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carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been finding myself pondering the thought that my A could decide to get better and we could live happily ever after again (damn that hope!) and have been thinking about the girl that he has gone to jail over or with twice now. It kills me that I love him so much and he would just go find someone else an...

rxygrl · rxygrl

I am frustrated and so tired of my sober a of almost 10yrs turning every conversation about work and money into him being the victim. I have tried detaching wiht love and it works great but I am still thinking doing that will make him do the right thing in his own time..Doesn't happen! My A;s job is up/dow...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I had this really interesting conversation with my mother in law yesterday. We were talking about the a/da who was released and then went back into jail to clear up everything he has... Anywho she says that every time she talks to him he always blames her (she has been sober 20 years) for him being the w...

Gailey · Gailey

Yesterday my A son was told by his ex-wife that she was engaged and going to get married. A son is not taking it so well. (you know the old "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" saying) He doesn't want to be back with her but is having a really hard time accepting that anoter man...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Are you okay?

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello MIP Friends))) I guess I got a burning desire to write and share some thoughts with you all today. A topic in the Monday night meeting was the "The Hallway" that place we all get to when one door closes and the next door is about to open. People were expressing their experiences in t...

lkj · lkj

This is my first time on the board. I am new to Al-Anon as well. I learned in February that my 18-year-old daughter is an addict. She completed a 30-day program in April and has done well until last Thursday night when she called to say that she was drunk and couldn't drive home. I haven't heard from he...

Maria123 · Maria123

June 3rd Agenda I.Old Business i.(Danz) Secretary's Report - Review/approve Minutes of May 6th. ii.(David62) Treasurer's Report iii.Update on being registered with WSO iv.Annual permission to use CAL in meetings only v.Open or Closed Meeting vi.Meeting Minutes posted to the Al-anon Message B...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

So how is the squirrels doing? hehe I was at the yacht club today with the kids and I was trying real hard to enjoy nature and I remembered what you had said right? So as I'm laying there a black one inch crab crawled onto my blanekt sending me over the edge, it looked too much like a spider, then my kids were ea...

Katy · Katy

Well I had been doing really well I thought, keeping my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself and trying to keep my side of the street clean, but then I lost it, and all those days when I didn't say a thing all those day's that I was proud I lived through and kept my thoughts to myself, well they all spilled out o...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family))))), Well..... it's be an interesting 36 hours to say the least. Is HP laughing at me? Our railroad ties caught on fire so I came running home. We're fine. someone had thrown a cigarette butt down into it. It smoldered for several hours. A woman upstairs came in while hubby was sle...

kissers · kissers

While Counterdependency is not yet nearly as well known a concept as its sister condition, Codependency, it is an extremely vital paradigm in understanding the behavior and motivation of the majority of men in our culture. In this article I will define this predominantly male condition and attemp...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I was reading some posts today and saw one that made me think of the flip side of the coin... cause thats where I'm at lately. Beginning peri-menopause and omg! it can sure wreak havoc with my mood. At first I didn't recognize what it was, but since being in Alanon I've learned to put the focus on me and wh...

marmare · marmare

Our dear girl while in a medical induced coma decided yesterday that she doesn't want to sleep anymore and woke up!!!! She turned her head and found her brother, who is her best friend, sitting next to her bed. She looked and him and started crying.......then that stubborn strong willed girl started...

mrspjb · mrspjb

This is my first post, but hoping for some good feed back...I am currently stuggling with how it is if I am trying to only take care of my side of the fence, I feel more hatred for the alcoholic in my life (spouse) I work come home in time to pick kids from bus stop, take daughter to cheerleading or dance 3 nigh...

Eve Eve Eve · Eve Eve Eve

I am having a real hard time with daughter right now. She is about to turn 16, decided she hated me, has said she would run away from home if she had a place to go, and wants to go to a foster home. She even attacked me, clawing my arm with her nails and drawing blood. I just stood there crying, what to do, I can't...

Friendofyours · Friendofyours

Alot of these posts have me thinking. Doesn't it seem that with or without an A in our life, that life is just getting financially harder? It's like the price of gas sky rockets yet our paychecks do not. Our taxes get higher and our paychecks do not. How can stamps go up, gas, taxes, bills, ect and our pa...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I just got accepted to the nursing program here!! WHoooHooo! I am honored because it is a competitive program and there are not many spots open. I applied last year and didn't make it, I was pretty bummed out because I felt like there was nothing I could do. I retook some classes and applied again, now I'm...

kissers · kissers

I have been thinking about the time I was married. We dated for six months and my ex proposed. Inside I felt that is was the wrong choice, but I went ahead and got married. After we were married, my husband stopped cooking dinner and I gladly took over the responsibility. I worked full-time, cooked every...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

http://news.yahoo.com/comics/shoe;_ylt=AsFkKQ0cyYv11aS0TbxxMswDwLAF

Kim65 · Kim65

The last week has been one of those where I struggle to keep my thoughts from spiralling into focus upon my AH. Unless I keep up this effort to keep myself apart from his insanity, I end up very depressed. I end up missing out on so much good, even great, when my thoughts are consumed with the A. I mean, he...

serendipity · serendipity

Yesterday I found out who the new woman my ex is with is. I saw a flyer for her business and it immediatly connected that that is who she is. Still haven't seen her in person. But honestly, it was everything I had in me NOT to call her. It is everything I have in me NOT to report her to the board for inappropria...

New Member Question - What should I do? · sdoody

Im new to the board and Al-Anon and in need of your opinions. My AH is also bi-polar and addicted to pot, just got out of an inpatient stay for his bi-polar & addictions, as he when off meds and began actively drinking and using, upon release he came home with the following stipulations (I really did...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, Now that I'm recovering I'm having lots of ups and downs. But today is okay. Babysteps. Anyway, I saw my parents yesterday. I have a polite relationship with my mother. My dad is an activeA. He's getting old now, retired and cannot drink as much. He just keeps quiet generally. Anyway, I'm n...

ally · ally

((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) I have been fantastic for a few weeks, really working my programme. I am back at work, working long shifts. It's 11pm, I am up at 6am, and I cannot sleep, my mind is racing, due to the A's behavor... You know my history with this guy. We had a long time friendship that led...

java · java

This story originates from a true story of a Pin Oak Tree that my grandparents planted in our front yard (their front yard at the time) when they were first married. The acorn fell from a huge tree. The acorn had sprouted a delicate small sprout. The tree grew to a seedling. The young couple, just starti...

Diva · Diva

Are you still subscribing to the "Daily Puppy?" Today's puppy, half Daschund (sp?) and half Chihuahua is about the cutest thing I've seen. Guaranteed to make you grin from ear to ear!!!! Diva

serendipity · serendipity

I realized that I don't want to do this all alone so I said I'm sorry to HP for screaming all those things at Him. This is such a rollercoaster ride for me. When I was a little kid, all the way till I was pregnant the first time, I was terrified to throw up. I'm talking unreasonable paralizing fear. I spent mo...

Alanoner · Alanoner

Hello Friends, "Friendofyours" post about the economy being hard on so many of us really got me thinking. Lately I have had some very stressful times in my family, my children needing a lot of items and being sick and hospitalized and I have been very stressed out, and frankly "taki...

greta · greta

I was in the chatroom today and someone shared "This place saved my life" I have said that alot. This is where my alanon journey started. I came to find out the magic words on how to get my husband and son straight. I came with a beautifully decorated pitty pot, a mean blame game and enoug...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I noticed the sticky about the investigation is gone, just wondering what happened with all that?

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((Everyone)))) I had someone challenge my thinking recently and just thought I'd share. This week when I walked into my F2F meeting I made sure to sit to the right of person holding the meeting. I knew that I was in a bad way and that I needed to shut up and listen. By sitting there I'd be the last pers...

InsertCleverNameHere · InsertCleverNameHere

I've been reading here for about a week or so. I have 3 A brothers, an A Dad (after I became an adult) and my husband (who's parents and two brothers are also A's). Two of my brothers are attempting recovery, thank God! My husband is a binge drinker. He'll drink himself toxic for about 2-3 weeks and then w...

gknee · gknee

Hi all- I'm an "irregular" visitor on this board. Maybe it's because my H is an irregular addict? whatever. My H is currently sick. Legitimately ill, in need of medical help? who knows. I'm a nurse and I can't make sense of his symptoms. He's not going to work, holed up in bed, repo...

Lanchas · Lanchas

There are some times when I am annoyed that my mom is an alcoholic and because of that feeling of annoyance I say hurtful comments as a result. Perfect example..... This past weekend I watched a Sandra Bullock movie, 28 Days, which is about an A going to a rehab center and getting help. Then tonight I was w...

gknee · gknee

thanks so much for all of the heartfelt replies I received from my post the other day. I appreciate your ESH so much. I think back on how much I have learned from alanon, despite my rare visits to F2F and intermittent postings here. as an update-- my H appears to be on the mend-- yesterday was riducu...

marmare · marmare

Just a short update on my friend's daughter. She is still in a medically induced coma, there is some damage to the lower part of the back of her brain. This part controls all you do. However yesterday, she moved her one arm, one leg and rolled herself to her side. The next 30 hours are critcal for her.....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((Friends))))))))))), I can not begin to tell you the graditude I feel in my heart for you wonderful friends I have come to love, the shoulders to cry on, the hands that reached out right to me...wow...how amazing is that....my life is getting better as each day comes...odat....and wow how...

pabell · pabell

I feel like I'm on a roller coaster and I'm just waiting for it to slow down to get off. I'm full of emotions and crying comes very easy right now. I hate being like this, I hate feeling like this. I know, I need to get to a meeting, 12 hour days at work are really hard somedays. Maybe if I just vent, write it...

Diva · Diva

I LOVE Jewish jokes. The reason is because I am Jewish, and one thing I have learned over my lifetime is to laugth at myself. Here is one for ya. Morris and his wife Esther went to the state fair every year, and every year Morris would say, "Esther, I'd like to ride in that helicopter". Esther...

Tricia1197 · Tricia1197

Hello All, I am so glad I found this site!! I can tell I need it real bad!! I have such a long story it is hard to know where to begin. I don't know if you all want to read it all but I guess it will do a lot of good for me just to write it down and get it off my chest. I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulde...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone)))))) I have heard that phrase many times in my lifetime. I related something my wife had told me and that was my fathers response. Just recently, I realized that there is a deeper meaning to this than I had thought. I always imagined that the 'booze talking' descripter had to do with...

serendipity · serendipity

It has been a bad day so far. I had a feeling that I would be hearing from ex ah and he called. Well, he figured out how to just leave a voice mail without my phone ringing(too bad he couldn't put all that technical knowledge to good use and get a job). Anyway, he was just calling to ask if he could come to the ki...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Just gotta put this into words, because for the life of me I can't see the sense in it. My 10yr daughter was unable to get a hold of her dad by phone tonite. She started calling him around 6:30. She was offered some free tickets to a baseball game this next weekend and she wanted to discuss the possibility o...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I have given a lot of thought and prayer to this subject today and have made the decision to hold a group conscious meeting tonight on the subject. If all agree the welcome which is read at the beginning of the meeting will be amended to the following.... The sharing of your experience, strength and hop...

cheerup0424 · cheerup0424

Hi, I'm new here, and dealing with a relapsing husband. He got his second DUI in February. He didn't tell me about it for three weeks, I happened to be out of town when it happened. When he did tell me about it, he told me that the one good thing that came out of it was that he realized that he was an alcohol...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I am not sure how to handle this one. I went to a f2f meeting on Sunday night which is a women only meeting of all 12 step groups. It was a great meeting and quite helpful in that participants were priviledged to hear sharings from all views of the addiction disease and it's effects on everyone. HOWEVER,...

marmare · marmare

My husband and I have a dear friend, who's daughter, 24, was in a horrible accident......she is suffering from severe head injuries, please say a prayer for her. Thank you

Lanchas · Lanchas

I center my life around alcohol - i find a way to connect anything and everything to it; i blame my actions/thoughts/lifestyle-related things on the fact that I have alcoholic parents. How do I stop this? Ever feel this way or do this? ESH needed. Lanchas

Kim65 · Kim65

-- Edited by Kim65 at 18:17, 2007-05-29

Loupiness · Loupiness

My Ahsober no longer in our home. Since he doesn't want to be defined as an A, he is not actively working a program nor will had admit that aism played any part in our dysfunctional marriage. So, he is just getting more and more bitter. Don't know for sure, but I think he has his A girlfriend giving him co...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I am afraid that I may have alcoholic tendencies even though I don't drink. I think of Coca Cola as my alcohol........ * I can't stop drinking it. *I drink can after can or glass after glass. *all the time *especially when I am mad * I killed two bottles of 2-liter bottles in two days. * I use it to...

Lexie · Lexie

Dear (((((((((Friends))))))))), As many of you know, years ago I had a grandson that died a tragic death. I won't go into it here for those of you that don't know, but will say that it was a senseless, horrible day for all of us that loved him. That was 18 years ago today. It's so hard to believe it has bee...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I got an email from financial aid this morning. It said that they couldn't process my financial aid because they were unable to verify my "admissions status." Uhhhhh, okay. You're taking my money as if you're pretty sure, I thought. So, I start out by making a phone call to financial aid....

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((MIP Friends))) I know there is probably not alot of you on the board this weekend with the holiday and all, but I guess I need some E,S,and H. This weekend kicked off horrible. Friday I had to take the kiddos to the doctor for their 4-year old shots, but unfortunately I was feeling terrible. The med...

lilms · lilms

((((((Friends)))))) Okay, this is a bone of contention for me. And I am not one that likes to complain but here goes. Is it possible to not quote the bible on this board??? If I were to quote from the book of wiccan and were to then say that there are many lessons to be learned from this and if we were to foll...

Becky1 · Becky1

30 years ago, I witnessed the death of a friend and neighbor, and that event set into motion a lot of changes in my life. I was married to my daughter's dad, she was a year old, we lived in the state where I am from. On Memorial Day evening, in 1977, we were watching TV, when we heard someone screaming...it wa...

Becky1 · Becky1

OK...here goes.....Those of you who know me, know I have one child, a grown daughter...and I have a step-son who has a little girl, my granddaughter, who is 3, and lives 6 hours away, so don't get to see her much. I also, from another marriage, have 2 beautiful step grandkids ( a girl and a boy), in their ea...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Everyone))))) My sponsor sent this to me a while back and I saved it. Ran across it tonight for no "aparent" reason. One double click that missed it's mark and all of a sudden - a reading that is just what I needed to see tonight. I am so appreciative to him for that. Hope you enjoy it too...

pabell · pabell

I know that my husbands recovery is his recovery and not mine. I know it's not my business and I can not control him or the alcohol, and I am not responisible for it. I know all this and I believe all this. But warning lights are screaming in my brain and in my house right now and I'm having a hard time ig...

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	Detaching is hard...the with love part is harder! (Preview) I have been finding myself pondering the thought that my A could decide to get better and we could live happily ever after again (damn that hope!) and have been thinking about the girl that he has gone to jail over or with twice now. It kills me that I love him so much and he would just go find someone else an...	carolinagirl	7	586	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	dealing with sobriety and the financial issues (Preview) I am frustrated and so tired of my sober a of almost 10yrs turning every conversation about work and money into him being the victim. I have tried detaching wiht love and it works great but I am still thinking doing that will make him do the right thing in his own time..Doesn't happen! My A;s job is up/dow...	rxygrl	9	656	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	Interesting Irony and A excuses/manipulation (Preview) I had this really interesting conversation with my mother in law yesterday. We were talking about the a/da who was released and then went back into jail to clear up everything he has... Anywho she says that every time she talks to him he always blames her (she has been sober 20 years) for him being the w...	carolinagirl	3	489	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	Why is it so hard for some people to understand? (Preview) Yesterday my A son was told by his ex-wife that she was engaged and going to get married. A son is not taking it so well. (you know the old "I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you" saying) He doesn't want to be back with her but is having a really hard time accepting that anoter man...	Gailey	4	577	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	maresie??? (Preview) Are you okay?	carolinagirl	3	329	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	The Hallway (Preview) (((Hello MIP Friends))) I guess I got a burning desire to write and share some thoughts with you all today. A topic in the Monday night meeting was the "The Hallway" that place we all get to when one door closes and the next door is about to open. People were expressing their experiences in t...	twinmom2	7	397	Jun 3, 2007 by maresie2
	My child relapsed (Preview) This is my first time on the board. I am new to Al-Anon as well. I learned in February that my 18-year-old daughter is an addict. She completed a 30-day program in April and has done well until last Thursday night when she called to say that she was drunk and couldn't drive home. I haven't heard from he...	lkj	8	651	Jun 3, 2007 by lkj
	Sunday, June 3rd Agenda 9PM EST - hope y'all can come (Preview) June 3rd Agenda I.Old Business i.(Danz) Secretary's Report - Review/approve Minutes of May 6th. ii.(David62) Treasurer's Report iii.Update on being registered with WSO iv.Annual permission to use CAL in meetings only v.Open or Closed Meeting vi.Meeting Minutes posted to the Al-anon Message B...	Maria123	2	400	Jun 3, 2007 by Maria123
	rtexas. I thought of you today. (Preview) So how is the squirrels doing? hehe I was at the yacht club today with the kids and I was trying real hard to enjoy nature and I remembered what you had said right? So as I'm laying there a black one inch crab crawled onto my blanekt sending me over the edge, it looked too much like a spider, then my kids were ea...	Friendofyours	1	328	Jun 2, 2007 by rtexas
	I think you would call this a slip (Preview) Well I had been doing really well I thought, keeping my mouth shut and my thoughts to myself and trying to keep my side of the street clean, but then I lost it, and all those days when I didn't say a thing all those day's that I was proud I lived through and kept my thoughts to myself, well they all spilled out o...	Katy	5	396	Jun 2, 2007 by Friendofyours
	Chipmunks, cars, and insanity! Oh my! (Preview) (((((((Family))))), Well..... it's be an interesting 36 hours to say the least. Is HP laughing at me? Our railroad ties caught on fire so I came running home. We're fine. someone had thrown a cigarette butt down into it. It smoldered for several hours. A woman upstairs came in while hubby was sle...	Karilynn	2	523	Jun 2, 2007 by Kim65
	Counterdepency (Preview) While Counterdependency is not yet nearly as well known a concept as its sister condition, Codependency, it is an extremely vital paradigm in understanding the behavior and motivation of the majority of men in our culture. In this article I will define this predominantly male condition and attemp...	kissers	6	8274	Jun 2, 2007 by Kim65
	It's the hormones talking.... (Preview) I was reading some posts today and saw one that made me think of the flip side of the coin... cause thats where I'm at lately. Beginning peri-menopause and omg! it can sure wreak havoc with my mood. At first I didn't recognize what it was, but since being in Alanon I've learned to put the focus on me and wh...	kismetstrand	7	562	Jun 2, 2007 by bob6502
	The power of prayer is amazing! (Preview) Our dear girl while in a medical induced coma decided yesterday that she doesn't want to sleep anymore and woke up!!!! She turned her head and found her brother, who is her best friend, sitting next to her bed. She looked and him and started crying.......then that stubborn strong willed girl started...	marmare	9	464	Jun 2, 2007 by Leetle
	Why??? (Preview) This is my first post, but hoping for some good feed back...I am currently stuggling with how it is if I am trying to only take care of my side of the fence, I feel more hatred for the alcoholic in my life (spouse) I work come home in time to pick kids from bus stop, take daughter to cheerleading or dance 3 nigh...	mrspjb	8	664	Jun 2, 2007 by mrspjb
	Hormone wacked teen, menapausal mom (Preview) I am having a real hard time with daughter right now. She is about to turn 16, decided she hated me, has said she would run away from home if she had a place to go, and wants to go to a foster home. She even attacked me, clawing my arm with her nails and drawing blood. I just stood there crying, what to do, I can't...	Eve Eve Eve	6	479	Jun 2, 2007 by pls
	Financial woe's (Preview) Alot of these posts have me thinking. Doesn't it seem that with or without an A in our life, that life is just getting financially harder? It's like the price of gas sky rockets yet our paychecks do not. Our taxes get higher and our paychecks do not. How can stamps go up, gas, taxes, bills, ect and our pa...	Friendofyours	3	309	Jun 2, 2007 by pls
	I'm in, so now what? (Preview) I just got accepted to the nursing program here!! WHoooHooo! I am honored because it is a competitive program and there are not many spots open. I applied last year and didn't make it, I was pretty bummed out because I felt like there was nothing I could do. I retook some classes and applied again, now I'm...	RainyJamie	15	650	Jun 2, 2007 by Karilynn
	Perfection (Preview) I have been thinking about the time I was married. We dated for six months and my ex proposed. Inside I felt that is was the wrong choice, but I went ahead and got married. After we were married, my husband stopped cooking dinner and I gladly took over the responsibility. I worked full-time, cooked every...	kissers	3	432	Jun 1, 2007 by Kim65
	True blue alcholic thinking (Preview) http://news.yahoo.com/comics/shoe;_ylt=AsFkKQ0cyYv11aS0TbxxMswDwLAF	Tiger2006	2	431	Jun 1, 2007 by kissers
	Happy Happy Joy Joy Joy!!!! (NOT?) (Preview) The last week has been one of those where I struggle to keep my thoughts from spiralling into focus upon my AH. Unless I keep up this effort to keep myself apart from his insanity, I end up very depressed. I end up missing out on so much good, even great, when my thoughts are consumed with the A. I mean, he...	Kim65	3	2160	Jun 1, 2007 by QOD
	Becomming an Adult? (Preview) Yesterday I found out who the new woman my ex is with is. I saw a flyer for her business and it immediatly connected that that is who she is. Still haven't seen her in person. But honestly, it was everything I had in me NOT to call her. It is everything I have in me NOT to report her to the board for inappropria...	serendipity	6	436	Jun 1, 2007 by lin0606
	New Member Question - What should I do? (Preview) Im new to the board and Al-Anon and in need of your opinions. My AH is also bi-polar and addicted to pot, just got out of an inpatient stay for his bi-polar & addictions, as he when off meds and began actively drinking and using, upon release he came home with the following stipulations (I really did...	sdoody	15	878	Jun 1, 2007 by Mobirdie
	family (Preview) Hi everyone, Now that I'm recovering I'm having lots of ups and downs. But today is okay. Babysteps. Anyway, I saw my parents yesterday. I have a polite relationship with my mother. My dad is an activeA. He's getting old now, retired and cannot drink as much. He just keeps quiet generally. Anyway, I'm n...	annmarie	4	602	Jun 1, 2007 by Tiger2006
	CONFUSED BY A'S BEHAVIOR:: ANYONE HELP (Preview) ((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))))) I have been fantastic for a few weeks, really working my programme. I am back at work, working long shifts. It's 11pm, I am up at 6am, and I cannot sleep, my mind is racing, due to the A's behavor... You know my history with this guy. We had a long time friendship that led...	ally	11	674	Jun 1, 2007 by ally
	Oak - tough as nails (Preview) This story originates from a true story of a Pin Oak Tree that my grandparents planted in our front yard (their front yard at the time) when they were first married. The acorn fell from a huge tree. The acorn had sprouted a delicate small sprout. The tree grew to a seedling. The young couple, just starti...	java	2	389	Jun 1, 2007 by ally
	Debilyn? (Preview) Are you still subscribing to the "Daily Puppy?" Today's puppy, half Daschund (sp?) and half Chihuahua is about the cutest thing I've seen. Guaranteed to make you grin from ear to ear!!!! Diva	Diva	3	408	Jun 1, 2007 by Karilynn
	I Apologized to HP (Preview) I realized that I don't want to do this all alone so I said I'm sorry to HP for screaming all those things at Him. This is such a rollercoaster ride for me. When I was a little kid, all the way till I was pregnant the first time, I was terrified to throw up. I'm talking unreasonable paralizing fear. I spent mo...	serendipity	3	444	May 31, 2007 by Kim65
	Recovery on a Shoestring... (Preview) Hello Friends, "Friendofyours" post about the economy being hard on so many of us really got me thinking. Lately I have had some very stressful times in my family, my children needing a lot of items and being sick and hospitalized and I have been very stressed out, and frankly "taki...	Alanoner	12	595	May 31, 2007 by Moon
	Grateful for my life.... (Preview) I was in the chatroom today and someone shared "This place saved my life" I have said that alot. This is where my alanon journey started. I came to find out the magic words on how to get my husband and son straight. I came with a beautifully decorated pitty pot, a mean blame game and enoug...	greta	3	1110	May 31, 2007 by david62
	so what ever happened with the investigation??? (Preview) I noticed the sticky about the investigation is gone, just wondering what happened with all that?	carolinagirl	2	350	May 31, 2007 by debilyn
	Anger or Resentments? (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) I had someone challenge my thinking recently and just thought I'd share. This week when I walked into my F2F meeting I made sure to sit to the right of person holding the meeting. I knew that I was in a bad way and that I needed to shut up and listen. By sitting there I'd be the last pers...	Lunamoth	10	612	May 31, 2007 by Lunamoth
	New here (Preview) I've been reading here for about a week or so. I have 3 A brothers, an A Dad (after I became an adult) and my husband (who's parents and two brothers are also A's). Two of my brothers are attempting recovery, thank God! My husband is a binge drinker. He'll drink himself toxic for about 2-3 weeks and then w...	InsertCleverNameHere	9	462	May 31, 2007 by InsertCleverNameHere
	don't know what I am dealing with (Preview) Hi all- I'm an "irregular" visitor on this board. Maybe it's because my H is an irregular addict? whatever. My H is currently sick. Legitimately ill, in need of medical help? who knows. I'm a nurse and I can't make sense of his symptoms. He's not going to work, holed up in bed, repo...	gknee	9	640	May 31, 2007 by carolinagirl
	feelings (Preview) There are some times when I am annoyed that my mom is an alcoholic and because of that feeling of annoyance I say hurtful comments as a result. Perfect example..... This past weekend I watched a Sandra Bullock movie, 28 Days, which is about an A going to a rehab center and getting help. Then tonight I was w...	Lanchas	3	394	May 31, 2007 by Lanchas
	you all are the best! (Preview) thanks so much for all of the heartfelt replies I received from my post the other day. I appreciate your ESH so much. I think back on how much I have learned from alanon, despite my rare visits to F2F and intermittent postings here. as an update-- my H appears to be on the mend-- yesterday was riducu...	gknee	2	336	May 31, 2007 by Karilynn
	Keep Praying... :-) (Preview) Just a short update on my friend's daughter. She is still in a medically induced coma, there is some damage to the lower part of the back of her brain. This part controls all you do. However yesterday, she moved her one arm, one leg and rolled herself to her side. The next 30 hours are critcal for her.....	marmare	7	377	May 31, 2007 by Karilynn
	Thank You Friends (Preview) ((((((((((Friends))))))))))), I can not begin to tell you the graditude I feel in my heart for you wonderful friends I have come to love, the shoulders to cry on, the hands that reached out right to me...wow...how amazing is that....my life is getting better as each day comes...odat....and wow how...	Andrea12	4	414	May 31, 2007 by Karilynn
	Expectations (Preview) I feel like I'm on a roller coaster and I'm just waiting for it to slow down to get off. I'm full of emotions and crying comes very easy right now. I hate being like this, I hate feeling like this. I know, I need to get to a meeting, 12 hour days at work are really hard somedays. Maybe if I just vent, write it...	pabell	5	508	May 30, 2007 by Becky1
	Don't call me prejudiced...just enjoy the joke. (Preview) I LOVE Jewish jokes. The reason is because I am Jewish, and one thing I have learned over my lifetime is to laugth at myself. Here is one for ya. Morris and his wife Esther went to the state fair every year, and every year Morris would say, "Esther, I'd like to ride in that helicopter". Esther...	Diva	19	1605	May 30, 2007 by CJ
	My Father the Alcoholic (Preview) Hello All, I am so glad I found this site!! I can tell I need it real bad!! I have such a long story it is hard to know where to begin. I don't know if you all want to read it all but I guess it will do a lot of good for me just to write it down and get it off my chest. I feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulde...	Tricia1197	9	622	May 30, 2007 by Lanchas
	It's the booze talking... (Preview) (((((Everyone)))))) I have heard that phrase many times in my lifetime. I related something my wife had told me and that was my fathers response. Just recently, I realized that there is a deeper meaning to this than I had thought. I always imagined that the 'booze talking' descripter had to do with...	rtexas	10	728	May 30, 2007 by CJ
	I Had A Screaming Match With HP (Preview) It has been a bad day so far. I had a feeling that I would be hearing from ex ah and he called. Well, he figured out how to just leave a voice mail without my phone ringing(too bad he couldn't put all that technical knowledge to good use and get a job). Anyway, he was just calling to ask if he could come to the ki...	serendipity	6	898	May 30, 2007 by carolinagirl
	It's official - I'm nuts! (Preview) Just gotta put this into words, because for the life of me I can't see the sense in it. My 10yr daughter was unable to get a hold of her dad by phone tonite. She started calling him around 6:30. She was offered some free tickets to a baseball game this next weekend and she wanted to discuss the possibility o...	Loupiness	8	511	May 30, 2007 by carolinagirl
	profanity in f2f...decision (Preview) I have given a lot of thought and prayer to this subject today and have made the decision to hold a group conscious meeting tonight on the subject. If all agree the welcome which is read at the beginning of the meeting will be amended to the following.... The sharing of your experience, strength and hop...	Mobirdie	9	631	May 30, 2007 by Rita G
	Do I confront him? (Preview) Hi, I'm new here, and dealing with a relapsing husband. He got his second DUI in February. He didn't tell me about it for three weeks, I happened to be out of town when it happened. When he did tell me about it, he told me that the one good thing that came out of it was that he realized that he was an alcohol...	cheerup0424	6	580	May 30, 2007 by Rita G
	Profanity in f2f meetings? (Preview) I am not sure how to handle this one. I went to a f2f meeting on Sunday night which is a women only meeting of all 12 step groups. It was a great meeting and quite helpful in that participants were priviledged to hear sharings from all views of the addiction disease and it's effects on everyone. HOWEVER,...	Mobirdie	6	2861	May 30, 2007 by gardengal
	Prayer Request (Preview) My husband and I have a dear friend, who's daughter, 24, was in a horrible accident......she is suffering from severe head injuries, please say a prayer for her. Thank you	marmare	10	400	May 29, 2007 by wp
	blame (Preview) I center my life around alcohol - i find a way to connect anything and everything to it; i blame my actions/thoughts/lifestyle-related things on the fact that I have alcoholic parents. How do I stop this? Ever feel this way or do this? ESH needed. Lanchas	Lanchas	7	522	May 29, 2007 by abbyal
	Happy Happy Joy Joy Joy!!!! (NOT?) (Preview) -- Edited by Kim65 at 18:17, 2007-05-29	Kim65	0	245	May 29, 2007 by Kim65
	more harm than good? (Preview) My Ahsober no longer in our home. Since he doesn't want to be defined as an A, he is not actively working a program nor will had admit that aism played any part in our dysfunctional marriage. So, he is just getting more and more bitter. Don't know for sure, but I think he has his A girlfriend giving him co...	Loupiness	4	424	May 29, 2007 by Friendofyours
	alcoholic tendencies (Preview) I am afraid that I may have alcoholic tendencies even though I don't drink. I think of Coca Cola as my alcohol........ * I can't stop drinking it. I drink can after can or glass after glass. all the time especially when I am mad I killed two bottles of 2-liter bottles in two days. * I use it to...	Lanchas	5	1016	May 29, 2007 by Rita G
	Just needed to share (Preview) Dear (((((((((Friends))))))))), As many of you know, years ago I had a grandson that died a tragic death. I won't go into it here for those of you that don't know, but will say that it was a senseless, horrible day for all of us that loved him. That was 18 years ago today. It's so hard to believe it has bee...	Lexie	11	690	May 29, 2007 by mel123
	I GOT IN!!!....and now they're not letting me out :-D (Preview) I got an email from financial aid this morning. It said that they couldn't process my financial aid because they were unable to verify my "admissions status." Uhhhhh, okay. You're taking my money as if you're pretty sure, I thought. So, I start out by making a phone call to financial aid....	Tiger2006	7	499	May 29, 2007 by Rita G
	Just cause your sober doesn't mean your nice (Preview) (((MIP Friends))) I know there is probably not alot of you on the board this weekend with the holiday and all, but I guess I need some E,S,and H. This weekend kicked off horrible. Friday I had to take the kiddos to the doctor for their 4-year old shots, but unfortunately I was feeling terrible. The med...	twinmom2	9	621	May 29, 2007 by sash
	Not sure how to title this (Preview) ((((((Friends)))))) Okay, this is a bone of contention for me. And I am not one that likes to complain but here goes. Is it possible to not quote the bible on this board??? If I were to quote from the book of wiccan and were to then say that there are many lessons to be learned from this and if we were to foll...	lilms	15	772	May 29, 2007 by debilyn
	In Memory of a Friend (Preview) 30 years ago, I witnessed the death of a friend and neighbor, and that event set into motion a lot of changes in my life. I was married to my daughter's dad, she was a year old, we lived in the state where I am from. On Memorial Day evening, in 1977, we were watching TV, when we heard someone screaming...it wa...	Becky1	3	450	May 29, 2007 by Rita G
	I'M GOING TO BE A GRAMMA (AGAIN)! (Preview) OK...here goes.....Those of you who know me, know I have one child, a grown daughter...and I have a step-son who has a little girl, my granddaughter, who is 3, and lives 6 hours away, so don't get to see her much. I also, from another marriage, have 2 beautiful step grandkids ( a girl and a boy), in their ea...	Becky1	8	575	May 29, 2007 by Rita G
	And now for something completely different... Detatchment with Love. (Preview) (((((Everyone))))) My sponsor sent this to me a while back and I saved it. Ran across it tonight for no "aparent" reason. One double click that missed it's mark and all of a sudden - a reading that is just what I needed to see tonight. I am so appreciative to him for that. Hope you enjoy it too...	rtexas	6	482	May 29, 2007 by lilms
	Where is the line? (Preview) I know that my husbands recovery is his recovery and not mine. I know it's not my business and I can not control him or the alcohol, and I am not responisible for it. I know all this and I believe all this. But warning lights are screaming in my brain and in my house right now and I'm having a hard time ig...	pabell	7	634	May 29, 2007 by Karilynn
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