Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...

Kethry · Kethry

Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I had a brilliant idea this morning. I have been frustrated with the whole NC divorce process for six months!!! Anyway my MIL called last night to ask if I would have the restraining order lifted before my husband goes to court because "it doesn't look good". Of course I just blew thi...

CJ · CJ

(Family) I've had a truly humbling week. Besides the trials and tribulations of working an 'intense' work week, my Awife and her mother are in my house, occupying 90% of the rest of my time packing her stuff for her move back to the midwest. The resentment, anger, and bitterness are quit...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

It's funny how months ago I was so bored I felt like I wanted to claw my way out of my skin and now most of the time it seems like I never have enough time to get done all the things I want to get done. It seemed like time droned on and on and now it's flying by and I can't seem to keep up. Just thought...

fuzz · fuzz

Last night around 6:30 my A boyfreind called from the bar. He told me he had bought gifts and told me how much he loved me. He said he would be home in half an hour. So I waited, and waited.... he didn't come home until 9am this morning. He said he had stopped by a house with a couple of guys to smoke on the w...

horselover58 · horselover58

My problem is with my A hubby's adult daughter. She was raised by his parents who got custody of her when shen was 7. She lived with them until she turned 17, at that point she moved from Flordida back to NY. Let me tell you he did not loose custody of her due to alcohol, illegal drug use (which he doesnt d...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Well I got by what should have been my 9th wedding anniversary over the weekend. I helped my Mom and stepDad move back into the house, all fire restoration is complete, the unpacking will take a while yet. My room is there and waiting for me to make it mine, funny my Mom wants to start putting it together an...

debilyn · debilyn

don't know how else to put it. Moved into my bunkhouse. new tenants are great. Mom, my adoptive mom died Jan 16,07 as some of you know. I still have not snapped back, in fact I am worse. probably the moving. It is horribly lonely with out her. My old animals are dieing one by one. One day 3 in the same day....

Honestly · Honestly

I've lost all the information you gave me about you. I'm so sorry, will you contact me please so we can start up this relationship. Thanks much. I'm Jo in the meetings.

ollie · ollie

Hi Christy, Thank you sooo much for your most inspiring post,it was so nice to hear you and your h have found happiness through all this mess,i know it is very early days yet for us ,but every day, is a day longer,my h up, to now has shown no resemblance to the the person who he was while drinking,he is back t...

bcanuck · bcanuck

..how much power this disease has. We lost a friend at work today...to alcohol. He died a painful death, swollen from liver and kidney failure, on a ventilator. He left behind 3 young children, who no longer have any parents. The pull of alcohol so strong...stronger than the bond between a parent...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((((Family)))))))),

Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!

May it all be extra special for you. I love you all dearly, and if it wasn't illegal I'd marry you all!

I count my blessings for each and every one of you. Just a rem...

Rora · Rora

I've been visiting here on and off for a while now. I have an AH. I've been to f2f meetings in the past, but they are hard for me to get to for a number or reasons, including my little guy! My AH has been "dry" since October. In front of me anyways. As I am sure some of you know, that's...

ollie · ollie

HI To All, Hav,nt posted for a while,but have been here reading,taking in all i can. Would like to share with you what has happened between my h and myself.for those who remember i threw him out last may,forcing him to the salvation army.WELL,they found him a flat in december,came to stay with me for a w...

irish54 · irish54

Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...

QOD · QOD

My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...

wbfox58 · wbfox58

As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, it isn't fair to involve my AFG in the drama of my Momma w/o telling you how it all came down. Woohoo, how it all came down...of course, in light of it's been almost a week since she was here, the real deal is that, to be straight, there's more drama 'round these parts than on Broad...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

(((Everyone)))) I don't normally post things that aren't Alanon, but tonight this story has been on my mind. Does it exist?? I believe it does. Happy Valentines to you all, especially to those of us who are home alone tonight. DREAMS The Lost Joy All day, where the sunlight played on the s...

kerry5 · kerry5

This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end! (After the story, there are some very interesting facts!): I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.The last class I had to take was Sociology.The teacher was absolutely inspir...

mama_nz · mama_nz

Sorry for all of you out there who are revelling joyously in Valentines. But for me it is a horrible glaring reminder of what I don't have. My ex(A) can be incredibly charming and fun to be with, except for that flaw of being an A. He up until last weekend was still saying he loved me and wanted us to be t...

akristab · akristab

last night. My AH is back on the wagon and going to meetings - yeah and neigh. He was recently diagnosed with a seizure disorder on top of his ADD and addictions. I know I should be concerned, but it is too reminscent of his binges - disappearing and not answering his cell phone - except now he has a seizure,...

QOD · QOD

I didn't know if I had posted that my AH came home last week. He came home Wednesday night. And he has been there ever since. He of course slept for days to recover from this last binge. He said he almost died 2 separate times during those 13 days he was gone. One time he said that his blood got so...

Maria123 · Maria123

Can anyone (Tom, John, Tea, Debilyn) help? I keep getting this message when I attempt to get into chat. Connecting... Logging in... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Looking up your hostname... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Checking ident... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Found your hostname -irc.chat4all.net- **...

Diane43 · Diane43

Hello everyone, Hope you are all well out there and doing good. I am doing much better these days. I was involved with this man who is bipolar and abused alcohol and drugs. I finally found myself once again and booted him ... there will be NO more with him

...I bought me something very special t...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hi all, just wanted to share. I did have the restraining order served on him. I talked to the motel worker and found that the night he was arrested was the 2nd night he had been there with that girl. Then later I talked to the cop who arrested him and he said that they had been seeing eachother for several w...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. --Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...

maresie2 · maresie2

In the last few months I've really been running on only having one friend. That friend was absolutely there for me in November when the A did one of his characteristic meltdowns. I regrouped very very quickly and started to make concrete plans rather than feel totally consumed with the A's...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey family 2moro is Valentines Day and my 26th birthday in 2 days time. Im single this year... so not gonna make a big deal out of it. im finished work at 7p.m so its home to a hot shower, comedy dvd, loads chocolate and a steaming mug of hot chocolate. any one is free to join me .. lol... i hope this day finds yo...

Alison1 · Alison1

I could use some help...my friend is about to celebrate his first anniversary of sobriety and I wanted to do something meaningful. I understand he will be sick of cakes (I'm not completely familiar with the program but he is usually the one who brings cakes to meetings), so is there something else...

QOD · QOD

My AH was awake this morning when I came downstairs. He wanted to talk. He always wants to talk at the most inconvenient times for me.....bedtime or when I have to get ready for work. But I listened to him. He of course wanted something for himself too when talking to me. He was feeling better from his...

Leetle · Leetle

I have a question. I am pretty sure I need to let go of my A. I don't see how we can work things out. I decided when I found MIP that I would go to a f2f once a week and come here as often as possible and give myself six months to work things out in my head. I keep going on this roller coaster of wanting to wor...

Dorothy · Dorothy

Hi everyone, My husband has been sober and attending a.a. meetings for three years. I on the other hand pretty much refused to get any kind of support... I thought it was his problem not mine. Anyway, I now realize it has been a big mistake! I am trying to do my best but feel emotionally dead. I guess he has...

Maria123 · Maria123

Just wanted to let y'all know that

it's Mr.

Blue's birthday.

Have a wonderful birthday Blueman. your, Maria

snoopy · snoopy

Hi everyone: It's snoopy, the one who's A husband is divorcing me after 32 years of dating and marriage. Now that I'm in recovery, alanon, I have so much clarity on what my life was like before and what it can be like. I'm like a little kid who has finally gotten it and want to share it wi...

minnie · minnie

i just need to vent a little. it seems like forever ago that my husband admitted he was an alcoholic, and it was only two nights ago. even though i knew it all along, him admitting it just made it too real. it made me have to really examine our life together, my life apart from him. i've had to confro...

serendipity · serendipity

i picked up my dad's friend from rehab today. he is the excutor on my dad's will and living in his house till it sells. while he was gone i went to my dad's and started stripping wallpaper, painting, had the auction guys come and take everything i wanted to auction. i also accidently bagged...

Rita G · Rita G

ok - I looked in the mirror this morning & said "Thanks God, we made it thru yesterday. Help me with today." Pretty much most of the anger has passed - Maybe reality is beginning to set it - Cancer - wow - my husband has cancer. Set aside the fact he didn't tell me, for whatever reason,...

meagain · meagain

Good Morning all~ I have been on this board before asking this same question. I really get myself into "hot water". When I retired nearly 2 years ago-I told my adult children and spouses anytime you need me to babysit-etc.etc. I will be here for you! Don't get me wrong-I will do anyth...

shadow1 · shadow1

Mike I have sent you a private message, please check it.

minnie · minnie

It's weird how since my hubby admitted his alcoholism how i no longer have any trust in him. not trust, as in i'm afraid he'll cheat or anything like that, but trust as in, is he really doing what he says he's doing? Like tonight he said he was going to bed early, and i just didn't be...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! It was a great loving celebration as I got my 28 year chip at my home meeting by the Pacific Ocean with a usual family of about 70-80 members. It's new, never been used and powerful looking and here it is Monday morning and I call the police to attend me at my cousins home so that I can find ou...

jewely · jewely

after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...

Rita G · Rita G

That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...

kerry5 · kerry5

I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...

gardengal · gardengal

I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal

just me · just me

Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...

chauri · chauri

Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...

Moon · Moon

Hi all, I love the pamphlet of 'alcoholism the family disease' It's pretty basic and easy to read. If you can get your hands on one, check out the maturity guidelines...they are very informative LOL! Seems like I always have one lying around somewhere. Who do I relate too? The youn...

sandie123 · sandie123

I got word today that a friend of my daughters, 18 years old, was in a skiing accident. He is now paralyzed from his chest down. I know no more than that. My son, last night, smashed my god son in the face with his snowboard. The plastic surgeon did do a pretty good job stitching him up though. Hopefully it wi...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((Everyone)))) Tonight my Son wanted to play Scrabble as a family. That was fine, he even drew the tile to start the game. His first word was QUE, I thought pretty good for an 8 yr old. Next comes my A .... hehehe..... He adds to to the QUE, FA. It now reads Faque. I looked at him like WHAT??? he sai...

kitty · kitty

I haven't been on the board lately, a lot of ppl don't know me or my story, maybe my thoughts were jumbled or didn't express myself very clearly. I wrote the last thread after reading some ppl talking about whether addiction is a disease or not. My Al-Anon pamphlets all tell me it is a dis...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

It's funny because I would do all these things to stop my A's drinking, thinking any sane person would do the same. Apparently they were all mistakes. I'll list them, and if I am offtrack, let me know. 1. Try to stop the A from leaving the house because I know it's to buy alcohol. Thi...

Lauren ashley · Lauren ashley

My scars remind me My scars remind me of my past of the pain that did last I am broken inside I cannot fake being happy anymor, I already tried I just want to die I know I am better off,but I don't know why This pain is just too much,and all because of that one touch I despise you,but at the same time I love yo...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family !! Checking in to invite you all to the celebration of my 28th anniversary of continuous membership and service in the Al-Anon Family Groups. Took the suggestions and followed thru. It doesn't get much better than it is right now. I have a HP that is so HP!! I have a sponsor that sta...

confused · confused

I was reading a post from another board member and this line came to me, Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies. This was one of the ways I have learned to apply me program. I am AWARE that the A in my life will lie to me if I ask, confront etc. anything having to do with his addictions, which on some da...

maire rua · maire rua

Yes, I just got over a chest infection, to fall victim to the stomach bug of all stomach bugs. I am trying to be patient with all around me but need to set some boundaries if not walk away from a job due to a job colleague who places unreasonable demands on my time, though I have been more than accommodating f...

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	My AH had a relapse last night (Preview) ((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...	twinmom2	7	480	Feb 16, 2007 by Rebecca
	Not a Happy Valentine's Day (Preview) Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...	Kethry	7	615	Feb 16, 2007 by maresie2
	Brilliant Idea!!! (Preview) I had a brilliant idea this morning. I have been frustrated with the whole NC divorce process for six months!!! Anyway my MIL called last night to ask if I would have the restraining order lifted before my husband goes to court because "it doesn't look good". Of course I just blew thi...	carolinagirl	6	394	Feb 16, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Step 3 to the hilt (Preview) (Family) I've had a truly humbling week. Besides the trials and tribulations of working an 'intense' work week, my Awife and her mother are in my house, occupying 90% of the rest of my time packing her stuff for her move back to the midwest. The resentment, anger, and bitterness are quit...	CJ	13	1273	Feb 16, 2007 by ZiggyDoodles
	Bored not bored (Preview) It's funny how months ago I was so bored I felt like I wanted to claw my way out of my skin and now most of the time it seems like I never have enough time to get done all the things I want to get done. It seemed like time droned on and on and now it's flying by and I can't seem to keep up. Just thought...	carolinagirl	4	386	Feb 16, 2007 by QOD
	an unhappy valentines day (Preview) Last night around 6:30 my A boyfreind called from the bar. He told me he had bought gifts and told me how much he loved me. He said he would be home in half an hour. So I waited, and waited.... he didn't come home until 9am this morning. He said he had stopped by a house with a couple of guys to smoke on the w...	fuzz	4	384	Feb 16, 2007 by QOD
	Adult Step Children? (Preview) My problem is with my A hubby's adult daughter. She was raised by his parents who got custody of her when shen was 7. She lived with them until she turned 17, at that point she moved from Flordida back to NY. Let me tell you he did not loose custody of her due to alcohol, illegal drug use (which he doesnt d...	horselover58	5	437	Feb 16, 2007 by horselover58
	Getting by (Preview) Well I got by what should have been my 9th wedding anniversary over the weekend. I helped my Mom and stepDad move back into the house, all fire restoration is complete, the unpacking will take a while yet. My room is there and waiting for me to make it mine, funny my Mom wants to start putting it together an...	Jennifer	4	475	Feb 16, 2007 by debilyn
	Rough stuff (Preview) don't know how else to put it. Moved into my bunkhouse. new tenants are great. Mom, my adoptive mom died Jan 16,07 as some of you know. I still have not snapped back, in fact I am worse. probably the moving. It is horribly lonely with out her. My old animals are dieing one by one. One day 3 in the same day....	debilyn	14	587	Feb 16, 2007 by debilyn
	Dear Sponsor??? From Jo (Preview) I've lost all the information you gave me about you. I'm so sorry, will you contact me please so we can start up this relationship. Thanks much. I'm Jo in the meetings.	Honestly	0	482	Feb 15, 2007 by Honestly
	CHRISTY PLEASE READ (Preview) Hi Christy, Thank you sooo much for your most inspiring post,it was so nice to hear you and your h have found happiness through all this mess,i know it is very early days yet for us ,but every day, is a day longer,my h up, to now has shown no resemblance to the the person who he was while drinking,he is back t...	ollie	4	526	Feb 15, 2007 by david62
	It will never cease to amaze me.. (Preview) ..how much power this disease has. We lost a friend at work today...to alcohol. He died a painful death, swollen from liver and kidney failure, on a ventilator. He left behind 3 young children, who no longer have any parents. The pull of alcohol so strong...stronger than the bond between a parent...	bcanuck	11	587	Feb 15, 2007 by Sallen
	Happy Valentines Day! (Preview) (((((((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY! May it all be extra special for you. I love you all dearly, and if it wasn't illegal I'd marry you all! I count my blessings for each and every one of you. Just a rem...	Karilynn	12	583	Feb 15, 2007 by tea2
	New here...floundering :O( (Preview) I've been visiting here on and off for a while now. I have an AH. I've been to f2f meetings in the past, but they are hard for me to get to for a number or reasons, including my little guy! My AH has been "dry" since October. In front of me anyways. As I am sure some of you know, that's...	Rora	7	607	Feb 15, 2007 by QOD
	MAYBE? (Preview) HI To All, Hav,nt posted for a while,but have been here reading,taking in all i can. Would like to share with you what has happened between my h and myself.for those who remember i threw him out last may,forcing him to the salvation army.WELL,they found him a flat in december,came to stay with me for a w...	ollie	7	605	Feb 15, 2007 by ollie
	Blessed to be an Al-Anon (Preview) Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...	irish54	3	475	Feb 15, 2007 by irish54
	AH got Frazzled Today, Called Me for Support, Seems to be Pulling Through It. (Preview) My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...	QOD	5	523	Feb 15, 2007 by jaja
	VALENTINES BLUES (Preview) As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...	wbfox58	10	1657	Feb 15, 2007 by nmike
	Can someone stop the train? I've already been run over one too many times.... (Preview) So, it isn't fair to involve my AFG in the drama of my Momma w/o telling you how it all came down. Woohoo, how it all came down...of course, in light of it's been almost a week since she was here, the real deal is that, to be straight, there's more drama 'round these parts than on Broad...	Tiger2006	12	483	Feb 15, 2007 by Jen
	The Lost Joy.... (Preview) (((Everyone)))) I don't normally post things that aren't Alanon, but tonight this story has been on my mind. Does it exist?? I believe it does. Happy Valentines to you all, especially to those of us who are home alone tonight. DREAMS The Lost Joy All day, where the sunlight played on the s...	Lunamoth	2	499	Feb 15, 2007 by doxie
	Touching Story (Preview) This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end! (After the story, there are some very interesting facts!): I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.The last class I had to take was Sociology.The teacher was absolutely inspir...	kerry5	11	489	Feb 14, 2007 by mel123
	Valentines shmalentines (Preview) Sorry for all of you out there who are revelling joyously in Valentines. But for me it is a horrible glaring reminder of what I don't have. My ex(A) can be incredibly charming and fun to be with, except for that flaw of being an A. He up until last weekend was still saying he loved me and wanted us to be t...	mama_nz	7	522	Feb 14, 2007 by Rebecca
	I fell off the wagon... (Preview) last night. My AH is back on the wagon and going to meetings - yeah and neigh. He was recently diagnosed with a seizure disorder on top of his ADD and addictions. I know I should be concerned, but it is too reminscent of his binges - disappearing and not answering his cell phone - except now he has a seizure,...	akristab	5	556	Feb 14, 2007 by akristab
	He's home. Did I tell y'all that last week? (Preview) I didn't know if I had posted that my AH came home last week. He came home Wednesday night. And he has been there ever since. He of course slept for days to recover from this last binge. He said he almost died 2 separate times during those 13 days he was gone. One time he said that his blood got so...	QOD	6	521	Feb 14, 2007 by Diane43
	Banned Message (Preview) Can anyone (Tom, John, Tea, Debilyn) help? I keep getting this message when I attempt to get into chat. Connecting... Logging in... -irc.chat4all.net- * Looking up your hostname... -irc.chat4all.net- * Checking ident... -irc.chat4all.net- * Found your hostname -irc.chat4all.net- ...	Maria123	15	832	Feb 14, 2007 by bob6502
	CHEERS for me~booted him and bought me a sheltie puppy (Preview) Hello everyone, Hope you are all well out there and doing good. I am doing much better these days. I was involved with this man who is bipolar and abused alcohol and drugs. I finally found myself once again and booted him ... there will be NO more with him ...I bought me something very special t...	Diane43	10	599	Feb 14, 2007 by Diane43
	Update (Preview) Hi all, just wanted to share. I did have the restraining order served on him. I talked to the motel worker and found that the night he was arrested was the 2nd night he had been there with that girl. Then later I talked to the cop who arrested him and he said that they had been seeing eachother for several w...	carolinagirl	4	496	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Proceed to bang head against wall in frustration.... (Preview) Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. --Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...	Tiger2006	6	694	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Creating an emotional plan B (Preview) In the last few months I've really been running on only having one friend. That friend was absolutely there for me in November when the A did one of his characteristic meltdowns. I regrouped very very quickly and started to make concrete plans rather than feel totally consumed with the A's...	maresie2	4	563	Feb 14, 2007 by maresie2
	Valentines Day (Preview) hey family 2moro is Valentines Day and my 26th birthday in 2 days time. Im single this year... so not gonna make a big deal out of it. im finished work at 7p.m so its home to a hot shower, comedy dvd, loads chocolate and a steaming mug of hot chocolate. any one is free to join me .. lol... i hope this day finds yo...	Rebecca	5	338	Feb 14, 2007 by Karilynn
	One-year anniversary help (Preview) I could use some help...my friend is about to celebrate his first anniversary of sobriety and I wanted to do something meaningful. I understand he will be sick of cakes (I'm not completely familiar with the program but he is usually the one who brings cakes to meetings), so is there something else...	Alison1	8	650	Feb 14, 2007 by ShelBell
	Is it just what I want to hear or is it real? (Preview) My AH was awake this morning when I came downstairs. He wanted to talk. He always wants to talk at the most inconvenient times for me.....bedtime or when I have to get ready for work. But I listened to him. He of course wanted something for himself too when talking to me. He was feeling better from his...	QOD	10	571	Feb 14, 2007 by QOD
	Can I let him go...even though I'm new to recovery? (Preview) I have a question. I am pretty sure I need to let go of my A. I don't see how we can work things out. I decided when I found MIP that I would go to a f2f once a week and come here as often as possible and give myself six months to work things out in my head. I keep going on this roller coaster of wanting to wor...	Leetle	9	574	Feb 13, 2007 by mama_nz
	Where do I start??? (Preview) Hi everyone, My husband has been sober and attending a.a. meetings for three years. I on the other hand pretty much refused to get any kind of support... I thought it was his problem not mine. Anyway, I now realize it has been a big mistake! I am trying to do my best but feel emotionally dead. I guess he has...	Dorothy	15	746	Feb 13, 2007 by AndiLynn
	February 12th Birthday Boy (Preview) Just wanted to let y'all know that it's Mr. Blue's birthday. Have a wonderful birthday Blueman. your, Maria	Maria123	14	650	Feb 13, 2007 by MrBlue42
	In recovery--alone (Preview) Hi everyone: It's snoopy, the one who's A husband is divorcing me after 32 years of dating and marriage. Now that I'm in recovery, alanon, I have so much clarity on what my life was like before and what it can be like. I'm like a little kid who has finally gotten it and want to share it wi...	snoopy	4	390	Feb 13, 2007 by Barbs45
	just need to vent a little (Preview) i just need to vent a little. it seems like forever ago that my husband admitted he was an alcoholic, and it was only two nights ago. even though i knew it all along, him admitting it just made it too real. it made me have to really examine our life together, my life apart from him. i've had to confro...	minnie	3	605	Feb 13, 2007 by akristab
	back from rehab vent (Preview) i picked up my dad's friend from rehab today. he is the excutor on my dad's will and living in his house till it sells. while he was gone i went to my dad's and started stripping wallpaper, painting, had the auction guys come and take everything i wanted to auction. i also accidently bagged...	serendipity	4	489	Feb 13, 2007 by abbyal
	On to the next emotion - Acceptance??? (Preview) ok - I looked in the mirror this morning & said "Thanks God, we made it thru yesterday. Help me with today." Pretty much most of the anger has passed - Maybe reality is beginning to set it - Cancer - wow - my husband has cancer. Set aside the fact he didn't tell me, for whatever reason,...	Rita G	4	554	Feb 13, 2007 by irish54
	nearly 5 months (Preview) Good Morning all~ I have been on this board before asking this same question. I really get myself into "hot water". When I retired nearly 2 years ago-I told my adult children and spouses anytime you need me to babysit-etc.etc. I will be here for you! Don't get me wrong-I will do anyth...	meagain	2	360	Feb 13, 2007 by QOD
	Mike please check messages (Preview) Mike I have sent you a private message, please check it.	shadow1	0	387	Feb 13, 2007 by shadow1
	where's the trust anymore? (Preview) It's weird how since my hubby admitted his alcoholism how i no longer have any trust in him. not trust, as in i'm afraid he'll cheat or anything like that, but trust as in, is he really doing what he says he's doing? Like tonight he said he was going to bed early, and i just didn't be...	minnie	7	686	Feb 13, 2007 by Rita G
	Got the new chip. It is not a new badge!! (Preview) Aloha All!! It was a great loving celebration as I got my 28 year chip at my home meeting by the Pacific Ocean with a usual family of about 70-80 members. It's new, never been used and powerful looking and here it is Monday morning and I call the police to attend me at my cousins home so that I can find ou...	Jerry F	8	1343	Feb 13, 2007 by Jerry F
	my momentary lapse in sanity (Preview) after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...	jewely	7	588	Feb 13, 2007 by jewely
	Not a wife -only a means of financial support (Preview) That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...	Rita G	10	611	Feb 13, 2007 by CJ
	A side of kerry you say you dont see (Preview) I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...	kerry5	14	814	Feb 13, 2007 by Moon
	OP!!!!! Cant get into chat???????? (help needed) (Preview) I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal	gardengal	1	349	Feb 12, 2007 by shadow1
	more chaos (Preview) Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...	just me	9	560	Feb 12, 2007 by debilyn
	so much negativity around me (Preview) Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...	annmarie	5	484	Feb 12, 2007 by horselover58
	absolutely helpless!!! (Preview) Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...	chauri	5	504	Feb 12, 2007 by chauri
	FIVE DAYS LATER::::::::: (Preview) (((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...	ally	10	731	Feb 12, 2007 by abbyal
	Favorite pamphlet (Preview) Hi all, I love the pamphlet of 'alcoholism the family disease' It's pretty basic and easy to read. If you can get your hands on one, check out the maturity guidelines...they are very informative LOL! Seems like I always have one lying around somewhere. Who do I relate too? The youn...	Moon	3	502	Feb 12, 2007 by abbyal
	Prayers Needed (Preview) I got word today that a friend of my daughters, 18 years old, was in a skiing accident. He is now paralyzed from his chest down. I know no more than that. My son, last night, smashed my god son in the face with his snowboard. The plastic surgeon did do a pretty good job stitching him up though. Hopefully it wi...	sandie123	6	494	Feb 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	Need a Laugh?? Please read this LOL!! (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Tonight my Son wanted to play Scrabble as a family. That was fine, he even drew the tile to start the game. His first word was QUE, I thought pretty good for an 8 yr old. Next comes my A .... hehehe..... He adds to to the QUE, FA. It now reads Faque. I looked at him like WHAT??? he sai...	Lunamoth	7	567	Feb 12, 2007 by Tiger2006
	Threads of Disease (Preview) I haven't been on the board lately, a lot of ppl don't know me or my story, maybe my thoughts were jumbled or didn't express myself very clearly. I wrote the last thread after reading some ppl talking about whether addiction is a disease or not. My Al-Anon pamphlets all tell me it is a dis...	kitty	4	592	Feb 12, 2007 by aunitedway
	The things I wont do anymore (Preview) It's funny because I would do all these things to stop my A's drinking, thinking any sane person would do the same. Apparently they were all mistakes. I'll list them, and if I am offtrack, let me know. 1. Try to stop the A from leaving the house because I know it's to buy alcohol. Thi...	RainyJamie	5	638	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	NEW POEM (Preview) My scars remind me My scars remind me of my past of the pain that did last I am broken inside I cannot fake being happy anymor, I already tried I just want to die I know I am better off,but I don't know why This pain is just too much,and all because of that one touch I despise you,but at the same time I love yo...	Lauren ashley	5	457	Feb 12, 2007 by Rita G
	Feb. 8th 1979 (Preview) Aloha Family !! Checking in to invite you all to the celebration of my 28th anniversary of continuous membership and service in the Al-Anon Family Groups. Took the suggestions and followed thru. It doesn't get much better than it is right now. I have a HP that is so HP!! I have a sponsor that sta...	Jerry F	11	725	Feb 12, 2007 by bobump
	ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies (Preview) I was reading a post from another board member and this line came to me, Ask me no questions, I'll tell you no lies. This was one of the ways I have learned to apply me program. I am AWARE that the A in my life will lie to me if I ask, confront etc. anything having to do with his addictions, which on some da...	confused	4	596	Feb 12, 2007 by QOD
	feeling sorry for myself and need to vent (Preview) Yes, I just got over a chest infection, to fall victim to the stomach bug of all stomach bugs. I am trying to be patient with all around me but need to set some boundaries if not walk away from a job due to a job colleague who places unreasonable demands on my time, though I have been more than accommodating f...	maire rua	2	426	Feb 12, 2007 by irish54
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