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mjferg · mjferg

I feel anxious today,my ex called again last night,I did not answer the phone.I have made it very clear on several occasions that I was done with this relationship.He is also good friends with my neighbor and he has been calling him and asking him what I am doing!He said he doesn't tell him anything,I ho...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

Recovery, what is it? What does it look like? How can I get it? I looked at many definitions, many of which applied to alcohol and drug addiction. Since I am not an alcoholic nor am I addicted to drugs (still working on my caffeine addiction), I was not comfortable with these definitions. Then, I found th...

missmeliss · missmeliss

I am sleepless tonight, I am meant to have class in 6 hours or so and I am just turning it over and over in my mind. One of the biggest gifts I think i have received in al-anon so far (and there have been SO many) is the ability to handle the truth instead of trying to manipulate and sugar coat it. Even if it makes...

tucanojk · tucanojk

Can anyone tell me where one can find an a CAL approved Al Anon Meeting in a Pocket? AA has a couple of Meeting in a Pocket books available to all. I have a draft that our home group is using and really finds helpful.

Truth · Truth

Well I must have hit another wave today ....because after months now I finally feel resentful. Funny how that happens... Before I just felt scared, unsafe and angry enough to make a change and put in boundaries. Then I started to observe behaviors and really started to figure out what I liked and don...

YARNCRAZY · YARNCRAZY

Have anyone of you were so emotionally tired and lonely that u made up fantasies about people u know who would make a partner.?

neshema2 · neshema2

Today I get up and I say "Good morning Creator, how can i be of service today??? How can I bring smiles to at least one face??? Let me give laughter and joy today" and I thanked Creator... Went to work in the freezing cold, its like 30% out and thats pressing it....I arrive at work and everyone...

grateful2be · grateful2be

In my spare bedroom/office, there is a white duvet over the twin bed with pillow slips to match. For accent and whimsy, I've placed a large, plush Christmas elf with moveable floppy arms and legs. The doll is about one foot and a half long and maybe six inches across the middle of her chest. I have not...

grateful2be · grateful2be

An old Cherokee grandfather was talking with his grandson near a warm campfire that lit up the night. They could hear the wolves howling in the night. Grandfather said: "There are two wolves in each of us. There's a battle raging between them. One is evil - he represents fear, doubt, self-p...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

This semester so far I has been rough and I am currently taking a clinical and 2 lecture classes until right before Christmas. I have a fun trip planned for 3 nights with the boyfriend and kids after Christmas and before my next classes start January 5. When I say I need a break, I just mean for the crapp...

neshema2 · neshema2

don't know if I told you all ANOTHER of my refurbs i was buying from this guy went down 2 weeks ago...it was my work machine....i was in a panic!!!! my quickbooks was on it, my tax stuff....disaster city... i text the guy b/c i don't have time to fix it and he doesn't reply...its business hours so no worrie...

mjferg · mjferg

I haven't posted in a while,I came down with a bad head cold so I kind of just shut down and gave myself permission to deal with my cold and not stress about emotions or recovery.I received a phone call from my ex, it had been a while since I talked to him, well, I answered the phone and it was pretty much the sa...

hopes314 · hopes314

I found out my spouse has been drinking again. I feel like I am teetering on crazy. The lies.. unbelievable! Is it possible to raise 3 kids on my own with no family support? What do i do stay in a marriage because I can't afford a lawyer. So scared to be in a marriage like this. I just have no good choices i...

neshema2 · neshema2

I think I have been a closet agnostic all these years and due to some sort of shame or sense of failure or just thinking I am less then b/c I cannot really embrace a diety outside of myselfI stayed in the closet, hoping that program could help me find G-d as referenced in the 12 steps, not understanding that...

neshema2 · neshema2

TODAY I slept in and stayed warm on my day off, curled up in my blankets dreaming of happy things did laundry for my pets, washed their favorite towels on which they cuddle during cold season jacked up the heat JUST a BIT to treat me while I did my laundry Made myself a GREAT shake, now with peanut butter in i...

el-cee · el-cee

Sorry about my last post, confusing as it was. Ive kind of got peed off with alanon lately. Ive been working it for nearly 3 years, I love it, its changed my life but... im Still working it, im not cured. I know this is not rational or logic. High expectations are dodgy. Ive realised my shortcomings that he...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

This will be a quick post. I am losing things & finding things & losing things again. I have no control over what happens. My mind is going slowly. But, I still have good days of course. Sometimes I have bad weeks! I am just going through a time. I am not going to keep things from my AH. He is not a thre...

jmc · jmc

Wow, So, I am new here and not even sure if I am in the right place. I am slowly coming to terms that my husband ,of over 11 years ,is an alcoholic. My heart is broke. He hides vodka all of the time and is always sorry about his lies but constantly continues to repeat the same mistakes over and over and over. We h...

Luiza · Luiza

So today exH went to collect daughter at school. I checked with him a lot of times that the arrangement was still on and that he has to take her to her choir practice at 5 and bring her straight back home when it finishes at 6. So she should be back home before 6.30. At 6.15 my friend from choir calls me to ask wh...

PP · PP

My father has dementia. My relationship with him has been painful and now it has become even more so as his disease progresses and his skills (which were already poor) at the filtering of his rage and narcissism is diminished. This weekend and some of the posts here recently have brought to the surf...

59lfva · 59lfva

Here I go again. This time it is not my father, sister, or husband. It's my grandchild's alcoholic custodial father who insists she must return to him. My grandchild has run away now for the third time etc. You all know that story. My grandchild has come to me this time. My heart can't send her back to him....

PP · PP

http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CCEQyCkwAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D89h7JC85KHE&ei=ANhkVNKAOISmgwSpxIHgAw&usg=AFQjCNFkh4c0I91b7Ger_vY...

tpotterf · tpotterf

I am totally new here so please no hate if I am doing something I am not supposed to do ok. I need some advice and a place to talk. I am 49, happily married for 28 years and have a wonderful 14 year old daughter. Raised by total alcoholic parents. My husband and I rarely drink. I haven't spoken to my abusi...

beckon11 · beckon11

Hi all. I feel so alone and rejected by my own mother. We have been close for a lifetime. Yet over Her illness. Bipolar and dry drunks she completelyDisowned me. Also fought to disinherit me from our coowned property. I went from being her favorite. To being her enemy. My siblings also took their big...

Turris · Turris

Hi Guys, Long time no see! Glad to be back! I'm currently under a lot of pressure; looking for a new job and apartment etc, and the stress is erupting as anxiety and insomnia. Last night I went to bed at 10:30 pm, and at 6 am I was still wide awake! (It is currently 14:56 here, where I am writing from). I tho...

jmc · jmc

I must say that I am happy that I came across this site and everything I have read so far is very helpful. So many people here have given me a bit more hope but as I sit here, ready for bed, I just feel sad and overwhelmed by emotions. It's easy for me to keep myself busy throughout the day with my kids, my home, m...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I put this on my first Geez thread and decided that it might be better to start a new thread. As of yesterday's news, the stolen snowplow story got changed to stolen snowplow blades, hydraulic parts and a trailer which seems so much more feasible to me than entire snowplows. Even so, according to the ne...

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I have been having a lot of bladder problems lately, and my urologist says I am having bladder spasms from caffeine. I always have one cup of coffee in the morning, but I drink cokes all day long. Apparently, it's the cokes causing my problem. Well, I have cut my coke consumption in half, and I am having te...

Mikeys Mom · Mikeys Mom

I have a boy of 25 living with me. He grew up with my kids and now rents an extra bedroom from me, But he is like a son to me and doesn't get much (has never gotten) parenting from his actual parents. He is drinking way too much and way too heavily. To black out state several times a week, often accompanied by ra...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Today AH have been married for 12 years. Not divorced yet...but that's the next step. I find myself angry, sad and really depressed. I just finished working my usual work stretch of 4 days in a row. I will finally say this, as I am not sure if I have already or not...and I just don't think it's a huge deal if I...

Mellie · Mellie

I am brand new. I am worried sick about my teen son. He never wants to be home because I know he is out there partying. He just started a job and called out on his 4th day of work. I haven't seen him since Thurs night. But I know where he is. I text and call him all the time but he doesn't usually get back to m...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

I have a friend that, now that I have moved, lives 1 1/2 miles away. We are old friends, from college. We don't get together a lot because we don't have that much in common, but we do get together occasionally and love each other to death. Much like he's a family member. He's been having back problems, s...

el-cee · el-cee

Sometimes ive got a real urge to get to the nitty gritty, to say what isnt really said. To let it out there without the excuses, you know? To shake it up and stir it up. I get restless in the peace. I cant find progress in the peace. I know alanons about taking it slow, or is it really? If we knew freedom was wait...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Here's the deal: I'm introverted. This means I do little without first looking at "how will this affect me" rather than the extroverted "now what I can I do with this." I have some extroverted friends in program who go dancing every Monday. One of them invited me to meet her l...

Angelado1976 · Angelado1976

I live in NC and at the moment I am only allowing him supervised visitation but for when ever and as long as he wants. He doesn't choose to see her much but lately he has been claiming to be sober by sheer will he still refuses AA or any treatment program. Knowing his plan is to eventually take this to court...

oceanpine · oceanpine

I read a lot of comments here about the tendencies of the A spouse. They seem to tend to be the unloving one, the nasty one, the one who doesn't appreciate their spouse. In our situation, I seem to be all that. But part of it is because my H is passive. And crazy making. He does things that drive me crazy, and...

Mirandac · Mirandac

My dry ah still uses his nasty tone of voice when he speaks to me. how do i get him to stop. I try very hard to stay away from him and he does likewise. We write notes if needed or text but once in a awhile we still need to speak. We are going for mediatation on nov 17th, he will behave in there in front of people. ...

grateful2be · grateful2be

We are expecting a lot of snow in our area this week. So...........someone has stolen our Township's snowplows as of tonight's news. How in the world does anybody steal one snowplow let alone ALL the snowplows. I know this has nothing at all to do with alcoholism and yet...this caper is as mind-bog...

Fairlee · Fairlee

Hi! I am so behind on the board and there are some very good posts I need to respond too! Ya'll are always so inspiring - I just read and feel better! I went to a F2F meeting last week and I had a funny experience. I parked in the wrong place and went in the wrong meeting (AA meets next door) I am already a very aw...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

I'm so tired of myself! Started alanon almost a year ago and it has changed my actions and thoughts, I was so angry and resentful. After figuring out AH was an alcoholic it was a relief to me, it wasn't what I was or wasn't doing, he wasn't choosing to check out of the family, etc. thankfully I didn't grow up...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Time is flying so I am getting by. Slowly I am coming around even w/ the pressure on me. I am still waiting for my mom to return. She is waiting for paperwork & a place to stay. Kathleen

cloudyskies · cloudyskies

I was doing a little reflecting this morning. This month is my six months anniversary with Al-Anon. Lately I have been taking some service responsibilities (chaired our meetings for a month and I'm going around to doctor's office placing Al-Anon literature) and I feel good about myself. While pu...

Luiza · Luiza

Finishing organising MY bedroom, I put up, on the top of shelve's unit, two photos of my wedding. One is exAH and our daughter when she was 6 months old and the other is a group photo of everyone who attended. So I am here on my computer and I look at the photos now and then. Why? I don't have a clue. I am just all...

andromeda · andromeda

My AH and I drove to the airport yesterday and he made a proposal to me for how we can handle this divorce. His words? "We do nothing." Umm, say what? He wants us to sell the house and then we both move into our own rentals and he will continue to support 2 households using the proceeds from the...

Collateral Damage · Collateral Damage

First of all, I want to apologize for lurking and reading, yet not sharing. That is unfair to you. But I am trying to feel more comfortable with sharing. So AH is 21 days sober today. We visited him in the facility on Sunday, where he announced that he wanted to go into extended care (another 90 days)...

Flower49 · Flower49

Hey Everyone! Hope you are all well. It's been a minute since I have posted anything and just wanted to give an update. Marriage counseling for us is going well, we are so blessed to have a man that has 48 years sobriety and also is well educated in not only addiction, but the affects on the family as well. S...

missmeliss · missmeliss

So last week my new landlady/friend said "I've done something naughty Mel. I saw something online I think you'll love so I've ordered it as a little housewarming gift". OK, wow, and awesome, she didn't tell me what it was so I was excited about waiting for a surprise in the mail. Anyway the ot...

Truth · Truth

Well actually it is storming..... Cooked some turkey supper and downloaded a book on Kindle called "Betrayal Bond"....kind of excited to relax

neshema2 · neshema2

Today , I got this really nice video from a recovery mate who forwarded it over to me and I was like "OMG....How timely and how appropriate after my coming out of the closet post" WHO AM I???? I've been asking that...What is my purpose????? been asking that too...Do I even have a life here...

missmeliss · missmeliss

Let's start with the bullet I dodged. And my very, very deep gratitude for the place I am staying, and the place I am not staying. My mother has been unkind, oh so unkind. I am so, so very glad I did not go there to stay. It has been 11 years now since I stayed there for 2 months after my marriage ended and now I re...

milkwood · milkwood

I am trying to figure out why I would like AH and I to be able to talk openly about stuff (not alcohol related stuff btw). The fact that we can't means that I keep my barriers up and I am not addressing my 'what would I like to do with my life' questions. Is it just an ego thing on my part (in which case I would wa...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Tonight I met my daughter and AH at the dog park. I wanted to see her and I also wanted the dogs to get out...he rarely takes them out. So, we met at dog park. On the way back to our vehicles, I asked him which lot he was in. He replied "there's only one right??" my reply "no...there's two&quo...

aquamom23 · aquamom23

I just caught myself smiling and exhaling. Tried something new last night. The impossible to get rid of a did his a thing last nite, only a bit more in my face,with some girl in the background but you know he never cheats,and only logs onto Ashley Madison cos he's curious about how the system works,and bl...

tucanojk · tucanojk

Hello all, I am new to this site and a new member of Al Anon. Thank you, tucanojk

tucanojk · tucanojk

Hello, I am new to this site and new to Al Anon. I am on my road to recovery. Thank you, tucanojk

John · John

Gawh, I miss you folks! I have spent a little time reading some post over the last few months, but haven't really been able to "plug in" and reply to them because by the time I get here, I am wiped out from a day of work, an evening of meeting, spending time with sponsees, being present and available in a rel...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Recently, I received an insurance premium notice in the mail for auto insurance. I read the Declarations page and discovered I was being charged for insurance I didn't need (loss of wages) since I'm now retired. I e-mailed my agent about it. No response. I called him about it. No response. I e-m...

Hullibee · Hullibee

I lived through my worst nightmare last night!! My eldest adult daughter got in a head on collision yesterday. She called me right after it happened before she called 911. She was crying and asked me to get her kids. I freaked!!! I was so scared. I went to get the three grandchildren and headed to ho...

mjferg · mjferg

I see my therapist on Thursday,and we uncover more stuff,I talked about some things that happened when I was a child and she gives me another book to read,this one is about shame.I was never good enough and I never pleased my father.My mom and I used to go hunt for him at bars,but I was the bad kid, really!!...

rainbow · rainbow

Yesterday I felt very depressed and lonely. I couldn't stop crying and kept thinking how much I was missing him. Today I gave in and talked to him. It was the best thing I could have done because I realised within a very short space of time that I had made the right decision to leave. He was drinking while we...

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	anxiety and boundaries (Preview) I feel anxious today,my ex called again last night,I did not answer the phone.I have made it very clear on several occasions that I was done with this relationship.He is also good friends with my neighbor and he has been calling him and asking him what I am doing!He said he doesn't tell him anything,I ho...	mjferg	7	842	Nov 15, 2014 by cloudyskies
	Recovery (Preview) Recovery, what is it? What does it look like? How can I get it? I looked at many definitions, many of which applied to alcohol and drug addiction. Since I am not an alcoholic nor am I addicted to drugs (still working on my caffeine addiction), I was not comfortable with these definitions. Then, I found th...	cloudyskies	6	466	Nov 15, 2014 by cloudyskies
	But I don't WANNA go to school tomorrow... (Preview) I am sleepless tonight, I am meant to have class in 6 hours or so and I am just turning it over and over in my mind. One of the biggest gifts I think i have received in al-anon so far (and there have been SO many) is the ability to handle the truth instead of trying to manipulate and sugar coat it. Even if it makes...	missmeliss	15	830	Nov 15, 2014 by Debilyn
	CAL Approved Al Anon Meeting in a Pocket? (Preview) Can anyone tell me where one can find an a CAL approved Al Anon Meeting in a Pocket? AA has a couple of Meeting in a Pocket books available to all. I have a draft that our home group is using and really finds helpful.	tucanojk	2	555	Nov 15, 2014 by Courage
	Today I feel resentful... (Preview) Well I must have hit another wave today ....because after months now I finally feel resentful. Funny how that happens... Before I just felt scared, unsafe and angry enough to make a change and put in boundaries. Then I started to observe behaviors and really started to figure out what I liked and don...	Truth	14	772	Nov 15, 2014 by neshema2
	TIRED/LONELY WIFE OF AH 25YRS (Preview) Have anyone of you were so emotionally tired and lonely that u made up fantasies about people u know who would make a partner.?	YARNCRAZY	9	850	Nov 15, 2014 by Jerry F
	Be careful about what you ask HP for (Preview) Today I get up and I say "Good morning Creator, how can i be of service today??? How can I bring smiles to at least one face??? Let me give laughter and joy today" and I thanked Creator... Went to work in the freezing cold, its like 30% out and thats pressing it....I arrive at work and everyone...	neshema2	4	548	Nov 15, 2014 by PP
	On shame - and cats (Preview) In my spare bedroom/office, there is a white duvet over the twin bed with pillow slips to match. For accent and whimsy, I've placed a large, plush Christmas elf with moveable floppy arms and legs. The doll is about one foot and a half long and maybe six inches across the middle of her chest. I have not...	grateful2be	20	790	Nov 14, 2014 by milkwood
	A campfire story (Preview) An old Cherokee grandfather was talking with his grandson near a warm campfire that lit up the night. They could hear the wolves howling in the night. Grandfather said: "There are two wolves in each of us. There's a battle raging between them. One is evil - he represents fear, doubt, self-p...	grateful2be	20	686	Nov 14, 2014 by grateful2be
	I just kind of need a break! (Preview) This semester so far I has been rough and I am currently taking a clinical and 2 lecture classes until right before Christmas. I have a fun trip planned for 3 nights with the boyfriend and kids after Christmas and before my next classes start January 5. When I say I need a break, I just mean for the crapp...	Breakingfree	11	850	Nov 14, 2014 by bud
	When I THINK I need someone "that bad" I need to trust and think again!!! (Preview) don't know if I told you all ANOTHER of my refurbs i was buying from this guy went down 2 weeks ago...it was my work machine....i was in a panic!!!! my quickbooks was on it, my tax stuff....disaster city... i text the guy b/c i don't have time to fix it and he doesn't reply...its business hours so no worrie...	neshema2	14	522	Nov 14, 2014 by bud
	manipulation! (Preview) I haven't posted in a while,I came down with a bad head cold so I kind of just shut down and gave myself permission to deal with my cold and not stress about emotions or recovery.I received a phone call from my ex, it had been a while since I talked to him, well, I answered the phone and it was pretty much the sa...	mjferg	6	465	Nov 14, 2014 by bud
	what can i do (Preview) I found out my spouse has been drinking again. I feel like I am teetering on crazy. The lies.. unbelievable! Is it possible to raise 3 kids on my own with no family support? What do i do stay in a marriage because I can't afford a lawyer. So scared to be in a marriage like this. I just have no good choices i...	hopes314	7	670	Nov 14, 2014 by bud
	A closet Agnostic?? ( 1 2 ) (Preview) I think I have been a closet agnostic all these years and due to some sort of shame or sense of failure or just thinking I am less then b/c I cannot really embrace a diety outside of myselfI stayed in the closet, hoping that program could help me find G-d as referenced in the 12 steps, not understanding that...	neshema2	55	1436	Nov 13, 2014 by bud
	What did I do in caring for me TODAY???? (Preview) TODAY I slept in and stayed warm on my day off, curled up in my blankets dreaming of happy things did laundry for my pets, washed their favorite towels on which they cuddle during cold season jacked up the heat JUST a BIT to treat me while I did my laundry Made myself a GREAT shake, now with peanut butter in i...	neshema2	8	653	Nov 13, 2014 by neshema2
	fell out with alanon (Preview) Sorry about my last post, confusing as it was. Ive kind of got peed off with alanon lately. Ive been working it for nearly 3 years, I love it, its changed my life but... im Still working it, im not cured. I know this is not rational or logic. High expectations are dodgy. Ive realised my shortcomings that he...	el-cee	17	689	Nov 13, 2014 by Jerry F
	if only I could remember what I forgot! (Preview) This will be a quick post. I am losing things & finding things & losing things again. I have no control over what happens. My mind is going slowly. But, I still have good days of course. Sometimes I have bad weeks! I am just going through a time. I am not going to keep things from my AH. He is not a thre...	Hoot Nanny	5	514	Nov 13, 2014 by cloudyskies
	My husband is an alcoholic (Preview) Wow, So, I am new here and not even sure if I am in the right place. I am slowly coming to terms that my husband ,of over 11 years ,is an alcoholic. My heart is broke. He hides vodka all of the time and is always sorry about his lies but constantly continues to repeat the same mistakes over and over and over. We h...	jmc	19	811	Nov 13, 2014 by Flower49
	Lost my serenity a little bit. (Preview) So today exH went to collect daughter at school. I checked with him a lot of times that the arrangement was still on and that he has to take her to her choir practice at 5 and bring her straight back home when it finishes at 6. So she should be back home before 6.30. At 6.15 my friend from choir calls me to ask wh...	Luiza	9	653	Nov 13, 2014 by grateful2be
	Honoring my child's heart.... (Preview) My father has dementia. My relationship with him has been painful and now it has become even more so as his disease progresses and his skills (which were already poor) at the filtering of his rage and narcissism is diminished. This weekend and some of the posts here recently have brought to the surf...	PP	29	918	Nov 13, 2014 by PP
	uh! (Preview) Here I go again. This time it is not my father, sister, or husband. It's my grandchild's alcoholic custodial father who insists she must return to him. My grandchild has run away now for the third time etc. You all know that story. My grandchild has come to me this time. My heart can't send her back to him....	59lfva	7	427	Nov 13, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Song for us.... (Preview) http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0CCEQyCkwAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D89h7JC85KHE&ei=ANhkVNKAOISmgwSpxIHgAw&usg=AFQjCNFkh4c0I91b7Ger_vY...	PP	3	255	Nov 13, 2014 by neshema2
	Mom issues (Preview) I am totally new here so please no hate if I am doing something I am not supposed to do ok. I need some advice and a place to talk. I am 49, happily married for 28 years and have a wonderful 14 year old daughter. Raised by total alcoholic parents. My husband and I rarely drink. I haven't spoken to my abusi...	tpotterf	39	885	Nov 13, 2014 by PP
	greif over abandonment by my mother (Preview) Hi all. I feel so alone and rejected by my own mother. We have been close for a lifetime. Yet over Her illness. Bipolar and dry drunks she completelyDisowned me. Also fought to disinherit me from our coowned property. I went from being her favorite. To being her enemy. My siblings also took their big...	beckon11	8	671	Nov 13, 2014 by milkwood
	Insomnia (Preview) Hi Guys, Long time no see! Glad to be back! I'm currently under a lot of pressure; looking for a new job and apartment etc, and the stress is erupting as anxiety and insomnia. Last night I went to bed at 10:30 pm, and at 6 am I was still wide awake! (It is currently 14:56 here, where I am writing from). I tho...	Turris	8	576	Nov 12, 2014 by Fairlee
	Too many mixed emotions (Preview) I must say that I am happy that I came across this site and everything I have read so far is very helpful. So many people here have given me a bit more hope but as I sit here, ready for bed, I just feel sad and overwhelmed by emotions. It's easy for me to keep myself busy throughout the day with my kids, my home, m...	jmc	3	403	Nov 12, 2014 by Fairlee
	The news report changed (Preview) I put this on my first Geez thread and decided that it might be better to start a new thread. As of yesterday's news, the stolen snowplow story got changed to stolen snowplow blades, hydraulic parts and a trailer which seems so much more feasible to me than entire snowplows. Even so, according to the ne...	grateful2be	9	678	Nov 12, 2014 by neshema2
	caffeine vs. alcohol addiction / drunk vs alcoholic (Preview) I have been having a lot of bladder problems lately, and my urologist says I am having bladder spasms from caffeine. I always have one cup of coffee in the morning, but I drink cokes all day long. Apparently, it's the cokes causing my problem. Well, I have cut my coke consumption in half, and I am having te...	cloudyskies	19	909	Nov 12, 2014 by cloudyskies
	Help me intervene??? (Preview) I have a boy of 25 living with me. He grew up with my kids and now rents an extra bedroom from me, But he is like a son to me and doesn't get much (has never gotten) parenting from his actual parents. He is drinking way too much and way too heavily. To black out state several times a week, often accompanied by ra...	Mikeys Mom	7	604	Nov 12, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Today is my so-called anniversary....bad day (Preview) Today AH have been married for 12 years. Not divorced yet...but that's the next step. I find myself angry, sad and really depressed. I just finished working my usual work stretch of 4 days in a row. I will finally say this, as I am not sure if I have already or not...and I just don't think it's a huge deal if I...	Newlife girl	15	675	Nov 12, 2014 by Fairlee
	I am brand new and scared (Preview) I am brand new. I am worried sick about my teen son. He never wants to be home because I know he is out there partying. He just started a job and called out on his 4th day of work. I haven't seen him since Thurs night. But I know where he is. I text and call him all the time but he doesn't usually get back to m...	Mellie	18	989	Nov 12, 2014 by Fairlee
	It's everywhere (Preview) I have a friend that, now that I have moved, lives 1 1/2 miles away. We are old friends, from college. We don't get together a lot because we don't have that much in common, but we do get together occasionally and love each other to death. Much like he's a family member. He's been having back problems, s...	KennyFenderjazz	17	632	Nov 12, 2014 by Fairlee
	the truth of me (Preview) Sometimes ive got a real urge to get to the nitty gritty, to say what isnt really said. To let it out there without the excuses, you know? To shake it up and stir it up. I get restless in the peace. I cant find progress in the peace. I know alanons about taking it slow, or is it really? If we knew freedom was wait...	el-cee	17	595	Nov 12, 2014 by cloudyskies
	Here I sit with many excuses ( 1 2 ) (Preview) Here's the deal: I'm introverted. This means I do little without first looking at "how will this affect me" rather than the extroverted "now what I can I do with this." I have some extroverted friends in program who go dancing every Monday. One of them invited me to meet her l...	grateful2be	50	1183	Nov 12, 2014 by grateful2be
	Can anyone give me guidance on child custody agreement with my alcoholic husband (Preview) I live in NC and at the moment I am only allowing him supervised visitation but for when ever and as long as he wants. He doesn't choose to see her much but lately he has been claiming to be sober by sheer will he still refuses AA or any treatment program. Knowing his plan is to eventually take this to court...	Angelado1976	5	708	Nov 11, 2014 by grateful2be
	Hard to live with a messed up brain (Preview) I read a lot of comments here about the tendencies of the A spouse. They seem to tend to be the unloving one, the nasty one, the one who doesn't appreciate their spouse. In our situation, I seem to be all that. But part of it is because my H is passive. And crazy making. He does things that drive me crazy, and...	oceanpine	2	513	Nov 11, 2014 by hotrod
	nasty Tone of voice (Preview) My dry ah still uses his nasty tone of voice when he speaks to me. how do i get him to stop. I try very hard to stay away from him and he does likewise. We write notes if needed or text but once in a awhile we still need to speak. We are going for mediatation on nov 17th, he will behave in there in front of people. ...	Mirandac	34	1239	Nov 11, 2014 by Mirandac
	Geez! (Preview) We are expecting a lot of snow in our area this week. So...........someone has stolen our Township's snowplows as of tonight's news. How in the world does anybody steal one snowplow let alone ALL the snowplows. I know this has nothing at all to do with alcoholism and yet...this caper is as mind-bog...	grateful2be	20	563	Nov 11, 2014 by grateful2be
	still here, very behind, made it to a F2F (Preview) Hi! I am so behind on the board and there are some very good posts I need to respond too! Ya'll are always so inspiring - I just read and feel better! I went to a F2F meeting last week and I had a funny experience. I parked in the wrong place and went in the wrong meeting (AA meets next door) I am already a very aw...	Fairlee	9	598	Nov 11, 2014 by Breakingfree
	What's wrong with me! (Preview) I'm so tired of myself! Started alanon almost a year ago and it has changed my actions and thoughts, I was so angry and resentful. After figuring out AH was an alcoholic it was a relief to me, it wasn't what I was or wasn't doing, he wasn't choosing to check out of the family, etc. thankfully I didn't grow up...	Kerrymom	10	804	Nov 10, 2014 by Jerry F
	slowly but surely... (Preview) Time is flying so I am getting by. Slowly I am coming around even w/ the pressure on me. I am still waiting for my mom to return. She is waiting for paperwork & a place to stay. Kathleen	Hoot Nanny	4	279	Nov 10, 2014 by cloudyskies
	Celebrating/and Paying it Forward (Preview) I was doing a little reflecting this morning. This month is my six months anniversary with Al-Anon. Lately I have been taking some service responsibilities (chaired our meetings for a month and I'm going around to doctor's office placing Al-Anon literature) and I feel good about myself. While pu...	cloudyskies	15	630	Nov 10, 2014 by cloudyskies
	I don't understand... (Preview) Finishing organising MY bedroom, I put up, on the top of shelve's unit, two photos of my wedding. One is exAH and our daughter when she was 6 months old and the other is a group photo of everyone who attended. So I am here on my computer and I look at the photos now and then. Why? I don't have a clue. I am just all...	Luiza	9	778	Nov 10, 2014 by grateful2be
	His proposal to me (Preview) My AH and I drove to the airport yesterday and he made a proposal to me for how we can handle this divorce. His words? "We do nothing." Umm, say what? He wants us to sell the house and then we both move into our own rentals and he will continue to support 2 households using the proceeds from the...	andromeda	19	846	Nov 10, 2014 by grateful2be
	Resentment, anger, and my life (Preview) First of all, I want to apologize for lurking and reading, yet not sharing. That is unfair to you. But I am trying to feel more comfortable with sharing. So AH is 21 days sober today. We visited him in the facility on Sunday, where he announced that he wanted to go into extended care (another 90 days)...	Collateral Damage	15	810	Nov 10, 2014 by mnkarts2
	Progress not perfection (Preview) Hey Everyone! Hope you are all well. It's been a minute since I have posted anything and just wanted to give an update. Marriage counseling for us is going well, we are so blessed to have a man that has 48 years sobriety and also is well educated in not only addiction, but the affects on the family as well. S...	Flower49	5	372	Nov 10, 2014 by Jerry F
	Living in the now. (Preview) So last week my new landlady/friend said "I've done something naughty Mel. I saw something online I think you'll love so I've ordered it as a little housewarming gift". OK, wow, and awesome, she didn't tell me what it was so I was excited about waiting for a surprise in the mail. Anyway the ot...	missmeliss	5	573	Nov 10, 2014 by grateful2be
	It is snowing.... (Preview) Well actually it is storming..... Cooked some turkey supper and downloaded a book on Kindle called "Betrayal Bond"....kind of excited to relax	Truth	11	495	Nov 10, 2014 by neshema2
	Really!!! If I want to know WHO i am, I gotta be STILL to find out (Preview) Today , I got this really nice video from a recovery mate who forwarded it over to me and I was like "OMG....How timely and how appropriate after my coming out of the closet post" WHO AM I???? I've been asking that...What is my purpose????? been asking that too...Do I even have a life here...	neshema2	4	577	Nov 9, 2014 by Breakingfree
	A million things I think today. (Preview) Let's start with the bullet I dodged. And my very, very deep gratitude for the place I am staying, and the place I am not staying. My mother has been unkind, oh so unkind. I am so, so very glad I did not go there to stay. It has been 11 years now since I stayed there for 2 months after my marriage ended and now I re...	missmeliss	14	752	Nov 9, 2014 by Kerrymom
	Is this my ego? (Preview) I am trying to figure out why I would like AH and I to be able to talk openly about stuff (not alcohol related stuff btw). The fact that we can't means that I keep my barriers up and I am not addressing my 'what would I like to do with my life' questions. Is it just an ego thing on my part (in which case I would wa...	milkwood	12	759	Nov 9, 2014 by milkwood
	Too far to walk (Preview) Tonight I met my daughter and AH at the dog park. I wanted to see her and I also wanted the dogs to get out...he rarely takes them out. So, we met at dog park. On the way back to our vehicles, I asked him which lot he was in. He replied "there's only one right??" my reply "no...there's two&quo...	Newlife girl	3	480	Nov 9, 2014 by Newlife girl
	bring On step 6.....yay! (Preview) I just caught myself smiling and exhaling. Tried something new last night. The impossible to get rid of a did his a thing last nite, only a bit more in my face,with some girl in the background but you know he never cheats,and only logs onto Ashley Madison cos he's curious about how the system works,and bl...	aquamom23	6	458	Nov 8, 2014 by Jerry F
	New to site and new to Al Anon (Preview) Hello all, I am new to this site and a new member of Al Anon. Thank you, tucanojk	tucanojk	2	258	Nov 8, 2014 by mjferg
	New to site... (Preview) Hello, I am new to this site and new to Al Anon. I am on my road to recovery. Thank you, tucanojk	tucanojk	2	247	Nov 8, 2014 by neshema2
	Been a while... Just a update (Preview) Gawh, I miss you folks! I have spent a little time reading some post over the last few months, but haven't really been able to "plug in" and reply to them because by the time I get here, I am wiped out from a day of work, an evening of meeting, spending time with sponsees, being present and available in a rel...	John	14	833	Nov 8, 2014 by neshema2
	Whose responsibility is it? (Preview) Recently, I received an insurance premium notice in the mail for auto insurance. I read the Declarations page and discovered I was being charged for insurance I didn't need (loss of wages) since I'm now retired. I e-mailed my agent about it. No response. I called him about it. No response. I e-m...	grateful2be	16	677	Nov 8, 2014 by neshema2
	Daughter in car accident!!! (Preview) I lived through my worst nightmare last night!! My eldest adult daughter got in a head on collision yesterday. She called me right after it happened before she called 911. She was crying and asked me to get her kids. I freaked!!! I was so scared. I went to get the three grandchildren and headed to ho...	Hullibee	22	786	Nov 8, 2014 by Jerry F
	Friday's are rough (Preview) I see my therapist on Thursday,and we uncover more stuff,I talked about some things that happened when I was a child and she gives me another book to read,this one is about shame.I was never good enough and I never pleased my father.My mom and I used to go hunt for him at bars,but I was the bad kid, really!!...	mjferg	6	623	Nov 8, 2014 by PP
	Fell off the horse then got back on (Preview) Yesterday I felt very depressed and lonely. I couldn't stop crying and kept thinking how much I was missing him. Today I gave in and talked to him. It was the best thing I could have done because I realised within a very short space of time that I had made the right decision to leave. He was drinking while we...	rainbow	11	735	Nov 8, 2014 by pinkchip
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