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My Husband
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I believe my husband is an alcoholic. He usually goes out with friends for a few hours on Wednesday nights and then plays cards at a friend's house every Friday. On those occasions, he calls me and I pick him up so that he will get home safely. This past week, both Wednesday and Friday, he drove hom...
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newbie question
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A quick question here...is this the place too for family members of prescription drug abusers? My husband hasn't had a drink for almost 25 years (although he is an alcoholic). I just don't want to bring up anything that isn't discussed here. Thanks for the info - and sorry if I brought up s...
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AH gave me his wedding rings last night!!
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I guess you can say that my AH gave me a Valentine's present last night. He gave me his wedding rings. We were playing Candy Land w/our daughter and he (for the 10th time) asked if I was going to give him some Valentine's Red Hot Lovin'. I just looked at him like he was crazy and said Uh No. H...
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When I changed, "they" changed
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Hi everyone, Thought I would share a little esh (experience, strength and hope) that I've found. Two years ago, on Valentine's day I hit a bottom. (a few more bottoms would occur until I found my way) My husband and I had recently added our second child, we moved to a new location, he had a new...
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Sister's family
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Just finished a couple of months of really good therapy with an addiction and stress management expert after breaking up with a wonderful woman who was battling cancer. My sister and her daughters both began addiction and suicide issues during my gf's recovery after her first bout of cancer. My...
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donewithitallandhappy
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a new life for me (Poem)
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A New Life Awaits MeA new life awaits me I just have to be patient,and wait and seeGod will one day open my blinded eyesI can't buy into my alcoholic mother's stupid liesGod says he has a plan for me,and says he wants the best for my life The world has yet to see what he can do with one commited to hi...
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Lauren ashley
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Going to f2f because of this board...
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I wanted to thank you all for sharing so openly your ESH on this board. I had been to f2f meetings...then stopped... I've been visiting here lately the past few weeks and your posts have encouraged me to go to a f2f meeting tonight. Mostly because I have re-learned that there is Hope for me yet for a li...
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Finding It Difficult?
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I'm finding it difficult to forgive the A who sexually abused my son. Apoligies, if I've touched any raw nerves, just had to let this go today! Thanks, Barbs.
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Barbs45
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Fed up to the back teeth
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The a's new antics are to find a way to get money out of me at anytime. He has many excuses. He says someone stole his drill and he can't work. That was the way he got the truck out of me. I say nothing just well go look for the drill it must be somewhere. Then its he needs money to go get a new mouse fo...
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maresie2
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My AH had a relapse last night
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((( MIP Family))) Yesterday was a great day for me. I was just in such a positive mood and mental place. Just glad to be alive and glad that all those wonderful goals and things I've set out to do will eventually come to fruition. I planned a nice dinner for AH last night, sent the kids to the grandpa...
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twinmom2
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Not a Happy Valentine's Day
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Well, I guess I just need to vent here. My A b/f FINALLY found a job about 3 weeks ago. Not much - only making about $10. an hour (not really good with the high cost of living where we are but at least it's something for now). Of course it took me kicking him in the butt to do it. We've got the lowest...
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Kethry
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Brilliant Idea!!!
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I had a brilliant idea this morning. I have been frustrated with the whole NC divorce process for six months!!! Anyway my MIL called last night to ask if I would have the restraining order lifted before my husband goes to court because "it doesn't look good". Of course I just blew thi...
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carolinagirl
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Step 3 to the hilt
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(Family) I've had a truly humbling week. Besides the trials and tribulations of working an 'intense' work week, my Awife and her mother are in my house, occupying 90% of the rest of my time packing her stuff for her move back to the midwest. The resentment, anger, and bitterness are quit...
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CJ
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Bored not bored
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It's funny how months ago I was so bored I felt like I wanted to claw my way out of my skin and now most of the time it seems like I never have enough time to get done all the things I want to get done. It seemed like time droned on and on and now it's flying by and I can't seem to keep up. Just thought...
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carolinagirl
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an unhappy valentines day
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Last night around 6:30 my A boyfreind called from the bar. He told me he had bought gifts and told me how much he loved me. He said he would be home in half an hour. So I waited, and waited.... he didn't come home until 9am this morning. He said he had stopped by a house with a couple of guys to smoke on the w...
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Adult Step Children?
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My problem is with my A hubby's adult daughter. She was raised by his parents who got custody of her when shen was 7. She lived with them until she turned 17, at that point she moved from Flordida back to NY. Let me tell you he did not loose custody of her due to alcohol, illegal drug use (which he doesnt d...
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horselover58
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Getting by
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Well I got by what should have been my 9th wedding anniversary over the weekend. I helped my Mom and stepDad move back into the house, all fire restoration is complete, the unpacking will take a while yet. My room is there and waiting for me to make it mine, funny my Mom wants to start putting it together an...
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Jennifer
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Rough stuff
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don't know how else to put it. Moved into my bunkhouse. new tenants are great. Mom, my adoptive mom died Jan 16,07 as some of you know. I still have not snapped back, in fact I am worse. probably the moving. It is horribly lonely with out her. My old animals are dieing one by one. One day 3 in the same day....
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debilyn
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Dear Sponsor??? From Jo
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I've lost all the information you gave me about you. I'm so sorry, will you contact me please so we can start up this relationship. Thanks much. I'm Jo in the meetings.
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Honestly
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CHRISTY PLEASE READ
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Hi Christy, Thank you sooo much for your most inspiring post,it was so nice to hear you and your h have found happiness through all this mess,i know it is very early days yet for us ,but every day, is a day longer,my h up, to now has shown no resemblance to the the person who he was while drinking,he is back t...
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ollie
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It will never cease to amaze me..
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..how much power this disease has. We lost a friend at work today...to alcohol. He died a painful death, swollen from liver and kidney failure, on a ventilator. He left behind 3 young children, who no longer have any parents. The pull of alcohol so strong...stronger than the bond between a parent...
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Happy Valentines Day!
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(((((((((((((((Family)))))))), Just wanted to take a moment to wish you all a very HAPPY VALENTINES DAY! May it all be extra special for you. I love you all dearly, and if it wasn't illegal I'd marry you all!  I count my blessings for each and every one of you. Just a rem...
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Karilynn
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New here...floundering :O(
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I've been visiting here on and off for a while now. I have an AH. I've been to f2f meetings in the past, but they are hard for me to get to for a number or reasons, including my little guy! My AH has been "dry" since October. In front of me anyways. As I am sure some of you know, that's...
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Rora
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MAYBE?
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HI To All, Hav,nt posted for a while,but have been here reading,taking in all i can. Would like to share with you what has happened between my h and myself.for those who remember i threw him out last may,forcing him to the salvation army.WELL,they found him a flat in december,came to stay with me for a w...
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ollie
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Blessed to be an Al-Anon
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Hi all, Today God and I had a nice conversation. For the past few months with everything going on around me I have had lots of doubts about my choices. My daughter, 18, (grandaughter I raised) had left home in Dec. and another grandaughter, 14 had wanted to live here with us and I said yes after looking...
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AH got Frazzled Today, Called Me for Support, Seems to be Pulling Through It.
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My AH is still at my house. I think he has been working hard to pull his nerve up to ask his stepdad if he can come stay with him and work on recovery. I told him this is what he needs to do....that staying at my house w/the kids is NOT going to help him help himself. Anyway - my little dog has been sick the last f...
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VALENTINES BLUES
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As some of you may know, my kids and I decided my A wife could not come home...too much damage has been done. She is in a recovery village down in Fla, and is working her program. I am quite encouraged with her progress. Life without her has been for the most part very good ...my kids agree...but today is val...
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Can someone stop the train? I've already been run over one too many times....
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So, it isn't fair to involve my AFG in the drama of my Momma w/o telling you how it all came down. Woohoo, how it all came down...of course, in light of it's been almost a week since she was here, the real deal is that, to be straight, there's more drama 'round these parts than on Broad...
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Tiger2006
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The Lost Joy....
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(((Everyone)))) I don't normally post things that aren't Alanon, but tonight this story has been on my mind. Does it exist?? I believe it does. Happy Valentines to you all, especially to those of us who are home alone tonight. DREAMS The Lost Joy All day, where the sunlight played on the s...
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Lunamoth
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Touching Story
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This is a good story and is true, please read it all the way through until the end! (After the story, there are some very interesting facts!): I am a mother of three (ages 14, 12, 3) and have recently completed my college degree.The last class I had to take was Sociology.The teacher was absolutely inspir...
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kerry5
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Valentines shmalentines
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Sorry for all of you out there who are revelling joyously in Valentines. But for me it is a horrible glaring reminder of what I don't have. My ex(A) can be incredibly charming and fun to be with, except for that flaw of being an A. He up until last weekend was still saying he loved me and wanted us to be t...
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mama_nz
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I fell off the wagon...
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last night. My AH is back on the wagon and going to meetings - yeah and neigh. He was recently diagnosed with a seizure disorder on top of his ADD and addictions. I know I should be concerned, but it is too reminscent of his binges - disappearing and not answering his cell phone - except now he has a seizure,...
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akristab
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He's home. Did I tell y'all that last week?
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I didn't know if I had posted that my AH came home last week. He came home Wednesday night. And he has been there ever since. He of course slept for days to recover from this last binge. He said he almost died 2 separate times during those 13 days he was gone. One time he said that his blood got so...
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Banned Message
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Can anyone (Tom, John, Tea, Debilyn) help? I keep getting this message when I attempt to get into chat. Connecting... Logging in... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Looking up your hostname... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Checking ident... -irc.chat4all.net- *** Found your hostname -irc.chat4all.net- **...
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Maria123
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CHEERS for me~booted him and bought me a sheltie puppy
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Hello everyone, Hope you are all well out there and doing good. I am doing much better these days. I was involved with this man who is bipolar and abused alcohol and drugs. I finally found myself once again and booted him ... there will be NO more with him  ...I bought me something very special t...
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Diane43
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Update
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Hi all, just wanted to share. I did have the restraining order served on him. I talked to the motel worker and found that the night he was arrested was the 2nd night he had been there with that girl. Then later I talked to the cop who arrested him and he said that they had been seeing eachother for several w...
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carolinagirl
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Proceed to bang head against wall in frustration....
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Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency. --Natalie Goldberg As you aware of how you cope with your work stress? Many studies show that up to 40 percent of workers report too much stress on the job. And 50 percent of these workers have a spouse they bring the stress home to...
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Tiger2006
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Creating an emotional plan B
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In the last few months I've really been running on only having one friend. That friend was absolutely there for me in November when the A did one of his characteristic meltdowns. I regrouped very very quickly and started to make concrete plans rather than feel totally consumed with the A's...
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maresie2
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Valentines Day
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hey family 2moro is Valentines Day and my 26th birthday in 2 days time. Im single this year... so not gonna make a big deal out of it. im finished work at 7p.m so its home to a hot shower, comedy dvd, loads chocolate and a steaming mug of hot chocolate. any one is free to join me .. lol... i hope this day finds yo...
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Rebecca
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One-year anniversary help
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I could use some help...my friend is about to celebrate his first anniversary of sobriety and I wanted to do something meaningful. I understand he will be sick of cakes (I'm not completely familiar with the program but he is usually the one who brings cakes to meetings), so is there something else...
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Is it just what I want to hear or is it real?
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My AH was awake this morning when I came downstairs. He wanted to talk. He always wants to talk at the most inconvenient times for me.....bedtime or when I have to get ready for work. But I listened to him. He of course wanted something for himself too when talking to me. He was feeling better from his...
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Can I let him go...even though I'm new to recovery?
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I have a question. I am pretty sure I need to let go of my A. I don't see how we can work things out. I decided when I found MIP that I would go to a f2f once a week and come here as often as possible and give myself six months to work things out in my head. I keep going on this roller coaster of wanting to wor...
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Where do I start???
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Hi everyone, My husband has been sober and attending a.a. meetings for three years. I on the other hand pretty much refused to get any kind of support... I thought it was his problem not mine. Anyway, I now realize it has been a big mistake! I am trying to do my best but feel emotionally dead. I guess he has...
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February 12th Birthday Boy
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Just wanted to let y'all know that   it's Mr.  Blue's birthday.   Have a wonderful birthday Blueman. your, Maria
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Maria123
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In recovery--alone
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Hi everyone: It's snoopy, the one who's A husband is divorcing me after 32 years of dating and marriage. Now that I'm in recovery, alanon, I have so much clarity on what my life was like before and what it can be like. I'm like a little kid who has finally gotten it and want to share it wi...
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just need to vent a little
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i just need to vent a little. it seems like forever ago that my husband admitted he was an alcoholic, and it was only two nights ago. even though i knew it all along, him admitting it just made it too real. it made me have to really examine our life together, my life apart from him. i've had to confro...
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minnie
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back from rehab vent
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i picked up my dad's friend from rehab today. he is the excutor on my dad's will and living in his house till it sells. while he was gone i went to my dad's and started stripping wallpaper, painting, had the auction guys come and take everything i wanted to auction. i also accidently bagged...
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On to the next emotion - Acceptance???
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ok - I looked in the mirror this morning & said "Thanks God, we made it thru yesterday. Help me with today." Pretty much most of the anger has passed - Maybe reality is beginning to set it - Cancer - wow - my husband has cancer. Set aside the fact he didn't tell me, for whatever reason,...
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nearly 5 months
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Good Morning all~ I have been on this board before asking this same question. I really get myself into "hot water". When I retired nearly 2 years ago-I told my adult children and spouses anytime you need me to babysit-etc.etc. I will be here for you! Don't get me wrong-I will do anyth...
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Mike please check messages
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Mike I have sent you a private message, please check it.
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shadow1
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where's the trust anymore?
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It's weird how since my hubby admitted his alcoholism how i no longer have any trust in him. not trust, as in i'm afraid he'll cheat or anything like that, but trust as in, is he really doing what he says he's doing? Like tonight he said he was going to bed early, and i just didn't be...
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Got the new chip. It is not a new badge!!
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Aloha All!! It was a great loving celebration as I got my 28 year chip at my home meeting by the Pacific Ocean with a usual family of about 70-80 members. It's new, never been used and powerful looking and here it is Monday morning and I call the police to attend me at my cousins home so that I can find ou...
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Jerry F
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my momentary lapse in sanity
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after my momentary lapse in sanity [aaaagggghhhh, i am screaming inside], i woke up this morning feeling emotionally flat. after a life time of playing out a soul piercing drama of emotional behavior, i am finding change comes with a surprising result. dullness!!! boredom!!! what does one replace...
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Not a wife -only a means of financial support
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That is what I found out yesterday - I am not a wife - I am only a means of financial support - a wife is someone that you share things with - the good, the bad, sickness, health, etc. I know because my AH is suppose to be in a program of recovery that there are things that he will share with his sponsor instead of...
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Rita G
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A side of kerry you say you dont see
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I prayed over posting and decided to. I wasnt going to however i feel the need and i will follow that need and do this. I will say as i always say take what you like. If you follow the alanon program this post shouldnt affect you, its me expressing what i need to so i can let it go, which i already have. I will sha...
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OP!!!!! Cant get into chat???????? (help needed)
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I have tried for a few days but it doesnt open up.... says "securityexception ex: cannot connect to ircchat4all.org" Thanks for your help, gardengal
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gardengal
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more chaos
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Just wondered if any of you have esh with family who want to involve you in their chaos? My cousin's son is cheating on his wife with a woman in Las Vegas Nevada. He keeps calling me because he wants to stay at my home in Phoenix on his way out west to visit with his GF. His family is so mad at him. Both w...
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so much negativity around me
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Hi everyone, I've noticed recently that I'm surrounded by negativity. The Aphones a lot but I don't speak to him...so it's not him! Everyone else, My sister, my friend, even people at work.....it's all doom and gloom, pointing out faults and arguments. I'm trying so hard...
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annmarie
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absolutely helpless!!!
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Hi all, 2 days ago, it was a bad day. We've finally moved in to our new place. I had miss placed some very imp. letters and non-replaceble things. we had spent 3 days, looking for it. finally HE found it. well, needless to say, how of my fault it was. here I am, kickking myself, thanks, i didn't n...
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FIVE DAYS LATER:::::::::
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 (((((((((((((((((((guys)))))))))))))))))))) I'm sitting here, Sunday morning, and I'm feeling lost. My last five days have been a mixture of emotions. I have felt very hurt, and let down by someone, I trusted, and relied on to be there for me forever........ I am also going thr...
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