Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, step-mother A buried over a week now and my father has planned christmas in the hotel with my son and his girl friend. I think its a great idea. he brings up the topic of alcohol to me a lot. I tell him I have no control over that but that mr. jameson or whatever whisky he is talking about is not his bu...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, I was just unpacking a few boxes of books and came across one that I do not think I have ever seen anyone give a thumbs up to here. "The Addictive Personality" by Craig Nakken. It really helped me, I had admitted i was powerless over addictions, I had no choice I had tried everyt...

mimi2 · mimi2

I found out today that my husband has a live-in girlfriend. We have been separated 3 years, however, for the first two were trying to work things out. After 8 years of progressive drinking after a 12 year period of sobriety, my AH became sober again and began AA meetings with a vengence. I had high hopes t...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

Someday I want to stay in bed and pull the covers over my head. I know troubles and issues will always come up there is no such thing as perfect life is not perfect and never will be. I am not expecting some kind of miracle. I do believe that in time things will get better. Things will never be perfect but I fee...

debilyn · debilyn

U2 - With Or Without You See the stone set in your eyes See the thorn twist in your side I wait for you Sleight of hand and twist of fate On a bed of nails he makes me wait And I wait without you With or without you With or without you Through the storm we reach the shore You give it all but I want more And I'm waiting...

soconfused · soconfused

This sucks. I found myself replying to Roxannes post earlier saying I knew how she felt and to put yourself first, ect ect. Now I am sobbing and wondering if I am worth carrying on. I talked w/ him tonight. He tells me that he doesn't want to be w/ me anymore. It's healthier for both of us. Healthy? He wants t...

roxanne · roxanne

i am confused on how i let go of someone & the past when they have meant soo much to me. i know my ah doesn't care about me. its very very obvious. but that doesn't mean that i don't love him or don't know that he sober could be everything i have ever wanted in life. everyone in the family says i just nee...

kam1974 · kam1974

Hello! I am fairly new to al anon (started f2f meetings in August). I am so grateful to have come to the program. It is making such a difference in my everyday life living with active alcoholism. I am learning s many strategies that are helping me to get a moment or two of serenity here and there..lol On...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

I have had a rough week and am feeling lonely. My new realization is that I am alone way too much and it stinks. My friends are all in relationships and not necessarily around or available as much as I wish they were. It's not only that, though, bc even if they were around, I am still alone at night and in t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Well I liked him, he liked me. Great date ... then "I was in a long distance relationship" turned to "It is ending soon" to "I don't know how, she is an old friend". Well ... crap. I did the next best step, and explained kindly but firmly that I am not going to play that game...

Jen · Jen

Hi Family! I went to a great meeting last night. The topic was on keeping the foundation strong. The sharing wandered through the topic of triggers, having a plan, how patient this disease is. The holiday season is often like a big huge trigger for many of us. I would like to suggest to all of you that...

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

I feel so numb. I'm trying so hard to not feel this pain. I'm grieving over the breakup of my family. I had a fantasy about Thanksgiving that will not happen. I invited my alcoholic parents to Thanksgiving dinner at my in-laws. They refused. My mother tried to manipulate me into making the dinner at my ho...

bluerose · bluerose

I just had a visit from my ex AH (3 years ex)! I posted a week ago about his sudden change in attitude. Tonight he came to my home to explain...how he had a bad childhood, parents were alcoholics, he saw violence between his parents, he was abused, he started drinking very young, he has had memories retur...

brownmf · brownmf

I'm new to Al-anon. I started going at the end of last month because I found out my qualifier had started using again. I knew when I began dating him that he had a past of addiction, but I foolishly beleived he was through that and back on the straight & narrow. Silly me. He told me at the end of last month...

slowlearner · slowlearner

An amazing thing happened to me today but also made me feel sad - but then again not alone. I brought my two elderly aunts and my mother to a baby shower today. It was a two hour drive so many things were discussed. They got into the discussion of how they grew up with an alcoholic father (my grandfather)...

Rora · Rora

My aH and I have been separated for 4 wks now. He's decided to stay with his older daughter. He says that he hopes for a future for us. That he would like to be together. But not at this time. That we both need time to work on ourselves. I felt that way too, but now that he's come to this way of thinking and he'...

intothewoods · intothewoods

*** WARNING: There are some very ugly things in this post. I was in a very bad place when I wrote this and I'm not trying to bring anbody down, but this is only place I felt I could go. If you don't want to deal with negativity, please don't read any further.*** I know I shouldn't focus on my alcoholic and live...

slowlearner · slowlearner

I've been doing the reading and practicing the steps but still need to go to a meeting. I've been trying to take one step at a time and small steps too. But I find myself frozen in indecision. I'm a person who doesn't like change - I like my comfort zones and trying to move out of these zones is uncomfort...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Today, God, help me let go of my resistance. Help me know the pain of a circumstance will stop hurting so much if I accept it. I have been thinking about resistance quite a bit lately. It was a massive hallmark of me prior to al-anon. What is resistance for? When did it become my MO? Did I choose this? H...

CJ · CJ

Hi all... Life is good, yet tiring. My son is happy and healthy, poops a lot, screams a lot, etc etc... the usual baby appetizers. My partner and I are doing very well, both of us working our program and doing the best we can. I ran a meeting yesterday, and it felt good to understand that life is what I make...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I want to give thanks today for the wonderful support and all the encouragement that I have received from this truly amazing and loving family. NEVER have I been embraced and encouraged and loved in the way this family has demonstrated to me that love can be tasted and experienced, given and shared. I...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Big realization this morning upon waking up- if it isn't "here" in this moment, I must not need it! HA! HP knows me waaay better than I know myself. HP gives me exactly what I need at the moment I need it. I am feeling a huge relief as this surrendering flows through me! YAY! All I need to do...

lmw · lmw

When I drove my A to detox in April, I told him it was the last time. I've done it over and over and over again. I made it clear it was the last time. I can't help him any more. About an hour ago, I got an email he sent this afternoon. He's been drinking since Wednesday, and got "discharged" f...

Ash · Ash

I started reading the Al anon literature and i find myself relieved and saddened that i relate almost completely. i think i learned this behavior from my mother. i read through the first part of step three. while i do know that there is a loving and caring master of the universe my confusion lies here:...

Codependent · Codependent

Went to family birthday dinner and A was there suprisingly. My son was happy to see him, but I was painfully aware that he still makes me nervous. He still makes me rethink everything I said to him and if I sounded insecure or confrontational...wondering what he thought of me. He even sent me a text me...

photogirl1989 · photogirl1989

I know I just posted, but, I've had an idea that my mother hasn't been staying sober, and after during some snooping, I found 2 almost-empty bottles of wine hidden in the dining room. I'm furious, hurt, depressed, heartbroken. I've done confrontations in the past. I've yelled. I've cried. I've throw...

AlvinG · AlvinG

Hell o everyone, All this is very new to me and I mean Al-anon. My son has been dabling in drugs & alcohol since he was a teenager. I believe he woke up and realized that drugs were killing him but he has not stopped with the alochol. He does not believe that alcohol is bad for him and that it is also ruinin...

photogirl1989 · photogirl1989

I have never been to an AlAnon meeting and I know I should but I go to school fulltime and am expecting my first child this december so I haven't been able to find the time. I am 19, so I still live at home. My mother is an alcoholic. I really have no idea how long its been a problem, but its been brought into the s...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi I am starting to take care of me. After my last post I got my AH to talk with his mother. I had to go to with hiom to talk to her to see of he could stay with her for the next two to four week until he can get in to this houseing program that he has been looking on too. Not a good sence but I did not get up set and let h...

soconfused · soconfused

I ended it again. It seems as if I am breaking up w/ A and then going back more than I wash my hair these days. I know it's the right thing to walk away, but I love him. Sad excuse when A has destroyed most of my esteem, finances and sanity...but I do. I wonder why, why do I love him? I really cannot answer that hon...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

In my last post, someone responded with the quote:ACCEPTANCE IS the answer to ALL my problems today. This speaks VOLUMES to me today. My ex ABF has taken it upon himself to try to put me over the edge this week, either purposefully or not. I have no idea. He contacted me Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. ...

maresie · maresie

For those of us in the US the holdiays are approaching. That can be a very slippery time for alcoholics and those of us who are al anons. I am having to constantly monitor myself to reinforce the limits and boundaries I've created over the last year. Every Thanksgiving with the A I lost it. I regularly fe...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I had a good trip to Washington. When I came home I told my daughter that she could choose a nice group home that I found for her or boot camp. The group home is voluntary - they have lots of structure and rules but it's not a lock down type facility. They don't do punishment or counseling. They do rationa...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi I have just been told that my A has been playing house for the last 21 years. He said he is trying to get out but will not go stay with his mother, as i have no family here and of me to leave i would have to move around faimly i would have to go six state from here. i am looking in to seeing of there is a way to get he...

weggie · weggie

I feel very strong today and hope the feeling stays with me. I went to my f to f meeting last night and think I have a sponser. I will call her tomorrow. I know I can't do anything to help my A, but he is so depressed. He comes home from work in the am and goes right to bed to lie down. I don't see him until th...

Soobie · Soobie

In reading postings yesterday, I discovered that YES! I most certainly have an addiction...my AH and all of his doings. I am like an obsessed fan...screaming for him to notice me, to "need" me like I think I need him. The reality is that I continue to push him away and I continue to delve f...

Suzannah · Suzannah

This morning I had one of those AHA! moments. I AM A NEEDY PERSON, and I let myself be hurt by others because I place my whole happiness and self worth and joy and life in them. I LIVE FOR MY CHILDREN and their family, and so when my daughter does what she does and cuts me off I die a little, and when I don't get t...

debilyn · debilyn

Been thinking of you all day. Are you ready to share? I care about ya. love,deb

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I have been having a pretty tough time lately. Not bad, just kind of rough on my senses and trying to figure out how to move forward. I have been keeping my mouth shut to my AH, thinking that anything I wanted to say would come out judgmental. I really want to try and stay away from that. But I feel like if I don...

desperate for help · desperate for help

I have noticed lately that when AH drink, which is every night, his voice gets very hoarse. I also notice that he starts to cough uncontrollably. Is it because of the drinking? Thanks!

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hello MIP, This is a bit of an update, but also a note to say that I think I am learning! My ex ABF wanted to meet for dinner tonight, which we've done a few times since we've been broken up. It's always a quick dinner--pizza--and I have to admit, I have gotten emotional each time we met up. Yesterday he aske...

weggie · weggie

Hello to all and thanks for all your advice. I started back to my face to face meeting last night. It was great and I think I found a sponser. I am going to call her tonight. To make a long story short, my A and I went to the Bank yesterday and he signed over to me power of attorney on all accounts. Not su...

Rita G · Rita G

News Alert!!! CNN, FoxNews & The Today Show reports a story of a Strange Woman in Southwest Louisiana attempting to have a conversation with a Pine Tree this morning. Sources state that this Crazy Blonde Woman attempted to do the Next Right Thing and share information with a Quacking Pine Tree. A...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey everybody, I'm feeling a little down today. Tomorrow I go in to the Doc again, they should have results from the MRI and some of the bloodwork, some was sent to the Mayo clinic ... not sure that will be back yet. I'm worried they found an answer and I am worried they have not. I've been doing alot of think...

queenie105 · queenie105

I haven't posted lately, but I'm here everyday. Some of you may know my story, but in a short recap: I'm married 20 years to a wonderful, sweet, kind, loving man who also is, I believe, and end-stage alcoholic. He was sober for over 15 years without a single relapse, relapsed about 5 years ago, and has...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

It had been ages since I spoke with my ex AAAAAA boyfriend. Then out of the blue he calls me over the weekend. He left a drunken message on my cell phone at 4am Saturday morning. Sounded bombed out of his mind with a woman in the background that sounded just as bombed as him. It was a really nasty message b...

Rora · Rora

I had been doing things for myself, keeping myself busy, in the absense of my aH, in response to our separation 3 1/2 weeks ago. I wondered how to differentiate between taking care of myself, and distraction. I'm still not totally certain on that. For me, I've noticed that it is all in perspective. I c...

mslouise · mslouise

I haven't posted in a while. For those who read my past posts, I had the, "at the time sober" Abf who choose to leave 2 months ago as quick as the hunting season came. I have been doing ok since. Have been going to meetings and even started going out to get more social and meet people. I ha...

c1grace · c1grace

My AH has started treatment, and I just keep thinking how nice it would be to fast forward to the end of the program. However some wonderful people have reminded me that we hope for a long, slow recovery. He is really "working" his program, but I am sooooo afraid to be hopeful. This time it t...

puzzle · puzzle

Hello all, I have been reading w/out posting and it helps so much. You guys are awsome.......such an amazing support network. ahhh, where to begin.... again...... I guess I can start with saying that my A is gone in all ways that an A leaves us without dying. In my last post I said he really was not there an...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi Having an ok day. Have been able to tell My AH that it is not he that i do not like but the things that he is doing and then leave it at that. Thanks just wanted to let you all know that.

SammyQ · SammyQ

Hi everyone, Why do ACOA 'characteristics' get worse? Does it snowball as we get older or is it just because lately the (recovering?)alcoholic parent in my life is just being beyond reason? That woman could make a funeral all about her.

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I have felt like I had an empty space or a void in my life for years. I could never place where it came from and still can't to tell you the truth. I tried to fill it up with all sorts of things. Pleasing people and getting approval I thought if others where happy then I could be too but it only exhausted me and th...

Soobie · Soobie

I am new here, but have been reading your entries for several weeks. It still amazes me that there are so many out there struggling just like me. I have been to a few Al-ANon meetings, but life is so busy, that it is hard to find the time to go! I have been married to my AC/AH for 11 years. He went through...

slowlearner · slowlearner

I've been reading the forum and absorbing pointers on how to deal with my alcoholic's behavior and my mine. I've been practicing detachment and getting projects done around the house. I hired my soon to be son-in-law to work on some projects around the house and barn that really needed to be. Such a...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am generally an awesome sleeper. I love to sleep. I love to eat well, get plenty of rest, work hard and exercise. I love living a simple and balanced life. I am recently divorced, recently relocated and recently started a new job. I attend my weekly al-anon meeting and like my home group very much...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I've hit a brick wall and cannot seem to get over it, through it, round it or under it. The anxiety is choking me and I still cannot eat or drink anything without feeling I am going to choke. My arms and legs hurt so much and I am not sleeping properly. I try to make myself do something every day, but it all see...

nmike · nmike

My HP works in strange, helpful ways. I saw my AHsober Fri night. We went to dinner and then went dancing. I became jealous of his life without me and treated him poorly. The next day I went to an Alanon meeting and opened the book to Nov. 15. Bitterness towards the A. Yes, my attitude towards my A is often ho...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello MIP family I haven't posted here in a very long time. I was just thinking maybe someone here might have some experience with this situation. This morning, my A ex-husband called my sister out of the blue. We haven't seen or heard from him in nearly 2 years. He had found an instruction book for our s...

blender_girl · blender_girl

"Dear _____, I'm writing this letter to you because I don't yet have the courage to speak to you about this face to face. Most of the time, I don't feel safe expressing my feelings to you as you usually find a way to take what I say and mold it into a very sharp object to stab me with repeatedly later on....

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	re:update (Preview) Dear All, step-mother A buried over a week now and my father has planned christmas in the hotel with my son and his girl friend. I think its a great idea. he brings up the topic of alcohol to me a lot. I tell him I have no control over that but that mr. jameson or whatever whisky he is talking about is not his bu...	maire rua	2	524	Nov 25, 2008 by maresie
	Thumbs up book swap (Preview) Hello Everyone, I was just unpacking a few boxes of books and came across one that I do not think I have ever seen anyone give a thumbs up to here. "The Addictive Personality" by Craig Nakken. It really helped me, I had admitted i was powerless over addictions, I had no choice I had tried everyt...	Jennifer	8	483	Nov 25, 2008 by slowlearner
	I'm Afraid and Ready to Give Up (Preview) I found out today that my husband has a live-in girlfriend. We have been separated 3 years, however, for the first two were trying to work things out. After 8 years of progressive drinking after a 12 year period of sobriety, my AH became sober again and began AA meetings with a vengence. I had high hopes t...	mimi2	10	601	Nov 25, 2008 by LEEA
	Time heals all? (Preview) Someday I want to stay in bed and pull the covers over my head. I know troubles and issues will always come up there is no such thing as perfect life is not perfect and never will be. I am not expecting some kind of miracle. I do believe that in time things will get better. Things will never be perfect but I fee...	christinajeanne	4	399	Nov 25, 2008 by christinajeanne
	This is the knot in my gut in words (Preview) U2 - With Or Without You See the stone set in your eyes See the thorn twist in your side I wait for you Sleight of hand and twist of fate On a bed of nails he makes me wait And I wait without you With or without you With or without you Through the storm we reach the shore You give it all but I want more And I'm waiting...	debilyn	4	559	Nov 24, 2008 by debilyn
	i'm so sad (Preview) This sucks. I found myself replying to Roxannes post earlier saying I knew how she felt and to put yourself first, ect ect. Now I am sobbing and wondering if I am worth carrying on. I talked w/ him tonight. He tells me that he doesn't want to be w/ me anymore. It's healthier for both of us. Healthy? He wants t...	soconfused	6	605	Nov 24, 2008 by Jen
	how do i let go? (Preview) i am confused on how i let go of someone & the past when they have meant soo much to me. i know my ah doesn't care about me. its very very obvious. but that doesn't mean that i don't love him or don't know that he sober could be everything i have ever wanted in life. everyone in the family says i just nee...	roxanne	6	541	Nov 24, 2008 by maresie
	When you find your alcoholic spouse has been drinking when caring for your children (Preview) Hello! I am fairly new to al anon (started f2f meetings in August). I am so grateful to have come to the program. It is making such a difference in my everyday life living with active alcoholism. I am learning s many strategies that are helping me to get a moment or two of serenity here and there..lol On...	kam1974	7	492	Nov 23, 2008 by kam1974
	Lonely (Preview) I have had a rough week and am feeling lonely. My new realization is that I am alone way too much and it stinks. My friends are all in relationships and not necessarily around or available as much as I wish they were. It's not only that, though, bc even if they were around, I am still alone at night and in t...	hopeful123	5	456	Nov 23, 2008 by hopeful123
	Well crap ... but I did it (Preview) Well I liked him, he liked me. Great date ... then "I was in a long distance relationship" turned to "It is ending soon" to "I don't know how, she is an old friend". Well ... crap. I did the next best step, and explained kindly but firmly that I am not going to play that game...	Jennifer	6	587	Nov 23, 2008 by Jen
	Last nights meeting topic (Preview) Hi Family! I went to a great meeting last night. The topic was on keeping the foundation strong. The sharing wandered through the topic of triggers, having a plan, how patient this disease is. The holiday season is often like a big huge trigger for many of us. I would like to suggest to all of you that...	Jen	2	479	Nov 23, 2008 by Jean4444
	Numb (Preview) I feel so numb. I'm trying so hard to not feel this pain. I'm grieving over the breakup of my family. I had a fantasy about Thanksgiving that will not happen. I invited my alcoholic parents to Thanksgiving dinner at my in-laws. They refused. My mother tried to manipulate me into making the dinner at my ho...	StargazerLily	5	459	Nov 23, 2008 by Jen
	Shaking my head..... (Preview) I just had a visit from my ex AH (3 years ex)! I posted a week ago about his sudden change in attitude. Tonight he came to my home to explain...how he had a bad childhood, parents were alcoholics, he saw violence between his parents, he was abused, he started drinking very young, he has had memories retur...	bluerose	6	488	Nov 23, 2008 by Diva
	ABF (Preview) I'm new to Al-anon. I started going at the end of last month because I found out my qualifier had started using again. I knew when I began dating him that he had a past of addiction, but I foolishly beleived he was through that and back on the straight & narrow. Silly me. He told me at the end of last month...	brownmf	2	589	Nov 23, 2008 by Jennifer
	An amazing thing happened today...... (Preview) An amazing thing happened to me today but also made me feel sad - but then again not alone. I brought my two elderly aunts and my mother to a baby shower today. It was a two hour drive so many things were discussed. They got into the discussion of how they grew up with an alcoholic father (my grandfather)...	slowlearner	3	521	Nov 23, 2008 by Jennifer
	Floundering? Me toooo...ugh (Preview) My aH and I have been separated for 4 wks now. He's decided to stay with his older daughter. He says that he hopes for a future for us. That he would like to be together. But not at this time. That we both need time to work on ourselves. I felt that way too, but now that he's come to this way of thinking and he'...	Rora	4	522	Nov 23, 2008 by Jerry F
	A confession in Anger and Sadness. (Preview) * WARNING: There are some very ugly things in this post. I was in a very bad place when I wrote this and I'm not trying to bring anbody down, but this is only place I felt I could go. If you don't want to deal with negativity, please don't read any further.* I know I shouldn't focus on my alcoholic and live...	intothewoods	9	544	Nov 22, 2008 by intothewoods
	Floundering and scared (Preview) I've been doing the reading and practicing the steps but still need to go to a meeting. I've been trying to take one step at a time and small steps too. But I find myself frozen in indecision. I'm a person who doesn't like change - I like my comfort zones and trying to move out of these zones is uncomfort...	slowlearner	5	423	Nov 22, 2008 by slowlearner
	one small prayer (Preview) Today, God, help me let go of my resistance. Help me know the pain of a circumstance will stop hurting so much if I accept it. I have been thinking about resistance quite a bit lately. It was a massive hallmark of me prior to al-anon. What is resistance for? When did it become my MO? Did I choose this? H...	Jean4444	3	540	Nov 22, 2008 by nmike
	working it cuz i am, and my family is, worth it (Preview) Hi all... Life is good, yet tiring. My son is happy and healthy, poops a lot, screams a lot, etc etc... the usual baby appetizers. My partner and I are doing very well, both of us working our program and doing the best we can. I ran a meeting yesterday, and it felt good to understand that life is what I make...	CJ	3	402	Nov 22, 2008 by nmike
	Embraced by humility (Preview) I want to give thanks today for the wonderful support and all the encouragement that I have received from this truly amazing and loving family. NEVER have I been embraced and encouraged and loved in the way this family has demonstrated to me that love can be tasted and experienced, given and shared. I...	Suzannah	1	400	Nov 22, 2008 by ddub
	If I ain't got it, I must not NEED it! (Preview) Big realization this morning upon waking up- if it isn't "here" in this moment, I must not need it! HA! HP knows me waaay better than I know myself. HP gives me exactly what I need at the moment I need it. I am feeling a huge relief as this surrendering flows through me! YAY! All I need to do...	Jean4444	5	406	Nov 22, 2008 by ddub
	The Merry Go Round Starts Again - I'm not getting on! (Preview) When I drove my A to detox in April, I told him it was the last time. I've done it over and over and over again. I made it clear it was the last time. I can't help him any more. About an hour ago, I got an email he sent this afternoon. He's been drinking since Wednesday, and got "discharged" f...	lmw	4	423	Nov 22, 2008 by maresie
	Clarify step 3 please (Preview) I started reading the Al anon literature and i find myself relieved and saddened that i relate almost completely. i think i learned this behavior from my mother. i read through the first part of step three. while i do know that there is a loving and caring master of the universe my confusion lies here:...	Ash	3	699	Nov 22, 2008 by maresie
	Birthday dinner (Preview) Went to family birthday dinner and A was there suprisingly. My son was happy to see him, but I was painfully aware that he still makes me nervous. He still makes me rethink everything I said to him and if I sounded insecure or confrontational...wondering what he thought of me. He even sent me a text me...	Codependent	3	431	Nov 22, 2008 by maresie
	How to confront an A after finding a bottle? (Preview) I know I just posted, but, I've had an idea that my mother hasn't been staying sober, and after during some snooping, I found 2 almost-empty bottles of wine hidden in the dining room. I'm furious, hurt, depressed, heartbroken. I've done confrontations in the past. I've yelled. I've cried. I've throw...	photogirl1989	3	449	Nov 22, 2008 by maresie
	Help with my 26 year old alcoholic son (Preview) Hell o everyone, All this is very new to me and I mean Al-anon. My son has been dabling in drugs & alcohol since he was a teenager. I believe he woke up and realized that drugs were killing him but he has not stopped with the alochol. He does not believe that alcohol is bad for him and that it is also ruinin...	AlvinG	7	2886	Nov 22, 2008 by Peggy7
	I'm new here. Please help me. (Preview) I have never been to an AlAnon meeting and I know I should but I go to school fulltime and am expecting my first child this december so I haven't been able to find the time. I am 19, so I still live at home. My mother is an alcoholic. I really have no idea how long its been a problem, but its been brought into the s...	photogirl1989	4	451	Nov 22, 2008 by afglin
	starting to take care of me (Preview) Hi I am starting to take care of me. After my last post I got my AH to talk with his mother. I had to go to with hiom to talk to her to see of he could stay with her for the next two to four week until he can get in to this houseing program that he has been looking on too. Not a good sence but I did not get up set and let h...	smileycat	4	567	Nov 21, 2008 by Jean4444
	why can I not let go? (Preview) I ended it again. It seems as if I am breaking up w/ A and then going back more than I wash my hair these days. I know it's the right thing to walk away, but I love him. Sad excuse when A has destroyed most of my esteem, finances and sanity...but I do. I wonder why, why do I love him? I really cannot answer that hon...	soconfused	6	689	Nov 21, 2008 by nmike
	ACCEPTANCE IS the answer to ALL my problems today (Preview) In my last post, someone responded with the quote:ACCEPTANCE IS the answer to ALL my problems today. This speaks VOLUMES to me today. My ex ABF has taken it upon himself to try to put me over the edge this week, either purposefully or not. I have no idea. He contacted me Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. ...	hopeful123	3	3969	Nov 21, 2008 by maresie
	the holidays are upon us again (Preview) For those of us in the US the holdiays are approaching. That can be a very slippery time for alcoholics and those of us who are al anons. I am having to constantly monitor myself to reinforce the limits and boundaries I've created over the last year. Every Thanksgiving with the A I lost it. I regularly fe...	maresie	3	451	Nov 21, 2008 by Loupiness
	Follow up (Preview) I had a good trip to Washington. When I came home I told my daughter that she could choose a nice group home that I found for her or boot camp. The group home is voluntary - they have lots of structure and rules but it's not a lock down type facility. They don't do punishment or counseling. They do rationa...	carolinagirl	1	438	Nov 21, 2008 by maresie
	mads as a wet hen (Preview) Hi I have just been told that my A has been playing house for the last 21 years. He said he is trying to get out but will not go stay with his mother, as i have no family here and of me to leave i would have to move around faimly i would have to go six state from here. i am looking in to seeing of there is a way to get he...	smileycat	1	337	Nov 21, 2008 by LEEA
	Help (Preview) I feel very strong today and hope the feeling stays with me. I went to my f to f meeting last night and think I have a sponser. I will call her tomorrow. I know I can't do anything to help my A, but he is so depressed. He comes home from work in the am and goes right to bed to lie down. I don't see him until th...	weggie	2	325	Nov 21, 2008 by LEEA
	Murky today (Preview) In reading postings yesterday, I discovered that YES! I most certainly have an addiction...my AH and all of his doings. I am like an obsessed fan...screaming for him to notice me, to "need" me like I think I need him. The reality is that I continue to push him away and I continue to delve f...	Soobie	3	357	Nov 21, 2008 by Rora
	In the SPOTLIGHT and facing reality (Preview) This morning I had one of those AHA! moments. I AM A NEEDY PERSON, and I let myself be hurt by others because I place my whole happiness and self worth and joy and life in them. I LIVE FOR MY CHILDREN and their family, and so when my daughter does what she does and cuts me off I die a little, and when I don't get t...	Suzannah	5	431	Nov 21, 2008 by Christy
	jennifer (Preview) Been thinking of you all day. Are you ready to share? I care about ya. love,deb	debilyn	1	435	Nov 20, 2008 by Jennifer
	A llittle confused (Preview) I have been having a pretty tough time lately. Not bad, just kind of rough on my senses and trying to figure out how to move forward. I have been keeping my mouth shut to my AH, thinking that anything I wanted to say would come out judgmental. I really want to try and stay away from that. But I feel like if I don...	wildthang86	3	427	Nov 20, 2008 by c1grace
	Why does his voice change? (Preview) I have noticed lately that when AH drink, which is every night, his voice gets very hoarse. I also notice that he starts to cough uncontrollably. Is it because of the drinking? Thanks!	desperate for help	5	556	Nov 20, 2008 by desperate for help
	Changing (Preview) Hello MIP, This is a bit of an update, but also a note to say that I think I am learning! My ex ABF wanted to meet for dinner tonight, which we've done a few times since we've been broken up. It's always a quick dinner--pizza--and I have to admit, I have gotten emotional each time we met up. Yesterday he aske...	hopeful123	5	544	Nov 20, 2008 by hopeful123
	Update on Weggie (Preview) Hello to all and thanks for all your advice. I started back to my face to face meeting last night. It was great and I think I found a sponser. I am going to call her tonight. To make a long story short, my A and I went to the Bank yesterday and he signed over to me power of attorney on all accounts. Not su...	weggie	2	808	Nov 20, 2008 by weggie
	Louisiana News Alert (Preview) News Alert!!! CNN, FoxNews & The Today Show reports a story of a Strange Woman in Southwest Louisiana attempting to have a conversation with a Pine Tree this morning. Sources state that this Crazy Blonde Woman attempted to do the Next Right Thing and share information with a Quacking Pine Tree. A...	Rita G	2	1390	Nov 20, 2008 by Jennifer
	Anxiety today (Preview) Hey everybody, I'm feeling a little down today. Tomorrow I go in to the Doc again, they should have results from the MRI and some of the bloodwork, some was sent to the Mayo clinic ... not sure that will be back yet. I'm worried they found an answer and I am worried they have not. I've been doing alot of think...	Jennifer	4	499	Nov 20, 2008 by Jennifer
	Decided to Stay W/AH, But Need ESH To Get Thru It (Preview) I haven't posted lately, but I'm here everyday. Some of you may know my story, but in a short recap: I'm married 20 years to a wonderful, sweet, kind, loving man who also is, I believe, and end-stage alcoholic. He was sober for over 15 years without a single relapse, relapsed about 5 years ago, and has...	queenie105	6	533	Nov 20, 2008 by queenie105
	What did I get myself into? (Preview) It had been ages since I spoke with my ex AAAAAA boyfriend. Then out of the blue he calls me over the weekend. He left a drunken message on my cell phone at 4am Saturday morning. Sounded bombed out of his mind with a woman in the background that sounded just as bombed as him. It was a really nasty message b...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	5	477	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	the perspective of "taking good care" of myself... (Preview) I had been doing things for myself, keeping myself busy, in the absense of my aH, in response to our separation 3 1/2 weeks ago. I wondered how to differentiate between taking care of myself, and distraction. I'm still not totally certain on that. For me, I've noticed that it is all in perspective. I c...	Rora	9	1425	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	first the A, now the family - sorry so long (Preview) I haven't posted in a while. For those who read my past posts, I had the, "at the time sober" Abf who choose to leave 2 months ago as quick as the hunting season came. I have been doing ok since. Have been going to meetings and even started going out to get more social and meet people. I ha...	mslouise	3	502	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	swim through it, not over it (Preview) My AH has started treatment, and I just keep thinking how nice it would be to fast forward to the end of the program. However some wonderful people have reminded me that we hope for a long, slow recovery. He is really "working" his program, but I am sooooo afraid to be hopeful. This time it t...	c1grace	3	591	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	It's time......and I need some advice after I blab some....alot (Preview) Hello all, I have been reading w/out posting and it helps so much. You guys are awsome.......such an amazing support network. ahhh, where to begin.... again...... I guess I can start with saying that my A is gone in all ways that an A leaves us without dying. In my last post I said he really was not there an...	puzzle	6	443	Nov 20, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	ok and learning (Preview) Hi Having an ok day. Have been able to tell My AH that it is not he that i do not like but the things that he is doing and then leave it at that. Thanks just wanted to let you all know that.	smileycat	2	411	Nov 20, 2008 by Jerry F
	ACOA characteristics getting worse? (Preview) Hi everyone, Why do ACOA 'characteristics' get worse? Does it snowball as we get older or is it just because lately the (recovering?)alcoholic parent in my life is just being beyond reason? That woman could make a funeral all about her.	SammyQ	5	4161	Nov 20, 2008 by Jerry F
	Emptiness (Preview) I have felt like I had an empty space or a void in my life for years. I could never place where it came from and still can't to tell you the truth. I tried to fill it up with all sorts of things. Pleasing people and getting approval I thought if others where happy then I could be too but it only exhausted me and th...	christinajeanne	1	391	Nov 19, 2008 by Jean4444
	Trying to keep afloat! (Preview) I am new here, but have been reading your entries for several weeks. It still amazes me that there are so many out there struggling just like me. I have been to a few Al-ANon meetings, but life is so busy, that it is hard to find the time to go! I have been married to my AC/AH for 11 years. He went through...	Soobie	5	453	Nov 19, 2008 by Soobie
	It works!!! But then there are setbacks. (Preview) I've been reading the forum and absorbing pointers on how to deal with my alcoholic's behavior and my mine. I've been practicing detachment and getting projects done around the house. I hired my soon to be son-in-law to work on some projects around the house and barn that really needed to be. Such a...	slowlearner	4	568	Nov 19, 2008 by slowlearner
	Massive wall of anxiety hits when everything starts turning out great? (Preview) I am generally an awesome sleeper. I love to sleep. I love to eat well, get plenty of rest, work hard and exercise. I love living a simple and balanced life. I am recently divorced, recently relocated and recently started a new job. I attend my weekly al-anon meeting and like my home group very much...	Jean4444	7	501	Nov 19, 2008 by Jean4444
	Hit a brick wall (Preview) I've hit a brick wall and cannot seem to get over it, through it, round it or under it. The anxiety is choking me and I still cannot eat or drink anything without feeling I am going to choke. My arms and legs hurt so much and I am not sleeping properly. I try to make myself do something every day, but it all see...	Suzannah	5	752	Nov 19, 2008 by RLC
	ODAT Nov 15 (Preview) My HP works in strange, helpful ways. I saw my AHsober Fri night. We went to dinner and then went dancing. I became jealous of his life without me and treated him poorly. The next day I went to an Alanon meeting and opened the book to Nov. 15. Bitterness towards the A. Yes, my attitude towards my A is often ho...	nmike	3	523	Nov 19, 2008 by ddub
	questioning ex AH's motive... (Preview) Hello MIP family I haven't posted here in a very long time. I was just thinking maybe someone here might have some experience with this situation. This morning, my A ex-husband called my sister out of the blue. We haven't seen or heard from him in nearly 2 years. He had found an instruction book for our s...	artygirl	6	725	Nov 19, 2008 by artygirl
	An Open Letter to my AH (Preview) "Dear _____, I'm writing this letter to you because I don't yet have the courage to speak to you about this face to face. Most of the time, I don't feel safe expressing my feelings to you as you usually find a way to take what I say and mold it into a very sharp object to stab me with repeatedly later on....	blender_girl	6	1500	Nov 18, 2008 by Beth.M
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