Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

hrhyne · hrhyne

Hello to everyone. I am in a fairly new relationship with an alcoholic. He told me two weeks ago that he has been in recovery for 5 years. Things between us are starting to take on a serious tune and I don't know anything about alcoholism. He says it's his issue not mine, but is that possible, to not sha...

Diva · Diva

He telephoned. From London. Anyone remember the movie, "Lost Weekend?" He has no memory (or so he says) of any of it. Found himself in a strange hotel, smelling like dog manure, having not bathed or shaved or changed clothes in three days. Did not know where he was. Found his way to the...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp :) I hit (2) F2F This Weekend, and boy did I need them both... I can tell from were I am the More the Marrier till I survive these up coming Holidays... Our Friday Nite was Bigger then I have ever seen in almost a year, so that had me excited, and my Sunday one which is usually Super Small.. (3-4) even had...

dori711 · dori711

Maybe I shouldn't even be here. Maybe it's my fault that at present we are having relationship problems. I was giving it a great deal of thought and yes, dear H does have a drinking problem, maybe worse since he seems to be choosing alcohol over me, but what I find worse than the drinking is his disrespe...

maresie · maresie

I pride myself on the fact I don't think very often about the ex A anymore. At one time he was part of every single though and I never thought that would be possible. Unconsciously I think now it is otherwise. I had wondered why I automatically cooked large quantities and now I understand I am still cooki...

Weltie · Weltie

Good day: I am Lawrie, a grateful member of the Weltevreden Park Al-Anon Family Group. Weltevreden is a residential suburb about 20-km outside of Johannesburg on the West Rand. We meet Tuesday nights from 19:30 at the local Methodist Church. Our numbers vary. This week we were down to six people but n...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Well - things didn't go how I would have liked them to, but the divorce petition has been filed, AH has been notified informally and my son and I have temporarily left the house. I'm sad to say that I had to have the police show up to have AH peacefully allow me to take my child out of the house. It didn't h...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

Hi! This is my first post and I'm going to my first meeting tonight. I'm sure it's long overdue. I have that sick feeling in my stomach about going home tonight after work. It's a feeling I get when I know that my AFiance drank last night and I'm not sure what it's going to be like tonight. Normally, I w...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Today I finally had the courage to do what so many of my friends have been urging me to do - I went to the bank and re-arranged my finances. I have been married to my A for nearly 38 years. We have always had a joint bank account and A has taken care of the finances. I was happy to let him beacuse he worked in a bank...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

When my A relapsed I was faced with how I had allowed my disease to again become out of control. I saw how deeply enmeshed I was with him and how I did not even have my own identity. This was devestating, but also an awakening for me. It allowed me to see that I am at a point in my life where I need to really 'Man up...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi, I'm new here. And I'm wondering if anyone is willing to offer some hope or support? I'm 20 years old, and I live with my boyfriend - We've been together for about a year. We have a great relationship, get along famously, seem to be perfect for each other - but he's a heroin addict. He has relapsed and tri...

hopeful923 · hopeful923

I am new to all of this....I would like to share my story as to why I am here.... I am 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Yep, we started dating when I was 18 (he was 21). We have a 2 year old daughter together. My boyfriend has a problem with alcohol...I don't know if he is definitely an alc...

maresie · maresie

As many of you know I raged and raged and raged at the alcoholic. I would leave 30 messages on his phone regularly. I also spent a lot of time trying to read and work out what the different numbers on his cell phone meant. I felt incredibly jealous of the people who I felt got the "best" part of...

dori711 · dori711

I checked out the Al-Anon meeting place in our area and it's far from my place, so I most likely won't be able to attend? I took a quick look at the title of books for family members of Alcoholics. Are these books available any where or must I order from this site? Where do I start? I've read a few replie...

Diva · Diva

Lately when he is drunk, all he talks about is wanting to go home to England. How he hates the United States; everyone is corrupt...the police, thegovernment, the health care system...everything. He may be close to the mark there..LOL Well, this afternoon while I was out shopping, he packed a bag...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

like i said i never really know what is good for us or is not necessarily helpful. in a sense, i knew that because it was not CAL, it might not go through. i guess i should know all this after attending alanon meetings for over 20 years. thanks for letting me know, i will be more choosy what i post from now on!...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), I came across this quote while I was cleaning out some files yesterday. Tell me what you think: "Change has considerable psychological impact to the human mind. To the fearful, change is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, change is encou...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well MIP family I made it to another Monday afternoon, tired as can be but here with a smile on. Made my mind up last week that I will start each work day with an attitude of gratitude....it is sooooooooooo HARD sometimes, even harder still to be in it and not of it. It takes consceince work at it. After my...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I've been reading all the posts of the newcomers lately and my heart aches. I have felt the pain, confusion, lack of hope, destruction of dreams, and loss of self-esteem that living with addiction causes. I remember when I first came into this program two and a half years ago. I would listen, read s...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

http://spiderangel.www.50megs.com/alanonsayings.html

Bluelady · Bluelady

We just got back from having a intervention for my daughter. She will be going into treatment tomorrow. This time it will be in house. It is far worse than I knew. I know this is all for the best but I still hurt so bad for her. Thank you for the support

dawna81 · dawna81

i thought tonights meeting went great, but of course at the end my husband is angry at me for trying to change him, and blah blah blah. im still going to go every week, i think i just need to be with people who want to be sober too. he got angry because on his birthday he wants to get mess up, its on a saturday and...

dawna81 · dawna81

ive only been a member here for like..24 hrs, and this is my third post. im an avid blogger, so maybe it just comes naturally. today sucked. i wanted to join the chat today, but i cant open that page because my browser hates it. i went through trouble shooting, i upgaded all my java, browser and whatever el...

tea2 · tea2

October 4, 2009, MIP Al-Anon Group Meeting Minutes Meeting was opened with The Serenity Prayer by the chair at 9 PM (EST.) Motion was held, accepted and passed unanimously by all present for September 13ths Meeting Minutes as presented on the message board.Chair noted there are many openings in the...

Reconstructing · Reconstructing

What do you do if your SO is on a dry drunk?

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I remember when EXABF and I were dating, I went to his house one day and on his pc screen he had this posty taped and it read "Let her be her!". When I asked what it meant he told me it was a reminder to himself to just let me be who I am and not try to change me. At the time, I was completely ticked off b...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

I keep reading and reading, recognising, recognising, understand what role alcohol has played in my life with my STBEXAH and how it affected both his actions and mine. I am slowing moving away from the terrible hurt this has all caused me, whilst he wafted into the sunset, set up home with a new woman wi...

dori711 · dori711

I've been giving a lot of thought to a lot of things lately and in the process was asking myself why I'm so angry? Although I'm still not totally sure, I think it's because when he's not drinking I see the worst of him, he's miserable, he's disrespectful, has a bad temper and cuts me off when I try to say so...

dori711 · dori711

Both my husband and my son are heavy drinkers and I'm not coping very well. I think my husband is an alcoholic and my son is following close in his footsteps. They can't seem to help themselves inspite of all the urgings I've given them...I know I was in the wrong, it's useless to try and change them, ...

crazylady · crazylady

HI-- I have been coming to online meetings for few years now--Have gotten much useful information from all you great people-- Now I feel like marriage is hanging in the balance--has dissolved into being roommates--Im on the fence about what to do--So been taking time--praying (I never prayed so muc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just wanted to say Thanks for letting my latest post go through--I never know for sure when it is OK to post something. I have the book that the quotes come from it is the Book of Lists--there is a lot of good stuff in there that I would like to share with Y'all. There are more than one edition of the book. I g...

Bluelady · Bluelady

I will listen to I told you so's but please just not tonight. I found out tonight my daughter has been drinking all along, lying to me every step of the way. Her husband has kicked her out of the house and I can't get ahold of her. I don't know if she is safe. My heart is broken. Oh God, to me this is still my lit...

richard · richard

My son is living with me now. When he first came out here from out West and jail he was about 24 years of age going on about 13 years of age. It has been very tough these last six years. He has grown much. At 30 years of age, he going on about 26 years of age or maybe 27. Along with the torture during childhoo...

maresie · maresie

As all of you know I live around alcoholics. One of them, K lies about everything all the time. I don't believe it is just the drinking and using, chaos, its every single thing she lies about. What I see now is the insanity. When the ex A lied about every little thing I spent years trying to work out what...

dawna81 · dawna81

this is my first thread on this site, and i decided to join this site for all the reasons you did, i suppose. last month i married a brilliant man. he is funny, smart, tender and caring. he is also an alcoholic. a year ago, i battled my own addiction of perscription drugs. i didnt join NA but i did go to a group...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I want serenity. I need serenity. I look at people in my meetings who seem to have serenity - some have 3 years while others have 30 years. How long will it take and what do I need to do to get it? What's that old saying?. . . . .God, please grant me patience, NOW!

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Very low today. Aside from massive sinus headaches... Yesterday I met with someone in my industry who I wanted to affiliate with. The person has a big media reputation, etc. (typing carefully to maintain anonymity here). Anyway, the meeting went well, but, I *knew* before I ever set foot in the place...

dawna81 · dawna81

i know i made a post last night, my first, but this is a pure ranting one. i just need to get this out before i explode! i got a bill in the mail today from the hospital, it was for the abulance that i had to call for my husband. we thought he was having a heart attack, he couldnt move because the pain in his chest w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope this is OK to post: For despair He gives hope. For fear, He gives courage. For anxiety, He gives peace. For rejection, He gives acceptance. For loneliness, He gives love. For frustration, He gives encouragement. For failure, He gives forgiveness. For bondage, He gives freedom. For dishonest...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok... well First I want to say that THANK YOU to all of you for leaving me ESH.. I have went back SEVERAL times all week and used all your words as inspiration to get me thru this Very Tring Week... Since I last wrote 4 days ago... Alot has went on... Not only did the gentleman I mentioned in my last post pass aw...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

As I said a while back my ex AH was coming back to town this week. He found a place on Craigslist to share with someone and was all set to rent it. It would have left him completely broke (which I know is not my problem)... The guy renting the place appeared to have a serious drinking problem and the place w...

dragonfly13 · dragonfly13

Wow - where to start. Trying to learn to live with the love I still have for AH. Been to a few f2f meetings but am still old/new and hanging on to the hope "he will get it" - but know he will (or won't) when he is ready. And, through it all, I keep floundering between taking care of myself and worryin...

sheila45 · sheila45

Just read a few posts and realized this IS the place of mom's of addicts. My son has been an addict for the past 10 years. He is 27 years now. I read the post about giving it over to my HP. That's what I've done over the years--harder said than done. I give him over to my HP, then I take all my worry, guilt, f...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband has been away at a treatment facility for 2 weeks and he has 2 weeks left to go. I have anxiety and panic attacks, so I take Xanax (as needed) to keep my anxiety under control. Since he's been gone, I've been taking it every day. I just seem to have so much anxiety these days and I can't stand it. ...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well I found out today that jobs may likely be cut where I work and that has everyone walking around on eggshells, stressing and upset (me included). I am sooo upset that I can't even think straight right now. I've been there 12 yrs and work my tail off. I'm a single mom and have fought with everything I h...

sheila45 · sheila45

Is al-anon for people like me---mom of an addict? If not, can someone direct me to the proper place?

lmz723 · lmz723

Hi everybody. This is my first post here. I am not sure what I am doing or what I should be doing, all I know is I just need to vent and get things off of my chest. I have never known any alcoholics before. No one in my entire family really drinks. When I was 18 I met my now husband, and he was great. A few years olde...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... I know I haven't been of much help to anyone here of late... Including myself, tho I have read some post, I just haven't had the heart to give my 2cents for I am still questioning it on a daily basis at this point... As most that know me, know... I am comin up on ALOT of 1st in these next couple "Ve...

akristab · akristab

I finally, after years of being lied to, deceived, mentally and emotionally abused, separated from my alcoholic drug-addict husband. He has not seen or called me or our four-year-old son in over three months. He was recently arrested and subsequently fired for stealing from his Loss Prevention...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just got back from a redo. You all know what a redo is...you did it once and then had to redo it again because the first time... I felt a little edgy because I had already billed for the first trip. What I thought was perfect was just a progression. I got home from the redo and I got an email that the invoic...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I have to forgive myself, as I am also a work in progress. I make mistakes, get very confused too. My life has been full of alone time. Not out of choice. Emotionally, in ways I am very immature. When I really loved, gave it my all, they died. I feel stunted in a way. Don't understand others emotions someti...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((((((Friends))))))))))), Well just came back from dr's, now they think she may have bruised her heart she goes for more extensive testing. He said her heart is beating way too fast and he hears some strange sounds. I know they say God doesn't give you more than you can handle however, I think I...

Overcome · Overcome

Self-love is not a dirty word. Loving yourself is not selfish. It is even said that we must "love our neighbor, AS OURSELF" if we can't love ourself then we can't love our neighbor. I have given this topic much thought lately as I had a talk with my pastor and we discussed self-esteem and self...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

After yesterday's insanity at the office, I went home, grabbed my Yummers and he and I headed up to the trail for a hike. I ALWAYS can find peace there, as I feel MUCH closer to my HP when I am outside in His world, looking first hand at what He can do. He and I chatted, (me always more than Him-lol) and I aske...

zahndi · zahndi

I just joined about 15 min. ago. I replied to another post but do want to intro myself here and say I have been in recovery since 1986. I haven't been active in 12 step groups for 9 years due to being mentally unstable and participating in facilitated groups through our local county mental health service...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

"There is almost no work in life as hard as waiting. And yet my Higher Power wants me to wait. All motion is easier than calm waiting, and yet I must wait. So many people have marred their work and hindered the growth of their spiritual lives by too much activity. If I wait patiently, preparing mysel...

Susie Q · Susie Q

Divorcing the alcoholic...when it's over is it ever really over? I have been divorced several months now and the alcoholic is still trying to get back with me. I have been very ambivalent about the whole deal and I know I need to set better boundaries. I still am in love with him, but the drinking hasn't s...

mon123 · mon123

I haven't been to MIP for quite a while I thought I'd just say Hi and decide to visit more often. When I first came here my husband was still drinking. This site took me through that trauma and saw me to my first 'real' Alanon meeting. I began working my program in 2004. MIP also saw me through my seperation a...

Dini · Dini

Hello! I have been married for 21 years. The early years of our marriage were very shakey - with him getting very drunk on a regular basis, losing his license, spending the night in jail. It was hard and always my fault. Don't remember how it happened, but that is when I first discovered Al-Anon. It was my...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family...Walking up Sunday just outside of the reach of the flames and bringing it here one of our membership suggested from her own recovery experiences that I take a 10step look at it. That is usually my practice however the suggestion keyed a deeper 10th step than usual and one of the things t...

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	I don't know what I'm doing? (Preview) Hello to everyone. I am in a fairly new relationship with an alcoholic. He told me two weeks ago that he has been in recovery for 5 years. Things between us are starting to take on a serious tune and I don't know anything about alcoholism. He says it's his issue not mine, but is that possible, to not sha...	hrhyne	5	647	Oct 27, 2009 by maresie
	Ok Gang... The subject deepens... (Preview) He telephoned. From London. Anyone remember the movie, "Lost Weekend?" He has no memory (or so he says) of any of it. Found himself in a strange hotel, smelling like dog manure, having not bathed or shaved or changed clothes in three days. Did not know where he was. Found his way to the...	Diva	10	1091	Oct 27, 2009 by Jen
	Love'n My Program... (Preview) Welp :) I hit (2) F2F This Weekend, and boy did I need them both... I can tell from were I am the More the Marrier till I survive these up coming Holidays... Our Friday Nite was Bigger then I have ever seen in almost a year, so that had me excited, and my Sunday one which is usually Super Small.. (3-4) even had...	Jozie	3	488	Oct 27, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Maybe it's my fault. (Preview) Maybe I shouldn't even be here. Maybe it's my fault that at present we are having relationship problems. I was giving it a great deal of thought and yes, dear H does have a drinking problem, maybe worse since he seems to be choosing alcohol over me, but what I find worse than the drinking is his disrespe...	dori711	8	846	Oct 27, 2009 by dori711
	unconscious attachment. (Preview) I pride myself on the fact I don't think very often about the ex A anymore. At one time he was part of every single though and I never thought that would be possible. Unconsciously I think now it is otherwise. I had wondered why I automatically cooked large quantities and now I understand I am still cooki...	maresie	3	771	Oct 27, 2009 by maresie
	Hi - just like you to know that Al-Anon is alive and well in South Africa (Preview) Good day: I am Lawrie, a grateful member of the Weltevreden Park Al-Anon Family Group. Weltevreden is a residential suburb about 20-km outside of Johannesburg on the West Rand. We meet Tuesday nights from 19:30 at the local Methodist Church. Our numbers vary. This week we were down to six people but n...	Weltie	17	1032	Oct 27, 2009 by Weltie
	We Left (Preview) Well - things didn't go how I would have liked them to, but the divorce petition has been filed, AH has been notified informally and my son and I have temporarily left the house. I'm sad to say that I had to have the police show up to have AH peacefully allow me to take my child out of the house. It didn't h...	blender_girl	10	669	Oct 27, 2009 by carolinagirl
	I've got that sick feeling in my stomach about going home after work. (Preview) Hi! This is my first post and I'm going to my first meeting tonight. I'm sure it's long overdue. I have that sick feeling in my stomach about going home tonight after work. It's a feeling I get when I know that my AFiance drank last night and I'm not sure what it's going to be like tonight. Normally, I w...	Ragdolls	6	713	Oct 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	Happy and very sad (Preview) Today I finally had the courage to do what so many of my friends have been urging me to do - I went to the bank and re-arranged my finances. I have been married to my A for nearly 38 years. We have always had a joint bank account and A has taken care of the finances. I was happy to let him beacuse he worked in a bank...	Tattyhead	3	674	Oct 27, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Acknowledging my needs & asking for space (Preview) When my A relapsed I was faced with how I had allowed my disease to again become out of control. I saw how deeply enmeshed I was with him and how I did not even have my own identity. This was devestating, but also an awakening for me. It allowed me to see that I am at a point in my life where I need to really 'Man up...	RunnerChick	3	493	Oct 27, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Hi, can anyone help me? (Preview) Hi, I'm new here. And I'm wondering if anyone is willing to offer some hope or support? I'm 20 years old, and I live with my boyfriend - We've been together for about a year. We have a great relationship, get along famously, seem to be perfect for each other - but he's a heroin addict. He has relapsed and tri...	Sangyaa	5	647	Oct 26, 2009 by Sangyaa
	I am new-introducing myself... (Preview) I am new to all of this....I would like to share my story as to why I am here.... I am 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Yep, we started dating when I was 18 (he was 21). We have a 2 year old daughter together. My boyfriend has a problem with alcohol...I don't know if he is definitely an alc...	hopeful923	5	463	Oct 26, 2009 by hopeful923
	Rage (Preview) As many of you know I raged and raged and raged at the alcoholic. I would leave 30 messages on his phone regularly. I also spent a lot of time trying to read and work out what the different numbers on his cell phone meant. I felt incredibly jealous of the people who I felt got the "best" part of...	maresie	4	600	Oct 26, 2009 by maresie
	How do I start helping myself? (Preview) I checked out the Al-Anon meeting place in our area and it's far from my place, so I most likely won't be able to attend? I took a quick look at the title of books for family members of Alcoholics. Are these books available any where or must I order from this site? Where do I start? I've read a few replie...	dori711	7	537	Oct 26, 2009 by maresie
	He is gone. (Preview) Lately when he is drunk, all he talks about is wanting to go home to England. How he hates the United States; everyone is corrupt...the police, thegovernment, the health care system...everything. He may be close to the mark there..LOL Well, this afternoon while I was out shopping, he packed a bag...	Diva	17	586	Oct 26, 2009 by Jennifer
	TLCATE--THANKS FOR CLEARING IT UP FOR ME! (Preview) like i said i never really know what is good for us or is not necessarily helpful. in a sense, i knew that because it was not CAL, it might not go through. i guess i should know all this after attending alanon meetings for over 20 years. thanks for letting me know, i will be more choosy what i post from now on!...	Hoot Nanny	0	450	Oct 26, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Something to think on.... (Preview) ((((Family))), I came across this quote while I was cleaning out some files yesterday. Tell me what you think: "Change has considerable psychological impact to the human mind. To the fearful, change is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, change is encou...	Karilynn	3	394	Oct 26, 2009 by Jen
	Rose Colored Glasses.... (Preview) Well MIP family I made it to another Monday afternoon, tired as can be but here with a smile on. Made my mind up last week that I will start each work day with an attitude of gratitude....it is sooooooooooo HARD sometimes, even harder still to be in it and not of it. It takes consceince work at it. After my...	shellyj123	2	2589	Oct 26, 2009 by hotrod
	Humility, Al-Anon Promises and What Faith Can Do.... (Preview) I've been reading all the posts of the newcomers lately and my heart aches. I have felt the pain, confusion, lack of hope, destruction of dreams, and loss of self-esteem that living with addiction causes. I remember when I first came into this program two and a half years ago. I would listen, read s...	Loupiness	3	2055	Oct 26, 2009 by hotrod
	Great website! (Preview) http://spiderangel.www.50megs.com/alanonsayings.html	Melissa21	1	455	Oct 26, 2009 by Overcome
	Update on daughter (Preview) We just got back from having a intervention for my daughter. She will be going into treatment tomorrow. This time it will be in house. It is far worse than I knew. I know this is all for the best but I still hurt so bad for her. Thank you for the support	Bluelady	7	521	Oct 26, 2009 by Karilynn
	first meeting (Preview) i thought tonights meeting went great, but of course at the end my husband is angry at me for trying to change him, and blah blah blah. im still going to go every week, i think i just need to be with people who want to be sober too. he got angry because on his birthday he wants to get mess up, its on a saturday and...	dawna81	5	472	Oct 25, 2009 by Jen
	here i am, once again (Preview) ive only been a member here for like..24 hrs, and this is my third post. im an avid blogger, so maybe it just comes naturally. today sucked. i wanted to join the chat today, but i cant open that page because my browser hates it. i went through trouble shooting, i upgaded all my java, browser and whatever el...	dawna81	4	442	Oct 25, 2009 by Jen
	October Meeting Minutes (Preview) October 4, 2009, MIP Al-Anon Group Meeting Minutes Meeting was opened with The Serenity Prayer by the chair at 9 PM (EST.) Motion was held, accepted and passed unanimously by all present for September 13ths Meeting Minutes as presented on the message board.Chair noted there are many openings in the...	tea2	0	420	Oct 25, 2009 by tea2
	Dealing with a dry drunk (Preview) What do you do if your SO is on a dry drunk?	Reconstructing	6	3432	Oct 25, 2009 by Mattie
	Trying hard to let him be him~Reflections (Preview) I remember when EXABF and I were dating, I went to his house one day and on his pc screen he had this posty taped and it read "Let her be her!". When I asked what it meant he told me it was a reminder to himself to just let me be who I am and not try to change me. At the time, I was completely ticked off b...	shellyj123	5	582	Oct 25, 2009 by Christy
	Terrible Dreams (Preview) I keep reading and reading, recognising, recognising, understand what role alcohol has played in my life with my STBEXAH and how it affected both his actions and mine. I am slowing moving away from the terrible hurt this has all caused me, whilst he wafted into the sunset, set up home with a new woman wi...	Lilly Burn	5	414	Oct 25, 2009 by Karilynn
	Husband is miserable when he's not drinking. (Preview) I've been giving a lot of thought to a lot of things lately and in the process was asking myself why I'm so angry? Although I'm still not totally sure, I think it's because when he's not drinking I see the worst of him, he's miserable, he's disrespectful, has a bad temper and cuts me off when I try to say so...	dori711	8	1093	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	I'm new and need help. (Preview) Both my husband and my son are heavy drinkers and I'm not coping very well. I think my husband is an alcoholic and my son is following close in his footsteps. They can't seem to help themselves inspite of all the urgings I've given them...I know I was in the wrong, it's useless to try and change them, ...	dori711	11	566	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	work in progress...marriage with A (Preview) HI-- I have been coming to online meetings for few years now--Have gotten much useful information from all you great people-- Now I feel like marriage is hanging in the balance--has dissolved into being roommates--Im on the fence about what to do--So been taking time--praying (I never prayed so muc...	crazylady	3	585	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	JUST WANTED TO SAY THANKS! (Preview) Just wanted to say Thanks for letting my latest post go through--I never know for sure when it is OK to post something. I have the book that the quotes come from it is the Book of Lists--there is a lot of good stuff in there that I would like to share with Y'all. There are more than one edition of the book. I g...	Hoot Nanny	1	477	Oct 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	Just not tonight (Preview) I will listen to I told you so's but please just not tonight. I found out tonight my daughter has been drinking all along, lying to me every step of the way. Her husband has kicked her out of the house and I can't get ahold of her. I don't know if she is safe. My heart is broken. Oh God, to me this is still my lit...	Bluelady	6	537	Oct 24, 2009 by Tattyhead
	My 30 years of age son... (Preview) My son is living with me now. When he first came out here from out West and jail he was about 24 years of age going on about 13 years of age. It has been very tough these last six years. He has grown much. At 30 years of age, he going on about 26 years of age or maybe 27. Along with the torture during childhoo...	richard	4	743	Oct 24, 2009 by richard
	people pleasing. (Preview) As all of you know I live around alcoholics. One of them, K lies about everything all the time. I don't believe it is just the drinking and using, chaos, its every single thing she lies about. What I see now is the insanity. When the ex A lied about every little thing I spent years trying to work out what...	maresie	2	534	Oct 24, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	last night was the worst. (Preview) this is my first thread on this site, and i decided to join this site for all the reasons you did, i suppose. last month i married a brilliant man. he is funny, smart, tender and caring. he is also an alcoholic. a year ago, i battled my own addiction of perscription drugs. i didnt join NA but i did go to a group...	dawna81	11	550	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	How long does it take???? (Preview) I want serenity. I need serenity. I look at people in my meetings who seem to have serenity - some have 3 years while others have 30 years. How long will it take and what do I need to do to get it? What's that old saying?. . . . .God, please grant me patience, NOW!	N8SMOM	9	592	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
	wrong place? (Preview) Very low today. Aside from massive sinus headaches... Yesterday I met with someone in my industry who I wanted to affiliate with. The person has a big media reputation, etc. (typing carefully to maintain anonymity here). Anyway, the meeting went well, but, I knew before I ever set foot in the place...	alanonicScotland	5	504	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	grrr its the little things that grinds my gears. (Preview) i know i made a post last night, my first, but this is a pure ranting one. i just need to get this out before i explode! i got a bill in the mail today from the hospital, it was for the abulance that i had to call for my husband. we thought he was having a heart attack, he couldnt move because the pain in his chest w...	dawna81	3	514	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	WHAT GOD GIVES (Preview) I hope this is OK to post: For despair He gives hope. For fear, He gives courage. For anxiety, He gives peace. For rejection, He gives acceptance. For loneliness, He gives love. For frustration, He gives encouragement. For failure, He gives forgiveness. For bondage, He gives freedom. For dishonest...	Hoot Nanny	3	562	Oct 23, 2009 by Jozie
	I Reachin Up....Crawin Out... Esh Loved :) (Preview) Ok... well First I want to say that THANK YOU to all of you for leaving me ESH.. I have went back SEVERAL times all week and used all your words as inspiration to get me thru this Very Tring Week... Since I last wrote 4 days ago... Alot has went on... Not only did the gentleman I mentioned in my last post pass aw...	Jozie	3	596	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
	This may be shocking to those who know me... (Preview) As I said a while back my ex AH was coming back to town this week. He found a place on Craigslist to share with someone and was all set to rent it. It would have left him completely broke (which I know is not my problem)... The guy renting the place appeared to have a serious drinking problem and the place w...	carolinagirl	15	703	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
	Another Newbie (Preview) Wow - where to start. Trying to learn to live with the love I still have for AH. Been to a few f2f meetings but am still old/new and hanging on to the hope "he will get it" - but know he will (or won't) when he is ready. And, through it all, I keep floundering between taking care of myself and worryin...	dragonfly13	6	481	Oct 23, 2009 by dragonfly13
	Tired of being sad (Preview) Just read a few posts and realized this IS the place of mom's of addicts. My son has been an addict for the past 10 years. He is 27 years now. I read the post about giving it over to my HP. That's what I've done over the years--harder said than done. I give him over to my HP, then I take all my worry, guilt, f...	sheila45	5	526	Oct 23, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	Rough Day - Need some E.S.H. (Preview) My husband has been away at a treatment facility for 2 weeks and he has 2 weeks left to go. I have anxiety and panic attacks, so I take Xanax (as needed) to keep my anxiety under control. Since he's been gone, I've been taking it every day. I just seem to have so much anxiety these days and I can't stand it. ...	N8SMOM	4	667	Oct 23, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	HELP!!!! Need some ESH to just Let Go and Let God on this one!!!!... (Preview) Well I found out today that jobs may likely be cut where I work and that has everyone walking around on eggshells, stressing and upset (me included). I am sooo upset that I can't even think straight right now. I've been there 12 yrs and work my tail off. I'm a single mom and have fought with everything I h...	shellyj123	6	513	Oct 23, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	New and lost (Preview) Is al-anon for people like me---mom of an addict? If not, can someone direct me to the proper place?	sheila45	6	452	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	young bride coping with new husband's problem (Preview) Hi everybody. This is my first post here. I am not sure what I am doing or what I should be doing, all I know is I just need to vent and get things off of my chest. I have never known any alcoholics before. No one in my entire family really drinks. When I was 18 I met my now husband, and he was great. A few years olde...	lmz723	8	727	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	Deflated, Defeated, and About DONE!!!! ESH Please..... (Preview) Welp... I know I haven't been of much help to anyone here of late... Including myself, tho I have read some post, I just haven't had the heart to give my 2cents for I am still questioning it on a daily basis at this point... As most that know me, know... I am comin up on ALOT of 1st in these next couple "Ve...	Jozie	6	544	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	Do they ever change? (Preview) I finally, after years of being lied to, deceived, mentally and emotionally abused, separated from my alcoholic drug-addict husband. He has not seen or called me or our four-year-old son in over three months. He was recently arrested and subsequently fired for stealing from his Loss Prevention...	akristab	7	531	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	Perfections gone...all gone!! (Preview) Just got back from a redo. You all know what a redo is...you did it once and then had to redo it again because the first time... I felt a little edgy because I had already billed for the first trip. What I thought was perfect was just a progression. I got home from the redo and I got an email that the invoic...	Jerry F	4	495	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	A work in progress (Preview) I have to forgive myself, as I am also a work in progress. I make mistakes, get very confused too. My life has been full of alone time. Not out of choice. Emotionally, in ways I am very immature. When I really loved, gave it my all, they died. I feel stunted in a way. Don't understand others emotions someti...	Debilyn	3	555	Oct 22, 2009 by drucilla06
	Bad News today for my Daughter at the Doctor (Preview) (((((((((((Friends))))))))))), Well just came back from dr's, now they think she may have bruised her heart she goes for more extensive testing. He said her heart is beating way too fast and he hears some strange sounds. I know they say God doesn't give you more than you can handle however, I think I...	Andrea12	15	620	Oct 22, 2009 by maresie
	Self-love (Preview) Self-love is not a dirty word. Loving yourself is not selfish. It is even said that we must "love our neighbor, AS OURSELF" if we can't love ourself then we can't love our neighbor. I have given this topic much thought lately as I had a talk with my pastor and we discussed self-esteem and self...	Overcome	3	812	Oct 22, 2009 by maresie
	Putting things into perspective today-I can't-He can-I think I'll let Him (Preview) After yesterday's insanity at the office, I went home, grabbed my Yummers and he and I headed up to the trail for a hike. I ALWAYS can find peace there, as I feel MUCH closer to my HP when I am outside in His world, looking first hand at what He can do. He and I chatted, (me always more than Him-lol) and I aske...	shellyj123	3	586	Oct 22, 2009 by Jerry F
	returning to 12 step program (Preview) I just joined about 15 min. ago. I replied to another post but do want to intro myself here and say I have been in recovery since 1986. I haven't been active in 12 step groups for 9 years due to being mentally unstable and participating in facilitated groups through our local county mental health service...	zahndi	2	486	Oct 22, 2009 by Tattyhead
	This spoke to me today (Preview) "There is almost no work in life as hard as waiting. And yet my Higher Power wants me to wait. All motion is easier than calm waiting, and yet I must wait. So many people have marred their work and hindered the growth of their spiritual lives by too much activity. If I wait patiently, preparing mysel...	carolinagirl	5	524	Oct 22, 2009 by richard
	Letting Go... (Preview) Divorcing the alcoholic...when it's over is it ever really over? I have been divorced several months now and the alcoholic is still trying to get back with me. I have been very ambivalent about the whole deal and I know I need to set better boundaries. I still am in love with him, but the drinking hasn't s...	Susie Q	2	718	Oct 21, 2009 by jj
	Just saying HI (Preview) I haven't been to MIP for quite a while I thought I'd just say Hi and decide to visit more often. When I first came here my husband was still drinking. This site took me through that trauma and saw me to my first 'real' Alanon meeting. I began working my program in 2004. MIP also saw me through my seperation a...	mon123	2	393	Oct 21, 2009 by mon123
	Introducing Myself (Preview) Hello! I have been married for 21 years. The early years of our marriage were very shakey - with him getting very drunk on a regular basis, losing his license, spending the night in jail. It was hard and always my fault. Don't remember how it happened, but that is when I first discovered Al-Anon. It was my...	Dini	7	527	Oct 21, 2009 by Jerry F
	Cleaning House (Preview) Aloha Family...Walking up Sunday just outside of the reach of the flames and bringing it here one of our membership suggested from her own recovery experiences that I take a 10step look at it. That is usually my practice however the suggestion keyed a deeper 10th step than usual and one of the things t...	Jerry F	3	497	Oct 21, 2009 by glad lee
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