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is there an abbreviation list?
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if there is, could anyone please post a link to it? thanks!
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Hotdogs
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I just ate a cold cheddar dog for breakfast - I know they aren't good for me, but I ate one anyway. I worked in my yard a bit before it got hot, gotta go clean a neighbors bathrooms because I'm a softie and can't say no; hey I will be old someday and not able to do the physical work involved in cleaning a bathroom...
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likemyheart
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Nerves.
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I know everyone suffers from them but for me, they get way out of control. Like I've never danced in public; if you drag me onto the dance floor I'll just stand there looking at my feet until you let me slink away. If an entertainer calls me out in a crowd I won't reply, I just can't. I'll look at my feet until t...
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im a goldfish
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I cant concentrate!!!!! I have the concentration of a fish. I have a deadline, the days are counting down to have this work done. I have 3 more days and im up and down, checking on here, tidying up, doing the work then oh wait, il have a cup of tea, il phone such and such. Whaŕaaaaa. Procrastination is my spe...
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how can I be happy when you are in despair?
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My daughter is in suicidal despair. It literally breaks my heart. She is threatened with losing her children in a bitter custody battle, long story. I have done everything in my power to support, cheer, guide, cajole, advise her. I know I am powerless, codependent, etc but it is baffling to me...
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A Prayer
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el-cee
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MEETING #1 (finally)
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I just sat in on my first online meeting. Only a few people in it, but it was good. I didn't really share, but am hoping the next one I'm more open. I feel like I have such a LONG, HUGE mess that I wouldn't know where to start! Do I tell my story or do I share parts of it? I don't wanna D R A G it out but also need to star...
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pinkchip, SerenityRUS, Cathyinaz, milkwood, ClearTheFog, el-cee, grateful2be, missmeliss, oldergal, yanksfan51
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Just saw ya'll were on with me and wanted to throw a big hello out to each of you! John
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HAPPY 1st DAY OF SUMMER EVERYONE!!!!!!
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well today begins summer....May it bring us more happiness/ health/ abundance in all good things... I am waiting for my dinner to cook and just realized that today is 1st day of summer for us northern hemisphere folks anyway.... My public pool is closed for season...repairs...real bad to lose the se...
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When you're chasing the A more than your kids....
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There are nights that I literally have to chase my AH around the house. It's more exhausting than chasing my children all day. This man is not only dangerously impulsive when he drinks, but he also tends to walk around after he's fallen asleep (I know, I can't catch a break even when I think he's down for t...
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watchdog1999
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OCD
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I used to behave like a dog. Smelling AH, looking at bank account, calling him to encourage him to come home... In the beginning of my disease, I believed him when he said he did not drink. In the middle, I doubted him occasionally, towards the later part, I do not believe any of his words. The interesting...
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sunshine23
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Recovery Is Confusing, Hard & Wonderful
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I took a little bit of a time out from posting since my thoughts were scattered and I didn't feel I had much to offer while I was so confused but I have been in reading regularly so I have kept up with everyone else's lives. I am feeling more clear-headed these days and I miss talking to everyone so I wanted to...
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choosing to stay or go
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My choice was to leave, before alanon mind you. I chose to end our relationship completely about 1 year after joining alanon. I have a friend and she chose to stay to the bitter end, her husband never got sobriety and died at a young age. They lived very seperate lives, it was her and the kids and him on his o...
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el-cee
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Years wasted????
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Whydid I stay with my AH all these years. I don't know. When we first got married I didn't realize that he had a problem with drinking (I grew up in an alcoholic family so alot of the behavior was "normal". Then the kids came along and I didn't want to be alone - though I basically was he was not...
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slowlearner
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@ Ilikemyheart
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Oh no Ilikemyheart, I heard myself in that post, I would totally be the friend telling you how to build your bloods clotting factor while you bled all over the floor, I laughed so hard at myself when I read that. Its true, oh no, I am just like that! But we are off topic here; you know an unhealthy gut can cau...
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missmeliss
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Dating another member in the Al-Anon program
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Hi there. I'm a newbie to the board though almost two years in the program. Seeking guidance/suggestions on how to handle a particular situation... I'm a single mom (I'm in my 30s, my kid is a toddler) and am soon to be divorced from my qualifier. I haven't dated anyone since my ex and I split almost tw...
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Diane Chambers
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Wish me luck, you all
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Thursday night, my daughter #2 found me a great lawn guy, so i got him to do my yard...great guy, great job, my oldest grandson's uncle , he is... anyway, I call Daughter to thank her profusely for helping me find a yard guy and we chat and she says "I love you mom, i miss you" and i told her th...
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hard truth
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When I was newer to the board, I read from one of you, if you know the answer to a question, why ask it? That is good advice. In a difficult discussion I had with my A last week, I said that I knew she was drinking. She admitted to drinking. I can't tell whether the truth makes it better or worse, but either...
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Lyne
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pity vs love
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I get very confused trying to understand love. In the biblical description....love is patient, love is kind etc....it goes on to say "love is not self-seeking"......yet as a codependent I have fallen victim to negating myself, waiting on others only. Al-Anon encourages us to unde...
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Rusty Angel
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Revisiting Old Emails
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I've been cleaning out my old emails and found this message that I sent to my AH a little over three years ago: Dear <<<>>>>,It is clear this disease called alcoholism has taken control of you. You've chosen not to give up drinking for your health, for me, for your daughters, o...
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Green Eyes
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Taking care of me
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Hi everyone!
For the first time in a long time, I went to the gym twice this week & last night I went to a f2f meeting. I'm still looking for a psychologist. I'm happier than I than I have been. I'm very slowly getting there. Have a fantastic Saturday & Sunday!
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He slowly went back to his old ways. What do I do now?!
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So my husband has been sober 1 year and 7 months and started drinking non alcoholic beer at the beginning of his recovery and recently one beer at a party. Well, tonight he seems to be back to his old ways. He went to the bar right after work and turned his phone off. What can I do . Should I leave him. I'm so tir...
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Angel19
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My son in jail..
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I have not heard from my son but people that have seen him do tell me he's around. Today I go to our local county jail website and lord and behold I saw my sons name.. He was pickup this morning for a choice he chose to make and he will possibly look at some time possibly prison. Last night I prayed he would get c...
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Gaby
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Help me with new recovery
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So, I have to admit that I have been hyper focused on AH ever since he started attending AA meetings over the last 2 weeks. It's like I'm waiting for some sort of sign to tell me he's safe to talk to again or that I can trust him with certain things again. You know, stuff like my emotions, my feelings, my sou...
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andromeda
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My brother, drinking problem, but what if I am wrong?
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Hi everyone, I am not too sure where to begin. I am here because I am concerned about my brother. He got a DUI last Thanksgiving. He disclosed this to me like a week after it happened, I am positive he considered not telling me, even though we are very close. He still hasn't told any of his family members, wh...
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Should I or shouldn't I?
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It has been good so far having moved out. AH seems to have longer periods of recovery in between, however, he is still very prideful about being ok whenever I asked him to go AA or help. This week my kids are gone and my AH wanted me to go for a trip with him. Just driving out of town for the weekend. Not sure if I...
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sunshine23
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Today...
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I will be getting my nails and toes did up and taking my daughter with me. We have a wedding to go to tomorrow and I will have fun and enjoy myself and enjoy my time with my husband and daughter. I will for ever keep my son in prayers but I will continue to take care of me. Next weekend another busy Saturday for m...
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Gaby
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Creating life anew
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Although retirement is about 13 days away (yes, I'm counting), I've already begun recreating my life. I signed up for two day a week walks with others my age and two warm water pool classes two nights a week starting next week. Today, I asked one of my current board members who did begin as a program vol...
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grateful2be
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Overwhelmed
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A month ago, my AH's disease progressed more than I could have imagined. He is a sneaky drinker - never ever drinking in front of me and denying that he is drinking. He was in outpatient treatment over the winter but drank during it so was discharged from the program. He continued to go to AA and insist t...
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CT Scan
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I went to the doctor and he told me my CT scan was clear. So clear it didn't look like I was a smoker at one time. Now he's confused with my shortness of breath so I'm heading out the door soon to take a Stress Test. What if it hasn't been COPD but a heart condition. Lovely. We will see. I don't like do...
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Cathyinaz
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missing meetings
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Due to work committments I have missed my meetings for the last 3 weeks. Ive been feeling a bit fearful in case I revert back to my old miserable self, but im doing not too bad. I can feel a bit of a decline and a bit panicky a couple of times but im getting good at using the tools. Ive been reading each day, conn...
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el-cee
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Everything is a lie...
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I recently married my bf of 6 yrs. He was almost 3 months sober and working the program but it seems like everything that comes out of his mouth is a lie whether he is drinking or not. from dec-April he completed detox, inpatient and outpatient relapse prevention. he relapsed late feb and then again at th...
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Pinkchip!
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How many days? Any fun things you're doing as you prepare that you want to share with us? Any fun surprises you've received? Any requests from your MIP family? Looking forward to sharing your joy in some small way if you want to share some of it? If not, I'm still very excited for you. You've worked...
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My new life...
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I am really excited to start this new chapter. I am ready to move forward and ready to heal. It is going to be a new adventure.
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Truth
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First step share
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Share from "BLESSED " a new Member who posted to the Sticky at the top of the Board I transferred it so we could all read and share Thank you. I am new to the program; and just kind of glossed over Steps 1, 2, and 3, which of course I have aced and why I came to AlAnon to start with. However, as I s...
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Wanted to share that I finally left
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It was almost exactly a year ago today that I left the first time. I was a severely disturbed and depressed woman, scared she would hurt herself or others in the fury of the backlash of alcoholism.
Today, I am learning to ask "what do I want?" Not even what's is best for this relationship or fu...
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sadsusie
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Why do I feel like I have to answer their questions???
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A quick recap of my situation. My AH and I used to be coworkers. He was fired back in March. People ask me almost on a daily basis if he has a new job yet. They ask about my kids. They know we are separated. They ask about my new apartment. Question after question. How is he making it without a paycheck? Etc etc...
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The Avatar
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I've been asked about my avatar which I posted as a humble reminder of who the real artist and creator is. The is the back view of a Peacock. The symmetrical beauty of this animal is awe inspiring to me. I've seen them strut and fan their tails and rarely have seen tis view of one like this. I have a pe...
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Jerry F
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I don't understand.....
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I have not posted since my introduction but I do follow the forum everyday and find great comfort in the support here. I am so grateful to each of you for having the courage to share your journey and I wish that I had the same courage, but thank each of you! After reading another post today that sparked a tri...
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mynewlife
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New Here: How can I mourn her when she is still alive?
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New Here. I just need a place to let loose where no one knows me or my sister. For seven years I've watched her fall into alcohol. It was subtle at first. I noticed she would never talk to me unless it was a crisis. No casual, "how are you?" or "what's new?" or "let's meet up&...
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A Rerun?
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Maybe and maybe not and then there will be more maybe than not because a duck is a duck is a duck. Some of you might remember that part of my journey that included "Pinch and Roodie" the two duck chicks I rescued from my clients hotel who were abandoned by their mom. Well this one isn't named...
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Jerry F
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Today, I made my decision to move on
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I visit this forum very often but don't post very often, but right now I just need to share (okay....vent). I feel like such a sucker. My ex and I broke up over a year ago due to his alcoholism. We have still been in contact and have even, at times, discussed the possibility of us getting back together if h...
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scared new guy
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Hi folks. I'm sure glad I stumbled across this site. I don't know how you determine when enough is enough, but it feels like I'm getting close. My wife left on Sunday to go to the beach with her parents while I stayed at home and kept working. I'm ashamed to say that it has been wonderful having her gone...
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elmo7
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Charging money for helping someone who is depressed
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I am helping out a person who was more of an acquaintance but is becoming more of a friend. She has been severely depressed. I have been helping her going on my 7th week. I'm there practically all day, everyday it seems. She is getting help so I don't feel I am enabling her by staying with her and helping her...
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Lesson in humility
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I fooled myself for many years. I thought my spouse cared about me so much that she would get healthy and learn to control her addictions. NOT SO! Not even close. The addictions are her priority and let me learn this please. I cannot compete with them. Alcohol, food, and gambling, are so much more...
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Lyne
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I broke my first bone....
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So I went roller skating with my kids at the park, which isn't that abnormal, we usually bike ride there. We play Frisbee golf there and go to the beach, but yesterday I fell roller skating and broke my right arm at the elbow, trying to catch myself. Of course it's my primary arm and I have to figure out how t...
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Making a moral inventory is hard.
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I've been sitting here reading about Step 4 and thinking about the idea of making a moral inventory of myself. And it scares me. I don't really want to take a real deep look inside at myself because I'm afraid of what i will find. Will I find only emptiness. Maybe only bitterness and resentment. Or j...
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slowlearner
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Anyone have a shopping problem as a coping mechanism?
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I discovered the "high" of shopping when I was about 7 or 8 years old. I stole money from my father and went on a shopping spree. I've been doing it ever since and I will be 52. I don't steal money from anyone but I do steal from my husband and I lie and cheat with him. I know why I started this. It's...
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I don't like when I feel this way
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I have not been here in a long time. My husband was doing much better on his own. He found a good job and was happy. But for some reason in the past 2 weeks he is back to drinking AGAIN. I honestly do not know what gets into his head. His nasty attitude towards me is back and he actually blames me for his dri...
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Just for today
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I love to find proof that this program is truly a fellowship of equals . Inspired by "Slow Learners" use of the Just for Today bookmark , I have decided to follow her lead and take one portion of that little pamphlet and work it today. When I first came into program, I really loved t...
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hotrod
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He wants a little bit of credit cause we had a nice day.
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Lets forget for the moment that I had decided to move out. That no matter how hard I try, I DO love him. I am noticing (he is certainly pointing it out) that I am a negative nelly I do frequently point out the negatives. I will turn a positive conversation into a negative conversation. I am harping on him, a...
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14 Days and counting ..
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Please keep the prayers coming because there is some wild stuff coming down the pipe. I have to let this go tonight and I'm soooo HOPING I'm wrong .. I sold the van a couple months ago and these folks got the van running and now are switching the title .. well .. there is a lien on the van .. now I did do some thi...
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Oh Goody
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Hi Everyone I thought I was OK with my COPD but I guess I'm not at night. The study shows my oxygen go's down below 80 and they said that's not good. So they are coming today to my house and check it out and set up oxygen for me. ??? Dang I don't need to start losing my health Oh and I just started a diet and t...
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Plan for today...
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Just for today... I am going to listen to my body and myself. I am going to listen for the times I am enabling. I am going to think before I speak or agree to something. I am not going to be the superachiever at work. But work well to the best of my abilities and not take on anyone else's projects and admit t...
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Hey JOHN dear! (c:
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Is there any way an individual can make her sight of the board be like it was? I know I remember seeing an ascending and the other ,once? I am seeing posts from days ago first. Then I miss new ones. I am scrolling all over trying to find new ones. I hate to miss a newbies welcome! Also someone who I want to make s...
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Debilyn
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slogans are the gateway to the steps
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My sponsor was telling me how the slogans are the gateway to the steps. Like practicing live and let live, saying it in your mind when you feel that need to get involved, is like practicing step 1. Do you use the slogans like this? -- Edited by el-cee on Tuesday 17th of June 2014 01:52:12 PM
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So that didn't go to plan.
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So, feeling kind sad but determined to keep it together, I was due to have my brother and his girlfriend visit yesterday for the weekend and I went ahead with that plan and just cautioned my brother that I might not be totally animated and excitable as I'd had a bit of a hard day but would be really pleased t...
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Would you, if you could?
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Have you ever wanted to go back in time, undo something you've done? As you get older, wiser (snort), you can name moments where you think to yourself, if only.... If only I could go back and take a different path, that "other" road. But - would going back change things for the better? If going...
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NO NO NO NO NO
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Truth
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years of watching enabling. i finally BLEW!
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hi everyone, my AS is enabled by my parents. they pay all of his bills and watch his child while he sleeps. they are there for him at the drop of a dime. he is their entire focus in life. (he doesn't work) 7 other grandchildren in the picture that my parents rarely notice as they are so addicted to my AS....
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