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I have been hormonal for a week my thinking goes very negative. What do I do, I should have rang my sponsor but I never, I went with the negativity. It ended by me sending my Sober AB packing. He doesnot drink, he has a job and pays some bills today. I was upset about him pulling waite in the house stated to get resenful. Then all the old resentments came flooding back he should be grateful i am still with him after everything he has done, so on . I didnt use al non to fight it I went with it. Lucky for me I never miss my meetings. What was the topic last night RESENTMENT. After the meeting I rang and apologised. Still hormonal, still feel we need to talk about the chores but not making a mountain out of a molehill. I need to work programme even more at that time of the month
thanks for listening hugs tracy
-- Edited by Tracy on Tuesday 20th of October 2009 09:47:52 AM
I am sure u have heard this before this is a simple program for complicated people . Trust an al anon to complicate things how long did we pray for sobriety ? and when we get it we want more . I was exactly the same and had to learn that sometimes all an A can do is not drink . I resented the fact that my husb did all the xmas shopping the first yr he was sober , that was my job . Many times I complained about the fact that he never did anything like that before . My sponsor reminded me by asking What do u want from this guy , u complained that he never helped now that he is your complaining about that . You have one of the best tools of this program already in place Sponsor . use her talk out these resentments , accept responsiblity for your part in them and enjoy whats offered . One of t he best pieces of advice I ever got was
Dont miss the good days . I missed alot of them in early sobriety dwelling on the past which also proved to me that saying Sober him up and I don't look so good , he's doin okay I'm not . Sponsor told me that anyone looks good next to a drunk. damn I hated it when she reminded me of that today I know she is right . I hid behind my husb alcoholism for yrs , poorme had set in by the time I got here. Accept whats offered and just for today let it be enough . Louise
(((((Tracy))))) LOL I use to add to the resentment when I realized I could have done it better and chose not to. Al-Anon took care of that one also. Such a useful share. Thanks (((((hugs)))))
how long did we pray for sobriety ? and when we get it we want more . I was exactly the same and had to learn that sometimes all an A can do is not drink . I resented the fact that my husb did all the xmas shopping the first yr he was sober , that was my job . Many times I complained about the fact that he never did anything like that before . My sponsor reminded me by asking What do u want from this guy , u complained that he never helped now that he is your complaining about that .