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New Member and Not Sure How to Do This · cmarina2001

I am new to the group. A little bit about myself. I am living with an alcholic but of course he will not see that. Right now I have been battling with an Eating Disorder and have been doing that for a year. when I used to bring up about how I have this addiction and how he needs to get treatment for his addiction...

beth280 · beth280

I've been working on my personal inventory and find myself even more depressed. I hurt someone really bad and I have regretted it ever since (10 years ago). I was living with a guy...a normal guy. He loved me for who I was, never asked for anything from me and treated me like a princess. He had no real vi...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Last night the kids and I went to dinner at my husband's sister's home. His mom, brother and his wife were there too. It has gotten to the point now where only one of us is invited. My AH called to ask his sis a question while we were there and everyone hushed. Wierd. I enjoyed myself, we had wonderful, fun co...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

He left. I gave him a choice booze or his familey and he left. I cant describ how I feel. Deverstated is a little of an understatment. Feels like he has ripped my heart out and stammped on it. He said he wont let me rule his life he is going to drink with or without me and I expect him to be a man he isnt. He said he d...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

I got a phone call today from a very distraught woman whose husband has returned to drinking. She was crying, full of fear, desperately reaching out hoping someone could fix it, and my heart went out to her. She called me because I am listed as the AA contact for our AA meetings here, but I also qualify for...

Aloha · Aloha

Just fair warning, this is really, REALLY long, and honestly, I think that I'm just working things through in my head as I post this. I had a long, trying and exhausting weekend full of highs and lows. Jeez. I almost think my weekend was bipolar or something. As I've mentioned before, my AH's brothe...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Its been years. I have struggled and massaged and contorted and tried and suffered and did every thing imaginable regarding puzzling over this question: to stay or to leave. I finally am ready. It just came to me one morning after I woke up: I am ready to move on. I deserve better. Even if I am driven to liv...

Tracy · Tracy

hi everyone my A went out 9 days ago got drunk and has not been in touch since. Hes in his mums See he knows I will not accept it anymore. I have had good and bad days Thought he might have rang 2day 3rd anniversary he never This helps me to see I am doing the right thing I know he loves me but he knows its not worki...

norwood · norwood

what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...

Maria123 · Maria123

(((((((((((Kari)))))))))))) Today is the day (or is it week) that calories don't count ? Happy Birthday!!! to you. Here is your and ice cream (hmm need an emoticon for that one because ice cream is my favorite ). Wishes for a wonderful year ahead for you. Live Strong, Maria

norwood · norwood

what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...

angel123 · angel123

You Are ..... > > > > You are strong... when you take your grief and teach > > it to smile. > > You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help > > others to do the same. > > You are happy... when you see a flower and are > > thankful for the blessing. > >...

debilyn · debilyn

I have seen this question many times. In my experience,even if I don't have an A in my life,what I have learned here at MIP alanon, my life is ever so much better. I am a better person. I took a bit off from the internet pet lists I am on.Was feeling so crummy losing animals right and left to old age. My attitud...

omajoy · omajoy

This week has been one step forward, two back, but I am rebounding more quickly than earlier in my journey. Made several errors this week in dealing with my son. He has had two awful days of discoveries/experiences with his EX which has knocked him off his sobriety once more. I, forgetting what I know t...

ddub · ddub

I was reading the thread "in all our affairs" by Lin plus replies from Jerry and others. This is really a thought provoking thread that has given me a lot to think about. I was sensitive, loner, runner, fearful ....... I barely express myself, let alone express anger. I can help others but...

angel123 · angel123

Step One: RELAX-> I don't have to be in charge or in control anymore. It's going to be okay. Step Two: RELAX-> I can simply believe that someone stronger than I can restore me to health and wholeness. Step Three: RELAX-> I can easily turn my whole life and well-being over to God, as I understand...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Okay, I keep coming across this phrase... "Living in the now...", which encourages me to concentrate on just that, but I don't really have a clue what it means. Whilst I realise that it is healthy to live each day as it comes, my past is a part of me, and my future is what I will be, so by "Li...

angel123 · angel123

Affirmations I am creative and intelligent I am a magnet for Miracles I am always in the right place at the right time I am a natural winner I am powerful magnet for Abundance I am open and willing to change I am open to all business opportunities I am committed to excellence in all I do I am success in motion...

missinghim · missinghim

Hi im new to alanon and im unable to attend f2f meetings due to a difficult pregnancy so i am in need on an online sponsor. please email me or respond here my email is lovingarmstrong@yahoo.com Only females inquire please.

nmike · nmike

My HP works in mysterious ways. Right after I posted last night I was of course having my pity party about being left out of my AHsober's plans (a novel idea that he plans around me). Another neighbor called and invited me to supper Sunday nite. Her relatives from Hilo, HI are in town and would I like to com...

lin0606 · lin0606

I've had quite the week, with plenty of opportunities to use my alanon tools. My job, which I have been at for many years, gives me a high degree of autonomy - I basically am my own boss, within the limits of reality (budget, licensing regulations, etc). We got a new director in January, and since that ti...

stillkickin · stillkickin

This last year has been very crazy for me to say the least! Came within inches of death, took on lots of extra responsibilities, and had the toughest semester I've ever had! Somehow, I was able to get through it all.....the program has become rooted so well in my life that even when I couldn't get to meeti...

doublesmommy · doublesmommy

This is my first time posting. I believe my husband is a functioning alcoholic. I never grew up around alcohol, sure I saw my parents have the odd drink, but neither one was the type who came home and "had to unwind" by knocking a few back. That's why this is very difficult for me to figure out...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I have been reflecting of late where I was this time last year. I am in such a better place and I am so grateful for the learning curve that seemed to be a real tough one in October of last year. So many years have passed by and it seemed as though I was always going to be stuck in the same old same old. How delig...

cynthi45 · cynthi45

Can you tell me, is it acceptable in the AA program for recovering Alcoholics to develop and maintain a close relationship to someone of the opposite sex and go to breakfast/lunch on occasion with them, go to the gym and workout with each other, call each other almost daily? I admit I am a jealous per...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, It is the weekend to stay home. Catch up at work and at home. It is hard for me but not as hard as it use to be. Everyone leaves for the weekend. Kinda lonely. I ask my sons to call me on Sunday - is once a week too much? They usually don't call. I am having dinner with a neighbor tomorrow night. Sh...

angel123 · angel123

Look beyond Look beyond what irritates you and you'll find those things that empower you. Look past what frustrates you and begin to uncover what drives you. Look beyond what worries you and you'll discover what inspires you. Look beyond what frightens you and you'll see what strengthens you. Look b...

Jen · Jen

I was called out(gently) at a meeting last night. I had shared a bit about feeling betrayed by someone and trouble I was having with someone who was, at one time, my biggest support. Anyway someone with only a few months in the program asked me, "With all your experience and so much more time in the p...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, At present I am socialising quite a bit and have become attracted to a man I have met. As things are still unclear with ex A, I am unable to move on, yet I find myself having deep feeling for someone who is not all that suitable for me. Our relationship is fueled by alcohol. I am not in any shape at pre...

iona54 · iona54

am on a laptop geting wireless..but cannot get into room either by website or by mirc please help as am needing room while in hospital with my a who has had surgery hugs to all iona54

Diva · Diva

Please private message me and tell me about your island and your surroundings. I promised myself years ago I would someday live in Hawaii, and the time has come to throw caution to the wind, sell out here, and make my dream come true. I intend to come with a couple suitcases, my kitties and my dog. I hav...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Hello All, This is the first time posting i have been on this website a couple times and have read some of the postings. I am currently attending my 3rd alanon meeting tonight. I have so many ? and want all the answers right now! Attending meetings and reading literatue has opened so many closed doors. Bu...

angel123 · angel123

During the years this great PROGRAM HAS EXCIST fellow Alanons Wrote quick quotes, poems, Wisdom, Shares of ESH, Feelings, list goes on. I have writen a few in my days in Alanon that I would like to share a few.. Fellow Alanons .. left pieces to a puzzle of the dease. Of flowers for us. Along our Journey.(b...

MIDGET · MIDGET

My ex AH ( of 15 yrs)told me tonight tht hes going to go to Tenn. to meet this woman hes been chattin w on line .Apparently hes been chatting w her for over a yr.So our divorce isnt even final and now he has a potential girlfriend ?!?!??!? OK..dont get me wrong, I want him out of my bedroom, but come on,, hes bee...

Aloha · Aloha

Whew... what an interesting night. Tonight was the kickoff meeting for the Big island Bash AA/Al-Anon convention. As i've been posting before, my AH has been tagging along, arms crossed walls and barriers on super-strength. Well, in the middle of the kickoff meeting, my AH got a message on his c...

Christy · Christy

My daughter just called, her fiance's Mother died this morning at the age of 48. She was a professional, a biologist. She fought hard for the last few yrs to overcome the disease. She was a kind hearted woman with a huge alcohol problem. She was so looking forward to our kids wedding (which has no date). I...

laurab · laurab

Is this detaching? I don't feel love right now, just anger. Anger at myself for all the fixing and stopping my 31 yr old A son from feeling and living consequences, and anger at him for drinking and drugging and creating all the chaos that I've lived in for 10 years. (It's taken me 9 1/2 years to realize my e...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Hello everyone! It's been awhile since I have been here. (sept 07) I don't know I guess I thought I was Ok and My hubby was finally realizing that I wasn't putting up with his crap anymore. Man oh man was I wrong. Granted things has been much better than it had been in the past. He had quit drinking AGAIN, and...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

He made it home past midnight with someone driving him. He could hardley walk. He was very nice to them but as soon as he saw me he started acting like a real creep. Stumbling around the house kicking stuff and saying mean things. I didn't want him to wake the kids up or fall down and hurt himself. He started...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Paste this into your browser and just listen to the voice of an angel. I don't know how to copy it here so that you can open it here, but if any of the moderators do, please do it for me please: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC-lKhr1k0g This is ittle six year old Conney singing - Somewhere over the Rain...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family)))) My AH, myself, our daughter and her boyfriend will be going to Las Vegas on Friday. We promised our daughter that when she turned 21, we would take her to Vegas, and the time has come. I wish I could get excited about it. I feel instead like I will be going out onto a battlefield. I know I wil...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

but, right now I am so hurt and so mad at the self righteous egotism of someone I love very much. She apologized but you know what? I'm still mad. I'm still hurt. I want her to hurt and be punished but I know that's the wrong attitude. I know I am powerless over her opinons. I know that I need to let it go especia...

Diva · Diva

Today, while stone sober, he called my older son a "silly bastard." All because my son gave me an idea on refinishing the woodwork in my living room that A hadn't thought about. My son restores interiors of old houses for a living, and there are certain things he knows and is readily willin...

maresie · maresie

I've had terrible allergies these past few weeks. Ended up staying home on Monday. I am in a lot of fatigue, isolation and stuck on many levels. At the same time compared to my life this time last year I've made progress. I see a light at the end of the tunnel. I keep getting waylaid by life events, bills, o...

intothewoods · intothewoods

I have started to notice that I'm neglecting my physical needs, like not eating enough and even not going to the bathroom until it's absolutely necessary. I just kind of forget. The not eating is very bad for me (blood sugar issues), but it keeps happening. I'm not obsessing over food or exercising all...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) I've been in MIP over two years. I have made lots of wonderful friends, shared some of my experiences with you all. I feel I have been Involved in helping lots of people get started in their recovery. I have stayed with them, and continued to encourage and support th...

Aloha · Aloha

AH's family is out visiting with us this week. AH's brother is in AA - sober 4 years, AH's brother's friend is another AA member (not sure how long sober), and AH's mom, while not in Al-Anon, certainly is concerned about AH's drinking. Brother-in-law (BIL) isn't riding AH, but AH is acting like a lo...

lilms · lilms

((((Friends)))))) We have found out that my dear old girl has cancer. We are going to keep her home, love her up and cherish her until it is no longer humane to do so. Then we will sadly say good bye and do the right thing. Damn this is hard. Will fill her full of treats, play with all the favorite toys and...

Suzannah · Suzannah

The past has a habit of jumping up at me from time to time and taking a nip at my heel and that famous 'what if' and his friend 'if only' snap at me. What if often shows his face when I am reading others in the family who are working their programme whilst they are still in their marriage/partnership and are su...

lilms · lilms

((((((Mip Family)))) It has been awhile. Have had the computer from hell and have not been near one in I am not sure how long. It seems to be working for now so am able to catch up with you all. Our A went through a 35 day rehab and seemed to do fine for awhile. Ended up in hospital again not long ago and we alm...

Aloha · Aloha

On top of having his family out to visit, my AH is finally starting to feel the pinch of his compulsive spending habits. The last few days he's been complaining to me, "I only have $35 in my checking account!", and then "I only have $16 in my checking account!", and last night &qu...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((Everyone)))))))) Someone dear to me sent this via email. Seems there are always days that people struggle with the difference between the acceptance of HP will, and the strength to carry that out. I really liked the message... thought I would pass it along. Will leave the reading up to you...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! This morning's Serenity on Sunday meeting was a monthly speaker meeting. The guest speaker was a woman that I have been blessed by watching her enter the program and work it as best she could for the last 7 years with the consequence that she now has a very solid personal recovery progra...

Tracy · Tracy

My head is so confused one minute I think love yourself get out of this relationship everyone around me who loves me is getting really fed up they are upset watching me not get my needs met and be so down its just not me But then he comes and tells me he loves me hugs me begs me he just does somethin to me I really...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hi family, Please help me congratulate our new Momma and welcome with the newest addition to our MIP family. Leetle had a baby girl this afternoon. Baby - Sariah Lynn was born at 3:48 pm weighing in at 6 lbs, 13 ozs. and 19" long. Both Momma and baby are doing fine, thank you HP yours in recovery, M...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have recently been going out on some very casual dates with some very nice men. Its been so simple and positive. It has helped me SO MUCH to see some things about my recovery, too, which I think others have mentioned here before but I just wanted to underline. By letting go of control, in a way, I feel mu...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Spent a harrowing day and evening with my daughter working on her 5th grade state report. It was assigned 3 wks ago, but she procrastinated until the middle of last week and it is due on Tues. I made a big deal about her getting it done since she has softball practice tomorrow afternoon and I have a meeti...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

My life is a sham. No matter where I go, there I am. I didn't mean for that to rhyme. No matter what I do or try to accomplish, I always come back to the same spot. Watching the clock, looking out the window. Watching the clock. Listening for the car. Making myself sick. Maybe I'll get lucky and tonight will b...

Maria123 · Maria123

<sigh> well as many of you know, I am an older college student who works FT 50+ hours per week and have been attending college for the last three years securing my associates degree and am now looking for another college to complete my bachelors in public administration. So I am down to the wire,...

marmare · marmare

First, I apoligized for any curse words that appeared in the last post, I didn't re-read it as I usually do....so sorry again. Well, my A is in full blown relapse, I don't know if that's the right wording since he never stopped drinking but was in a controlled state of drinking. He had left Saturday nigh...

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	New Member and Not Sure How to Do This (Preview) I am new to the group. A little bit about myself. I am living with an alcholic but of course he will not see that. Right now I have been battling with an Eating Disorder and have been doing that for a year. when I used to bring up about how I have this addiction and how he needs to get treatment for his addiction...	cmarina2001	5	499	Apr 29, 2008 by maresie
	This could get long (Preview) I've been working on my personal inventory and find myself even more depressed. I hurt someone really bad and I have regretted it ever since (10 years ago). I was living with a guy...a normal guy. He loved me for who I was, never asked for anything from me and treated me like a princess. He had no real vi...	beth280	5	589	Apr 29, 2008 by ally
	Accepting what is... (Preview) Last night the kids and I went to dinner at my husband's sister's home. His mom, brother and his wife were there too. It has gotten to the point now where only one of us is invited. My AH called to ask his sis a question while we were there and everyone hushed. Wierd. I enjoyed myself, we had wonderful, fun co...	Loupiness	5	488	Apr 29, 2008 by maresie
	Deverstated!!!! (Preview) He left. I gave him a choice booze or his familey and he left. I cant describ how I feel. Deverstated is a little of an understatment. Feels like he has ripped my heart out and stammped on it. He said he wont let me rule his life he is going to drink with or without me and I expect him to be a man he isnt. He said he d...	mum2leahnjosh	11	558	Apr 29, 2008 by maire rua
	Is my HP trying to tell me something? (Preview) I got a phone call today from a very distraught woman whose husband has returned to drinking. She was crying, full of fear, desperately reaching out hoping someone could fix it, and my heart went out to her. She called me because I am listed as the AA contact for our AA meetings here, but I also qualify for...	Tenderheartsks	6	600	Apr 29, 2008 by Gailey
	A long, exhausting weekend (Preview) Just fair warning, this is really, REALLY long, and honestly, I think that I'm just working things through in my head as I post this. I had a long, trying and exhausting weekend full of highs and lows. Jeez. I almost think my weekend was bipolar or something. As I've mentioned before, my AH's brothe...	Aloha	9	536	Apr 29, 2008 by Jerry F
	I am finally ready to get a divorce! (Preview) Its been years. I have struggled and massaged and contorted and tried and suffered and did every thing imaginable regarding puzzling over this question: to stay or to leave. I finally am ready. It just came to me one morning after I woke up: I am ready to move on. I deserve better. Even if I am driven to liv...	Jean4444	10	747	Apr 29, 2008 by Loupiness
	still no sign (Preview) hi everyone my A went out 9 days ago got drunk and has not been in touch since. Hes in his mums See he knows I will not accept it anymore. I have had good and bad days Thought he might have rang 2day 3rd anniversary he never This helps me to see I am doing the right thing I know he loves me but he knows its not worki...	Tracy	8	575	Apr 28, 2008 by Maria123
	clarity of thought (Preview) what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...	norwood	5	853	Apr 28, 2008 by Maria123
	One of April's Birthday Girl (Preview) (((((((((((Kari)))))))))))) Today is the day (or is it week) that calories don't count ? Happy Birthday!!! to you. Here is your and ice cream (hmm need an emoticon for that one because ice cream is my favorite ). Wishes for a wonderful year ahead for you. Live Strong, Maria	Maria123	8	653	Apr 28, 2008 by stillkickin
	clarity of thought (Preview) what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...	norwood	2	333	Apr 28, 2008 by maresie
	You are (Preview) You Are ..... > > > > You are strong... when you take your grief and teach > > it to smile. > > You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help > > others to do the same. > > You are happy... when you see a flower and are > > thankful for the blessing. > >...	angel123	0	436	Apr 28, 2008 by angel123
	Should I be here? (Preview) I have seen this question many times. In my experience,even if I don't have an A in my life,what I have learned here at MIP alanon, my life is ever so much better. I am a better person. I took a bit off from the internet pet lists I am on.Was feeling so crummy losing animals right and left to old age. My attitud...	debilyn	7	567	Apr 28, 2008 by maresie
	rebounding more quickly (Preview) This week has been one step forward, two back, but I am rebounding more quickly than earlier in my journey. Made several errors this week in dealing with my son. He has had two awful days of discoveries/experiences with his EX which has knocked him off his sobriety once more. I, forgetting what I know t...	omajoy	7	781	Apr 28, 2008 by Jen
	jumbled thoughts (Preview) I was reading the thread "in all our affairs" by Lin plus replies from Jerry and others. This is really a thought provoking thread that has given me a lot to think about. I was sensitive, loner, runner, fearful ....... I barely express myself, let alone express anger. I can help others but...	ddub	8	550	Apr 28, 2008 by ddub
	Relax (Preview) Step One: RELAX-> I don't have to be in charge or in control anymore. It's going to be okay. Step Two: RELAX-> I can simply believe that someone stronger than I can restore me to health and wholeness. Step Three: RELAX-> I can easily turn my whole life and well-being over to God, as I understand...	angel123	3	487	Apr 28, 2008 by Jean4444
	Living in the now... (Preview) Okay, I keep coming across this phrase... "Living in the now...", which encourages me to concentrate on just that, but I don't really have a clue what it means. Whilst I realise that it is healthy to live each day as it comes, my past is a part of me, and my future is what I will be, so by "Li...	Suzannah	5	443	Apr 28, 2008 by Suzannah
	Affirmation (Preview) Affirmations I am creative and intelligent I am a magnet for Miracles I am always in the right place at the right time I am a natural winner I am powerful magnet for Abundance I am open and willing to change I am open to all business opportunities I am committed to excellence in all I do I am success in motion...	angel123	3	617	Apr 28, 2008 by Suzannah
	ONLINE SPONSOR NEEDED PLEASE (Preview) Hi im new to alanon and im unable to attend f2f meetings due to a difficult pregnancy so i am in need on an online sponsor. please email me or respond here my email is lovingarmstrong@yahoo.com Only females inquire please.	missinghim	2	377	Apr 27, 2008 by java
	My HP called (Preview) My HP works in mysterious ways. Right after I posted last night I was of course having my pity party about being left out of my AHsober's plans (a novel idea that he plans around me). Another neighbor called and invited me to supper Sunday nite. Her relatives from Hilo, HI are in town and would I like to com...	nmike	5	385	Apr 27, 2008 by Jean4444
	In All Our Affairs (Preview) I've had quite the week, with plenty of opportunities to use my alanon tools. My job, which I have been at for many years, gives me a high degree of autonomy - I basically am my own boss, within the limits of reality (budget, licensing regulations, etc). We got a new director in January, and since that ti...	lin0606	7	483	Apr 27, 2008 by ddub
	I made it!! (Preview) This last year has been very crazy for me to say the least! Came within inches of death, took on lots of extra responsibilities, and had the toughest semester I've ever had! Somehow, I was able to get through it all.....the program has become rooted so well in my life that even when I couldn't get to meeti...	stillkickin	7	502	Apr 27, 2008 by Christy
	Answers please (Preview) This is my first time posting. I believe my husband is a functioning alcoholic. I never grew up around alcohol, sure I saw my parents have the odd drink, but neither one was the type who came home and "had to unwind" by knocking a few back. That's why this is very difficult for me to figure out...	doublesmommy	16	551	Apr 27, 2008 by Jerry F
	In a better place... (Preview) I have been reflecting of late where I was this time last year. I am in such a better place and I am so grateful for the learning curve that seemed to be a real tough one in October of last year. So many years have passed by and it seemed as though I was always going to be stuck in the same old same old. How delig...	Suzannah	3	355	Apr 26, 2008 by nmike
	Jealous of Husband's AA Friends (Preview) Can you tell me, is it acceptable in the AA program for recovering Alcoholics to develop and maintain a close relationship to someone of the opposite sex and go to breakfast/lunch on occasion with them, go to the gym and workout with each other, call each other almost daily? I admit I am a jealous per...	cynthi45	14	6017	Apr 26, 2008 by cynthi45
	The weekend.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, It is the weekend to stay home. Catch up at work and at home. It is hard for me but not as hard as it use to be. Everyone leaves for the weekend. Kinda lonely. I ask my sons to call me on Sunday - is once a week too much? They usually don't call. I am having dinner with a neighbor tomorrow night. Sh...	nmike	4	412	Apr 26, 2008 by round3
	Look Beyond (Preview) Look beyond Look beyond what irritates you and you'll find those things that empower you. Look past what frustrates you and begin to uncover what drives you. Look beyond what worries you and you'll discover what inspires you. Look beyond what frightens you and you'll see what strengthens you. Look b...	angel123	3	417	Apr 26, 2008 by angel123
	Support and all the eggs in one basket (Preview) I was called out(gently) at a meeting last night. I had shared a bit about feeling betrayed by someone and trouble I was having with someone who was, at one time, my biggest support. Anyway someone with only a few months in the program asked me, "With all your experience and so much more time in the p...	Jen	4	657	Apr 26, 2008 by Jen
	Making all th esame mistakes again? (Preview) Dear all, At present I am socialising quite a bit and have become attracted to a man I have met. As things are still unclear with ex A, I am unable to move on, yet I find myself having deep feeling for someone who is not all that suitable for me. Our relationship is fueled by alcohol. I am not in any shape at pre...	maire rua	5	604	Apr 26, 2008 by Suzannah
	having trouble, please help..need chatroom (Preview) am on a laptop geting wireless..but cannot get into room either by website or by mirc please help as am needing room while in hospital with my a who has had surgery hugs to all iona54	iona54	5	522	Apr 25, 2008 by wp
	Any and all of you who live in Hawaii... (Preview) Please private message me and tell me about your island and your surroundings. I promised myself years ago I would someday live in Hawaii, and the time has come to throw caution to the wind, sell out here, and make my dream come true. I intend to come with a couple suitcases, my kitties and my dog. I hav...	Diva	18	640	Apr 25, 2008 by Jean4444
	I'm so so confused (Preview) Hello All, This is the first time posting i have been on this website a couple times and have read some of the postings. I am currently attending my 3rd alanon meeting tonight. I have so many ? and want all the answers right now! Attending meetings and reading literatue has opened so many closed doors. Bu...	JeannineM	9	506	Apr 25, 2008 by SLS
	Fellow Alanon's (Preview) During the years this great PROGRAM HAS EXCIST fellow Alanons Wrote quick quotes, poems, Wisdom, Shares of ESH, Feelings, list goes on. I have writen a few in my days in Alanon that I would like to share a few.. Fellow Alanons .. left pieces to a puzzle of the dease. Of flowers for us. Along our Journey.(b...	angel123	5	443	Apr 25, 2008 by Tracy
	Why do I feel this way ? (Preview) My ex AH ( of 15 yrs)told me tonight tht hes going to go to Tenn. to meet this woman hes been chattin w on line .Apparently hes been chatting w her for over a yr.So our divorce isnt even final and now he has a potential girlfriend ?!?!??!? OK..dont get me wrong, I want him out of my bedroom, but come on,, hes bee...	MIDGET	6	652	Apr 25, 2008 by Tracy
	Interesting watching my AH's HP in action (Preview) Whew... what an interesting night. Tonight was the kickoff meeting for the Big island Bash AA/Al-Anon convention. As i've been posting before, my AH has been tagging along, arms crossed walls and barriers on super-strength. Well, in the middle of the kickoff meeting, my AH got a message on his c...	Aloha	1	526	Apr 25, 2008 by SLS
	Alcohol claims another (Preview) My daughter just called, her fiance's Mother died this morning at the age of 48. She was a professional, a biologist. She fought hard for the last few yrs to overcome the disease. She was a kind hearted woman with a huge alcohol problem. She was so looking forward to our kids wedding (which has no date). I...	Christy	7	607	Apr 25, 2008 by DANDTALWAYS
	Detaching, but not Feeling love (Preview) Is this detaching? I don't feel love right now, just anger. Anger at myself for all the fixing and stopping my 31 yr old A son from feeling and living consequences, and anger at him for drinking and drugging and creating all the chaos that I've lived in for 10 years. (It's taken me 9 1/2 years to realize my e...	laurab	11	2291	Apr 25, 2008 by DD
	I'm back...It's been awhile (Preview) Hello everyone! It's been awhile since I have been here. (sept 07) I don't know I guess I thought I was Ok and My hubby was finally realizing that I wasn't putting up with his crap anymore. Man oh man was I wrong. Granted things has been much better than it had been in the past. He had quit drinking AGAIN, and...	sgraingermk	4	354	Apr 25, 2008 by sgraingermk
	I'm a horrible alanoner (Preview) He made it home past midnight with someone driving him. He could hardley walk. He was very nice to them but as soon as he saw me he started acting like a real creep. Stumbling around the house kicking stuff and saying mean things. I didn't want him to wake the kids up or fall down and hurt himself. He started...	RainyJamie	18	613	Apr 25, 2008 by Jerry F
	I want you to share the experience of an angel singing. (Preview) Paste this into your browser and just listen to the voice of an angel. I don't know how to copy it here so that you can open it here, but if any of the moderators do, please do it for me please: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC-lKhr1k0g This is ittle six year old Conney singing - Somewhere over the Rain...	Suzannah	5	540	Apr 25, 2008 by debilyn
	Going to Vegas (Preview) ((((Family)))) My AH, myself, our daughter and her boyfriend will be going to Las Vegas on Friday. We promised our daughter that when she turned 21, we would take her to Vegas, and the time has come. I wish I could get excited about it. I feel instead like I will be going out onto a battlefield. I know I wil...	cookie1971	8	413	Apr 25, 2008 by cookie1971
	I know 2 wrongs don't make a right... (Preview) but, right now I am so hurt and so mad at the self righteous egotism of someone I love very much. She apologized but you know what? I'm still mad. I'm still hurt. I want her to hurt and be punished but I know that's the wrong attitude. I know I am powerless over her opinons. I know that I need to let it go especia...	seekingserenity	7	454	Apr 24, 2008 by Jen
	The A has always resented my children... (Preview) Today, while stone sober, he called my older son a "silly bastard." All because my son gave me an idea on refinishing the woodwork in my living room that A hadn't thought about. My son restores interiors of old houses for a living, and there are certain things he knows and is readily willin...	Diva	21	719	Apr 24, 2008 by Maria123
	life is unmanageable but better (Preview) I've had terrible allergies these past few weeks. Ended up staying home on Monday. I am in a lot of fatigue, isolation and stuck on many levels. At the same time compared to my life this time last year I've made progress. I see a light at the end of the tunnel. I keep getting waylaid by life events, bills, o...	maresie	5	550	Apr 24, 2008 by Maria123
	Neglecting the body (Preview) I have started to notice that I'm neglecting my physical needs, like not eating enough and even not going to the bathroom until it's absolutely necessary. I just kind of forget. The not eating is very bad for me (blood sugar issues), but it keeps happening. I'm not obsessing over food or exercising all...	intothewoods	8	450	Apr 24, 2008 by Jen
	TIME TO MOVE ON FROM MIP.. (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) I've been in MIP over two years. I have made lots of wonderful friends, shared some of my experiences with you all. I feel I have been Involved in helping lots of people get started in their recovery. I have stayed with them, and continued to encourage and support th...	ally	16	859	Apr 24, 2008 by aunitedway
	WOW AH is definitely testing my resolve this week (Preview) AH's family is out visiting with us this week. AH's brother is in AA - sober 4 years, AH's brother's friend is another AA member (not sure how long sober), and AH's mom, while not in Al-Anon, certainly is concerned about AH's drinking. Brother-in-law (BIL) isn't riding AH, but AH is acting like a lo...	Aloha	9	1147	Apr 24, 2008 by round3
	Update on Update (Preview) ((((Friends)))))) We have found out that my dear old girl has cancer. We are going to keep her home, love her up and cherish her until it is no longer humane to do so. Then we will sadly say good bye and do the right thing. Damn this is hard. Will fill her full of treats, play with all the favorite toys and...	lilms	7	435	Apr 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	What if ... If only ... AGHHHH! Those doubts keep nipping at my heals ...OUCH! (Preview) The past has a habit of jumping up at me from time to time and taking a nip at my heel and that famous 'what if' and his friend 'if only' snap at me. What if often shows his face when I am reading others in the family who are working their programme whilst they are still in their marriage/partnership and are su...	Suzannah	15	621	Apr 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	Update and Missed You All!! (Preview) ((((((Mip Family)))) It has been awhile. Have had the computer from hell and have not been near one in I am not sure how long. It seems to be working for now so am able to catch up with you all. Our A went through a 35 day rehab and seemed to do fine for awhile. Ended up in hospital again not long ago and we alm...	lilms	6	610	Apr 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	AH is finally facing some consequences (Preview) On top of having his family out to visit, my AH is finally starting to feel the pinch of his compulsive spending habits. The last few days he's been complaining to me, "I only have $35 in my checking account!", and then "I only have $16 in my checking account!", and last night &qu...	Aloha	3	553	Apr 23, 2008 by nmike
	I always wanted to... (Preview) (((((((Everyone)))))))) Someone dear to me sent this via email. Seems there are always days that people struggle with the difference between the acceptance of HP will, and the strength to carry that out. I really liked the message... thought I would pass it along. Will leave the reading up to you...	rtexas	6	543	Apr 23, 2008 by shadow1
	Sunday Speaker Meeting (Preview) Aloha Family!! This morning's Serenity on Sunday meeting was a monthly speaker meeting. The guest speaker was a woman that I have been blessed by watching her enter the program and work it as best she could for the last 7 years with the consequence that she now has a very solid personal recovery progra...	Jerry F	4	494	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	self will (Preview) My head is so confused one minute I think love yourself get out of this relationship everyone around me who loves me is getting really fed up they are upset watching me not get my needs met and be so down its just not me But then he comes and tells me he loves me hugs me begs me he just does somethin to me I really...	Tracy	7	513	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	Leetle's New Baby Girl (Preview) Hi family, Please help me congratulate our new Momma and welcome with the newest addition to our MIP family. Leetle had a baby girl this afternoon. Baby - Sariah Lynn was born at 3:48 pm weighing in at 6 lbs, 13 ozs. and 19" long. Both Momma and baby are doing fine, thank you HP yours in recovery, M...	Maria123	14	641	Apr 23, 2008 by Suzannah
	ALL those years! (Preview) I have recently been going out on some very casual dates with some very nice men. Its been so simple and positive. It has helped me SO MUCH to see some things about my recovery, too, which I think others have mentioned here before but I just wanted to underline. By letting go of control, in a way, I feel mu...	Jean4444	6	454	Apr 23, 2008 by drucilla06
	Always a hero (Preview) Spent a harrowing day and evening with my daughter working on her 5th grade state report. It was assigned 3 wks ago, but she procrastinated until the middle of last week and it is due on Tues. I made a big deal about her getting it done since she has softball practice tomorrow afternoon and I have a meeti...	Loupiness	11	582	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	stuck in the middle with you (Preview) My life is a sham. No matter where I go, there I am. I didn't mean for that to rhyme. No matter what I do or try to accomplish, I always come back to the same spot. Watching the clock, looking out the window. Watching the clock. Listening for the car. Making myself sick. Maybe I'll get lucky and tonight will b...	RainyJamie	7	660	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	I am perfectly imperfect (Preview) <sigh> well as many of you know, I am an older college student who works FT 50+ hours per week and have been attending college for the last three years securing my associates degree and am now looking for another college to complete my bachelors in public administration. So I am down to the wire,...	Maria123	9	532	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	How many shoes can drop???? (Preview) First, I apoligized for any curse words that appeared in the last post, I didn't re-read it as I usually do....so sorry again. Well, my A is in full blown relapse, I don't know if that's the right wording since he never stopped drinking but was in a controlled state of drinking. He had left Saturday nigh...	marmare	7	574	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
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