Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

irish54 · irish54

Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...

QOD · QOD

My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, it isn't fair to involve my AFG in the drama of my Momma w/o telling you how it all came down. Woohoo, how it all came down...of course, in light of it's been almost a week since she was here, the real deal is that, to be straight, there's more drama 'round these parts than on Broad...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((Everyone)))) I don't normally post things that aren't Alanon, but tonight this story has been on my mind. Does it exist?? I believe it does. Happy Valentines to you all, especially to those of us who are home alone tonight. DREAMS The Lost Joy All day, where the sunlight played on the s...

kerry5 · kerry5

This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end! (After the story, there are some very interesting facts!): I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.The last class I had to take was Sociology.The teacher was absolutely inspir...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Sorry for all of you out there who are revelling joyously in Valentines. But for me it is a horrible glaring reminder of what I don't have. My ex(A) can be incredibly charming and fun to be with, except for that flaw of being an A. He up until last weekend was still saying he loved me and wanted us to be t...

akristab · akristab

last night. My AH is back on the wagon and going to meetings - yeah and neigh. He was recently diagnosed with a seizure disorder on top of his ADD and addictions. I know I should be concerned, but it is too reminscent of his binges - disappearing and not answering his cell phone - except now he has a seizure,...

QOD · QOD

I didn't know if I had posted that my AH came home last week. He came home Wednesday night. And he has been there ever since. He of course slept for days to recover from this last binge. He said he almost died 2 separate times during those 13 days he was gone. One time he said that his blood got so...

Maria123 · Maria123

Can anyone (Tom, John, Tea, Debilyn) help? I keep getting this message when I attempt to get into chat. Connecting... Logging in... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Looking up your hostname... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Checking ident... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Found your hostname -irc.chat4all.net- **...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello everyone, Hope you are all well out there and doing good. I am doing much better these days. I was involved with this man who is bipolar and abused alcohol and drugs. I finally found myself once again and booted him ... there will be NO more with him

...I bought me something very special t...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hi all, just wanted to share. I did have the restraining order served on him. I talked to the motel worker and found that the night he was arrested was the 2nd night he had been there with that girl. Then later I talked to the cop who arrested him and he said that they had been seeing eachother for several w...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. --Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...

maresie2 · maresie2

In the last few months I've really been running on only having one friend. That friend was absolutely there for me in November when the A did one of his characteristic meltdowns. I regrouped very very quickly and started to make concrete plans rather than feel totally consumed with the A's...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey family 2moro is Valentines Day and my 26th birthday in 2 days time. Im single this year... so not gonna make a big deal out of it. im finished work at 7p.m so its home to a hot shower, comedy dvd, loads chocolate and a steaming mug of hot chocolate. any one is free to join me .. lol... i hope this day finds yo...

Alison1 · Alison1

I could use some help...my friend is about to celebrate his first anniversary of sobriety and I wanted to do something meaningful. I understand he will be sick of cakes (I'm not completely familiar with the program but he is usually the one who brings cakes to meetings), so is there something else...

QOD · QOD

My AH was awake this morning when I came downstairs. He wanted to talk. He always wants to talk at the most inconvenient times for me.....bedtime or when I have to get ready for work. But I listened to him. He of course wanted something for himself too when talking to me. He was feeling better from his...

Leetle · Leetle

I have a question. I am pretty sure I need to let go of my A. I don't see how we can work things out. I decided when I found MIP that I would go to a f2f once a week and come here as often as possible and give myself six months to work things out in my head. I keep going on this roller coaster of wanting to wor...

Dorothy · Dorothy

Hi everyone, My husband has been sober and attending a.a. meetings for three years. I on the other hand pretty much refused to get any kind of support... I thought it was his problem not mine. Anyway, I now realize it has been a big mistake! I am trying to do my best but feel emotionally dead. I guess he has...

Maria123 · Maria123

Just wanted to let y'all know that

it's Mr.

Blue's birthday.

Have a wonderful birthday Blueman. your, Maria

snoopy · snoopy

Hi everyone: It's snoopy, the one who's A husband is divorcing me after 32 years of dating and marriage. Now that I'm in recovery, alanon, I have so much clarity on what my life was like before and what it can be like. I'm like a little kid who has finally gotten it and want to share it wi...

minnie · minnie

i just need to vent a little. it seems like forever ago that my husband admitted he was an alcoholic, and it was only two nights ago. even though i knew it all along, him admitting it just made it too real. it made me have to really examine our life together, my life apart from him. i've had to confro...

serendipity · serendipity

i picked up my dad's friend from rehab today. he is the excutor on my dad's will and living in his house till it sells. while he was gone i went to my dad's and started stripping wallpaper, painting, had the auction guys come and take everything i wanted to auction. i also accidently bagged...

Rita G · Rita G

ok - I looked in the mirror this morning & said "Thanks God, we made it thru yesterday. Help me with today." Pretty much most of the anger has passed - Maybe reality is beginning to set it - Cancer - wow - my husband has cancer. Set aside the fact he didn't tell me, for whatever reason,...

meagain · meagain

Good Morning all~ I have been on this board before asking this same question. I really get myself into "hot water". When I retired nearly 2 years ago-I told my adult children and spouses anytime you need me to babysit-etc.etc. I will be here for you! Don't get me wrong-I will do anyth...

shadow1 · shadow1

Mike I have sent you a private message, please check it.

minnie · minnie

It's weird how since my hubby admitted his alcoholism how i no longer have any trust in him. not trust, as in i'm afraid he'll cheat or anything like that, but trust as in, is he really doing what he says he's doing? Like tonight he said he was going to bed early, and i just didn't be...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! It was a great loving celebration as I got my 28 year chip at my home meeting by the Pacific Ocean with a usual family of about 70-80 members. It's new, never been used and powerful looking and here it is Monday morning and I call the police to attend me at my cousins home so that I can find ou...

jewely · jewely

after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...

Rita G · Rita G

That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...

kerry5 · kerry5

I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...

gardengal · gardengal

I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal

just me · just me

Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...

chauri · chauri

Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...

Moon · Moon

Hi all, I love the pamphlet of 'alcoholism the family disease' It's pretty basic and easy to read. If you can get your hands on one, check out the maturity guidelines...they are very informative LOL! Seems like I always have one lying around somewhere. Who do I relate too? The youn...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got word today that a friend of my daughters, 18 years old, was in a skiing accident. He is now paralyzed from his chest down. I know no more than that. My son, last night, smashed my god son in the face with his snowboard. The plastic surgeon did do a pretty good job stitching him up though. Hopefully it wi...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((Everyone)))) Tonight my Son wanted to play Scrabble as a family. That was fine, he even drew the tile to start the game. His first word was QUE, I thought pretty good for an 8 yr old. Next comes my A .... hehehe..... He adds to to the QUE, FA. It now reads Faque. I looked at him like WHAT??? he sai...

kitty · kitty

I haven't been on the board lately, a lot of ppl don't know me or my story, maybe my thoughts were jumbled or didn't express myself very clearly. I wrote the last thread after reading some ppl talking about whether addiction is a disease or not. My Al-Anon pamphlets all tell me it is a dis...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

It's funny because I would do all these things to stop my A's drinking, thinking any sane person would do the same. Apparently they were all mistakes. I'll list them, and if I am offtrack, let me know. 1. Try to stop the A from leaving the house because I know it's to buy alcohol. Thi...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

My scars remind me My scars remind me of my past of the pain that did last I am broken inside I cannot fake being happy anymor, I already tried I just want to die I know I am better off,but I don't know why This pain is just too much,and all because of that one touch I despise you,but at the same time I love yo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family !! Checking in to invite you all to the celebration of my 28th anniversary of continuous membership and service in the Al-Anon Family Groups. Took the suggestions and followed thru. It doesn't get much better than it is right now. I have a HP that is so HP!! I have a sponsor that sta...

confused · confused

I was reading a post from another board member and this line came to me, Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies. This was one of the ways I have learned to apply me program. I am AWARE that the A in my life will lie to me if I ask, confront etc. anything having to do with his addictions, which on some da...

maire rua · maire rua

Yes, I just got over a chest infection, to fall victim to the stomach bug of all stomach bugs. I am trying to be patient with all around me but need to set some boundaries if not walk away from a job due to a job colleague who places unreasonable demands on my time, though I have been more than accommodating f...

QOD · QOD

Many of you know my story. My AH and his crack binging. Well what do you do when you reach the point where you are tired of talking about all of the problems? You see, this has been going on for so long and has been at it's worst for the last year. It has taken me a year to get to this great point in my recov...

djdrew01 · djdrew01

hi, I grew up with a rageaholic/ alcoholic father and a mother who stuffed feelings. Some how my father took a liking for me as a baby and I ended up in the middle of my parents relationship. My father expressed his feelings to me, rather than my mother. After lots of therapy and alanon and aa I have real...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Wash. cabbie returns $6,000 left in car LYNNWOOD, Wash. - A taxi driver found a wallet containing almost $6,000 in the back of his car, then raced to the airport in time to return it to his owner. Vinod Mago, 55, says he never thought twice. The owner thanked him with $100, which Mago used to take his famil...

EarthAngel · EarthAngel

Ive been reading a lot of touching stories and I felt the urge to write my own. I come from a really amazing family full of teachers, leaders, social activists, and brave souls. Within this mix of beauty and pride, there are also alcoholics, addicts, and family members that suffer from mental illness...

Maverick · Maverick

After helping him get half custody of his kids and after helping raise them for 10+ years, my husband chooses alcohol over me and walks out the door with my entire family. He didn't leave because I was a bad stepmom--I was a GREAT stepmom...I did things for the kids their own narcissistic mother wo...

Becky1 · Becky1

Hello everyone. Just wanted to let you know, for those who are interested, what is going on with me. My computer is sick. My husband tried all day yesterday to fix it, but it is still broken. We even bought a new Modem, but now the screen resolution is unreadable. I was having withdrawls yesterday fro...

Becky1 · Becky1

Since Labor Day, I have worn a "Wish Bracelet". I bought it at the campground when we went to Michigan to see baby granddaughter. It was braided cotton cord with 5 tan colored beads. When I put it on, I made a wish, and supposedly, when the bracelet wore off, your wish would come true. It did...

jewely · jewely

AAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!![i am screaming inside] changing my own behavior is sooooooooo hard. i can see where my behavior contributes to the situation i am living in. even when i want to change, i am unable. i feel myself slipping back into the same pattern, just as an addict must go back to it&...

minnie · minnie

Well, my husband finally admitted to me last night what I've know for a couple years now-he's an alcoholic. I don't know what prompted me to bring up the subject, it just kinda came out of my mouth. I asked him why he felt it neccessary to drink every single night. He said I don't know...

lam0204 · lam0204

finally the truth comes out and I am not the bad guy anymore. I have been trying to convince my ex husbands parents that he is an alcoholic and that they needed to help me keep my daughters safe from his disease. They never believed me. But I stopped trying to talk to them about it about 4 months ago becau...

Fifi · Fifi

hi all so the weeks that my Abf has ben home from rehab have been so hard for me. i am filled with questions about our future...i am resentful that he has so little to give me...i am wishing for more for me and my kids...all selfish, but normal feelings i guess. i love this man - and we have had so many fun and...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I am a compromiser .... my brother often laughs with me because he will choose a side of a debate he knows I believe in just to watch me stand up for someting I do not believe in to make the outcome that we meet in the middle. Although this is a good quality to have, I feel it is limiting me in some ways. Choice...

maresie2 · maresie2

I've been seeing a therapist now, an intern for a few months. I have to say its never really gone that that well. I saw another intern before her for a few months too and that helped although I never spoke about my relationship there. I think its pretty hard to get a therapist who really understand...

Alanoner · Alanoner

I tried to respond to someone that responded to my post and it disappeared into thin air and never appeared. Is there a limit to how many people can respond under a specific thread? Or is something wrong with my computer? -- Edited by Alanoner at 17:37, 2007-02-10

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone ca...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Blessed to be an Al-Anon (Preview) Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...	irish54	3	436	Feb 15, 2007 by irish54
	AH got Frazzled Today, Called Me for Support, Seems to be Pulling Through It. (Preview) My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...	QOD	5	488	Feb 15, 2007 by jaja
	VALENTINES BLUES (Preview) As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...	wbfox58	10	1618	Feb 15, 2007 by nmike
	Can someone stop the train? I've already been run over one too many times.... (Preview) So, it isn't fair to involve my AFG in the drama of my Momma w/o telling you how it all came down. Woohoo, how it all came down...of course, in light of it's been almost a week since she was here, the real deal is that, to be straight, there's more drama 'round these parts than on Broad...	Tiger2006	12	446	Feb 15, 2007 by Jen
	The Lost Joy.... (Preview) (((Everyone)))) I don't normally post things that aren't Alanon, but tonight this story has been on my mind. Does it exist?? I believe it does. Happy Valentines to you all, especially to those of us who are home alone tonight. DREAMS The Lost Joy All day, where the sunlight played on the s...	Lunamoth	2	463	Feb 15, 2007 by doxie
	Touching Story (Preview) This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end! (After the story, there are some very interesting facts!): I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.The last class I had to take was Sociology.The teacher was absolutely inspir...	kerry5	11	455	Feb 14, 2007 by mel123
	Valentines shmalentines (Preview) Sorry for all of you out there who are revelling joyously in Valentines. But for me it is a horrible glaring reminder of what I don't have. My ex(A) can be incredibly charming and fun to be with, except for that flaw of being an A. He up until last weekend was still saying he loved me and wanted us to be t...	mama_nz	7	485	Feb 14, 2007 by Rebecca
	I fell off the wagon... (Preview) last night. My AH is back on the wagon and going to meetings - yeah and neigh. He was recently diagnosed with a seizure disorder on top of his ADD and addictions. I know I should be concerned, but it is too reminscent of his binges - disappearing and not answering his cell phone - except now he has a seizure,...	akristab	5	518	Feb 14, 2007 by akristab
	He's home. Did I tell y'all that last week? (Preview) I didn't know if I had posted that my AH came home last week. He came home Wednesday night. And he has been there ever since. He of course slept for days to recover from this last binge. He said he almost died 2 separate times during those 13 days he was gone. One time he said that his blood got so...	QOD	6	482	Feb 14, 2007 by Diane43
	Banned Message (Preview) Can anyone (Tom, John, Tea, Debilyn) help? I keep getting this message when I attempt to get into chat. Connecting... Logging in... -irc.chat4all.net- * Looking up your hostname... -irc.chat4all.net- * Checking ident... -irc.chat4all.net- * Found your hostname -irc.chat4all.net- ...	Maria123	15	791	Feb 14, 2007 by bob6502
	CHEERS for me~booted him and bought me a sheltie puppy (Preview) Hello everyone, Hope you are all well out there and doing good. I am doing much better these days. I was involved with this man who is bipolar and abused alcohol and drugs. I finally found myself once again and booted him ... there will be NO more with him ...I bought me something very special t...	Diane43	10	561	Feb 14, 2007 by Diane43
	Update (Preview) Hi all, just wanted to share. I did have the restraining order served on him. I talked to the motel worker and found that the night he was arrested was the 2nd night he had been there with that girl. Then later I talked to the cop who arrested him and he said that they had been seeing eachother for several w...	carolinagirl	4	448	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Proceed to bang head against wall in frustration.... (Preview) Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. --Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...	Tiger2006	6	653	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Creating an emotional plan B (Preview) In the last few months I've really been running on only having one friend. That friend was absolutely there for me in November when the A did one of his characteristic meltdowns. I regrouped very very quickly and started to make concrete plans rather than feel totally consumed with the A's...	maresie2	4	529	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Valentines Day (Preview) hey family 2moro is Valentines Day and my 26th birthday in 2 days time. Im single this year... so not gonna make a big deal out of it. im finished work at 7p.m so its home to a hot shower, comedy dvd, loads chocolate and a steaming mug of hot chocolate. any one is free to join me .. lol... i hope this day finds yo...	Rebecca	5	300	Feb 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	One-year anniversary help (Preview) I could use some help...my friend is about to celebrate his first anniversary of sobriety and I wanted to do something meaningful. I understand he will be sick of cakes (I'm not completely familiar with the program but he is usually the one who brings cakes to meetings), so is there something else...	Alison1	8	608	Feb 14, 2007 by ShelBell
	Is it just what I want to hear or is it real? (Preview) My AH was awake this morning when I came downstairs. He wanted to talk. He always wants to talk at the most inconvenient times for me.....bedtime or when I have to get ready for work. But I listened to him. He of course wanted something for himself too when talking to me. He was feeling better from his...	QOD	10	530	Feb 14, 2007 by QOD
	Can I let him go...even though I'm new to recovery? (Preview) I have a question. I am pretty sure I need to let go of my A. I don't see how we can work things out. I decided when I found MIP that I would go to a f2f once a week and come here as often as possible and give myself six months to work things out in my head. I keep going on this roller coaster of wanting to wor...	Leetle	9	529	Feb 13, 2007 by mama_nz
	Where do I start??? (Preview) Hi everyone, My husband has been sober and attending a.a. meetings for three years. I on the other hand pretty much refused to get any kind of support... I thought it was his problem not mine. Anyway, I now realize it has been a big mistake! I am trying to do my best but feel emotionally dead. I guess he has...	Dorothy	15	703	Feb 13, 2007 by AndiLynn
	February 12th Birthday Boy (Preview) Just wanted to let y'all know that it's Mr. Blue's birthday. Have a wonderful birthday Blueman. your, Maria	Maria123	14	606	Feb 13, 2007 by MrBlue42
	In recovery--alone (Preview) Hi everyone: It's snoopy, the one who's A husband is divorcing me after 32 years of dating and marriage. Now that I'm in recovery, alanon, I have so much clarity on what my life was like before and what it can be like. I'm like a little kid who has finally gotten it and want to share it wi...	snoopy	4	349	Feb 13, 2007 by Barbs45
	just need to vent a little (Preview) i just need to vent a little. it seems like forever ago that my husband admitted he was an alcoholic, and it was only two nights ago. even though i knew it all along, him admitting it just made it too real. it made me have to really examine our life together, my life apart from him. i've had to confro...	minnie	3	564	Feb 13, 2007 by akristab
	back from rehab vent (Preview) i picked up my dad's friend from rehab today. he is the excutor on my dad's will and living in his house till it sells. while he was gone i went to my dad's and started stripping wallpaper, painting, had the auction guys come and take everything i wanted to auction. i also accidently bagged...	serendipity	4	450	Feb 13, 2007 by abbyal
	On to the next emotion - Acceptance??? (Preview) ok - I looked in the mirror this morning & said "Thanks God, we made it thru yesterday. Help me with today." Pretty much most of the anger has passed - Maybe reality is beginning to set it - Cancer - wow - my husband has cancer. Set aside the fact he didn't tell me, for whatever reason,...	Rita G	4	512	Feb 13, 2007 by irish54
	nearly 5 months (Preview) Good Morning all~ I have been on this board before asking this same question. I really get myself into "hot water". When I retired nearly 2 years ago-I told my adult children and spouses anytime you need me to babysit-etc.etc. I will be here for you! Don't get me wrong-I will do anyth...	meagain	2	322	Feb 13, 2007 by QOD
	Mike please check messages (Preview) Mike I have sent you a private message, please check it.	shadow1	0	341	Feb 13, 2007 by shadow1
	where's the trust anymore? (Preview) It's weird how since my hubby admitted his alcoholism how i no longer have any trust in him. not trust, as in i'm afraid he'll cheat or anything like that, but trust as in, is he really doing what he says he's doing? Like tonight he said he was going to bed early, and i just didn't be...	minnie	7	649	Feb 13, 2007 by Rita G
	Got the new chip. It is not a new badge!! (Preview) Aloha All!! It was a great loving celebration as I got my 28 year chip at my home meeting by the Pacific Ocean with a usual family of about 70-80 members. It's new, never been used and powerful looking and here it is Monday morning and I call the police to attend me at my cousins home so that I can find ou...	Jerry F	8	1298	Feb 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	my momentary lapse in sanity (Preview) after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...	jewely	7	550	Feb 13, 2007 by jewely
	Not a wife -only a means of financial support (Preview) That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...	Rita G	10	575	Feb 13, 2007 by CJ
	A side of kerry you say you dont see (Preview) I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...	kerry5	14	776	Feb 13, 2007 by Moon
	OP!!!!! Cant get into chat???????? (help needed) (Preview) I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal	gardengal	1	312	Feb 12, 2007 by shadow1
	more chaos (Preview) Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...	just me	9	522	Feb 12, 2007 by debilyn
	so much negativity around me (Preview) Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...	annmarie	5	448	Feb 12, 2007 by horselover58
	absolutely helpless!!! (Preview) Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...	chauri	5	465	Feb 12, 2007 by chauri
	FIVE DAYS LATER::::::::: (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...	ally	10	692	Feb 12, 2007 by abbyal
	Favorite pamphlet (Preview) Hi all, I love the pamphlet of 'alcoholism the family disease' It's pretty basic and easy to read. If you can get your hands on one, check out the maturity guidelines...they are very informative LOL! Seems like I always have one lying around somewhere. Who do I relate too? The youn...	Moon	3	468	Feb 12, 2007 by abbyal
	Prayers Needed (Preview) I got word today that a friend of my daughters, 18 years old, was in a skiing accident. He is now paralyzed from his chest down. I know no more than that. My son, last night, smashed my god son in the face with his snowboard. The plastic surgeon did do a pretty good job stitching him up though. Hopefully it wi...	sandie123	6	458	Feb 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	Need a Laugh?? Please read this LOL!! (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Tonight my Son wanted to play Scrabble as a family. That was fine, he even drew the tile to start the game. His first word was QUE, I thought pretty good for an 8 yr old. Next comes my A .... hehehe..... He adds to to the QUE, FA. It now reads Faque. I looked at him like WHAT??? he sai...	Lunamoth	7	526	Feb 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Threads of Disease (Preview) I haven't been on the board lately, a lot of ppl don't know me or my story, maybe my thoughts were jumbled or didn't express myself very clearly. I wrote the last thread after reading some ppl talking about whether addiction is a disease or not. My Al-Anon pamphlets all tell me it is a dis...	kitty	4	541	Feb 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	The things I wont do anymore (Preview) It's funny because I would do all these things to stop my A's drinking, thinking any sane person would do the same. Apparently they were all mistakes. I'll list them, and if I am offtrack, let me know. 1. Try to stop the A from leaving the house because I know it's to buy alcohol. Thi...	RainyJamie	5	601	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	NEW POEM (Preview) My scars remind me My scars remind me of my past of the pain that did last I am broken inside I cannot fake being happy anymor, I already tried I just want to die I know I am better off,but I don't know why This pain is just too much,and all because of that one touch I despise you,but at the same time I love yo...	Lauren ashley	5	415	Feb 12, 2007 by Rita G
	Feb. 8th 1979 (Preview) Aloha Family !! Checking in to invite you all to the celebration of my 28th anniversary of continuous membership and service in the Al-Anon Family Groups. Took the suggestions and followed thru. It doesn't get much better than it is right now. I have a HP that is so HP!! I have a sponsor that sta...	Jerry F	11	683	Feb 12, 2007 by bobump
	ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies (Preview) I was reading a post from another board member and this line came to me, Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies. This was one of the ways I have learned to apply me program. I am AWARE that the A in my life will lie to me if I ask, confront etc. anything having to do with his addictions, which on some da...	confused	4	557	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	feeling sorry for myself and need to vent (Preview) Yes, I just got over a chest infection, to fall victim to the stomach bug of all stomach bugs. I am trying to be patient with all around me but need to set some boundaries if not walk away from a job due to a job colleague who places unreasonable demands on my time, though I have been more than accommodating f...	maire rua	2	387	Feb 12, 2007 by irish54
	What to do about Unsolicited Advice from Family? (Preview) Many of you know my story. My AH and his crack binging. Well what do you do when you reach the point where you are tired of talking about all of the problems? You see, this has been going on for so long and has been at it's worst for the last year. It has taken me a year to get to this great point in my recov...	QOD	12	1331	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	Don't feel like I've LOVED pets, girlfriends (Preview) hi, I grew up with a rageaholic/ alcoholic father and a mother who stuffed feelings. Some how my father took a liking for me as a baby and I ended up in the middle of my parents relationship. My father expressed his feelings to me, rather than my mother. After lots of therapy and alanon and aa I have real...	djdrew01	5	461	Feb 12, 2007 by Lunamoth
	A whole new prospective on humility (Preview) Wash. cabbie returns $6,000 left in car LYNNWOOD, Wash. - A taxi driver found a wallet containing almost $6,000 in the back of his car, then raced to the airport in time to return it to his owner. Vinod Mago, 55, says he never thought twice. The owner thanked him with $100, which Mago used to take his famil...	Tiger2006	2	613	Feb 12, 2007 by Leetle
	My Story (Preview) Ive been reading a lot of touching stories and I felt the urge to write my own. I come from a really amazing family full of teachers, leaders, social activists, and brave souls. Within this mix of beauty and pride, there are also alcoholics, addicts, and family members that suffer from mental illness...	EarthAngel	2	431	Feb 11, 2007 by debilyn
	He left and took my stepkids away from me. (Preview) After helping him get half custody of his kids and after helping raise them for 10+ years, my husband chooses alcohol over me and walks out the door with my entire family. He didn't leave because I was a bad stepmom--I was a GREAT stepmom...I did things for the kids their own narcissistic mother wo...	Maverick	16	649	Feb 11, 2007 by jrtjosey
	My Broken Life (Preview) Hello everyone. Just wanted to let you know, for those who are interested, what is going on with me. My computer is sick. My husband tried all day yesterday to fix it, but it is still broken. We even bought a new Modem, but now the screen resolution is unreadable. I was having withdrawls yesterday fro...	Becky1	3	442	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	My Wish Bracelet (Preview) Since Labor Day, I have worn a "Wish Bracelet". I bought it at the campground when we went to Michigan to see baby granddaughter. It was braided cotton cord with 5 tan colored beads. When I put it on, I made a wish, and supposedly, when the bracelet wore off, your wish would come true. It did...	Becky1	4	430	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	AAAAAHHHHHHHHHGGGGGGG!!![i am screaming inside] (Preview) AAAAAAAGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHH!!!!!!![i am screaming inside] changing my own behavior is sooooooooo hard. i can see where my behavior contributes to the situation i am living in. even when i want to change, i am unable. i feel myself slipping back into the same pattern, just as an addict must go back to it&...	jewely	4	565	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	my story, kinda long (Preview) Well, my husband finally admitted to me last night what I've know for a couple years now-he's an alcoholic. I don't know what prompted me to bring up the subject, it just kinda came out of my mouth. I asked him why he felt it neccessary to drink every single night. He said I don't know...	minnie	5	487	Feb 11, 2007 by maresie2
	the truth comes out (Preview) finally the truth comes out and I am not the bad guy anymore. I have been trying to convince my ex husbands parents that he is an alcoholic and that they needed to help me keep my daughters safe from his disease. They never believed me. But I stopped trying to talk to them about it about 4 months ago becau...	lam0204	4	544	Feb 11, 2007 by lin0606
	ugh (Preview) hi all so the weeks that my Abf has ben home from rehab have been so hard for me. i am filled with questions about our future...i am resentful that he has so little to give me...i am wishing for more for me and my kids...all selfish, but normal feelings i guess. i love this man - and we have had so many fun and...	Fifi	7	476	Feb 11, 2007 by HowToSaveALife
	Making and owning my choices without guilt (Preview) I am a compromiser .... my brother often laughs with me because he will choose a side of a debate he knows I believe in just to watch me stand up for someting I do not believe in to make the outcome that we meet in the middle. Although this is a good quality to have, I feel it is limiting me in some ways. Choice...	Jennifer	4	398	Feb 11, 2007 by Barbs45
	O for over involvement. (Preview) I've been seeing a therapist now, an intern for a few months. I have to say its never really gone that that well. I saw another intern before her for a few months too and that helped although I never spoke about my relationship there. I think its pretty hard to get a therapist who really understand...	maresie2	1	789	Feb 11, 2007 by Jerry F
	test post (Preview) I tried to respond to someone that responded to my post and it disappeared into thin air and never appeared. Is there a limit to how many people can respond under a specific thread? Or is something wrong with my computer? -- Edited by Alanoner at 17:37, 2007-02-10	Alanoner	5	531	Feb 11, 2007 by Jerry F
	The NOW (Preview) When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. Each day is a new start. Each moment is a beginning. We do not have to wait until Monday to get back on the program or clean a closet or tackle a difficult report. We do not have to wait until tomorrow morning, either. Now is the moment to stop, to make a phone ca...	Tiger2006	2	543	Feb 11, 2007 by abbyal
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