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Codependent · Codependent

We had Christmas Eve party with A's family- that is my child & I. The A showed late & with a girl with her boobs out- awful for me to say. He said he got child a gift & would be by to give it to him. He didn't show or call. We hugged at the party & I felt some of my old feeligs. However, I must ac...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I`d love to, but... 1. I have to floss my cat. 2. I`ve dedicated my life to linguini. 3. I want to spend more time with my blender. 4. The President said he might drop in. 5. The man on television told me to say tuned. 6. I`ve been scheduled for a karma transplant. 7. I`m staying home to work on my cott...

omajoy · omajoy

I have joined this site twice and cancelled myself twice. I continue to read the site many times a day, but had grown to feel this was not for me. I am the mother, not the spouse. So much of what I read was (in my own interpretation, I am sure) critical of mothers. I could not bear it. I took it personally. But...

optimistundone · optimistundone

We are cooking dinner for my AH's family. Not only are they dull, but either they are drunks or make my co-dependency look like child's play. You can't sneeze without everyone discussing it. So, I am trying to brace for them - how badly I would rather be with my family where we actually enjoy being wit...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Earth But Cloaks Your Heaven I salute you. I am your friend, and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not already, but there is much, very much, which though I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven. No peace...

afglin · afglin

I posted a couple of days ago about my husband's daughter calling and wanting ot meet him. She's 41 and he has never seen her. We had a change in plans and were able to move up the Thursday afternoon meting to today. We drove an hour away and Met K. and her husband and 6 ½ year old daughter. It went very well...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I've done it. I've left my Abf. I got a new place for myself and have now moved in alone. He also has an apartment, he shares. I helped him with moving...spent a week packing and unpacking and it still isn't nearly finished. Really I'm amazed at how quickly it all happened. I decided...

Euoria · Euoria

Since this is the time of sharing and giving; I'd like to share and give a little what I have learned and the importance of changing belief systems. So often, "it's not fair," is a cry or a wail or a hurt uttered, with justification we all have said or heard. I've been thinking on that: withou...

Diva · Diva

I wish each and every one of you the merriest Christmas ever, and hope the coming new year will be find you happy, healthy, safe, and serene. Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))), Good morning. On this Christmas Eve, this was my reading from one of my favorite meditation books: The Promis of a New Day by Karen Casey & Martha Vanceburg (Hazelden 1991). ...... [To] take something from yourself, to give to another, that is humane and gentle and nev...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((((Dear Family))))) Wishing my MIP family a Very Happy Holiday Season, and a blessed and prosperous New Year. Thank you all for being here for me I appreciate you all more than you will ever know. I know I couldn't make it without this site and all of you! Love and Blessings, Claudia

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

The reading of this poem on Christmas Eve, I am reliably informed, is now internationally widespread and it is especially delightful and appealing to the child in all of us and so, I thought I would give you this, and even if you do not have a child to read this to, read it to the child in you and enjoy, it so...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Though this won't be the Christmas of my dreams, it will one heck of a lot better than last year. Last year my ah was with us the whole time, but was severely depressed and impaired the whole time. He was anti-social and slipped away to be alone whenever he could. For the past 18 yrs, I have orchestrated ev...

bev · bev

on friday i went to have lunch with SAH i asked him if he was working xmas day he said they didnt give him an answer,so on my way out we passed his boss,and asked him,his boss said all new employees are to work xmas day and they have new years day off...but his boss said if you wpuld like to switch from xmas to ne...

AlaMom · AlaMom

of my wonderful Alanon friends & family. I wish all of you some peace during this holiday season. The greatest Alanon/Christmas gift I have ever received was learning that everything is temporary. What seems like a crisis today will not be so in a month or a year. I hope everyone can find an Ala...

carosie · carosie

Dear MIP Family, This time of year always reminds me of how much I am grateful for and all the blessings I have in my life. This board and the chatroom are such a blessing to me. You are all a gift in my life. Your experience, strength and hope help me daily in my Alanon journey. I hold you all in my heart. ...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Everyone experiences some kind of stress in life. Money, children, work, bills...then come the other pressures...sex, A/drugs...guilt. A whole whirlwind of private hell that each and every one of us get to travel through at some point in our lives. My problem is coping. Coping with an AH...st...

optimistundone · optimistundone

I am feeling so good about life again. I am working so hard to change my co-dependent habits - counting beers/pills, letting H dictate my moods, ignoring my needs. As if that isn't hard enough, AH is fighting me every step of the way. I never realized that this journey would be so difficult. It is lon...

david62 · david62

((((Family)))) The last 4 weeks have been very "intense" for me. During that time three people I know have died suddenly and unexpectedly. Two of these were program friends and one is someone I have sat next to in meetings at work once a week for the last year. I just returned home from a memor...

round3 · round3

Part of me knows the answer to the question, "Do I belong here?", but part of me wonders. My step-dad is a recovering alcoholic with 26 years sobriety. But that sobriety didn't begin until I had lived in the home with him for 7 years - which was ALL of my teenage years. It wasn't an abusive ho...

Codependent · Codependent

What is the difference between sober and dry?

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to take a few moments to wish all of you a very blessed and lovely holiday (which ever one you celebrate). Merry Christmas, Happy Kwansa, Happy New Year and all the love and blessings I have. I hold each and everyone of you close in my heart. When things settle...

texasproud2005 · texasproud2005

The A has been gone for two weeks now. I finally quit worrying that he was going to show back up here in the middle of the night. He started calling me a little over a week ago. He's been living in the car, working day labor. When he saves enough, he gets a motel room for the night. He's buddied up with ano...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

The Awakening~~ A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blin...

Chetch · Chetch

Hi friends, I really need to vent. In the past two months my AH has spent a week in a locked detox facility, gotten a DUI, with blood alcohol of about.27, trial upcoming. He went into detox after I told him I was filing for divorce. He is supposed to be getting into an alcohol treatment program for court...

Codependent · Codependent

First, one can obviously see that I am alone on a Friday night by my many posts. The post about weakness and kindness triggered some introspection in me. I think it is possible that the reason that I am willing to trady my serenity for his chaos and rejection is because I actually love him more than I love...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Please accept my sincere apologies, it was never my intention to cause dissension or disharmony within this valued 'family'. I am deeply distressed to think that I have done so quite inadvertantly. I am sorry too if my reaction and responses were inappropriate. Having lived with a great deal of re...

Hopeless in AZ · Hopeless in AZ

about seperating my feelings for my dad and his alcoholism. I didn't think it was possible but I'm trying. My dad came to stay with us a few weeks ago, coincidently my husband was planning a trip with his best friend back to their home town in Mexico and invited my dad to join them. I didn't think it was...

binohio · binohio

Hi to all. I think this is my third post. I havent been here in awhile. During this time I have been attending many meetings. Seems to be the only way to get through the days. Lately I have been reading many of the postings. So much of what is said hits home for me. Sort of like you all saying what I havent be...

debilyn · debilyn

I am a real believer in individual beliefs and opinions. I do however, want to request a couple things that in my experience, have helped our board be as successful as it is. If someone has a disagreement with another member, be it a moderator. sister or brother in alanon, please take it to that person in...

Loupiness · Loupiness

While driving in the car today, I shared with my teenage son that I heard that the number 7 meant "completion" and number 8 meant "new beginnings". Admittedly, I decided not to check the validity of this fact because I want to believe it. I like the number reference as it pertai...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace. The hearts of a great many have already been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict...

maresie · maresie

The library where I go to use the computer will be shut for the next few days. If need be I can go to kinkos and pay if I have a burning desire to connect so I am not totally at sea. One of my goals is to go to a face to face meeting if I can squeeze in the time. I have downloaded the schedule and will make at least o...

serendipity · serendipity

This past summer we had a death in the family. It was my best friend's daughter and my daughter's best friend. She was 4 and drown while in the care of my mother and with my 2 youngest right there. I still don't have all the details. If I have heard them I have blocked them out. We have all been doing grief coun...

kissers · kissers

My grandfather died this month several years ago. He was always working and drinking with his friends. I didn't see him much and he left my grandmother with 3 children to raise on her own with no monetary help. He remarried and I remember flying out to visit them. I couldn't understand why my stepgrandm...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I need to go back. I have been so lucky. I have been going to grad school in Hawaii and I will be finished at the end of the coming semester. I have lots and lots of options but I have to keep my side of the street clean so I need to go back to my AH and take care of some "stuff". I do not know if we ar...

lilms · lilms

((((MIP Family)))))) Just a quick update. We almost lost her on November 23rd, she was in hospital for 11 days and has been dry since that time. Definitely not sober but dry. She enters rehab in 20 days. We are hoping for the best and cannot wait to have those few weeks of peace were it feels like we wil...

zen78 · zen78

This is the first time for me to post here. I've been married to an A/drug addict for three years. He's been clean for some months and relapse big time. Well, it's happening right now. Everytime he relapse, I get so sad and depressed. I know that I need to work the 12 steps and take care of my happin...

debilyn · debilyn

Haven't been sleeping very well. Combo of stuff I guess. Nothing awful at all. just old lady pains....probably too many cats on my bed... I have been desiring calling the A. Just to see him. I just cannot stand not seeing him at all.I don't want anything from him either. It is only his shell anyway. It is s...

afglin · afglin

We got a shockling phone call Thursday. My husband got a call from a lady. She asked him a few questions and said..you are my father and I'd love to meet you. She said she has a husband and kids and he made arrangements for all of us to meet in a few days at a restaurant. We are guessing she is about 41. This ha...

Codependent · Codependent

I haven't spoke to my A in almost a week- though I have thought of him often. Today I was having a moment a weakness and instead of calling him I decided to turn it over to my HP. I did this and went into work. When I got out I had a text from him asking if "I needed a friend?" I haven't responded. Now I...

Lexie · Lexie

((((((((((friends))))))))))))) Thank you to all who prayed for my son when he went before the board of pharmacy in an effort to get his Pharmacists license back. The outcome was not good, but I do know that God was in control none the less. There is a new board president who has instituted a new law in...

christmas card for all MIP Members · John

Happy Holidays to all Miracles In Progress Family Members! Lots of Love from Rose and John

canadianguy · canadianguy

Hi group... Please refrain from using religion or other groupings that may have others feel like they may be judged and/or not included on the basis of their beliefs. Although this board is not formal "Al-Anon", we do, in fact, welcome everyone from every walk of life, and it is inapprop...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

or so the saying goes and with that in mind I think I should try to write down what is troubling me. So (((family))), I have been getting on with life for myself these last couple of days and making plans for the holidays, which seem to loom ever bigger on the horizon. Today, just I had made my plans and accep...

Maria123 · Maria123

((((Friends)))), Oh my goodness, I can actually say (and mean) I feel good today!!!!! What a great feeling! I left work today a few hours early and as I was driving away, I thought wow, I don't have a paper due this week, I don't have to study, I don't have homework, I finished my finals. I actually can rel...

souljoy · souljoy

I have been learning a lot about how to detach, how to take care of me, and mostly how to redirect my mind to more important issues instead of thinking about how it would affect the A in my life. It dawned on me a while ago that the A is the one who is sick and does not think one dang bit about me. So why do I give him...

whatnow · whatnow

I've always heard the saying, "a drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts." Is this really the case? My AH was drunk last night and I caught him in a lie. When I called him on it he got furious and said how dare I call him a liar and he couldn't lieve with someone who thought he was a liar. Th...

loves2read · loves2read

Guess he's feeling a bit threatened about my distancing. I get a call and he's all sweet, apologizing again for being an ass and wants to know if I want to make a deal. His offer was that he'd stay sober all work week if I would allow him to drink what he wants on his days off. What?! I simply stated I'm not...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

The Awakening~~ A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a bl...

optimistundone · optimistundone

I have quit obsessing about where I am going to be 6 months from now, a year from now. All I can do is deal with today. So much time wasted obsessing about where AH's addiction was going....what is was going to do to me. Today the sun is shining. I wrote for an hour this morning. I was able to attend half o...

Euoria · Euoria

This post will be brief; I'm out of words...for a change. "Holiday," in most European countries means vacation. I intend to "celebrate the Holidays" by taking a Holiday, that is, a vacation. A vacation from myself, my obsessions, and most of all, my thinking. I'm going t...

Codependent · Codependent

You all have been so kind and supportive in responding to my posts that thought I should share a little about myself. I am 31 years old, single,and the mother of a 3 and a half year old. I have a twin sister and we are the product of an alcoholic and a drug addict. My mother passed away about 6 years ago from al...

Codependent · Codependent

I find that I can detach easier and establish boundaries when I think on the things about A that have hurt me, etc. However, when I allow myself to "care" about A I find I start to lose these boundaries, etc. Does anyone have insight into how we can forgive and yet stay detached?

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was thinking this morning about how I wish that I could just be nice to the A, be kind to him but it seems that every time I acknowledge him he takes my kindness for weakness. He sees every act of kindness as an opening to try to come back into my life. Each time I talk to him or reply to an email I get escalati...

tryingtoheal · tryingtoheal

Maybe it's the season or maybe it's because I found you a year ago but I've been somewhat introspective this week, reading my past posts over the last few days. I've read how much pain I was in and what a source of comfort you all were to me. Because of my job I didn't feel like I could go to f2f meetings, my f...

kissers · kissers

I have been asked by the director where I work to perform a function that will make our company look bigger than it actually is. I told him that I do not feel comfortable doing so. It feels very deceptive to me. He told me that, that is the way it is going to be. Do I have too much of a conscience??? Is this black...

maresie2 · maresie2

Thanksgiving was a disaster for me. I got pulled into stuff in the house I live in. I am determined not to do that this Christmas. The issue for me is that I have even more time off. For lots of reasons I was not able to get a part time job. I had a part time job that was time limited. That helped. For lots of re...

Jen · Jen

I have come to the realization that I have been putting off a couple of things for the last few days because I am afraid of the outcome. One is to contact the pastor of the church we hold my homegroup meeting at. I have to ask for the key and I guess I'm afraid he'll say no. The other thing is a customer that I nee...

bev · bev

hi everyone,just wanted to know if anyone else going to be spending christmas all alone..i mean alone with no kids no hubby no family{my SAH HAS TO WORK THAT DAY}he came home from work yesterday and told me he had to work christmas day,we had plans to go to his moms for christmas{she lives over an hour awa...

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	What is choice & what is disease? (Preview) We had Christmas Eve party with A's family- that is my child & I. The A showed late & with a girl with her boobs out- awful for me to say. He said he got child a gift & would be by to give it to him. He didn't show or call. We hugged at the party & I felt some of my old feeligs. However, I must ac...	Codependent	8	766	Dec 26, 2007 by debilyn
	101 Easy Ways To Say No (Preview) I`d love to, but... 1. I have to floss my cat. 2. I`ve dedicated my life to linguini. 3. I want to spend more time with my blender. 4. The President said he might drop in. 5. The man on television told me to say tuned. 6. I`ve been scheduled for a karma transplant. 7. I`m staying home to work on my cott...	Mobirdie	2	778	Dec 26, 2007 by lin0606
	please hear me (Preview) I have joined this site twice and cancelled myself twice. I continue to read the site many times a day, but had grown to feel this was not for me. I am the mother, not the spouse. So much of what I read was (in my own interpretation, I am sure) critical of mothers. I could not bear it. I took it personally. But...	omajoy	9	451	Dec 26, 2007 by nmike
	Serenity now....serenity now.... (Preview) We are cooking dinner for my AH's family. Not only are they dull, but either they are drunks or make my co-dependency look like child's play. You can't sneeze without everyone discussing it. So, I am trying to brace for them - how badly I would rather be with my family where we actually enjoy being wit...	optimistundone	6	531	Dec 26, 2007 by optimistundone
	A Christmas message for everyone (Preview) Earth But Cloaks Your Heaven I salute you. I am your friend, and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not already, but there is much, very much, which though I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven. No peace...	Tenderheartsks	4	577	Dec 25, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	update for shocking phone call (Preview) I posted a couple of days ago about my husband's daughter calling and wanting ot meet him. She's 41 and he has never seen her. We had a change in plans and were able to move up the Thursday afternoon meting to today. We drove an hour away and Met K. and her husband and 6 ½ year old daughter. It went very well...	afglin	11	631	Dec 25, 2007 by Dale
	I left him................. (Preview) Hi everyone, I've done it. I've left my Abf. I got a new place for myself and have now moved in alone. He also has an apartment, he shares. I helped him with moving...spent a week packing and unpacking and it still isn't nearly finished. Really I'm amazed at how quickly it all happened. I decided...	annmarie	15	636	Dec 25, 2007 by round3
	Holiday Wishes to All of You (Preview) Since this is the time of sharing and giving; I'd like to share and give a little what I have learned and the importance of changing belief systems. So often, "it's not fair," is a cry or a wail or a hurt uttered, with justification we all have said or heard. I've been thinking on that: withou...	Euoria	5	397	Dec 25, 2007 by carosie
	Ho, Ho, HO!!! (Preview) I wish each and every one of you the merriest Christmas ever, and hope the coming new year will be find you happy, healthy, safe, and serene. Diva	Diva	5	347	Dec 25, 2007 by carosie
	The gift from my house to yours (Preview) ((((((((Family))))), Good morning. On this Christmas Eve, this was my reading from one of my favorite meditation books: The Promis of a New Day by Karen Casey & Martha Vanceburg (Hazelden 1991). *...... [To] take something from yourself, to give to another, that is humane and gentle and nev...*	Karilynn	3	560	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	HAPPY HOLIDAYS (Preview) ((((((Dear Family))))) Wishing my MIP family a Very Happy Holiday Season, and a blessed and prosperous New Year. Thank you all for being here for me I appreciate you all more than you will ever know. I know I couldn't make it without this site and all of you! Love and Blessings, Claudia	cookie1971	4	315	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	"Twas the night before Christmas..." (Preview) The reading of this poem on Christmas Eve, I am reliably informed, is now internationally widespread and it is especially delightful and appealing to the child in all of us and so, I thought I would give you this, and even if you do not have a child to read this to, read it to the child in you and enjoy, it so...	Heartbroken	4	851	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	Christmas thoughts.. (Preview) Though this won't be the Christmas of my dreams, it will one heck of a lot better than last year. Last year my ah was with us the whole time, but was severely depressed and impaired the whole time. He was anti-social and slipped away to be alone whenever he could. For the past 18 yrs, I have orchestrated ev...	Loupiness	2	346	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	update (Preview) on friday i went to have lunch with SAH i asked him if he was working xmas day he said they didnt give him an answer,so on my way out we passed his boss,and asked him,his boss said all new employees are to work xmas day and they have new years day off...but his boss said if you wpuld like to switch from xmas to ne...	bev	2	272	Dec 24, 2007 by cookie1971
	Merry Christmas to all... (Preview) of my wonderful Alanon friends & family. I wish all of you some peace during this holiday season. The greatest Alanon/Christmas gift I have ever received was learning that everything is temporary. What seems like a crisis today will not be so in a month or a year. I hope everyone can find an Ala...	AlaMom	3	349	Dec 24, 2007 by cookie1971
	Holiday Wishes (Preview) Dear MIP Family, This time of year always reminds me of how much I am grateful for and all the blessings I have in my life. This board and the chatroom are such a blessing to me. You are all a gift in my life. Your experience, strength and hope help me daily in my Alanon journey. I hold you all in my heart. ...	carosie	2	495	Dec 24, 2007 by cookie1971
	Stress..Happy...Anger (Preview) Everyone experiences some kind of stress in life. Money, children, work, bills...then come the other pressures...sex, A/drugs...guilt. A whole whirlwind of private hell that each and every one of us get to travel through at some point in our lives. My problem is coping. Coping with an AH...st...	Just For Now	3	258	Dec 24, 2007 by Jen
	Fighting for change tooth and nail (Preview) I am feeling so good about life again. I am working so hard to change my co-dependent habits - counting beers/pills, letting H dictate my moods, ignoring my needs. As if that isn't hard enough, AH is fighting me every step of the way. I never realized that this journey would be so difficult. It is lon...	optimistundone	7	746	Dec 24, 2007 by Jen
	Sharing the losses (Preview) ((((Family)))) The last 4 weeks have been very "intense" for me. During that time three people I know have died suddenly and unexpectedly. Two of these were program friends and one is someone I have sat next to in meetings at work once a week for the last year. I just returned home from a memor...	david62	8	459	Dec 24, 2007 by Peggy7
	Do I belong here? (Preview) Part of me knows the answer to the question, "Do I belong here?", but part of me wonders. My step-dad is a recovering alcoholic with 26 years sobriety. But that sobriety didn't begin until I had lived in the home with him for 7 years - which was ALL of my teenage years. It wasn't an abusive ho...	round3	4	431	Dec 24, 2007 by round3
	Dry and Sober (Preview) What is the difference between sober and dry?	Codependent	3	1035	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Merry Christmas! (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to take a few moments to wish all of you a very blessed and lovely holiday (which ever one you celebrate). Merry Christmas, Happy Kwansa, Happy New Year and all the love and blessings I have. I hold each and everyone of you close in my heart. When things settle...	Karilynn	6	281	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Still going (Preview) The A has been gone for two weeks now. I finally quit worrying that he was going to show back up here in the middle of the night. He started calling me a little over a week ago. He's been living in the car, working day labor. When he saves enough, he gets a motel room for the night. He's buddied up with ano...	texasproud2005	4	263	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	The Awakening!! (Preview) The Awakening~~ A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blin...	Peggy7	7	381	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Hiding his drinking (Preview) Hi friends, I really need to vent. In the past two months my AH has spent a week in a locked detox facility, gotten a DUI, with blood alcohol of about.27, trial upcoming. He went into detox after I told him I was filing for divorce. He is supposed to be getting into an alcohol treatment program for court...	Chetch	4	1387	Dec 23, 2007 by jkiss03
	When you love your A more than yourself... (Preview) First, one can obviously see that I am alone on a Friday night by my many posts. The post about weakness and kindness triggered some introspection in me. I think it is possible that the reason that I am willing to trady my serenity for his chaos and rejection is because I actually love him more than I love...	Codependent	9	600	Dec 23, 2007 by Karilynn
	Please accept my sincere apologies... (Preview) Please accept my sincere apologies, it was never my intention to cause dissension or disharmony within this valued 'family'. I am deeply distressed to think that I have done so quite inadvertantly. I am sorry too if my reaction and responses were inappropriate. Having lived with a great deal of re...	Heartbroken	8	2422	Dec 23, 2007 by Heartbroken
	Took some of your advice..... (Preview) about seperating my feelings for my dad and his alcoholism. I didn't think it was possible but I'm trying. My dad came to stay with us a few weeks ago, coincidently my husband was planning a trip with his best friend back to their home town in Mexico and invited my dad to join them. I didn't think it was...	Hopeless in AZ	5	514	Dec 23, 2007 by Just For Now
	To post or not to post??? That is the question. (Preview) Hi to all. I think this is my third post. I havent been here in awhile. During this time I have been attending many meetings. Seems to be the only way to get through the days. Lately I have been reading many of the postings. So much of what is said hits home for me. Sort of like you all saying what I havent be...	binohio	2	439	Dec 23, 2007 by debilyn
	Thoughts for our mip message board (Preview) I am a real believer in individual beliefs and opinions. I do however, want to request a couple things that in my experience, have helped our board be as successful as it is. If someone has a disagreement with another member, be it a moderator. sister or brother in alanon, please take it to that person in...	debilyn	4	574	Dec 23, 2007 by carosie
	New Beginnings (Preview) While driving in the car today, I shared with my teenage son that I heard that the number 7 meant "completion" and number 8 meant "new beginnings". Admittedly, I decided not to check the validity of this fact because I want to believe it. I like the number reference as it pertai...	Loupiness	2	308	Dec 23, 2007 by debilyn
	Signs and symptoms of Inner Peace (Preview) Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace. The hearts of a great many have already been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict...	Peggy7	8	542	Dec 23, 2007 by ddub
	gone for the holidays (Preview) The library where I go to use the computer will be shut for the next few days. If need be I can go to kinkos and pay if I have a burning desire to connect so I am not totally at sea. One of my goals is to go to a face to face meeting if I can squeeze in the time. I have downloaded the schedule and will make at least o...	maresie	3	315	Dec 23, 2007 by leo
	Christmas and grief (Preview) This past summer we had a death in the family. It was my best friend's daughter and my daughter's best friend. She was 4 and drown while in the care of my mother and with my 2 youngest right there. I still don't have all the details. If I have heard them I have blocked them out. We have all been doing grief coun...	serendipity	8	358	Dec 22, 2007 by Maria123
	My Grandfather (Preview) My grandfather died this month several years ago. He was always working and drinking with his friends. I didn't see him much and he left my grandmother with 3 children to raise on her own with no monetary help. He remarried and I remember flying out to visit them. I couldn't understand why my stepgrandm...	kissers	2	233	Dec 22, 2007 by Maria123
	Going Back (Preview) I need to go back. I have been so lucky. I have been going to grad school in Hawaii and I will be finished at the end of the coming semester. I have lots and lots of options but I have to keep my side of the street clean so I need to go back to my AH and take care of some "stuff". I do not know if we ar...	Jean4444	4	407	Dec 22, 2007 by Loupiness
	TWENTY days to go (Preview) ((((MIP Family)))))) Just a quick update. We almost lost her on November 23rd, she was in hospital for 11 days and has been dry since that time. Definitely not sober but dry. She enters rehab in 20 days. We are hoping for the best and cannot wait to have those few weeks of peace were it feels like we wil...	lilms	3	344	Dec 22, 2007 by debilyn
	I'm lost (Preview) This is the first time for me to post here. I've been married to an A/drug addict for three years. He's been clean for some months and relapse big time. Well, it's happening right now. Everytime he relapse, I get so sad and depressed. I know that I need to work the 12 steps and take care of my happin...	zen78	6	495	Dec 22, 2007 by Maria123
	Thinken out loud.... (Preview) Haven't been sleeping very well. Combo of stuff I guess. Nothing awful at all. just old lady pains....probably too many cats on my bed... I have been desiring calling the A. Just to see him. I just cannot stand not seeing him at all.I don't want anything from him either. It is only his shell anyway. It is s...	debilyn	2	367	Dec 22, 2007 by Maria123
	Shocking phone call (Preview) We got a shockling phone call Thursday. My husband got a call from a lady. She asked him a few questions and said..you are my father and I'd love to meet you. She said she has a husband and kids and he made arrangements for all of us to meet in a few days at a restaurant. We are guessing she is about 41. This ha...	afglin	10	509	Dec 22, 2007 by Maria123
	How do I know? (Preview) I haven't spoke to my A in almost a week- though I have thought of him often. Today I was having a moment a weakness and instead of calling him I decided to turn it over to my HP. I did this and went into work. When I got out I had a text from him asking if "I needed a friend?" I haven't responded. Now I...	Codependent	4	470	Dec 22, 2007 by maresie
	update on son (Preview) ((((((((((friends))))))))))))) Thank you to all who prayed for my son when he went before the board of pharmacy in an effort to get his Pharmacists license back. The outcome was not good, but I do know that God was in control none the less. There is a new board president who has instituted a new law in...	Lexie	2	347	Dec 22, 2007 by Karilynn
	christmas card for all MIP Members (Preview) Happy Holidays to all Miracles In Progress Family Members! Lots of Love from Rose and John	John	7	525	Dec 22, 2007 by Karilynn
	Repeat of earlier post (Preview) Hi group... Please refrain from using religion or other groupings that may have others feel like they may be judged and/or not included on the basis of their beliefs. Although this board is not formal "Al-Anon", we do, in fact, welcome everyone from every walk of life, and it is inapprop...	canadianguy	9	725	Dec 22, 2007 by Christy
	A trouble shared is a trouble halved... (Preview) or so the saying goes and with that in mind I think I should try to write down what is troubling me. So (((family))), I have been getting on with life for myself these last couple of days and making plans for the holidays, which seem to loom ever bigger on the horizon. Today, just I had made my plans and accep...	Heartbroken	7	542	Dec 22, 2007 by Diva
	a sigh of relief (Preview) ((((Friends)))), Oh my goodness, I can actually say (and mean) I feel good today!!!!! What a great feeling! I left work today a few hours early and as I was driving away, I thought wow, I don't have a paper due this week, I don't have to study, I don't have homework, I finished my finals. I actually can rel...	Maria123	4	374	Dec 22, 2007 by debilyn
	How Insane is this? (Preview) I have been learning a lot about how to detach, how to take care of me, and mostly how to redirect my mind to more important issues instead of thinking about how it would affect the A in my life. It dawned on me a while ago that the A is the one who is sick and does not think one dang bit about me. So why do I give him...	souljoy	6	553	Dec 22, 2007 by Peggy7
	A drunk man's words.... (Preview) I've always heard the saying, "a drunk man's words are a sober man's thoughts." Is this really the case? My AH was drunk last night and I caught him in a lie. When I called him on it he got furious and said how dare I call him a liar and he couldn't lieve with someone who thought he was a liar. Th...	whatnow	16	2988	Dec 22, 2007 by Peggy7
	I don't think so! (Preview) Guess he's feeling a bit threatened about my distancing. I get a call and he's all sweet, apologizing again for being an ass and wants to know if I want to make a deal. His offer was that he'd stay sober all work week if I would allow him to drink what he wants on his days off. What?! I simply stated I'm not...	loves2read	3	345	Dec 22, 2007 by Peggy7
	The Awakening (Preview) The Awakening~~ A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a bl...	Peggy7	5	787	Dec 22, 2007 by Peggy7
	Taking control over my life (Preview) I have quit obsessing about where I am going to be 6 months from now, a year from now. All I can do is deal with today. So much time wasted obsessing about where AH's addiction was going....what is was going to do to me. Today the sun is shining. I wrote for an hour this morning. I was able to attend half o...	optimistundone	7	496	Dec 22, 2007 by cookie1971
	"Holiday" (Preview) This post will be brief; I'm out of words...for a change. "Holiday," in most European countries means vacation. I intend to "celebrate the Holidays" by taking a Holiday, that is, a vacation. A vacation from myself, my obsessions, and most of all, my thinking. I'm going t...	Euoria	3	542	Dec 21, 2007 by Euoria
	Sharing (Preview) You all have been so kind and supportive in responding to my posts that thought I should share a little about myself. I am 31 years old, single,and the mother of a 3 and a half year old. I have a twin sister and we are the product of an alcoholic and a drug addict. My mother passed away about 6 years ago from al...	Codependent	4	365	Dec 21, 2007 by lin0606
	Anger (Preview) I find that I can detach easier and establish boundaries when I think on the things about A that have hurt me, etc. However, when I allow myself to "care" about A I find I start to lose these boundaries, etc. Does anyone have insight into how we can forgive and yet stay detached?	Codependent	7	365	Dec 21, 2007 by Jean4444
	Kindness for weakness (Preview) I was thinking this morning about how I wish that I could just be nice to the A, be kind to him but it seems that every time I acknowledge him he takes my kindness for weakness. He sees every act of kindness as an opening to try to come back into my life. Each time I talk to him or reply to an email I get escalati...	carolinagirl	6	630	Dec 21, 2007 by Codependent
	I want to thank you (Preview) Maybe it's the season or maybe it's because I found you a year ago but I've been somewhat introspective this week, reading my past posts over the last few days. I've read how much pain I was in and what a source of comfort you all were to me. Because of my job I didn't feel like I could go to f2f meetings, my f...	tryingtoheal	4	455	Dec 21, 2007 by maresie
	Reality Check (Preview) I have been asked by the director where I work to perform a function that will make our company look bigger than it actually is. I told him that I do not feel comfortable doing so. It feels very deceptive to me. He told me that, that is the way it is going to be. Do I have too much of a conscience??? Is this black...	kissers	3	320	Dec 21, 2007 by barisax
	setting goals keeping busy (Preview) Thanksgiving was a disaster for me. I got pulled into stuff in the house I live in. I am determined not to do that this Christmas. The issue for me is that I have even more time off. For lots of reasons I was not able to get a part time job. I had a part time job that was time limited. That helped. For lots of re...	maresie2	1	494	Dec 21, 2007 by thinkstoomuch
	paralysing fear (Preview) I have come to the realization that I have been putting off a couple of things for the last few days because I am afraid of the outcome. One is to contact the pastor of the church we hold my homegroup meeting at. I have to ask for the key and I guess I'm afraid he'll say no. The other thing is a customer that I nee...	Jen	7	470	Dec 20, 2007 by Jean4444
	hi all (Preview) hi everyone,just wanted to know if anyone else going to be spending christmas all alone..i mean alone with no kids no hubby no family{my SAH HAS TO WORK THAT DAY}he came home from work yesterday and told me he had to work christmas day,we had plans to go to his moms for christmas{she lives over an hour awa...	bev	6	424	Dec 20, 2007 by Jean4444
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