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Let me ask you……
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Wow, I am busy today huh LOLBeing most of you are way more experienced than I am. I am still at the point where I turn down invites to dinners, party or just a small outing with our friends because he isnt attending meetings and Mr Dry is in and out, I dont want him around the drinking. He is Pretty good with t...
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Dad got a weekend pass
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Hey Everyone, I am facing a decision. My dad is in his second stint in rehab and they gave him a weekend pass to go home this weekend. He has asked that I pick him up. It's a 45 minute drive without traffic. He simply left a voice mail so he'll call back. I don't want to do it, and then sit in a car with him for anot...
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slogan_jim
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This too shall pass
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Yesterday I was feeling so good, maybe a little too smug about my progress too. Today HP told me I need some humility. In the last 24 hours, Ah and I both have both been dealt major car repairs (expensive), major home repairs, (expensive), and major medical bills (very expensive). Yesterday our financ...
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ParisMemories
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the birthday card
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Well for the 900th time I found myself looking at greeting cards, trying to find one that fit the bill. Hallmark needs to come out with a line of cards for the alcoholic. You can find the ones that go on about how wonderful, loving, sweet, caring,kind, thoughtful, the person is. And how having them in y...
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islandtime
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a question
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I have got to find a way to stop snapping into old habits. All I have to go is hear the AH icing up his beer cooler ( at exactly 4:00 every day, you could set a clock by it LOL! ) It has to be the perfect temp. and at his finger tips. The care with which he layers the ice and beer, is actually amusing. Anyway, I let i...
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islandtime
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experience with legal issues
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I know Alanon is not about telling people what to do. We are all diff. and our experiences are all unique, etc. My wife has battled alcohol addiction for many years. She has been to out patient, in-patient, IOP and will stay sober for a while but in time always returns to old habits and quits working whate...
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Just to share..........
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When we were in Therapy I stated this, sometimes it is better to talk there LOL Our Therapist pulled me aside after and said "Well done" good wording. I mean every word and he knows it. And I don't have a desire to stay if he chooses not to go back to meetings and work his part like he used to. I lef...
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Iwantthingsback
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Sharing literature
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I read a great article today posted on another forum about ptsd and codependant behaviour etc. Is it acceptable to share stuff like that here or are we only supposed to talk about approved literature? Just want to clarify the rules 
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I am expecting a miracle
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I am expecting a miraculous recovery from all this pain I am suffering right now. One day at a time I do feel better. I have to see a doctor tomorrow to get some relief. Maybe just talking to him might make a difference. He can only do so much. I have to talk to him about three things. I hope he has the time. I wil...
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Hoot Nanny
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Another anniversary thanks Alanon!
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Well, I thought I would share my proud news with y'all. I have been a non smoker for 1 year this week. Thanks to alanon, I came to like then love then care enough about myself to stop.x
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el-cee
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Hi all.
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Well, hello everyone. I've received a number of messages asking if I am OK (I am), or if I am angry, offended or upset by responses to a post I wrote a few days ago. (I'm not). Basically after a couple of days of no food or sleep and miserable feelings, I wrote a post and immediately after, re-read it, decide...
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How Al-Anon Works????????
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Is the books name "How Al-Anon Works"? And what is the web address to review and buy Al-Anon reading and material? I don't know why I can't find anything on the site........ LOL
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Iwantthingsback
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Exhausted....
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I just came to work this morning and having a hard time, trying not to cry. I am exhausted. My AS is getting sicker physically, I can see a marked difference in his appearance and right now I am afraid for what will happen to him. I try to stay in the moment but right now I have a real fear in me. My other s...
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DreamsOver
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A dear friend of mine passed away
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One of my friends had been battling cancer for 7 years. She and her husband were faithful Christians, always willing to help others and pray and offer support. She was always a shoulder to me to lean on. We were the same age and our boys (only children) were the same age, as well. While reflecting on h...
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ilovedogs
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Dealing with guilt and that annoying "Wait and see" thing. Ugh.
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I have been seeing my therapist on a more regular basis since I've been struggling with the crap with my boyfriend that moved me back to Ohio. It's starting to threaten my own sobriety/recovery. I was this close to calling my neurologist and say "Sure! Go ahead and prescribe me vicodin for the pai...
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bijela
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Grateful
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My AH announced a week ago that he didn't want to go to his AA meeting because meetings make him feel bad. In the past I would have scolded and threatened, saying he had to go if he wanted to stay married. This time, I smiled and nodded, and said, well, you know what's best for you. And then I went to MY alanon m...
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ParisMemories
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New to the boards and needing to talk, or vent, probably both.
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I have typed this first sentence 4 times now..nothing seems to make sense when I put what I am thinking into words. My thoughts are a mess, my concentration is shot. My patience is nearly gone. I came here mostly for a safe place to let it out and hope to rescue my sanity. I'm not sure where to begin. My husba...
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Bobbi
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So completly mixed up................ feeling really mad at myself today!
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Hello all I need to vent and I have issues LOL. The ones who have seen my posts know I am living with a dry drunk. Believe it or not this part is not about him His Bday was Friday and when I got home he was in such a good mood (finally-it has been weeks). He was playful , hugging me, kissing me just acting like t...
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Iwantthingsback
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5-day STENT
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Going on day 5 of things have been great, Mr Dry drunk 'xxxx' is sleeping I am not sure what the heck is going on the last 5-days, and I have seen him go a couple months like this so it shouldn't surprise me. Must be things are going well for him at work (he has a very stressful job). We did just get a better nic...
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Iwantthingsback
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Toby Rice Drews
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Has several getting them sober books.............. they all look different/ Which one do --- should I get?
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Iwantthingsback
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email from my son
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Just realized I have 30 days sober today. Last drink was 9/13/2013 very early am. I don't count days or anything, just looked at the calendar and, epiphany LOL I had to look the word up........here's what I took from it lol Epiphanies are relatively rare occurrences and generally follow a proces...
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Cathyinaz
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SO in Hospital
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Good Morning all Sitting here in the hospital waiting to find out if my SO is going to be admitted or go home. A couple of weeks ago my SO hit his nose and it didn't look good. I thought he broke it but he said its just bruised. As I see now he was wrong because last night his face started swelling again and I...
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Cathyinaz
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pain & agony
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OK so I am typing & trying to get through the pain! My leg is killing me & I am very tired of the pain. My back has been injured so many times that I guess it is permanent. I turn my back the wrong way & I feel the shooting pain all the way down my leg. Now I am going to have to take it easy this weekend ev...
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Hoot Nanny
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Food for Thought
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Yesterday while watching a video clip, the fellow really hit home for me. I thought I'ld share some of what he said here.
How can my Higher Power remove my pain when I'm not removing myself from the situation?
How can my Higher Power heal my wounds when I'm not removing the person who's causing them?...
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Tracey C
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Makes a man forget himself!
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"Alcohol ruins one physically, morally, intellectually, and economically. Alcohol makes a man forget himself; and while its effects last, be becomes utterly incapable of doing anything useful. Those who take to drinking, ruin themselves and ruin their people. They lose all sense of dece...
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Bettina
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Denial no more
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I got a good night sleep after along days worth of tears and trying to understand this kaos and found out my A has forms of manic in his family and he can see all his behavior pattern now how he been to me but still never said he was sorry for drive ms crazy . That's not important to me that he didn't say sorry a...
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Ms co-dependent
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Need to vent badly...
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Okay. So firstly I am going to start attending some Al-Anon meetings. My mind is a mess right now and I need help. I've already reached out and scheduled an appt with my old therapist as well... And that's a good place to start... you see... about a year ago I met with my therapist and said I wanted my ex-...
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Johnny Alias
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how to let go of the guilt
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I live a couple hours from my parents and siblings. There is a lot of dysfunction and alcoholism and so I really try and keep my distance from them because it really stresses me out. I am in alanon so it does help me. But yesterday I drove there and got to see my new baby niece and spend time with her. Then I...
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hope4ever
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blah, blah, blahhhty blah!
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Life just keeps coming hard and fast, but I am doing the best I can to grow through it. I do not like when I feel so over stressed the natural ugliness of my thoughts and sometimes words. I have been short tempered and angry with the stress of kids, school and work, homework studying, life there just aren'...
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Breakingfree
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Letting go is hard to do
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Since my last two posts I have continued to do what I said I would do, and that is support my wife's decision to leave and find her identity However I never knew how difficult it would be, just after a couple weeks. Emotionally it is a rollercoaster and personally I am a punching bag for her. Everyday I...
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gofred123
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A small example of the tools - slogans, prayer and literature.x
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el-cee
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Trying to get on with life
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So, three weeks ago I asked my alcoholic partner of 8 years to move out of our family home. I am trying to get on with life as best as I can looking after our two little girls and working. The last few weeks have been a emotional roller coaster and for the last few days I am starting to doubt my decision?? Maybe...
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Medi
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Just stopping by to say hello and update
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I just wanted to stop by and say hello to all of you who have loved me, validated me, been patient w/me with the "daughter thing" and those of you who , even tho my posts were not really alanon, you all welcomed me anyway and would give me some love and support during the hard times....which are u...
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neshema2
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Just for Today
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That simple wee card that has those daily little guidelines are so simple and when I read it, think about it and make the effort to live it, my day goes so much more smoothly. I think it costs about 75p here, not sure in US currency but its buttons basically and it can be ordered from the official website.x
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el-cee
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What is the payoff?
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I am sick today. Physically. Something has been going around. I hate this feeling. Stuck in bed. Cant do anything. Cant eat, Cant exercise. Its a beautiful day out to.My dad went to rehab for the 2nd time on Thursday. I was out, so he left a voicemail saying bye. He was clearly slurring. Great to see hes ta...
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slogan_jim
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Called
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I get a call that I missed.....no message left. I looked up the number and it was from my son. I'm OK but I now start to think its all falling apart. I have no trust only fear. I don't know if it will ever get any better no matter what I do to take care of me. This fear he will not make it will destroy my life if...
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Cathyinaz
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Ouch
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Trust nope tell my side of really what's going on here and found out I should not talk anymore . Did not know Alaon played on the other side of the street to at the same time . So my shame my feelings were read by A person who is using my post to gain and take only sourse of help I'm getting thank you for helping me...
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Ms co-dependent
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After horrible arguing i am now ordering her sherry...?!!
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From one extreme to the other. I've said my alcoholic mum can come & stay with me in Cornwall for a 'week'. I only moved here 2 weeks ago, but the plan was always for her to come for a little holiday & she's on her way on the not so express coach (sherry in bag). I actually feel excited about seeing her...
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qwerty49
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Good place for this to be
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I hope this works not use to posting a link but this was given to me from my sister
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Ms co-dependent
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Hate nights like these
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I hate it when worry and fear creep up and make me feel sick, in more than just the physical way. My AH is traveling for work and has been out drinking, I was able to tell he had been drinking when I spoke to him at 4:30. A few hours later I texted him and we went back and forth and his texts were one word answers...
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ilovedogs
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Well I did promise a update hot rod
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Today's fight did it . I said this is not how I want to live my life under a dictator . Curfews when I can go to Alaon when I can self help myself . Well today my A said you have a poor attitude I applyed for a job and he said you are not working that shift. I said and why is this ? Because I said no . So I said it's finall...
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Ms co-dependent
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venting
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Every inch an SOB. While I'm still on exAH's "payroll" mandated by court, I thought it would be a good idea to apply for a home equity line in case if needed. I've been applying for steady work and am hopeful that the right thing will come along. I'm maxing out on money because of health care...
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bud
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Isolation/Space - how do I cope?
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I am beside myself...panic, anxiety and I really don't understand what's going on or what to do. My BF has asked for a break to work stuff out on his own and is talking to his Sponsor, and trying to see a counselor (of his own volition) and is ready to do the work. We had what I thought was a healthy relation...
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Grumble
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Accepting HP's will
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I find peace when I am able to put things into perspective. The path I have travelled and where it is I stand right now. Married at 18 and divorced by 21. I was impatient (I have recently acknowledged my impatience in a lot of things)and wanted a family. After I found out I was not able to get pregnant. I wan...
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Mari1978
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Books?????????????????
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I am going to the book store tomorrow (they were always kind of my get away place for some reason and I don't even like to read that much). Anyway, do they sell Al-Anon material at book stores. This one would be Barns and Noble. I figured while I am there I can start getting some if they don't cost to much. A...
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Iwantthingsback
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New here, Am I in the right place? Need to talk
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Hi, I just found this site last night and joined. I hope this site can help me. Here's my story...I had a very happy childhood, youngest of 3 older brothers. No one in my family ever yelled at each other or called us names. I was shocked and devastated when he first did that. What was going on? My Mother d...
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Furkidsmom
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My son reached out and I just listened..
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Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" &...
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Gaby
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Just when I thought life was getting simple and drama free!!
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Some of you might remember the video i posted about an ex girlfriend drinking for 6 days and going into a alcoholic comatose state after a length of sobriety. Well, anyways that was about a year ago, and she was in the hospital for 11 days, and in coma for 9 of them. Upon her discharge on day 11, she was phy...
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John
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Just when I'm doing good...
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My AH moved out a couple weeks ago saying he is severly depressed and has had very little contact with me. Following the program and attending f2f meetings. I feel like I'm doing pretty good for the most part. I've been going to my daughters soccer games where the AH shows up and stands right next to me and...
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mongowal
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The dentist and taking an inventory
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Yesterday, I was in a dentist's chair for about 2.5 hours undergoing a very difficult and to some degree very painful procedure. The problem was due to going to a dentist who told me my teeth and gums were in great shape and that I'd have my teeth the rest of my life. Three months after my last scheduled...
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grateful2be
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perspective
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" Happiness is produced by wanting what you have. Stress is caused by wanting what you don't have. " popsych
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Bettina
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Threats. What can they do?
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After the angry emails I sent to my brother, his GF and my parents last weekend I received no response until last night. They make me wait, you know...which only makes each email I send get meaner and meaner... my father said my brother's GF went to the police *rolls eyes* she lives in another state. Her m...
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WorkingThroughIt
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New to this and needing some guidance
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I am in a relatively new relationship with an alcoholic and I find myself at a loss for what to do. He's admitted to having a problem, was sober for two years and in the last six months has started drinking again. He regularly attends meetings throughout the week, seems positive about everything and in...
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CowtownGal
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Any one live in Georgia??
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I am considering making a move to Monroe, outside of Athens... just curious... no decision made yet, but it is a possibility. John
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John
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Need major help in not comparing my children to my friends.
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Most of my frineds and family's children, with a few exceptions, are healthy and successful. Both of my children were cursed with this disease, my daughter is currently very active, my son toned down some with age. I'm invited to go to vagus with 3 girlfriends, well 1 girlfriend and 2 of her girlfrie...
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Highlyfavored
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Emotional and Physical Connection
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Hello, I'm a very new Al Anon member (just a couple of meetings) and my wife is in recovery and has been sober for 6 months. Our relationship has deteriorated over the years and recently we had a discussion where she told me she's no longer emotionally or physically "attracted" to me anymore...
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Somerset25
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Somebody please take my A !!!
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Ok this is the deal I will make a promise to my family one because if I don't follow thru then I'm a failure . My simple goal is a routine a list of things I need to do when I wake up . List them
1 ) wake up smell the positive feelings
2 yes I realize I'm different and I like it I'm one of a kind sorry
3 ) I will not rep...
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Ms co-dependent
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A going through the motions
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So this is what I think-that my A is possibly going to meetings, perhaps not staying through the meeting, and/or not paying attention at all. Back in Aug. I saw a bit of positive change in her, but then her job was lost in re-designing her work place. It's been downhill since then with her. She does NOT w...
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Lyne
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A place to be myself...
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About Wilmington, John, and stuff about finding a place of sanctuary and healing. This film clip shows the place where I was given help and hope, in the 1970's. learned a lot of stuff there, mostly about myself- and about aroha, which means agape and Greek. I also learned to cook food in a hole in the gro...
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DavidG
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Have separated from my alcoholic partner, feeling miserable
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I am new to this website but have read a lot about Al-Anon in the past few weeks plus read up about the terrible disease of alcoholism and the effects it has on families and children. I have been with my alcoholic partner for the past 8 years and we have two beautiful little girls (1 and 4 years). I've been th...
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Medi
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