Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

islandtime · islandtime

Unfortunately about 80% of the folks at the f2f meetings that I go to, are there because they have kids on drugs. They are going through all kinds of hell and have awful stories to tell every week. They get on their soap boxes and that's it, no detail left out. They are not working the program, and just...

stilllearning · stilllearning

Hello all, I'm feeling so lost..so sad. I have lost who I am..I have been in the program for years.. but in the last 2years I really don't like who I have turned into. So much back sliding..lost of contact and belief in a higher power.. Hence to say two years ago I got into another relationship and worked re...

stilllearning · stilllearning

Hello I am a male living in a small town with no men in our face to face meetings. I have been in the program for many years but have really lost my way and went backwards. I'm not in a crisis(well feeling pretty down) but I have become so negative and lost my hope... I want and to really put forth the effort t...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

From the AA Big Book, "The Family Afterward" (a great read with ANSWERS, which we are always seeking!): "Our loyalty and the desire that our husbands hold up their heads and be like other men have begotten all sorts of predicaments. We have been unselfish and self-sacrificing. We h...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Well I must say today is a day I did some back track and read all my posts . I can't believe how much I wasted all my time talking about the DRINK . Why did I ? Why did I do what it wanted me to do. I don't drink I don't have a problem . The only problem I know I have is my sick co dependent ways and I take the blame for th...

joker · joker

Since I called the police on the ex alcoholic bf, that was extremely abusive toward me, I feel I have changed. I remember whenI first met him, 2 years ago, I was needy and felt I needed a man. Today, after a lot of therapy work, and reading here, I feel so different. I feel Free at last. I am happy in my own...

thistooshallpass · thistooshallpass

So a little over a month ago I found out that my husband (who was almost 20 months sober) was cheating on me with a girl from his AA group. I kicked him out. He immediately relapsed and has been following that path of destruction for the last 5 weeks. He is living with the girl and her mother who both are al...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

The 7 day stretch of good moods and normal ways didnt last and I didnt think it would but I am happy I got that at least. Those little stretches allows us to stay connected and stay in love. If he was Mr. Dry butt head every single day I couldnt deal with that and or would fall out of love, as I have come close...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I get flustered and anxious sometimes at the high drama and chaos at work. Then I have to remember "Why am I expecting peace, calm , and order in a rehab with 28 severely sick addicts and alcoholics?" It is a giant hardware store...it will never churn out bread. It was a stressful day guys.

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all, Been busy with meeting and living the al anon programme. Just wanted to shrae my news my 20 year old son and his 25 year old girlfriend ( child of an active A) of 18 months are expecting a baby. I have experienced a range of emotions from total excitement I would love to be a nannie to Fear, sadness an...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I was approached last night and asked to "lend" A money to cover insurances. I must be getting somewhat wiser and decided to call insurance company and separate my own car policy so that I don't have to be concerned about it being cancelled due to non payment. First, the amounts differed by $...

Jen61 · Jen61

My A has slipped a few times in 4 months and last night was a big one. Of course he was not drinking. What was I talking about. He kept following me around the house yelling, screaming, calling me horrible names and putting his finger in my face. He pushed my shoulder twice. I called the police and the...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

for taking the time to share and to encourage me. You all are special people.

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Wow, I am busy today huh LOLBeing most of you are way more experienced than I am. I am still at the point where I turn down invites to dinners, party or just a small outing with our friends because he isnt attending meetings and Mr Dry is in and out, I dont want him around the drinking. He is Pretty good with t...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hey Everyone, I am facing a decision. My dad is in his second stint in rehab and they gave him a weekend pass to go home this weekend. He has asked that I pick him up. It's a 45 minute drive without traffic. He simply left a voice mail so he'll call back. I don't want to do it, and then sit in a car with him for anot...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Yesterday I was feeling so good, maybe a little too smug about my progress too. Today HP told me I need some humility. In the last 24 hours, Ah and I both have both been dealt major car repairs (expensive), major home repairs, (expensive), and major medical bills (very expensive). Yesterday our financ...

islandtime · islandtime

Well for the 900th time I found myself looking at greeting cards, trying to find one that fit the bill. Hallmark needs to come out with a line of cards for the alcoholic. You can find the ones that go on about how wonderful, loving, sweet, caring,kind, thoughtful, the person is. And how having them in y...

islandtime · islandtime

I have got to find a way to stop snapping into old habits. All I have to go is hear the AH icing up his beer cooler ( at exactly 4:00 every day, you could set a clock by it LOL! ) It has to be the perfect temp. and at his finger tips. The care with which he layers the ice and beer, is actually amusing. Anyway, I let i...

ntxalanon · ntxalanon

I know Alanon is not about telling people what to do. We are all diff. and our experiences are all unique, etc. My wife has battled alcohol addiction for many years. She has been to out patient, in-patient, IOP and will stay sober for a while but in time always returns to old habits and quits working whate...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

When we were in Therapy I stated this, sometimes it is better to talk there LOL Our Therapist pulled me aside after and said "Well done" good wording. I mean every word and he knows it. And I don't have a desire to stay if he chooses not to go back to meetings and work his part like he used to. I lef...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I read a great article today posted on another forum about ptsd and codependant behaviour etc. Is it acceptable to share stuff like that here or are we only supposed to talk about approved literature? Just want to clarify the rules

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am expecting a miraculous recovery from all this pain I am suffering right now. One day at a time I do feel better. I have to see a doctor tomorrow to get some relief. Maybe just talking to him might make a difference. He can only do so much. I have to talk to him about three things. I hope he has the time. I wil...

el-cee · el-cee

Well, I thought I would share my proud news with y'all. I have been a non smoker for 1 year this week. Thanks to alanon, I came to like then love then care enough about myself to stop.x

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Well, hello everyone. I've received a number of messages asking if I am OK (I am), or if I am angry, offended or upset by responses to a post I wrote a few days ago. (I'm not). Basically after a couple of days of no food or sleep and miserable feelings, I wrote a post and immediately after, re-read it, decide...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Is the books name "How Al-Anon Works"? And what is the web address to review and buy Al-Anon reading and material? I don't know why I can't find anything on the site........ LOL

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I just came to work this morning and having a hard time, trying not to cry. I am exhausted. My AS is getting sicker physically, I can see a marked difference in his appearance and right now I am afraid for what will happen to him. I try to stay in the moment but right now I have a real fear in me. My other s...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

One of my friends had been battling cancer for 7 years. She and her husband were faithful Christians, always willing to help others and pray and offer support. She was always a shoulder to me to lean on. We were the same age and our boys (only children) were the same age, as well. While reflecting on h...

bijela · bijela

I have been seeing my therapist on a more regular basis since I've been struggling with the crap with my boyfriend that moved me back to Ohio. It's starting to threaten my own sobriety/recovery. I was this close to calling my neurologist and say "Sure! Go ahead and prescribe me vicodin for the pai...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

My AH announced a week ago that he didn't want to go to his AA meeting because meetings make him feel bad. In the past I would have scolded and threatened, saying he had to go if he wanted to stay married. This time, I smiled and nodded, and said, well, you know what's best for you. And then I went to MY alanon m...

Bobbi · Bobbi

I have typed this first sentence 4 times now..nothing seems to make sense when I put what I am thinking into words. My thoughts are a mess, my concentration is shot. My patience is nearly gone. I came here mostly for a safe place to let it out and hope to rescue my sanity. I'm not sure where to begin. My husba...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Hello all I need to vent and I have issues LOL. The ones who have seen my posts know I am living with a dry drunk. Believe it or not this part is not about him His Bday was Friday and when I got home he was in such a good mood (finally-it has been weeks). He was playful , hugging me, kissing me just acting like t...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Going on day 5 of things have been great, Mr Dry drunk 'xxxx' is sleeping I am not sure what the heck is going on the last 5-days, and I have seen him go a couple months like this so it shouldn't surprise me. Must be things are going well for him at work (he has a very stressful job). We did just get a better nic...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

Has several getting them sober books.............. they all look different/ Which one do --- should I get?

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Just realized I have 30 days sober today. Last drink was 9/13/2013 very early am. I don't count days or anything, just looked at the calendar and, epiphany LOL I had to look the word up........here's what I took from it lol Epiphanies are relatively rare occurrences and generally follow a proces...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning all Sitting here in the hospital waiting to find out if my SO is going to be admitted or go home. A couple of weeks ago my SO hit his nose and it didn't look good. I thought he broke it but he said its just bruised. As I see now he was wrong because last night his face started swelling again and I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

OK so I am typing & trying to get through the pain! My leg is killing me & I am very tired of the pain. My back has been injured so many times that I guess it is permanent. I turn my back the wrong way & I feel the shooting pain all the way down my leg. Now I am going to have to take it easy this weekend ev...

Tracey C · Tracey C

Yesterday while watching a video clip, the fellow really hit home for me. I thought I'ld share some of what he said here. How can my Higher Power remove my pain when I'm not removing myself from the situation? How can my Higher Power heal my wounds when I'm not removing the person who's causing them?...

Bettina · Bettina

"Alcohol ruins one physically, morally, intellectually, and economically. Alcohol makes a man forget himself; and while its effects last, be becomes utterly incapable of doing anything useful. Those who take to drinking, ruin themselves and ruin their people. They lose all sense of dece...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

I got a good night sleep after along days worth of tears and trying to understand this kaos and found out my A has forms of manic in his family and he can see all his behavior pattern now how he been to me but still never said he was sorry for drive ms crazy . That's not important to me that he didn't say sorry a...

Johnny Alias · Johnny Alias

Okay. So firstly I am going to start attending some Al-Anon meetings. My mind is a mess right now and I need help. I've already reached out and scheduled an appt with my old therapist as well... And that's a good place to start... you see... about a year ago I met with my therapist and said I wanted my ex-...

hope4ever · hope4ever

I live a couple hours from my parents and siblings. There is a lot of dysfunction and alcoholism and so I really try and keep my distance from them because it really stresses me out. I am in alanon so it does help me. But yesterday I drove there and got to see my new baby niece and spend time with her. Then I...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Life just keeps coming hard and fast, but I am doing the best I can to grow through it. I do not like when I feel so over stressed the natural ugliness of my thoughts and sometimes words. I have been short tempered and angry with the stress of kids, school and work, homework studying, life there just aren'...

gofred123 · gofred123

Since my last two posts I have continued to do what I said I would do, and that is support my wife's decision to leave and find her identity However I never knew how difficult it would be, just after a couple weeks. Emotionally it is a rollercoaster and personally I am a punching bag for her. Everyday I...

el-cee · el-cee

Medi · Medi

So, three weeks ago I asked my alcoholic partner of 8 years to move out of our family home. I am trying to get on with life as best as I can looking after our two little girls and working. The last few weeks have been a emotional roller coaster and for the last few days I am starting to doubt my decision?? Maybe...

neshema2 · neshema2

I just wanted to stop by and say hello to all of you who have loved me, validated me, been patient w/me with the "daughter thing" and those of you who , even tho my posts were not really alanon, you all welcomed me anyway and would give me some love and support during the hard times....which are u...

el-cee · el-cee

That simple wee card that has those daily little guidelines are so simple and when I read it, think about it and make the effort to live it, my day goes so much more smoothly. I think it costs about 75p here, not sure in US currency but its buttons basically and it can be ordered from the official website.x

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

I am sick today. Physically. Something has been going around. I hate this feeling. Stuck in bed. Cant do anything. Cant eat, Cant exercise. Its a beautiful day out to.My dad went to rehab for the 2nd time on Thursday. I was out, so he left a voicemail saying bye. He was clearly slurring. Great to see hes ta...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I get a call that I missed.....no message left. I looked up the number and it was from my son. I'm OK but I now start to think its all falling apart. I have no trust only fear. I don't know if it will ever get any better no matter what I do to take care of me. This fear he will not make it will destroy my life if...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Trust nope tell my side of really what's going on here and found out I should not talk anymore . Did not know Alaon played on the other side of the street to at the same time . So my shame my feelings were read by A person who is using my post to gain and take only sourse of help I'm getting thank you for helping me...

qwerty49 · qwerty49

From one extreme to the other. I've said my alcoholic mum can come & stay with me in Cornwall for a 'week'. I only moved here 2 weeks ago, but the plan was always for her to come for a little holiday & she's on her way on the not so express coach (sherry in bag). I actually feel excited about seeing her...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

I hope this works not use to posting a link but this was given to me from my sister

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I hate it when worry and fear creep up and make me feel sick, in more than just the physical way. My AH is traveling for work and has been out drinking, I was able to tell he had been drinking when I spoke to him at 4:30. A few hours later I texted him and we went back and forth and his texts were one word answers...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Today's fight did it . I said this is not how I want to live my life under a dictator . Curfews when I can go to Alaon when I can self help myself . Well today my A said you have a poor attitude I applyed for a job and he said you are not working that shift. I said and why is this ? Because I said no . So I said it's finall...

bud · bud

Every inch an SOB. While I'm still on exAH's "payroll" mandated by court, I thought it would be a good idea to apply for a home equity line in case if needed. I've been applying for steady work and am hopeful that the right thing will come along. I'm maxing out on money because of health care...

Grumble · Grumble

I am beside myself...panic, anxiety and I really don't understand what's going on or what to do. My BF has asked for a break to work stuff out on his own and is talking to his Sponsor, and trying to see a counselor (of his own volition) and is ready to do the work. We had what I thought was a healthy relation...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I find peace when I am able to put things into perspective. The path I have travelled and where it is I stand right now. Married at 18 and divorced by 21. I was impatient (I have recently acknowledged my impatience in a lot of things)and wanted a family. After I found out I was not able to get pregnant. I wan...

Iwantthingsback · Iwantthingsback

I am going to the book store tomorrow (they were always kind of my get away place for some reason and I don't even like to read that much). Anyway, do they sell Al-Anon material at book stores. This one would be Barns and Noble. I figured while I am there I can start getting some if they don't cost to much. A...

Furkidsmom · Furkidsmom

Hi, I just found this site last night and joined. I hope this site can help me. Here's my story...I had a very happy childhood, youngest of 3 older brothers. No one in my family ever yelled at each other or called us names. I was shocked and devastated when he first did that. What was going on? My Mother d...

Gaby · Gaby

Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" &...

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	not much help at F2F meetings (Preview) Unfortunately about 80% of the folks at the f2f meetings that I go to, are there because they have kids on drugs. They are going through all kinds of hell and have awful stories to tell every week. They get on their soap boxes and that's it, no detail left out. They are not working the program, and just...	islandtime	15	382	Oct 18, 2013 by slogan_jim
	Have lost my way... needing wisdom..ideas (Preview) Hello all, I'm feeling so lost..so sad. I have lost who I am..I have been in the program for years.. but in the last 2years I really don't like who I have turned into. So much back sliding..lost of contact and belief in a higher power.. Hence to say two years ago I got into another relationship and worked re...	stilllearning	10	403	Oct 18, 2013 by stilllearning
	Live in small town...Seeking a male sponsor or at least a temporary sponsor please (Preview) Hello I am a male living in a small town with no men in our face to face meetings. I have been in the program for many years but have really lost my way and went backwards. I'm not in a crisis(well feeling pretty down) but I have become so negative and lost my hope... I want and to really put forth the effort t...	stilllearning	4	336	Oct 18, 2013 by stilllearning
	Do You Identify With Any of This? (Preview) From the AA Big Book, "The Family Afterward" (a great read with ANSWERS, which we are always seeking!): "Our loyalty and the desire that our husbands hold up their heads and be like other men have begotten all sorts of predicaments. We have been unselfish and self-sacrificing. We h...	WorkingThroughIt	17	554	Oct 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	My turn to be selfish (Preview) Well I must say today is a day I did some back track and read all my posts . I can't believe how much I wasted all my time talking about the DRINK . Why did I ? Why did I do what it wanted me to do. I don't drink I don't have a problem . The only problem I know I have is my sick co dependent ways and I take the blame for th...	Ms co-dependent	9	452	Oct 18, 2013 by Ms co-dependent
	New feelings (Preview) Since I called the police on the ex alcoholic bf, that was extremely abusive toward me, I feel I have changed. I remember whenI first met him, 2 years ago, I was needy and felt I needed a man. Today, after a lot of therapy work, and reading here, I feel so different. I feel Free at last. I am happy in my own...	joker	2	231	Oct 18, 2013 by hotrod
	Need Your Help! (Preview) So a little over a month ago I found out that my husband (who was almost 20 months sober) was cheating on me with a girl from his AA group. I kicked him out. He immediately relapsed and has been following that path of destruction for the last 5 weeks. He is living with the girl and her mother who both are al...	thistooshallpass	15	556	Oct 17, 2013 by Bettina
	Stay focused (Preview) The 7 day stretch of good moods and normal ways didnt last and I didnt think it would but I am happy I got that at least. Those little stretches allows us to stay connected and stay in love. If he was Mr. Dry butt head every single day I couldnt deal with that and or would fall out of love, as I have come close...	Iwantthingsback	10	513	Oct 17, 2013 by joker
	hardware and bread at work (Preview) I get flustered and anxious sometimes at the high drama and chaos at work. Then I have to remember "Why am I expecting peace, calm , and order in a rehab with 28 severely sick addicts and alcoholics?" It is a giant hardware store...it will never churn out bread. It was a stressful day guys.	pinkchip	20	622	Oct 17, 2013 by Tasha
	New test (Preview) Hi all, Been busy with meeting and living the al anon programme. Just wanted to shrae my news my 20 year old son and his 25 year old girlfriend ( child of an active A) of 18 months are expecting a baby. I have experienced a range of emotions from total excitement I would love to be a nannie to Fear, sadness an...	Tracy	4	191	Oct 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	Cover thine own hiney (Preview) I was approached last night and asked to "lend" A money to cover insurances. I must be getting somewhat wiser and decided to call insurance company and separate my own car policy so that I don't have to be concerned about it being cancelled due to non payment. First, the amounts differed by $...	Mari1978	19	554	Oct 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	Alcoholic A (Preview) My A has slipped a few times in 4 months and last night was a big one. Of course he was not drinking. What was I talking about. He kept following me around the house yelling, screaming, calling me horrible names and putting his finger in my face. He pushed my shoulder twice. I called the police and the...	Jen61	10	604	Oct 17, 2013 by abbyalana
	Thank you all... (Preview) for taking the time to share and to encourage me. You all are special people.	DreamsOver	3	222	Oct 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	Let me ask you…… (Preview) Wow, I am busy today huh LOLBeing most of you are way more experienced than I am. I am still at the point where I turn down invites to dinners, party or just a small outing with our friends because he isnt attending meetings and Mr Dry is in and out, I dont want him around the drinking. He is Pretty good with t...	Iwantthingsback	18	570	Oct 17, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Dad got a weekend pass (Preview) Hey Everyone, I am facing a decision. My dad is in his second stint in rehab and they gave him a weekend pass to go home this weekend. He has asked that I pick him up. It's a 45 minute drive without traffic. He simply left a voice mail so he'll call back. I don't want to do it, and then sit in a car with him for anot...	slogan_jim	8	522	Oct 17, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	This too shall pass (Preview) Yesterday I was feeling so good, maybe a little too smug about my progress too. Today HP told me I need some humility. In the last 24 hours, Ah and I both have both been dealt major car repairs (expensive), major home repairs, (expensive), and major medical bills (very expensive). Yesterday our financ...	ParisMemories	6	357	Oct 17, 2013 by Jerry F
	the birthday card (Preview) Well for the 900th time I found myself looking at greeting cards, trying to find one that fit the bill. Hallmark needs to come out with a line of cards for the alcoholic. You can find the ones that go on about how wonderful, loving, sweet, caring,kind, thoughtful, the person is. And how having them in y...	islandtime	18	588	Oct 17, 2013 by bud
	a question (Preview) I have got to find a way to stop snapping into old habits. All I have to go is hear the AH icing up his beer cooler ( at exactly 4:00 every day, you could set a clock by it LOL! ) It has to be the perfect temp. and at his finger tips. The care with which he layers the ice and beer, is actually amusing. Anyway, I let i...	islandtime	5	474	Oct 17, 2013 by Debilyn
	experience with legal issues (Preview) I know Alanon is not about telling people what to do. We are all diff. and our experiences are all unique, etc. My wife has battled alcohol addiction for many years. She has been to out patient, in-patient, IOP and will stay sober for a while but in time always returns to old habits and quits working whate...	ntxalanon	15	503	Oct 17, 2013 by pinkchip
	Just to share.......... (Preview) When we were in Therapy I stated this, sometimes it is better to talk there LOL Our Therapist pulled me aside after and said "Well done" good wording. I mean every word and he knows it. And I don't have a desire to stay if he chooses not to go back to meetings and work his part like he used to. I lef...	Iwantthingsback	7	384	Oct 16, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Sharing literature (Preview) I read a great article today posted on another forum about ptsd and codependant behaviour etc. Is it acceptable to share stuff like that here or are we only supposed to talk about approved literature? Just want to clarify the rules	Melly1248	7	389	Oct 16, 2013 by grateful2be
	I am expecting a miracle (Preview) I am expecting a miraculous recovery from all this pain I am suffering right now. One day at a time I do feel better. I have to see a doctor tomorrow to get some relief. Maybe just talking to him might make a difference. He can only do so much. I have to talk to him about three things. I hope he has the time. I wil...	Hoot Nanny	7	422	Oct 16, 2013 by stilllearning
	Another anniversary thanks Alanon! (Preview) Well, I thought I would share my proud news with y'all. I have been a non smoker for 1 year this week. Thanks to alanon, I came to like then love then care enough about myself to stop.x	el-cee	12	389	Oct 16, 2013 by neshema2
	Hi all. (Preview) Well, hello everyone. I've received a number of messages asking if I am OK (I am), or if I am angry, offended or upset by responses to a post I wrote a few days ago. (I'm not). Basically after a couple of days of no food or sleep and miserable feelings, I wrote a post and immediately after, re-read it, decide...	Melly1248	22	675	Oct 16, 2013 by hotrod
	How Al-Anon Works???????? (Preview) Is the books name "How Al-Anon Works"? And what is the web address to review and buy Al-Anon reading and material? I don't know why I can't find anything on the site........ LOL	Iwantthingsback	2	350	Oct 16, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Exhausted.... (Preview) I just came to work this morning and having a hard time, trying not to cry. I am exhausted. My AS is getting sicker physically, I can see a marked difference in his appearance and right now I am afraid for what will happen to him. I try to stay in the moment but right now I have a real fear in me. My other s...	DreamsOver	8	560	Oct 16, 2013 by islandtime
	A dear friend of mine passed away (Preview) One of my friends had been battling cancer for 7 years. She and her husband were faithful Christians, always willing to help others and pray and offer support. She was always a shoulder to me to lean on. We were the same age and our boys (only children) were the same age, as well. While reflecting on h...	ilovedogs	21	606	Oct 16, 2013 by Mattie
	Dealing with guilt and that annoying "Wait and see" thing. Ugh. (Preview) I have been seeing my therapist on a more regular basis since I've been struggling with the crap with my boyfriend that moved me back to Ohio. It's starting to threaten my own sobriety/recovery. I was this close to calling my neurologist and say "Sure! Go ahead and prescribe me vicodin for the pai...	bijela	3	532	Oct 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	Grateful (Preview) My AH announced a week ago that he didn't want to go to his AA meeting because meetings make him feel bad. In the past I would have scolded and threatened, saying he had to go if he wanted to stay married. This time, I smiled and nodded, and said, well, you know what's best for you. And then I went to MY alanon m...	ParisMemories	6	230	Oct 16, 2013 by Jerry F
	New to the boards and needing to talk, or vent, probably both. (Preview) I have typed this first sentence 4 times now..nothing seems to make sense when I put what I am thinking into words. My thoughts are a mess, my concentration is shot. My patience is nearly gone. I came here mostly for a safe place to let it out and hope to rescue my sanity. I'm not sure where to begin. My husba...	Bobbi	10	465	Oct 16, 2013 by grateful2be
	So completly mixed up................ feeling really mad at myself today! (Preview) Hello all I need to vent and I have issues LOL. The ones who have seen my posts know I am living with a dry drunk. Believe it or not this part is not about him His Bday was Friday and when I got home he was in such a good mood (finally-it has been weeks). He was playful , hugging me, kissing me just acting like t...	Iwantthingsback	10	480	Oct 16, 2013 by grateful2be
	5-day STENT (Preview) Going on day 5 of things have been great, Mr Dry drunk 'xxxx' is sleeping I am not sure what the heck is going on the last 5-days, and I have seen him go a couple months like this so it shouldn't surprise me. Must be things are going well for him at work (he has a very stressful job). We did just get a better nic...	Iwantthingsback	5	368	Oct 15, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	Toby Rice Drews (Preview) Has several getting them sober books.............. they all look different/ Which one do --- should I get?	Iwantthingsback	6	377	Oct 15, 2013 by Iwantthingsback
	email from my son (Preview) Just realized I have 30 days sober today. Last drink was 9/13/2013 very early am. I don't count days or anything, just looked at the calendar and, epiphany LOL I had to look the word up........here's what I took from it lol Epiphanies are relatively rare occurrences and generally follow a proces...	Cathyinaz	14	521	Oct 15, 2013 by el-cee
	SO in Hospital (Preview) Good Morning all Sitting here in the hospital waiting to find out if my SO is going to be admitted or go home. A couple of weeks ago my SO hit his nose and it didn't look good. I thought he broke it but he said its just bruised. As I see now he was wrong because last night his face started swelling again and I...	Cathyinaz	14	539	Oct 15, 2013 by neshema2
	pain & agony (Preview) OK so I am typing & trying to get through the pain! My leg is killing me & I am very tired of the pain. My back has been injured so many times that I guess it is permanent. I turn my back the wrong way & I feel the shooting pain all the way down my leg. Now I am going to have to take it easy this weekend ev...	Hoot Nanny	4	289	Oct 15, 2013 by Lyne
	Food for Thought (Preview) Yesterday while watching a video clip, the fellow really hit home for me. I thought I'ld share some of what he said here. How can my Higher Power remove my pain when I'm not removing myself from the situation? How can my Higher Power heal my wounds when I'm not removing the person who's causing them?...	Tracey C	6	284	Oct 15, 2013 by Tracey C
	Makes a man forget himself! (Preview) "Alcohol ruins one physically, morally, intellectually, and economically. Alcohol makes a man forget himself; and while its effects last, be becomes utterly incapable of doing anything useful. Those who take to drinking, ruin themselves and ruin their people. They lose all sense of dece...	Bettina	12	556	Oct 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Denial no more (Preview) I got a good night sleep after along days worth of tears and trying to understand this kaos and found out my A has forms of manic in his family and he can see all his behavior pattern now how he been to me but still never said he was sorry for drive ms crazy . That's not important to me that he didn't say sorry a...	Ms co-dependent	4	259	Oct 14, 2013 by el-cee
	Need to vent badly... (Preview) Okay. So firstly I am going to start attending some Al-Anon meetings. My mind is a mess right now and I need help. I've already reached out and scheduled an appt with my old therapist as well... And that's a good place to start... you see... about a year ago I met with my therapist and said I wanted my ex-...	Johnny Alias	9	417	Oct 14, 2013 by Johnny Alias
	how to let go of the guilt (Preview) I live a couple hours from my parents and siblings. There is a lot of dysfunction and alcoholism and so I really try and keep my distance from them because it really stresses me out. I am in alanon so it does help me. But yesterday I drove there and got to see my new baby niece and spend time with her. Then I...	hope4ever	3	391	Oct 14, 2013 by hotrod
	blah, blah, blahhhty blah! (Preview) Life just keeps coming hard and fast, but I am doing the best I can to grow through it. I do not like when I feel so over stressed the natural ugliness of my thoughts and sometimes words. I have been short tempered and angry with the stress of kids, school and work, homework studying, life there just aren'...	Breakingfree	3	327	Oct 14, 2013 by PP
	Letting go is hard to do (Preview) Since my last two posts I have continued to do what I said I would do, and that is support my wife's decision to leave and find her identity However I never knew how difficult it would be, just after a couple weeks. Emotionally it is a rollercoaster and personally I am a punching bag for her. Everyday I...	gofred123	5	471	Oct 14, 2013 by milkwood
	A small example of the tools - slogans, prayer and literature.x (Preview)	el-cee	3	2034	Oct 14, 2013 by el-cee
	Trying to get on with life (Preview) So, three weeks ago I asked my alcoholic partner of 8 years to move out of our family home. I am trying to get on with life as best as I can looking after our two little girls and working. The last few weeks have been a emotional roller coaster and for the last few days I am starting to doubt my decision?? Maybe...	Medi	9	502	Oct 14, 2013 by Medi
	Just stopping by to say hello and update (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and say hello to all of you who have loved me, validated me, been patient w/me with the "daughter thing" and those of you who , even tho my posts were not really alanon, you all welcomed me anyway and would give me some love and support during the hard times....which are u...	neshema2	5	416	Oct 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	Just for Today (Preview) That simple wee card that has those daily little guidelines are so simple and when I read it, think about it and make the effort to live it, my day goes so much more smoothly. I think it costs about 75p here, not sure in US currency but its buttons basically and it can be ordered from the official website.x	el-cee	5	363	Oct 14, 2013 by PP
	What is the payoff? (Preview) I am sick today. Physically. Something has been going around. I hate this feeling. Stuck in bed. Cant do anything. Cant eat, Cant exercise. Its a beautiful day out to.My dad went to rehab for the 2nd time on Thursday. I was out, so he left a voicemail saying bye. He was clearly slurring. Great to see hes ta...	slogan_jim	17	517	Oct 14, 2013 by pinkchip
	Called (Preview) I get a call that I missed.....no message left. I looked up the number and it was from my son. I'm OK but I now start to think its all falling apart. I have no trust only fear. I don't know if it will ever get any better no matter what I do to take care of me. This fear he will not make it will destroy my life if...	Cathyinaz	16	497	Oct 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Ouch (Preview) Trust nope tell my side of really what's going on here and found out I should not talk anymore . Did not know Alaon played on the other side of the street to at the same time . So my shame my feelings were read by A person who is using my post to gain and take only sourse of help I'm getting thank you for helping me...	Ms co-dependent	13	648	Oct 14, 2013 by Jerry F
	After horrible arguing i am now ordering her sherry...?!! (Preview) From one extreme to the other. I've said my alcoholic mum can come & stay with me in Cornwall for a 'week'. I only moved here 2 weeks ago, but the plan was always for her to come for a little holiday & she's on her way on the not so express coach (sherry in bag). I actually feel excited about seeing her...	qwerty49	21	522	Oct 14, 2013 by qwerty49
	Good place for this to be (Preview) I hope this works not use to posting a link but this was given to me from my sister	Ms co-dependent	5	238	Oct 13, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Hate nights like these (Preview) I hate it when worry and fear creep up and make me feel sick, in more than just the physical way. My AH is traveling for work and has been out drinking, I was able to tell he had been drinking when I spoke to him at 4:30. A few hours later I texted him and we went back and forth and his texts were one word answers...	ilovedogs	9	443	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Well I did promise a update hot rod (Preview) Today's fight did it . I said this is not how I want to live my life under a dictator . Curfews when I can go to Alaon when I can self help myself . Well today my A said you have a poor attitude I applyed for a job and he said you are not working that shift. I said and why is this ? Because I said no . So I said it's finall...	Ms co-dependent	4	356	Oct 13, 2013 by Bettina
	venting (Preview) Every inch an SOB. While I'm still on exAH's "payroll" mandated by court, I thought it would be a good idea to apply for a home equity line in case if needed. I've been applying for steady work and am hopeful that the right thing will come along. I'm maxing out on money because of health care...	bud	7	263	Oct 13, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Isolation/Space - how do I cope? space isolation acoa ptsd transference (Preview) I am beside myself...panic, anxiety and I really don't understand what's going on or what to do. My BF has asked for a break to work stuff out on his own and is talking to his Sponsor, and trying to see a counselor (of his own volition) and is ready to do the work. We had what I thought was a healthy relation...	Grumble	14	9288	Oct 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	Accepting HP's will (Preview) I find peace when I am able to put things into perspective. The path I have travelled and where it is I stand right now. Married at 18 and divorced by 21. I was impatient (I have recently acknowledged my impatience in a lot of things)and wanted a family. After I found out I was not able to get pregnant. I wan...	Mari1978	5	397	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	Books????????????????? (Preview) I am going to the book store tomorrow (they were always kind of my get away place for some reason and I don't even like to read that much). Anyway, do they sell Al-Anon material at book stores. This one would be Barns and Noble. I figured while I am there I can start getting some if they don't cost to much. A...	Iwantthingsback	12	620	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
	New here, Am I in the right place? Need to talk (Preview) Hi, I just found this site last night and joined. I hope this site can help me. Here's my story...I had a very happy childhood, youngest of 3 older brothers. No one in my family ever yelled at each other or called us names. I was shocked and devastated when he first did that. What was going on? My Mother d...	Furkidsmom	16	355	Oct 13, 2013 by islandtime
	My son reached out and I just listened.. (Preview) Well yesterday I got a lot of good words from a lot of you and today I said its about me.. My son called me at work today and said" mom I'm parked at this parking lot after I applied for a job and realized today is Friday and this is the first Friday home in months and I truly don't have good friends" &...	Gaby	11	462	Oct 13, 2013 by el-cee
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