leave now I'm wanting to see him I called and texted him today he said he got him a place he is gonna share a place with a guy friends 24 y/o daughter cause her roommate moved out,he said he just Got to get him a bed,it's good he is getting him his own place wit...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Thoughts on the core of our spiritual program: Humility (Preview) Yesterday I was startled by some of the things I read here about a certain poster who shared an article he wrote - and then I just burst out laughing! What a silly life we create and live, trying to control our controlling nature! LOLOLOL As a person affected by an alcoholic father and a codependent mot...	Tasha	31	671	Jun 10, 2014 by Debilyn
	Crushed (Preview) So today is my brother's 1 year sober! I'm so happy and proud of him, he is doing great. He is the reason I started alanon and coming to this board. Sadly, although my brother is sober, ever since I became pregnant with my 1st child last year, I've noticed my husband has been increasing his drinking. H...	Sam813	8	263	Jun 10, 2014 by Sam813
	Okay, okay... I'll do it. Essays? Articles? (Preview) While I truly feel that the subject of Essay's has already gotten more attention than it should have because it took time and attention away from the newcomer and others in need of our time and attention, several people have PM'd me and asked that I be willing to copy my response to the thread about Relat...	John	5	2385	Jun 10, 2014 by Jerry F
	Manipulative People (Preview) There is a man at one of the Al-Anon meetings I used to go to who was very maniplulative and a jerk to be honest.. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with person's such as this? Thank you.	phoenixmagicgirl	9	381	Jun 10, 2014 by neshema2
	Not so happy today (Preview) When I voice an opinion on anything it gets discounted. So I don't say anything. When I said that an action hurt my feelings, I was told 's*** happens'. This afternoon AH said that our relationship counsellor had told him that affairs often happen when the spouse is pregnant or has recently lost a love...	milkwood	25	592	Jun 9, 2014 by John
	The Amends not to make... (humor) (Preview) "Honey, I am so so sorry I said you were a stupid idiot, I didn't mean it as a news flash, surprise or anything like that, I honesty thought you already knew! So, that's my side of the street... Thinking a stupid idiot would have already known something before I told them... I'm really sorry."	John	6	290	Jun 9, 2014 by Truth
	Thoughts (Preview) "When you allow the wrong people in your house, stuff will come up missing Like: Joy, Peace, Love, Hope, Faith. Wishing you Peace and Blessings	Beatrice	4	153	Jun 9, 2014 by Jerry F
	A purge or something. (Preview) Sometimes I could swear that every single thing I do to try to improve my situation or "do the right thing" is met with such opposition from the universe that I might as well give up. I mean really, sometimes, you rise to meet every challenge and get to the finish line and get struck by lightnin...	missmeliss	17	543	Jun 9, 2014 by pinkchip
	What are healthy friendships? (Preview) I don't know how to type this out, so I will be thinking as I type. I have a few friendships that maybe aren't really friendships. Maybe I am not being a good friend, maybe I don't know what a good friendship consists of, I don't know, but this is my struggle lately. I have one friend in particular that I s...	PP	24	572	Jun 9, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Gold medal?! Oops, sorry. We meant bronze... (Preview) So, I am trying really hard not to beat myself up. I do it so well! I have been taking martial arts for 5 Years. Started in my 40's. Today I went to a tournament. Was my first one with this school. The young guy running our competition was clueless. He always had a slight look of confusion on his face. He was in...	Newlife girl	6	393	Jun 9, 2014 by Breakingfree
	My own life - how far to take it? (Preview) So, after coming to a certain amount of acceptance about the way my relationship with my AH is, I started to wonder about some pretty specific things. Obviously, I want to live my life as much as possible, and I don't want to let his issues hold me back. One thing we were going to do together was learn to r...	SpiderArcana	6	357	Jun 9, 2014 by Mimi3
	New user name (Preview) Hi all, this is Ilovedogs. I decided to set up a new user name and connect it to my personal email, instead of the old one which was connected to my joint email that I share with AH. I have an update, too, and I'm feeling more and more like I'm being pulled to make a real drastic change. AH was traveling this...	andromeda	17	671	Jun 9, 2014 by andromeda
	I know you feel guilty and no I'm not going to say its okay. (Preview) Now my AH is back into liquor again. Back into being belligerent again. Back into making stupid decisions '"because of the alcohol". He is having himself a pity party. He is soooo tired, poor me I haven't slept for 48 hours. (cause he drank all night and we had guests to entertain all day). an...	sadsusie	15	578	Jun 9, 2014 by Breakingfree
	On Relationships ( 1 2 ) (Preview) On Relationships Your relationship with others does not depend on the other person. Your own altitude toward life in general determines how others see you. A positive attitude instills confidence of you in others. Refusing to put the other person on the defensive makes them feel safe around you....	Jerry Froggie	76	1605	Jun 9, 2014 by pinkchip
	How are taking someone else's agenda and venting and expectations alike? (Preview) It seems when I have vented about someone else (alcoholic son) it turned out to be taking someone elses agenda! Regardless if it was my son or not, it was another human being. Then when I really thought about it further I wouldn't have had that vent on my mind if I would have never expected anything with in...	oldergal	5	487	Jun 8, 2014 by grateful2be
	A very good day today :) (Preview) Hi everyone, I hope you're all doing well today. If you can indulge me for a moment, I'd like to share about my day. This morning, we had another planning meeting for the intervention..it is going well. After which, I went food shopping and out to lunch with my AM. We both had a really really good time.....	phoenixmagicgirl	5	239	Jun 8, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	not begging anymore (Preview) I was just emailing my sponsor, and realized that for years, I think I begged my spouse to spend time with me. Her priorities were never our marriage, and it is with the help of alanon, that I am breaking my codependency on her. Not that I will be great at this anytime soon, but I know that I can, actually I...	Lyne	6	234	Jun 8, 2014 by Newlife girl
	Persistence (Preview) This was the subject for discussion (in part) at my morning meeting and the crowd was into it so all I had to do was sit and listen. My now sponsor was there and my former sponsors also ...in spirit; thank you God. There was a 9 year anniversary and tomorrow an 18 monther, a young man who has followed the s...	Jerry F	8	466	Jun 8, 2014 by Debilyn
	the dolls house (Preview) Has anyone ever read this play by henrik ibsen? Its all about a woman who lived to please and entertain and make the people in her life happy. A crisis occurs and she sees the reality of her life and she leaves her family to go and find herself. It was banned in many countries when it came out in the early 19th...	el-cee	19	411	Jun 8, 2014 by Truth
	Visitation Vent .. (Preview) This weekend is suppose to be my STBAX's visitation .. isn't this sad .. he actually gets brownie points because he took them yesterday .. on a milestone note this is the first Saturday in almost a year he's had the kids. He's suppose to have them for almost 72 hours some of which is their choice and so...	SerenityRUS	17	350	Jun 8, 2014 by grateful2be
	Opinions (not sure this is a great subject title, ha! but its gotta have a title eh?0 ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Recent posts having sparked a few debates has me thinking about the phrase - you don't have to join every argument you are invited to. Theres this guy in my town who is very bible-thumping religious and thumps on a few things as being worse than any others (um, not my perception of The Word) and he loves to...	likemyheart	49	973	Jun 8, 2014 by oldergal
	My sponsor called.. (Preview) I am so grateful today my sponsor called. I know she didn't exactly tell me everything but that is okay. I am just happy she was having a good day.	Truth	2	204	Jun 8, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	In less than a month (Preview) I will be getting married. After such a rocky relationship history it is strange. I can easily see how you straight people have it so much harder in some ways because I totally would have married 2 of my past partners (one of them whom I designate as my ex-A), had I been legally able to do so at that time. ...	pinkchip	17	488	Jun 8, 2014 by grateful2be
	Holding on (Preview) Been a month since i moved out. I can feel myself recovering but I know there are still a lot of underlying "injuries" I substained through the years. They are just hidden away and I will need to deal with them to enjoy full recovery. I used to wear my wedding ring on my necklace to remind myse...	sunshine23	14	453	Jun 8, 2014 by grateful2be
	Don't stress me out... (Preview) Last night my husband came from work and he had a few drinks before coming home. He came into the bedroom to check if I was awake (I was) and then proceeded to ask questions about the fish tank...apparently the fish were acting weird. As I had made some changes to the fish tank set up - with his agreement - he...	Luiza	4	310	Jun 8, 2014 by grateful2be
	One Day At A Time - June 8 (Preview) deleted due to copyright violation	WorkingThroughIt	0	249	Jun 8, 2014 by WorkingThroughIt
	Question (Preview) How does speaking my words, opinions and thoughts tie in with my recovery? Sincerely, og	oldergal	8	383	Jun 8, 2014 by Debilyn
	Express condolences .... (Preview) I don't know if I am allowed to do this but I want to ask for prayers for the families for the recent fallen police officers in Canada. I hope their families will find peace.	Truth	4	271	Jun 8, 2014 by Debilyn
	It never rains but.. (Preview) Sigh. Don't even know where to begin with all of this. It might not make much sense. It might be too much about what the A is doing. It might sound like a lot of whinging. It'll certainly be long. But let me preface with, I feel OK. I know I can navigate my way through and I know HP has my back. One foot in front o...	missmeliss	7	491	Jun 8, 2014 by milkwood
	Grateful it turned out okay..... (Preview) So I had a little bit of a scare last night. I had to phone the ambulance for my three year old. He had asthma as a baby. Well he ended up with croup. However because of the asthma he gets terrified he cannot breathe. He was screaming. Well of course I got a little emotional so good thing my safety training...	Truth	14	534	Jun 7, 2014 by grateful2be
	I love you is not enough... (Preview) My AH has been "trying" to get sober..."trying" to make things better...but wait...I'll quit next weekend. Meanwhile, my life is ticking by. I love him, but I don't like him. When he drinks I dispise being around him, and find his behavior completely belligerent and I refuse b...	sadsusie	10	536	Jun 7, 2014 by sadsusie
	In the still of the night (Preview) It's amazing when you come out of depression to realize how depressed I have been. I had no idea. I'm making a conscious effort to make the most of every day, choosing to be happy and focusing on just the kids and myself. It's working, and then nighttime comes, kids are asleep, AH falls asleep in couch usu...	Kerrymom	7	339	Jun 7, 2014 by milkwood
	K I got a cute story.... (Preview) I have been singing my son the song "Four Hugs a Day". So yesterday when I dropped him off a daycare. I went to go give him a hug good-bye and he said "no mommy I need four".	Truth	4	255	Jun 7, 2014 by Truth
	Tradition One- conscience issue... new member to board... ( 1 2 ) (Preview) There is no evidence so far that Jerry has used any copyrighted material... If it happens to be, then he should be given to option to delete them himself. it is not good Alanon to censor anyone, based simply on suspicion. Any member has the right of reply if there are any issues raised. Otherwise we mig...	DavidG	41	905	Jun 7, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	why it is sooo important to live in the RIGHT NOW (Preview) Wednesday's client whom i have been killing myself to clean up his books, teach his off. mgr. how to cover him b/c he is so irresponsible, well Wed. was a hay maker i never approved of him buying the office building he got b/c it isn't a good "cash cow" the debt he owes for the rent he is potentia...	neshema2	5	286	Jun 7, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	Manipulation (Preview) Is it just me or has this forum got a bit manic and chaotic? It could be me, Im fed up and wanted to hear some good stuff but I just cant get into it at all. Its like there are prickly undercurrents everywhere. Manipulative people with snide comments, hidden agendas everywhere I go. At work I have a 'friend'...	el-cee	18	572	Jun 7, 2014 by el-cee
	I'd be lying if i said I wasn't a "Tad" worried (Preview) yep, my post on living in the right now is true blue....I am working the beejeebers out of the slogans mentioned and lots of self talk BUT today, yea, Friday is my "junk food" day and today was no exception....didn't make so much at today's job b/c it was slow...thank god the elder boss tipp...	neshema2	6	577	Jun 7, 2014 by el-cee
	HP reveals deception when it is time... (Preview) I feel very disoriented in my thoughts but will take a few steps back and pray for clarity. Funny how you stumble on lies sometimes, in this case a five month lie of omission. My grandmother has this saying "an ugly thing will show its head." And all her wisdom of ninety years is right. The only...	mm830	9	524	Jun 7, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	why do we go back? (Preview) Good morning lovely people, I'm making progress in letting it all go. After having had several temper tantrums, and sad depressed episodes, I feel I'm resurfacing again in my new project 'life'. In fact circumstances are good, since after 2 weeks I will be moving away from here, leaving this country...	tortuga	9	552	Jun 7, 2014 by el-cee
	Charting progress (Preview) I'm so grateful for the arms and ESH of MIP and alanon - the difference I feel now compared to my low points a few years back is astonishing. That difference is helped by you, I really valued yesterday's feedback a lot. I slept for ten, well needed, hours last night, and woke to see a beautiful falcon flyi...	milkwood	5	316	Jun 7, 2014 by Kerrymom
	Advice - How to cope with living with AH? (Preview) For those of you who have decided not to get a divorce or separation, how do you cope with living with your AH? I find that reading my literature is very helpful and a private counselor helped me but I would like to hear what you do to get through the storms. I still experience anxiety, sadness and frustra...	wifeofalcoholic	11	609	Jun 6, 2014 by hopes314
	How do I handle nervousness? (Preview) Good morning! This morning I am thinking about a lot of things that I probably shouldnt be because its making me nervous. As an Al Anon I know we are supposed or should rather, stay on our side of the street and essentially mind our own business. What is the best way to handle situations when you suspect th...	HisMrsWright	9	373	Jun 6, 2014 by Jerry F
	Apparently I am rude... (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Tonight I had a blow up with my dad. On the way home from work, I stopped by to grab a sandwich. I walked in and set it on the table. Him: "What are you doing for dinner?" Me: "Pita place" (I turn on the sink to wash m...	slogan_jim	4	327	Jun 6, 2014 by Mattie
	Censoring vs. following mip rules (Preview) In our "Frequently Asked Questions," It gives us the guideline for mip. One is we follow copyright laws. This is not censorship. As mods we follow the rules, traditions etc. It's not personal. We have had ones come on only to rile things up, sell things, gossip, use horrible profanity, the...	Debilyn	1	343	Jun 6, 2014 by hotrod
	Addiction -- A family Disease (Preview) Addiction -- A family Disease Where there is addiction within a family there is also strife between the other members not addicted. Basically there are two situations to talk about. The first concerns parents who have an addictive child. That child may or may not be an adult. The second is a scene that...	Jerry Froggie	36	890	Jun 6, 2014 by pinkchip
	Stuff I learned in Alanon... (Preview) I learned to speak, and I learned to speak for myself... I went through a long periods where I had so much to say... but in recent times this has slowed down, thankfully... In m first years I really wanted to reach out and help people who shared. I was one of those who really wanted to do my 12th step first!...	DavidG	15	678	Jun 6, 2014 by DavidG
	They don't know what they have until it's gone (Preview) My AH keeps asking me to go out with him. I have gone out a few times with him and our daughter. He usually expects more to come out of it later...but I keep saying no. Right now he isn't drinking. I don't think he is really truly sober yet, as he does not go to AA meetings and keeps NyQuil around. My sponsor say...	Newlife girl	8	438	Jun 6, 2014 by grateful2be
	So, How should I have reacted for the best? (Preview) Hi. I am brand new here.I have been living with my husband's 'drink problem' for around 9 years now. We have a 7 year old child.Until earlier this week I was still hopeful that he would change eventually and everything would be wonderful. Now I am tired of waiting and sick of excuses. Even though things...	Luiza	15	464	Jun 6, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Accomplishments .. (Preview) Well, .. I have specific challenges I face and this place really makes me stay on my toes .. I have gotten rid of a ton however there is more to go .. really my next project is filing .. that will eliminate a lot of crap and give me a little more storage. They come in and do random inspections .. ugh .. I'm reall...	SerenityRUS	9	451	Jun 6, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Lost daughter (Preview) My daughter has had a drinking problem for years. She seemed to function anyway. She even got a college education. Now that her kids have grown and left, she is barely functional. She can't work, is sick all of the time. I think her brain cells are affected, as she repeats and doesn't remember things rig...	lenii263	11	566	Jun 5, 2014 by grateful2be
	As an example .. (Preview) When you think that it won't get worse in terms of watching someone self destruct they manage to surprise you and yes it does .. what sucks is when it can affect the kids and myself. STBAX just got another judgment against him which means that he could wind up getting fired from his job. I know that there...	SerenityRUS	3	397	Jun 5, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	Another good day (Preview) Busy at work but it feels good. Little hot outside now....110 degrees but I have AC The well man came and it's the pump. 3500 to replace so I'm happy we still have water. Have a meeting at 6 so I will see ya all later. (((( hugs )))	Cathyinaz	11	403	Jun 5, 2014 by grateful2be
	walking the walk (Preview) Step seven tells us to humbly ask him to remove our shortcomings. I know I cant expect miracles or shortcuts, I need to do the work. Thats where jerry comes in, I hope you dont mind me mentioning you. Jerry talks about opposites a lot and my plan is to work out what the opposites are and then focus on one for a...	el-cee	9	441	Jun 5, 2014 by el-cee
	Red flags and heeding their warning (Preview) A few weeks ago, I met with a service man from a heating and cooling firm in our area to do routine maintenance on my air conditioner. He asked if I wanted him to do service on my water heater for an additional cost which made sense to me since it is 10 years old. He discovered he couldn't do the work of servi...	grateful2be	19	731	Jun 5, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	Grateful today..... (Preview) I am excited to go my next sessions at the domestic violence shelter. I just have a feeling this is what my HP needs me to advocate. It doesn't matter where you are coming from. It's where your going.	Truth	7	228	Jun 4, 2014 by Truth
	If I was a plant... (Preview) I would be snug in excellent soil with warm sunshine warming my face and able to enjoy the moment since just for today I have no obligations or outstanding issues. How lucky is that?! How simple my life can be. Sometimes I struggle with the simplicity of it all - silly me Its 8.30 in the morning here...	milkwood	9	361	Jun 4, 2014 by PP
	Patience. (Preview) Today at my f2f meeting, we went through patience. I thought I was very patient with my AH. I gave him many years of chances after all. In fact, I was not very patient with my AH for many years because I expected something from him. I did a and automatically expected b. when b did not happen, I am frustrated a...	sunshine23	10	904	Jun 4, 2014 by Truth
	progress not perfection (Preview) I finally made a decision a few nights ago. I had long conversation with my HP and decided to file for divorce. My soon to be ex ah was all talk abt divorce. He told me he was filing but he actually never did. I have a few weeks before my big move and when I leave I want to be able to leave and be free from him. Slowl...	texasgal	9	426	Jun 4, 2014 by Breakingfree
	With the help of my alanon friends and lots of meetings I feel like i turned a corner today, able to detach (Preview) Hello fellow alanoners - Today I really felt like I turned a big corner. For the past 8 months, everyone here and in the chat meetings have listened to me complain about my co worker. Today, I feel like I turned a big corner in detachment. I can't even tell you what she wore today. She has been the elephant i...	mercedes1959	9	453	Jun 4, 2014 by Breakingfree
	My feelings !!! (Preview) I'm missing my a bf already,sounds dumb,I make him leave now I'm wanting to see him I called and texted him today he said he got him a place he is gonna share a place with a guy friends 24 y/o daughter cause her roommate moved out,he said he just Got to get him a bed,it's good he is getting him his own place wit...	lookingup	11	607	Jun 4, 2014 by Breakingfree
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