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Wednesday A.m Meeting June 29th
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i will not be able to chair tommorow morning as i am visiting a friend thanks ill replace someone this week later in the week
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Need help!
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Hi All,
I'm new to the board and I'm hoping you all can guide me in the right direction.
I'm far from new to Alcholism, my Mom is recovering, sober for over 9 years (Thank God). My newest problem is with my Sister-in-Law (my husbands sister). I love her dearly, she's like the sister I nev...
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prayers please
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Hi gang, I noticed we hadn't heard from jj for awhile, so I emailed her to see if she was ok. It was so unlike her not to be here cheering us all on, compforting anyone who needed it. She is living with her parents right now, so doesn't have access to a computor.
I know a lot of us tend to isolate when we're goi...
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cbd
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Hi cbd,
You said you were leaving again. When are you going and when will you be back? I really miss you when you are gone you have been so much help to me. If you can while your gone you could email me at ItsmeTC88@aol.com. It would be very helpfu...
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how do i hand over completely
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I am a very grateful member of this programme and i have had great experiences ever since joining al fews years ago. However i have my driving test comimg up next week and this will be my fourth attempt i have prayed about it and i thought i had completely handed over this situation to...
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hopeful
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how important is it? message
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This morning I was reading, and a little quote caught my eye. I'd like to share with you.
"If you get this upset when you burn the toast, how will you feel when the house burns down?"
It just got me thinking of how I react somedays when a little something goes wrong. Maybe next time I'll sa...
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frog in the water
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Frog In The Water
A few years back, there was a story going around the 12-step rooms about a frog in the water. It goes like this: If you put a frog into a pan of boiling water, it will jump out faster than the eye can see. But if you put the frog into a pan of water that is the frog's body temperature and then sl...
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Suppport as needed
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Hello, I am new to this group. My husband is an A. I love him so dearly. He is a great man. Even when drinking he would never hurt me or our children. He just gets quiet for the most part and acts like a clammed shell fish. He will forget things I tell him, or say that I never told him. But aside from all that I can d... >
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Angel
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Are you telling yourself the truth?
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So often we get on automatic pilot in our lives where we don't really challenge the things we say to ourselves.
When you look at the world and you talk to yourself about what's going on, you trust yourself. You just assume that you would tell yourself the truth. But, you need to stop and ask, are you givi...
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elizabeth
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Advice Needed
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This is the first time I've ever done anything like this.. and it feels a little awkward.
My father is an alcoholic. He always has been but in the last two years things have gotten out of control. We were on the verge of losing everything and moved to GA to get a fresh start. Well, things aren't working ou...
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Muddling Through
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Hi all,
This week has definetly tested my will. I spent alot of it angry and frustrated, then on Thursday night I go bowling, for me, my night out. My a came home in an ugly mood, I started a conversation with him about something that happened at work, that set h...
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Back home
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Hey All!!
TLC you are so sweet!!!! Thank you all for your loving support and prayers. My health is still on the better side of what it was but yes some symptoms have come back which I was well aware was a possibility but hoped that it would not. :( I did finally here back from my Doctor...
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What to do when religion topic comes up?
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Hello friends,
I am under the understanding that we are not to discuss religion or politics in the chat room. I am not sure how to handle this when several people decide to get into a discussion. I did try to say we don't discuss religion or politics here but was taken as being pushy by myself and another...
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Drinking at home
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I would like some advice about my A drinking at home. He goes down in the basement every night - usually after 11 PM. and gets drunk. I hate it. Of course my nagging about it hasn't helped. He says at least he's not at the bar. In some ways I agree. I used to stay up all night wonderi...
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suzee
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moving day
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I signed the lease today and will move my clothes and bike into the apartment tomorrow. I will buy an aero bed - inflatable bed to sleep on until my furniture gets delivered.
I let myself cry as I left my new place
Just for a few moments
14 years is a long time.
Thanks to all who held my hand...
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megan
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Yosemite Summit Conference....getting closer
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Hi all, just reminding you that if your thinking about coming to the Yosemite Conference with us, or if you just want more info on it, you should email Jim at ysc@sti.net . Next week my home group and the AA group will be stuffing flyers and sending them out to those on the list!!!!!!!!!&nbs...
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TUESDAY A.M. MEETING
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I am unable to honor my commitment to chair the meeting for tomorrow morning as I need to pick my sister up at the airport. Hoping someone will step up and chair for me and I thank you in advance.
Shimo (Jeri)
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shimo
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when to ask questions
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My A is in recovery, or so he says, I am having trouble believing him. He finished a 30 day rehab and is home now. He has had 2 relapses and the contract was that he will have to find another place to live if it happens again. He was open about the relapses he had, but now I think he will hid a...
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maka
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Leaving again on Wednesday
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Hello friends,
I will be leaving to be with my mom on Wednesday. My dad is traveling to Arizona with my uncle to get my parent's belongings. My parents recently moved from Arizona to North Dakota to be closer to me because of their failing health. My mom has alzheimers so I will be w...
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cdb
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Be a sign
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Hi (((everyone))),
I was listening to a person speak yesterday on the radio and this person said something that was like finally putting that light fixture in that dark closet that I've been dealing with and thinking about for so long.
I know in my own case, when I first sta...
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david62
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he's lying
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I have never caught my A husband lying to me before. He has always been truthful in the past. I know that that sounds niave but I know when he's been drinking just by looking at him. He never denied it before, until last night. He asked me why I thought that he had been drinking. I told him I could smell it. He l...
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whitie
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What did he really say?
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My wonderful recovering A of a husband moved out June 1. I cried and then painted the inside of the house. I have every instruction book out trying to figure out how the computer, television, chainsaw, etc. works. My husband would never show me or the boys how to be self sufficient. Not a problem, I calle...
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nmike
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Reason Season Or a Lifetime
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People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
>When you
> > know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person.
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kerry5
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I'm so grateful
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hey guys
i am so grateful for all of you. reading all of your posts gave me lots of ideas and reminded me to go back to my program. After i posted, i decided to walk on my treadmill and take a shower and i felt better. i prayed and thought of all of the things i was grateful for and it helpe...
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Thoughts to live by....
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Maybe God wanted us to meet the wrong people before meeting the right one so that when we finally meet the right person, we will know how to be grateful for that gift. Maybe when the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one which has...
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elizabeth
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Moments in Life
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There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real! When the door of happiness closes, another opens; but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don't see the one, which has been opened for us. Don't go for looks; they c...
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it's been so hard
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Hi all,
I've posted before about the trials and tribulations of my binge drinking hubby who went to rehab and now has relapsed in a way that is unimaginable. I think he drank for nearly a week straight (his own words) and he cried on the phone to me that he never did anything like that before and he...
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Thanks to Isabela
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Wow!!
You brought up some very relavent points in a clear well-thought -out way and I thank you. You are right about me taking care of me and I am scared that he will turn on me if he finds out. Thanks for understanding that point. But I also have no where to go and no money. My fa...
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STRUGGLING WITH REALITY
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Few of us intentionally refused to see the reality of our lives or the circumstances in which we find ourselves.But the truth is that most of us have indeed done so. In alanon we eventually come to see the many ways we had unknowingly blocked out a whole segments of our past and present. We recognize situ...
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Step Three
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Made a desicion to turn our will and lives over to the care of God as we understand Him.
I am going on my third step and I wonder how as a parent I will turn my will and live over to God. What as a parent is my will? I have to make desicions and take action or he will walk all over me(my son). How do I tell the differ...
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Sat 6/25/05 Evening Meeting
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I need to appologize in advance... I have had some personal issues come up and will not be able to chair the meeting tonight... I hope that someone else can step forward and take the chair....
Again Sorry for the short notice....
Bob
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Dori
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How are you doing sweetheart? I have been thinking and praying for
you and yours. Wish I could throw you a rope and pull you out, but then
that would not be good either huh?
I know we have to do things ourselves, but I want you to know, if I
were there, I would do whatever I could. But here I am in Oreg...
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debilyn
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Serenity Growing and Growing
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Hi all, Well here I sit, or am squashed by two Basset hounds, an English Bulldog
and a huge orange cat. Trying to type with marshmallow all over my fingers...
I was looking around my living room, and feeling the wonderful calm atmosphere.
Does not mean the world is not putting obstacles in fron...
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cdb
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HI dear, just wanted to thank you for asking for prayers. You are very thoughtful,
and cute too!! (c:
I can't seem to connect real well right now. Limbo is hard.
My son and daughter have been great. Mac, my son, is moving back down here. He
already has a good job here. The old boss up in Wa. told...
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Lost.....
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I am sitting here feeling totally lost in this crazy life style. I am debating whether to just end our marriage. Seems like the drinking is getting worse and my A refuses to admit to the problem and truly believes our marriage is great. I know I owe it to our daughter to give her the upb...
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I feel like c!#p
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Hey,
I just need to get some of this pain out. i feel so all alone and pitifuland like I'm just sick and tired and sick and tired of it. Where do i find the motivation to do all this all the time It's like I can't get out of the funk to do it anymore. i don't do it right. and i'm drowni...
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something is terribly wrong with me
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Hey,
Have you ever felt like a piece of furntire.I am working through some tuff stuff and I am single mom receltly lost my job and people in my lfie igonre me they say it is cause they dont know what to say.
I post on alanon they say I got alot og anger and bitterness I try to tone that d...
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dori
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Prayers , please, grieving family
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HI you guys
I am here to please ask for prayers for a family and dear friend who are deeply grieving the sudden loss of a beautiful , loving , blythe spirit ....a 36 yr old mother of 2, daughter, sister, co worker , friend and beloved one.
A lady named mistee was called home to God last Saturday in...
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Feeling anger, etc. at your A?
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This is just a tip I thought I would share that helps me. When I am feeling a particular emotion with my spouse (anger, frustration, bitterness, resentment, etc.), I let myself feel that feeling, acknowledge that feeling, that that emotion is real. : (  ...
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slipping
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I don't know what is going on with me right now. I am getting that I'm too busy for Al-anon attitude. I think it is because there is nicer weather and I want to just enjoy it but then again I sit around a lot doing nothing.
I am very frustrated with myself. I find myself finding some rea...
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holly123
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Learning to be a humble person
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Hello friends,
I am working on being a more humble person. I need feedback on how you think a person can be more humble. I did look up the definition in the dictionary and am going with the one on not being arrogant etc. This is related to step 7 too. I know of some humble people but some of them are humble&n...
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Prayers for Debilyn please
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Hello friends,
Debilyn posted below. She is having a biopsy soon to see if she has breast cancer. I myself have had my own situation with breast cancer. I am asking for major continuous prayers for her. I believe in the power of prayer. Please read her post if you haven't yet and let's start a prayer cha...
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cdb
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Beer, Daughter, Cabin :(
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Hello friends,
These alcoholics sure struggle :( I have so much compassion for my daughter. She has been so quiet. Last night she asked if she could take my car for a drive later in the evening. I said yes but how long will you be gone? She said about a half an hour. Well, I had been a little co...
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cdb
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Who's right really? The alcoholic or the non-alcoholic...
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This is a reply to another post on this borad and I thought I'd share it with everyone because this is something I've often thought about.... After all, who are we to say what is right or wrong for another person? Just because one hits bottom doesn't mean that it is not what God intends to hap...
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Alanon has but one purpose>>>
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The Alanon family groups are a fellowship of relatives and friends of alcoholics who share their experience , strength and hope, in order to solve their common problems. We believe alcoolism is a family illness and that chaged attitudes can aid recovery.
Alanon is not allied with any sect, denomi...
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gardengal
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Starting over
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Good morning everyone...My A is away on a business trip for 3 days, so I'm trying to do some special ME time for a couple of days...but life keeps getting in the way.
By the way, at 2:30 am yesterday, my newest grandson was born, weighing over 9 pounds! What a gift and a blessing for his health.
I...
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Belongtome
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Sitting with "bad" feelings
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Hello,
I have a couple of situations that are getting to me. I took off last night from work because I am getting so sick of the bs. I am fortunate to have a good paying job w/benefits but it is 3rd shift and I have to work weekends. Day jobs are scarce. I bid...
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Family Deception
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I found out this week that my childrens father, whom I have now been divorced from for 9 years almost, in which the time we had been married was so emotionally, mentally, and physically abusive has been a cocaine dealer for many years, even when we were together.... What most upsets me abo...
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bitterness my AMENDS
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Hey,
Some said they read my post to browneyes and said they couldnt bleive all the hate and bitterness in me.I felt bad I thought oh my what did I say I went back to the post .I read it and I stand on it.But I also know their is some truth in what she said to me.I did ask my God my father to help me deal with...
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kis
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Kis,
I am not sure of your whole name thanks for the reponse to my last post.I read all the posts and they were helpful.But i personally want to thank you for yours I read it and I cried and i cired you got it , you understood you heard me thank you.
I am going to do that and write down all the things&n...
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dori
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Thoughts on My Anniversary
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Thoughts on My Anniversary Just as today is the first day of Summer filled with bright sunshine my heart is filled with a new brightness and joy, that I thought would never exist again. Today is my Al-Anon anniversary. Two years in this Program. All I can say it is truly a magical program. It has changed a...
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lildee
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Enabling or not?
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Hello everyone. I'm new here but am old time relapsing co-dependent and should probably do an intro post but I've got a pressing issue I really need some feedback on.
On May 1st, I made the HUGE!!! mistake of letting my active A bf come live with me. I thought I was helping him save money so he could do t...
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Hi all, long time no here...
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My son is doing okay. He is struggling but okay. He has a court date for shop lifting and is paying off a traffic ticket… 20 mph over the limit… a dollar mile over. Biggest prize… he knows what he owns now. He is working hard. He is catching up on bills, making his car payments to me, moving in with very nice yo...
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richard
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anyone from the uk?
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IS THERE ANYBODY HERE THAT POSTS FROM THE UK?
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melanieL
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Sleepless in Arizona
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I havn't done this one in at least a year. Last night my mind was not off my daughter and her son. I need to hear from some Meth using in recovery. I know it happens, but right now I do not know anything. Does anyone hold any recovery out their, over Meth using? Yes, all ad...
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kb
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I made it to my parent's cabin :)
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Hello friends,
I am here in Canada and it is beautiful here! My daughter is still sleeping. Mom is golfing and dad is at the clubhouse. I posted about my trip here so far under Richard's post. I am so happy to be here with my daughter :) She hasn't been here since the year 2000. Before that we use to come her...
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cdb
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Please help
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Hi everybody, I need some help.
I have been going back in forth in my mind on what to do in my situation for a couple of days now. My husband almost drove me, my two kids, and my mother-in-law into a wall last night because he was falling asleep at the wheel. I begged him to let me drive. ...
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browneyes
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New to Board: Hurt a friend
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Hi:
I have been in Alanon for 8.5 years. My husband got his 7 year chip last week from AA. I have a friend who is an alchoholic and addict. He was clean when I met him. Told me he was "hardcore" but of course, I never believed it. He went out after 18 months clean: drinking...
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sugarbird
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How do you know it's too much?
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Augh - I am so confused. My husband drinks. His family members are drinkers. I drink some, but at this point pretty much gave it up as it seems to be the right thing to do. Every get together with his family there is drinking going on.(this is almost weekly at this point) ...
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Wishful
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amends
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Hello gang,
I remember when I got the call from the ex a after he was in recovery on his maneds to me .It went like this Hi this is ,,,,I am sorry for all I did have a good day.At first that made me so angry and people in the program suggested I go to a aa meeting so I went to a couple and it angered me more I h...
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dori
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