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I lived through my worst nightmare last night!! My eldest adult daughter got in a head on collision yesterday. She called me right after it happened before she called 911. She was crying and asked me to get her kids. I freaked!!! I was so scared. I went to get the three grandchildren and headed to hospital. It's 40 miles from our house. It took an hour to get there. I called AH to tell him and he was drunk. I didn't go get him because he was drinking. I knew daughter wouldn't be happy if he showed up drunk.
Well he came anyway. He had gf drive him there. I screamed that she was not to come anywhere near family. I cannot believe he had the nerve to come with her. Thankfully she did not come in the hospital just dropped him off. is this an indication of what my life will be now?? A crisis occurs and he shows up drunk with gf. The grand kids were there and had to see him drunk. I'm sick over the accident and now I have to deal with him running to bathroom to puke.
Daughter is doing ok. She has a neck brace and bruises and bumps. She did go home last night. I cannot believe they didn't keep her for observation one night. After having lost one daughter to a car accident this was déjà vu .. I didnt think I would ever live through a nightmare like this again.
If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Oh, my! Thank goodness her injuries did not result in brain damage, organ damage or worse. I can certainly understand what a terror-filled time this must have been for you and especially for her and her children. Sorry her Dad was drunk and incapable of tending to her in anyway that would be comforting for her, I would think. Glad you were only an hour away, too. She obviously knew who to call first for help - her Momma.
You have my prayers. Hopefully this is NOT an indication of how your life will be from now on. You can and will change that I am sure, but it will take time. This too shall pass. In the meanwhile, we will keep praying for you and your daughter.
Oh My!!!! so so sorry this happened, but glad she is gonna be ok...I cannot even imagine losing a child, that has to be the world's worst.....so sorry sending you peace energy by the bucket and also healing thoughts and energy to daughter....yea, hospitals are "drive through" now..unless it is by pass surgery, they get you in and out as fast as possible
please take care of you......IN SUPPORT
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
Thank you all. Assets and gratitude lists sound like a good idea. All I'm doing is crying. The shock of the whole incident is brining up feelings. I appreciate all the hugs and prayers.
increasing my time in meetings and staying open in conversations with people in recovery has always been helpful in times of crisis. You have had some intense experiences recently...
While we send prayers for you and your family you must also. Go easy on yourself Mom this really is an emergency that is turning out more positive for all and beyond your management skills. HP is there...really there...as the 2nd step says, "attempting to restore you to sanity". During crises like this remembering what Dr. Bob says in the AA BB "...and I have come to believe that ACCEPTANCE IS THE SOLUTION TO ALL OF MY PROBLEMS..." I used that often my own alcoholic/addicts were acting like a horse's ass because they had decided to morph with alcohol. Specially glad the grand-children as safe and being cared for..."for these are our flowers and bring us joy". (((hugs)))
