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Here I go again. This time it is not my father, sister, or husband. It's my grandchild's alcoholic custodial father who insists she must return to him. My grandchild has run away now for the third time etc. You all know that story. My grandchild has come to me this time. My heart can't send her back to him. Father's custodial papers say I have to.
I am trying to reason with the alcoholic father (stop laughing). I finally told him I can't discuss any of this anymore until he gets sober. Wow, you should see this guys bag of tricks he is pulling out to get us al involved in his "circle talk".
I feel I'm getting weaker and need some alanon support for strength. My next meeting isn't until tomorrow morning and I have to listen/read his say nothing yakking all day.
It is Higher Power time and maybe past Higher Power time. It is thru HP that miracles and magic happen. I've always received a better outcome trusting HP and HP's will and works. It seems you know much at the moment...Trust it...work it. In support. Keep coming back. (((((hugs)))))
HP gave us a "delete" button on our email readers as well, and on/off switch for our computers and phones. I know using them has saved my serenity in similar circumstances.
I don't know the age of your grandchild? I do think you can petition the courts for temporary custody of her if you have adequate documentation of what he is doing that contributes to her desire to run away and its not just that she doesn't want to do what is expected of her or follow house rules? I'm not sure where her Mom is in this story? I don't remember the details about her if you've shared them.
I love Kenny's response because it was one of my own realization back when I was being raised by the Al-Anon Family Groups. They taught me it was okay to use the "off" button and that it only took my finger and the willingness to change...Yay...thanks Kenny!! And the imagining of you pouring more gas on the problem also gave me a knee jerk reaction the other way because Damn I use to do that thinking I was putting the fire out. I didn't know and didn't know that I didn't know about the disease of alcoholism even when I was born and raised in it. Go slow Sister...use your back up and HP and the ability to slow down taking a better look at things. In support. (((((hugs)))))
thanks Kenny. Can you believe it, I didn't think of that. Good thing I reached out to you all. I don't want to think about what I may have been doing this afternoon. Instead, I read "just for today" a million times, read Courage to Change and One day at a Time in Al-Anon, and took a nap :)
