Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

When I was married to my XAH I used to really think I was special and unique because he only lied to me .. that was until I figured out that he lied to everyone it wasn't just me and honestly he couldn't tell the truth. That is obviously part of the distorted thinking on my part about my importance. So today...

PP · PP

"Living with alcoholism, I learned that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly". The reading goes on to state how difficult it is to count on anything, resulting in grabbing at opportunities out of desperation. For me, living with the inconsistencies resul...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

She is doing a sermon on Sunday & I will be part of the sermon. I hope this isn't wrong but I wanted to share w you. This another victory of not feeling alone. And feeling useful.

Hullibee · Hullibee

I did it today. I signed divorce papers. He went back to gf last night so I had to follow through. I'm trying not to cry but it hasn't really hit me yet. I'm just trying to make it through one day. Ellen

oceanpine · oceanpine

my stomach is in knots. On Monday, the kids and I got home from school to find AH on the couch, passed out. When he woke up, he was kinda aggressive and rude. He had it out for me. This is the first time that he has (obviously) drank, in a few months. I had drawn a line that next time this happened, I would leave...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Need contact w another soul

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Slept not long after I posted.called friend ate wait ah got up & not much iI was easy to get back to sleep. Maybe java will wake me up!

el-cee · el-cee

When i think back to the person i was just a few short years ago, its amazing to me how much ive changed. I reached the stage where i was taking to my bed, everything was a crisis, i couldnt cope with anything, the negative thinking had taken a strong hold. I lived day to day in self pity, resenment, bitterne...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am on highly strong medicine to make me sleep Whoopie!

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My friends service is officially tody now that it is Friday!

Rumblefish · Rumblefish

. . . that I say because of me (if that makes sense). With my AW, morning appears to be the her most rational, non-insane self. I suspect it's because the BAC has (usually) dropped of overnight and the morning "fix" hasn't occurred or hasn't kicked in. Anyway, during the morning, if all is ca...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

His fault I am partially awake. It I'd just before midnight PST & it isgoing to be a new day

neshema2 · neshema2

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neshema2 · neshema2

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Of tears & my eyes are still wet. Sorry for being so dominating on this forum. I need YOU all very much. How did I ever stay away?

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

A marriage is like playing tennis. Sometimes you hit the ball back sometimes you catch it &sometimes you flow your racket & sometimes you take the ball & go home. I like this it has to do w/ communication.

neshema2 · neshema2

We had a great visit, today.....had an awesome talk w/daughter.....and we played w/the kiddos......and as you see, we took some pics.......I had just gotten my hair razor cut and my daughter says to me..."Mommie, your hair is shorter than Adrian's," and we laughed.....dunno if i like...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

It is always something w/ you! I do not agree. He better mind his P's & Q's.

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

SORRY IT IS LONG, BUT PLEASE BEAR WITH ME, IF YOU CAN. It's been a long time since I've been here. Not much has changed, except that I went for my own counselling at the Addictions center and some Al Anon meetings. It was suggested to me by several different counselors that I should go into a shelter, du...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

had a good time with my neighbor. we went to a card making party. never been before. had a loss at my weight group . i am at goal now. life is getting better &even though ah is not the same man as he used to be. keep praying for us. love you all. Kathleen

FriendofaFriend · FriendofaFriend

I'm brand new here and would like to share my story and get some feedback. I have been dating this man for a little over a year. He has been sober for twelve years and some change. When we first dated, I asked him and he talked freely about his sobriety, how it came about and AA. He wasn't active in AA at the ti...

Layla83 · Layla83

So I wen't to my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and it was very welcoming and felt great. I am wondering though, should I go to a meeting for Adult Children, since my father is the alcoholic in my life? Although I am 32 years old I don't know if it is meant for younger people. I just noticed at this meeting y...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable. When I started working this step, I felt it was pretty easy. I admitted so many times that I was powerless over alcohol. I said it and I believed it. Or, I thought I believed it. Until recently part of me still beli...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It was very interesting .. I decided to book end it meaning I called my sponsor and already had and then followed up with her after the meeting. Which I did and it was a good conversation. I will admit this is a conversation I couldn't have had 3 years ago and this is a conversation today I couldn't have ha...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I have a confession to make. I've been in the program at varying degrees for over 1/2 my life. Ego can come jumping in from time to time to plop an arrived hat on my head because I have made progress in this program. When that happens, if only in my own mind, I can become a teacher/speaker/knower at all ti...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

SEEMS LIKE NO MATTER WHAT AH DOES,HE MANAGES TO GET OUT OF SCRAPES AND GETS LOTS OF NEW CHANCES TO GET AND STAY SOBER. INSURANCE COVERS THINGS,HE PAYS OFF COURT TO GET OUT OF COMMUNITY SEVICCE, THE ALCOHOL EDUCATION HE IS REQUIRED TO TAKE IS A JOKE. THEY OFTEN JUST SIGN HIS SLIP AND THAT IS THAT OR SPEND TIM...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Many of us see miracles happen within ourselves and our al-anon friends when they start working the al-anon recovery program. Our attitudes and perspective changes and we gain tools that better help us to deal with problems and manage them without letting them become a crisis. We become higher fun...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just want to share that I got relief at my session & cried until I couldn't cry anymore. She even hugged me & in the moment that was what I needed. Once my dad told me he needed a hug. That is a memory I will cherish & when we left he said sure glad you got to see me.

pinkchip · pinkchip

I have been struggling with this and continue to struggle with this several years into the program. I ruminate. It is not always even a "worrying" thing though often it is. In the past I have been diagnoses with generalized anxiety disorder and I hear this is also extremely common among...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Up early again. This time I sm going back to bed. Pray for for rest.

Layla83 · Layla83

Hi everyone. I just have to get this off my chest and want to share a part of my life experience. My father has been an active alcoholic all his life, from a very young age. He has gone to jail for 3 years, nearly killed himself twice in accidents and currently he is being prosecuted for the sexual abuse of...

Screaming Barbie · Screaming Barbie

My brother is "renting" a house from our mother but hasn't paid a cent in years. His daughter is disabled. Now that she is 18, part of her SS income is required by SS regulations to go to rent, or the amount she gets will be docked. her share of the rent (that he won't pay) would be $133 and she r...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Tradition 5 expresses we have but one purpose in al-anon, helping friends and families effected by alcoholism. God put us here to serve and love each other, however our own recovery programs have to come first, before we can serve others. You can not give away what you do not have, so putting on your own...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Today I took the new job! Yikes!! It will be a big change for me. I did a pros and cons list of both jobs, and this one is looking better than my current job. The commute and parking issues will be a lot better. But, I am now feeling anxious because I prefer to stay with the familiar things in life. That isn't re...

hotrod · hotrod

As promised for the next three months we will be discussing the 12 Traditions of Al-Anon on the Step Work Board . Every other week will discuss a tradition and I will post the questions on the board as wellTradition one has been posted and here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t595...

Rumblefish · Rumblefish

And, I'm sitting in my car in a vacant parking lot near our house. AW has been drinking again. And, I've risen like a rat to her bait. The worse times for me are weeknights when I've been asleep and I wake up at 1am or whatever and AW is drinking or just returning from gas station after purchasing a fifth of vo...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Why do we stay? A newcomer might ask. Even when soberiey is in are lives we still need Al anon. Even when I change for the worse occasionally & slip even more so do I need to attend meetings. Even though I have been around many years I could go back to square one & forget why am here. So I keep going to...

glad · glad

ok, I'm pretty sure some action needs to be taken Higher Power needs to show me what. My 2 year bf non alcoholic boyfriend who is older than me, who is generally very kind and much like me in behavior (he's probably an alanon just not so much. He was married to an A but the minute she threw things at his head he...

Venice0828 · Venice0828

My husband and I have been best friends for 9 years, married for 3, and he is an alcoholic. I cannot imagine my life without him or a better dad for my daughter (except of course, if he could stop drinking). The problem is that he can't stop drinking and I don't know what to do. I'm laying here in my daughter'...

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Focusing on Myself; Living in the Present, Gratitude The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.ch...

mjferg · mjferg

As some of you know I have been complaining about my landlady,who refuses to address a mold problem.My daughter was back at the doctor yesterday,another course of antibiotics,this is week 3 of severe allergy related symptoms.I have moved her away from the mold,her bed is now in my living room.Well I...

andromeda · andromeda

So, I spoke with my realtor yesterday. She had met with my AH and shown him a house. She believes that the only asset I have claim to is this house. I have no control over AH's 401K, pension, or his inheritance. The house is the only thing that has my name on it. She said that AH was excited about the house...

MooseWork · MooseWork

Dear All, Thank you very much for all of the help that you provide through this board. It means a lot to me. I have a question and I would like to get your input. Do you think relationship issues with an alcoholic can be looked at independent of the disease? Can an alcoholic legitimately claim that thei...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I read a reply to someone else'e thread yesterday that hit me in the gut, HARD. But now I can't find it. I wanted to ask this question of that poster personally, but since I can't find it, I will ask it here. It may have been PP, but I am not sure. I can't even remember the topic, but the response included the t...

neshema2 · neshema2

Hey MIP mates You all know i am 1/2 native American on mother's side and mostly french on the monster's side..... so HOW did I get a nickname like Neshema which is Hebrew??? I had a sponsee who was a teacher at Perdue University...A real sharp gal who was born in Israel, but moved to USA as a child with her p...

missmeliss · missmeliss

My bond assistance (a loan for the security deposit) claim form was not processed or submitted, over a week ago. I had a bad feeling when I took the form in to the housing office (its a government department and the girl in the office was of an obvious ethnic/religious pursuasion and extremely hostile t...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Just arrived home, it's night time, my daughter's birthday today, we get to the front door and middle brother greets daughter at the front door with "get that %^$& dog away from the house, he's not EVER allowed in this house" (we were going to walk him through to the the back yard like we h...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Lately I have been on my mobile phone checking in a lot. I am now at the library where I can really get into it. I am doing much better w/ AH. He is getting less & less angry & not so grouchy. I am taking it as it comes & defending myself when necessary. He thinks we are arguing when I disagree. Mind...

pinkchip · pinkchip

This is someone that read at my wedding. A close friend. I knew he had 10 years sober. I also knew he hadn't been to a meeting in a very long time. He kept talking about going with me. One time he even came out to the center and couldn't find the room where the meeting was that I was attending and he was try...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Doing things like not doing the dishes is a big deal in my marriage. I even find myself not doing them even today. It is a huge problem for me. We can make big deals out of small stuff.I didn't interpreate as a sign a disrespect but a sign of neglect. It does no good to try to fix the problem in one day! Don't mak...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having so much since I basically surrendered I am enjoying starting a scrapbook. I have been finding old photos of friends & family & sorting them out. I found cards & other keepsakes from a long time ago. Then I found my scrapbook from HS. Another fun idea I had was to have a all-girl...

glad · glad

One of my least favorite things about any AA and alanon combined meetings I have attended is when the alcoholics stand up and say "we don't do this to hurt you" and it seems to me like that is supposed to be getting them off the hook FOR hurting all those they know and love.. Well maybe they didn'...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about using the tools of the program to help ourselves in recovery and help ourselves stay in the present, not be mired in our past. There is specific mention for ACOA--of whom I am one as well. I have considered how growing up in alcoholism and all it brings has con...

To all our members on the East Coast · grateful2be

Many prayers for all of you and for your families and neighbors, too! As the blizzard makes itself known, I hope you all stay warm and safe, have plenty of food and can stay connected to us, too. -- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 26th of January 2015 05:04:25 PM

Screaming Barbie · Screaming Barbie

I understand about boundaries in general, but in some situation, I don't get how that general principle is applied. If someone was breaking into a neighbor's house, and loading all their stuff into their van, I would call the cops. I would not say "None of my business - no one is being abused.&q...

NobleStone · NobleStone

I'm sure you must get a few of these every day...... here's mine. I've been with my wife/partner for 10 years. I came to the relationship 'innocent' of the dangers of Alchohol, in the early days we'd meet, we'd both drink, pretty much like everyone else. Alarm bells started ringing about a year in when a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This is my first summary for the ODAT. Since I have been attending meetings for over 29 years I thought I might try tbis. It says that family members sometimes come to Al anon out of desperation. They think they are going to get the alcoholic sober. In reality the purpose of coming is to gain serenity &am...

AWSmith · AWSmith

So... here in the nice city of Huntsville, wife came home TRASHED. A nasty fight broke out. She attacked me. Cops were called... twice in one night. 5 kids. Was pregnant with twins but cancer recently took them from her. Huge alcoholic wife. 2 dui's. Whatever. Cops didn't believe anything about...

neshema2 · neshema2

daughter #2 is bleeding b/c she has been working too much..... I called her yesterday to just get udated on family news and she was delighted to hear from me..."mommie, I love and miss you" I told her that i missed her too, but was gonna protect me from her behaviours, but not ever stop loving...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Whew. You might remember my house-mate lady person that I stayed with for 9 weeks was having a pretty up and down time with her son etc and unfortunately a lot of her unhappiness ended up being directed towards myself and my daughter. In the end it became quite nasty and, knowing that I had kept my side of t...

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	The Truth According to the Alcoholic .. (Preview) When I was married to my XAH I used to really think I was special and unique because he only lied to me .. that was until I figured out that he lied to everyone it wasn't just me and honestly he couldn't tell the truth. That is obviously part of the distorted thinking on my part about my importance. So today...	SerenityRUS	11	1468	Jan 30, 2015 by andromeda
	Jan 30 Courage to Change (Preview) "Living with alcoholism, I learned that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly". The reading goes on to state how difficult it is to count on anything, resulting in grabbing at opportunities out of desperation. For me, living with the inconsistencies resul...	PP	14	1035	Jan 30, 2015 by PP
	i am helping my pastor (Preview) She is doing a sermon on Sunday & I will be part of the sermon. I hope this isn't wrong but I wanted to share w you. This another victory of not feeling alone. And feeling useful.	Hoot Nanny	2	168	Jan 30, 2015 by hotrod
	I signed papers!! (Preview) I did it today. I signed divorce papers. He went back to gf last night so I had to follow through. I'm trying not to cry but it hasn't really hit me yet. I'm just trying to make it through one day. Ellen	Hullibee	32	716	Jan 30, 2015 by PP
	leaving temporarily - how to get past his reactions (Preview) my stomach is in knots. On Monday, the kids and I got home from school to find AH on the couch, passed out. When he woke up, he was kinda aggressive and rude. He had it out for me. This is the first time that he has (obviously) drank, in a few months. I had drawn a line that next time this happened, I would leave...	oceanpine	23	638	Jan 30, 2015 by missmeliss
	please post I am desperate! (Preview) Need contact w another soul	Hoot Nanny	13	425	Jan 30, 2015 by andromeda
	just me again (Preview) Slept not long after I posted.called friend ate wait ah got up & not much iI was easy to get back to sleep. Maybe java will wake me up!	Hoot Nanny	4	219	Jan 30, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	then and now (Preview) When i think back to the person i was just a few short years ago, its amazing to me how much ive changed. I reached the stage where i was taking to my bed, everything was a crisis, i couldnt cope with anything, the negative thinking had taken a strong hold. I lived day to day in self pity, resenment, bitterne...	el-cee	20	881	Jan 30, 2015 by missmeliss
	can barely post (Preview) I am on highly strong medicine to make me sleep Whoopie!	Hoot Nanny	1	200	Jan 30, 2015 by hotrod
	funeral tomorrow (Preview) My friends service is officially tody now that it is Friday!	Hoot Nanny	8	391	Jan 30, 2015 by tiredtonite
	Things I have to say to her . . . (Preview) . . . that I say because of me (if that makes sense). With my AW, morning appears to be the her most rational, non-insane self. I suspect it's because the BAC has (usually) dropped of overnight and the morning "fix" hasn't occurred or hasn't kicked in. Anyway, during the morning, if all is ca...	Rumblefish	17	687	Jan 30, 2015 by pinkchip
	help it is partiall (Preview) His fault I am partially awake. It I'd just before midnight PST & it isgoing to be a new day	Hoot Nanny	1	216	Jan 30, 2015 by Hoot Nanny
	a wisdom "tweet" I liked (Preview) ****************************************************************	neshema2	6	440	Jan 29, 2015 by PP
	OH...this is SO true (Preview)	neshema2	7	414	Jan 29, 2015 by grateful2be
	still letting go (Preview) Of tears & my eyes are still wet. Sorry for being so dominating on this forum. I need YOU all very much. How did I ever stay away?	Hoot Nanny	2	216	Jan 29, 2015 by PP
	playing tennis (Preview) A marriage is like playing tennis. Sometimes you hit the ball back sometimes you catch it &sometimes you flow your racket & sometimes you take the ball & go home. I like this it has to do w/ communication.	Hoot Nanny	13	356	Jan 29, 2015 by grateful2be
	Photos of my little family (Preview) We had a great visit, today.....had an awesome talk w/daughter.....and we played w/the kiddos......and as you see, we took some pics.......I had just gotten my hair razor cut and my daughter says to me..."Mommie, your hair is shorter than Adrian's," and we laughed.....dunno if i like...	neshema2	17	1039	Jan 29, 2015 by Katrina324
	he said (Preview) It is always something w/ you! I do not agree. He better mind his P's & Q's.	Hoot Nanny	4	201	Jan 29, 2015 by PP
	Really Struggling Here - Advice Please! (Preview) SORRY IT IS LONG, BUT PLEASE BEAR WITH ME, IF YOU CAN. It's been a long time since I've been here. Not much has changed, except that I went for my own counselling at the Addictions center and some Al Anon meetings. It was suggested to me by several different counselors that I should go into a shelter, du...	HadEnuff	34	691	Jan 29, 2015 by neshema2
	good day (Preview) had a good time with my neighbor. we went to a card making party. never been before. had a loss at my weight group . i am at goal now. life is getting better &even though ah is not the same man as he used to be. keep praying for us. love you all. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	2	212	Jan 29, 2015 by grateful2be
	He's twelve years sober.....but still an alcoholic! (Preview) I'm brand new here and would like to share my story and get some feedback. I have been dating this man for a little over a year. He has been sober for twelve years and some change. When we first dated, I asked him and he talked freely about his sobriety, how it came about and AA. He wasn't active in AA at the ti...	FriendofaFriend	11	903	Jan 29, 2015 by FriendofaFriend
	Al Anon - Adult Children (Preview) So I wen't to my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and it was very welcoming and felt great. I am wondering though, should I go to a meeting for Adult Children, since my father is the alcoholic in my life? Although I am 32 years old I don't know if it is meant for younger people. I just noticed at this meeting y...	Layla83	11	704	Jan 29, 2015 by Spur
	In Working Step One (Preview) We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable. When I started working this step, I felt it was pretty easy. I admitted so many times that I was powerless over alcohol. I said it and I believed it. Or, I thought I believed it. Until recently part of me still beli...	cloudyskies	13	845	Jan 29, 2015 by cloudyskies
	New Wife Meeting Update (Preview) It was very interesting .. I decided to book end it meaning I called my sponsor and already had and then followed up with her after the meeting. Which I did and it was a good conversation. I will admit this is a conversation I couldn't have had 3 years ago and this is a conversation today I couldn't have ha...	SerenityRUS	8	648	Jan 29, 2015 by andromeda
	Temptations for me as an oldtimer and traps to avoid (Preview) I have a confession to make. I've been in the program at varying degrees for over 1/2 my life. Ego can come jumping in from time to time to plop an arrived hat on my head because I have made progress in this program. When that happens, if only in my own mind, I can become a teacher/speaker/knower at all ti...	grateful2be	23	785	Jan 29, 2015 by grateful2be
	AH GETS OUT OF SCRAPES (Preview) SEEMS LIKE NO MATTER WHAT AH DOES,HE MANAGES TO GET OUT OF SCRAPES AND GETS LOTS OF NEW CHANCES TO GET AND STAY SOBER. INSURANCE COVERS THINGS,HE PAYS OFF COURT TO GET OUT OF COMMUNITY SEVICCE, THE ALCOHOL EDUCATION HE IS REQUIRED TO TAKE IS A JOKE. THEY OFTEN JUST SIGN HIS SLIP AND THAT IS THAT OR SPEND TIM...	YARNCRAZY	8	653	Jan 29, 2015 by Breakingfree
	One Day At a Time January 29 (Preview) Many of us see miracles happen within ourselves and our al-anon friends when they start working the al-anon recovery program. Our attitudes and perspective changes and we gain tools that better help us to deal with problems and manage them without letting them become a crisis. We become higher fun...	Breakingfree	4	652	Jan 29, 2015 by hotrod
	cried my eyes out (Preview) Just want to share that I got relief at my session & cried until I couldn't cry anymore. She even hugged me & in the moment that was what I needed. Once my dad told me he needed a hug. That is a memory I will cherish & when we left he said sure glad you got to see me.	Hoot Nanny	4	340	Jan 29, 2015 by grateful2be
	Obsessive thinking (Preview) I have been struggling with this and continue to struggle with this several years into the program. I ruminate. It is not always even a "worrying" thing though often it is. In the past I have been diagnoses with generalized anxiety disorder and I hear this is also extremely common among...	pinkchip	34	1468	Jan 29, 2015 by Breakingfree
	it's happening agsin (Preview) Up early again. This time I sm going back to bed. Pray for for rest.	Hoot Nanny	2	316	Jan 29, 2015 by hotrod
	Rock bottom never comes (Preview) Hi everyone. I just have to get this off my chest and want to share a part of my life experience. My father has been an active alcoholic all his life, from a very young age. He has gone to jail for 3 years, nearly killed himself twice in accidents and currently he is being prosecuted for the sexual abuse of...	Layla83	15	982	Jan 29, 2015 by Layla83
	Would you turn him in? (Preview) My brother is "renting" a house from our mother but hasn't paid a cent in years. His daughter is disabled. Now that she is 18, part of her SS income is required by SS regulations to go to rent, or the amount she gets will be docked. her share of the rent (that he won't pay) would be $133 and she r...	Screaming Barbie	35	947	Jan 28, 2015 by glad
	Hope for Today - January 28 (Preview) Tradition 5 expresses we have but one purpose in al-anon, helping friends and families effected by alcoholism. God put us here to serve and love each other, however our own recovery programs have to come first, before we can serve others. You can not give away what you do not have, so putting on your own...	Breakingfree	5	625	Jan 28, 2015 by neshema2
	Need ESH regarding decision making issues and taking risks (Preview) Today I took the new job! Yikes!! It will be a big change for me. I did a pros and cons list of both jobs, and this one is looking better than my current job. The commute and parking issues will be a lot better. But, I am now feeling anxious because I prefer to stay with the familiar things in life. That isn't re...	Newlife girl	16	517	Jan 28, 2015 by neshema2
	Tradition 1 has been posted to the Step Board (Preview) As promised for the next three months we will be discussing the 12 Traditions of Al-Anon on the Step Work Board . Every other week will discuss a tradition and I will post the questions on the board as wellTradition one has been posted and here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t595...	hotrod	2	330	Jan 28, 2015 by hotrod
	it's 3 a.m. (Preview) And, I'm sitting in my car in a vacant parking lot near our house. AW has been drinking again. And, I've risen like a rat to her bait. The worse times for me are weeknights when I've been asleep and I wake up at 1am or whatever and AW is drinking or just returning from gas station after purchasing a fifth of vo...	Rumblefish	15	750	Jan 28, 2015 by Mattie
	C2C January 28 (Preview) Why do we stay? A newcomer might ask. Even when soberiey is in are lives we still need Al anon. Even when I change for the worse occasionally & slip even more so do I need to attend meetings. Even though I have been around many years I could go back to square one & forget why am here. So I keep going to...	Hoot Nanny	8	361	Jan 28, 2015 by Debb
	financial disinsintive to like me! (Preview) ok, I'm pretty sure some action needs to be taken Higher Power needs to show me what. My 2 year bf non alcoholic boyfriend who is older than me, who is generally very kind and much like me in behavior (he's probably an alanon just not so much. He was married to an A but the minute she threw things at his head he...	glad	11	586	Jan 28, 2015 by glad
	Please help- how much is enough from your soulmate? (Preview) My husband and I have been best friends for 9 years, married for 3, and he is an alcoholic. I cannot imagine my life without him or a better dad for my daughter (except of course, if he could stop drinking). The problem is that he can't stop drinking and I don't know what to do. I'm laying here in my daughter'...	Venice0828	9	508	Jan 28, 2015 by neshema2
	WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) (Preview) WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Focusing on Myself; Living in the Present, Gratitude The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.ch...	shimo	0	150	Jan 28, 2015 by shimo
	what is the best solution (Preview) As some of you know I have been complaining about my landlady,who refuses to address a mold problem.My daughter was back at the doctor yesterday,another course of antibiotics,this is week 3 of severe allergy related symptoms.I have moved her away from the mold,her bed is now in my living room.Well I...	mjferg	6	652	Jan 27, 2015 by mjferg
	Continuation of my weekend saga, LOL (Preview) So, I spoke with my realtor yesterday. She had met with my AH and shown him a house. She believes that the only asset I have claim to is this house. I have no control over AH's 401K, pension, or his inheritance. The house is the only thing that has my name on it. She said that AH was excited about the house...	andromeda	35	869	Jan 27, 2015 by Mattie
	Relationship Issues and Alcohol (Preview) Dear All, Thank you very much for all of the help that you provide through this board. It means a lot to me. I have a question and I would like to get your input. Do you think relationship issues with an alcoholic can be looked at independent of the disease? Can an alcoholic legitimately claim that thei...	MooseWork	9	561	Jan 27, 2015 by Rumblefish
	Wishing you had loved them more - how? (Preview) I read a reply to someone else'e thread yesterday that hit me in the gut, HARD. But now I can't find it. I wanted to ask this question of that poster personally, but since I can't find it, I will ask it here. It may have been PP, but I am not sure. I can't even remember the topic, but the response included the t...	oceanpine	9	677	Jan 27, 2015 by Breakingfree
	A neat story how Neshema came to be!!!! (Preview) Hey MIP mates You all know i am 1/2 native American on mother's side and mostly french on the monster's side..... so HOW did I get a nickname like Neshema which is Hebrew??? I had a sponsee who was a teacher at Perdue University...A real sharp gal who was born in Israel, but moved to USA as a child with her p...	neshema2	15	2005	Jan 27, 2015 by grateful2be
	Couldn't move into my house today because of racism? wow. (Preview) My bond assistance (a loan for the security deposit) claim form was not processed or submitted, over a week ago. I had a bad feeling when I took the form in to the housing office (its a government department and the girl in the office was of an obvious ethnic/religious pursuasion and extremely hostile t...	missmeliss	8	571	Jan 27, 2015 by hotrod
	1-2-3 breathe.... (Preview) Just arrived home, it's night time, my daughter's birthday today, we get to the front door and middle brother greets daughter at the front door with "get that %^$& dog away from the house, he's not EVER allowed in this house" (we were going to walk him through to the the back yard like we h...	missmeliss	12	535	Jan 27, 2015 by Breakingfree
	Hope I am not overdoing it(so much to say) (Preview) Lately I have been on my mobile phone checking in a lot. I am now at the library where I can really get into it. I am doing much better w/ AH. He is getting less & less angry & not so grouchy. I am taking it as it comes & defending myself when necessary. He thinks we are arguing when I disagree. Mind...	Hoot Nanny	2	474	Jan 27, 2015 by PP
	One of my friends started drinking again (Preview) This is someone that read at my wedding. A close friend. I knew he had 10 years sober. I also knew he hadn't been to a meeting in a very long time. He kept talking about going with me. One time he even came out to the center and couldn't find the room where the meeting was that I was attending and he was try...	pinkchip	14	608	Jan 27, 2015 by Debb
	C2C January 27 (Preview) Doing things like not doing the dishes is a big deal in my marriage. I even find myself not doing them even today. It is a huge problem for me. We can make big deals out of small stuff.I didn't interpreate as a sign a disrespect but a sign of neglect. It does no good to try to fix the problem in one day! Don't mak...	Hoot Nanny	3	407	Jan 27, 2015 by PP
	having fun! (Preview) I am having so much since I basically surrendered I am enjoying starting a scrapbook. I have been finding old photos of friends & family & sorting them out. I found cards & other keepsakes from a long time ago. Then I found my scrapbook from HS. Another fun idea I had was to have a all-girl...	Hoot Nanny	2	241	Jan 27, 2015 by hotrod
	One of my least favorite things! (Preview) One of my least favorite things about any AA and alanon combined meetings I have attended is when the alcoholics stand up and say "we don't do this to hurt you" and it seems to me like that is supposed to be getting them off the hook FOR hurting all those they know and love.. Well maybe they didn'...	glad	12	521	Jan 27, 2015 by hotrod
	Hope For Today Jan 27 (Preview) Good Morning MIP: Today's reading is about using the tools of the program to help ourselves in recovery and help ourselves stay in the present, not be mired in our past. There is specific mention for ACOA--of whom I am one as well. I have considered how growing up in alcoholism and all it brings has con...	yanksfan51	4	450	Jan 27, 2015 by karma13
	To all our members on the East Coast (Preview) Many prayers for all of you and for your families and neighbors, too! As the blizzard makes itself known, I hope you all stay warm and safe, have plenty of food and can stay connected to us, too. -- Edited by grateful2be on Monday 26th of January 2015 05:04:25 PM	grateful2be	30	509	Jan 27, 2015 by grateful2be
	One thing I don't understand about boundaries. (Preview) I understand about boundaries in general, but in some situation, I don't get how that general principle is applied. If someone was breaking into a neighbor's house, and loading all their stuff into their van, I would call the cops. I would not say "None of my business - no one is being abused.&q...	Screaming Barbie	18	819	Jan 26, 2015 by grateful2be
	My Story - First Post (Preview) I'm sure you must get a few of these every day...... here's mine. I've been with my wife/partner for 10 years. I came to the relationship 'innocent' of the dangers of Alchohol, in the early days we'd meet, we'd both drink, pretty much like everyone else. Alarm bells started ringing about a year in when a...	NobleStone	15	773	Jan 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	first ODAT summary for Jan 26 (Preview) This is my first summary for the ODAT. Since I have been attending meetings for over 29 years I thought I might try tbis. It says that family members sometimes come to Al anon out of desperation. They think they are going to get the alcoholic sober. In reality the purpose of coming is to gain serenity &am...	Hoot Nanny	8	545	Jan 26, 2015 by aquamom23
	Huntsville's Finest (Preview) So... here in the nice city of Huntsville, wife came home TRASHED. A nasty fight broke out. She attacked me. Cops were called... twice in one night. 5 kids. Was pregnant with twins but cancer recently took them from her. Huge alcoholic wife. 2 dui's. Whatever. Cops didn't believe anything about...	AWSmith	21	677	Jan 26, 2015 by Breakingfree
	A spiritual awakening re: my relationship w/my daughter (Preview) daughter #2 is bleeding b/c she has been working too much..... I called her yesterday to just get udated on family news and she was delighted to hear from me..."mommie, I love and miss you" I told her that i missed her too, but was gonna protect me from her behaviours, but not ever stop loving...	neshema2	20	929	Jan 26, 2015 by PP
	Oooh, more chances to practice not reacting...goody!!! (Preview) Whew. You might remember my house-mate lady person that I stayed with for 9 weeks was having a pretty up and down time with her son etc and unfortunately a lot of her unhappiness ended up being directed towards myself and my daughter. In the end it became quite nasty and, knowing that I had kept my side of t...	missmeliss	11	525	Jan 26, 2015 by neshema2
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