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I saw something, a quote and it made me think of my struggles w/my perceptions which cause chain reaction......
I have always said, that it all begins WITHIN me....like the slogan...Let it begin with me.......my thinking is ground zero for what my recovery is gonna stand on....good foundation...weak foundation...my choice
1 Data comes into my brain in the form of an event of some kind ....
2 I have a perception/thought about that data.....(the beginning point of what turn my progress will take)
3 out of that perception/thought comes my emotions....
4 from those emotions, I react or respond......and comes my action...
5 my actions become my habits
6 my habits shape my character.....
end result?? I either have a good character trait, or another survival skill to work on
so the Perception, or my thinking has to be the thing I am willing to work on., How i PERCEIVE something is what triggers all the other ---feelings-----actions based on those feelings------habits out of those actions----a new or continued character trait
people say....change my mind...change my life....I believe this......putting out good or bad energy, all finds it roots in what I perceive/think.....
my goal is to change my negative thoughts into positive thoughts.....some of my step 4 issues are working on my fear...fear when i am powerless....the *thought* that i am helpless when powerless....so the emotions of anger/raging sometimes kick in......if i can "train me" that even in my powerlessness, I DO have CHOICE, even if it is to walk away, taking care of me, then I am not really helpless, am I???? I CAN walk away...I CAN detach...I CAN come back later to work on an issue.....my "perception" of being helpless is the root of all the chain events that I don't want arising.....
JUST saying
-- Edited by neshema2 on Sunday 1st of February 2015 02:51:16 PM
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Neshema I believe that alanon tools such as placing principles above personalities, examining my motives along with working the Steps provides the same answers.
Neshema I believe that alanon tools such as placing principles above personalities, examining my motives along with working the Steps provides the same answers.
I so agree......I hope this little "twitter tweet" was "ok" as I just gave my esh on this one liner that I needed to see for ME b/c I have had stuggles w/this issue...........if it falls out of step w/the board then wipe it .....maybe i need to stick w/ my orig. posts (nothing off any quotes) and esh'ing others.....OR CAL dailies....so i stay safe........
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