Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, It is the weekend to stay home. Catch up at work and at home. It is hard for me but not as hard as it use to be. Everyone leaves for the weekend. Kinda lonely. I ask my sons to call me on Sunday - is once a week too much? They usually don't call. I am having dinner with a neighbor tomorrow night. Sh...

angel123 · angel123

Look beyond Look beyond what irritates you and you'll find those things that empower you. Look past what frustrates you and begin to uncover what drives you. Look beyond what worries you and you'll discover what inspires you. Look beyond what frightens you and you'll see what strengthens you. Look b...

Jen · Jen

I was called out(gently) at a meeting last night. I had shared a bit about feeling betrayed by someone and trouble I was having with someone who was, at one time, my biggest support. Anyway someone with only a few months in the program asked me, "With all your experience and so much more time in the p...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, At present I am socialising quite a bit and have become attracted to a man I have met. As things are still unclear with ex A, I am unable to move on, yet I find myself having deep feeling for someone who is not all that suitable for me. Our relationship is fueled by alcohol. I am not in any shape at pre...

iona54 · iona54

am on a laptop geting wireless..but cannot get into room either by website or by mirc please help as am needing room while in hospital with my a who has had surgery hugs to all iona54

Diva · Diva

Please private message me and tell me about your island and your surroundings. I promised myself years ago I would someday live in Hawaii, and the time has come to throw caution to the wind, sell out here, and make my dream come true. I intend to come with a couple suitcases, my kitties and my dog. I hav...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Hello All, This is the first time posting i have been on this website a couple times and have read some of the postings. I am currently attending my 3rd alanon meeting tonight. I have so many ? and want all the answers right now! Attending meetings and reading literatue has opened so many closed doors. Bu...

angel123 · angel123

During the years this great PROGRAM HAS EXCIST fellow Alanons Wrote quick quotes, poems, Wisdom, Shares of ESH, Feelings, list goes on. I have writen a few in my days in Alanon that I would like to share a few.. Fellow Alanons .. left pieces to a puzzle of the dease. Of flowers for us. Along our Journey.(b...

MIDGET · MIDGET

My ex AH ( of 15 yrs)told me tonight tht hes going to go to Tenn. to meet this woman hes been chattin w on line .Apparently hes been chatting w her for over a yr.So our divorce isnt even final and now he has a potential girlfriend ?!?!??!? OK..dont get me wrong, I want him out of my bedroom, but come on,, hes bee...

Aloha · Aloha

Whew... what an interesting night. Tonight was the kickoff meeting for the Big island Bash AA/Al-Anon convention. As i've been posting before, my AH has been tagging along, arms crossed walls and barriers on super-strength. Well, in the middle of the kickoff meeting, my AH got a message on his c...

Christy · Christy

My daughter just called, her fiance's Mother died this morning at the age of 48. She was a professional, a biologist. She fought hard for the last few yrs to overcome the disease. She was a kind hearted woman with a huge alcohol problem. She was so looking forward to our kids wedding (which has no date). I...

laurab · laurab

Is this detaching? I don't feel love right now, just anger. Anger at myself for all the fixing and stopping my 31 yr old A son from feeling and living consequences, and anger at him for drinking and drugging and creating all the chaos that I've lived in for 10 years. (It's taken me 9 1/2 years to realize my e...

sgraingermk · sgraingermk

Hello everyone! It's been awhile since I have been here. (sept 07) I don't know I guess I thought I was Ok and My hubby was finally realizing that I wasn't putting up with his crap anymore. Man oh man was I wrong. Granted things has been much better than it had been in the past. He had quit drinking AGAIN, and...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

He made it home past midnight with someone driving him. He could hardley walk. He was very nice to them but as soon as he saw me he started acting like a real creep. Stumbling around the house kicking stuff and saying mean things. I didn't want him to wake the kids up or fall down and hurt himself. He started...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Paste this into your browser and just listen to the voice of an angel. I don't know how to copy it here so that you can open it here, but if any of the moderators do, please do it for me please: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC-lKhr1k0g This is ittle six year old Conney singing - Somewhere over the Rain...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family)))) My AH, myself, our daughter and her boyfriend will be going to Las Vegas on Friday. We promised our daughter that when she turned 21, we would take her to Vegas, and the time has come. I wish I could get excited about it. I feel instead like I will be going out onto a battlefield. I know I wil...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

but, right now I am so hurt and so mad at the self righteous egotism of someone I love very much. She apologized but you know what? I'm still mad. I'm still hurt. I want her to hurt and be punished but I know that's the wrong attitude. I know I am powerless over her opinons. I know that I need to let it go especia...

Diva · Diva

Today, while stone sober, he called my older son a "silly bastard." All because my son gave me an idea on refinishing the woodwork in my living room that A hadn't thought about. My son restores interiors of old houses for a living, and there are certain things he knows and is readily willin...

maresie · maresie

I've had terrible allergies these past few weeks. Ended up staying home on Monday. I am in a lot of fatigue, isolation and stuck on many levels. At the same time compared to my life this time last year I've made progress. I see a light at the end of the tunnel. I keep getting waylaid by life events, bills, o...

intothewoods · intothewoods

I have started to notice that I'm neglecting my physical needs, like not eating enough and even not going to the bathroom until it's absolutely necessary. I just kind of forget. The not eating is very bad for me (blood sugar issues), but it keeps happening. I'm not obsessing over food or exercising all...

ally · ally

(((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) I've been in MIP over two years. I have made lots of wonderful friends, shared some of my experiences with you all. I feel I have been Involved in helping lots of people get started in their recovery. I have stayed with them, and continued to encourage and support th...

Aloha · Aloha

AH's family is out visiting with us this week. AH's brother is in AA - sober 4 years, AH's brother's friend is another AA member (not sure how long sober), and AH's mom, while not in Al-Anon, certainly is concerned about AH's drinking. Brother-in-law (BIL) isn't riding AH, but AH is acting like a lo...

lilms · lilms

((((Friends)))))) We have found out that my dear old girl has cancer. We are going to keep her home, love her up and cherish her until it is no longer humane to do so. Then we will sadly say good bye and do the right thing. Damn this is hard. Will fill her full of treats, play with all the favorite toys and...

Suzannah · Suzannah

The past has a habit of jumping up at me from time to time and taking a nip at my heel and that famous 'what if' and his friend 'if only' snap at me. What if often shows his face when I am reading others in the family who are working their programme whilst they are still in their marriage/partnership and are su...

lilms · lilms

((((((Mip Family)))) It has been awhile. Have had the computer from hell and have not been near one in I am not sure how long. It seems to be working for now so am able to catch up with you all. Our A went through a 35 day rehab and seemed to do fine for awhile. Ended up in hospital again not long ago and we alm...

Aloha · Aloha

On top of having his family out to visit, my AH is finally starting to feel the pinch of his compulsive spending habits. The last few days he's been complaining to me, "I only have $35 in my checking account!", and then "I only have $16 in my checking account!", and last night &qu...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((((Everyone)))))))) Someone dear to me sent this via email. Seems there are always days that people struggle with the difference between the acceptance of HP will, and the strength to carry that out. I really liked the message... thought I would pass it along. Will leave the reading up to you...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! This morning's Serenity on Sunday meeting was a monthly speaker meeting. The guest speaker was a woman that I have been blessed by watching her enter the program and work it as best she could for the last 7 years with the consequence that she now has a very solid personal recovery progra...

Tracy · Tracy

My head is so confused one minute I think love yourself get out of this relationship everyone around me who loves me is getting really fed up they are upset watching me not get my needs met and be so down its just not me But then he comes and tells me he loves me hugs me begs me he just does somethin to me I really...

Maria123 · Maria123

Hi family, Please help me congratulate our new Momma and welcome with the newest addition to our MIP family. Leetle had a baby girl this afternoon. Baby - Sariah Lynn was born at 3:48 pm weighing in at 6 lbs, 13 ozs. and 19" long. Both Momma and baby are doing fine, thank you HP yours in recovery, M...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have recently been going out on some very casual dates with some very nice men. Its been so simple and positive. It has helped me SO MUCH to see some things about my recovery, too, which I think others have mentioned here before but I just wanted to underline. By letting go of control, in a way, I feel mu...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Spent a harrowing day and evening with my daughter working on her 5th grade state report. It was assigned 3 wks ago, but she procrastinated until the middle of last week and it is due on Tues. I made a big deal about her getting it done since she has softball practice tomorrow afternoon and I have a meeti...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

My life is a sham. No matter where I go, there I am. I didn't mean for that to rhyme. No matter what I do or try to accomplish, I always come back to the same spot. Watching the clock, looking out the window. Watching the clock. Listening for the car. Making myself sick. Maybe I'll get lucky and tonight will b...

Maria123 · Maria123

<sigh> well as many of you know, I am an older college student who works FT 50+ hours per week and have been attending college for the last three years securing my associates degree and am now looking for another college to complete my bachelors in public administration. So I am down to the wire,...

marmare · marmare

First, I apoligized for any curse words that appeared in the last post, I didn't re-read it as I usually do....so sorry again. Well, my A is in full blown relapse, I don't know if that's the right wording since he never stopped drinking but was in a controlled state of drinking. He had left Saturday nigh...

ddub · ddub

I love being able to post here with revelations and questions. thank you all. I have been working on step 4 and felt comfortable about integrity/honesty and realized my self worth was about a zero. Spent some time on resentments and then doors started opening in my face. It's sort of like a hallwa...

CJ · CJ

((((AllyAllyAlly)))) Happy belated birthday!!!! I don't know how to do all the bells and whistles to make my computer screen light up, but you can trust that I jumped up and down a time or 2 for ya. Love ya, bean! In support and friendship always, cj

Songburd · Songburd

Hi Dale, Sorry, I haven't been available. Things are going well. God is everpresent and meets our needs. He's as near as your next thought. Trust him. I was looking for you earlier today at the meeting and have been flat out all day. I'll be around tomorrow night, Lord willin, and the creek don't r...

Lexie · Lexie

Hello ((((((((friends)))))))))) I feel like I have been so out of touch with most of you. I have not been on the board or in the room very much at all.....just pop in and out from time to time. I have been working on some issues of my own and am trying to find "myself" somewhere in the midst of i...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Ok so I have been on the diet 8 days and been doing the exercise for 6. I have lost 10 pounds from the time I returned from DC. I have a much easier time getting out of bed in the morning and am starting to look forward to the machine... I skipped the weekend because it was too hectic and I just didn't feel lik...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Good evening family! I have come to a stage in my recovery where I am beginning to feel comfortable with myself, which is wonderful and I therefore want to run some of my conclusions passed you. I hope you will not mind, and I would value your feed back, especially if any of the things I say resonnates wit...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

13 year old daughter has failed math all year. We all had a meeting a few weeks back about her making up time because she had mono and missed a lot of days. Come to find out (at this late hour) that if she fails math this time she will have to repeat the grade. She has 6 weeks left and has failed every test for...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

I broached the subject of moving out of state with my daughter to her father, who isn't an A today. First, let me say that I felt empowered. I realized that he can only intimidate me if I let him. I realized that I have the right to ask for what I want and furthermore I realize the decision of me taking my daug...

Maria123 · Maria123

[[[[[ Haxi ]]]]]]], A very happy birthday to you!!! I hope you have a wonderful day and eat lots of yours in recovery, Maria

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family)))) Many of you who know me have heard me say that my AH was 20 years sober, and started drinking again just last year. Until just today, I believed that to be true. I never knew how much my AH was drinking all along. He has never been sober at all, I just was totally unaware that he had been drink...

david62 · david62

Hi (((Family))) I got home yesterday from celebrating my 4 yr al-anon birthday. I did this with just over 100 of recovery brothers and sisters..and mom's and dads at the conference that my home group sponsors every April. We were at a new location this year for the first time. At a beautiful facility in...

angel123 · angel123

Thank you for your love and prayers,healing time.Love Sharon/angel -- Edited by angel123 at 14:37, 2008-04-21

JenniferN · JenniferN

It shouldn't get to me that my mother is the way she is, but it does sometimes. Just as A'ism is cunning and baffeling, so is the person who has lived with it in their lives their whole life and doesn't think there is anything wrong with them. I, of course, am speaking of my mother. Her ability to manipulat...

mon123 · mon123

Hi I hope you don't mind my asking this here. I go on this and other 12 step forums. I recently, through step 4, found out I have some codependant issues especially around my sibling family. I read Melody Beattie and go on a coda site. Its interesting to go through the early steps with them. My main focus is...

marmare · marmare

It's taken nearly a year but the other shoe dropped, it was a long drop, must have fell from a high shelf. My A, who has been in a controlled drinking state for I don't know how long has slowly slipped back into full drinking binge. I am working hard at not being the victim. Funny how different I see thing...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone thanks for your brilliant posts. I think it is about time I get myself off this merry go round my partner makes me promisies only to break them nothing ever changes for long. All his needs are getting met and none of mine. I feel quite ashamed for not taking better care of myself For looking to a...

grizmom · grizmom

My husband called last night. We haven't been good at communicating lately. Maybe I am the one unable to communicate...anyway, I told him I need more time. I need for us to live apart when he is released from DOC. He reponded with "I understand you're going through things, I am trying to under...

thaiexpat · thaiexpat

As mentioned in an earlier post, my Thai wife got into a small motorcycle accident with 8 yr old daughter while drunk [two days after i let go of control] and luckily it was just a few bruises and stawberries and hopefully a 'wake-up call'. She felt like xx for a few days and I'm sure felt even worse ever...

intothewoods · intothewoods

OK so the situation in a nutshell: My A fiance's A friends invited him and I to a party where there will be drinking. They tried to rope me into it by insisting that I "make him go if he doesn't want to." We talked it over and both decided that our recovery would be threatened by going to this party...

Aloha · Aloha

I was realizing today that I live an oxymoron. I'm constantly wanting to control the world around me, but when the world asks "okay, what do you want to do?" I'm standing there shuffling my feet, looking down murmuring "I dunno... what do YOU want to do?" Discovered that today...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, Tonight's topics for the meeting where, "Principles Above Personalities and Attitude is a Choice". Here is my share, wanted to share it all again. These topics came to me last night after a very good friend of mine called me on B.S.He did it with love and he wasn't mean about it, but he...

laurab · laurab

Hello All, After all this time, I still can't figure out detachment. I haven't spoken to my A son in almost a week, since he called to tell me he had a 4 day binge after 5 months sober. No job. Lost his place to live. I didn't offer any help. Now I want to call him but I am scared. Scared of how miserable I will fe...

spirit · spirit

hi everyone. its been a while since i have been here. good day and not so good days. dont want to seem like i complain alot. but i have no one to go to. i hate saturdays when i am home. i work extra every other saturday. let me quote what i found on this bb "Guilt: family members begin to believe the alcoho...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

I'm in the process of filling out a very short application for scholarships to college, and at the end of the application it asks for a personal statement where I am allowed to state any educational goals, accomplishments in my life, civic/social activities, etc. Talk about self doubt creeping in! W...

Tracy · Tracy

my stomache is churning my partner has disapeared again I try as hard as I can to keep myself busy and the focus on myself But he slept with someone else in Novemeber on one of his benders everytime he goes missing I am in turmoil I have probs with his drinking and how he lives his life but I can get past most of...

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	The weekend.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, It is the weekend to stay home. Catch up at work and at home. It is hard for me but not as hard as it use to be. Everyone leaves for the weekend. Kinda lonely. I ask my sons to call me on Sunday - is once a week too much? They usually don't call. I am having dinner with a neighbor tomorrow night. Sh...	nmike	4	354	Apr 26, 2008 by round3
	Look Beyond (Preview) Look beyond Look beyond what irritates you and you'll find those things that empower you. Look past what frustrates you and begin to uncover what drives you. Look beyond what worries you and you'll discover what inspires you. Look beyond what frightens you and you'll see what strengthens you. Look b...	angel123	3	355	Apr 26, 2008 by angel123
	Support and all the eggs in one basket (Preview) I was called out(gently) at a meeting last night. I had shared a bit about feeling betrayed by someone and trouble I was having with someone who was, at one time, my biggest support. Anyway someone with only a few months in the program asked me, "With all your experience and so much more time in the p...	Jen	4	594	Apr 26, 2008 by Jen
	Making all th esame mistakes again? (Preview) Dear all, At present I am socialising quite a bit and have become attracted to a man I have met. As things are still unclear with ex A, I am unable to move on, yet I find myself having deep feeling for someone who is not all that suitable for me. Our relationship is fueled by alcohol. I am not in any shape at pre...	maire rua	5	550	Apr 26, 2008 by Suzannah
	having trouble, please help..need chatroom (Preview) am on a laptop geting wireless..but cannot get into room either by website or by mirc please help as am needing room while in hospital with my a who has had surgery hugs to all iona54	iona54	5	468	Apr 25, 2008 by wp
	Any and all of you who live in Hawaii... (Preview) Please private message me and tell me about your island and your surroundings. I promised myself years ago I would someday live in Hawaii, and the time has come to throw caution to the wind, sell out here, and make my dream come true. I intend to come with a couple suitcases, my kitties and my dog. I hav...	Diva	18	589	Apr 25, 2008 by Jean4444
	I'm so so confused (Preview) Hello All, This is the first time posting i have been on this website a couple times and have read some of the postings. I am currently attending my 3rd alanon meeting tonight. I have so many ? and want all the answers right now! Attending meetings and reading literatue has opened so many closed doors. Bu...	JeannineM	9	425	Apr 25, 2008 by SLS
	Fellow Alanon's (Preview) During the years this great PROGRAM HAS EXCIST fellow Alanons Wrote quick quotes, poems, Wisdom, Shares of ESH, Feelings, list goes on. I have writen a few in my days in Alanon that I would like to share a few.. Fellow Alanons .. left pieces to a puzzle of the dease. Of flowers for us. Along our Journey.(b...	angel123	5	390	Apr 25, 2008 by Tracy
	Why do I feel this way ? (Preview) My ex AH ( of 15 yrs)told me tonight tht hes going to go to Tenn. to meet this woman hes been chattin w on line .Apparently hes been chatting w her for over a yr.So our divorce isnt even final and now he has a potential girlfriend ?!?!??!? OK..dont get me wrong, I want him out of my bedroom, but come on,, hes bee...	MIDGET	6	592	Apr 25, 2008 by Tracy
	Interesting watching my AH's HP in action (Preview) Whew... what an interesting night. Tonight was the kickoff meeting for the Big island Bash AA/Al-Anon convention. As i've been posting before, my AH has been tagging along, arms crossed walls and barriers on super-strength. Well, in the middle of the kickoff meeting, my AH got a message on his c...	Aloha	1	470	Apr 25, 2008 by SLS
	Alcohol claims another (Preview) My daughter just called, her fiance's Mother died this morning at the age of 48. She was a professional, a biologist. She fought hard for the last few yrs to overcome the disease. She was a kind hearted woman with a huge alcohol problem. She was so looking forward to our kids wedding (which has no date). I...	Christy	7	543	Apr 25, 2008 by DANDTALWAYS
	Detaching, but not Feeling love (Preview) Is this detaching? I don't feel love right now, just anger. Anger at myself for all the fixing and stopping my 31 yr old A son from feeling and living consequences, and anger at him for drinking and drugging and creating all the chaos that I've lived in for 10 years. (It's taken me 9 1/2 years to realize my e...	laurab	11	2205	Apr 25, 2008 by DD
	I'm back...It's been awhile (Preview) Hello everyone! It's been awhile since I have been here. (sept 07) I don't know I guess I thought I was Ok and My hubby was finally realizing that I wasn't putting up with his crap anymore. Man oh man was I wrong. Granted things has been much better than it had been in the past. He had quit drinking AGAIN, and...	sgraingermk	4	299	Apr 25, 2008 by sgraingermk
	I'm a horrible alanoner (Preview) He made it home past midnight with someone driving him. He could hardley walk. He was very nice to them but as soon as he saw me he started acting like a real creep. Stumbling around the house kicking stuff and saying mean things. I didn't want him to wake the kids up or fall down and hurt himself. He started...	RainyJamie	18	559	Apr 25, 2008 by Jerry F
	I want you to share the experience of an angel singing. (Preview) Paste this into your browser and just listen to the voice of an angel. I don't know how to copy it here so that you can open it here, but if any of the moderators do, please do it for me please: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CC-lKhr1k0g This is ittle six year old Conney singing - Somewhere over the Rain...	Suzannah	5	488	Apr 25, 2008 by debilyn
	Going to Vegas (Preview) ((((Family)))) My AH, myself, our daughter and her boyfriend will be going to Las Vegas on Friday. We promised our daughter that when she turned 21, we would take her to Vegas, and the time has come. I wish I could get excited about it. I feel instead like I will be going out onto a battlefield. I know I wil...	cookie1971	8	358	Apr 25, 2008 by cookie1971
	I know 2 wrongs don't make a right... (Preview) but, right now I am so hurt and so mad at the self righteous egotism of someone I love very much. She apologized but you know what? I'm still mad. I'm still hurt. I want her to hurt and be punished but I know that's the wrong attitude. I know I am powerless over her opinons. I know that I need to let it go especia...	seekingserenity	7	391	Apr 24, 2008 by Jen
	The A has always resented my children... (Preview) Today, while stone sober, he called my older son a "silly bastard." All because my son gave me an idea on refinishing the woodwork in my living room that A hadn't thought about. My son restores interiors of old houses for a living, and there are certain things he knows and is readily willin...	Diva	21	661	Apr 24, 2008 by Maria123
	life is unmanageable but better (Preview) I've had terrible allergies these past few weeks. Ended up staying home on Monday. I am in a lot of fatigue, isolation and stuck on many levels. At the same time compared to my life this time last year I've made progress. I see a light at the end of the tunnel. I keep getting waylaid by life events, bills, o...	maresie	5	486	Apr 24, 2008 by Maria123
	Neglecting the body (Preview) I have started to notice that I'm neglecting my physical needs, like not eating enough and even not going to the bathroom until it's absolutely necessary. I just kind of forget. The not eating is very bad for me (blood sugar issues), but it keeps happening. I'm not obsessing over food or exercising all...	intothewoods	8	394	Apr 24, 2008 by Jen
	TIME TO MOVE ON FROM MIP.. (Preview) (((((((((((((Guys)))))))))))))) I've been in MIP over two years. I have made lots of wonderful friends, shared some of my experiences with you all. I feel I have been Involved in helping lots of people get started in their recovery. I have stayed with them, and continued to encourage and support th...	ally	16	804	Apr 24, 2008 by aunitedway
	WOW AH is definitely testing my resolve this week (Preview) AH's family is out visiting with us this week. AH's brother is in AA - sober 4 years, AH's brother's friend is another AA member (not sure how long sober), and AH's mom, while not in Al-Anon, certainly is concerned about AH's drinking. Brother-in-law (BIL) isn't riding AH, but AH is acting like a lo...	Aloha	9	1093	Apr 24, 2008 by round3
	Update on Update (Preview) ((((Friends)))))) We have found out that my dear old girl has cancer. We are going to keep her home, love her up and cherish her until it is no longer humane to do so. Then we will sadly say good bye and do the right thing. Damn this is hard. Will fill her full of treats, play with all the favorite toys and...	lilms	7	379	Apr 24, 2008 by Karilynn
	What if ... If only ... AGHHHH! Those doubts keep nipping at my heals ...OUCH! (Preview) The past has a habit of jumping up at me from time to time and taking a nip at my heel and that famous 'what if' and his friend 'if only' snap at me. What if often shows his face when I am reading others in the family who are working their programme whilst they are still in their marriage/partnership and are su...	Suzannah	15	564	Apr 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	Update and Missed You All!! (Preview) ((((((Mip Family)))) It has been awhile. Have had the computer from hell and have not been near one in I am not sure how long. It seems to be working for now so am able to catch up with you all. Our A went through a 35 day rehab and seemed to do fine for awhile. Ended up in hospital again not long ago and we alm...	lilms	6	555	Apr 24, 2008 by Jerry F
	AH is finally facing some consequences (Preview) On top of having his family out to visit, my AH is finally starting to feel the pinch of his compulsive spending habits. The last few days he's been complaining to me, "I only have $35 in my checking account!", and then "I only have $16 in my checking account!", and last night &qu...	Aloha	3	488	Apr 23, 2008 by nmike
	I always wanted to... (Preview) (((((((Everyone)))))))) Someone dear to me sent this via email. Seems there are always days that people struggle with the difference between the acceptance of HP will, and the strength to carry that out. I really liked the message... thought I would pass it along. Will leave the reading up to you...	rtexas	6	487	Apr 23, 2008 by shadow1
	Sunday Speaker Meeting (Preview) Aloha Family!! This morning's Serenity on Sunday meeting was a monthly speaker meeting. The guest speaker was a woman that I have been blessed by watching her enter the program and work it as best she could for the last 7 years with the consequence that she now has a very solid personal recovery progra...	Jerry F	4	438	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	self will (Preview) My head is so confused one minute I think love yourself get out of this relationship everyone around me who loves me is getting really fed up they are upset watching me not get my needs met and be so down its just not me But then he comes and tells me he loves me hugs me begs me he just does somethin to me I really...	Tracy	7	458	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	Leetle's New Baby Girl (Preview) Hi family, Please help me congratulate our new Momma and welcome with the newest addition to our MIP family. Leetle had a baby girl this afternoon. Baby - Sariah Lynn was born at 3:48 pm weighing in at 6 lbs, 13 ozs. and 19" long. Both Momma and baby are doing fine, thank you HP yours in recovery, M...	Maria123	14	585	Apr 23, 2008 by Suzannah
	ALL those years! (Preview) I have recently been going out on some very casual dates with some very nice men. Its been so simple and positive. It has helped me SO MUCH to see some things about my recovery, too, which I think others have mentioned here before but I just wanted to underline. By letting go of control, in a way, I feel mu...	Jean4444	6	397	Apr 23, 2008 by drucilla06
	Always a hero (Preview) Spent a harrowing day and evening with my daughter working on her 5th grade state report. It was assigned 3 wks ago, but she procrastinated until the middle of last week and it is due on Tues. I made a big deal about her getting it done since she has softball practice tomorrow afternoon and I have a meeti...	Loupiness	11	523	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	stuck in the middle with you (Preview) My life is a sham. No matter where I go, there I am. I didn't mean for that to rhyme. No matter what I do or try to accomplish, I always come back to the same spot. Watching the clock, looking out the window. Watching the clock. Listening for the car. Making myself sick. Maybe I'll get lucky and tonight will b...	RainyJamie	7	604	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	I am perfectly imperfect (Preview) <sigh> well as many of you know, I am an older college student who works FT 50+ hours per week and have been attending college for the last three years securing my associates degree and am now looking for another college to complete my bachelors in public administration. So I am down to the wire,...	Maria123	9	476	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	How many shoes can drop???? (Preview) First, I apoligized for any curse words that appeared in the last post, I didn't re-read it as I usually do....so sorry again. Well, my A is in full blown relapse, I don't know if that's the right wording since he never stopped drinking but was in a controlled state of drinking. He had left Saturday nigh...	marmare	7	520	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	more revealed (Preview) I love being able to post here with revelations and questions. thank you all. I have been working on step 4 and felt comfortable about integrity/honesty and realized my self worth was about a zero. Spent some time on resentments and then doors started opening in my face. It's sort of like a hallwa...	ddub	4	324	Apr 23, 2008 by maresie
	BIRTHDAY PARTY AT ALLY'S (Preview) ((((AllyAllyAlly)))) Happy belated birthday!!!! I don't know how to do all the bells and whistles to make my computer screen light up, but you can trust that I jumped up and down a time or 2 for ya. Love ya, bean! In support and friendship always, cj	CJ	3	316	Apr 23, 2008 by CJ
	One Day At A Time (Preview) Hi Dale, Sorry, I haven't been available. Things are going well. God is everpresent and meets our needs. He's as near as your next thought. Trust him. I was looking for you earlier today at the meeting and have been flat out all day. I'll be around tomorrow night, Lord willin, and the creek don't r...	Songburd	0	323	Apr 23, 2008 by Songburd
	Just wanted to say HI (Preview) Hello ((((((((friends)))))))))) I feel like I have been so out of touch with most of you. I have not been on the board or in the room very much at all.....just pop in and out from time to time. I have been working on some issues of my own and am trying to find "myself" somewhere in the midst of i...	Lexie	7	500	Apr 23, 2008 by mel123
	Day 6 (Preview) Ok so I have been on the diet 8 days and been doing the exercise for 6. I have lost 10 pounds from the time I returned from DC. I have a much easier time getting out of bed in the morning and am starting to look forward to the machine... I skipped the weekend because it was too hectic and I just didn't feel lik...	carolinagirl	3	293	Apr 23, 2008 by cookie1971
	What do you think? (Preview) Good evening family! I have come to a stage in my recovery where I am beginning to feel comfortable with myself, which is wonderful and I therefore want to run some of my conclusions passed you. I hope you will not mind, and I would value your feed back, especially if any of the things I say resonnates wit...	Suzannah	4	586	Apr 22, 2008 by Jen
	What I did today. (Preview) 13 year old daughter has failed math all year. We all had a meeting a few weeks back about her making up time because she had mono and missed a lot of days. Come to find out (at this late hour) that if she fails math this time she will have to repeat the grade. She has 6 weeks left and has failed every test for...	carolinagirl	7	512	Apr 22, 2008 by Jen
	no turning back now (Preview) I broached the subject of moving out of state with my daughter to her father, who isn't an A today. First, let me say that I felt empowered. I realized that he can only intimidate me if I let him. I realized that I have the right to ask for what I want and furthermore I realize the decision of me taking my daug...	seekingserenity	7	618	Apr 22, 2008 by maresie
	We have got us a Birthday Boy Today (Preview) [[[[[ Haxi ]]]]]]], A very happy birthday to you!!! I hope you have a wonderful day and eat lots of yours in recovery, Maria	Maria123	11	638	Apr 22, 2008 by aunitedway
	I realized something just today (Preview) ((((Family)))) Many of you who know me have heard me say that my AH was 20 years sober, and started drinking again just last year. Until just today, I believed that to be true. I never knew how much my AH was drinking all along. He has never been sober at all, I just was totally unaware that he had been drink...	cookie1971	10	648	Apr 22, 2008 by maresie
	Home again (Preview) Hi (((Family))) I got home yesterday from celebrating my 4 yr al-anon birthday. I did this with just over 100 of recovery brothers and sisters..and mom's and dads at the conference that my home group sponsors every April. We were at a new location this year for the first time. At a beautiful facility in...	david62	6	332	Apr 22, 2008 by maresie
	Thank You (Preview) Thank you for your love and prayers,healing time.Love Sharon/angel -- Edited by angel123 at 14:37, 2008-04-21	angel123	3	304	Apr 22, 2008 by Karilynn
	My Mother (Preview) It shouldn't get to me that my mother is the way she is, but it does sometimes. Just as A'ism is cunning and baffeling, so is the person who has lived with it in their lives their whole life and doesn't think there is anything wrong with them. I, of course, am speaking of my mother. Her ability to manipulat...	JenniferN	4	474	Apr 21, 2008 by Hoot Nanny
	Question for long timers (Preview) Hi I hope you don't mind my asking this here. I go on this and other 12 step forums. I recently, through step 4, found out I have some codependant issues especially around my sibling family. I read Melody Beattie and go on a coda site. Its interesting to go through the early steps with them. My main focus is...	mon123	6	686	Apr 21, 2008 by mon123
	The other shoe dropped! (Preview) It's taken nearly a year but the other shoe dropped, it was a long drop, must have fell from a high shelf. My A, who has been in a controlled drinking state for I don't know how long has slowly slipped back into full drinking binge. I am working hard at not being the victim. Funny how different I see thing...	marmare	3	705	Apr 21, 2008 by Karilynn
	getting off (Preview) Hi everyone thanks for your brilliant posts. I think it is about time I get myself off this merry go round my partner makes me promisies only to break them nothing ever changes for long. All his needs are getting met and none of mine. I feel quite ashamed for not taking better care of myself For looking to a...	Tracy	5	564	Apr 21, 2008 by glad
	Jedi Mind Tricks! (Preview) My husband called last night. We haven't been good at communicating lately. Maybe I am the one unable to communicate...anyway, I told him I need more time. I need for us to live apart when he is released from DOC. He reponded with "I understand you're going through things, I am trying to under...	grizmom	4	430	Apr 20, 2008 by debilyn
	ghosts of accident excorcised (Preview) As mentioned in an earlier post, my Thai wife got into a small motorcycle accident with 8 yr old daughter while drunk [two days after i let go of control] and luckily it was just a few bruises and stawberries and hopefully a 'wake-up call'. She felt like xx for a few days and I'm sure felt even worse ever...	thaiexpat	3	550	Apr 20, 2008 by debilyn
	Party panic, Part 2: mostly venting (Preview) OK so the situation in a nutshell: My A fiance's A friends invited him and I to a party where there will be drinking. They tried to rope me into it by insisting that I "make him go if he doesn't want to." We talked it over and both decided that our recovery would be threatened by going to this party...	intothewoods	7	370	Apr 20, 2008 by Jen
	For a "control freak", I sure don't like to make decisions (Preview) I was realizing today that I live an oxymoron. I'm constantly wanting to control the world around me, but when the world asks "okay, what do you want to do?" I'm standing there shuffling my feet, looking down murmuring "I dunno... what do YOU want to do?" Discovered that today...	Aloha	4	428	Apr 20, 2008 by lin0606
	Personalities above Principles? Nah! (Preview) Hi all, Tonight's topics for the meeting where, "Principles Above Personalities and Attitude is a Choice". Here is my share, wanted to share it all again. These topics came to me last night after a very good friend of mine called me on B.S.He did it with love and he wasn't mean about it, but he...	Mandy123	4	701	Apr 20, 2008 by Jen
	Detaching (Preview) Hello All, After all this time, I still can't figure out detachment. I haven't spoken to my A son in almost a week, since he called to tell me he had a 4 day binge after 5 months sober. No job. Lost his place to live. I didn't offer any help. Now I want to call him but I am scared. Scared of how miserable I will fe...	laurab	9	627	Apr 20, 2008 by Mobirdie
	I hate saturdays (Preview) hi everyone. its been a while since i have been here. good day and not so good days. dont want to seem like i complain alot. but i have no one to go to. i hate saturdays when i am home. i work extra every other saturday. let me quote what i found on this bb "Guilt: family members begin to believe the alcoho...	spirit	11	500	Apr 20, 2008 by spirit
	I could use some feedback (Preview) I'm in the process of filling out a very short application for scholarships to college, and at the end of the application it asks for a personal statement where I am allowed to state any educational goals, accomplishments in my life, civic/social activities, etc. Talk about self doubt creeping in! W...	Tenderheartsks	8	667	Apr 19, 2008 by nmike
	unacceptable behaviour (Preview) my stomache is churning my partner has disapeared again I try as hard as I can to keep myself busy and the focus on myself But he slept with someone else in Novemeber on one of his benders everytime he goes missing I am in turmoil I have probs with his drinking and how he lives his life but I can get past most of...	Tracy	3	471	Apr 19, 2008 by debilyn
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