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What do you do if your SO is on a dry drunk?

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I remember when EXABF and I were dating, I went to his house one day and on his pc screen he had this posty taped and it read "Let her be her!". When I asked what it meant he told me it was a reminder to himself to just let me be who I am and not try to change me. At the time, I was completely ticked off b...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

I keep reading and reading, recognising, recognising, understand what role alcohol has played in my life with my STBEXAH and how it affected both his actions and mine. I am slowing moving away from the terrible hurt this has all caused me, whilst he wafted into the sunset, set up home with a new woman wi...

dori711 · dori711

I've been giving a lot of thought to a lot of things lately and in the process was asking myself why I'm so angry? Although I'm still not totally sure, I think it's because when he's not drinking I see the worst of him, he's miserable, he's disrespectful, has a bad temper and cuts me off when I try to say so...

dori711 · dori711

Both my husband and my son are heavy drinkers and I'm not coping very well. I think my husband is an alcoholic and my son is following close in his footsteps. They can't seem to help themselves inspite of all the urgings I've given them...I know I was in the wrong, it's useless to try and change them, ...

crazylady · crazylady

HI-- I have been coming to online meetings for few years now--Have gotten much useful information from all you great people-- Now I feel like marriage is hanging in the balance--has dissolved into being roommates--Im on the fence about what to do--So been taking time--praying (I never prayed so muc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just wanted to say Thanks for letting my latest post go through--I never know for sure when it is OK to post something. I have the book that the quotes come from it is the Book of Lists--there is a lot of good stuff in there that I would like to share with Y'all. There are more than one edition of the book. I g...

Bluelady · Bluelady

I will listen to I told you so's but please just not tonight. I found out tonight my daughter has been drinking all along, lying to me every step of the way. Her husband has kicked her out of the house and I can't get ahold of her. I don't know if she is safe. My heart is broken. Oh God, to me this is still my lit...

richard · richard

My son is living with me now. When he first came out here from out West and jail he was about 24 years of age going on about 13 years of age. It has been very tough these last six years. He has grown much. At 30 years of age, he going on about 26 years of age or maybe 27. Along with the torture during childhoo...

maresie · maresie

As all of you know I live around alcoholics. One of them, K lies about everything all the time. I don't believe it is just the drinking and using, chaos, its every single thing she lies about. What I see now is the insanity. When the ex A lied about every little thing I spent years trying to work out what...

dawna81 · dawna81

this is my first thread on this site, and i decided to join this site for all the reasons you did, i suppose. last month i married a brilliant man. he is funny, smart, tender and caring. he is also an alcoholic. a year ago, i battled my own addiction of perscription drugs. i didnt join NA but i did go to a group...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I want serenity. I need serenity. I look at people in my meetings who seem to have serenity - some have 3 years while others have 30 years. How long will it take and what do I need to do to get it? What's that old saying?. . . . .God, please grant me patience, NOW!

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Very low today. Aside from massive sinus headaches... Yesterday I met with someone in my industry who I wanted to affiliate with. The person has a big media reputation, etc. (typing carefully to maintain anonymity here). Anyway, the meeting went well, but, I *knew* before I ever set foot in the place...

dawna81 · dawna81

i know i made a post last night, my first, but this is a pure ranting one. i just need to get this out before i explode! i got a bill in the mail today from the hospital, it was for the abulance that i had to call for my husband. we thought he was having a heart attack, he couldnt move because the pain in his chest w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope this is OK to post: For despair He gives hope. For fear, He gives courage. For anxiety, He gives peace. For rejection, He gives acceptance. For loneliness, He gives love. For frustration, He gives encouragement. For failure, He gives forgiveness. For bondage, He gives freedom. For dishonest...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok... well First I want to say that THANK YOU to all of you for leaving me ESH.. I have went back SEVERAL times all week and used all your words as inspiration to get me thru this Very Tring Week... Since I last wrote 4 days ago... Alot has went on... Not only did the gentleman I mentioned in my last post pass aw...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

As I said a while back my ex AH was coming back to town this week. He found a place on Craigslist to share with someone and was all set to rent it. It would have left him completely broke (which I know is not my problem)... The guy renting the place appeared to have a serious drinking problem and the place w...

dragonfly13 · dragonfly13

Wow - where to start. Trying to learn to live with the love I still have for AH. Been to a few f2f meetings but am still old/new and hanging on to the hope "he will get it" - but know he will (or won't) when he is ready. And, through it all, I keep floundering between taking care of myself and worryin...

sheila45 · sheila45

Just read a few posts and realized this IS the place of mom's of addicts. My son has been an addict for the past 10 years. He is 27 years now. I read the post about giving it over to my HP. That's what I've done over the years--harder said than done. I give him over to my HP, then I take all my worry, guilt, f...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband has been away at a treatment facility for 2 weeks and he has 2 weeks left to go. I have anxiety and panic attacks, so I take Xanax (as needed) to keep my anxiety under control. Since he's been gone, I've been taking it every day. I just seem to have so much anxiety these days and I can't stand it. ...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well I found out today that jobs may likely be cut where I work and that has everyone walking around on eggshells, stressing and upset (me included). I am sooo upset that I can't even think straight right now. I've been there 12 yrs and work my tail off. I'm a single mom and have fought with everything I h...

sheila45 · sheila45

Is al-anon for people like me---mom of an addict? If not, can someone direct me to the proper place?

lmz723 · lmz723

Hi everybody. This is my first post here. I am not sure what I am doing or what I should be doing, all I know is I just need to vent and get things off of my chest. I have never known any alcoholics before. No one in my entire family really drinks. When I was 18 I met my now husband, and he was great. A few years olde...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... I know I haven't been of much help to anyone here of late... Including myself, tho I have read some post, I just haven't had the heart to give my 2cents for I am still questioning it on a daily basis at this point... As most that know me, know... I am comin up on ALOT of 1st in these next couple "Ve...

akristab · akristab

I finally, after years of being lied to, deceived, mentally and emotionally abused, separated from my alcoholic drug-addict husband. He has not seen or called me or our four-year-old son in over three months. He was recently arrested and subsequently fired for stealing from his Loss Prevention...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just got back from a redo. You all know what a redo is...you did it once and then had to redo it again because the first time... I felt a little edgy because I had already billed for the first trip. What I thought was perfect was just a progression. I got home from the redo and I got an email that the invoic...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I have to forgive myself, as I am also a work in progress. I make mistakes, get very confused too. My life has been full of alone time. Not out of choice. Emotionally, in ways I am very immature. When I really loved, gave it my all, they died. I feel stunted in a way. Don't understand others emotions someti...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((((Friends))))))))))), Well just came back from dr's, now they think she may have bruised her heart she goes for more extensive testing. He said her heart is beating way too fast and he hears some strange sounds. I know they say God doesn't give you more than you can handle however, I think I...

Overcome · Overcome

Self-love is not a dirty word. Loving yourself is not selfish. It is even said that we must "love our neighbor, AS OURSELF" if we can't love ourself then we can't love our neighbor. I have given this topic much thought lately as I had a talk with my pastor and we discussed self-esteem and self...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

After yesterday's insanity at the office, I went home, grabbed my Yummers and he and I headed up to the trail for a hike. I ALWAYS can find peace there, as I feel MUCH closer to my HP when I am outside in His world, looking first hand at what He can do. He and I chatted, (me always more than Him-lol) and I aske...

zahndi · zahndi

I just joined about 15 min. ago. I replied to another post but do want to intro myself here and say I have been in recovery since 1986. I haven't been active in 12 step groups for 9 years due to being mentally unstable and participating in facilitated groups through our local county mental health service...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

"There is almost no work in life as hard as waiting. And yet my Higher Power wants me to wait. All motion is easier than calm waiting, and yet I must wait. So many people have marred their work and hindered the growth of their spiritual lives by too much activity. If I wait patiently, preparing mysel...

Susie Q · Susie Q

Divorcing the alcoholic...when it's over is it ever really over? I have been divorced several months now and the alcoholic is still trying to get back with me. I have been very ambivalent about the whole deal and I know I need to set better boundaries. I still am in love with him, but the drinking hasn't s...

mon123 · mon123

I haven't been to MIP for quite a while I thought I'd just say Hi and decide to visit more often. When I first came here my husband was still drinking. This site took me through that trauma and saw me to my first 'real' Alanon meeting. I began working my program in 2004. MIP also saw me through my seperation a...

Dini · Dini

Hello! I have been married for 21 years. The early years of our marriage were very shakey - with him getting very drunk on a regular basis, losing his license, spending the night in jail. It was hard and always my fault. Don't remember how it happened, but that is when I first discovered Al-Anon. It was my...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...Walking up Sunday just outside of the reach of the flames and bringing it here one of our membership suggested from her own recovery experiences that I take a 10step look at it. That is usually my practice however the suggestion keyed a deeper 10th step than usual and one of the things t...

woopsadaisy · woopsadaisy

Hello- I haven't been able to make it to any meetings F2F for a while, but the chemistry was off. It was mostly old women, or people who really grew up with and live in alcoholic families. I didn't feel that I fit in... felt sorta foolish for going to Al Anon for marajuana use and a porn habit. I am not even sur...

hopeful123 · hopeful123

Hi everyone, I haven't posted to this site in over 6 months, I'm sure. It saved me from a lot of heartache when I needed it most, and I have thought about everyone on here every day, ever since. I mostly stopped posting bc I was healing nicely. The ex and I stopped communicating all together and when we h...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Sorry I haven't been on much lately, I've been lurking though and trying to keep up with everyone. Just haven't felt like I had much good to offer anyone this week. I went to the Dr. Tuesday to find that I again, have some health issues that need to be dealt with, which I am doing, but it through me for a bit o...

Tracy · Tracy

Wow, al non brings me back to the mirror again!! I have been hormonal for a week my thinking goes very negative. What do I do, I should have rang my sponsor but I never, I went with the negativity. It ended by me sending my Sober AB packing. He doesnot drink, he has a job and pays some bills today. I was ups...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I received the following yesterday from my first sponsor and it is still cracking me up so wanted to share it. Enjoy Barb I was walking past the mental hospital the other day, And all the patients were shouting, '13.....13....13.' The fence was too high to see over, but I saw a Little gap in the plank...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

I'm not even with him anymore and still it's all lies, lies and lies. Im tired of it! Even the littlest things are LIES! I asked him a couple months ago why do you have to keep lying? He says why does it matter we aren't together anymore. Yeah that's right but I don't go around asking him questions to catch hi...

sheila45 · sheila45

So last night I joined here and went to bed exhausted and actually slept on and off today because I haven't truly slept in so long. Gave it to my HP again ya know----felt the weight lifted again after a day of bursting into tears several times when something would remind me of GOOD times with my addict so...

Jerry F · Jerry F

And double Wow!!...What the hell!! Cunning Powerful and Baffling...sometimes just doesn't do the discription any justice. Having lots of time in program doesn't mean I'm cured. So my morning meeting was in full swing and going great. The sharing was right on and we discussing relapse and I fo...

Aloha · Aloha

Yes, I still have times where that itty bitty cell phone of mine suddenly appears as cumbersome and un-welcoming as a gigantic stone monolith. But I did it again - remembering what my sponsor tells me often... "When you're down or unhappy or angry, you need to do different than what you've been do...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Have had harsh words this evening with AH. I said it wasn't meant to be like this. After nearly 38 years together I wasn't meant to despise him. Amongst a lot of other things I asked him (not for 1st time) just where is his rock-bottom? It must be very low down indeed. I am so defeated. Everyone else seem...

Tracy · Tracy

I have just asked my sober AB to leave he has taken all his stuff and gone to his mumsI am hormonal which has played a part but its more than that, Why did I do this? 1. we both work full time at weekends he watches his son play football then comes home and falls asleep. I am left to do most of the chores (gettin...

Data395 · Data395

Dane, Alanon. I am extremely upset right now. My wife is sucidal right now. She is devastated. Some ppl were mean to her last night at her online AA meeting. It's not at MIP, it's somewhere else. Anway, she was trying to train to lead meetings at this place online and they put her thru what I thought was so m...

Overcome · Overcome

When I joined a 12-step program 19 years ago, it was ACOA, and it was on the suggestion of a friend. I am not the adult child of an alcoholic, but I drug my co-dependant boyfriend there, who was an ACOA. This was the first sign of my dysfunction. That program did help me as it showed me a lot of my codependent...

richard · richard

I have gone into detail about my 30 years of age son, who is living with me now. In short, because of severe childhood abuse and torture, untreated closed head injury, he reasoning challenged, self-esteem is in the toilet, still confused about boundaries. He has had major surgery on his foot and his...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, It has been a week since my hub moved out. He spent time here this weekend and I know we need to get through this, but I am looking forward to being on the other side of the pain....whenever that is. It is so hard to stay strong and stick with asking him to leave and telling him I want the marriage to b...

barisax · barisax

It has now been two months since Drama Goddess went into the psych ward. I haven't seen her or talked to her since then, get periodic updates from her mom - she has had her ups and downs. I don't know where she stands or the details. I just know I miss her very much. As far as I know, she has never drank alcoh...

stillkickin · stillkickin

As most of you know, this year has been very hard on me and my family. I never totally understood life itself, in how sometimes things seem like they couldn't possibly get worse.....and then suddenly they take another step deeper into negativity. My uncle just passed away tonight. He was diagnosed on...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((((Friends)))))))))), Last night I came into the meeting for a very short time to share the pain i was going thru with my daughter.... She was in a terrible car accident....she is doing well today, she has a fractured cheek bone and a terrible laceration over her eye....a plastic surgeon su...

leo · leo

Hi posting number two just remembered my sign in info hello everyone again. Refer to post by return that is me. lol

arags · arags

Hello everyone, thank you for being here, grateful for Al anon. Need a meeting before the meeting. I got back in the ring with my addict this week. I want to say that I have no idea how it happened. Like Mon/Tues I was setting boundaries, and Sat night I am listening to the sound of pill bottles openin...

brightmommy · brightmommy

It has been a while since I have logged in as I have lost internet connection at my home. I am currently going through a divorce. It truly is the hardest thing I have ever been through in my life even harder than active alcoholism with him. I am having trouble letting go. I feel like my world is falling a...

maresie · maresie

My update is that I still have not received a replacement check. I made no less than ten phone calls on Friday about it. I got absolutely nowhere. I am having to keep turning this over otherwise I start foaming at the mouth with frustration. I did have an epiphany on Friday that this was my life 24/7 when...

Amom · Amom

Hi, I am new here. I live in the country pretty far from most Alanon meetings. I have been to some but haven't found a place yet where I feel comfortable and can get to on a regular basis. I have a son who is an addict. He just turned 19. In hindsight I think he has been using for several years. He also seems t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am finding serenity in spending time with me. It is so funny because years ago, I couldn't stand being alone. Today I realize that my HP is with me all the time anyway. So...as I sit in my chair. I enjoy reading, doing crossword puzzles & most of all listening to a variety of music on my Walkman CD pl...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Dealing with a dry drunk (Preview) What do you do if your SO is on a dry drunk?	Reconstructing	6	3170	Oct 25, 2009 by Mattie
	Trying hard to let him be him~Reflections (Preview) I remember when EXABF and I were dating, I went to his house one day and on his pc screen he had this posty taped and it read "Let her be her!". When I asked what it meant he told me it was a reminder to himself to just let me be who I am and not try to change me. At the time, I was completely ticked off b...	shellyj123	5	529	Oct 25, 2009 by Christy
	Terrible Dreams (Preview) I keep reading and reading, recognising, recognising, understand what role alcohol has played in my life with my STBEXAH and how it affected both his actions and mine. I am slowing moving away from the terrible hurt this has all caused me, whilst he wafted into the sunset, set up home with a new woman wi...	Lilly Burn	5	369	Oct 25, 2009 by Karilynn
	Husband is miserable when he's not drinking. (Preview) I've been giving a lot of thought to a lot of things lately and in the process was asking myself why I'm so angry? Although I'm still not totally sure, I think it's because when he's not drinking I see the worst of him, he's miserable, he's disrespectful, has a bad temper and cuts me off when I try to say so...	dori711	8	1036	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	I'm new and need help. (Preview) Both my husband and my son are heavy drinkers and I'm not coping very well. I think my husband is an alcoholic and my son is following close in his footsteps. They can't seem to help themselves inspite of all the urgings I've given them...I know I was in the wrong, it's useless to try and change them, ...	dori711	11	535	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	work in progress...marriage with A (Preview) HI-- I have been coming to online meetings for few years now--Have gotten much useful information from all you great people-- Now I feel like marriage is hanging in the balance--has dissolved into being roommates--Im on the fence about what to do--So been taking time--praying (I never prayed so muc...	crazylady	3	536	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	JUST WANTED TO SAY THANKS! (Preview) Just wanted to say Thanks for letting my latest post go through--I never know for sure when it is OK to post something. I have the book that the quotes come from it is the Book of Lists--there is a lot of good stuff in there that I would like to share with Y'all. There are more than one edition of the book. I g...	Hoot Nanny	1	438	Oct 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	Just not tonight (Preview) I will listen to I told you so's but please just not tonight. I found out tonight my daughter has been drinking all along, lying to me every step of the way. Her husband has kicked her out of the house and I can't get ahold of her. I don't know if she is safe. My heart is broken. Oh God, to me this is still my lit...	Bluelady	6	506	Oct 24, 2009 by Tattyhead
	My 30 years of age son... (Preview) My son is living with me now. When he first came out here from out West and jail he was about 24 years of age going on about 13 years of age. It has been very tough these last six years. He has grown much. At 30 years of age, he going on about 26 years of age or maybe 27. Along with the torture during childhoo...	richard	4	711	Oct 24, 2009 by richard
	people pleasing. (Preview) As all of you know I live around alcoholics. One of them, K lies about everything all the time. I don't believe it is just the drinking and using, chaos, its every single thing she lies about. What I see now is the insanity. When the ex A lied about every little thing I spent years trying to work out what...	maresie	2	501	Oct 24, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	last night was the worst. (Preview) this is my first thread on this site, and i decided to join this site for all the reasons you did, i suppose. last month i married a brilliant man. he is funny, smart, tender and caring. he is also an alcoholic. a year ago, i battled my own addiction of perscription drugs. i didnt join NA but i did go to a group...	dawna81	11	516	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	How long does it take???? (Preview) I want serenity. I need serenity. I look at people in my meetings who seem to have serenity - some have 3 years while others have 30 years. How long will it take and what do I need to do to get it? What's that old saying?. . . . .God, please grant me patience, NOW!	N8SMOM	9	559	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
	wrong place? (Preview) Very low today. Aside from massive sinus headaches... Yesterday I met with someone in my industry who I wanted to affiliate with. The person has a big media reputation, etc. (typing carefully to maintain anonymity here). Anyway, the meeting went well, but, I knew before I ever set foot in the place...	alanonicScotland	5	473	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	grrr its the little things that grinds my gears. (Preview) i know i made a post last night, my first, but this is a pure ranting one. i just need to get this out before i explode! i got a bill in the mail today from the hospital, it was for the abulance that i had to call for my husband. we thought he was having a heart attack, he couldnt move because the pain in his chest w...	dawna81	3	481	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	WHAT GOD GIVES (Preview) I hope this is OK to post: For despair He gives hope. For fear, He gives courage. For anxiety, He gives peace. For rejection, He gives acceptance. For loneliness, He gives love. For frustration, He gives encouragement. For failure, He gives forgiveness. For bondage, He gives freedom. For dishonest...	Hoot Nanny	3	526	Oct 23, 2009 by Jozie
	I Reachin Up....Crawin Out... Esh Loved :) (Preview) Ok... well First I want to say that THANK YOU to all of you for leaving me ESH.. I have went back SEVERAL times all week and used all your words as inspiration to get me thru this Very Tring Week... Since I last wrote 4 days ago... Alot has went on... Not only did the gentleman I mentioned in my last post pass aw...	Jozie	3	564	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
	This may be shocking to those who know me... (Preview) As I said a while back my ex AH was coming back to town this week. He found a place on Craigslist to share with someone and was all set to rent it. It would have left him completely broke (which I know is not my problem)... The guy renting the place appeared to have a serious drinking problem and the place w...	carolinagirl	15	670	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
	Another Newbie (Preview) Wow - where to start. Trying to learn to live with the love I still have for AH. Been to a few f2f meetings but am still old/new and hanging on to the hope "he will get it" - but know he will (or won't) when he is ready. And, through it all, I keep floundering between taking care of myself and worryin...	dragonfly13	6	448	Oct 23, 2009 by dragonfly13
	Tired of being sad (Preview) Just read a few posts and realized this IS the place of mom's of addicts. My son has been an addict for the past 10 years. He is 27 years now. I read the post about giving it over to my HP. That's what I've done over the years--harder said than done. I give him over to my HP, then I take all my worry, guilt, f...	sheila45	5	487	Oct 23, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	Rough Day - Need some E.S.H. (Preview) My husband has been away at a treatment facility for 2 weeks and he has 2 weeks left to go. I have anxiety and panic attacks, so I take Xanax (as needed) to keep my anxiety under control. Since he's been gone, I've been taking it every day. I just seem to have so much anxiety these days and I can't stand it. ...	N8SMOM	4	627	Oct 23, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	HELP!!!! Need some ESH to just Let Go and Let God on this one!!!!... (Preview) Well I found out today that jobs may likely be cut where I work and that has everyone walking around on eggshells, stressing and upset (me included). I am sooo upset that I can't even think straight right now. I've been there 12 yrs and work my tail off. I'm a single mom and have fought with everything I h...	shellyj123	6	469	Oct 23, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	New and lost (Preview) Is al-anon for people like me---mom of an addict? If not, can someone direct me to the proper place?	sheila45	6	419	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	young bride coping with new husband's problem (Preview) Hi everybody. This is my first post here. I am not sure what I am doing or what I should be doing, all I know is I just need to vent and get things off of my chest. I have never known any alcoholics before. No one in my entire family really drinks. When I was 18 I met my now husband, and he was great. A few years olde...	lmz723	8	677	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	Deflated, Defeated, and About DONE!!!! ESH Please..... (Preview) Welp... I know I haven't been of much help to anyone here of late... Including myself, tho I have read some post, I just haven't had the heart to give my 2cents for I am still questioning it on a daily basis at this point... As most that know me, know... I am comin up on ALOT of 1st in these next couple "Ve...	Jozie	6	502	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	Do they ever change? (Preview) I finally, after years of being lied to, deceived, mentally and emotionally abused, separated from my alcoholic drug-addict husband. He has not seen or called me or our four-year-old son in over three months. He was recently arrested and subsequently fired for stealing from his Loss Prevention...	akristab	7	496	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	Perfections gone...all gone!! (Preview) Just got back from a redo. You all know what a redo is...you did it once and then had to redo it again because the first time... I felt a little edgy because I had already billed for the first trip. What I thought was perfect was just a progression. I got home from the redo and I got an email that the invoic...	Jerry F	4	462	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	A work in progress (Preview) I have to forgive myself, as I am also a work in progress. I make mistakes, get very confused too. My life has been full of alone time. Not out of choice. Emotionally, in ways I am very immature. When I really loved, gave it my all, they died. I feel stunted in a way. Don't understand others emotions someti...	Debilyn	3	511	Oct 22, 2009 by drucilla06
	Bad News today for my Daughter at the Doctor (Preview) (((((((((((Friends))))))))))), Well just came back from dr's, now they think she may have bruised her heart she goes for more extensive testing. He said her heart is beating way too fast and he hears some strange sounds. I know they say God doesn't give you more than you can handle however, I think I...	Andrea12	15	578	Oct 22, 2009 by maresie
	Self-love (Preview) Self-love is not a dirty word. Loving yourself is not selfish. It is even said that we must "love our neighbor, AS OURSELF" if we can't love ourself then we can't love our neighbor. I have given this topic much thought lately as I had a talk with my pastor and we discussed self-esteem and self...	Overcome	3	765	Oct 22, 2009 by maresie
	Putting things into perspective today-I can't-He can-I think I'll let Him (Preview) After yesterday's insanity at the office, I went home, grabbed my Yummers and he and I headed up to the trail for a hike. I ALWAYS can find peace there, as I feel MUCH closer to my HP when I am outside in His world, looking first hand at what He can do. He and I chatted, (me always more than Him-lol) and I aske...	shellyj123	3	532	Oct 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	returning to 12 step program (Preview) I just joined about 15 min. ago. I replied to another post but do want to intro myself here and say I have been in recovery since 1986. I haven't been active in 12 step groups for 9 years due to being mentally unstable and participating in facilitated groups through our local county mental health service...	zahndi	2	440	Oct 22, 2009 by Tattyhead
	This spoke to me today (Preview) "There is almost no work in life as hard as waiting. And yet my Higher Power wants me to wait. All motion is easier than calm waiting, and yet I must wait. So many people have marred their work and hindered the growth of their spiritual lives by too much activity. If I wait patiently, preparing mysel...	carolinagirl	5	488	Oct 22, 2009 by richard
	Letting Go... (Preview) Divorcing the alcoholic...when it's over is it ever really over? I have been divorced several months now and the alcoholic is still trying to get back with me. I have been very ambivalent about the whole deal and I know I need to set better boundaries. I still am in love with him, but the drinking hasn't s...	Susie Q	2	676	Oct 21, 2009 by jj
	Just saying HI (Preview) I haven't been to MIP for quite a while I thought I'd just say Hi and decide to visit more often. When I first came here my husband was still drinking. This site took me through that trauma and saw me to my first 'real' Alanon meeting. I began working my program in 2004. MIP also saw me through my seperation a...	mon123	2	361	Oct 21, 2009 by mon123
	Introducing Myself (Preview) Hello! I have been married for 21 years. The early years of our marriage were very shakey - with him getting very drunk on a regular basis, losing his license, spending the night in jail. It was hard and always my fault. Don't remember how it happened, but that is when I first discovered Al-Anon. It was my...	Dini	7	488	Oct 21, 2009 by Jerry F
	Cleaning House (Preview) Aloha Family...Walking up Sunday just outside of the reach of the flames and bringing it here one of our membership suggested from her own recovery experiences that I take a 10step look at it. That is usually my practice however the suggestion keyed a deeper 10th step than usual and one of the things t...	Jerry F	3	465	Oct 21, 2009 by glad lee
	since joining al anon (Preview) Hello- I haven't been able to make it to any meetings F2F for a while, but the chemistry was off. It was mostly old women, or people who really grew up with and live in alcoholic families. I didn't feel that I fit in... felt sorta foolish for going to Al Anon for marajuana use and a porn habit. I am not even sur...	woopsadaisy	2	433	Oct 21, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Just need to share (Preview) Hi everyone, I haven't posted to this site in over 6 months, I'm sure. It saved me from a lot of heartache when I needed it most, and I have thought about everyone on here every day, ever since. I mostly stopped posting bc I was healing nicely. The ex and I stopped communicating all together and when we h...	hopeful123	3	541	Oct 21, 2009 by abbyal
	This too shall pass???? Right??? Easy does it........ (Preview) Sorry I haven't been on much lately, I've been lurking though and trying to keep up with everyone. Just haven't felt like I had much good to offer anyone this week. I went to the Dr. Tuesday to find that I again, have some health issues that need to be dealt with, which I am doing, but it through me for a bit o...	shellyj123	8	627	Oct 20, 2009 by Priscilla83
	resentments new and old (Preview) Wow, al non brings me back to the mirror again!! I have been hormonal for a week my thinking goes very negative. What do I do, I should have rang my sponsor but I never, I went with the negativity. It ended by me sending my Sober AB packing. He doesnot drink, he has a job and pays some bills today. I was ups...	Tracy	2	613	Oct 20, 2009 by Jerry F
	How I learned to mind my own business (Preview) I received the following yesterday from my first sponsor and it is still cracking me up so wanted to share it. Enjoy Barb I was walking past the mental hospital the other day, And all the patients were shouting, '13.....13....13.' The fence was too high to see over, but I saw a Little gap in the plank...	Mobirdie	4	622	Oct 20, 2009 by blender_girl
	They don't ever stop lying do they? (Preview) I'm not even with him anymore and still it's all lies, lies and lies. Im tired of it! Even the littlest things are LIES! I asked him a couple months ago why do you have to keep lying? He says why does it matter we aren't together anymore. Yeah that's right but I don't go around asking him questions to catch hi...	Melissa21	9	1027	Oct 20, 2009 by Mandy123
	......and so it always goes this way..... (Preview) So last night I joined here and went to bed exhausted and actually slept on and off today because I haven't truly slept in so long. Gave it to my HP again ya know----felt the weight lifted again after a day of bursting into tears several times when something would remind me of GOOD times with my addict so...	sheila45	2	511	Oct 20, 2009 by sheila45
	WOW!! (Preview) And double Wow!!...What the hell!! Cunning Powerful and Baffling...sometimes just doesn't do the discription any justice. Having lots of time in program doesn't mean I'm cured. So my morning meeting was in full swing and going great. The sharing was right on and we discussing relapse and I fo...	Jerry F	5	603	Oct 19, 2009 by Loupiness
	The 1,000-pound phone. (Preview) Yes, I still have times where that itty bitty cell phone of mine suddenly appears as cumbersome and un-welcoming as a gigantic stone monolith. But I did it again - remembering what my sponsor tells me often... "When you're down or unhappy or angry, you need to do different than what you've been do...	Aloha	3	3615	Oct 19, 2009 by Jerry F
	Guilt (Preview) Have had harsh words this evening with AH. I said it wasn't meant to be like this. After nearly 38 years together I wasn't meant to despise him. Amongst a lot of other things I asked him (not for 1st time) just where is his rock-bottom? It must be very low down indeed. I am so defeated. Everyone else seem...	Tattyhead	9	602	Oct 19, 2009 by richard
	confused (Preview) I have just asked my sober AB to leave he has taken all his stuff and gone to his mumsI am hormonal which has played a part but its more than that, Why did I do this? 1. we both work full time at weekends he watches his son play football then comes home and falls asleep. I am left to do most of the chores (gettin...	Tracy	2	529	Oct 19, 2009 by richard
	my A wife is devastated and I don't know what to do for her; she won't let me in (Preview) Dane, Alanon. I am extremely upset right now. My wife is sucidal right now. She is devastated. Some ppl were mean to her last night at her online AA meeting. It's not at MIP, it's somewhere else. Anway, she was trying to train to lead meetings at this place online and they put her thru what I thought was so m...	Data395	7	518	Oct 19, 2009 by richard
	Celebrating my 18th Birthday with you guys! (Preview) When I joined a 12-step program 19 years ago, it was ACOA, and it was on the suggestion of a friend. I am not the adult child of an alcoholic, but I drug my co-dependant boyfriend there, who was an ACOA. This was the first sign of my dysfunction. That program did help me as it showed me a lot of my codependent...	Overcome	7	1010	Oct 19, 2009 by Peggy7
	my 'feeling' and my son... (Preview) I have gone into detail about my 30 years of age son, who is living with me now. In short, because of severe childhood abuse and torture, untreated closed head injury, he reasoning challenged, self-esteem is in the toilet, still confused about boundaries. He has had major surgery on his foot and his...	richard	3	582	Oct 19, 2009 by Andrea12
	Passing on the dance (Preview) Hi family, It has been a week since my hub moved out. He spent time here this weekend and I know we need to get through this, but I am looking forward to being on the other side of the pain....whenever that is. It is so hard to stay strong and stick with asking him to leave and telling him I want the marriage to b...	Mandy123	5	476	Oct 19, 2009 by Jerry F
	I Love My Drama Goddess (Preview) It has now been two months since Drama Goddess went into the psych ward. I haven't seen her or talked to her since then, get periodic updates from her mom - she has had her ups and downs. I don't know where she stands or the details. I just know I miss her very much. As far as I know, she has never drank alcoh...	barisax	10	965	Oct 19, 2009 by barisax
	Barely hanging on... (Preview) As most of you know, this year has been very hard on me and my family. I never totally understood life itself, in how sometimes things seem like they couldn't possibly get worse.....and then suddenly they take another step deeper into negativity. My uncle just passed away tonight. He was diagnosed on...	stillkickin	9	523	Oct 19, 2009 by Karilynn
	Thank You God for Saving my Daughter (Preview) ((((((((((((Friends)))))))))), Last night I came into the meeting for a very short time to share the pain i was going thru with my daughter.... She was in a terrible car accident....she is doing well today, she has a fractured cheek bone and a terrible laceration over her eye....a plastic surgeon su...	Andrea12	9	3714	Oct 19, 2009 by Karilynn
	its all coming back now. (Preview) Hi posting number two just remembered my sign in info hello everyone again. Refer to post by return that is me. lol	leo	6	463	Oct 19, 2009 by Karilynn
	Willing to get out from under denial and see the truth. (Preview) Hello everyone, thank you for being here, grateful for Al anon. Need a meeting before the meeting. I got back in the ring with my addict this week. I want to say that I have no idea how it happened. Like Mon/Tues I was setting boundaries, and Sat night I am listening to the sound of pill bottles openin...	arags	2	593	Oct 19, 2009 by kitty
	been a while (Preview) It has been a while since I have logged in as I have lost internet connection at my home. I am currently going through a divorce. It truly is the hardest thing I have ever been through in my life even harder than active alcoholism with him. I am having trouble letting go. I feel like my world is falling a...	brightmommy	3	461	Oct 19, 2009 by brightmommy
	The stolen check (Preview) My update is that I still have not received a replacement check. I made no less than ten phone calls on Friday about it. I got absolutely nowhere. I am having to keep turning this over otherwise I start foaming at the mouth with frustration. I did have an epiphany on Friday that this was my life 24/7 when...	maresie	3	563	Oct 18, 2009 by nmike
	New, In Pain, Confused, etc (Preview) Hi, I am new here. I live in the country pretty far from most Alanon meetings. I have been to some but haven't found a place yet where I feel comfortable and can get to on a regular basis. I have a son who is an addict. He just turned 19. In hindsight I think he has been using for several years. He also seems t...	Amom	8	578	Oct 18, 2009 by Amom
	Finding serenity in solitude! (Preview) I am finding serenity in spending time with me. It is so funny because years ago, I couldn't stand being alone. Today I realize that my HP is with me all the time anyway. So...as I sit in my chair. I enjoy reading, doing crossword puzzles & most of all listening to a variety of music on my Walkman CD pl...	Hoot Nanny	2	746	Oct 17, 2009 by hotrod
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