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I Apologized to HP
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I realized that I don't want to do this all alone so I said I'm sorry to HP for screaming all those things at Him. This is such a rollercoaster ride for me. When I was a little kid, all the way till I was pregnant the first time, I was terrified to throw up. I'm talking unreasonable paralizing fear. I spent mo...
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Recovery on a Shoestring...
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Hello Friends, "Friendofyours" post about the economy being hard on so many of us really got me thinking. Lately I have had some very stressful times in my family, my children needing a lot of items and being sick and hospitalized and I have been very stressed out, and frankly "taki...
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Grateful for my life....
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I was in the chatroom today and someone shared "This place saved my life" I have said that alot. This is where my alanon journey started. I came to find out the magic words on how to get my husband and son straight. I came with a beautifully decorated pitty pot, a mean blame game and enoug...
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so what ever happened with the investigation???
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I noticed the sticky about the investigation is gone, just wondering what happened with all that?
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Anger or Resentments?
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((((Everyone)))) I had someone challenge my thinking recently and just thought I'd share. This week when I walked into my F2F meeting I made sure to sit to the right of person holding the meeting. I knew that I was in a bad way and that I needed to shut up and listen. By sitting there I'd be the last pers...
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New here
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I've been reading here for about a week or so. I have 3 A brothers, an A Dad (after I became an adult) and my husband (who's parents and two brothers are also A's). Two of my brothers are attempting recovery, thank God! My husband is a binge drinker. He'll drink himself toxic for about 2-3 weeks and then w...
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don't know what I am dealing with
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Hi all-
I'm an "irregular" visitor on this board. Maybe it's because my H is an irregular addict?
whatever.
My H is currently sick. Legitimately ill, in need of medical help? who knows.
I'm a nurse and I can't make sense of his symptoms.
He's not going to work, holed up in bed, repo...
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feelings
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There are some times when I am annoyed that my mom is an alcoholic and because of that feeling of annoyance I say hurtful comments as a result. Perfect example..... This past weekend I watched a Sandra Bullock movie, 28 Days, which is about an A going to a rehab center and getting help. Then tonight I was w...
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you all are the best!
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thanks so much for all of the heartfelt replies I received from my post the other day.
I appreciate your ESH so much. I think back on how much I have learned from alanon, despite my rare visits to F2F and intermittent postings here.
as an update-- my H appears to be on the mend-- yesterday was riducu...
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Keep Praying... :-)
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Just a short update on my friend's daughter. She is still in a medically induced coma, there is some damage to the lower part of the back of her brain. This part controls all you do. However yesterday, she moved her one arm, one leg and rolled herself to her side. The next 30 hours are critcal for her.....
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Thank You Friends
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((((((((((Friends))))))))))), I can not begin to tell you the graditude I feel in my heart for you wonderful friends I have come to love, the shoulders to cry on, the hands that reached out right to me...wow...how amazing is that....my life is getting better as each day comes...odat....and wow how...
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Expectations
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I feel like I'm on a roller coaster and I'm just waiting for it to slow down to get off. I'm full of emotions and crying comes very easy right now. I hate being like this, I hate feeling like this. I know, I need to get to a meeting, 12 hour days at work are really hard somedays. Maybe if I just vent, write it...
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Don't call me prejudiced...just enjoy the joke.
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I LOVE Jewish jokes. The reason is because I am Jewish, and one thing I have learned over my lifetime is to laugth at myself. Here is one for ya. Morris and his wife Esther went to the state fair every year, and every year Morris would say, "Esther, I'd like to ride in that helicopter". Esther...
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My Father the Alcoholic
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Hello All, I am so glad I found this site!! I can tell I need it real bad!! I have such a long story it is hard to know where to begin. I don't know if you all want to read it all but I guess it will do a lot of good for me just to write it down and get it off my chest. I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulde...
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It's the booze talking...
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(((((Everyone)))))) I have heard that phrase many times in my lifetime. I related something my wife had told me and that was my fathers response. Just recently, I realized that there is a deeper meaning to this than I had thought. I always imagined that the 'booze talking' descripter had to do with...
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I Had A Screaming Match With HP
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It has been a bad day so far. I had a feeling that I would be hearing from ex ah and he called. Well, he figured out how to just leave a voice mail without my phone ringing(too bad he couldn't put all that technical knowledge to good use and get a job). Anyway, he was just calling to ask if he could come to the ki...
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It's official - I'm nuts!
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Just gotta put this into words, because for the life of me I can't see the sense in it. My 10yr daughter was unable to get a hold of her dad by phone tonite. She started calling him around 6:30. She was offered some free tickets to a baseball game this next weekend and she wanted to discuss the possibility o...
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Loupiness
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profanity in f2f...decision
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I have given a lot of thought and prayer to this subject today and have made the decision to hold a group conscious meeting tonight on the subject. If all agree the welcome which is read at the beginning of the meeting will be amended to the following.... The sharing of your experience, strength and hop...
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Do I confront him?
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Hi, I'm new here, and dealing with a relapsing husband. He got his second DUI in February. He didn't tell me about it for three weeks, I happened to be out of town when it happened. When he did tell me about it, he told me that the one good thing that came out of it was that he realized that he was an alcohol...
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Profanity in f2f meetings?
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I am not sure how to handle this one. I went to a f2f meeting on Sunday night which is a women only meeting of all 12 step groups. It was a great meeting and quite helpful in that participants were priviledged to hear sharings from all views of the addiction disease and it's effects on everyone. HOWEVER,...
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Prayer Request
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My husband and I have a dear friend, who's daughter, 24, was in a horrible accident......she is suffering from severe head injuries, please say a prayer for her. Thank you
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blame
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I center my life around alcohol - i find a way to connect anything and everything to it; i blame my actions/thoughts/lifestyle-related things on the fact that I have alcoholic parents. How do I stop this? Ever feel this way or do this? ESH needed. Lanchas
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Happy Happy Joy Joy Joy!!!! (NOT?)
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-- Edited by Kim65 at 18:17, 2007-05-29
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more harm than good?
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My Ahsober no longer in our home. Since he doesn't want to be defined as an A, he is not actively working a program nor will had admit that aism played any part in our dysfunctional marriage. So, he is just getting more and more bitter. Don't know for sure, but I think he has his A girlfriend giving him co...
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alcoholic tendencies
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I am afraid that I may have alcoholic tendencies even though I don't drink. I think of Coca Cola as my alcohol........ * I can't stop drinking it. *I drink can after can or glass after glass. *all the time *especially when I am mad * I killed two bottles of 2-liter bottles in two days. * I use it to...
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Just needed to share
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Dear (((((((((Friends))))))))), As many of you know, years ago I had a grandson that died a tragic death. I won't go into it here for those of you that don't know, but will say that it was a senseless, horrible day for all of us that loved him. That was 18 years ago today. It's so hard to believe it has bee...
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I GOT IN!!!....and now they're not letting me out :-D
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I got an email from financial aid this morning. It said that they couldn't process my financial aid because they were unable to verify my "admissions status." Uhhhhh, okay. You're taking my money as if you're pretty sure, I thought. So, I start out by making a phone call to financial aid....
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Just cause your sober doesn't mean your nice
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(((MIP Friends))) I know there is probably not alot of you on the board this weekend with the holiday and all, but I guess I need some E,S,and H. This weekend kicked off horrible. Friday I had to take the kiddos to the doctor for their 4-year old shots, but unfortunately I was feeling terrible. The med...
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Not sure how to title this
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((((((Friends)))))) Okay, this is a bone of contention for me. And I am not one that likes to complain but here goes. Is it possible to not quote the bible on this board??? If I were to quote from the book of wiccan and were to then say that there are many lessons to be learned from this and if we were to foll...
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In Memory of a Friend
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30 years ago, I witnessed the death of a friend and neighbor, and that event set into motion a lot of changes in my life. I was married to my daughter's dad, she was a year old, we lived in the state where I am from. On Memorial Day evening, in 1977, we were watching TV, when we heard someone screaming...it wa...
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I'M GOING TO BE A GRAMMA (AGAIN)!
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OK...here goes.....Those of you who know me, know I have one child, a grown daughter...and I have a step-son who has a little girl, my granddaughter, who is 3, and lives 6 hours away, so don't get to see her much. I also, from another marriage, have 2 beautiful step grandkids ( a girl and a boy), in their ea...
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And now for something completely different... Detatchment with Love.
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(((((Everyone))))) My sponsor sent this to me a while back and I saved it. Ran across it tonight for no "aparent" reason. One double click that missed it's mark and all of a sudden - a reading that is just what I needed to see tonight. I am so appreciative to him for that. Hope you enjoy it too...
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Where is the line?
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I know that my husbands recovery is his recovery and not mine. I know it's not my business and I can not control him or the alcohol, and I am not responisible for it. I know all this and I believe all this. But warning lights are screaming in my brain and in my house right now and I'm having a hard time ig...
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New here...please help.
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Hey Guys,
I'm new here, so please bear with me. I'm not sure if this is even the right place for me, so maybe you guys can guide me in the right direction? Hello to everyone and Thank You for reading this.
A little bit of background before I start... This may be a little long.
I recently divorce...
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All You need is Love
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Hello ((((Family)))) I want to tell you about a dream I had two nights ago. In this dream I am at work and we are having a going away party for someone who is leaving the company. There are many people there whom I work with, and some that I don't know at all. It seems like everyone is having a great time. At o...
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A Boy A Man and a Donkey
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A Boy a Man and A Donkey An old man, a boy & a donkey were going to town. The boy rode on the donkey & the old man walked. As they went along they passed some people who remarked it was a shame the old man was walking & the boy was riding. The man & boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they...
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When you ask, will it ever get better?
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For some reason 1981 hit me today. 26 years, I am 54 now. My husband got drunk, he was twenty seven. Then got himself ran over. Lived a week. I was only twenty eight years old with a four and five year old. And had to make all the decisions. Had to tell them to turn the machines off, at twenty eight. Today it hit...
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What Am I Missing?
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I have been sad again the past few days, missing my ex. Missing my best friend. It's not as bad as it has been but it still hurts. I do wonder if it is him I am missing or the idea of him. But when he was good he was very, very good. We talked every night on the phone, we shared all our thoughts and concerns about t...
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A past experience with AH and pills
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Would really appreciate what you all think of this. My A husband has always had migraines. When he was in recovery he refused to even take an aspirin. After the brain surgery, the headaches were horribly worse. There was no question he had them as I saw him miserable in his sleep, plus he would change and...
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Relapse
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(((Friends))) Wanted to share from the open AA meeting AH and I went to last night. The topic was Relapse. I guess the burning concern was whether or not relapse is a part of recovery or not. Some had shared recently that they had had dreams of their loved one's relapsing me, included. It was interes...
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What Am I Not Seeing?
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I was hired to help cover a couple large accounts. Included in this coverage was marketing responsibilities. I was approached by our two sales reps and told they did not want me to contact their clients anymore. One of the sales reps mentioned that I've been in sales before and no one other than the sale...
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Dreams?
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Anyone else ever have abandonment dreams? My ahsober relapsed this time the last time and I know this and for some reason I have been having dreams of him drinking again. I don't know if these are "pregnant" dreams or if I am genuinly scared he's going to relapse again. So I guess I wanted to kn...
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Can you guess I am besotted??
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(((((((Alanuts)))))))) I just HAD to share these. My gorgeous baby Grandson and his very first holiday with his Grandma................ME!!!! We got to do lots of exiting things together and get to know each other. Feeding him lots of nutritious healthy organic foods all week.....then...........
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YOU !!!!!!
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-- Edited by ally at 09:59, 2007-05-27
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Broken Promises
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Someone had a part of the ODAT posted online. It discussed broken promises and how our past childhood can affect our feelings on the present. For example, if a SO shows up late or doesn't show up at all, it is our reaction of being upset that is wrong not the other person for breaking a promise. I don't thin...
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ANGER
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Let anger show, do not "clown feelings away" or argue inside your head without telling the offender. Trust your feelingsundeserved verbal or nonverbal abuse brings on feelings of rage and fear within us. Remember, sick people act in sick ways in spite of you, not because of you! Yo...
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A poll....
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A few months ago I mentioned to a friend how I tend to be a pessimist and expect the worst, because I am afraid if I hope for the best, then if definately won't happen. She looked at me like I was nuts. So, then I started asking other friends and they all had a similar response; they always have hope. So, now...
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A strange thing happened at the Mexican Restaurant...
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I spent the day at the beach and then decided to take birthday girl and the rest of us out to the mexican restaurant in town. When it came time to get my check the waiter told me someone had already paid the bill. Mind you, I have one or two friends in this town and don't know many people even casually. He wa...
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He finally did something nice...so why does it hurt so much?
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((((((Alanuts))))))) My beloved A and I have been separated 16 months now.(He is Turkish,I am English living in Turkey). We live 18 hours driving time apart.....and I have been doing well(THANKS in no small part to the wonderful friendship and ESH I got from my wonderful friends here on MIP) I let him...
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WOW..GUESS WHO CAME TO A MEETING...LOL
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(((((((((((((GUYS)))))))))))) You will not believe this. I didn't, you all know I opened a f2f group. And tonight I didn't feel like going. I was tired after working all week. And the other woman who goes with me text me to apologise, she couldn't make it...argg. So I said "Ally Girl, YOU made a co...
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Step Two
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I've been attending f2f meetings for 4 years. Step meetings, Tradition meetings and Wednesday was the first time I actually understood what people were talking about when they say they had a hard time with step 2 or 3. I have faith in my Hp whom I choose to call God. I always have. I trust God in my life but...
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How Do You????
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How do you let the A do what they are going to do and not let it affect you or the children. My AH lies to me all the time. he says it is getting better he is seeing a difference in himself. He has been gone for a month. He is suposed to come home next week. I thought I was ready until last night. We talked the other d...
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Hello Freinds
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Hello ((((((friends)))))))), Just thought I would pop in with a little post on how life has been for me... so sorry I haven't been around just so darn busy.. life however is calming down finally... will have some time to drop in... I have missed all of you very much and have often wondered how everyo...
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Permanent ban of MIP members.
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First allow me to make clear the fact that I, like lilms, appreciate the job the moderators of this board do for all of us. Theirs is a thankless job for the most part, and one that is very necessary. So...thanks. I have a hard time accepting censorship of any kind. I will qualify that by saying that cur...
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Defeated again
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I just feel all beat up and like a loser. I just want to curl up and cry but whenever I do that I feel like I lost again. Ah took my wallet and went to the store last night after I was asleep. Shouldn't be so dissappointed, but we were supposed to do something today, and he can't get up, he has a headache and he sta...
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MIP Birthday Girl Today - Leetle
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(((((((((((Leetle)))))))))))))), Happy Birthday to you I hope you have a wonderful day today and get to eat some I'm so glad you keep coming. You are a wonderful edition to our Miracles In Progress and are a miracle yourself. Love, Maria
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no help
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i spent hours and hours and hours preparing documents regarding the landlord stuff. I just heard from the attoney I sent it to they wn't be able to help me. Now I have to go back to another attorney and ask him.
I am so sick of dealing with the a's messes. I am so sick of getting absolutely no help from any...
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God Bless Alcoholics and their self centeredness
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That's all I have to say.
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Do I let her go update....
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To all of you who helped me see my way through this, thank you. Last week I submitted a post about whether or not I should allow my 14 year old to attend a concert with my step daughter. With all the feedback I got, I decided that my gut instinct to not allow her to go was just. So, I simply told her "No,...
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Tradition Twelve
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Tradition Twelve goes as follows: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles above personalities. When I first got into Al-Anon 15 years ago, I jumped into a Group Representative position early on in my recovery. That group was my home group f...
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