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giving another chance??
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I saw a post on facebook that resonated with me it talked about the more chances that I gave someone, the less respect they would start to have for me.....they start totally disregarding my boundaries and my standards b/c they know I will always give another chance they become unafraid of losing me, th...
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here I go again
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I found my odat. It was behind something not under something. That's usually how it is searching & finding something under something.
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Hoot Nanny
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odat
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I can't find my book. I wanted to read my 29 year old book & share the reading for today maybe I should just go back to bed??????????
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Hoot Nanny
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the furenal wss OK.
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So I found out things I didn't know about my friend. I thought I knew a lot about her but it was much than that. Her name was Katherine Ann & my name is Kathleen Diane. She was a very loving & was a huge part of my life. We were in our weight group together for many year& sat by me often so I knew her. I...
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Hoot Nanny
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Life onLife's Terms
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I had a very unsettling experience yesterday that I would like to share. This sad incident happened at my church and it is depressing.The church holds AA meetings in a side room every night of the week . It appears the night before , a young member wandered off into the church and fell asleep....
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hotrod
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hotrod
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Did you get my PM? Can't' check my messages until Monday. I am on a mobile phone.Kathleen
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Hoot Nanny
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Courage to Change 1 -31
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C2C January 31 speaks about working the 12 steps once and then discovering that although we have worked the Steps, we are far from perfect and still lapse into self-pity and resentments. The reading goes on to explain that that a meditation on step six and seven is important so that we can discover...
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hotrod
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my girl got into a car wreck!!!
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My D#2 got into a car wreck with ALL the kids on the car...thank goodness it is a rather large suv/truck and she wasn't going fast... A lady suddenly stopped in front of "C" and she hit the brakes, but it wasn't enough.....she went into lady's rear end, lady bumped into the car in front of her.....
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neshema2
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Just for today!!!!
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neshema2
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Being a participant in my life
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neshema2
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Honoring a friend
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A week and a day after I injured my hand sending my life sideways for a while, my neighbor passed away. I cleaned her house for her, did heavy lifting sort of things, came to her aid when she called; she was my friend. She was a recovering alcoholic, had THE BOOK on her shelves; we had many a conversation abo...
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likemyheart
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dilemma
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I don't' know what to do. Should I go to bed or stay up? My back hurts so bad. I took alleve earlier. I want to stay up but then I don't'. What do you think?
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Hoot Nanny
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hot rod
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I am going to PM you today. I would love to tell you my story about my dad.
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Hoot Nanny
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almost dawn
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The day is starting & I want to sleep. I hope I get some responses soon. But don't' rush.
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Hoot Nanny
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Big long ramble about everything.
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Well we're in and this will be our 3rd night in our own place and the first night that it is just daughter and I. So this is awesome and at the same time, there are large teething problems, I won't lie, daughter and I are both very grumpy and tired but hey, we're in our own place. She's settling in at her schoo...
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missmeliss
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Now we're cookin'.
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Finally feeling normal today. Happy even. My parents came over so that step-dad could put up my daughter's trampoline. I didn't ask that they do that but I know that they spent a lot of money on it a year ago and wanted her to be able to use it. They were in friendly moods for the first time in a long, long time...
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missmeliss
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I'm thinking
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That I will update my status tomorrow on the computer. Good night wherever you are!
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Hoot Nanny
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Codependency-Abandonment-Shame
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I have really been floundering in recovery and as a result I've been searching out information in all corners. I'm an information gatherer...if I have a problem I can solve it if I can just gather enough information. This trait has finally proven valuable in my personal life. I'm an adult child of an...
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Spur
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Anyone else's alcoholic spouse in the military?
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Are you more apprehensive and cautious about who you talk to about all this?
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mlang
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missing my dad
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I am missing my dad. He is the only man who truly loved me unconditionally.TThat's all I have to say for now.
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Hoot Nanny
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Update !! It's been a while !!
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First and formorst I'd like to thank you all !! I have to say as a mother of an addict letting go was the best thing for me but I never lost the hope.. Encouragement !!! Stay focus on your own recovery because we need too. I thank JESUS for hearing my every tear .. Here's our updated picture and he is now on a yea...
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Gaby
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Strong enough to stay or strong enough to leave
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There is a saying I heard once "some of us are strong enough to stay, some of us are strong enough to leave" So true, so true. I'm very interested in hearing the stories of those strong enough to leave. Please share- Was there a moment when you just knew it was time?
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callmemara
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Got a book called "cyber junkie"
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because it does have a chapter for the loved ones of a person with internet addiction. And help me understand the problem. I'm told that some men, post-stroke, will just shut down. I thin that is what I'm dealing with here. I tried to talk to him about it this way: I just asked him if he'd even thought a...
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zebrafish
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The Truth According to the Alcoholic ..
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When I was married to my XAH I used to really think I was special and unique because he only lied to me .. that was until I figured out that he lied to everyone it wasn't just me and honestly he couldn't tell the truth. That is obviously part of the distorted thinking on my part about my importance. So today...
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SerenityRUS
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Jan 30 Courage to Change
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"Living with alcoholism, I learned that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly". The reading goes on to state how difficult it is to count on anything, resulting in grabbing at opportunities out of desperation. For me, living with the inconsistencies resul...
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PP
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i am helping my pastor
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She is doing a sermon on Sunday & I will be part of the sermon. I hope this isn't wrong but I wanted to share w you. This another victory of not feeling alone. And feeling useful.
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I signed papers!!
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I did it today. I signed divorce papers. He went back to gf last night so I had to follow through. I'm trying not to cry but it hasn't really hit me yet. I'm just trying to make it through one day. Ellen
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Hullibee
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leaving temporarily - how to get past his reactions
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my stomach is in knots. On Monday, the kids and I got home from school to find AH on the couch, passed out. When he woke up, he was kinda aggressive and rude. He had it out for me. This is the first time that he has (obviously) drank, in a few months. I had drawn a line that next time this happened, I would leave...
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please post I am desperate!
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Need contact w another soul
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Hoot Nanny
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just me again
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Slept not long after I posted.called friend ate wait ah got up & not much iI was easy to get back to sleep. Maybe java will wake me up!
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Hoot Nanny
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then and now
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When i think back to the person i was just a few short years ago, its amazing to me how much ive changed. I reached the stage where i was taking to my bed, everything was a crisis, i couldnt cope with anything, the negative thinking had taken a strong hold. I lived day to day in self pity, resenment, bitterne...
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el-cee
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can barely post
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I am on highly strong medicine to make me sleep Whoopie!
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Hoot Nanny
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funeral tomorrow
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My friends service is officially tody now that it is Friday!
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Hoot Nanny
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Things I have to say to her . . .
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. . . that I say because of me (if that makes sense). With my AW, morning appears to be the her most rational, non-insane self. I suspect it's because the BAC has (usually) dropped of overnight and the morning "fix" hasn't occurred or hasn't kicked in. Anyway, during the morning, if all is ca...
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Rumblefish
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help it is partiall
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His fault I am partially awake. It I'd just before midnight PST & it isgoing to be a new day
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Hoot Nanny
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a wisdom "tweet" I liked
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neshema2
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OH...this is SO true
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neshema2
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still letting go
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Of tears & my eyes are still wet. Sorry for being so dominating on this forum. I need YOU all very much. How did I ever stay away?
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Hoot Nanny
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playing tennis
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A marriage is like playing tennis. Sometimes you hit the ball back sometimes you catch it &sometimes you flow your racket & sometimes you take the ball & go home. I like this it has to do w/ communication.
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Hoot Nanny
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Photos of my little family
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We had a great visit, today.....had an awesome talk w/daughter.....and we played w/the kiddos......and as you see, we took some pics.......I had just gotten my hair razor cut and my daughter says to me..."Mommie, your hair is shorter than Adrian's," and we laughed.....dunno if i like...
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neshema2
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he said
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It is always something w/ you! I do not agree. He better mind his P's & Q's.
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Hoot Nanny
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Really Struggling Here - Advice Please!
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SORRY IT IS LONG, BUT PLEASE BEAR WITH ME, IF YOU CAN. It's been a long time since I've been here. Not much has changed, except that I went for my own counselling at the Addictions center and some Al Anon meetings. It was suggested to me by several different counselors that I should go into a shelter, du...
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HadEnuff
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good day
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had a good time with my neighbor. we went to a card making party. never been before. had a loss at my weight group . i am at goal now. life is getting better &even though ah is not the same man as he used to be. keep praying for us. love you all. Kathleen
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Hoot Nanny
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He's twelve years sober.....but still an alcoholic!
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I'm brand new here and would like to share my story and get some feedback. I have been dating this man for a little over a year. He has been sober for twelve years and some change. When we first dated, I asked him and he talked freely about his sobriety, how it came about and AA. He wasn't active in AA at the ti...
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FriendofaFriend
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Al Anon - Adult Children
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So I wen't to my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and it was very welcoming and felt great. I am wondering though, should I go to a meeting for Adult Children, since my father is the alcoholic in my life? Although I am 32 years old I don't know if it is meant for younger people. I just noticed at this meeting y...
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Layla83
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In Working Step One
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We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable. When I started working this step, I felt it was pretty easy. I admitted so many times that I was powerless over alcohol. I said it and I believed it. Or, I thought I believed it. Until recently part of me still beli...
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cloudyskies
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New Wife Meeting Update
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It was very interesting .. I decided to book end it meaning I called my sponsor and already had and then followed up with her after the meeting. Which I did and it was a good conversation. I will admit this is a conversation I couldn't have had 3 years ago and this is a conversation today I couldn't have ha...
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SerenityRUS
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Temptations for me as an oldtimer and traps to avoid
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I have a confession to make. I've been in the program at varying degrees for over 1/2 my life. Ego can come jumping in from time to time to plop an arrived hat on my head because I have made progress in this program. When that happens, if only in my own mind, I can become a teacher/speaker/knower at all ti...
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grateful2be
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AH GETS OUT OF SCRAPES
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SEEMS LIKE NO MATTER WHAT AH DOES,HE MANAGES TO GET OUT OF SCRAPES AND GETS LOTS OF NEW CHANCES TO GET AND STAY SOBER. INSURANCE COVERS THINGS,HE PAYS OFF COURT TO GET OUT OF COMMUNITY SEVICCE, THE ALCOHOL EDUCATION HE IS REQUIRED TO TAKE IS A JOKE. THEY OFTEN JUST SIGN HIS SLIP AND THAT IS THAT OR SPEND TIM...
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YARNCRAZY
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One Day At a Time January 29
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Many of us see miracles happen within ourselves and our al-anon friends when they start working the al-anon recovery program. Our attitudes and perspective changes and we gain tools that better help us to deal with problems and manage them without letting them become a crisis. We become higher fun...
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Breakingfree
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cried my eyes out
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Just want to share that I got relief at my session & cried until I couldn't cry anymore. She even hugged me & in the moment that was what I needed. Once my dad told me he needed a hug. That is a memory I will cherish & when we left he said sure glad you got to see me.
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Hoot Nanny
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Obsessive thinking
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I have been struggling with this and continue to struggle with this several years into the program. I ruminate. It is not always even a "worrying" thing though often it is. In the past I have been diagnoses with generalized anxiety disorder and I hear this is also extremely common among...
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pinkchip
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it's happening agsin
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Up early again. This time I sm going back to bed. Pray for for rest.
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Hoot Nanny
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Rock bottom never comes
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Hi everyone. I just have to get this off my chest and want to share a part of my life experience. My father has been an active alcoholic all his life, from a very young age. He has gone to jail for 3 years, nearly killed himself twice in accidents and currently he is being prosecuted for the sexual abuse of...
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Layla83
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Would you turn him in?
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My brother is "renting" a house from our mother but hasn't paid a cent in years. His daughter is disabled. Now that she is 18, part of her SS income is required by SS regulations to go to rent, or the amount she gets will be docked. her share of the rent (that he won't pay) would be $133 and she r...
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Screaming Barbie
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Hope for Today - January 28
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Tradition 5 expresses we have but one purpose in al-anon, helping friends and families effected by alcoholism. God put us here to serve and love each other, however our own recovery programs have to come first, before we can serve others. You can not give away what you do not have, so putting on your own...
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Breakingfree
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Need ESH regarding decision making issues and taking risks
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Today I took the new job! Yikes!! It will be a big change for me. I did a pros and cons list of both jobs, and this one is looking better than my current job. The commute and parking issues will be a lot better. But, I am now feeling anxious because I prefer to stay with the familiar things in life. That isn't re...
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Newlife girl
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Tradition 1 has been posted to the Step Board
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As promised for the next three months we will be discussing the 12 Traditions of Al-Anon on the Step Work Board . Every other week will discuss a tradition and I will post the questions on the board as wellTradition one has been posted and here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t595...
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hotrod
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it's 3 a.m.
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And, I'm sitting in my car in a vacant parking lot near our house. AW has been drinking again. And, I've risen like a rat to her bait. The worse times for me are weeknights when I've been asleep and I wake up at 1am or whatever and AW is drinking or just returning from gas station after purchasing a fifth of vo...
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Rumblefish
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C2C January 28
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Why do we stay? A newcomer might ask. Even when soberiey is in are lives we still need Al anon. Even when I change for the worse occasionally & slip even more so do I need to attend meetings. Even though I have been around many years I could go back to square one & forget why am here. So I keep going to...
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Hoot Nanny
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