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Tonight I met my daughter and AH at the dog park. I wanted to see her and I also wanted the dogs to get out...he rarely takes them out. So, we met at dog park. On the way back to our vehicles, I asked him which lot he was in. He replied "there's only one right??" my reply "no...there's two" he relied "oh...that one over there...well, that one is too far to walk."
thank you HP for your nuggets of wisdom that are showing me differences between me and my husband that are really eye opening.
I have no problem with walking a long way...I had just walked all day long at work...i was exhausted and this comment bothered me so much. One of many reasons why he and i cannot be together. Some reasons are huge, some are small but very bothersome.
NLG, my A is not the person I married anymore either. It's not just the drinking, it's the whole change in his personality from the drinking. We have nothing in common anymore. Like you said, it's not even big things that bother me but rather it's a whole lot of small things. When I think about this, it wasn't one big thing that killed our marriage either but a whole lot of small resentments over the years that every time killed a piece of my love for him until there was none left. I don't know the person who lives with me now, but I do know there is very little about him to like.
I hear you Spur. I ignored a lot of things until I couldn't ignore them anymore. Thanks to Al anon and my family and my sponsor, I found the strength to leave him. I keep seeing and hearing reminders of why I left. Oh...and my HP has helped me a lot by opening my eyes and getting me out of denial.
