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xter · xter

remember how posted that i asked for a separation and that he was going to move out? yeah, he hasn't moved out yet. hasn't even come up with a plan for what he would do, where he would stay. and at first, he was all nice, and sweet and i FOOLISHLY thought, "well... maybe...? maybe all i needed to say w...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Woke up this am determined to get out of this slump and get it together........that lasted until I got to work at 8am. I decided to quit dating a guy, who I have been dating for the past couple of months. G and I have known one another for 10 years and have been buds forever-dating was new, but I felt he was wa...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Yesterday, my husband had to report to the court system for a pre-trial monitoring appointment (he is scheduled to appear to court on Aug. 20 for his DUI). He called me from there and informed me that (according to the courts) he isn't supposed to be drinking, but that he did have a few beers earlier in th...

Suzannah · Suzannah

PRICELESS, Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement in response to my post "Struggling." I awoke this morning and the first thing I felt I had to do was go and thank God for this day and another chance to continue walking this path to holistic recovery. I was blessed by finding my re...

sterling7 · sterling7

Hi everyone, I am relatively new to Al-Anon and MIP. I have been to five f2f meetings and a handful of online MIP meetings. I have also read a lot of the posts here on the message boards and find them extremely helpful. So although I am a bit shy about sharing for the first time, I want to give back by begin...

Inpain · Inpain

I need some opinions here because I've been given conflicting information and I suspect there is a reason but here it goes... My AH cheated on me. It was a horrible situation. He was drunk. He was kicked out and did all the begging to come home. I didn't want him back. We discussed that because this w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I'm still having problems with the BF. He was so good for 6 months and then bam, everything stopped. He has a lot going on at home and work and I am feeling so needy. Things are good and I'm up and then things are bad and I'm down and I feel almost as if I'm with an addict again but I'm not. A lot of the down is b...

Cashey100 · Cashey100

Hi all... my name is Cash, I'm looking for Alanon online support. I went to my first Alanon meeting yesterday, and I quite enjoyed the sharing. I'm a recovering alcoholic, 2 and a half years sober, currently at home on a visit with alcoholic father and non-alcoholic mother. I figured this visit wou...

chevygirl · chevygirl

It's getting down to the crunch time , i meet my A birth father in three days and am feeling - i really don't know what i'm feeling . A mixture of everything , fear , nervous , a little lost , terrified . Sometimes i feel like a little girl again who just feels so hurt that her father left and didn't come back ev...

Overcome · Overcome

I love the fact that al-anon is a spiritually based program and that people from all walks of life and religious beliefs can work this program with the "God of their understanding". In today's reading in C2C (and I encourage your to read it! ) it talks about this "Higher Power" an...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I wanted to thank everyone for all the ESH the past few days. It means a lot to me to know so many people care and take the time to share with me. I'm still having a really hard time today-I can't seem to pull myself out of this slump and I know I have all the information and insight to do so, but I just can't seem...

Bella333 · Bella333

I recognize more and more that I focus on the A because I don't know what to do with my own life. I welcome any chance to be with him, help him etc. not only because I do love him but also because I can't figure out my own life. I feel numb and at a complete loss when I think about what I want to do with my life. I feel...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Friends, I have not been around MIP much this last week. My A Hubby was offshore and I decided to take a different approach to things. It struck me on day when I was putting gasoline in my car. I was happy! And I decided to do what I used to do before I met my husband 10 years ago. And that was just go w...

barisax · barisax

Yep, I really did it! I said I was going to but not when, so now it's done! Biggest difference: not spending every waking moment on some aspect of the wedding. It really came off well. My sober-A stepdaughter gave the toast (with ginger ale) and it was one of the nicest things anybody ever said about me....

Suzannah · Suzannah

...really am. Just cannot talk, write, think, express. Just so tired and so struggling. Utterly exhausted and feel so wiped out. Why is life such a burden at times? (Rhetorical question, that is not expecting answers.) Letting go of it all...it is just too much for me...and hoping that God will pic...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE I RUN INTO SOMEONE WHO HAS A B-DAY THE SAME AS MINE. NOT TOO LONG AGO I ACTUALLY FOUND SOMEONE WHO IS EXACTLY THE SAME AGE AS ME! THAT IS RARE! ANYWAY, NO MATTER WHAT AGE YOU ARE, YOU ARE YOUNG AT HEART!

Trishk1026 · Trishk1026

Hi, my name is Trish and my husband is an alcoholic. He is going into detox tomorrow morning at 10:30 once again. I hope this will be last time but I have my doubts. I know now that I also need help. I never thought that I would be in this situation and frankly dont know how to handle it. I know that I cant t...

chezza · chezza

Hello people I felt a strong urge to come on the board and share with you guys tonight on something that I did let get to me today though have quickly been able to turn the negative thoughts around. I was chatting a forum today which i'm a regular to on a topic discussing physical appearance of a star negati...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am trying to be more patient with myself & others. Recovery can sometimes be very slow--sometimes it feels like I am going backwards instead of forwards but sometimes I just slip but I don't totally fall! Like it says in the Today's reminder: "Keep coming back"--It not only applies...

mermaid88 · mermaid88

Good afternoon! Being new to the world of alanon, I have a few questions... How do I get a sponsor? Do I need a sponsor? Do people offer up services to be a sponsor?

Overcome · Overcome

I've been having a lot of problems with my computer as of late and am going to have to get a new one. Just wanted to let my al-anon friends know that I am doing ok and will return as soon as I get my new system up and running. Overcome

Mike E · Mike E

Well, I went to my first meeting today. I was surprised how similar my feelings were to the other members. I have been doing my best to please my wife who has completely detached herself from me. She wants her space. They told me I was a people pleaser and I shouldn't try to do thing to try and control my w...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Wow! I have to start with that because I am still reeling from the events of last night. My AH decided that he would kick our 15 year old son out of the house because he wouldn't get in the car if AH was driving because AH was quite intoxicated. Yes, literally he left the kid at the park, with a Park Ranger. Now...

maresie · maresie

One of Overcome's posts recently really struck me about having problems before I ever met the ex A. I certainly did not have a healthy structure to my life or an idea where I was going or how to get there. I was all too ready to hitch onto the exA's star and then blame him when it became a disaster. These d...

meagain · meagain

I was divorced about 26 yrs ago from my A husband. My 3 sons were 10/11/12. They are now 34/35/36. I am happily married now for 23 yrs. My new husband is very responsible, hard worker, the total opposite from my ex. The question is he helped me raise my 3 boys, and they saw his work ethics etc. My boys are hard...

Maine Girl · Maine Girl

Hello- I am new to this forum, but not new to Al Anon. I have been going to Al Anon for over 2 years because of my AH. I am extremely grateful that my husband, on his own volition, put himself in rehab a month ago. He was away for 3 weeks in a detox center then living on the campus of the hospital doing his out...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, I hadn't been doing much thinking about the A as you know I had moved on to other obsessions with other people. :) Anyway, the A had been around and supposedly clean for over 30 days. So we had been visiting his mom on Tuesdays like normal- that is my son and I. And he had been there consistently so...

Lotus · Lotus

So he IS trying to quit drinking, and happened to mention it to me in passing. Since when? When did he decide this and why was I left in the dark about it for a week? Because I threw out some stuff of his that I thought he'd no longer be needing since I thought he was drinking again. How was I to know, I gue...

crystalcc · crystalcc

Hello, My fiance is currently in rehab, and it appears he is on his "pink cloud," and is feeling quite invincible. He believes he is strong enought to handle life without having to go to AA meetings when he gets out. He told me that he thinks AA is more of a service to those who had problems wit...

All I can be · All I can be

Can an Alocoholic ever be forgiven and the marriage repaired? When an alcoholic has all desire to drink removed, works the steps and has a spiritual awakening. Alanon states that the family situation is bound to improve. AA says permanent marriage breakups and seperations, however are unusual in A...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Ever since finding out that EXABF opened a facebook acct using my last name I have been feeling "off" since then. My fault I know-(seems everything he does wrong always is somehow. Yes I know I was the one to seak out information I obviously was not ready to deal with. I even went back last n...

xter · xter

it's really, really sad that after 5 years, i barely know my AH's "best" friend. mainly because AH compartmentalizes all of his different relationships and doesn't allow people to mingle (he's got his alkie buddies and then real friends and then some who are a mix - those are the worst). ...

Overcome · Overcome

The July 27th reading in ODAAT in Al-Anon got me to thinking about what if alcoholism had not been a part of the four marriages I have been in, would they have succeeded had alcoholism not been a part? What about other relationships that I have had where alcoholism was a part, would the removal of the alco...

Risenshine · Risenshine

Hello, I am new here...been looking for love in all the wrong places! I have read alot of the message trails here...and immediately found comfort...Thank you! I am going through a relationship breakup right now...one that I Knew in my soul I should not have entered...two years ago! And in the begi...

gknee · gknee

Hi all-I remember a few years ago when I first came to this board, I was asking this question about my AH. I guess I have learned something because now I only ask it about me.Quiz Question:How long will I stay in this stupid 19 year marriage?a- foreverb- just for todayc- any day now I am seeing the lawyer/k...

GlitterGirl · GlitterGirl

I'm so sick and tired of my mother's -- what I FEEL like doing is just ending ALL communication with her. I don't always feel that way and it makes me sad to think of not having a relationship with my mother, but she's really been acting like an lately. She's posted on her Facebook account (which pops up on...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I found myself in a real funk tonight, and it took me a while to figure out why. My kids went on vacation with their very sober dad, something we never did, and are spending the week with relatives at a beautiful cabin on a lake in another state. AH keeps sending photos to "keep my heart close to the...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I'm feeling so much better today it's like night and day. My boyfriend who I have seen and/or talked to every day for the past six months (today is our anniversary) has decided that he won't talk to me anymore which has driven me completely insane for the past 4 or 5 days and I have acted like a crazy woman c...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

YESTERDAY I CELEBRATED MY 43RD B-DAY! IT WAS A VERY NICE DAY & I GOT A LOT OF BIRTHDAY MESSAGES FROM FRIENDS & FAMILY. I AM ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T MIND SHARING MY AGE. EVERYONE IN MY CIRCLE OF FRIENDS ALWAYS TELL ME I AM STILL YOUNG BUT SOMETIMES I DON'T FEEL IT! WHEN DO THE PAIN & STR...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP family Saw the wife, or now I say widow, of an old friend of mine from program. We first met in another program for a problem we shared as a result of our drinking. I was able to give him something about his anger that he was very grateful to have and helped him in his family, program and community r...

xter · xter

i woke up this morning, secure in my decision to ask for a separation, to ask him to move out. all day long, i was in a good mood, very sure of myself. his shenanigans this week were a huge blow to me and i find that i absolutely cannot live like this anymore. i have been feeling like i cannot live like this f...

buick23 · buick23

I am fed up with my relationship. Everytime I let go and give stuff to my hp things seem to improve for a few days, then everything goes back to the same old way. My bf keeps chosing to hang out and do stuff with everyone but me. He's always coming up with excuses why I can't go somewhere with him. Right now he'...

buick23 · buick23

I was thinking about something yesterday. My abf drank for years, his dad drank for years, one of his sisters ex is addicted to A and drugs and is abusive, his other sister is with an A, his niece is dating a boy who's stepdad is an A who is abusive. Another friends of mine's bf was addicted to pills, my uncle...

TLM · TLM

I just got into a yelling match with my sober AH. He has been sober for 4 months and diligently working his program. He has decided that he is taking time off of work tomorrow to go fishing with a long time alcoholic drinking buddy who is still drinking heavily and calls here drunk regularly (we don't an...

katiecat · katiecat

I'm feeling quilty??? Why?? I don't have a clue. It's storming outside and I haven't called my sister....Ya know the one I was talking about last night...that calls me drunk all night long leaving nasty messages because I won't answer the phone after the hour long conversation we had just a couple h...

Temple · Temple

I sent a PM, and scrolled back up through my info. I saw 110, and thought there for a second it was my weight! Well, it should be. Tee-Hee, Temple

katiecat · katiecat

As I'm sitting here I have had about 6 or more calls from my sister that I had talked to earlier for more than an hour. This is Friday...her day off and again drunk by 2:00. I go through this week after week....listening to her, giving advice, and just trying to help her anyway I can along with the rest of t...

katiecat · katiecat

I'm new to alanon and don't understand it yet but know I need help in this department. I grew up in a alcoholic home, had problems with alcohol myself and really struggling to learn how to deal with others. I came from a large family and still deal with a sister that is still drinking and causing alot of h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Is there anyone else here as nosey or curious as I am. I used to blame it on 20+ years in Security/Corrections where I was paid to be nosey but I've been out of that filed for 3 years now. Was on my facebook page today-hadn't been there for awhile and EXABF is NOT there. Did my thing and then saw a spot where y...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I met a man. He is kinda wonderful it seems (I am cautious of course). We have been getting to be friends, slowly. Yesterday he tells me that al-anon pretty much saved his life. I had not mentioned a thing about al-anon to him. He has a son who is an addict. I knew his son was an addict but I did not know he...

chevygirl · chevygirl

It seems like the drama is never ending for me right now . Yesterday i learned that my father ( recovering alcoholic) who abandoned us when we were very small and we are going to visit in Hamilton ( we live in P.E.I ) next friday , landed himself in the hospital for a coulpe of days . He is suppose to use a cpac m...

Overcome · Overcome

"So many times I wanted to bite off my tongue after saying, "Yes" when I really wanted to say, "No." This is a quote from today's reading (July 25) in C2C. This is really a boundary issue and one that has been a hard one in my life. There have been a few times in my life where sayin...

maresie · maresie

Now I'm reworking my fourth step which is long overdue, I'm able to address some of the issue of myself being controlling and finding myself around other people who are controlling. I don't think its a coincidence anymore that I found myself so dependent on people who were incredibly controlling. ...

Overcome · Overcome

In today's C2C reading Toyohiko Kagawa says "God alone knows the secret plan of the things he will do for the world using my hand." I often forget that God has a detailed plan for my life. My job is to seek that plan and ask him daily to show me that plan. If I go off on a wild goose chase following so...

mermaid88 · mermaid88

First off, I would like to thank everyone on here for all of the help and support. I am going to my second alanon meeting tonight, and hoping it will help me feel better. My fiance is an alcoholic and drug addict. He is currently on a three day bender. He abuses any drug he can get his hands on. I know I nee...

Trying to be an active member of Alanon · mermaid88

What is the best way to find an alanon meeting where I feel like I fit in? I have been to a few meetings, and have mostly felt uncomfortable and out of place. I am VERY new to alanon, but I would like to learn more about the program. I like this message board a lot, but being around others would be helpful, t...

xter · xter

i've been home sick for the past 3 days. walking pneumonia. ah has been very short tempered. i've been walking on eggshells, swallowing anger. i'm hurting today. i feel hopeless. i have a f2f meeting tonight, thank goodness. i'm trying to turn my obsessive thoughts over to my HP, but it's hard....

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

Hey all-- I am brand spanking new to this whole idea, although I have attended support groups of other kinds before now. It is with some gladness that I am joining this one, and I wonder "Why am I glad that I have a support group?" it's as if I'm glad I NEED one. I must need my head examined. that sa...

Temple · Temple

Lately I have noticed some posts are formatted so wide that I have to scroll back and forth to be able to read the whole thing. Maybe it can be fixed at the "home office" or maybe some of you could hit "enter" every so often and keep it within my cheap little screen? I don't want to mis...

newbie46 · newbie46

I have tried this board. I never intended to make this a regular habit. I go to a wonderful church with wonderful people. That is my lifeline. I hope you all find solutions to your problems.

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	so yeah, not gone yet... (Preview) remember how posted that i asked for a separation and that he was going to move out? yeah, he hasn't moved out yet. hasn't even come up with a plan for what he would do, where he would stay. and at first, he was all nice, and sweet and i FOOLISHLY thought, "well... maybe...? maybe all i needed to say w...	xter	7	720	Jul 31, 2009 by Maine Girl
	The light at the end of the tunnel must be a train:( I give up. (Preview) Woke up this am determined to get out of this slump and get it together........that lasted until I got to work at 8am. I decided to quit dating a guy, who I have been dating for the past couple of months. G and I have known one another for 10 years and have been buds forever-dating was new, but I felt he was wa...	shellyj123	7	495	Jul 31, 2009 by Karilynn
	Doubting Myself (Preview) Yesterday, my husband had to report to the court system for a pre-trial monitoring appointment (he is scheduled to appear to court on Aug. 20 for his DUI). He called me from there and informed me that (according to the courts) he isn't supposed to be drinking, but that he did have a few beers earlier in th...	N8SMOM	10	427	Jul 30, 2009 by sterling7
	The VALUE of friends... (Preview) PRICELESS, Thank you everyone for your words of encouragement in response to my post "Struggling." I awoke this morning and the first thing I felt I had to do was go and thank God for this day and another chance to continue walking this path to holistic recovery. I was blessed by finding my re...	Suzannah	4	297	Jul 30, 2009 by sterling7
	First MIP Share (long) (Preview) Hi everyone, I am relatively new to Al-Anon and MIP. I have been to five f2f meetings and a handful of online MIP meetings. I have also read a lot of the posts here on the message boards and find them extremely helpful. So although I am a bit shy about sharing for the first time, I want to give back by begin...	sterling7	6	588	Jul 30, 2009 by sterling7
	Need opinions (Preview) I need some opinions here because I've been given conflicting information and I suspect there is a reason but here it goes... My AH cheated on me. It was a horrible situation. He was drunk. He was kicked out and did all the begging to come home. I didn't want him back. We discussed that because this w...	Inpain	10	790	Jul 30, 2009 by Inpain
	emotional roller coaster (Preview) I'm still having problems with the BF. He was so good for 6 months and then bam, everything stopped. He has a lot going on at home and work and I am feeling so needy. Things are good and I'm up and then things are bad and I'm down and I feel almost as if I'm with an addict again but I'm not. A lot of the down is b...	carolinagirl	9	739	Jul 30, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Went to first Alanon meeting... needing support! (Preview) Hi all... my name is Cash, I'm looking for Alanon online support. I went to my first Alanon meeting yesterday, and I quite enjoyed the sharing. I'm a recovering alcoholic, 2 and a half years sober, currently at home on a visit with alcoholic father and non-alcoholic mother. I figured this visit wou...	Cashey100	4	749	Jul 30, 2009 by Cashey100
	In Need of some words of encouragement , faith and strength ..... (Preview) It's getting down to the crunch time , i meet my A birth father in three days and am feeling - i really don't know what i'm feeling . A mixture of everything , fear , nervous , a little lost , terrified . Sometimes i feel like a little girl again who just feels so hurt that her father left and didn't come back ev...	chevygirl	6	769	Jul 30, 2009 by maresie
	Al-Anon is a spiritually based program (Preview) I love the fact that al-anon is a spiritually based program and that people from all walks of life and religious beliefs can work this program with the "God of their understanding". In today's reading in C2C (and I encourage your to read it! ) it talks about this "Higher Power" an...	Overcome	2	794	Jul 30, 2009 by Tracy
	A bit of an update........Still can't pull out of it........ (Preview) I wanted to thank everyone for all the ESH the past few days. It means a lot to me to know so many people care and take the time to share with me. I'm still having a really hard time today-I can't seem to pull myself out of this slump and I know I have all the information and insight to do so, but I just can't seem...	shellyj123	5	662	Jul 30, 2009 by maresie
	Focusing on who I am.... (Preview) I recognize more and more that I focus on the A because I don't know what to do with my own life. I welcome any chance to be with him, help him etc. not only because I do love him but also because I can't figure out my own life. I feel numb and at a complete loss when I think about what I want to do with my life. I feel...	Bella333	6	490	Jul 30, 2009 by Bella333
	Confused Him (Preview) Hello Friends, I have not been around MIP much this last week. My A Hubby was offshore and I decided to take a different approach to things. It struck me on day when I was putting gasoline in my car. I was happy! And I decided to do what I used to do before I met my husband 10 years ago. And that was just go w...	Sincerely	7	605	Jul 30, 2009 by xter
	I Got Married (Preview) Yep, I really did it! I said I was going to but not when, so now it's done! Biggest difference: not spending every waking moment on some aspect of the wedding. It really came off well. My sober-A stepdaughter gave the toast (with ginger ale) and it was one of the nicest things anybody ever said about me....	barisax	20	746	Jul 30, 2009 by Suzannah
	Struggling... (Preview) ...really am. Just cannot talk, write, think, express. Just so tired and so struggling. Utterly exhausted and feel so wiped out. Why is life such a burden at times? (Rhetorical question, that is not expecting answers.) Letting go of it all...it is just too much for me...and hoping that God will pic...	Suzannah	8	901	Jul 29, 2009 by Christy
	Diva--happy belated birthday to you, too! (Preview) EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE I RUN INTO SOMEONE WHO HAS A B-DAY THE SAME AS MINE. NOT TOO LONG AGO I ACTUALLY FOUND SOMEONE WHO IS EXACTLY THE SAME AGE AS ME! THAT IS RARE! ANYWAY, NO MATTER WHAT AGE YOU ARE, YOU ARE YOUNG AT HEART!	Hoot Nanny	8	742	Jul 29, 2009 by Christy
	New here!! husband going to deotx tomorrow (Preview) Hi, my name is Trish and my husband is an alcoholic. He is going into detox tomorrow morning at 10:30 once again. I hope this will be last time but I have my doubts. I know now that I also need help. I never thought that I would be in this situation and frankly dont know how to handle it. I know that I cant t...	Trishk1026	4	696	Jul 29, 2009 by Trishk1026
	Live and let live v let it begin with me (Preview) Hello people I felt a strong urge to come on the board and share with you guys tonight on something that I did let get to me today though have quickly been able to turn the negative thoughts around. I was chatting a forum today which i'm a regular to on a topic discussing physical appearance of a star negati...	chezza	4	789	Jul 29, 2009 by chezza
	Today's READING(July 28th) (Preview) I am trying to be more patient with myself & others. Recovery can sometimes be very slow--sometimes it feels like I am going backwards instead of forwards but sometimes I just slip but I don't totally fall! Like it says in the Today's reminder: "Keep coming back"--It not only applies...	Hoot Nanny	1	1147	Jul 29, 2009 by Rita G
	How do you get a sponsor? (Preview) Good afternoon! Being new to the world of alanon, I have a few questions... How do I get a sponsor? Do I need a sponsor? Do people offer up services to be a sponsor?	mermaid88	5	482	Jul 28, 2009 by mermaid88
	Can't get into chat room (Preview) I've been having a lot of problems with my computer as of late and am going to have to get a new one. Just wanted to let my al-anon friends know that I am doing ok and will return as soon as I get my new system up and running. Overcome	Overcome	1	399	Jul 28, 2009 by belle1
	My fist meeting was Kinda good (Preview) Well, I went to my first meeting today. I was surprised how similar my feelings were to the other members. I have been doing my best to please my wife who has completely detached herself from me. She wants her space. They told me I was a people pleaser and I shouldn't try to do thing to try and control my w...	Mike E	9	761	Jul 28, 2009 by Christy
	Great day but HORRIFIC night...what to do? ESH please... (Preview) Wow! I have to start with that because I am still reeling from the events of last night. My AH decided that he would kick our 15 year old son out of the house because he wouldn't get in the car if AH was driving because AH was quite intoxicated. Yes, literally he left the kid at the park, with a Park Ranger. Now...	wildthang86	13	1066	Jul 28, 2009 by Christy
	building a scaffolding (Preview) One of Overcome's posts recently really struck me about having problems before I ever met the ex A. I certainly did not have a healthy structure to my life or an idea where I was going or how to get there. I was all too ready to hitch onto the exA's star and then blame him when it became a disaster. These d...	maresie	1	607	Jul 28, 2009 by Jerry F
	Just some thoughts (Preview) I was divorced about 26 yrs ago from my A husband. My 3 sons were 10/11/12. They are now 34/35/36. I am happily married now for 23 yrs. My new husband is very responsible, hard worker, the total opposite from my ex. The question is he helped me raise my 3 boys, and they saw his work ethics etc. My boys are hard...	meagain	3	710	Jul 28, 2009 by maresie
	Want to hear success stories about marriages lasting after A gets out of rehab and sober..... (Preview) Hello- I am new to this forum, but not new to Al Anon. I have been going to Al Anon for over 2 years because of my AH. I am extremely grateful that my husband, on his own volition, put himself in rehab a month ago. He was away for 3 weeks in a detox center then living on the campus of the hospital doing his out...	Maine Girl	14	1253	Jul 28, 2009 by maresie
	Control and Shame (Preview) Well, I hadn't been doing much thinking about the A as you know I had moved on to other obsessions with other people. :) Anyway, the A had been around and supposedly clean for over 30 days. So we had been visiting his mom on Tuesdays like normal- that is my son and I. And he had been there consistently so...	Codependent	6	1148	Jul 28, 2009 by carolinagirl
	AH officially trying to manage without help (Preview) So he IS trying to quit drinking, and happened to mention it to me in passing. Since when? When did he decide this and why was I left in the dark about it for a week? Because I threw out some stuff of his that I thought he'd no longer be needing since I thought he was drinking again. How was I to know, I gue...	Lotus	5	749	Jul 28, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Fiance in rehab, but thinks he won't need AA when he gets out (pink cloud) (Preview) Hello, My fiance is currently in rehab, and it appears he is on his "pink cloud," and is feeling quite invincible. He believes he is strong enought to handle life without having to go to AA meetings when he gets out. He told me that he thinks AA is more of a service to those who had problems wit...	crystalcc	6	664	Jul 28, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Can an Alocoholic ever be forgiven and the marriage repaired? (Preview) Can an Alocoholic ever be forgiven and the marriage repaired? When an alcoholic has all desire to drink removed, works the steps and has a spiritual awakening. Alanon states that the family situation is bound to improve. AA says permanent marriage breakups and seperations, however are unusual in A...	All I can be	11	1006	Jul 28, 2009 by Diva
	A slip or a slump? (Preview) Ever since finding out that EXABF opened a facebook acct using my last name I have been feeling "off" since then. My fault I know-(seems everything he does wrong always is somehow. Yes I know I was the one to seak out information I obviously was not ready to deal with. I even went back last n...	shellyj123	7	872	Jul 28, 2009 by Karilynn
	so what about telling his mother or best friend? (Preview) it's really, really sad that after 5 years, i barely know my AH's "best" friend. mainly because AH compartmentalizes all of his different relationships and doesn't allow people to mingle (he's got his alkie buddies and then real friends and then some who are a mix - those are the worst). ...	xter	7	709	Jul 27, 2009 by maresie
	A standard to live by (Preview) The July 27th reading in ODAAT in Al-Anon got me to thinking about what if alcoholism had not been a part of the four marriages I have been in, would they have succeeded had alcoholism not been a part? What about other relationships that I have had where alcoholism was a part, would the removal of the alco...	Overcome	1	569	Jul 27, 2009 by maresie
	Complicated Grief (Preview) Hello, I am new here...been looking for love in all the wrong places! I have read alot of the message trails here...and immediately found comfort...Thank you! I am going through a relationship breakup right now...one that I Knew in my soul I should not have entered...two years ago! And in the begi...	Risenshine	4	500	Jul 27, 2009 by maresie
	when will enough b enough (Preview) Hi all-I remember a few years ago when I first came to this board, I was asking this question about my AH. I guess I have learned something because now I only ask it about me.Quiz Question:How long will I stay in this stupid 19 year marriage?a- foreverb- just for todayc- any day now I am seeing the lawyer/k...	gknee	5	708	Jul 27, 2009 by maresie
	So Ticked Off -- Again (Preview) I'm so sick and tired of my mother's -- what I FEEL like doing is just ending ALL communication with her. I don't always feel that way and it makes me sad to think of not having a relationship with my mother, but she's really been acting like an lately. She's posted on her Facebook account (which pops up on...	GlitterGirl	6	527	Jul 27, 2009 by maresie
	stuck in the middle of abandonment (Preview) I found myself in a real funk tonight, and it took me a while to figure out why. My kids went on vacation with their very sober dad, something we never did, and are spending the week with relatives at a beautiful cabin on a lake in another state. AH keeps sending photos to "keep my heart close to the...	Loupiness	5	906	Jul 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	A new day... (Preview) I'm feeling so much better today it's like night and day. My boyfriend who I have seen and/or talked to every day for the past six months (today is our anniversary) has decided that he won't talk to me anymore which has driven me completely insane for the past 4 or 5 days and I have acted like a crazy woman c...	carolinagirl	3	1003	Jul 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	43 & hangin' in there! (Preview) YESTERDAY I CELEBRATED MY 43RD B-DAY! IT WAS A VERY NICE DAY & I GOT A LOT OF BIRTHDAY MESSAGES FROM FRIENDS & FAMILY. I AM ONE OF THOSE PEOPLE WHO DOESN'T MIND SHARING MY AGE. EVERYONE IN MY CIRCLE OF FRIENDS ALWAYS TELL ME I AM STILL YOUNG BUT SOMETIMES I DON'T FEEL IT! WHEN DO THE PAIN & STR...	Hoot Nanny	11	792	Jul 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	Another one out the door...sober. (Preview) Aloha MIP family Saw the wife, or now I say widow, of an old friend of mine from program. We first met in another program for a problem we shared as a result of our drinking. I was able to give him something about his anger that he was very grateful to have and helped him in his family, program and community r...	Jerry F	16	783	Jul 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	i asked for a separation tonight (Preview) i woke up this morning, secure in my decision to ask for a separation, to ask him to move out. all day long, i was in a good mood, very sure of myself. his shenanigans this week were a huge blow to me and i find that i absolutely cannot live like this anymore. i have been feeling like i cannot live like this f...	xter	10	742	Jul 26, 2009 by xter
	active vs. dry (Preview) I am fed up with my relationship. Everytime I let go and give stuff to my hp things seem to improve for a few days, then everything goes back to the same old way. My bf keeps chosing to hang out and do stuff with everyone but me. He's always coming up with excuses why I can't go somewhere with him. Right now he'...	buick23	2	541	Jul 26, 2009 by Sincerely
	A's everywhere (Preview) I was thinking about something yesterday. My abf drank for years, his dad drank for years, one of his sisters ex is addicted to A and drugs and is abusive, his other sister is with an A, his niece is dating a boy who's stepdad is an A who is abusive. Another friends of mine's bf was addicted to pills, my uncle...	buick23	4	579	Jul 26, 2009 by Sincerely
	Controlling... (and maybe a bit of a vent) (Preview) I just got into a yelling match with my sober AH. He has been sober for 4 months and diligently working his program. He has decided that he is taking time off of work tomorrow to go fishing with a long time alcoholic drinking buddy who is still drinking heavily and calls here drunk regularly (we don't an...	TLM	8	661	Jul 26, 2009 by TLM
	Feeling quilty (Preview) I'm feeling quilty??? Why?? I don't have a clue. It's storming outside and I haven't called my sister....Ya know the one I was talking about last night...that calls me drunk all night long leaving nasty messages because I won't answer the phone after the hour long conversation we had just a couple h...	katiecat	3	581	Jul 26, 2009 by Temple
	I just got so excited. (Preview) I sent a PM, and scrolled back up through my info. I saw 110, and thought there for a second it was my weight! Well, it should be. Tee-Hee, Temple	Temple	3	406	Jul 26, 2009 by Temple
	Dealing with my sister (Preview) As I'm sitting here I have had about 6 or more calls from my sister that I had talked to earlier for more than an hour. This is Friday...her day off and again drunk by 2:00. I go through this week after week....listening to her, giving advice, and just trying to help her anyway I can along with the rest of t...	katiecat	6	1199	Jul 25, 2009 by wp
	Looking for a sponser (Preview) I'm new to alanon and don't understand it yet but know I need help in this department. I grew up in a alcoholic home, had problems with alcohol myself and really struggling to learn how to deal with others. I came from a large family and still deal with a sister that is still drinking and causing alot of h...	katiecat	4	549	Jul 25, 2009 by katiecat
	Sad and really disappointed in myself (Preview) Is there anyone else here as nosey or curious as I am. I used to blame it on 20+ years in Security/Corrections where I was paid to be nosey but I've been out of that filed for 3 years now. Was on my facebook page today-hadn't been there for awhile and EXABF is NOT there. Did my thing and then saw a spot where y...	shellyj123	8	804	Jul 25, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	All I can say is "wow" (Preview) I met a man. He is kinda wonderful it seems (I am cautious of course). We have been getting to be friends, slowly. Yesterday he tells me that al-anon pretty much saved his life. I had not mentioned a thing about al-anon to him. He has a son who is an addict. I knew his son was an addict but I did not know he...	Jean4444	11	805	Jul 25, 2009 by Maria123
	Confused ! Why do i feel nothing .... when my sister feels something ? (Preview) It seems like the drama is never ending for me right now . Yesterday i learned that my father ( recovering alcoholic) who abandoned us when we were very small and we are going to visit in Hamilton ( we live in P.E.I ) next friday , landed himself in the hospital for a coulpe of days . He is suppose to use a cpac m...	chevygirl	3	718	Jul 25, 2009 by Jean4444
	Saying "yes" when I really mean "no" (Preview) "So many times I wanted to bite off my tongue after saying, "Yes" when I really wanted to say, "No." This is a quote from today's reading (July 25) in C2C. This is really a boundary issue and one that has been a hard one in my life. There have been a few times in my life where sayin...	Overcome	6	770	Jul 25, 2009 by Jean4444
	Controlling issues (Preview) Now I'm reworking my fourth step which is long overdue, I'm able to address some of the issue of myself being controlling and finding myself around other people who are controlling. I don't think its a coincidence anymore that I found myself so dependent on people who were incredibly controlling. ...	maresie	4	514	Jul 25, 2009 by maresie
	Praying for the knowledge of God's will and the power to carry that out. (Preview) In today's C2C reading Toyohiko Kagawa says "God alone knows the secret plan of the things he will do for the world using my hand." I often forget that God has a detailed plan for my life. My job is to seek that plan and ask him daily to show me that plan. If I go off on a wild goose chase following so...	Overcome	6	2330	Jul 25, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Should I tell his parents? (Preview) First off, I would like to thank everyone on here for all of the help and support. I am going to my second alanon meeting tonight, and hoping it will help me feel better. My fiance is an alcoholic and drug addict. He is currently on a three day bender. He abuses any drug he can get his hands on. I know I nee...	mermaid88	9	835	Jul 24, 2009 by Christy
	Trying to be an active member of Alanon (Preview) What is the best way to find an alanon meeting where I feel like I fit in? I have been to a few meetings, and have mostly felt uncomfortable and out of place. I am VERY new to alanon, but I would like to learn more about the program. I like this message board a lot, but being around others would be helpful, t...	mermaid88	5	607	Jul 24, 2009 by lmw
	feeling low today (Preview) i've been home sick for the past 3 days. walking pneumonia. ah has been very short tempered. i've been walking on eggshells, swallowing anger. i'm hurting today. i feel hopeless. i have a f2f meeting tonight, thank goodness. i'm trying to turn my obsessive thoughts over to my HP, but it's hard....	xter	9	827	Jul 24, 2009 by Loupiness
	my story and I'm sticking o it (Preview) Hey all-- I am brand spanking new to this whole idea, although I have attended support groups of other kinds before now. It is with some gladness that I am joining this one, and I wonder "Why am I glad that I have a support group?" it's as if I'm glad I NEED one. I must need my head examined. that sa...	woopsadaisy	6	773	Jul 24, 2009 by woopsadaisy
	Maybe it's just my little laptop (Preview) Lately I have noticed some posts are formatted so wide that I have to scroll back and forth to be able to read the whole thing. Maybe it can be fixed at the "home office" or maybe some of you could hit "enter" every so often and keep it within my cheap little screen? I don't want to mis...	Temple	2	605	Jul 24, 2009 by Temple
	Leaving (Preview) I have tried this board. I never intended to make this a regular habit. I go to a wonderful church with wonderful people. That is my lifeline. I hope you all find solutions to your problems.	newbie46	6	939	Jul 24, 2009 by maresie
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