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round3 · round3

I'm so blessed to have this board. I've been reading so many of the posts lately - and so many apply to my situation. (HP????) As many of you know...my on-again off-again on-again off-again 30 year romance with my A seems to be on again - albeit from a great distance. But he's been talking to me about...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Hello Everyone, I wanted to say thank you for all the replies and suggestions I have received fromall of you. Next, i don't even know where to start I cannot think or function anymore? I think I am on auto cruise control or something. It's like I am in a fog. The only thing I can do is get up (barely) get ...

angel123 · angel123

The Butterfly Story Before this great change comes about, The fuzzy little worm withdraws from its caterpillar world, an finds itself a place alone ,and there painfully, and with much struggling, it wraps itself tightly into a cocoon of its own making; It literally seals itself from the world. Days...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

The alcoholic in my life has been diagnosed with a serious mental illness. They won't discuss it and surprise surprise, are in denial about it. In so much denial that I was not told about it before the marriage, I found out by coming across some legal papers which contained information about the dia...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! I guess I'll bubble a bit and then slaunter off to bed. The family is still growing!! Step Son and Step Daughter-in-Law are now three and it is sooooo promising cause he has been clean and sober over half his life now and her also. And the new member?....a girl finally!!...and check out her...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

No decision has to bind us forever. Most of us are no longer sure what we want to be doing a year or even a month from now. When we are called upon to make decisions, any decision that commits us to a certain path in the future, we shudder. Will we be allowed to change our minds. What a change this is from earlie...

nmike · nmike

The first decision (posted under Maria's) was to share my recovery program with a friend. Not a good decision. She called me born again and said she didn't understand. I just wanted to let her know that I had found help with my pain. The second decision was thought out by me. If my AHsober calls I need to ha...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Not even an hour after I last posted, any serenity I thought I had come to, got destroyed. I hate that! Makes me feel stupid. I phoned my AH for two purposes. First, I wanted my son to stay at the office for the day since he didn't have school. Second, my youngest had an injury, and given the medical back...

cmarina2001 · cmarina2001

I am working on my recovery (from my eating disorder) and here lately my A has been really big with his words. He has said some of the not so nice things to me. He talked about my weight. Working on getting a job and everytime I have good news he comes in with negative comments. Then is constantly on me on why...

meagain · meagain

I have posted before-but I am so down--my son has called me on Sunday nite and said his wife and her were divorcing. I have me 83 yr. old Mom here-the start of demensia, so I have had such a stressing 4 days...and so many more to come. I love these grandkids so much--have them all the time. My son is saying his...

Aloha · Aloha

I really surprised myself at my meeting last night. We had a newcomer to our meeting, and I actually smiled at him and told him welcome, and then after the meeting gave him a big hug, told him I was glad he was there and to keep coming back! I NEVER do that! I am a person who is terrified of new people. I'...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

...you know I cannot find a single post in all of MIP where someone says: "gee, you know it was a real mistake for me to leave/divorce my alcoholic spouse, I really regret it". Just found that interesting...if I am wrong, please correct me!! Hugs, J. PS: I am in no way saying that this is the b...

angel123 · angel123

Making amends to my spouse seemed an impossible task. I couldn't find the humility or the courage. This article helped me to change my thinking: I love a man, he is a different kind of man than most, He is a special man. Most people do not understand, because he is one of many that are the so called weakling...

Codependent · Codependent

I first just want to say that though I have not posted in a while I do think of everyone often and still read the posts. My A has now been transferred to a maximum security jail because of the violations he incurred that resulted in lock down for the extended period. Now he is double shackeled when allowed o...

Maria123 · Maria123

As many of you know, I have shared Letting go of those not in recovery which I call The Bridge. Letting Go of Those Not In Recovery We can go forward with our life and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the bridge, it is cold and dark. We stood the...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

My 19 year old AD told me today that this coming weekend is the weekend she is moving out. I know this is her own journey, and I can't save her from herself. I've turned it over and taken it back a dozen times today. It's not that she's moving in with an alcoholic, but she's moving in with an abusive alcoholic...

angel123 · angel123

Thank you all for your prayers and concerns, pertaining to my surgery. I am healing one day at a time. I have so much love in my heart for all of you. I have a good hubby that has helped and took care of me. I sponsor a few people and received so much support for them as well. Alanon is and has bin my life line. So w...

ESH · ESH

I had read in an Alanon book that it is hard to get rid of an alcoholic. I hadn't heard from my A-bf since early February... I thought I was rid of him for good now. And not necessarily by my choosing. I was "fired" by his father. His father left a weird voice mail for me back in February; then I h...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Hello All, I am having a horrible time dealing with all this pain! i can't get me mind off all the drama in my life. I have tried to let go and let god. I am trying really hardbut i feel asif i cant make a move or think until my Ah calls to let me know everything is ok. My husband is not living w/ me and our daughter...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello Alanon family! I haven't posted in a very long time. I've still been here reading once in a while. I wanted to share with you that I'm beginning a new chapter in my life. As many of you know, I left my Alcoholic/cocaine-addicted husband in September 2006 and my divorce was final in March of 2007...

Maria123 · Maria123

(((((((((Shadow)))))))))))))))))), Happy Birthday Girl !!!!! Remember, as Kari will tell us, calories don't count today. I hope your day was a wonderful one!!! love ya, Maria

CJC · CJC

Ok, so I know I've not posted in a while, and a lot of things has been happening medically wise as of here recently...however I have managed to make each one of my F2F meetings except for the last 2 weeks. Which brings me to the question that I have. I contacted my sponsor to let her know that I would be there t...

New Member and Not Sure How to Do This · cmarina2001

I am new to the group. A little bit about myself. I am living with an alcholic but of course he will not see that. Right now I have been battling with an Eating Disorder and have been doing that for a year. when I used to bring up about how I have this addiction and how he needs to get treatment for his addiction...

beth280 · beth280

I've been working on my personal inventory and find myself even more depressed. I hurt someone really bad and I have regretted it ever since (10 years ago). I was living with a guy...a normal guy. He loved me for who I was, never asked for anything from me and treated me like a princess. He had no real vi...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Last night the kids and I went to dinner at my husband's sister's home. His mom, brother and his wife were there too. It has gotten to the point now where only one of us is invited. My AH called to ask his sis a question while we were there and everyone hushed. Wierd. I enjoyed myself, we had wonderful, fun co...

mum2leahnjosh · mum2leahnjosh

He left. I gave him a choice booze or his familey and he left. I cant describ how I feel. Deverstated is a little of an understatment. Feels like he has ripped my heart out and stammped on it. He said he wont let me rule his life he is going to drink with or without me and I expect him to be a man he isnt. He said he d...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

I got a phone call today from a very distraught woman whose husband has returned to drinking. She was crying, full of fear, desperately reaching out hoping someone could fix it, and my heart went out to her. She called me because I am listed as the AA contact for our AA meetings here, but I also qualify for...

Aloha · Aloha

Just fair warning, this is really, REALLY long, and honestly, I think that I'm just working things through in my head as I post this. I had a long, trying and exhausting weekend full of highs and lows. Jeez. I almost think my weekend was bipolar or something. As I've mentioned before, my AH's brothe...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Its been years. I have struggled and massaged and contorted and tried and suffered and did every thing imaginable regarding puzzling over this question: to stay or to leave. I finally am ready. It just came to me one morning after I woke up: I am ready to move on. I deserve better. Even if I am driven to liv...

Tracy · Tracy

hi everyone my A went out 9 days ago got drunk and has not been in touch since. Hes in his mums See he knows I will not accept it anymore. I have had good and bad days Thought he might have rang 2day 3rd anniversary he never This helps me to see I am doing the right thing I know he loves me but he knows its not worki...

norwood · norwood

what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...

Maria123 · Maria123

(((((((((((Kari)))))))))))) Today is the day (or is it week) that calories don't count ? Happy Birthday!!! to you. Here is your and ice cream (hmm need an emoticon for that one because ice cream is my favorite ). Wishes for a wonderful year ahead for you. Live Strong, Maria

norwood · norwood

what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...

angel123 · angel123

You Are ..... > > > > You are strong... when you take your grief and teach > > it to smile. > > You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help > > others to do the same. > > You are happy... when you see a flower and are > > thankful for the blessing. > >...

debilyn · debilyn

I have seen this question many times. In my experience,even if I don't have an A in my life,what I have learned here at MIP alanon, my life is ever so much better. I am a better person. I took a bit off from the internet pet lists I am on.Was feeling so crummy losing animals right and left to old age. My attitud...

omajoy · omajoy

This week has been one step forward, two back, but I am rebounding more quickly than earlier in my journey. Made several errors this week in dealing with my son. He has had two awful days of discoveries/experiences with his EX which has knocked him off his sobriety once more. I, forgetting what I know t...

ddub · ddub

I was reading the thread "in all our affairs" by Lin plus replies from Jerry and others. This is really a thought provoking thread that has given me a lot to think about. I was sensitive, loner, runner, fearful ....... I barely express myself, let alone express anger. I can help others but...

angel123 · angel123

Step One: RELAX-> I don't have to be in charge or in control anymore. It's going to be okay. Step Two: RELAX-> I can simply believe that someone stronger than I can restore me to health and wholeness. Step Three: RELAX-> I can easily turn my whole life and well-being over to God, as I understand...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Okay, I keep coming across this phrase... "Living in the now...", which encourages me to concentrate on just that, but I don't really have a clue what it means. Whilst I realise that it is healthy to live each day as it comes, my past is a part of me, and my future is what I will be, so by "Li...

angel123 · angel123

Affirmations I am creative and intelligent I am a magnet for Miracles I am always in the right place at the right time I am a natural winner I am powerful magnet for Abundance I am open and willing to change I am open to all business opportunities I am committed to excellence in all I do I am success in motion...

missinghim · missinghim

Hi im new to alanon and im unable to attend f2f meetings due to a difficult pregnancy so i am in need on an online sponsor. please email me or respond here my email is lovingarmstrong@yahoo.com Only females inquire please.

nmike · nmike

My HP works in mysterious ways. Right after I posted last night I was of course having my pity party about being left out of my AHsober's plans (a novel idea that he plans around me). Another neighbor called and invited me to supper Sunday nite. Her relatives from Hilo, HI are in town and would I like to com...

lin0606 · lin0606

I've had quite the week, with plenty of opportunities to use my alanon tools. My job, which I have been at for many years, gives me a high degree of autonomy - I basically am my own boss, within the limits of reality (budget, licensing regulations, etc). We got a new director in January, and since that ti...

stillkickin · stillkickin

This last year has been very crazy for me to say the least! Came within inches of death, took on lots of extra responsibilities, and had the toughest semester I've ever had! Somehow, I was able to get through it all.....the program has become rooted so well in my life that even when I couldn't get to meeti...

doublesmommy · doublesmommy

This is my first time posting. I believe my husband is a functioning alcoholic. I never grew up around alcohol, sure I saw my parents have the odd drink, but neither one was the type who came home and "had to unwind" by knocking a few back. That's why this is very difficult for me to figure out...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I have been reflecting of late where I was this time last year. I am in such a better place and I am so grateful for the learning curve that seemed to be a real tough one in October of last year. So many years have passed by and it seemed as though I was always going to be stuck in the same old same old. How delig...

cynthi45 · cynthi45

Can you tell me, is it acceptable in the AA program for recovering Alcoholics to develop and maintain a close relationship to someone of the opposite sex and go to breakfast/lunch on occasion with them, go to the gym and workout with each other, call each other almost daily? I admit I am a jealous per...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, It is the weekend to stay home. Catch up at work and at home. It is hard for me but not as hard as it use to be. Everyone leaves for the weekend. Kinda lonely. I ask my sons to call me on Sunday - is once a week too much? They usually don't call. I am having dinner with a neighbor tomorrow night. Sh...

angel123 · angel123

Look beyond Look beyond what irritates you and you'll find those things that empower you. Look past what frustrates you and begin to uncover what drives you. Look beyond what worries you and you'll discover what inspires you. Look beyond what frightens you and you'll see what strengthens you. Look b...

Jen · Jen

I was called out(gently) at a meeting last night. I had shared a bit about feeling betrayed by someone and trouble I was having with someone who was, at one time, my biggest support. Anyway someone with only a few months in the program asked me, "With all your experience and so much more time in the p...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, At present I am socialising quite a bit and have become attracted to a man I have met. As things are still unclear with ex A, I am unable to move on, yet I find myself having deep feeling for someone who is not all that suitable for me. Our relationship is fueled by alcohol. I am not in any shape at pre...

iona54 · iona54

am on a laptop geting wireless..but cannot get into room either by website or by mirc please help as am needing room while in hospital with my a who has had surgery hugs to all iona54

Diva · Diva

Please private message me and tell me about your island and your surroundings. I promised myself years ago I would someday live in Hawaii, and the time has come to throw caution to the wind, sell out here, and make my dream come true. I intend to come with a couple suitcases, my kitties and my dog. I hav...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Hello All, This is the first time posting i have been on this website a couple times and have read some of the postings. I am currently attending my 3rd alanon meeting tonight. I have so many ? and want all the answers right now! Attending meetings and reading literatue has opened so many closed doors. Bu...

angel123 · angel123

During the years this great PROGRAM HAS EXCIST fellow Alanons Wrote quick quotes, poems, Wisdom, Shares of ESH, Feelings, list goes on. I have writen a few in my days in Alanon that I would like to share a few.. Fellow Alanons .. left pieces to a puzzle of the dease. Of flowers for us. Along our Journey.(b...

MIDGET · MIDGET

My ex AH ( of 15 yrs)told me tonight tht hes going to go to Tenn. to meet this woman hes been chattin w on line .Apparently hes been chatting w her for over a yr.So our divorce isnt even final and now he has a potential girlfriend ?!?!??!? OK..dont get me wrong, I want him out of my bedroom, but come on,, hes bee...

Aloha · Aloha

Whew... what an interesting night. Tonight was the kickoff meeting for the Big island Bash AA/Al-Anon convention. As i've been posting before, my AH has been tagging along, arms crossed walls and barriers on super-strength. Well, in the middle of the kickoff meeting, my AH got a message on his c...

Christy · Christy

My daughter just called, her fiance's Mother died this morning at the age of 48. She was a professional, a biologist. She fought hard for the last few yrs to overcome the disease. She was a kind hearted woman with a huge alcohol problem. She was so looking forward to our kids wedding (which has no date). I...

laurab · laurab

Is this detaching? I don't feel love right now, just anger. Anger at myself for all the fixing and stopping my 31 yr old A son from feeling and living consequences, and anger at him for drinking and drugging and creating all the chaos that I've lived in for 10 years. (It's taken me 9 1/2 years to realize my e...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Hello everyone! It's been awhile since I have been here. (sept 07) I don't know I guess I thought I was Ok and My hubby was finally realizing that I wasn't putting up with his crap anymore. Man oh man was I wrong. Granted things has been much better than it had been in the past. He had quit drinking AGAIN, and...

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	What if? (Preview) I'm so blessed to have this board. I've been reading so many of the posts lately - and so many apply to my situation. (HP????) As many of you know...my on-again off-again on-again off-again 30 year romance with my A seems to be on again - albeit from a great distance. But he's been talking to me about...	round3	10	621	May 1, 2008 by round3
	abandoned again (Preview) Hello Everyone, I wanted to say thank you for all the replies and suggestions I have received fromall of you. Next, i don't even know where to start I cannot think or function anymore? I think I am on auto cruise control or something. It's like I am in a fog. The only thing I can do is get up (barely) get ...	JeannineM	6	538	May 1, 2008 by glad lee
	The Butterfly Story (Preview) The Butterfly Story Before this great change comes about, The fuzzy little worm withdraws from its caterpillar world, an finds itself a place alone ,and there painfully, and with much struggling, it wraps itself tightly into a cocoon of its own making; It literally seals itself from the world. Days...	angel123	0	2284	May 1, 2008 by angel123
	The Chicken or the Egg (Preview) The alcoholic in my life has been diagnosed with a serious mental illness. They won't discuss it and surprise surprise, are in denial about it. In so much denial that I was not told about it before the marriage, I found out by coming across some legal papers which contained information about the dia...	ThisIsBlythe	6	697	May 1, 2008 by serendipity
	More miracles...gosh darnit!! (Preview) Aloha All!! I guess I'll bubble a bit and then slaunter off to bed. The family is still growing!! Step Son and Step Daughter-in-Law are now three and it is sooooo promising cause he has been clean and sober over half his life now and her also. And the new member?....a girl finally!!...and check out her...	Jerry F	11	667	May 1, 2008 by Jen
	meditation for today from hazelden (Preview) No decision has to bind us forever. Most of us are no longer sure what we want to be doing a year or even a month from now. When we are called upon to make decisions, any decision that commits us to a certain path in the future, we shudder. Will we be allowed to change our minds. What a change this is from earlie...	Tiger2006	2	930	May 1, 2008 by cookie1971
	Made two decisions (Preview) The first decision (posted under Maria's) was to share my recovery program with a friend. Not a good decision. She called me born again and said she didn't understand. I just wanted to let her know that I had found help with my pain. The second decision was thought out by me. If my AHsober calls I need to ha...	nmike	5	497	Apr 30, 2008 by maresie
	it only takes one little thing... (Preview) Not even an hour after I last posted, any serenity I thought I had come to, got destroyed. I hate that! Makes me feel stupid. I phoned my AH for two purposes. First, I wanted my son to stay at the office for the day since he didn't have school. Second, my youngest had an injury, and given the medical back...	Loupiness	6	628	Apr 30, 2008 by maresie
	Why are they so hurtful? (Preview) I am working on my recovery (from my eating disorder) and here lately my A has been really big with his words. He has said some of the not so nice things to me. He talked about my weight. Working on getting a job and everytime I have good news he comes in with negative comments. Then is constantly on me on why...	cmarina2001	5	652	Apr 30, 2008 by maresie
	Has anyone gone through this?-I sooo h=need help! (Preview) I have posted before-but I am so down--my son has called me on Sunday nite and said his wife and her were divorcing. I have me 83 yr. old Mom here-the start of demensia, so I have had such a stressing 4 days...and so many more to come. I love these grandkids so much--have them all the time. My son is saying his...	meagain	3	840	Apr 30, 2008 by maresie
	I'm opening up (Preview) I really surprised myself at my meeting last night. We had a newcomer to our meeting, and I actually smiled at him and told him welcome, and then after the meeting gave him a big hug, told him I was glad he was there and to keep coming back! I NEVER do that! I am a person who is terrified of new people. I'...	Aloha	5	417	Apr 30, 2008 by serendipity
	Interesting... (Preview) ...you know I cannot find a single post in all of MIP where someone says: "gee, you know it was a real mistake for me to leave/divorce my alcoholic spouse, I really regret it". Just found that interesting...if I am wrong, please correct me!! Hugs, J. PS: I am in no way saying that this is the b...	Jean4444	8	593	Apr 30, 2008 by serendipity
	making Amends to my spouse (Preview) Making amends to my spouse seemed an impossible task. I couldn't find the humility or the courage. This article helped me to change my thinking: I love a man, he is a different kind of man than most, He is a special man. Most people do not understand, because he is one of many that are the so called weakling...	angel123	2	680	Apr 30, 2008 by Jen
	Compassion and Courage (Preview) I first just want to say that though I have not posted in a while I do think of everyone often and still read the posts. My A has now been transferred to a maximum security jail because of the violations he incurred that resulted in lock down for the extended period. Now he is double shackeled when allowed o...	Codependent	3	551	Apr 30, 2008 by carolinagirl
	I went over “The Bridge” (Preview) As many of you know, I have shared Letting go of those not in recovery which I call The Bridge. *Letting Go of Those Not In Recovery* We can go forward with our life and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the bridge, it is cold and dark. We stood the...	Maria123	7	831	Apr 29, 2008 by wp
	Tough day today (Preview) My 19 year old AD told me today that this coming weekend is the weekend she is moving out. I know this is her own journey, and I can't save her from herself. I've turned it over and taken it back a dozen times today. It's not that she's moving in with an alcoholic, but she's moving in with an abusive alcoholic...	Tenderheartsks	3	433	Apr 29, 2008 by maresie
	ty your concerns and prayers (Preview) Thank you all for your prayers and concerns, pertaining to my surgery. I am healing one day at a time. I have so much love in my heart for all of you. I have a good hubby that has helped and took care of me. I sponsor a few people and received so much support for them as well. Alanon is and has bin my life line. So w...	angel123	0	577	Apr 29, 2008 by angel123
	It's true... it is hard to get rid of your alcoholic (Preview) I had read in an Alanon book that it is hard to get rid of an alcoholic. I hadn't heard from my A-bf since early February... I thought I was rid of him for good now. And not necessarily by my choosing. I was "fired" by his father. His father left a weird voice mail for me back in February; then I h...	ESH	3	741	Apr 29, 2008 by maresie
	what's wrong with me? (Preview) Hello All, I am having a horrible time dealing with all this pain! i can't get me mind off all the drama in my life. I have tried to let go and let god. I am trying really hardbut i feel asif i cant make a move or think until my Ah calls to let me know everything is ok. My husband is not living w/ me and our daughter...	JeannineM	7	472	Apr 29, 2008 by Tracy
	A new beginning... (Preview) Hello Alanon family! I haven't posted in a very long time. I've still been here reading once in a while. I wanted to share with you that I'm beginning a new chapter in my life. As many of you know, I left my Alcoholic/cocaine-addicted husband in September 2006 and my divorce was final in March of 2007...	artygirl	7	550	Apr 29, 2008 by Tracy
	Another April Birthday Girl !!!!!!!!!!! (Preview) (((((((((Shadow)))))))))))))))))), Happy Birthday Girl !!!!! Remember, as Kari will tell us, calories don't count today. I hope your day was a wonderful one!!! love ya, Maria	Maria123	5	475	Apr 29, 2008 by Diva
	Sponsorship... (Preview) Ok, so I know I've not posted in a while, and a lot of things has been happening medically wise as of here recently...however I have managed to make each one of my F2F meetings except for the last 2 weeks. Which brings me to the question that I have. I contacted my sponsor to let her know that I would be there t...	CJC	4	498	Apr 29, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	New Member and Not Sure How to Do This (Preview) I am new to the group. A little bit about myself. I am living with an alcholic but of course he will not see that. Right now I have been battling with an Eating Disorder and have been doing that for a year. when I used to bring up about how I have this addiction and how he needs to get treatment for his addiction...	cmarina2001	5	558	Apr 29, 2008 by maresie
	This could get long (Preview) I've been working on my personal inventory and find myself even more depressed. I hurt someone really bad and I have regretted it ever since (10 years ago). I was living with a guy...a normal guy. He loved me for who I was, never asked for anything from me and treated me like a princess. He had no real vi...	beth280	5	643	Apr 29, 2008 by ally
	Accepting what is... (Preview) Last night the kids and I went to dinner at my husband's sister's home. His mom, brother and his wife were there too. It has gotten to the point now where only one of us is invited. My AH called to ask his sis a question while we were there and everyone hushed. Wierd. I enjoyed myself, we had wonderful, fun co...	Loupiness	5	541	Apr 29, 2008 by maresie
	Deverstated!!!! (Preview) He left. I gave him a choice booze or his familey and he left. I cant describ how I feel. Deverstated is a little of an understatment. Feels like he has ripped my heart out and stammped on it. He said he wont let me rule his life he is going to drink with or without me and I expect him to be a man he isnt. He said he d...	mum2leahnjosh	11	622	Apr 29, 2008 by maire rua
	Is my HP trying to tell me something? (Preview) I got a phone call today from a very distraught woman whose husband has returned to drinking. She was crying, full of fear, desperately reaching out hoping someone could fix it, and my heart went out to her. She called me because I am listed as the AA contact for our AA meetings here, but I also qualify for...	Tenderheartsks	6	654	Apr 29, 2008 by Gailey
	A long, exhausting weekend (Preview) Just fair warning, this is really, REALLY long, and honestly, I think that I'm just working things through in my head as I post this. I had a long, trying and exhausting weekend full of highs and lows. Jeez. I almost think my weekend was bipolar or something. As I've mentioned before, my AH's brothe...	Aloha	9	628	Apr 29, 2008 by Jerry F
	I am finally ready to get a divorce! (Preview) Its been years. I have struggled and massaged and contorted and tried and suffered and did every thing imaginable regarding puzzling over this question: to stay or to leave. I finally am ready. It just came to me one morning after I woke up: I am ready to move on. I deserve better. Even if I am driven to liv...	Jean4444	10	802	Apr 29, 2008 by Loupiness
	still no sign (Preview) hi everyone my A went out 9 days ago got drunk and has not been in touch since. Hes in his mums See he knows I will not accept it anymore. I have had good and bad days Thought he might have rang 2day 3rd anniversary he never This helps me to see I am doing the right thing I know he loves me but he knows its not worki...	Tracy	8	633	Apr 28, 2008 by Maria123
	clarity of thought (Preview) what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...	norwood	5	904	Apr 28, 2008 by Maria123
	One of April's Birthday Girl (Preview) (((((((((((Kari)))))))))))) Today is the day (or is it week) that calories don't count ? Happy Birthday!!! to you. Here is your and ice cream (hmm need an emoticon for that one because ice cream is my favorite ). Wishes for a wonderful year ahead for you. Live Strong, Maria	Maria123	8	707	Apr 28, 2008 by stillkickin
	clarity of thought (Preview) what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...	norwood	2	380	Apr 28, 2008 by maresie
	You are (Preview) You Are ..... > > > > You are strong... when you take your grief and teach > > it to smile. > > You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help > > others to do the same. > > You are happy... when you see a flower and are > > thankful for the blessing. > >...	angel123	0	490	Apr 28, 2008 by angel123
	Should I be here? (Preview) I have seen this question many times. In my experience,even if I don't have an A in my life,what I have learned here at MIP alanon, my life is ever so much better. I am a better person. I took a bit off from the internet pet lists I am on.Was feeling so crummy losing animals right and left to old age. My attitud...	debilyn	7	622	Apr 28, 2008 by maresie
	rebounding more quickly (Preview) This week has been one step forward, two back, but I am rebounding more quickly than earlier in my journey. Made several errors this week in dealing with my son. He has had two awful days of discoveries/experiences with his EX which has knocked him off his sobriety once more. I, forgetting what I know t...	omajoy	7	832	Apr 28, 2008 by Jen
	jumbled thoughts (Preview) I was reading the thread "in all our affairs" by Lin plus replies from Jerry and others. This is really a thought provoking thread that has given me a lot to think about. I was sensitive, loner, runner, fearful ....... I barely express myself, let alone express anger. I can help others but...	ddub	8	608	Apr 28, 2008 by ddub
	Relax (Preview) Step One: RELAX-> I don't have to be in charge or in control anymore. It's going to be okay. Step Two: RELAX-> I can simply believe that someone stronger than I can restore me to health and wholeness. Step Three: RELAX-> I can easily turn my whole life and well-being over to God, as I understand...	angel123	3	557	Apr 28, 2008 by Jean4444
	Living in the now... (Preview) Okay, I keep coming across this phrase... "Living in the now...", which encourages me to concentrate on just that, but I don't really have a clue what it means. Whilst I realise that it is healthy to live each day as it comes, my past is a part of me, and my future is what I will be, so by "Li...	Suzannah	5	499	Apr 28, 2008 by Suzannah
	Affirmation (Preview) Affirmations I am creative and intelligent I am a magnet for Miracles I am always in the right place at the right time I am a natural winner I am powerful magnet for Abundance I am open and willing to change I am open to all business opportunities I am committed to excellence in all I do I am success in motion...	angel123	3	684	Apr 28, 2008 by Suzannah
	ONLINE SPONSOR NEEDED PLEASE (Preview) Hi im new to alanon and im unable to attend f2f meetings due to a difficult pregnancy so i am in need on an online sponsor. please email me or respond here my email is lovingarmstrong@yahoo.com Only females inquire please.	missinghim	2	426	Apr 27, 2008 by java
	My HP called (Preview) My HP works in mysterious ways. Right after I posted last night I was of course having my pity party about being left out of my AHsober's plans (a novel idea that he plans around me). Another neighbor called and invited me to supper Sunday nite. Her relatives from Hilo, HI are in town and would I like to com...	nmike	5	436	Apr 27, 2008 by Jean4444
	In All Our Affairs (Preview) I've had quite the week, with plenty of opportunities to use my alanon tools. My job, which I have been at for many years, gives me a high degree of autonomy - I basically am my own boss, within the limits of reality (budget, licensing regulations, etc). We got a new director in January, and since that ti...	lin0606	7	538	Apr 27, 2008 by ddub
	I made it!! (Preview) This last year has been very crazy for me to say the least! Came within inches of death, took on lots of extra responsibilities, and had the toughest semester I've ever had! Somehow, I was able to get through it all.....the program has become rooted so well in my life that even when I couldn't get to meeti...	stillkickin	7	559	Apr 27, 2008 by Christy
	Answers please (Preview) This is my first time posting. I believe my husband is a functioning alcoholic. I never grew up around alcohol, sure I saw my parents have the odd drink, but neither one was the type who came home and "had to unwind" by knocking a few back. That's why this is very difficult for me to figure out...	doublesmommy	16	613	Apr 27, 2008 by Jerry F
	In a better place... (Preview) I have been reflecting of late where I was this time last year. I am in such a better place and I am so grateful for the learning curve that seemed to be a real tough one in October of last year. So many years have passed by and it seemed as though I was always going to be stuck in the same old same old. How delig...	Suzannah	3	403	Apr 26, 2008 by nmike
	Jealous of Husband's AA Friends (Preview) Can you tell me, is it acceptable in the AA program for recovering Alcoholics to develop and maintain a close relationship to someone of the opposite sex and go to breakfast/lunch on occasion with them, go to the gym and workout with each other, call each other almost daily? I admit I am a jealous per...	cynthi45	14	6430	Apr 26, 2008 by cynthi45
	The weekend.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, It is the weekend to stay home. Catch up at work and at home. It is hard for me but not as hard as it use to be. Everyone leaves for the weekend. Kinda lonely. I ask my sons to call me on Sunday - is once a week too much? They usually don't call. I am having dinner with a neighbor tomorrow night. Sh...	nmike	4	467	Apr 26, 2008 by round3
	Look Beyond (Preview) Look beyond Look beyond what irritates you and you'll find those things that empower you. Look past what frustrates you and begin to uncover what drives you. Look beyond what worries you and you'll discover what inspires you. Look beyond what frightens you and you'll see what strengthens you. Look b...	angel123	3	471	Apr 26, 2008 by angel123
	Support and all the eggs in one basket (Preview) I was called out(gently) at a meeting last night. I had shared a bit about feeling betrayed by someone and trouble I was having with someone who was, at one time, my biggest support. Anyway someone with only a few months in the program asked me, "With all your experience and so much more time in the p...	Jen	4	711	Apr 26, 2008 by Jen
	Making all th esame mistakes again? (Preview) Dear all, At present I am socialising quite a bit and have become attracted to a man I have met. As things are still unclear with ex A, I am unable to move on, yet I find myself having deep feeling for someone who is not all that suitable for me. Our relationship is fueled by alcohol. I am not in any shape at pre...	maire rua	5	657	Apr 26, 2008 by Suzannah
	having trouble, please help..need chatroom (Preview) am on a laptop geting wireless..but cannot get into room either by website or by mirc please help as am needing room while in hospital with my a who has had surgery hugs to all iona54	iona54	5	572	Apr 25, 2008 by wp
	Any and all of you who live in Hawaii... (Preview) Please private message me and tell me about your island and your surroundings. I promised myself years ago I would someday live in Hawaii, and the time has come to throw caution to the wind, sell out here, and make my dream come true. I intend to come with a couple suitcases, my kitties and my dog. I hav...	Diva	18	688	Apr 25, 2008 by Jean4444
	I'm so so confused (Preview) Hello All, This is the first time posting i have been on this website a couple times and have read some of the postings. I am currently attending my 3rd alanon meeting tonight. I have so many ? and want all the answers right now! Attending meetings and reading literatue has opened so many closed doors. Bu...	JeannineM	9	572	Apr 25, 2008 by SLS
	Fellow Alanon's (Preview) During the years this great PROGRAM HAS EXCIST fellow Alanons Wrote quick quotes, poems, Wisdom, Shares of ESH, Feelings, list goes on. I have writen a few in my days in Alanon that I would like to share a few.. Fellow Alanons .. left pieces to a puzzle of the dease. Of flowers for us. Along our Journey.(b...	angel123	5	495	Apr 25, 2008 by Tracy
	Why do I feel this way ? (Preview) My ex AH ( of 15 yrs)told me tonight tht hes going to go to Tenn. to meet this woman hes been chattin w on line .Apparently hes been chatting w her for over a yr.So our divorce isnt even final and now he has a potential girlfriend ?!?!??!? OK..dont get me wrong, I want him out of my bedroom, but come on,, hes bee...	MIDGET	6	705	Apr 25, 2008 by Tracy
	Interesting watching my AH's HP in action (Preview) Whew... what an interesting night. Tonight was the kickoff meeting for the Big island Bash AA/Al-Anon convention. As i've been posting before, my AH has been tagging along, arms crossed walls and barriers on super-strength. Well, in the middle of the kickoff meeting, my AH got a message on his c...	Aloha	1	577	Apr 25, 2008 by SLS
	Alcohol claims another (Preview) My daughter just called, her fiance's Mother died this morning at the age of 48. She was a professional, a biologist. She fought hard for the last few yrs to overcome the disease. She was a kind hearted woman with a huge alcohol problem. She was so looking forward to our kids wedding (which has no date). I...	Christy	7	656	Apr 25, 2008 by DANDTALWAYS
	Detaching, but not Feeling love (Preview) Is this detaching? I don't feel love right now, just anger. Anger at myself for all the fixing and stopping my 31 yr old A son from feeling and living consequences, and anger at him for drinking and drugging and creating all the chaos that I've lived in for 10 years. (It's taken me 9 1/2 years to realize my e...	laurab	11	2362	Apr 25, 2008 by DD
	I'm back...It's been awhile (Preview) Hello everyone! It's been awhile since I have been here. (sept 07) I don't know I guess I thought I was Ok and My hubby was finally realizing that I wasn't putting up with his crap anymore. Man oh man was I wrong. Granted things has been much better than it had been in the past. He had quit drinking AGAIN, and...	sgraingermk	4	404	Apr 25, 2008 by sgraingermk
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