Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Rhonda B · Rhonda B

Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Id like to first thank all of you yesterday that took the time to read and/or respond to my post. Yesterday was one of the most difficult days I have had in some time. After reading the many responses and thinking on things, I do believe that it is a combination of things that triggered me yesterday....

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((((Hello Friends))))))))), Well she got her stiches out hope it looks worse than it's gonna be....she had a brain scan, MRI, Friday we go back to trama clinic in Pittsburgh....she has discovered some new problems today....she can't go to the bathroom is having a hard time peeing.....it has bee...

maresie · maresie

I was in the doctors office yesterday in a small waiting room with a dysfunctional family. The tension was incredible, there was a "crisis" every other second and none of them had any boundaries. They were oblivious to the fact their conduct bothered anyone they felt it was their stage to...

Diva · Diva

Alcoholic partner who fled to London last Friday afternoon is holed up in a hotel in Manchester, England. I have spoken to him twice. He has been drinking - now it is Wednesday, but has had nothing to eat, has not come out of the room, has not bathed or shaved, and feels and sounds awful. He is nearly 70....

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello Everyone! Just wanted to share and hopefully encourage others ---------- Many times in life (especially life w/an A) there have been times when I felt like I was drowning. I have realized that GOD has never let me go under the water. Even though I thought I may have been downing, I never was. Ea...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well those of you who have followed my story for the last year know where I am-I'm trying really hard today to trust that I am right where I am MEANT to be but I just can't seem to do it and keep my focus. I have been struggling BADLY for the past two weeks with issues with wanting to contact the EXABF. This mor...

Rita G · Rita G

So I too have joined the Facebook Craze - anyone wanting to "friend" me send me a PM and I'll get you my email address so that you can send me a friend request!!! Wishing you day that is Happy, Joyous and FREE!! HUGS, Rita

blender_girl · blender_girl

All I can say about the past couple of days is "Wow" and "Thank You". I've had no more ugly confrontations with AH - he's been quite cooperative and is essentially out of the house now. I've had a couple of friends who know about the situation reach out to me and offer me assistance...

Baffled · Baffled

October Agenda Review of October minutes Review of op meeting schedule Old Business Op duties Idle times New Business Op Liason Committee Please pm me if you have any additional items Baffled (Courage) -- Edited by Baffled on Wednesday 28th of October 2009 10:11:13 PM

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Just left the ER where my eldest son was xrayed and cat scans run after having totaled his car against a bridge. Dr. told him, you were very lucky you survived and aren't paralyzed or dead. He went on to say, if you keep this up you will be dead. You will die. Just for today, I still have my son. I pray this w...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The Ex AH is still on the couch and he has been a help around the house. It has created some conflict with the kids to have him back around and in a position to tell them what to do. They don't like having another adult to answer to, especially considering he's there and I'm gone so much. The pretty much ha...

cdngirl · cdngirl

I am having trouble knowing whether I am doing the right thing when it comes to my reactions to my AH's drinking/lying/spending/etc. Before alanon, I used to always need to confront him on whatever he did that was wrong, so that he didn't feel like he was getting away with it, and so that he knew I didn't...

Karilynn · Karilynn

For those of you who want I have finally signed up for a Facebook account. PM me and I'll give you my name. Have a great day all! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

Gailey · Gailey

Dear Son, I am writing this email to get some things off my chest. It is for my benefit, not yours. Not sure I will even press the send button. I really think that I am coming to the end of being able to live with your addiction anymore. Drinking or sober, I find it very hard to be in your company. I am becomi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Good morning dear family. As you can see I have finally managed to change my picture from the bunny to THE PIPERS KITTY! Yes, here she is in all her glory. The world truly revolves around her (at least she thinks it does!). I told you cats were like addicts and dog codependents! I am on...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I really suffer from this. I am hoping others wouldn't mind sharing how they cope with the stomach twisting, heart-pounding, mind consuming obsession and anxiety that one gets in situations that they really have no control over. I identify my fear of abandonment and rejection here, but this is a ver...

msmootsie · msmootsie

My son is 41 diagnosed obsessive compulsive and an alcoholic. He lost his job about a year ago and has been on partial unemployment and working part time. This past weekend I spent hours trying to get him help. He has no insurance so I took him to a firne who is a doctor who told him he needed pyschairis...

ajay147 · ajay147

She thinks I don't notice. I can tell as soon as i walked in. It's in her eyes. Her speech is different. Oh, and did I mention that she is now 8 months pregnant. Baby due in 5 weeks. And to think there was a time, not so long ago, that I questioned wether she had a drinking problem or not... Today has been a bad da...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

I am going to try to write.. and get all of my feelings out without stopping. Things here have become bad every day. There is not a night that my h doesn't start an argument over something. Even coming home at 3 p.m, he drinks so fast he is stewed by 5. By stewed, I don't mean falling down or very visibly drun...

hrhyne · hrhyne

Hello to everyone. I am in a fairly new relationship with an alcoholic. He told me two weeks ago that he has been in recovery for 5 years. Things between us are starting to take on a serious tune and I don't know anything about alcoholism. He says it's his issue not mine, but is that possible, to not sha...

Diva · Diva

He telephoned. From London. Anyone remember the movie, "Lost Weekend?" He has no memory (or so he says) of any of it. Found himself in a strange hotel, smelling like dog manure, having not bathed or shaved or changed clothes in three days. Did not know where he was. Found his way to the...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp :) I hit (2) F2F This Weekend, and boy did I need them both... I can tell from were I am the More the Marrier till I survive these up coming Holidays... Our Friday Nite was Bigger then I have ever seen in almost a year, so that had me excited, and my Sunday one which is usually Super Small.. (3-4) even had...

dori711 · dori711

Maybe I shouldn't even be here. Maybe it's my fault that at present we are having relationship problems. I was giving it a great deal of thought and yes, dear H does have a drinking problem, maybe worse since he seems to be choosing alcohol over me, but what I find worse than the drinking is his disrespe...

maresie · maresie

I pride myself on the fact I don't think very often about the ex A anymore. At one time he was part of every single though and I never thought that would be possible. Unconsciously I think now it is otherwise. I had wondered why I automatically cooked large quantities and now I understand I am still cooki...

Weltie · Weltie

Good day: I am Lawrie, a grateful member of the Weltevreden Park Al-Anon Family Group. Weltevreden is a residential suburb about 20-km outside of Johannesburg on the West Rand. We meet Tuesday nights from 19:30 at the local Methodist Church. Our numbers vary. This week we were down to six people but n...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Well - things didn't go how I would have liked them to, but the divorce petition has been filed, AH has been notified informally and my son and I have temporarily left the house. I'm sad to say that I had to have the police show up to have AH peacefully allow me to take my child out of the house. It didn't h...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

Hi! This is my first post and I'm going to my first meeting tonight. I'm sure it's long overdue. I have that sick feeling in my stomach about going home tonight after work. It's a feeling I get when I know that my AFiance drank last night and I'm not sure what it's going to be like tonight. Normally, I w...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Today I finally had the courage to do what so many of my friends have been urging me to do - I went to the bank and re-arranged my finances. I have been married to my A for nearly 38 years. We have always had a joint bank account and A has taken care of the finances. I was happy to let him beacuse he worked in a bank...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

When my A relapsed I was faced with how I had allowed my disease to again become out of control. I saw how deeply enmeshed I was with him and how I did not even have my own identity. This was devestating, but also an awakening for me. It allowed me to see that I am at a point in my life where I need to really 'Man up...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi, I'm new here. And I'm wondering if anyone is willing to offer some hope or support? I'm 20 years old, and I live with my boyfriend - We've been together for about a year. We have a great relationship, get along famously, seem to be perfect for each other - but he's a heroin addict. He has relapsed and tri...

hopeful923 · hopeful923

I am new to all of this....I would like to share my story as to why I am here.... I am 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Yep, we started dating when I was 18 (he was 21). We have a 2 year old daughter together. My boyfriend has a problem with alcohol...I don't know if he is definitely an alc...

maresie · maresie

As many of you know I raged and raged and raged at the alcoholic. I would leave 30 messages on his phone regularly. I also spent a lot of time trying to read and work out what the different numbers on his cell phone meant. I felt incredibly jealous of the people who I felt got the "best" part of...

dori711 · dori711

I checked out the Al-Anon meeting place in our area and it's far from my place, so I most likely won't be able to attend? I took a quick look at the title of books for family members of Alcoholics. Are these books available any where or must I order from this site? Where do I start? I've read a few replie...

Diva · Diva

Lately when he is drunk, all he talks about is wanting to go home to England. How he hates the United States; everyone is corrupt...the police, thegovernment, the health care system...everything. He may be close to the mark there..LOL Well, this afternoon while I was out shopping, he packed a bag...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

like i said i never really know what is good for us or is not necessarily helpful. in a sense, i knew that because it was not CAL, it might not go through. i guess i should know all this after attending alanon meetings for over 20 years. thanks for letting me know, i will be more choosy what i post from now on!...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), I came across this quote while I was cleaning out some files yesterday. Tell me what you think: "Change has considerable psychological impact to the human mind. To the fearful, change is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, change is encou...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Well MIP family I made it to another Monday afternoon, tired as can be but here with a smile on. Made my mind up last week that I will start each work day with an attitude of gratitude....it is sooooooooooo HARD sometimes, even harder still to be in it and not of it. It takes consceince work at it. After my...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I've been reading all the posts of the newcomers lately and my heart aches. I have felt the pain, confusion, lack of hope, destruction of dreams, and loss of self-esteem that living with addiction causes. I remember when I first came into this program two and a half years ago. I would listen, read s...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

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Bluelady · Bluelady

We just got back from having a intervention for my daughter. She will be going into treatment tomorrow. This time it will be in house. It is far worse than I knew. I know this is all for the best but I still hurt so bad for her. Thank you for the support

dawna81 · dawna81

i thought tonights meeting went great, but of course at the end my husband is angry at me for trying to change him, and blah blah blah. im still going to go every week, i think i just need to be with people who want to be sober too. he got angry because on his birthday he wants to get mess up, its on a saturday and...

dawna81 · dawna81

ive only been a member here for like..24 hrs, and this is my third post. im an avid blogger, so maybe it just comes naturally. today sucked. i wanted to join the chat today, but i cant open that page because my browser hates it. i went through trouble shooting, i upgaded all my java, browser and whatever el...

tea2 · tea2

October 4, 2009, MIP Al-Anon Group Meeting Minutes Meeting was opened with The Serenity Prayer by the chair at 9 PM (EST.) Motion was held, accepted and passed unanimously by all present for September 13ths Meeting Minutes as presented on the message board.Chair noted there are many openings in the...

Reconstructing · Reconstructing

What do you do if your SO is on a dry drunk?

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I remember when EXABF and I were dating, I went to his house one day and on his pc screen he had this posty taped and it read "Let her be her!". When I asked what it meant he told me it was a reminder to himself to just let me be who I am and not try to change me. At the time, I was completely ticked off b...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

I keep reading and reading, recognising, recognising, understand what role alcohol has played in my life with my STBEXAH and how it affected both his actions and mine. I am slowing moving away from the terrible hurt this has all caused me, whilst he wafted into the sunset, set up home with a new woman wi...

dori711 · dori711

I've been giving a lot of thought to a lot of things lately and in the process was asking myself why I'm so angry? Although I'm still not totally sure, I think it's because when he's not drinking I see the worst of him, he's miserable, he's disrespectful, has a bad temper and cuts me off when I try to say so...

dori711 · dori711

Both my husband and my son are heavy drinkers and I'm not coping very well. I think my husband is an alcoholic and my son is following close in his footsteps. They can't seem to help themselves inspite of all the urgings I've given them...I know I was in the wrong, it's useless to try and change them, ...

crazylady · crazylady

HI-- I have been coming to online meetings for few years now--Have gotten much useful information from all you great people-- Now I feel like marriage is hanging in the balance--has dissolved into being roommates--Im on the fence about what to do--So been taking time--praying (I never prayed so muc...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just wanted to say Thanks for letting my latest post go through--I never know for sure when it is OK to post something. I have the book that the quotes come from it is the Book of Lists--there is a lot of good stuff in there that I would like to share with Y'all. There are more than one edition of the book. I g...

Bluelady · Bluelady

I will listen to I told you so's but please just not tonight. I found out tonight my daughter has been drinking all along, lying to me every step of the way. Her husband has kicked her out of the house and I can't get ahold of her. I don't know if she is safe. My heart is broken. Oh God, to me this is still my lit...

richard · richard

My son is living with me now. When he first came out here from out West and jail he was about 24 years of age going on about 13 years of age. It has been very tough these last six years. He has grown much. At 30 years of age, he going on about 26 years of age or maybe 27. Along with the torture during childhoo...

maresie · maresie

As all of you know I live around alcoholics. One of them, K lies about everything all the time. I don't believe it is just the drinking and using, chaos, its every single thing she lies about. What I see now is the insanity. When the ex A lied about every little thing I spent years trying to work out what...

dawna81 · dawna81

this is my first thread on this site, and i decided to join this site for all the reasons you did, i suppose. last month i married a brilliant man. he is funny, smart, tender and caring. he is also an alcoholic. a year ago, i battled my own addiction of perscription drugs. i didnt join NA but i did go to a group...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I want serenity. I need serenity. I look at people in my meetings who seem to have serenity - some have 3 years while others have 30 years. How long will it take and what do I need to do to get it? What's that old saying?. . . . .God, please grant me patience, NOW!

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Very low today. Aside from massive sinus headaches... Yesterday I met with someone in my industry who I wanted to affiliate with. The person has a big media reputation, etc. (typing carefully to maintain anonymity here). Anyway, the meeting went well, but, I *knew* before I ever set foot in the place...

dawna81 · dawna81

i know i made a post last night, my first, but this is a pure ranting one. i just need to get this out before i explode! i got a bill in the mail today from the hospital, it was for the abulance that i had to call for my husband. we thought he was having a heart attack, he couldnt move because the pain in his chest w...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I hope this is OK to post: For despair He gives hope. For fear, He gives courage. For anxiety, He gives peace. For rejection, He gives acceptance. For loneliness, He gives love. For frustration, He gives encouragement. For failure, He gives forgiveness. For bondage, He gives freedom. For dishonest...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok... well First I want to say that THANK YOU to all of you for leaving me ESH.. I have went back SEVERAL times all week and used all your words as inspiration to get me thru this Very Tring Week... Since I last wrote 4 days ago... Alot has went on... Not only did the gentleman I mentioned in my last post pass aw...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	How Do I Stop Being Manipulated??? Anger repeat bad choices (Preview) Here I am, 46 and still going thru all of this. I have been in counseling for 20 years, done ACA, and it seems like I am making WORSE choices than before. The last two were by far the worst. A physically abusive meth user, and then just a complete control freak whom I suspect has a sex addiction. He cheat...	Rhonda B	6	4771	Oct 29, 2009 by Missy 1
	Reflections and looking back.... (Preview) Id like to first thank all of you yesterday that took the time to read and/or respond to my post. Yesterday was one of the most difficult days I have had in some time. After reading the many responses and thinking on things, I do believe that it is a combination of things that triggered me yesterday....	shellyj123	1	569	Oct 29, 2009 by Jozie
	Update since Daughter's Accident (Preview) (((((((Hello Friends))))))))), Well she got her stiches out hope it looks worse than it's gonna be....she had a brain scan, MRI, Friday we go back to trama clinic in Pittsburgh....she has discovered some new problems today....she can't go to the bathroom is having a hard time peeing.....it has bee...	Andrea12	5	816	Oct 29, 2009 by Debilyn
	new beginnings (Preview) I was in the doctors office yesterday in a small waiting room with a dysfunctional family. The tension was incredible, there was a "crisis" every other second and none of them had any boundaries. They were oblivious to the fact their conduct bothered anyone they felt it was their stage to...	maresie	3	527	Oct 29, 2009 by emma
	I need your opinions. (Preview) Alcoholic partner who fled to London last Friday afternoon is holed up in a hotel in Manchester, England. I have spoken to him twice. He has been drinking - now it is Wednesday, but has had nothing to eat, has not come out of the room, has not bathed or shaved, and feels and sounds awful. He is nearly 70....	Diva	13	713	Oct 29, 2009 by Karilynn
	God is Good ALL THE TIME!! (Preview) Hello Everyone! Just wanted to share and hopefully encourage others ---------- Many times in life (especially life w/an A) there have been times when I felt like I was drowning. I have realized that GOD has never let me go under the water. Even though I thought I may have been downing, I never was. Ea...	Sincerely	2	533	Oct 29, 2009 by ljc
	Desperately In need of some ESH, a real struggle today. Need some help... (Preview) Well those of you who have followed my story for the last year know where I am-I'm trying really hard today to trust that I am right where I am MEANT to be but I just can't seem to do it and keep my focus. I have been struggling BADLY for the past two weeks with issues with wanting to contact the EXABF. This mor...	shellyj123	7	634	Oct 29, 2009 by maresie
	Facebook (Me too Karilynn) (Preview) So I too have joined the Facebook Craze - anyone wanting to "friend" me send me a PM and I'll get you my email address so that you can send me a friend request!!! Wishing you day that is Happy, Joyous and FREE!! HUGS, Rita	Rita G	0	369	Oct 29, 2009 by Rita G
	HP is watching over me (Preview) All I can say about the past couple of days is "Wow" and "Thank You". I've had no more ugly confrontations with AH - he's been quite cooperative and is essentially out of the house now. I've had a couple of friends who know about the situation reach out to me and offer me assistance...	blender_girl	2	554	Oct 29, 2009 by shellyj123
	November Business Meeting Agenda, November 1, 2009 9 p.m. Eastern (Preview) October Agenda Review of October minutes Review of op meeting schedule Old Business Op duties Idle times New Business Op Liason Committee Please pm me if you have any additional items Baffled (Courage) -- Edited by Baffled on Wednesday 28th of October 2009 10:11:13 PM	Baffled	0	572	Oct 28, 2009 by Baffled
	Son is alive today... (Preview) Just left the ER where my eldest son was xrayed and cat scans run after having totaled his car against a bridge. Dr. told him, you were very lucky you survived and aren't paralyzed or dead. He went on to say, if you keep this up you will be dead. You will die. Just for today, I still have my son. I pray this w...	Peggy7	17	825	Oct 28, 2009 by blender_girl
	Update (long) (Preview) The Ex AH is still on the couch and he has been a help around the house. It has created some conflict with the kids to have him back around and in a position to tell them what to do. They don't like having another adult to answer to, especially considering he's there and I'm gone so much. The pretty much ha...	carolinagirl	3	524	Oct 28, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Reactions (Preview) I am having trouble knowing whether I am doing the right thing when it comes to my reactions to my AH's drinking/lying/spending/etc. Before alanon, I used to always need to confront him on whatever he did that was wrong, so that he didn't feel like he was getting away with it, and so that he knew I didn't...	cdngirl	10	595	Oct 28, 2009 by cdngirl
	Facebook (Preview) For those of you who want I have finally signed up for a Facebook account. PM me and I'll give you my name. Have a great day all! Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	0	510	Oct 28, 2009 by Karilynn
	a letter to my A (Preview) Dear Son, I am writing this email to get some things off my chest. It is for my benefit, not yours. Not sure I will even press the send button. I really think that I am coming to the end of being able to live with your addiction anymore. Drinking or sober, I find it very hard to be in your company. I am becomi...	Gailey	9	785	Oct 28, 2009 by Overcome
	The Pipers Kitty (Preview) ((((Family)))), Good morning dear family. As you can see I have finally managed to change my picture from the bunny to THE PIPERS KITTY! Yes, here she is in all her glory. The world truly revolves around her (at least she thinks it does!). I told you cats were like addicts and dog codependents! I am on...	Karilynn	9	845	Oct 28, 2009 by Beth 123
	Obsession of the Mind - using program tools to cope (Preview) I really suffer from this. I am hoping others wouldn't mind sharing how they cope with the stomach twisting, heart-pounding, mind consuming obsession and anxiety that one gets in situations that they really have no control over. I identify my fear of abandonment and rejection here, but this is a ver...	RunnerChick	5	1221	Oct 28, 2009 by Aloha
	First time posting and in desperate help (Preview) My son is 41 diagnosed obsessive compulsive and an alcoholic. He lost his job about a year ago and has been on partial unemployment and working part time. This past weekend I spent hours trying to get him help. He has no insurance so I took him to a firne who is a doctor who told him he needed pyschairis...	msmootsie	9	730	Oct 28, 2009 by msmootsie
	drinking in secret (Preview) She thinks I don't notice. I can tell as soon as i walked in. It's in her eyes. Her speech is different. Oh, and did I mention that she is now 8 months pregnant. Baby due in 5 weeks. And to think there was a time, not so long ago, that I questioned wether she had a drinking problem or not... Today has been a bad da...	ajay147	2	585	Oct 28, 2009 by Jerry F
	first time posting (Preview) I am going to try to write.. and get all of my feelings out without stopping. Things here have become bad every day. There is not a night that my h doesn't start an argument over something. Even coming home at 3 p.m, he drinks so fast he is stewed by 5. By stewed, I don't mean falling down or very visibly drun...	angelbreeze127	8	614	Oct 27, 2009 by Jen
	I don't know what I'm doing? (Preview) Hello to everyone. I am in a fairly new relationship with an alcoholic. He told me two weeks ago that he has been in recovery for 5 years. Things between us are starting to take on a serious tune and I don't know anything about alcoholism. He says it's his issue not mine, but is that possible, to not sha...	hrhyne	5	697	Oct 27, 2009 by maresie
	Ok Gang... The subject deepens... (Preview) He telephoned. From London. Anyone remember the movie, "Lost Weekend?" He has no memory (or so he says) of any of it. Found himself in a strange hotel, smelling like dog manure, having not bathed or shaved or changed clothes in three days. Did not know where he was. Found his way to the...	Diva	10	1136	Oct 27, 2009 by Jen
	Love'n My Program... (Preview) Welp :) I hit (2) F2F This Weekend, and boy did I need them both... I can tell from were I am the More the Marrier till I survive these up coming Holidays... Our Friday Nite was Bigger then I have ever seen in almost a year, so that had me excited, and my Sunday one which is usually Super Small.. (3-4) even had...	Jozie	3	532	Oct 27, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Maybe it's my fault. (Preview) Maybe I shouldn't even be here. Maybe it's my fault that at present we are having relationship problems. I was giving it a great deal of thought and yes, dear H does have a drinking problem, maybe worse since he seems to be choosing alcohol over me, but what I find worse than the drinking is his disrespe...	dori711	8	890	Oct 27, 2009 by dori711
	unconscious attachment. (Preview) I pride myself on the fact I don't think very often about the ex A anymore. At one time he was part of every single though and I never thought that would be possible. Unconsciously I think now it is otherwise. I had wondered why I automatically cooked large quantities and now I understand I am still cooki...	maresie	3	820	Oct 27, 2009 by maresie
	Hi - just like you to know that Al-Anon is alive and well in South Africa (Preview) Good day: I am Lawrie, a grateful member of the Weltevreden Park Al-Anon Family Group. Weltevreden is a residential suburb about 20-km outside of Johannesburg on the West Rand. We meet Tuesday nights from 19:30 at the local Methodist Church. Our numbers vary. This week we were down to six people but n...	Weltie	17	1078	Oct 27, 2009 by Weltie
	We Left (Preview) Well - things didn't go how I would have liked them to, but the divorce petition has been filed, AH has been notified informally and my son and I have temporarily left the house. I'm sad to say that I had to have the police show up to have AH peacefully allow me to take my child out of the house. It didn't h...	blender_girl	10	713	Oct 27, 2009 by carolinagirl
	I've got that sick feeling in my stomach about going home after work. (Preview) Hi! This is my first post and I'm going to my first meeting tonight. I'm sure it's long overdue. I have that sick feeling in my stomach about going home tonight after work. It's a feeling I get when I know that my AFiance drank last night and I'm not sure what it's going to be like tonight. Normally, I w...	Ragdolls	6	758	Oct 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	Happy and very sad (Preview) Today I finally had the courage to do what so many of my friends have been urging me to do - I went to the bank and re-arranged my finances. I have been married to my A for nearly 38 years. We have always had a joint bank account and A has taken care of the finances. I was happy to let him beacuse he worked in a bank...	Tattyhead	3	722	Oct 27, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Acknowledging my needs & asking for space (Preview) When my A relapsed I was faced with how I had allowed my disease to again become out of control. I saw how deeply enmeshed I was with him and how I did not even have my own identity. This was devestating, but also an awakening for me. It allowed me to see that I am at a point in my life where I need to really 'Man up...	RunnerChick	3	535	Oct 27, 2009 by RunnerChick
	Hi, can anyone help me? (Preview) Hi, I'm new here. And I'm wondering if anyone is willing to offer some hope or support? I'm 20 years old, and I live with my boyfriend - We've been together for about a year. We have a great relationship, get along famously, seem to be perfect for each other - but he's a heroin addict. He has relapsed and tri...	Sangyaa	5	697	Oct 26, 2009 by Sangyaa
	I am new-introducing myself... (Preview) I am new to all of this....I would like to share my story as to why I am here.... I am 24 years old and have been with my boyfriend for 6 years. Yep, we started dating when I was 18 (he was 21). We have a 2 year old daughter together. My boyfriend has a problem with alcohol...I don't know if he is definitely an alc...	hopeful923	5	507	Oct 26, 2009 by hopeful923
	Rage (Preview) As many of you know I raged and raged and raged at the alcoholic. I would leave 30 messages on his phone regularly. I also spent a lot of time trying to read and work out what the different numbers on his cell phone meant. I felt incredibly jealous of the people who I felt got the "best" part of...	maresie	4	652	Oct 26, 2009 by maresie
	How do I start helping myself? (Preview) I checked out the Al-Anon meeting place in our area and it's far from my place, so I most likely won't be able to attend? I took a quick look at the title of books for family members of Alcoholics. Are these books available any where or must I order from this site? Where do I start? I've read a few replie...	dori711	7	580	Oct 26, 2009 by maresie
	He is gone. (Preview) Lately when he is drunk, all he talks about is wanting to go home to England. How he hates the United States; everyone is corrupt...the police, thegovernment, the health care system...everything. He may be close to the mark there..LOL Well, this afternoon while I was out shopping, he packed a bag...	Diva	17	636	Oct 26, 2009 by Jennifer
	TLCATE--THANKS FOR CLEARING IT UP FOR ME! (Preview) like i said i never really know what is good for us or is not necessarily helpful. in a sense, i knew that because it was not CAL, it might not go through. i guess i should know all this after attending alanon meetings for over 20 years. thanks for letting me know, i will be more choosy what i post from now on!...	Hoot Nanny	0	493	Oct 26, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Something to think on.... (Preview) ((((Family))), I came across this quote while I was cleaning out some files yesterday. Tell me what you think: "Change has considerable psychological impact to the human mind. To the fearful, change is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful, change is encou...	Karilynn	3	435	Oct 26, 2009 by Jen
	Rose Colored Glasses.... (Preview) Well MIP family I made it to another Monday afternoon, tired as can be but here with a smile on. Made my mind up last week that I will start each work day with an attitude of gratitude....it is sooooooooooo HARD sometimes, even harder still to be in it and not of it. It takes consceince work at it. After my...	shellyj123	2	2632	Oct 26, 2009 by hotrod
	Humility, Al-Anon Promises and What Faith Can Do.... (Preview) I've been reading all the posts of the newcomers lately and my heart aches. I have felt the pain, confusion, lack of hope, destruction of dreams, and loss of self-esteem that living with addiction causes. I remember when I first came into this program two and a half years ago. I would listen, read s...	Loupiness	3	2104	Oct 26, 2009 by hotrod
	Great website! (Preview) http://spiderangel.www.50megs.com/alanonsayings.html	Melissa21	1	505	Oct 26, 2009 by Overcome
	Update on daughter (Preview) We just got back from having a intervention for my daughter. She will be going into treatment tomorrow. This time it will be in house. It is far worse than I knew. I know this is all for the best but I still hurt so bad for her. Thank you for the support	Bluelady	7	565	Oct 26, 2009 by Karilynn
	first meeting (Preview) i thought tonights meeting went great, but of course at the end my husband is angry at me for trying to change him, and blah blah blah. im still going to go every week, i think i just need to be with people who want to be sober too. he got angry because on his birthday he wants to get mess up, its on a saturday and...	dawna81	5	517	Oct 25, 2009 by Jen
	here i am, once again (Preview) ive only been a member here for like..24 hrs, and this is my third post. im an avid blogger, so maybe it just comes naturally. today sucked. i wanted to join the chat today, but i cant open that page because my browser hates it. i went through trouble shooting, i upgaded all my java, browser and whatever el...	dawna81	4	483	Oct 25, 2009 by Jen
	October Meeting Minutes (Preview) October 4, 2009, MIP Al-Anon Group Meeting Minutes Meeting was opened with The Serenity Prayer by the chair at 9 PM (EST.) Motion was held, accepted and passed unanimously by all present for September 13ths Meeting Minutes as presented on the message board.Chair noted there are many openings in the...	tea2	0	464	Oct 25, 2009 by tea2
	Dealing with a dry drunk (Preview) What do you do if your SO is on a dry drunk?	Reconstructing	6	3641	Oct 25, 2009 by Mattie
	Trying hard to let him be him~Reflections (Preview) I remember when EXABF and I were dating, I went to his house one day and on his pc screen he had this posty taped and it read "Let her be her!". When I asked what it meant he told me it was a reminder to himself to just let me be who I am and not try to change me. At the time, I was completely ticked off b...	shellyj123	5	624	Oct 25, 2009 by Christy
	Terrible Dreams (Preview) I keep reading and reading, recognising, recognising, understand what role alcohol has played in my life with my STBEXAH and how it affected both his actions and mine. I am slowing moving away from the terrible hurt this has all caused me, whilst he wafted into the sunset, set up home with a new woman wi...	Lilly Burn	5	464	Oct 25, 2009 by Karilynn
	Husband is miserable when he's not drinking. (Preview) I've been giving a lot of thought to a lot of things lately and in the process was asking myself why I'm so angry? Although I'm still not totally sure, I think it's because when he's not drinking I see the worst of him, he's miserable, he's disrespectful, has a bad temper and cuts me off when I try to say so...	dori711	8	1140	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	I'm new and need help. (Preview) Both my husband and my son are heavy drinkers and I'm not coping very well. I think my husband is an alcoholic and my son is following close in his footsteps. They can't seem to help themselves inspite of all the urgings I've given them...I know I was in the wrong, it's useless to try and change them, ...	dori711	11	611	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	work in progress...marriage with A (Preview) HI-- I have been coming to online meetings for few years now--Have gotten much useful information from all you great people-- Now I feel like marriage is hanging in the balance--has dissolved into being roommates--Im on the fence about what to do--So been taking time--praying (I never prayed so muc...	crazylady	3	631	Oct 25, 2009 by Reconstructing
	JUST WANTED TO SAY THANKS! (Preview) Just wanted to say Thanks for letting my latest post go through--I never know for sure when it is OK to post something. I have the book that the quotes come from it is the Book of Lists--there is a lot of good stuff in there that I would like to share with Y'all. There are more than one edition of the book. I g...	Hoot Nanny	1	521	Oct 24, 2009 by Jerry F
	Just not tonight (Preview) I will listen to I told you so's but please just not tonight. I found out tonight my daughter has been drinking all along, lying to me every step of the way. Her husband has kicked her out of the house and I can't get ahold of her. I don't know if she is safe. My heart is broken. Oh God, to me this is still my lit...	Bluelady	6	581	Oct 24, 2009 by Tattyhead
	My 30 years of age son... (Preview) My son is living with me now. When he first came out here from out West and jail he was about 24 years of age going on about 13 years of age. It has been very tough these last six years. He has grown much. At 30 years of age, he going on about 26 years of age or maybe 27. Along with the torture during childhoo...	richard	4	786	Oct 24, 2009 by richard
	people pleasing. (Preview) As all of you know I live around alcoholics. One of them, K lies about everything all the time. I don't believe it is just the drinking and using, chaos, its every single thing she lies about. What I see now is the insanity. When the ex A lied about every little thing I spent years trying to work out what...	maresie	2	578	Oct 24, 2009 by alanonicScotland
	last night was the worst. (Preview) this is my first thread on this site, and i decided to join this site for all the reasons you did, i suppose. last month i married a brilliant man. he is funny, smart, tender and caring. he is also an alcoholic. a year ago, i battled my own addiction of perscription drugs. i didnt join NA but i did go to a group...	dawna81	11	596	Oct 23, 2009 by dawna81
	How long does it take???? (Preview) I want serenity. I need serenity. I look at people in my meetings who seem to have serenity - some have 3 years while others have 30 years. How long will it take and what do I need to do to get it? What's that old saying?. . . . .God, please grant me patience, NOW!	N8SMOM	9	636	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
	wrong place? (Preview) Very low today. Aside from massive sinus headaches... Yesterday I met with someone in my industry who I wanted to affiliate with. The person has a big media reputation, etc. (typing carefully to maintain anonymity here). Anyway, the meeting went well, but, I knew before I ever set foot in the place...	alanonicScotland	5	550	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	grrr its the little things that grinds my gears. (Preview) i know i made a post last night, my first, but this is a pure ranting one. i just need to get this out before i explode! i got a bill in the mail today from the hospital, it was for the abulance that i had to call for my husband. we thought he was having a heart attack, he couldnt move because the pain in his chest w...	dawna81	3	558	Oct 23, 2009 by Jerry F
	WHAT GOD GIVES (Preview) I hope this is OK to post: For despair He gives hope. For fear, He gives courage. For anxiety, He gives peace. For rejection, He gives acceptance. For loneliness, He gives love. For frustration, He gives encouragement. For failure, He gives forgiveness. For bondage, He gives freedom. For dishonest...	Hoot Nanny	3	607	Oct 23, 2009 by Jozie
	I Reachin Up....Crawin Out... Esh Loved :) (Preview) Ok... well First I want to say that THANK YOU to all of you for leaving me ESH.. I have went back SEVERAL times all week and used all your words as inspiration to get me thru this Very Tring Week... Since I last wrote 4 days ago... Alot has went on... Not only did the gentleman I mentioned in my last post pass aw...	Jozie	3	643	Oct 23, 2009 by maresie
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