Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Ash · Ash

I started reading the Al anon literature and i find myself relieved and saddened that i relate almost completely. i think i learned this behavior from my mother. i read through the first part of step three. while i do know that there is a loving and caring master of the universe my confusion lies here:...

Codependent · Codependent

Went to family birthday dinner and A was there suprisingly. My son was happy to see him, but I was painfully aware that he still makes me nervous. He still makes me rethink everything I said to him and if I sounded insecure or confrontational...wondering what he thought of me. He even sent me a text me...

photogirl1989 · photogirl1989

I know I just posted, but, I've had an idea that my mother hasn't been staying sober, and after during some snooping, I found 2 almost-empty bottles of wine hidden in the dining room. I'm furious, hurt, depressed, heartbroken. I've done confrontations in the past. I've yelled. I've cried. I've throw...

AlvinG · AlvinG

Hell o everyone, All this is very new to me and I mean Al-anon. My son has been dabling in drugs & alcohol since he was a teenager. I believe he woke up and realized that drugs were killing him but he has not stopped with the alochol. He does not believe that alcohol is bad for him and that it is also ruinin...

photogirl1989 · photogirl1989

I have never been to an AlAnon meeting and I know I should but I go to school fulltime and am expecting my first child this december so I haven't been able to find the time. I am 19, so I still live at home. My mother is an alcoholic. I really have no idea how long its been a problem, but its been brought into the s...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi I am starting to take care of me. After my last post I got my AH to talk with his mother. I had to go to with hiom to talk to her to see of he could stay with her for the next two to four week until he can get in to this houseing program that he has been looking on too. Not a good sence but I did not get up set and let h...

soconfused · soconfused

I ended it again. It seems as if I am breaking up w/ A and then going back more than I wash my hair these days. I know it's the right thing to walk away, but I love him. Sad excuse when A has destroyed most of my esteem, finances and sanity...but I do. I wonder why, why do I love him? I really cannot answer that hon...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

In my last post, someone responded with the quote:ACCEPTANCE IS the answer to ALL my problems today. This speaks VOLUMES to me today. My ex ABF has taken it upon himself to try to put me over the edge this week, either purposefully or not. I have no idea. He contacted me Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. ...

maresie · maresie

For those of us in the US the holdiays are approaching. That can be a very slippery time for alcoholics and those of us who are al anons. I am having to constantly monitor myself to reinforce the limits and boundaries I've created over the last year. Every Thanksgiving with the A I lost it. I regularly fe...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I had a good trip to Washington. When I came home I told my daughter that she could choose a nice group home that I found for her or boot camp. The group home is voluntary - they have lots of structure and rules but it's not a lock down type facility. They don't do punishment or counseling. They do rationa...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi I have just been told that my A has been playing house for the last 21 years. He said he is trying to get out but will not go stay with his mother, as i have no family here and of me to leave i would have to move around faimly i would have to go six state from here. i am looking in to seeing of there is a way to get he...

weggie · weggie

I feel very strong today and hope the feeling stays with me. I went to my f to f meeting last night and think I have a sponser. I will call her tomorrow. I know I can't do anything to help my A, but he is so depressed. He comes home from work in the am and goes right to bed to lie down. I don't see him until th...

Soobie · Soobie

In reading postings yesterday, I discovered that YES! I most certainly have an addiction...my AH and all of his doings. I am like an obsessed fan...screaming for him to notice me, to "need" me like I think I need him. The reality is that I continue to push him away and I continue to delve f...

Suzannah · Suzannah

This morning I had one of those AHA! moments. I AM A NEEDY PERSON, and I let myself be hurt by others because I place my whole happiness and self worth and joy and life in them. I LIVE FOR MY CHILDREN and their family, and so when my daughter does what she does and cuts me off I die a little, and when I don't get t...

debilyn · debilyn

Been thinking of you all day. Are you ready to share? I care about ya. love,deb

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I have been having a pretty tough time lately. Not bad, just kind of rough on my senses and trying to figure out how to move forward. I have been keeping my mouth shut to my AH, thinking that anything I wanted to say would come out judgmental. I really want to try and stay away from that. But I feel like if I don...

desperate for help · desperate for help

I have noticed lately that when AH drink, which is every night, his voice gets very hoarse. I also notice that he starts to cough uncontrollably. Is it because of the drinking? Thanks!

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hello MIP, This is a bit of an update, but also a note to say that I think I am learning! My ex ABF wanted to meet for dinner tonight, which we've done a few times since we've been broken up. It's always a quick dinner--pizza--and I have to admit, I have gotten emotional each time we met up. Yesterday he aske...

weggie · weggie

Hello to all and thanks for all your advice. I started back to my face to face meeting last night. It was great and I think I found a sponser. I am going to call her tonight. To make a long story short, my A and I went to the Bank yesterday and he signed over to me power of attorney on all accounts. Not su...

Rita G · Rita G

News Alert!!! CNN, FoxNews & The Today Show reports a story of a Strange Woman in Southwest Louisiana attempting to have a conversation with a Pine Tree this morning. Sources state that this Crazy Blonde Woman attempted to do the Next Right Thing and share information with a Quacking Pine Tree. A...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey everybody, I'm feeling a little down today. Tomorrow I go in to the Doc again, they should have results from the MRI and some of the bloodwork, some was sent to the Mayo clinic ... not sure that will be back yet. I'm worried they found an answer and I am worried they have not. I've been doing alot of think...

queenie105 · queenie105

I haven't posted lately, but I'm here everyday. Some of you may know my story, but in a short recap: I'm married 20 years to a wonderful, sweet, kind, loving man who also is, I believe, and end-stage alcoholic. He was sober for over 15 years without a single relapse, relapsed about 5 years ago, and has...

HEARTBROKEN IN NJ · HEARTBROKEN IN NJ

It had been ages since I spoke with my ex AAAAAA boyfriend. Then out of the blue he calls me over the weekend. He left a drunken message on my cell phone at 4am Saturday morning. Sounded bombed out of his mind with a woman in the background that sounded just as bombed as him. It was a really nasty message b...

Rora · Rora

I had been doing things for myself, keeping myself busy, in the absense of my aH, in response to our separation 3 1/2 weeks ago. I wondered how to differentiate between taking care of myself, and distraction. I'm still not totally certain on that. For me, I've noticed that it is all in perspective. I c...

mslouise · mslouise

I haven't posted in a while. For those who read my past posts, I had the, "at the time sober" Abf who choose to leave 2 months ago as quick as the hunting season came. I have been doing ok since. Have been going to meetings and even started going out to get more social and meet people. I ha...

c1grace · c1grace

My AH has started treatment, and I just keep thinking how nice it would be to fast forward to the end of the program. However some wonderful people have reminded me that we hope for a long, slow recovery. He is really "working" his program, but I am sooooo afraid to be hopeful. This time it t...

puzzle · puzzle

Hello all, I have been reading w/out posting and it helps so much. You guys are awsome.......such an amazing support network. ahhh, where to begin.... again...... I guess I can start with saying that my A is gone in all ways that an A leaves us without dying. In my last post I said he really was not there an...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi Having an ok day. Have been able to tell My AH that it is not he that i do not like but the things that he is doing and then leave it at that. Thanks just wanted to let you all know that.

SammyQ · SammyQ

Hi everyone, Why do ACOA 'characteristics' get worse? Does it snowball as we get older or is it just because lately the (recovering?)alcoholic parent in my life is just being beyond reason? That woman could make a funeral all about her.

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I have felt like I had an empty space or a void in my life for years. I could never place where it came from and still can't to tell you the truth. I tried to fill it up with all sorts of things. Pleasing people and getting approval I thought if others where happy then I could be too but it only exhausted me and th...

Soobie · Soobie

I am new here, but have been reading your entries for several weeks. It still amazes me that there are so many out there struggling just like me. I have been to a few Al-ANon meetings, but life is so busy, that it is hard to find the time to go! I have been married to my AC/AH for 11 years. He went through...

slowlearner · slowlearner

I've been reading the forum and absorbing pointers on how to deal with my alcoholic's behavior and my mine. I've been practicing detachment and getting projects done around the house. I hired my soon to be son-in-law to work on some projects around the house and barn that really needed to be. Such a...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am generally an awesome sleeper. I love to sleep. I love to eat well, get plenty of rest, work hard and exercise. I love living a simple and balanced life. I am recently divorced, recently relocated and recently started a new job. I attend my weekly al-anon meeting and like my home group very much...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I've hit a brick wall and cannot seem to get over it, through it, round it or under it. The anxiety is choking me and I still cannot eat or drink anything without feeling I am going to choke. My arms and legs hurt so much and I am not sleeping properly. I try to make myself do something every day, but it all see...

nmike · nmike

My HP works in strange, helpful ways. I saw my AHsober Fri night. We went to dinner and then went dancing. I became jealous of his life without me and treated him poorly. The next day I went to an Alanon meeting and opened the book to Nov. 15. Bitterness towards the A. Yes, my attitude towards my A is often ho...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello MIP family I haven't posted here in a very long time. I was just thinking maybe someone here might have some experience with this situation. This morning, my A ex-husband called my sister out of the blue. We haven't seen or heard from him in nearly 2 years. He had found an instruction book for our s...

blender_girl · blender_girl

"Dear _____, I'm writing this letter to you because I don't yet have the courage to speak to you about this face to face. Most of the time, I don't feel safe expressing my feelings to you as you usually find a way to take what I say and mold it into a very sharp object to stab me with repeatedly later on....

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I really needed to share with you about this, this morning. YES! A part of "us" must die (or it feels that way). I really believe this is true but although its incredibly uncomfortable and feels painful I also believe its absolutely necessary and a good sign, ultimately. What had died? F...

weggie · weggie

I am wore out just thinking of what is going to happen next. Today I found out that my A took a couple of checks from our Retirement account and cashed them. Six months ago we went to our Lawyers and he signed over a power of attorney to me on all accounts but he signs my name of checks and all is good. ...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi all I have just got thourght reading "The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage" understand and can see some things that is helpful. However, when it was talking about the way the A chose his or she partner i did not really see my marriage in it. He was quiet and I was shy and in the book it one is...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

It has been three months since my ex ABF left our home. I have seen him about 4 times since then, for only about an hour or so, and we've only spoken about 8 times in our time apart. My last conversation with him last week led me to believe that he is really struggling but that he is finally making some chang...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Wow! Is how I have to start this post. Last night my brother-in-law was in a bad car accident, and he had been drinking. He rolled the truck 4 times and was thrown to the passenger side of the vehicle. When the police got there they didn't know if he was the driver or if somebody else had been there. They had j...

hurtnfedup · hurtnfedup

I just joined this board last week, feeling like i had no one to turn to. I have been coming on daily and reading everyone's posts- they keep me going and i see more and more i'm not alone. Thank you sooo much everyone for sharing. I did get a chance to go to one meeting so far and hope to get to more soon! I had ju...

New member needs advice · hibiscusrose

I am married to a man who was on the wagon for 25 years, but due to retirement started drinking again. He is 69 and although been to 3 AA meetings, he is still drinking steadily, and I do not believe he is serious about stopping, or has not the willpower. We have been married six years. He denies that he i...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Thank you for my beautiful day. Thank you for the energy and health today to put my painting room together. Thank you for sending my brother and nephew and one of my oldest friends to visit me. Thank you for helping me to a safe place where I can keep my prescription in my own medicine cabinet. Thank you for...

debilyn · debilyn

Vere r u dahling??? did you run off with that neighbor? hugs,debilyn -- Edited by debilyn at 22:52, 2008-11-17

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

The other night I was saying the serenity prayer out loud and reading the steps. I got to step 7 and I was thinking about how I really do want my HP to remove my shortcomings. I've been so frustrated and impatient lately and I don't want a bad attitude anymore. So I humbly prayed and asked HP to remove these d...

NancyfromNC · NancyfromNC

My AH has started to sneak alcohol again. My whole family sees it but his family is oblivious to it. There are a lot of medical crises going on on his side and they just don't see it. I cannot tell on him because he will get in trouble with his monitoring program and be kicked out. He has spent the last 3 1/2 y...

smileycat · smileycat

Hi all I am haveing a bad week as early said we are back in active drinking. He had a meeting with his counsler about 20 minutes ago and them make a dicede for the hloe family and them wanted to know i feeling on it in a very public place I do not get taking in a room and ask I get ask in the front office how I feel a...

maire rua · maire rua

Well, yesterday and today were the days of the funeral of step-mother A. I arrived back from London and called to the house at 3. They still had not dressed for funeral, father A had told them it was ok to go in jeans and casual wear, I calmly told them that it was not appropriate dress and they were shocked,...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

After quite a few years in Al-Anon I have found myself faced with a new issue. My son is an A/DA and at the moment is doing quite well. However, he has four children (2 marriages) and I have noticed that it has become increasingly more difficult to contact the children who are living with their mother man...

Becky1 · Becky1

OK, so I have this guy.....who is everything I ever wanted in a man. He has been here all weekend, been incredibly kind, attentive, loving. We just lazed around all day yesterday, side by side on the couch, watching TV, holding each other. He told me often that he loves me. Today we went out to breakfas...

Becky1 · Becky1

I moved into my apartment in July, leaving behind the wreckage of an 11+ year relationship with my AH. OMG. You wouldn't believe all the stuff I moved with me. My life had become so unmanageable. I have all sorts of papers, boxes and boxes of old magazines, bills (both paid and unpaid), knick-knacks,...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I have this little movie that plays in my head of a sweet, warm, trusting, balanced little girl in my heart. She works all day long on the wall. It comes all the way down when I am around my brother and family. She replaces it brick by brick as I move into public. Makes little peepholes by taking out certain b...

LEEA · LEEA

One of my first problems when I started this program, was the "do something good for yourself" concept. I drew a complete blank. After alot of thinking, I decided it was taking a nice hot BATH. It cost me nothing, didn't require me leaving the house, and let others in my life see that I was s...

ddub · ddub

I often chuckle when others write that they have a long post - they haven't seen long yet! as I can write a short novel if I really let myself loose. I seem to have these rushes of many light bulbs going off at once until I am exhausted and need to rest to absorb it all. Along the journey into chaos & insa...

Sad Wife · Sad Wife

So a few weeks after celebrating my 1st wedding anniversary, I have started the divorce process..And it is killing me. I love my husband so much but not sure if I can stay...In short time we have been married, he has relapsed 4 times. First time I drove him to rehab... He had asked for help. The next 2 times...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Can I love myself enough to stand side by side and face to face with HP 24/7? Can I stand that much goodness and attention and unconditional love and acceptance? I have been thinking lately about how I choose people in my life who are either unavailable or unsafe. Usually unavailable. And how I ofte...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I've been reacting a lot lately. Mostly to my aunt and other people that come into the store where I work with a bad attitude. But, then I end up being the one with a bad attitude. I realize that reacting is a choice and yes sometimes my emotions carry me away with anger and frustration and I say things I regr...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, Stepmother A died at 5.30 this morning. I contacted her daughters and broke the news to them. She was a good person with a nasty disease, and I am not talking about the cancer. I know my father will find it hard to carry on without her and I only hope he doesn't drown it all with drink but I think he wi...

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	Clarify step 3 please (Preview) I started reading the Al anon literature and i find myself relieved and saddened that i relate almost completely. i think i learned this behavior from my mother. i read through the first part of step three. while i do know that there is a loving and caring master of the universe my confusion lies here:...	Ash	3	652	Nov 22, 2008 by maresie
	Birthday dinner (Preview) Went to family birthday dinner and A was there suprisingly. My son was happy to see him, but I was painfully aware that he still makes me nervous. He still makes me rethink everything I said to him and if I sounded insecure or confrontational...wondering what he thought of me. He even sent me a text me...	Codependent	3	380	Nov 22, 2008 by maresie
	How to confront an A after finding a bottle? (Preview) I know I just posted, but, I've had an idea that my mother hasn't been staying sober, and after during some snooping, I found 2 almost-empty bottles of wine hidden in the dining room. I'm furious, hurt, depressed, heartbroken. I've done confrontations in the past. I've yelled. I've cried. I've throw...	photogirl1989	3	398	Nov 22, 2008 by maresie
	Help with my 26 year old alcoholic son (Preview) Hell o everyone, All this is very new to me and I mean Al-anon. My son has been dabling in drugs & alcohol since he was a teenager. I believe he woke up and realized that drugs were killing him but he has not stopped with the alochol. He does not believe that alcohol is bad for him and that it is also ruinin...	AlvinG	7	2834	Nov 22, 2008 by Peggy7
	I'm new here. Please help me. (Preview) I have never been to an AlAnon meeting and I know I should but I go to school fulltime and am expecting my first child this december so I haven't been able to find the time. I am 19, so I still live at home. My mother is an alcoholic. I really have no idea how long its been a problem, but its been brought into the s...	photogirl1989	4	401	Nov 22, 2008 by afglin
	starting to take care of me (Preview) Hi I am starting to take care of me. After my last post I got my AH to talk with his mother. I had to go to with hiom to talk to her to see of he could stay with her for the next two to four week until he can get in to this houseing program that he has been looking on too. Not a good sence but I did not get up set and let h...	smileycat	4	507	Nov 21, 2008 by Jean4444
	why can I not let go? (Preview) I ended it again. It seems as if I am breaking up w/ A and then going back more than I wash my hair these days. I know it's the right thing to walk away, but I love him. Sad excuse when A has destroyed most of my esteem, finances and sanity...but I do. I wonder why, why do I love him? I really cannot answer that hon...	soconfused	6	634	Nov 21, 2008 by nmike
	ACCEPTANCE IS the answer to ALL my problems today (Preview) In my last post, someone responded with the quote:ACCEPTANCE IS the answer to ALL my problems today. This speaks VOLUMES to me today. My ex ABF has taken it upon himself to try to put me over the edge this week, either purposefully or not. I have no idea. He contacted me Monday. Tuesday. Wednesday. ...	hopeful123	3	3893	Nov 21, 2008 by maresie
	the holidays are upon us again (Preview) For those of us in the US the holdiays are approaching. That can be a very slippery time for alcoholics and those of us who are al anons. I am having to constantly monitor myself to reinforce the limits and boundaries I've created over the last year. Every Thanksgiving with the A I lost it. I regularly fe...	maresie	3	398	Nov 21, 2008 by Loupiness
	Follow up (Preview) I had a good trip to Washington. When I came home I told my daughter that she could choose a nice group home that I found for her or boot camp. The group home is voluntary - they have lots of structure and rules but it's not a lock down type facility. They don't do punishment or counseling. They do rationa...	carolinagirl	1	386	Nov 21, 2008 by maresie
	mads as a wet hen (Preview) Hi I have just been told that my A has been playing house for the last 21 years. He said he is trying to get out but will not go stay with his mother, as i have no family here and of me to leave i would have to move around faimly i would have to go six state from here. i am looking in to seeing of there is a way to get he...	smileycat	1	288	Nov 21, 2008 by LEEA
	Help (Preview) I feel very strong today and hope the feeling stays with me. I went to my f to f meeting last night and think I have a sponser. I will call her tomorrow. I know I can't do anything to help my A, but he is so depressed. He comes home from work in the am and goes right to bed to lie down. I don't see him until th...	weggie	2	268	Nov 21, 2008 by LEEA
	Murky today (Preview) In reading postings yesterday, I discovered that YES! I most certainly have an addiction...my AH and all of his doings. I am like an obsessed fan...screaming for him to notice me, to "need" me like I think I need him. The reality is that I continue to push him away and I continue to delve f...	Soobie	3	309	Nov 21, 2008 by Rora
	In the SPOTLIGHT and facing reality (Preview) This morning I had one of those AHA! moments. I AM A NEEDY PERSON, and I let myself be hurt by others because I place my whole happiness and self worth and joy and life in them. I LIVE FOR MY CHILDREN and their family, and so when my daughter does what she does and cuts me off I die a little, and when I don't get t...	Suzannah	5	385	Nov 21, 2008 by Christy
	jennifer (Preview) Been thinking of you all day. Are you ready to share? I care about ya. love,deb	debilyn	1	388	Nov 20, 2008 by Jennifer
	A llittle confused (Preview) I have been having a pretty tough time lately. Not bad, just kind of rough on my senses and trying to figure out how to move forward. I have been keeping my mouth shut to my AH, thinking that anything I wanted to say would come out judgmental. I really want to try and stay away from that. But I feel like if I don...	wildthang86	3	374	Nov 20, 2008 by c1grace
	Why does his voice change? (Preview) I have noticed lately that when AH drink, which is every night, his voice gets very hoarse. I also notice that he starts to cough uncontrollably. Is it because of the drinking? Thanks!	desperate for help	5	502	Nov 20, 2008 by desperate for help
	Changing (Preview) Hello MIP, This is a bit of an update, but also a note to say that I think I am learning! My ex ABF wanted to meet for dinner tonight, which we've done a few times since we've been broken up. It's always a quick dinner--pizza--and I have to admit, I have gotten emotional each time we met up. Yesterday he aske...	hopeful123	5	497	Nov 20, 2008 by hopeful123
	Update on Weggie (Preview) Hello to all and thanks for all your advice. I started back to my face to face meeting last night. It was great and I think I found a sponser. I am going to call her tonight. To make a long story short, my A and I went to the Bank yesterday and he signed over to me power of attorney on all accounts. Not su...	weggie	2	757	Nov 20, 2008 by weggie
	Louisiana News Alert (Preview) News Alert!!! CNN, FoxNews & The Today Show reports a story of a Strange Woman in Southwest Louisiana attempting to have a conversation with a Pine Tree this morning. Sources state that this Crazy Blonde Woman attempted to do the Next Right Thing and share information with a Quacking Pine Tree. A...	Rita G	2	1336	Nov 20, 2008 by Jennifer
	Anxiety today (Preview) Hey everybody, I'm feeling a little down today. Tomorrow I go in to the Doc again, they should have results from the MRI and some of the bloodwork, some was sent to the Mayo clinic ... not sure that will be back yet. I'm worried they found an answer and I am worried they have not. I've been doing alot of think...	Jennifer	4	452	Nov 20, 2008 by Jennifer
	Decided to Stay W/AH, But Need ESH To Get Thru It (Preview) I haven't posted lately, but I'm here everyday. Some of you may know my story, but in a short recap: I'm married 20 years to a wonderful, sweet, kind, loving man who also is, I believe, and end-stage alcoholic. He was sober for over 15 years without a single relapse, relapsed about 5 years ago, and has...	queenie105	6	487	Nov 20, 2008 by queenie105
	What did I get myself into? (Preview) It had been ages since I spoke with my ex AAAAAA boyfriend. Then out of the blue he calls me over the weekend. He left a drunken message on my cell phone at 4am Saturday morning. Sounded bombed out of his mind with a woman in the background that sounded just as bombed as him. It was a really nasty message b...	HEARTBROKEN IN NJ	5	428	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	the perspective of "taking good care" of myself... (Preview) I had been doing things for myself, keeping myself busy, in the absense of my aH, in response to our separation 3 1/2 weeks ago. I wondered how to differentiate between taking care of myself, and distraction. I'm still not totally certain on that. For me, I've noticed that it is all in perspective. I c...	Rora	9	1369	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	first the A, now the family - sorry so long (Preview) I haven't posted in a while. For those who read my past posts, I had the, "at the time sober" Abf who choose to leave 2 months ago as quick as the hunting season came. I have been doing ok since. Have been going to meetings and even started going out to get more social and meet people. I ha...	mslouise	3	451	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	swim through it, not over it (Preview) My AH has started treatment, and I just keep thinking how nice it would be to fast forward to the end of the program. However some wonderful people have reminded me that we hope for a long, slow recovery. He is really "working" his program, but I am sooooo afraid to be hopeful. This time it t...	c1grace	3	548	Nov 20, 2008 by maresie
	It's time......and I need some advice after I blab some....alot (Preview) Hello all, I have been reading w/out posting and it helps so much. You guys are awsome.......such an amazing support network. ahhh, where to begin.... again...... I guess I can start with saying that my A is gone in all ways that an A leaves us without dying. In my last post I said he really was not there an...	puzzle	6	393	Nov 20, 2008 by thinkstoomuch
	ok and learning (Preview) Hi Having an ok day. Have been able to tell My AH that it is not he that i do not like but the things that he is doing and then leave it at that. Thanks just wanted to let you all know that.	smileycat	2	362	Nov 20, 2008 by Jerry F
	ACOA characteristics getting worse? (Preview) Hi everyone, Why do ACOA 'characteristics' get worse? Does it snowball as we get older or is it just because lately the (recovering?)alcoholic parent in my life is just being beyond reason? That woman could make a funeral all about her.	SammyQ	5	3943	Nov 20, 2008 by Jerry F
	Emptiness (Preview) I have felt like I had an empty space or a void in my life for years. I could never place where it came from and still can't to tell you the truth. I tried to fill it up with all sorts of things. Pleasing people and getting approval I thought if others where happy then I could be too but it only exhausted me and th...	christinajeanne	1	343	Nov 19, 2008 by Jean4444
	Trying to keep afloat! (Preview) I am new here, but have been reading your entries for several weeks. It still amazes me that there are so many out there struggling just like me. I have been to a few Al-ANon meetings, but life is so busy, that it is hard to find the time to go! I have been married to my AC/AH for 11 years. He went through...	Soobie	5	400	Nov 19, 2008 by Soobie
	It works!!! But then there are setbacks. (Preview) I've been reading the forum and absorbing pointers on how to deal with my alcoholic's behavior and my mine. I've been practicing detachment and getting projects done around the house. I hired my soon to be son-in-law to work on some projects around the house and barn that really needed to be. Such a...	slowlearner	4	516	Nov 19, 2008 by slowlearner
	Massive wall of anxiety hits when everything starts turning out great? (Preview) I am generally an awesome sleeper. I love to sleep. I love to eat well, get plenty of rest, work hard and exercise. I love living a simple and balanced life. I am recently divorced, recently relocated and recently started a new job. I attend my weekly al-anon meeting and like my home group very much...	Jean4444	7	455	Nov 19, 2008 by Jean4444
	Hit a brick wall (Preview) I've hit a brick wall and cannot seem to get over it, through it, round it or under it. The anxiety is choking me and I still cannot eat or drink anything without feeling I am going to choke. My arms and legs hurt so much and I am not sleeping properly. I try to make myself do something every day, but it all see...	Suzannah	5	700	Nov 19, 2008 by RLC
	ODAT Nov 15 (Preview) My HP works in strange, helpful ways. I saw my AHsober Fri night. We went to dinner and then went dancing. I became jealous of his life without me and treated him poorly. The next day I went to an Alanon meeting and opened the book to Nov. 15. Bitterness towards the A. Yes, my attitude towards my A is often ho...	nmike	3	473	Nov 19, 2008 by ddub
	questioning ex AH's motive... (Preview) Hello MIP family I haven't posted here in a very long time. I was just thinking maybe someone here might have some experience with this situation. This morning, my A ex-husband called my sister out of the blue. We haven't seen or heard from him in nearly 2 years. He had found an instruction book for our s...	artygirl	6	671	Nov 19, 2008 by artygirl
	An Open Letter to my AH (Preview) "Dear _____, I'm writing this letter to you because I don't yet have the courage to speak to you about this face to face. Most of the time, I don't feel safe expressing my feelings to you as you usually find a way to take what I say and mold it into a very sharp object to stab me with repeatedly later on....	blender_girl	6	1435	Nov 18, 2008 by Beth.M
	This thing about feeling like a part of you is dying... (Preview) I really needed to share with you about this, this morning. YES! A part of "us" must die (or it feels that way). I really believe this is true but although its incredibly uncomfortable and feels painful I also believe its absolutely necessary and a good sign, ultimately. What had died? F...	Jean4444	7	1059	Nov 18, 2008 by maresie
	It is starting again. (Preview) I am wore out just thinking of what is going to happen next. Today I found out that my A took a couple of checks from our Retirement account and cashed them. Six months ago we went to our Lawyers and he signed over a power of attorney to me on all accounts but he signs my name of checks and all is good. ...	weggie	4	494	Nov 18, 2008 by Jerry F
	more infor please (Preview) Hi all I have just got thourght reading "The Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage" understand and can see some things that is helpful. However, when it was talking about the way the A chose his or she partner i did not really see my marriage in it. He was quiet and I was shy and in the book it one is...	smileycat	2	485	Nov 18, 2008 by Jerry F
	Am I crazy? (Preview) It has been three months since my ex ABF left our home. I have seen him about 4 times since then, for only about an hour or so, and we've only spoken about 8 times in our time apart. My last conversation with him last week led me to believe that he is really struggling but that he is finally making some chang...	hopeful123	5	494	Nov 18, 2008 by canadianguy
	The truck flipped over 4 times, is he done drinking yet? (Preview) Wow! Is how I have to start this post. Last night my brother-in-law was in a bad car accident, and he had been drinking. He rolled the truck 4 times and was thrown to the passenger side of the vehicle. When the police got there they didn't know if he was the driver or if somebody else had been there. They had j...	wildthang86	2	387	Nov 18, 2008 by maresie
	Having a real bad day! very sad and could use a little encouragement (Preview) I just joined this board last week, feeling like i had no one to turn to. I have been coming on daily and reading everyone's posts- they keep me going and i see more and more i'm not alone. Thank you sooo much everyone for sharing. I did get a chance to go to one meeting so far and hope to get to more soon! I had ju...	hurtnfedup	4	603	Nov 18, 2008 by hurtnfedup
	New member needs advice (Preview) I am married to a man who was on the wagon for 25 years, but due to retirement started drinking again. He is 69 and although been to 3 AA meetings, he is still drinking steadily, and I do not believe he is serious about stopping, or has not the willpower. We have been married six years. He denies that he i...	hibiscusrose	5	520	Nov 17, 2008 by hibiscusrose
	Thank you to my HP (Preview) Thank you for my beautiful day. Thank you for the energy and health today to put my painting room together. Thank you for sending my brother and nephew and one of my oldest friends to visit me. Thank you for helping me to a safe place where I can keep my prescription in my own medicine cabinet. Thank you for...	Jennifer	3	416	Nov 17, 2008 by weggie
	Youuuuu whoooooo Maria123 (Preview) Vere r u dahling??? did you run off with that neighbor? hugs,debilyn -- Edited by debilyn at 22:52, 2008-11-17	debilyn	0	335	Nov 17, 2008 by debilyn
	step 7 share (Preview) The other night I was saying the serenity prayer out loud and reading the steps. I got to step 7 and I was thinking about how I really do want my HP to remove my shortcomings. I've been so frustrated and impatient lately and I don't want a bad attitude anymore. So I humbly prayed and asked HP to remove these d...	christinajeanne	0	1170	Nov 17, 2008 by christinajeanne
	My AH is starting to drink again (Preview) My AH has started to sneak alcohol again. My whole family sees it but his family is oblivious to it. There are a lot of medical crises going on on his side and they just don't see it. I cannot tell on him because he will get in trouble with his monitoring program and be kicked out. He has spent the last 3 1/2 y...	NancyfromNC	4	431	Nov 17, 2008 by NancyfromNC
	Feeling left out (Preview) Hi all I am haveing a bad week as early said we are back in active drinking. He had a meeting with his counsler about 20 minutes ago and them make a dicede for the hloe family and them wanted to know i feeling on it in a very public place I do not get taking in a room and ask I get ask in the front office how I feel a...	smileycat	2	322	Nov 17, 2008 by LEEA
	Update on bereavement (Preview) Well, yesterday and today were the days of the funeral of step-mother A. I arrived back from London and called to the house at 3. They still had not dressed for funeral, father A had told them it was ok to go in jeans and casual wear, I calmly told them that it was not appropriate dress and they were shocked,...	maire rua	2	473	Nov 17, 2008 by Rita G
	Grandchildren-esh needed (Preview) After quite a few years in Al-Anon I have found myself faced with a new issue. My son is an A/DA and at the moment is doing quite well. However, he has four children (2 marriages) and I have noticed that it has become increasingly more difficult to contact the children who are living with their mother man...	Mobirdie	4	600	Nov 17, 2008 by Rita G
	Relationships Are Hard For Me (Preview) OK, so I have this guy.....who is everything I ever wanted in a man. He has been here all weekend, been incredibly kind, attentive, loving. We just lazed around all day yesterday, side by side on the couch, watching TV, holding each other. He told me often that he loves me. Today we went out to breakfas...	Becky1	5	593	Nov 17, 2008 by LEEA
	Depression, Confusion, and Clutter (Preview) I moved into my apartment in July, leaving behind the wreckage of an 11+ year relationship with my AH. OMG. You wouldn't believe all the stuff I moved with me. My life had become so unmanageable. I have all sorts of papers, boxes and boxes of old magazines, bills (both paid and unpaid), knick-knacks,...	Becky1	6	904	Nov 16, 2008 by drucilla06
	The busy little worker in my heart (Preview) I have this little movie that plays in my head of a sweet, warm, trusting, balanced little girl in my heart. She works all day long on the wall. It comes all the way down when I am around my brother and family. She replaces it brick by brick as I move into public. Makes little peepholes by taking out certain b...	Jennifer	8	543	Nov 16, 2008 by drucilla06
	Thank you for helping me along the way (Preview) One of my first problems when I started this program, was the "do something good for yourself" concept. I drew a complete blank. After alot of thinking, I decided it was taking a nice hot BATH. It cost me nothing, didn't require me leaving the house, and let others in my life see that I was s...	LEEA	3	410	Nov 16, 2008 by nmike
	emotions: numb vs void (Preview) I often chuckle when others write that they have a long post - they haven't seen long yet! as I can write a short novel if I really let myself loose. I seem to have these rushes of many light bulbs going off at once until I am exhausted and need to rest to absorb it all. Along the journey into chaos & insa...	ddub	3	1694	Nov 16, 2008 by drucilla06
	Feel Like a part of me is dying (Preview) So a few weeks after celebrating my 1st wedding anniversary, I have started the divorce process..And it is killing me. I love my husband so much but not sure if I can stay...In short time we have been married, he has relapsed 4 times. First time I drove him to rehab... He had asked for help. The next 2 times...	Sad Wife	5	1436	Nov 16, 2008 by nmike
	Time and Attention (Preview) Can I love myself enough to stand side by side and face to face with HP 24/7? Can I stand that much goodness and attention and unconditional love and acceptance? I have been thinking lately about how I choose people in my life who are either unavailable or unsafe. Usually unavailable. And how I ofte...	Jean4444	5	442	Nov 16, 2008 by drucilla06
	acting and reacting (Preview) I've been reacting a lot lately. Mostly to my aunt and other people that come into the store where I work with a bad attitude. But, then I end up being the one with a bad attitude. I realize that reacting is a choice and yes sometimes my emotions carry me away with anger and frustration and I say things I regr...	christinajeanne	2	395	Nov 16, 2008 by maire rua
	Family bereavement (Preview) Dear All, Stepmother A died at 5.30 this morning. I contacted her daughters and broke the news to them. She was a good person with a nasty disease, and I am not talking about the cancer. I know my father will find it hard to carry on without her and I only hope he doesn't drown it all with drink but I think he wi...	maire rua	11	564	Nov 16, 2008 by Karilynn
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