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I have a question or am wondering about something. My partner has been in and out of the program for 10 months now. He does have a willingness to change but is really having a tough time. He is going to go to an outpatient program in our city and step up his meetings. I know that people this question aggravates people but what are the odds of long term recovery? What percentage of people actually makes it once they start AA and go religiously? Thank you.
You could find many different numbers and statistics; most you find will not be favorable for a recovery of an addict. Numbers are just that, though, and we each work our program to implement the life changes we deem necessary. Let it begin with me. I am powerless over Alcohol, Alcoholics, Other people in general, etc etc. What I can affect is me. I am under my scope of responsibility. Just me.
If your partner is willing to do the work, and works his program, he will find a great deal more joy and serenity.
yours in recovery cj
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time to stop going to the hardware store to buy bread.
I am not sure what you mean about "making it." There is no cure for being an addict.
They will always have the behaviors of an addict. Hopefully in recovery they will stay on their map of recovery or their plan.
I do understand what is making you ask. However there really is no answer. Everyone is different in their recovery mode. They don't even know.
That is why we must detach. It is not our concern. We cannot control it anymore than we can fly. It is their disease, their own recover, relapse whatever. We learn to love them as is. And we learn how to keep ourselves ok no matter what they go thru.
If I told you oh the average recovery is two months. Then we would be watching them get past two months.
Hello arty I dont' know if any one could answer that question for you . You say partner is in and out of program . In is the only way that I know of that works on a along time basis . But thats up to him nothing u can do about that . Niether of our programs work part time . Take care of you and regardless of what he does u will be okay . Louise
Welcome to the MIP family. Like everyone else has said there are many different stats to look at. I can tell you from hubby's group there have been only 3 that have survived their first year. Hubby really didn't do that, as he was/is a chronic relapser. He has passed his 1 year mark, but it took him almost 2 1/2 years. He also reminds me that you never win/fully recover. I know that sounds depressing. But as he reminds me, if you think you've won the battle or are recovered, it can make him over confident. That's when relapses happen. It's the same for us.
Remember your recovery has to be about you and for you, regardless if he chooses recovery or not. It's about taking back your life. The dynamics of a sober relationship vs. an active relationship are very different. Keep working on you. His recovery is up to him.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It's your life. Take no prisoners. You will have it your way.
As a recovering A who is also working this program, I can only repeat what I have witnessed and experienced - recovery is 24 hours at a time. I do not know what tomorrow will bring, but for today, by the grace of God, I am sober.
The other comments are right on regarding your program, you can only work on you. I am powerless over anyone else so I must not let my recovery become dependant on anyone other then my HP.
That is a question I wondered for a long time - I think for me today, I believe it is about where the A is on their path with their recovery.
For me, attending open AA meetings, helped with a better acceptance of the disease, the "ins & outs" of some people, how & why that happened to them. Also reading the Big Book of AA was very informative.
I just had to remember that doing this was just for me to understand the disease not for me to find out how to "fix" the A's in my life. - lol
Wishing you peace, Rita
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No matter what me and my God are going to be ok, even better than OK -
Thank you for your reply. It is hard to find numbers. I have been working my Alanon program for 9 months now and I have viewed this disease in an "emotional" way. This past slip made me want to see it in terms of what are the "real " chances for his recovery not just the the one I wanted him to have. That is why I wanted some statistics. I thought it would be good to look at the hard, cold facts. I hope I am making sense. Thanks again.
