Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

wggk · wggk

Hi, I just joined this message board the other day, thought I'd post an intro. I've already posted in the ACA board as well. I am married to an A, for 13 years now. Hubby is getting worse, so of course I am feeling more and more desperate. Right now I'd like nothing more to just end this marraige b...

Barbara · Barbara

Last week I quit Curves, then I didnt go to Church. This entire week Ive been thinking of quitting AlAnon. Thinking maybe its actually holding me back from going forward with my relationship with A husband. Planning on returning a book I borrowed from an AlAnon friend tomorrow morn just in case I dont r...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Family)))) I just found out that a young friend of ours who has been battling Lukemia is prognosis has been dropped to 2 wks to 2 months. He just finished a bone marrow transplant and things were looking very good. His parents and all of us really are just devistated. He is 18 years...

peanutb · peanutb

help me to pray that God's will is the correct will. help me to let it go. she'd rather visit her friends in arizona, california, new york, whereever. i don't want to drinki over it, but i have to stop crying. i haven't done anything. any suggestions? i've joined a gym, to work out my frustrations, i go to m...

bobump · bobump

Well I was served a huge dose of acceptance yesterday. Got a call the day before that my wife was do to discharge as insurance ran out. I bust my butt to see what I can do but then hit brick wall after brick wall. Yesterday, I call and my A is enroute home. I attempt a restraining order and can't get on...

debilyn · debilyn

A is in Jail dui's. I finally had to go see him to get his power of attorney signed so I can get his stuff from his moms house. Mom is in nursing home now, heading to assisted living. A very good thing. Meth daughter is being evicted from mil's house, good thing. My mil's friend tried to get cloths from mi...

Diva · Diva

As many of you know, and now all of you do, my name is Sandy. Several have messaged me to ask if I am the same Sandy who posts here using that name. One or two have mentioned that while we don't sound like the same person, the name causes a bit of wonder. "Sandy" is not that uncommon. I am actually Alexandra, sh...

Miranda · Miranda

Hi everybody. Well as you know, things have kinda sucked lately. Well I finally have some really good news. I gained custody of all three of my brothers and sisters! I'm so happy and excited. We can all finally have some stability. Anyway just thought I'd let everyone know! Mir

tea2 · tea2

I wish to share with the Just For Today approach. After reading a few posts here seems some have been down lately –I see a few members are noticing and sharing as a result. Hmmm... I’m trying with this new way of thinking lately that no matter how crummy a situation is for that day -to think happy thoug...

peewee · peewee

Problem: when I edit my info on map, my marker goes away!! What do I do now? Thank you, peeps.... Peewee

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My A has clearly made some good progress in the last couple of days. He's attended meetings every evening since Tuesday. He said last night he feels this time is different for him. He said he feels very welcomed by the other people, which before he felt awkward like he didn't fit int...

tippergirl · tippergirl

I am full of worry. I need prayers and positive thoughts that I my find comfort through this trying time. I don't want to go into details, but I too am praying for God's, comfort, wisdom, and mercy for both my a and myself. Thanks in advance.

afmom03 · afmom03

Hi Everyone!!!

It's been a LONG TIME Since I've posted here!! I couldn't remember my pass word!! <LOL> I finally found it in the back of my "secret journal" I started months ago, but fell away from it. It's been hidden in the closet for a few months now. ( GRRRRRRRR )!!! But I was still able to r...

Jayda · Jayda

Well, after being missing for 3 months, my brother has finally shown up back at my mom's. He is extremely unhealthy. He's been doing crack, meth, using needles. He's about as close to death as you can possibly be without actually being dead. He is so skinny and probably only weighs about 8...

Tammy · Tammy

I am sad today... Just a few days ago i wrote about how i was feeling numb. Well, today I am sad.. Not sobbing sad, but just blue sad .. ( you know the difference ) .. I guess it is part of this roller coaster we are on .. I think we should seperate again, that scares me but i know it is the right thing.. My...

KathyS · KathyS

I receive a daily reading an Al Anon site. I felt todays fit so well with the recent thread on clarification about MIP that I wanted to share it. ~~~~~~~~~~ Today's thought is: I can live for two months on a good compliment. -- Mark Twain Newcomer At a meet...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Good Morning All, Even though I have filed for divorce, and am ready to follow through there is this fantasy in my head of my AH finding recovery and living happily ever after together. I am afraid of the pain I will feel when this does not happen. Why I believe this will not happen was confirmed last n...

Taylor · Taylor

I am a fairly new to Al Anon, been joining the chat rooms but never really posted here or attended a f2f. During an online chat last night, I asked folks is it normal or common for your A to be nasty to your family (meaning my siblings/parents). It was a rough week for me this week...

sandy · sandy

Hi Everyone It's been a long time since I posted, December I think. It's been a rough year. My husband of 38 years just passed away 3 weeks ago. I could see it coming because he was so short of breath. He smoked 2-3 packs a day, more when he drank. He was also an "...

Emafer · Emafer

OK so last week I set a boundary with my roomate. She kind of crossed my line and the folowwing morning I left her a message saying basically "When you don't respect my boundaries it makes me feel insignificant and stepped on." So ever since the entire incident happened I've been obsessing about it. It D...

nikkilou · nikkilou

Hi roomies, I have a question. My husband and I have been in a malpractice trail for the past two weeks. I did not lie. I put all my faith in God. Let go and let God. Well they came back today in the doctors favor not ares. I'm still crying and feeling out of control. ...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Is it normal to start healing, quit obsessing, completely detach and then question your love for your A? My husband came to the house to meet with a lawyer regarding our "landlord". He was laying on the couch, and I went up to him and touched his leg, and said "hey you!" We were like...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i was reading some posts and i have been noticing lately the PAIN , all OVER the world...like people just being SAD!!!!! i thought of my Ex and the good we had together, not just the bad....he was a sweet guy, funny as hell, and an alkie who did not want reco...

lebe27 · lebe27

In case anyone is interested noticed that Dr. Phil has a primetime special on tonight about surviving addiction. It is on CBS at 8 pm EST. Looks to be about a couple dealing with the effects of alcoholism. Something I would like to watch anyway. Not sure how I wi...

hudsond · hudsond

Last night I had such a horrible attitude!! I was so angry with my ah. Not much was different. He came home and had been drinking, but he was not drunk. I was just so frustrated and hurt. After the way he was talking the night before I shouldn't have been surprised. I trie...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I responded to a topic started by angelnomore yesterday, the subject was relating to FEAR I immediately heard BELLS going off in my head...my soon to be ex-husband, who is not my A but he is an a'hole, once told me "Fear is a great motivator." He is right. FEAR has motivated me to do the following.......

sunny123 · sunny123

Some of you know I have been dealing with finals, accepting my husband is an A, his forced separation, etc. I have been so scared and shocked at the rug being pulled out from under me. 3 months ago I never would have thought me and my husband would be getting a separation. I was in it for the long haul and thou...

confused · confused

I wanted to take the opportunity to thank those or you who replied with the gentleness and kindness that I have come to so appreciate in Al-Anon. To those of you who took the time to PM me, I am grateful. I do believe that I did receive the clarification that I needed in order to "take what I like and...

Lanchas · Lanchas

Last year I learned the concept of detachment. For me it means knowing when the A is talking and being able to decipher whether it is the A talking or the person themselves. An example is if your mom is the A when your mom says something being able to decipher whether it is the A in her talking or the mother in...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I have decided to release my fears, depend on my God, set myself free and let my A go. I had not spoken to him in 10 days, had not seen him in 14, yesterday I saw and spoke to him 4 seperate times. It did not satisfy me. I felt humiliated every time. The things he said to me were degrading...here is some of it...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))), I got a friendly reminder that I have not posted much lately... the question: how are things? Well.... things are better, for me at least. This is the time of year when things are typically better, but I am trying not to dwell on that and just enjoy. We have b...

confused · confused

Not really sure where I am today. Sometimes I am so sure that I want to reconcile with my AH and then fear kicks in. I have had some great awarenesses lately... My AH is a good man, he is a supportive husband. == I can think back over the years all the times he told me that I was goo...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

My A is going on day number 3 sober. He reconnected with some old AA friends last night and found the home group that he feels will give him the most support. I am going to my meeting tonight as well. The last couple of days I have been really looking at myself and what I want for my life...

QOD · QOD

Roller Coaster Roller Coaster, Where is the End? My son called me yesterday @ 5:00 just as I was leaving work to tell me that his dad was home & could take him to karate so I didn't have to rush. I told my son to give him the phone. When he got on, I asked where he had been. He claimed that had gone jo...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi everyone, I recently sent a PM to a new member who thought maybe she was in the wrong place. Her husband is in recovery and she wants her marriage to work. She had stated that it seemed that the message on this board was to dump him. I sent her a PM and she said that she wished someone would post a simila...

nycbt · nycbt

Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Phone number is 1-888-425-2666 Alanon meetings 800-351-9996 Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666 Alanon meeting info. 800-433-...

moonbeam · moonbeam

Having a bad night tonight. My husband is an off and on drinker. Tonight was on. I really feel that I don't love him anymore. He makes my life a lot easier becuase he helps with the kids, house, everything. But he does not fulfill my needs emotionally, spiritually, or otherwise. He is a good father, and I d...

DoN4me · DoN4me

In my meeting tonight learned a few things. First I learned about fun and how much I had missed it. For me it was a time when I didn't have a "headache to keep me down". Before I left for my meeting in the car I was thinking "HALT = am I hungry, angry, lonely, tired". I was angry before I left the...

Tazz · Tazz

Hi all, I guess I sould start off by saying I am new to the Al-Anon group. A good friend has been shareing her experiances and encouraging me to attend. I went to a confrence, and I really enjoyed it. I thought that Al-Anon may be the starting point I was looking for. After a very rough couple of days, I got up...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

(((Hello Group))) So much has happened in the last couple of days. I'm exhausted but trying to stay focused on myself. I'll make this as short as possible. My A came home drunk on Sunday night from his new job and decided to call the girl he was seeing while we were separated. ...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

OK, so now I understand what I've heard from others that "relapse is a part of recovery." In our case it's a big part, bigger than I thought it would be. My A (daughter, age 23) relapsed for the second time since completing a 31-day inpatient program at the end of March. The first relapse put her in c...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

I didn't get a chance to really talk tonight at the meeting got in there late. Been a few weeks since I have made an online meeting. I stayed a little in the room after the meeting. I listened to alot of things that were said. The thing is this. I am Grateful everyday for who I am now that I have this pr...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

OK So I caved. I called him, he SUPRISED me by answering on the second ring. He told me he loves me, maybe not in the way that I love him, but HE loves me. I told him I was leaving work and would stop by and see him...he said no. I said I am already 2 blocks from your house...he said he was leaving. He must ha...

flintfeet · flintfeet

welll...i gave in!!! i have not spoken to my dad in 6 months b/c i found out that he started drinking again. he WAS a wonderful father & papaw. then the drinking got in the way. he became a different person. definitely not the man i remember and not the man i want my kids to see growing up. for my...

Jennfer32 · Jennfer32

Tonight, a woman came to my house and presented me with a lawyer's card. A group of people leasing homes from our landlord are meeting tomorrow to fight a new lease that discriminates against anyone with children and under the age of 55. My name is not on the lease, so I made a decision...a C...

jecy · jecy

I keep trying, and my A keeps bringing me down. i try to seperate, but she wont let me go in my life, she calls and gives everyone a hard time that i know, but if i try to talk to her i'm a retched human being. years before i found "here" and i'm new, i knew everything was wrong. all i wanted to do was get awa...

lila · lila

Thank you all for reading this essay in advance. I have been a browser on this forum for around 2 weeks now and am finding inspiration in even the darkest of places and it may sound weird but i enjoy reading your shares as it helps me look at things in my life in a different way. I’d like to share my (abr...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), It's been a tough week for us. I almost forced A to leave on Wednesday because he's drinking more so than usual. But I walked away for a few hours and comforted a friend instead. We both kept each other from crying. A was going to away for a few days to see his k...

QOD · QOD

AH = Crack & Alcohol Addiction = My Misery!!! He is gone again. Get this: He disappeared from 5/3 - 5/11, at which time he landed himself in the hospital. He called his mom for help, who reluctantly helped him and swares she won't again. (She refuses to enable him). He stayed @ his gra...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Then he shows me Hello Roomies, Last night was a bit scary for me. I was at the meeting here and feeling just fine. At 6:30pm I started to hurt, so I left the meeting and laid down on the couch. I then started to get really really cold. I went and got a blanket and went back to the couch. I just kept getting c...

serendipity · serendipity

my 3 year old told me today that her dad loves her. i said yes he does (hasn't seen him in 3 months). she said he should come here to our house. the she asked if he is with jesus. i told her no grandpa is with jesus. she said dad loves me and her sisters. i said yes he does. then i was talking to my mother (hasn't spo...

sarahlm · sarahlm

Yesterday I posted that my AH wanted a divorce. People wrote me back and i felt okay, had a good day planned, and then he called back to say he was just stressed and not to listen to anything he said. Experience tells me thats what usually happens with him but still... How irritating and abusive,...

sparkette · sparkette

I admit I am brand new to the practice of meditation. I just wanted to share a little of my experience as I am sure there are plenty others out there who are curious about meditation. The gift that I have found immediately in meditating is that it has helped me profoundly in relaxing and calming myself. I w...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Thank you all so much for you love and support when I asked hubby to leave this past Friday. It's been an okay weekend. I pretty much worked, and that helped to pass the time. I was phyically and emotionally spent when I came home last night...

jennneeefffurrr · jennneeefffurrr

I am still in my office, no clients, not working, just in group and in my own sick twisted mind. I actually saw a funeral procession and said to myself "lucky". OMG I dont want to be dead! I forget sometimes that I am a meaningful worthwhile person. Then I started fantasizing that I would be in a...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I was sleeping last night. When I got one of those "headaches" that don't stop the kind that got tired of all the "ABUSE". So I got up and took some medicine to fix it. I told a few of my friends months ago about these headaches and how I was tired of them and it was getting way out of hand. But no on...

kent_s · kent_s

I've been to many AA meetings with my sweetie, my AW. One last year keeps coming back to mind, over and over. When we entered the large room, I noticed over to one side a young adult with a laptop computer. I noticed later he seemed to be typing in what was being said, and the person next to him was reading wha...

shimo · shimo

Hi Rose, Just wanted to let you know my e-mail with the recipes bounced back to me today with the following notation "unable to deliver message to recipient, due to being unable to connect successfully to the destination mail server." Will try again! wondering if the e-mail box may be full...

angelnomore · angelnomore

(Ouch) feels like advice with a back hand to it, “shopping list quality”, hum never thought of it that way. Personally I thought I was communicating the best way I knew how. Absolutely “sobriety is life or death for the A in our lives” I’m learning that as he continues with the program, but I have a...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

A friend of mine used to quote the old saying that when you find yourself at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on for dear life. I've added another knot. I started dating a man that I met through eharmony at the beginning of the year. We dated exclusively from the start. ...

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	Hi-newbie (Preview) Hi, I just joined this message board the other day, thought I'd post an intro. I've already posted in the ACA board as well. I am married to an A, for 13 years now. Hubby is getting worse, so of course I am feeling more and more desperate. Right now I'd like nothing more to just end this marraige b...	wggk	10	588	May 26, 2006 by wggk
	It doesnt need to be one way or the other - finding balance (Preview) Last week I quit Curves, then I didnt go to Church. This entire week Ive been thinking of quitting AlAnon. Thinking maybe its actually holding me back from going forward with my relationship with A husband. Planning on returning a book I borrowed from an AlAnon friend tomorrow morn just in case I dont r...	Barbara	3	482	May 26, 2006 by tiredtonite
	Prayer Request... (Preview) ((((Family)))) I just found out that a young friend of ours who has been battling Lukemia is prognosis has been dropped to 2 wks to 2 months. He just finished a bone marrow transplant and things were looking very good. His parents and all of us really are just devistated. He is 18 years...	rtexas	19	491	May 26, 2006 by hudsond
	i can't stop crying (Preview) help me to pray that God's will is the correct will. help me to let it go. she'd rather visit her friends in arizona, california, new york, whereever. i don't want to drinki over it, but i have to stop crying. i haven't done anything. any suggestions? i've joined a gym, to work out my frustrations, i go to m...	peanutb	8	649	May 26, 2006 by jecy
	looks like I get to learn how to live with recovery (Preview) Well I was served a huge dose of acceptance yesterday. Got a call the day before that my wife was do to discharge as insurance ran out. I bust my butt to see what I can do but then hit brick wall after brick wall. Yesterday, I call and my A is enroute home. I attempt a restraining order and can't get on...	bobump	8	464	May 25, 2006 by Karilynn
	and the beat goes on.... (Preview) A is in Jail dui's. I finally had to go see him to get his power of attorney signed so I can get his stuff from his moms house. Mom is in nursing home now, heading to assisted living. A very good thing. Meth daughter is being evicted from mil's house, good thing. My mil's friend tried to get cloths from mi...	debilyn	5	391	May 25, 2006 by nikkilou
	To clear up a bit of confusion (Preview) As many of you know, and now all of you do, my name is Sandy. Several have messaged me to ask if I am the same Sandy who posts here using that name. One or two have mentioned that while we don't sound like the same person, the name causes a bit of wonder. "Sandy" is not that uncommon. I am actually Alexandra, sh...	Diva	3	466	May 25, 2006 by Diva
	Good news! (Preview) Hi everybody. Well as you know, things have kinda sucked lately. Well I finally have some really good news. I gained custody of all three of my brothers and sisters! I'm so happy and excited. We can all finally have some stability. Anyway just thought I'd let everyone know! Mir	Miranda	9	446	May 25, 2006 by Karilynn
	How was your day? (Preview) I wish to share with the Just For Today approach. After reading a few posts here seems some have been down lately –I see a few members are noticing and sharing as a result. Hmmm... I’m trying with this new way of thinking lately that no matter how crummy a situation is for that day -to think happy thoug...	tea2	11	550	May 25, 2006 by Karilynn
	Help !!! with map!!! (Preview) Problem: when I edit my info on map, my marker goes away!! What do I do now? Thank you, peeps.... Peewee	peewee	2	353	May 25, 2006 by peewee
	Am I putting too much pressure on A? (Preview) My A has clearly made some good progress in the last couple of days. He's attended meetings every evening since Tuesday. He said last night he feels this time is different for him. He said he feels very welcomed by the other people, which before he felt awkward like he didn't fit int...	twinmom2	5	498	May 25, 2006 by kent_s
	need prayers (Preview) I am full of worry. I need prayers and positive thoughts that I my find comfort through this trying time. I don't want to go into details, but I too am praying for God's, comfort, wisdom, and mercy for both my a and myself. Thanks in advance.	tippergirl	7	393	May 25, 2006 by aunitedway
	Any Day Now.... (Preview) Hi Everyone!!! It's been a LONG TIME Since I've posted here!! I couldn't remember my pass word!! <LOL> I finally found it in the back of my "secret journal" I started months ago, but fell away from it. It's been hidden in the closet for a few months now. ( GRRRRRRRR )!!! But I was still able to r...	afmom03	3	398	May 25, 2006 by Busbe
	Finally (Preview) Well, after being missing for 3 months, my brother has finally shown up back at my mom's. He is extremely unhealthy. He's been doing crack, meth, using needles. He's about as close to death as you can possibly be without actually being dead. He is so skinny and probably only weighs about 8...	Jayda	3	361	May 25, 2006 by doxie
	Please say a prayer for me (Preview) I am sad today... Just a few days ago i wrote about how i was feeling numb. Well, today I am sad.. Not sobbing sad, but just blue sad .. ( you know the difference ) .. I guess it is part of this roller coaster we are on .. I think we should seperate again, that scares me but i know it is the right thing.. My...	Tammy	7	562	May 25, 2006 by QOD
	What not to expect from others.... (Preview) I receive a daily reading an Al Anon site. I felt todays fit so well with the recent thread on clarification about MIP that I wanted to share it. ~~~~~~~~~~ Today's thought is: *I can live for two months on a good compliment. -- Mark Twain* Newcomer At a meet...	KathyS	0	373	May 25, 2006 by KathyS
	Fantasy & reality (Preview) Good Morning All, Even though I have filed for divorce, and am ready to follow through there is this fantasy in my head of my AH finding recovery and living happily ever after together. I am afraid of the pain I will feel when this does not happen. Why I believe this will not happen was confirmed last n...	Jennifer	4	465	May 25, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	having an epiphany (Preview) I am a fairly new to Al Anon, been joining the chat rooms but never really posted here or attended a f2f. During an online chat last night, I asked folks is it normal or common for your A to be nasty to your family (meaning my siblings/parents). It was a rough week for me this week...	Taylor	1	473	May 25, 2006 by Christy
	Hello again (Preview) Hi Everyone It's been a long time since I posted, December I think. It's been a rough year. My husband of 38 years just passed away 3 weeks ago. I could see it coming because he was so short of breath. He smoked 2-3 packs a day, more when he drank. He was also an "...	sandy	5	392	May 25, 2006 by Diva
	Guilt (Preview) OK so last week I set a boundary with my roomate. She kind of crossed my line and the folowwing morning I left her a message saying basically "When you don't respect my boundaries it makes me feel insignificant and stepped on." So ever since the entire incident happened I've been obsessing about it. It D...	Emafer	6	639	May 25, 2006 by Emafer
	God problem (Preview) Hi roomies, I have a question. My husband and I have been in a malpractice trail for the past two weeks. I did not lie. I put all my faith in God. Let go and let God. Well they came back today in the doctors favor not ares. I'm still crying and feeling out of control. ...	nikkilou	6	456	May 25, 2006 by Diva
	Defining Love (Preview) Is it normal to start healing, quit obsessing, completely detach and then question your love for your A? My husband came to the house to meet with a lawyer regarding our "landlord". He was laying on the couch, and I went up to him and touched his leg, and said "hey you!" We were like...	Jennfer32	5	418	May 25, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	holy moly!! this is long even for ME (Preview) i was reading some posts and i have been noticing lately the PAIN , all OVER the world...like people just being SAD!!!!! i thought of my Ex and the good we had together, not just the bad....he was a sweet guy, funny as hell, and an alkie who did not want reco...	rosie light shines	3	499	May 25, 2006 by leo
	Surviving Addiction (Preview) In case anyone is interested noticed that Dr. Phil has a primetime special on tonight about surviving addiction. It is on CBS at 8 pm EST. Looks to be about a couple dealing with the effects of alcoholism. Something I would like to watch anyway. Not sure how I wi...	lebe27	3	745	May 25, 2006 by lebe27
	Attitude (Preview) Last night I had such a horrible attitude!! I was so angry with my ah. Not much was different. He came home and had been drinking, but he was not drunk. I was just so frustrated and hurt. After the way he was talking the night before I shouldn't have been surprised. I trie...	hudsond	5	408	May 25, 2006 by babysteps
	My FEAR/Inspired by angelnomore (Preview) I responded to a topic started by angelnomore yesterday, the subject was relating to FEAR I immediately heard BELLS going off in my head...my soon to be ex-husband, who is not my A but he is an a'hole, once told me "Fear is a great motivator." He is right. FEAR has motivated me to do the following.......	jennneeefffurrr	3	602	May 25, 2006 by lila
	YEAH!! (Preview) Some of you know I have been dealing with finals, accepting my husband is an A, his forced separation, etc. I have been so scared and shocked at the rug being pulled out from under me. 3 months ago I never would have thought me and my husband would be getting a separation. I was in it for the long haul and thou...	sunny123	5	394	May 25, 2006 by Jennifer
	thanks for the ESH and my reflection (Preview) I wanted to take the opportunity to thank those or you who replied with the gentleness and kindness that I have come to so appreciate in Al-Anon. To those of you who took the time to PM me, I am grateful. I do believe that I did receive the clarification that I needed in order to "take what I like and...	confused	2	613	May 25, 2006 by Ria
	Understanding (Preview) Last year I learned the concept of detachment. For me it means knowing when the A is talking and being able to decipher whether it is the A talking or the person themselves. An example is if your mom is the A when your mom says something being able to decipher whether it is the A in her talking or the mother in...	Lanchas	5	401	May 25, 2006 by Lanchas
	Letting HIM Go...Terrified (Preview) I have decided to release my fears, depend on my God, set myself free and let my A go. I had not spoken to him in 10 days, had not seen him in 14, yesterday I saw and spoke to him 4 seperate times. It did not satisfy me. I felt humiliated every time. The things he said to me were degrading...here is some of it...	jennneeefffurrr	9	508	May 24, 2006 by Jennfer32
	Where am I today.... (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))), I got a friendly reminder that I have not posted much lately... the question: how are things? Well.... things are better, for me at least. This is the time of year when things are typically better, but I am trying not to dwell on that and just enjoy. We have b...	rtexas	3	432	May 24, 2006 by Jennifer
	emotional sobriety - ODAT (Preview) Not really sure where I am today. Sometimes I am so sure that I want to reconcile with my AH and then fear kicks in. I have had some great awarenesses lately... My AH is a good man, he is a supportive husband. == I can think back over the years all the times he told me that I was goo...	confused	2	794	May 24, 2006 by kent_s
	Lots of feelings going on... (Preview) My A is going on day number 3 sober. He reconnected with some old AA friends last night and found the home group that he feels will give him the most support. I am going to my meeting tonight as well. The last couple of days I have been really looking at myself and what I want for my life...	twinmom2	6	408	May 24, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	Heeee's Baaaack! AGAIN (Preview) Roller Coaster Roller Coaster, Where is the End? My son called me yesterday @ 5:00 just as I was leaving work to tell me that his dad was home & could take him to karate so I didn't have to rush. I told my son to give him the phone. When he got on, I asked where he had been. He claimed that had gone jo...	QOD	4	450	May 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	Alanon and Marriage (Preview) Hi everyone, I recently sent a PM to a new member who thought maybe she was in the wrong place. Her husband is in recovery and she wants her marriage to work. She had stated that it seemed that the message on this board was to dump him. I sent her a PM and she said that she wished someone would post a simila...	Jeannie	9	720	May 24, 2006 by tea2
	anyone new check this out (Preview) Welcome to MIP. You are not alone. There a lot of people who understand. World Service Organization Website – WWW.al-anon.alateen.org Phone number is 1-888-425-2666 Alanon meetings 800-351-9996 Alanon literature Worldwide 888-425-2666 Alanon meeting info. 800-433-...	nycbt	0	334	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	New here (Preview) Having a bad night tonight. My husband is an off and on drinker. Tonight was on. I really feel that I don't love him anymore. He makes my life a lot easier becuase he helps with the kids, house, everything. But he does not fulfill my needs emotionally, spiritually, or otherwise. He is a good father, and I d...	moonbeam	3	373	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	f2f - Talk was Fun (Preview) In my meeting tonight learned a few things. First I learned about fun and how much I had missed it. For me it was a time when I didn't have a "headache to keep me down". Before I left for my meeting in the car I was thinking "HALT = am I hungry, angry, lonely, tired". I was angry before I left the...	DoN4me	4	410	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	My insanity circle (Preview) Hi all, I guess I sould start off by saying I am new to the Al-Anon group. A good friend has been shareing her experiances and encouraging me to attend. I went to a confrence, and I really enjoyed it. I thought that Al-Anon may be the starting point I was looking for. After a very rough couple of days, I got up...	Tazz	3	918	May 24, 2006 by nycbt
	My A wants recovery, need a little ESH (Preview) (((Hello Group))) So much has happened in the last couple of days. I'm exhausted but trying to stay focused on myself. I'll make this as short as possible. My A came home drunk on Sunday night from his new job and decided to call the girl he was seeing while we were separated. ...	twinmom2	4	548	May 24, 2006 by hudsond
	Relapse Questions (Preview) OK, so now I understand what I've heard from others that "relapse is a part of recovery." In our case it's a big part, bigger than I thought it would be. My A (daughter, age 23) relapsed for the second time since completing a 31-day inpatient program at the end of March. The first relapse put her in c...	Jeff Reynolds	7	531	May 24, 2006 by mel123
	Meeting tonight - Gratitude (Preview) I didn't get a chance to really talk tonight at the meeting got in there late. Been a few weeks since I have made an online meeting. I stayed a little in the room after the meeting. I listened to alot of things that were said. The thing is this. I am Grateful everyday for who I am now that I have this pr...	angeleyes8462	2	380	May 24, 2006 by tea2
	OMG! The agony of rejection and withdrawl! (Preview) OK So I caved. I called him, he SUPRISED me by answering on the second ring. He told me he loves me, maybe not in the way that I love him, but HE loves me. I told him I was leaving work and would stop by and see him...he said no. I said I am already 2 blocks from your house...he said he was leaving. He must ha...	jennneeefffurrr	7	493	May 24, 2006 by Cyn
	made a deal w/ the devil (Preview) welll...i gave in!!! i have not spoken to my dad in 6 months b/c i found out that he started drinking again. he WAS a wonderful father & papaw. then the drinking got in the way. he became a different person. definitely not the man i remember and not the man i want my kids to see growing up. for my...	flintfeet	3	452	May 24, 2006 by Rita G
	No expectations, BIG pay off (Preview) Tonight, a woman came to my house and presented me with a lawyer's card. A group of people leasing homes from our landlord are meeting tomorrow to fight a new lease that discriminates against anyone with children and under the age of 55. My name is not on the lease, so I made a decision...a C...	Jennfer32	3	406	May 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	keep searching and find nothing (Preview) I keep trying, and my A keeps bringing me down. i try to seperate, but she wont let me go in my life, she calls and gives everyone a hard time that i know, but if i try to talk to her i'm a retched human being. years before i found "here" and i'm new, i knew everything was wrong. all i wanted to do was get awa...	jecy	3	568	May 24, 2006 by Rita G
	Brain dump by a newbie to al-anon (Preview) Thank you all for reading this essay in advance. I have been a browser on this forum for around 2 weeks now and am finding inspiration in even the darkest of places and it may sound weird but i enjoy reading your shares as it helps me look at things in my life in a different way. I’d like to share my (abr...	lila	7	672	May 24, 2006 by lila
	Hubby has left (Preview) ((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))), It's been a tough week for us. I almost forced A to leave on Wednesday because he's drinking more so than usual. But I walked away for a few hours and comforted a friend instead. We both kept each other from crying. A was going to away for a few days to see his k...	Karilynn	19	687	May 24, 2006 by lila
	He's Gone Again & I Took A BIG Step! (Preview) AH = Crack & Alcohol Addiction = My Misery!!! He is gone again. Get this: He disappeared from 5/3 - 5/11, at which time he landed himself in the hospital. He called his mom for help, who reluctantly helped him and swares she won't again. (She refuses to enable him). He stayed @ his gra...	QOD	3	632	May 24, 2006 by Andrea12
	Whenever I wonder if he loves me............... (Preview) Then he shows me Hello Roomies, Last night was a bit scary for me. I was at the meeting here and feeling just fine. At 6:30pm I started to hurt, so I left the meeting and laid down on the couch. I then started to get really really cold. I went and got a blanket and went back to the couch. I just kept getting c...	Dolphin123	3	598	May 24, 2006 by Jennifer
	how do i respond? (Preview) my 3 year old told me today that her dad loves her. i said yes he does (hasn't seen him in 3 months). she said he should come here to our house. the she asked if he is with jesus. i told her no grandpa is with jesus. she said dad loves me and her sisters. i said yes he does. then i was talking to my mother (hasn't spo...	serendipity	2	441	May 24, 2006 by KathyS
	Dillema (Preview) Yesterday I posted that my AH wanted a divorce. People wrote me back and i felt okay, had a good day planned, and then he called back to say he was just stressed and not to listen to anything he said. Experience tells me thats what usually happens with him but still... How irritating and abusive,...	sarahlm	7	432	May 24, 2006 by KathyS
	Meditation (Preview) I admit I am brand new to the practice of meditation. I just wanted to share a little of my experience as I am sure there are plenty others out there who are curious about meditation. The gift that I have found immediately in meditating is that it has helped me profoundly in relaxing and calming myself. I w...	sparkette	2	412	May 24, 2006 by david62
	Thank you family (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))), Thank you all so much for you love and support when I asked hubby to leave this past Friday. It's been an okay weekend. I pretty much worked, and that helped to pass the time. I was phyically and emotionally spent when I came home last night...	Karilynn	7	565	May 23, 2006 by Andrea12
	SICK SICK SICK fantasies (Preview) I am still in my office, no clients, not working, just in group and in my own sick twisted mind. I actually saw a funeral procession and said to myself "lucky". OMG I dont want to be dead! I forget sometimes that I am a meaningful worthwhile person. Then I started fantasizing that I would be in a...	jennneeefffurrr	7	517	May 23, 2006 by serendipity
	Tired of the headaches (Preview) I was sleeping last night. When I got one of those "headaches" that don't stop the kind that got tired of all the "ABUSE". So I got up and took some medicine to fix it. I told a few of my friends months ago about these headaches and how I was tired of them and it was getting way out of hand. But no on...	DoN4me	2	387	May 23, 2006 by DoN4me
	Ask nothing of another person... (Preview) I've been to many AA meetings with my sweetie, my AW. One last year keeps coming back to mind, over and over. When we entered the large room, I noticed over to one side a young adult with a laptop computer. I noticed later he seemed to be typing in what was being said, and the person next to him was reading wha...	kent_s	4	567	May 23, 2006 by kent_s
	ROSE - RECIPES (Preview) Hi Rose, Just wanted to let you know my e-mail with the recipes bounced back to me today with the following notation "unable to deliver message to recipient, due to being unable to connect successfully to the destination mail server." Will try again! wondering if the e-mail box may be full...	shimo	0	533	May 23, 2006 by shimo
	don’t know how it’s evolved to this PART 2 (Preview) (Ouch) feels like advice with a back hand to it, “shopping list quality”, hum never thought of it that way. Personally I thought I was communicating the best way I knew how. Absolutely “sobriety is life or death for the A in our lives” I’m learning that as he continues with the program, but I have a...	angelnomore	3	547	May 23, 2006 by jennneeefffurrr
	another knot in the rope (Preview) A friend of mine used to quote the old saying that when you find yourself at the end of your rope, tie a knot and hold on for dear life. I've added another knot. I started dating a man that I met through eharmony at the beginning of the year. We dated exclusively from the start. ...	katrina2000	6	561	May 23, 2006 by Rita G
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