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cwds35473 · cwds35473

I am new to all of this. Just wondering around on the net and found this site. I am wondering if my husband is an alcoholic - of course, he says he isn't. He drinks at least a 12 pack 5 to 6 nights a week. He drinks by himself. I ask for the weekends to be "family" oriented and he usually complie...

souljoy · souljoy

For me, the hardest part of having an AH is when he goes on binges and starts a conversation and sucks me into his craziness. For a while know I have been successfully detached. last night he got the best of me and now I am an exhausted bundle of nerves today. I keep telling myself to focus on taking car of m...

annmarie · annmarie

I am interested in learning more about alcoholism and sugar addiction. I consider myself to be addicted to sugar, and worry that if I were to drink I could easily develop an addiction to alcohol, given that its likely to be in the genes and environment. I seem to turn to sugar easily to comfort myself, a...

QOD · QOD

Well, I made it to my Martial Arts belt testing Saturday. My daughter and I are now official Green Belts. My son is already a Red Belt. AND on top of that, we were awarded the "Family of the Month" award. So as exhausting as the entire day was, it was very uplifting. :) Sincerely, QOD

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

My AH was strangely missing from the house. His car was here, and everything was right where he left it. I tried to just go about my business, but I couldn't keep my mind from wandering. Finally I saw him get a beer from the trunk of the car and walk down the sidewalk. Curiosity got the better of me and I found...

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

I'm divorcing AH, also found out he was cheating and lying - alot. We have a 19 year old son away at college and a 15 year old son at home. AH is living in an apt in town. People are starting to find out about the divorce. They think he is the worlds nicest guy and are asking why. I've told only a very few close fri...

debilyn · debilyn

see my AH. I just want to look at him while he is still alive. Maybe hear his voice. See if he is there at all. what makes me feel this, what do i want? can't help it. I loved my husband very much. sometimes the horribleness of it hits me and i cannot believe where we are now. My Al Anon knowledge scared him. He co...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Just a thought, seems kind of ironic that America was formed but a bunch of 30 and 40 (my age) year olds who were tired of people telling them what to do...and look what we have become...Somtimes I think we have become so civilized we're starting to regress..

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The other day I posted a link as a reply on a thread and it talked about the ineffectiveness of AA but the thing I found most interesting in the article was the statement that about 5% of alcoholics have spontaneous remission every year. So basically they just quit with no help and are "better&quo...

Denoraphy · Denoraphy

Last night my daughter made her confirmation. She chose her stepsister who is 23 to be her sponsor. We were to meet at the church at 7pm, a half hour before the ceremony was to start. My daughter got more nervous and upset as the minutes ticked by without her stepsister showing up. I felt horribly f...

serendipity · serendipity

That is Ok. I get it. But I feel powerless over me. And learning that HP can take over with me also. I can turn me over to HP, not just everyone else. LOving myself when my ex doesn't love me is really hard. I had crawled out of my funk for a few hours, almost strung together a day but then the feeling came back o...

kissers · kissers

This was a topic in a meeting this evening. I used to cower and hide when someone was angry with me. I always thought it was my fault. Thank God for Al-Anon. I no longer take on someone's anger. I am able to take a step back and look at the situation clearly without emotions going rampant. I look at my side of t...

gknee · gknee

Week 2 of H being sick at home. Lots of gastrointestinal complaints. Not going to work. Sleeping and watching baseball on tv. Won't go to the Dr. Wants me to call his boss (I refuse) Don't know if he is using or abusing substances (A? pot? vicodin? ambien?) or depressed or actually physically sick. I don...

marmare · marmare

Our girl has been moved from ICU to the trauma unit...they have removed the respirator so she is breathing on her own!!! The morning before last she opened her eyes and said TWO SENTENCES!!! Every little step is such a miracle!!! Thank you for all the prayers....keep them coming.....Hugs Mar

DelilahJones · DelilahJones

My plans to move on with my life away from my AH are chugging along. He is continuing his denial and his family (mostly his mom who I have had a GREAT relationship with) is having a really hard time accepting it all. They say that they understand why I am leaving but some things have been said that make me...

gimmpy · gimmpy

I haven't been here for a few weeks.My daughter got real angry, and moved out for about a month. after crying for days and missing work, life was more relaxed here. I felt guilty! My other kids were more at ease and it felt like home again. The place she was staying had no hot water, so she did come by every 5 d...

notcrazy62 · notcrazy62

A friend of mine went to an alanon meeting and it was explicitly expressed that one could not share about something that wasn't alanon. I am just wondering exactly what that means? anyone have a viewpoint on what that means? what is one discouraged from talking about? dave

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I was wondering if anyone has this situation: Loved one is seriously ill and REQUIRES pain medications Loved one becomes addicted but cannot function without the medications Loved one's need for medications increases and doctors will not sufficiently medicate to alleviate all pain. This isn'...

CriedOut2 · CriedOut2

We have been married for over 20 years. My AH has not had a drink in 45 days. He now takes evening walks with me - won't talk, will help around the house, hardly talks, and we make love and he says "I love you." I tried to get him to talk about us and he states everything is fine - look at all I do. ...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

Read this out loud Autobiography In Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson 1. I walk down the street, There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I fall in I am lost.... I am helpless It isn't my fault. It takes forever to fi...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((( Hello MIP Friends))) My AH moved back home last night a little prematurely than I'd expected but they were circumstances that were beyond both of our control. AH and I had been discussing over the weekends a plan of reunifying and as time has passed I have seen some very good changes in his attitude...

annmarie · annmarie

Probably a silly question......I can't figure it out though..... When I log into this site (on my own computer), I enter my user name and my password automatically defaults in. The save password box is not ticked, although I may have ticked this in the past? Now, there may be more than me using the compu...

tinaaz · tinaaz

Good Morning..Bare with me not sure what to say or where to begin. I am finding myself very hesitant to do do this..No sure why..humm I find myself putting my guard up.. A little scary for me you know -- Edited by tinaaz at 10:57, 2007-06-05

Tammy · Tammy

Well, I am very suprised at my husbands behavior this past weekend. My husband and I have been seperated on and off for the last two years. Most recently he left in May and said that he just couldnt do it anymore. He is an alcoholic who was arrested last September for his first DUI. Now he is on final not...

Rita G · Rita G

This morning I read the daily reading for Courage to Change pg 157 - I'm sure I have read this page before, but it never really hit me. The reading was talking about Step 3 - turning our will & lives over to the care of a Higher Power. This was the sentence that really hit me "Once I have acc...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So my mother in law called the other day she has been collecting unemployment for six months and her boyfriend who is addicted to oxycotton because of chronic pain from pancreitis(?) has had less and less work. He has worked hard for 30 years as a surveyor and usually makes over $25 an hr. She tells me o...

artgirl · artgirl

I have a question or am wondering about something. My partner has been in and out of the program for 10 months now. He does have a willingness to change but is really having a tough time. He is going to go to an outpatient program in our city and step up his meetings. I know that people this question aggrava...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I feel like I am at a turning point right now, I got a jail visitation form from my husband last week and I filled it out and have been mulling over and over what to do. In the beginning I assumed that I would pick my visit time and date and send it back. Lately, however, I have been pondering the idea of not re...

maresie2 · maresie2

as you all know I had to move into a tiny room with my two cats. The landlord has allowed an end stage alcoholic to move to the house. You can imagine how I feel. He is there every day littering up the porch with his cans of beer. He doesn't go anywhere because really all he wants to do is drink. He's already bro...

serendipity · serendipity

The girls had their dance recital last night. It was my 4 year old's first one. Their father didn't show. I didn't know what to expect. He has called a friend of mine and asked her about times for the show. Which means he is respecting my boundry of not contacting me directly. Last I told him was to get a law...

Katy · Katy

I get angry with myself that with all I am learning, that I can still make a pig's ear out of it, my feelings come to an head, and I have to let them out, I think it was ok to let them out, but I think the way I did it was wrong, I have tried to make ammends to my husband over the weekend but he won't let me, I tried to e...

rtexas · rtexas

.... cause it makes up for days like today. (sigh) Today is my wedding anniversary. 16 years and although we seperated once before now, this is the first time we have been seperated at the time of our anniversary. This sucks. It has been very hard to remember that I love my wife today. Hard to sideste...

DelilahJones · DelilahJones

This is probably a question for a lawyer but I'm wondering if anyone has any knowledge of this. Any feedback or experience is welcome. My AH is now saying that me leaving and moving with the kids is illegal. I live in WI and can't find any information on this issue.

ally · ally

(((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) You all know my story with the recovering A in my life... Well, to me It has been cat and mouse games...To him It's not, (bla bla). Anyway, I am no longer texting him, In the way I once did. I have been detaching from him, "Little by Little", but not quite ready t...

gardengal · gardengal

For me it has taken a very long time to let the past go. It festered within my soul for many years, and ate at my well being. I would sit for hours on end and try to reinact a scenario which happened while my AH was here, and how I could have changed the event. I blamed myself for years for "his" drink...

thinkmink · thinkmink

I have been in al-anon for a year and a half. I haven't been to a f2f meeting in about 2 or 3 months. I started private therapy because the sponsor I had seems particularly critical. I got tired of telling her about the progress I had made only to be told that it was somehow not enough. My AH and I were supp...

victoria · victoria

I'll try to shorten this as much as possible. - I think step 2 is happening to me. That a power greater than me can restore me to sanity. I had a dream, of a young child who was on vacation and saw a bear cub wander into her back yard. When the girl attempted to approach the cub she heard and then saw the mother be...

serendipity · serendipity

I had my end of the year performance tonight. My oldest daughter danced and I danced ( I am a teacher there and the teachers and the advanced kids always do a finale dance). My youngest sister in law is one of my most talented students. So, my ex in laws were there. I saw my ex mil in the hallway before the sho...

maresie2 · maresie2

I think its going to be months to get the truck away from the A legally. There is not much I can do about it but go through the process step by step. I have to go back to court on June 20th and hopefully I will get the order then. Even then I may have to go get a contempt order to make him comply. In the meantime he...

victoria · victoria

I'm very new here, and actually have only been to 1-2 f2f meetings. I need to know something asap. My AH who is not in any recovery or never has been even though he has been in jail, forced treatment facilities etc. He is starting, after a long time, to drink and drive again. I pretty much just leave him alo...

bill f · bill f

First time posting here. I am a recovering A with 2 brothers who are still out there. My mother (78yo) is continually giving them money and trying to save them. My fear is that, as this continues, she will eventually run out of resources ($) leaving it to me and my family to care for her. I am going for a...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Good morning family))))), My daily meditation for this morning was wonderful. Just wanted to share a part of it with you. "We create the world we find by our every action. Each response we make to another .... sets in motion a new wave of activity..... To each moment we owe attention and we ha...

QOD · QOD

Hey Everyone - long time no post! I have been reading though. Work has been extremely busy, which is good for business but crappy for poor me who has to shuffle all of the paperwork. Anyway, just wanted to check in & give the latest on things. Things have been going really well w/my AH and his addic...

babysteps · babysteps

My husband is an A. His parents are A's, his sister is an A, my brother has admitted to having a problem with A, and I just found out my aunt is in rehab for the second time. It makes me terrified for my daughter's future.

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been finding myself pondering the thought that my A could decide to get better and we could live happily ever after again (damn that hope!) and have been thinking about the girl that he has gone to jail over or with twice now. It kills me that I love him so much and he would just go find someone else an...

rxygrl · rxygrl

I am frustrated and so tired of my sober a of almost 10yrs turning every conversation about work and money into him being the victim. I have tried detaching wiht love and it works great but I am still thinking doing that will make him do the right thing in his own time..Doesn't happen! My A;s job is up/dow...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I had this really interesting conversation with my mother in law yesterday. We were talking about the a/da who was released and then went back into jail to clear up everything he has... Anywho she says that every time she talks to him he always blames her (she has been sober 20 years) for him being the w...

Gailey · Gailey

Yesterday my A son was told by his ex-wife that she was engaged and going to get married. A son is not taking it so well. (you know the old "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" saying) He doesn't want to be back with her but is having a really hard time accepting that anoter man...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

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twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Friends))) I guess I got a burning desire to write and share some thoughts with you all today. A topic in the Monday night meeting was the "The Hallway" that place we all get to when one door closes and the next door is about to open. People were expressing their experiences in t...

lkj · lkj

This is my first time on the board. I am new to Al-Anon as well. I learned in February that my 18-year-old daughter is an addict. She completed a 30-day program in April and has done well until last Thursday night when she called to say that she was drunk and couldn't drive home. I haven't heard from he...

Maria123 · Maria123

June 3rd Agenda I.Old Business i.(Danz) Secretary's Report - Review/approve Minutes of May 6th. ii.(David62) Treasurer's Report iii.Update on being registered with WSO iv.Annual permission to use CAL in meetings only v.Open or Closed Meeting vi.Meeting Minutes posted to the Al-anon Message B...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

So how is the squirrels doing? hehe I was at the yacht club today with the kids and I was trying real hard to enjoy nature and I remembered what you had said right? So as I'm laying there a black one inch crab crawled onto my blanekt sending me over the edge, it looked too much like a spider, then my kids were ea...

Katy · Katy

Well I had been doing really well I thought, keeping my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself and trying to keep my side of the street clean, but then I lost it, and all those days when I didn't say a thing all those day's that I was proud I lived through and kept my thoughts to myself, well they all spilled out o...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))), Well..... it's be an interesting 36 hours to say the least. Is HP laughing at me? Our railroad ties caught on fire so I came running home. We're fine. someone had thrown a cigarette butt down into it. It smoldered for several hours. A woman upstairs came in while hubby was sle...

kissers · kissers

While Counterdependency is not yet nearly as well known a concept as its sister condition, Codependency, it is an extremely vital paradigm in understanding the behavior and motivation of the majority of men in our culture. In this article I will define this predominantly male condition and attemp...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I was reading some posts today and saw one that made me think of the flip side of the coin... cause thats where I'm at lately. Beginning peri-menopause and omg! it can sure wreak havoc with my mood. At first I didn't recognize what it was, but since being in Alanon I've learned to put the focus on me and wh...

marmare · marmare

Our dear girl while in a medical induced coma decided yesterday that she doesn't want to sleep anymore and woke up!!!! She turned her head and found her brother, who is her best friend, sitting next to her bed. She looked and him and started crying.......then that stubborn strong willed girl started...

mrspjb · mrspjb

This is my first post, but hoping for some good feed back...I am currently stuggling with how it is if I am trying to only take care of my side of the fence, I feel more hatred for the alcoholic in my life (spouse) I work come home in time to pick kids from bus stop, take daughter to cheerleading or dance 3 nigh...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I am having a real hard time with daughter right now. She is about to turn 16, decided she hated me, has said she would run away from home if she had a place to go, and wants to go to a foster home. She even attacked me, clawing my arm with her nails and drawing blood. I just stood there crying, what to do, I can't...

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	New to all of this (Preview) I am new to all of this. Just wondering around on the net and found this site. I am wondering if my husband is an alcoholic - of course, he says he isn't. He drinks at least a 12 pack 5 to 6 nights a week. He drinks by himself. I ask for the weekends to be "family" oriented and he usually complie...	cwds35473	4	536	Jun 8, 2007 by Christy
	Doing the right thing (Preview) For me, the hardest part of having an AH is when he goes on binges and starts a conversation and sucks me into his craziness. For a while know I have been successfully detached. last night he got the best of me and now I am an exhausted bundle of nerves today. I keep telling myself to focus on taking car of m...	souljoy	3	681	Jun 8, 2007 by Islandlady
	sugar addiction (Preview) I am interested in learning more about alcoholism and sugar addiction. I consider myself to be addicted to sugar, and worry that if I were to drink I could easily develop an addiction to alcohol, given that its likely to be in the genes and environment. I seem to turn to sugar easily to comfort myself, a...	annmarie	2	503	Jun 8, 2007 by annmarie
	I'm a Green Belt now! (Preview) Well, I made it to my Martial Arts belt testing Saturday. My daughter and I are now official Green Belts. My son is already a Red Belt. AND on top of that, we were awarded the "Family of the Month" award. So as exhausting as the entire day was, it was very uplifting. :) Sincerely, QOD	QOD	11	575	Jun 8, 2007 by Lanchas
	Recovery, Anyone? (Preview) My AH was strangely missing from the house. His car was here, and everything was right where he left it. I tried to just go about my business, but I couldn't keep my mind from wandering. Finally I saw him get a beer from the trunk of the car and walk down the sidewalk. Curiosity got the better of me and I found...	RainyJamie	4	534	Jun 8, 2007 by gknee
	need your wise thoughts and reminders (Preview) I'm divorcing AH, also found out he was cheating and lying - alot. We have a 19 year old son away at college and a 15 year old son at home. AH is living in an apt in town. People are starting to find out about the divorce. They think he is the worlds nicest guy and are asking why. I've told only a very few close fri...	tryingtoheal	8	613	Jun 7, 2007 by RainyJamie
	overwhelming desire to..... (Preview) see my AH. I just want to look at him while he is still alive. Maybe hear his voice. See if he is there at all. what makes me feel this, what do i want? can't help it. I loved my husband very much. sometimes the horribleness of it hits me and i cannot believe where we are now. My Al Anon knowledge scared him. He co...	debilyn	3	403	Jun 7, 2007 by Becky1
	In continuation of the legalization issue.... (Preview) Just a thought, seems kind of ironic that America was formed but a bunch of 30 and 40 (my age) year olds who were tired of people telling them what to do...and look what we have become...Somtimes I think we have become so civilized we're starting to regress..	carolinagirl	2	439	Jun 7, 2007 by Kim65
	Spontaneous Remission? (Preview) The other day I posted a link as a reply on a thread and it talked about the ineffectiveness of AA but the thing I found most interesting in the article was the statement that about 5% of alcoholics have spontaneous remission every year. So basically they just quit with no help and are "better&quo...	carolinagirl	5	517	Jun 7, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Question about control (Preview) Last night my daughter made her confirmation. She chose her stepsister who is 23 to be her sponsor. We were to meet at the church at 7pm, a half hour before the ceremony was to start. My daughter got more nervous and upset as the minutes ticked by without her stepsister showing up. I felt horribly f...	Denoraphy	7	630	Jun 7, 2007 by emma
	I am powerless (Preview) That is Ok. I get it. But I feel powerless over me. And learning that HP can take over with me also. I can turn me over to HP, not just everyone else. LOving myself when my ex doesn't love me is really hard. I had crawled out of my funk for a few hours, almost strung together a day but then the feeling came back o...	serendipity	2	400	Jun 7, 2007 by CAM0914
	What do I do when someone is angry with me? (Preview) This was a topic in a meeting this evening. I used to cower and hide when someone was angry with me. I always thought it was my fault. Thank God for Al-Anon. I no longer take on someone's anger. I am able to take a step back and look at the situation clearly without emotions going rampant. I look at my side of t...	kissers	6	682	Jun 7, 2007 by gimmpy
	detaching or heartless? (Preview) Week 2 of H being sick at home. Lots of gastrointestinal complaints. Not going to work. Sleeping and watching baseball on tv. Won't go to the Dr. Wants me to call his boss (I refuse) Don't know if he is using or abusing substances (A? pot? vicodin? ambien?) or depressed or actually physically sick. I don...	gknee	6	801	Jun 7, 2007 by Jerry F
	Those that are praying...update (Preview) Our girl has been moved from ICU to the trauma unit...they have removed the respirator so she is breathing on her own!!! The morning before last she opened her eyes and said TWO SENTENCES!!! Every little step is such a miracle!!! Thank you for all the prayers....keep them coming.....Hugs Mar	marmare	6	436	Jun 7, 2007 by mel123
	Marriage counselling? (Preview) My plans to move on with my life away from my AH are chugging along. He is continuing his denial and his family (mostly his mom who I have had a GREAT relationship with) is having a really hard time accepting it all. They say that they understand why I am leaving but some things have been said that make me...	DelilahJones	12	654	Jun 6, 2007 by whitie
	she's back, but it got me to my first real meeting (Preview) I haven't been here for a few weeks.My daughter got real angry, and moved out for about a month. after crying for days and missing work, life was more relaxed here. I felt guilty! My other kids were more at ease and it felt like home again. The place she was staying had no hot water, so she did come by every 5 d...	gimmpy	2	481	Jun 6, 2007 by wp
	what is not alanon? (Preview) A friend of mine went to an alanon meeting and it was explicitly expressed that one could not share about something that wasn't alanon. I am just wondering exactly what that means? anyone have a viewpoint on what that means? what is one discouraged from talking about? dave	notcrazy62	5	652	Jun 6, 2007 by serendipity
	Question (Preview) So I was wondering if anyone has this situation: Loved one is seriously ill and REQUIRES pain medications Loved one becomes addicted but cannot function without the medications Loved one's need for medications increases and doctors will not sufficiently medicate to alleviate all pain. This isn'...	carolinagirl	6	490	Jun 6, 2007 by debilyn
	When will my AH start communicating?? (Preview) We have been married for over 20 years. My AH has not had a drink in 45 days. He now takes evening walks with me - won't talk, will help around the house, hardly talks, and we make love and he says "I love you." I tried to get him to talk about us and he states everything is fine - look at all I do. ...	CriedOut2	9	614	Jun 6, 2007 by lilms
	Autobiography in 5 short chapters... (Preview) Read this out loud Autobiography In Five Short Chapters by Portia Nelson 1. I walk down the street, There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I fall in I am lost.... I am helpless It isn't my fault. It takes forever to fi...	Lunamoth	7	3427	Jun 6, 2007 by emma
	My AH is back in the home (Preview) ((( Hello MIP Friends))) My AH moved back home last night a little prematurely than I'd expected but they were circumstances that were beyond both of our control. AH and I had been discussing over the weekends a plan of reunifying and as time has passed I have seen some very good changes in his attitude...	twinmom2	5	612	Jun 6, 2007 by sweetums
	computer question?! (Preview) Probably a silly question......I can't figure it out though..... When I log into this site (on my own computer), I enter my user name and my password automatically defaults in. The save password box is not ticked, although I may have ticked this in the past? Now, there may be more than me using the compu...	annmarie	2	354	Jun 6, 2007 by annmarie
	New here (Preview) Good Morning..Bare with me not sure what to say or where to begin. I am finding myself very hesitant to do do this..No sure why..humm I find myself putting my guard up.. A little scary for me you know -- Edited by tinaaz at 10:57, 2007-06-05	tinaaz	6	538	Jun 6, 2007 by abbyal
	Why do you think ???????? (Preview) Well, I am very suprised at my husbands behavior this past weekend. My husband and I have been seperated on and off for the last two years. Most recently he left in May and said that he just couldnt do it anymore. He is an alcoholic who was arrested last September for his first DUI. Now he is on final not...	Tammy	11	589	Jun 5, 2007 by Lunamoth
	Untouched by this disease (Preview) This morning I read the daily reading for Courage to Change pg 157 - I'm sure I have read this page before, but it never really hit me. The reading was talking about Step 3 - turning our will & lives over to the care of a Higher Power. This was the sentence that really hit me "Once I have acc...	Rita G	2	449	Jun 5, 2007 by InsertCleverNameHere
	Leaving the problem here. (Preview) So my mother in law called the other day she has been collecting unemployment for six months and her boyfriend who is addicted to oxycotton because of chronic pain from pancreitis(?) has had less and less work. He has worked hard for 30 years as a surveyor and usually makes over $25 an hr. She tells me o...	carolinagirl	3	558	Jun 5, 2007 by InsertCleverNameHere
	Recovery Rate (Preview) I have a question or am wondering about something. My partner has been in and out of the program for 10 months now. He does have a willingness to change but is really having a tough time. He is going to go to an outpatient program in our city and step up his meetings. I know that people this question aggrava...	artgirl	8	573	Jun 5, 2007 by artgirl
	What to do???? (Preview) I feel like I am at a turning point right now, I got a jail visitation form from my husband last week and I filled it out and have been mulling over and over what to do. In the beginning I assumed that I would pick my visit time and date and send it back. Lately, however, I have been pondering the idea of not re...	carolinagirl	4	501	Jun 5, 2007 by QOD
	moving back and forth (Preview) as you all know I had to move into a tiny room with my two cats. The landlord has allowed an end stage alcoholic to move to the house. You can imagine how I feel. He is there every day littering up the porch with his cans of beer. He doesn't go anywhere because really all he wants to do is drink. He's already bro...	maresie2	3	498	Jun 5, 2007 by carolinagirl
	He Didn't Show (Preview) The girls had their dance recital last night. It was my 4 year old's first one. Their father didn't show. I didn't know what to expect. He has called a friend of mine and asked her about times for the show. Which means he is respecting my boundry of not contacting me directly. Last I told him was to get a law...	serendipity	3	523	Jun 5, 2007 by kissers
	awarness after my slip!! (Preview) I get angry with myself that with all I am learning, that I can still make a pig's ear out of it, my feelings come to an head, and I have to let them out, I think it was ok to let them out, but I think the way I did it was wrong, I have tried to make ammends to my husband over the weekend but he won't let me, I tried to e...	Katy	3	558	Jun 5, 2007 by Katy
	Thank goodness most days I am doing pretty good... (Preview) .... cause it makes up for days like today. (sigh) Today is my wedding anniversary. 16 years and although we seperated once before now, this is the first time we have been seperated at the time of our anniversary. This sucks. It has been very hard to remember that I love my wife today. Hard to sideste...	rtexas	11	1320	Jun 5, 2007 by just me
	Illegal to leave with kids? (Preview) This is probably a question for a lawyer but I'm wondering if anyone has any knowledge of this. Any feedback or experience is welcome. My AH is now saying that me leaving and moving with the kids is illegal. I live in WI and can't find any information on this issue.	DelilahJones	14	682	Jun 5, 2007 by abbyal
	WHEN IS A SLIP, NOT A SLIP ??????? (Preview) (((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) You all know my story with the recovering A in my life... Well, to me It has been cat and mouse games...To him It's not, (bla bla). Anyway, I am no longer texting him, In the way I once did. I have been detaching from him, "Little by Little", but not quite ready t...	ally	5	952	Jun 5, 2007 by debilyn
	Are you living in the past, and worrying about the future? (Preview) For me it has taken a very long time to let the past go. It festered within my soul for many years, and ate at my well being. I would sit for hours on end and try to reinact a scenario which happened while my AH was here, and how I could have changed the event. I blamed myself for years for "his" drink...	gardengal	4	787	Jun 4, 2007 by glasshouse
	protecting myself and my child (Preview) I have been in al-anon for a year and a half. I haven't been to a f2f meeting in about 2 or 3 months. I started private therapy because the sponsor I had seems particularly critical. I got tired of telling her about the progress I had made only to be told that it was somehow not enough. My AH and I were supp...	thinkmink	4	605	Jun 4, 2007 by lin0606
	Step 2 is happening (Preview) I'll try to shorten this as much as possible. - I think step 2 is happening to me. That a power greater than me can restore me to sanity. I had a dream, of a young child who was on vacation and saw a bear cub wander into her back yard. When the girl attempted to approach the cub she heard and then saw the mother be...	victoria	3	404	Jun 4, 2007 by InsertCleverNameHere
	If You Don't Have Something Nice To Say (Preview) I had my end of the year performance tonight. My oldest daughter danced and I danced ( I am a teacher there and the teachers and the advanced kids always do a finale dance). My youngest sister in law is one of my most talented students. So, my ex in laws were there. I saw my ex mil in the hallway before the sho...	serendipity	5	612	Jun 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	Update (Preview) I think its going to be months to get the truck away from the A legally. There is not much I can do about it but go through the process step by step. I have to go back to court on June 20th and hopefully I will get the order then. Even then I may have to go get a contempt order to make him comply. In the meantime he...	maresie2	3	365	Jun 4, 2007 by carolinagirl
	need to know (Preview) I'm very new here, and actually have only been to 1-2 f2f meetings. I need to know something asap. My AH who is not in any recovery or never has been even though he has been in jail, forced treatment facilities etc. He is starting, after a long time, to drink and drive again. I pretty much just leave him alo...	victoria	15	690	Jun 4, 2007 by carolena
	Enabling an Enabler??? (Preview) First time posting here. I am a recovering A with 2 brothers who are still out there. My mother (78yo) is continually giving them money and trying to save them. My fear is that, as this continues, she will eventually run out of resources ($) leaving it to me and my family to care for her. I am going for a...	bill f	9	821	Jun 4, 2007 by bill f
	Staying positive works! (Preview) (((((Good morning family))))), My daily meditation for this morning was wonderful. Just wanted to share a part of it with you. "We create the world we find by our every action. Each response we make to another .... sets in motion a new wave of activity..... To each moment we owe attention and we ha...	Karilynn	2	345	Jun 4, 2007 by marmare
	Just an update and bit of a vent (Preview) Hey Everyone - long time no post! I have been reading though. Work has been extremely busy, which is good for business but crappy for poor me who has to shuffle all of the paperwork. Anyway, just wanted to check in & give the latest on things. Things have been going really well w/my AH and his addic...	QOD	5	622	Jun 4, 2007 by QOD
	I'm surrounded (Preview) My husband is an A. His parents are A's, his sister is an A, my brother has admitted to having a problem with A, and I just found out my aunt is in rehab for the second time. It makes me terrified for my daughter's future.	babysteps	4	453	Jun 3, 2007 by Kim65
	Detaching is hard...the with love part is harder! (Preview) I have been finding myself pondering the thought that my A could decide to get better and we could live happily ever after again (damn that hope!) and have been thinking about the girl that he has gone to jail over or with twice now. It kills me that I love him so much and he would just go find someone else an...	carolinagirl	7	659	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	dealing with sobriety and the financial issues (Preview) I am frustrated and so tired of my sober a of almost 10yrs turning every conversation about work and money into him being the victim. I have tried detaching wiht love and it works great but I am still thinking doing that will make him do the right thing in his own time..Doesn't happen! My A;s job is up/dow...	rxygrl	9	731	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	Interesting Irony and A excuses/manipulation (Preview) I had this really interesting conversation with my mother in law yesterday. We were talking about the a/da who was released and then went back into jail to clear up everything he has... Anywho she says that every time she talks to him he always blames her (she has been sober 20 years) for him being the w...	carolinagirl	3	557	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	Why is it so hard for some people to understand? (Preview) Yesterday my A son was told by his ex-wife that she was engaged and going to get married. A son is not taking it so well. (you know the old "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" saying) He doesn't want to be back with her but is having a really hard time accepting that anoter man...	Gailey	4	660	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	maresie??? (Preview) Are you okay?	carolinagirl	3	395	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	The Hallway (Preview) (((Hello MIP Friends))) I guess I got a burning desire to write and share some thoughts with you all today. A topic in the Monday night meeting was the "The Hallway" that place we all get to when one door closes and the next door is about to open. People were expressing their experiences in t...	twinmom2	7	469	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	My child relapsed (Preview) This is my first time on the board. I am new to Al-Anon as well. I learned in February that my 18-year-old daughter is an addict. She completed a 30-day program in April and has done well until last Thursday night when she called to say that she was drunk and couldn't drive home. I haven't heard from he...	lkj	8	718	Jun 3, 2007 by lkj
	Sunday, June 3rd Agenda 9PM EST - hope y'all can come (Preview) June 3rd Agenda I.Old Business i.(Danz) Secretary's Report - Review/approve Minutes of May 6th. ii.(David62) Treasurer's Report iii.Update on being registered with WSO iv.Annual permission to use CAL in meetings only v.Open or Closed Meeting vi.Meeting Minutes posted to the Al-anon Message B...	Maria123	2	499	Jun 3, 2007 by Maria123
	rtexas. I thought of you today. (Preview) So how is the squirrels doing? hehe I was at the yacht club today with the kids and I was trying real hard to enjoy nature and I remembered what you had said right? So as I'm laying there a black one inch crab crawled onto my blanekt sending me over the edge, it looked too much like a spider, then my kids were ea...	Friendofyours	1	392	Jun 2, 2007 by rtexas
	I think you would call this a slip (Preview) Well I had been doing really well I thought, keeping my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself and trying to keep my side of the street clean, but then I lost it, and all those days when I didn't say a thing all those day's that I was proud I lived through and kept my thoughts to myself, well they all spilled out o...	Katy	5	459	Jun 2, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Chipmunks, cars, and insanity! Oh my! (Preview) (((((((Family))))), Well..... it's be an interesting 36 hours to say the least. Is HP laughing at me? Our railroad ties caught on fire so I came running home. We're fine. someone had thrown a cigarette butt down into it. It smoldered for several hours. A woman upstairs came in while hubby was sle...	Karilynn	2	586	Jun 2, 2007 by Kim65
	Counterdepency (Preview) While Counterdependency is not yet nearly as well known a concept as its sister condition, Codependency, it is an extremely vital paradigm in understanding the behavior and motivation of the majority of men in our culture. In this article I will define this predominantly male condition and attemp...	kissers	6	9171	Jun 2, 2007 by Kim65
	It's the hormones talking.... (Preview) I was reading some posts today and saw one that made me think of the flip side of the coin... cause thats where I'm at lately. Beginning peri-menopause and omg! it can sure wreak havoc with my mood. At first I didn't recognize what it was, but since being in Alanon I've learned to put the focus on me and wh...	kismetstrand	7	633	Jun 2, 2007 by bob6502
	The power of prayer is amazing! (Preview) Our dear girl while in a medical induced coma decided yesterday that she doesn't want to sleep anymore and woke up!!!! She turned her head and found her brother, who is her best friend, sitting next to her bed. She looked and him and started crying.......then that stubborn strong willed girl started...	marmare	9	531	Jun 2, 2007 by Leetle
	Why??? (Preview) This is my first post, but hoping for some good feed back...I am currently stuggling with how it is if I am trying to only take care of my side of the fence, I feel more hatred for the alcoholic in my life (spouse) I work come home in time to pick kids from bus stop, take daughter to cheerleading or dance 3 nigh...	mrspjb	8	743	Jun 2, 2007 by mrspjb
	Hormone wacked teen, menapausal mom (Preview) I am having a real hard time with daughter right now. She is about to turn 16, decided she hated me, has said she would run away from home if she had a place to go, and wants to go to a foster home. She even attacked me, clawing my arm with her nails and drawing blood. I just stood there crying, what to do, I can't...	Eve Eve Eve	6	545	Jun 2, 2007 by pls
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