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hot rod
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I am going to PM you today. I would love to tell you my story about my dad.
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almost dawn
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The day is starting & I want to sleep. I hope I get some responses soon. But don't' rush.
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Big long ramble about everything.
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Well we're in and this will be our 3rd night in our own place and the first night that it is just daughter and I. So this is awesome and at the same time, there are large teething problems, I won't lie, daughter and I are both very grumpy and tired but hey, we're in our own place. She's settling in at her schoo...
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missmeliss
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Now we're cookin'.
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Finally feeling normal today. Happy even. My parents came over so that step-dad could put up my daughter's trampoline. I didn't ask that they do that but I know that they spent a lot of money on it a year ago and wanted her to be able to use it. They were in friendly moods for the first time in a long, long time...
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I'm thinking
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That I will update my status tomorrow on the computer. Good night wherever you are!
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Codependency-Abandonment-Shame
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I have really been floundering in recovery and as a result I've been searching out information in all corners. I'm an information gatherer...if I have a problem I can solve it if I can just gather enough information. This trait has finally proven valuable in my personal life. I'm an adult child of an...
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Anyone else's alcoholic spouse in the military?
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Are you more apprehensive and cautious about who you talk to about all this?
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mlang
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missing my dad
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I am missing my dad. He is the only man who truly loved me unconditionally.TThat's all I have to say for now.
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Update !! It's been a while !!
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First and formorst I'd like to thank you all !! I have to say as a mother of an addict letting go was the best thing for me but I never lost the hope.. Encouragement !!! Stay focus on your own recovery because we need too. I thank JESUS for hearing my every tear .. Here's our updated picture and he is now on a yea...
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Strong enough to stay or strong enough to leave
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There is a saying I heard once "some of us are strong enough to stay, some of us are strong enough to leave" So true, so true. I'm very interested in hearing the stories of those strong enough to leave. Please share- Was there a moment when you just knew it was time?
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Got a book called "cyber junkie"
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because it does have a chapter for the loved ones of a person with internet addiction. And help me understand the problem. I'm told that some men, post-stroke, will just shut down. I thin that is what I'm dealing with here. I tried to talk to him about it this way: I just asked him if he'd even thought a...
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The Truth According to the Alcoholic ..
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When I was married to my XAH I used to really think I was special and unique because he only lied to me .. that was until I figured out that he lied to everyone it wasn't just me and honestly he couldn't tell the truth. That is obviously part of the distorted thinking on my part about my importance. So today...
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Jan 30 Courage to Change
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"Living with alcoholism, I learned that plans could change at any moment and that rules varied accordingly". The reading goes on to state how difficult it is to count on anything, resulting in grabbing at opportunities out of desperation. For me, living with the inconsistencies resul...
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i am helping my pastor
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She is doing a sermon on Sunday & I will be part of the sermon. I hope this isn't wrong but I wanted to share w you. This another victory of not feeling alone. And feeling useful.
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I signed papers!!
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I did it today. I signed divorce papers. He went back to gf last night so I had to follow through. I'm trying not to cry but it hasn't really hit me yet. I'm just trying to make it through one day. Ellen
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leaving temporarily - how to get past his reactions
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my stomach is in knots. On Monday, the kids and I got home from school to find AH on the couch, passed out. When he woke up, he was kinda aggressive and rude. He had it out for me. This is the first time that he has (obviously) drank, in a few months. I had drawn a line that next time this happened, I would leave...
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please post I am desperate!
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Need contact w another soul
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Hoot Nanny
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just me again
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Slept not long after I posted.called friend ate wait ah got up & not much iI was easy to get back to sleep. Maybe java will wake me up!
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Hoot Nanny
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then and now
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When i think back to the person i was just a few short years ago, its amazing to me how much ive changed. I reached the stage where i was taking to my bed, everything was a crisis, i couldnt cope with anything, the negative thinking had taken a strong hold. I lived day to day in self pity, resenment, bitterne...
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el-cee
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can barely post
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I am on highly strong medicine to make me sleep Whoopie!
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funeral tomorrow
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My friends service is officially tody now that it is Friday!
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Things I have to say to her . . .
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. . . that I say because of me (if that makes sense). With my AW, morning appears to be the her most rational, non-insane self. I suspect it's because the BAC has (usually) dropped of overnight and the morning "fix" hasn't occurred or hasn't kicked in. Anyway, during the morning, if all is ca...
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help it is partiall
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His fault I am partially awake. It I'd just before midnight PST & it isgoing to be a new day
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a wisdom "tweet" I liked
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neshema2
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OH...this is SO true
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neshema2
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still letting go
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Of tears & my eyes are still wet. Sorry for being so dominating on this forum. I need YOU all very much. How did I ever stay away?
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playing tennis
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A marriage is like playing tennis. Sometimes you hit the ball back sometimes you catch it &sometimes you flow your racket & sometimes you take the ball & go home. I like this it has to do w/ communication.
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Photos of my little family
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We had a great visit, today.....had an awesome talk w/daughter.....and we played w/the kiddos......and as you see, we took some pics.......I had just gotten my hair razor cut and my daughter says to me..."Mommie, your hair is shorter than Adrian's," and we laughed.....dunno if i like...
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he said
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It is always something w/ you! I do not agree. He better mind his P's & Q's.
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Really Struggling Here - Advice Please!
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SORRY IT IS LONG, BUT PLEASE BEAR WITH ME, IF YOU CAN. It's been a long time since I've been here. Not much has changed, except that I went for my own counselling at the Addictions center and some Al Anon meetings. It was suggested to me by several different counselors that I should go into a shelter, du...
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good day
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had a good time with my neighbor. we went to a card making party. never been before. had a loss at my weight group . i am at goal now. life is getting better &even though ah is not the same man as he used to be. keep praying for us. love you all. Kathleen
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He's twelve years sober.....but still an alcoholic!
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I'm brand new here and would like to share my story and get some feedback. I have been dating this man for a little over a year. He has been sober for twelve years and some change. When we first dated, I asked him and he talked freely about his sobriety, how it came about and AA. He wasn't active in AA at the ti...
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Al Anon - Adult Children
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So I wen't to my first Al Anon meeting yesterday, and it was very welcoming and felt great. I am wondering though, should I go to a meeting for Adult Children, since my father is the alcoholic in my life? Although I am 32 years old I don't know if it is meant for younger people. I just noticed at this meeting y...
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In Working Step One
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We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol--that our lives had become unmanageable. When I started working this step, I felt it was pretty easy. I admitted so many times that I was powerless over alcohol. I said it and I believed it. Or, I thought I believed it. Until recently part of me still beli...
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New Wife Meeting Update
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It was very interesting .. I decided to book end it meaning I called my sponsor and already had and then followed up with her after the meeting. Which I did and it was a good conversation. I will admit this is a conversation I couldn't have had 3 years ago and this is a conversation today I couldn't have ha...
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SerenityRUS
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Temptations for me as an oldtimer and traps to avoid
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I have a confession to make. I've been in the program at varying degrees for over 1/2 my life. Ego can come jumping in from time to time to plop an arrived hat on my head because I have made progress in this program. When that happens, if only in my own mind, I can become a teacher/speaker/knower at all ti...
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AH GETS OUT OF SCRAPES
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SEEMS LIKE NO MATTER WHAT AH DOES,HE MANAGES TO GET OUT OF SCRAPES AND GETS LOTS OF NEW CHANCES TO GET AND STAY SOBER. INSURANCE COVERS THINGS,HE PAYS OFF COURT TO GET OUT OF COMMUNITY SEVICCE, THE ALCOHOL EDUCATION HE IS REQUIRED TO TAKE IS A JOKE. THEY OFTEN JUST SIGN HIS SLIP AND THAT IS THAT OR SPEND TIM...
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YARNCRAZY
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One Day At a Time January 29
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Many of us see miracles happen within ourselves and our al-anon friends when they start working the al-anon recovery program. Our attitudes and perspective changes and we gain tools that better help us to deal with problems and manage them without letting them become a crisis. We become higher fun...
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Breakingfree
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cried my eyes out
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Just want to share that I got relief at my session & cried until I couldn't cry anymore. She even hugged me & in the moment that was what I needed. Once my dad told me he needed a hug. That is a memory I will cherish & when we left he said sure glad you got to see me.
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Obsessive thinking
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I have been struggling with this and continue to struggle with this several years into the program. I ruminate. It is not always even a "worrying" thing though often it is. In the past I have been diagnoses with generalized anxiety disorder and I hear this is also extremely common among...
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pinkchip
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it's happening agsin
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Up early again. This time I sm going back to bed. Pray for for rest.
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Hoot Nanny
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Rock bottom never comes
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Hi everyone. I just have to get this off my chest and want to share a part of my life experience. My father has been an active alcoholic all his life, from a very young age. He has gone to jail for 3 years, nearly killed himself twice in accidents and currently he is being prosecuted for the sexual abuse of...
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Layla83
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Would you turn him in?
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My brother is "renting" a house from our mother but hasn't paid a cent in years. His daughter is disabled. Now that she is 18, part of her SS income is required by SS regulations to go to rent, or the amount she gets will be docked. her share of the rent (that he won't pay) would be $133 and she r...
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Hope for Today - January 28
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Tradition 5 expresses we have but one purpose in al-anon, helping friends and families effected by alcoholism. God put us here to serve and love each other, however our own recovery programs have to come first, before we can serve others. You can not give away what you do not have, so putting on your own...
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Breakingfree
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Need ESH regarding decision making issues and taking risks
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Today I took the new job! Yikes!! It will be a big change for me. I did a pros and cons list of both jobs, and this one is looking better than my current job. The commute and parking issues will be a lot better. But, I am now feeling anxious because I prefer to stay with the familiar things in life. That isn't re...
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Tradition 1 has been posted to the Step Board
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As promised for the next three months we will be discussing the 12 Traditions of Al-Anon on the Step Work Board . Every other week will discuss a tradition and I will post the questions on the board as wellTradition one has been posted and here is the link http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t595...
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hotrod
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it's 3 a.m.
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And, I'm sitting in my car in a vacant parking lot near our house. AW has been drinking again. And, I've risen like a rat to her bait. The worse times for me are weeknights when I've been asleep and I wake up at 1am or whatever and AW is drinking or just returning from gas station after purchasing a fifth of vo...
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C2C January 28
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Why do we stay? A newcomer might ask. Even when soberiey is in are lives we still need Al anon. Even when I change for the worse occasionally & slip even more so do I need to attend meetings. Even though I have been around many years I could go back to square one & forget why am here. So I keep going to...
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Hoot Nanny
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financial disinsintive to like me!
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ok, I'm pretty sure some action needs to be taken Higher Power needs to show me what. My 2 year bf non alcoholic boyfriend who is older than me, who is generally very kind and much like me in behavior (he's probably an alanon just not so much. He was married to an A but the minute she threw things at his head he...
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glad
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Please help- how much is enough from your soulmate?
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My husband and I have been best friends for 9 years, married for 3, and he is an alcoholic. I cannot imagine my life without him or a better dad for my daughter (except of course, if he could stop drinking). The problem is that he can't stop drinking and I don't know what to do. I'm laying here in my daughter'...
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Venice0828
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WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST)
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WEDNESDAY AL-ANON MEETING 9 AM (EST) TOPICS: Focusing on Myself; Living in the Present, Gratitude The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we use is irc.ch...
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shimo
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what is the best solution
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As some of you know I have been complaining about my landlady,who refuses to address a mold problem.My daughter was back at the doctor yesterday,another course of antibiotics,this is week 3 of severe allergy related symptoms.I have moved her away from the mold,her bed is now in my living room.Well I...
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mjferg
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Continuation of my weekend saga, LOL
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So, I spoke with my realtor yesterday. She had met with my AH and shown him a house. She believes that the only asset I have claim to is this house. I have no control over AH's 401K, pension, or his inheritance. The house is the only thing that has my name on it. She said that AH was excited about the house...
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andromeda
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Relationship Issues and Alcohol
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Dear All, Thank you very much for all of the help that you provide through this board. It means a lot to me. I have a question and I would like to get your input. Do you think relationship issues with an alcoholic can be looked at independent of the disease? Can an alcoholic legitimately claim that thei...
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MooseWork
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Wishing you had loved them more - how?
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I read a reply to someone else'e thread yesterday that hit me in the gut, HARD. But now I can't find it. I wanted to ask this question of that poster personally, but since I can't find it, I will ask it here. It may have been PP, but I am not sure. I can't even remember the topic, but the response included the t...
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oceanpine
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A neat story how Neshema came to be!!!!
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Hey MIP mates You all know i am 1/2 native American on mother's side and mostly french on the monster's side..... so HOW did I get a nickname like Neshema which is Hebrew??? I had a sponsee who was a teacher at Perdue University...A real sharp gal who was born in Israel, but moved to USA as a child with her p...
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neshema2
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Couldn't move into my house today because of racism? wow.
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My bond assistance (a loan for the security deposit) claim form was not processed or submitted, over a week ago. I had a bad feeling when I took the form in to the housing office (its a government department and the girl in the office was of an obvious ethnic/religious pursuasion and extremely hostile t...
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missmeliss
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1-2-3 breathe....
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Just arrived home, it's night time, my daughter's birthday today, we get to the front door and middle brother greets daughter at the front door with "get that %^$& dog away from the house, he's not EVER allowed in this house" (we were going to walk him through to the the back yard like we h...
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missmeliss
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Hope I am not overdoing it(so much to say)
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Lately I have been on my mobile phone checking in a lot. I am now at the library where I can really get into it. I am doing much better w/ AH. He is getting less & less angry & not so grouchy. I am taking it as it comes & defending myself when necessary. He thinks we are arguing when I disagree. Mind...
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Hoot Nanny
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One of my friends started drinking again
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This is someone that read at my wedding. A close friend. I knew he had 10 years sober. I also knew he hadn't been to a meeting in a very long time. He kept talking about going with me. One time he even came out to the center and couldn't find the room where the meeting was that I was attending and he was try...
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pinkchip
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