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AlaMom · AlaMom

We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...

KateAussie · KateAussie

When the alcoholic in my life was drinking openly and frequently it was easy for me to accept that he was an alcoholic and easy for me to come to Alanon and feel like I needed to be here. I felt like I was making progress, accepting things and trying to better myself. Now that I am back with the A in my life and h...

nmike · nmike

Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex didn't show for his last visitation. It was the day before Christmas eve. We have 3rd part supervised visitation by an agency. The girls, all on their own, had bought a little gift for him and wrapped it. And he didn't show. They were hurt and disappointed. I think my 13 yr old was not that surprised,...

Becky1 · Becky1

https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70133.jpg https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70022-1.jpg Merry Christmas from me and my two precious granddaughters, ages 3 and 1 month! Love in Recovery, Becky1 -- Edited by Becky1 at 08:24, 2007-12...

Codependent · Codependent

The key past the m is messed up so I will have a missig letter i my posts. ha Oe of the other posts metioed usig the term frieds to cotrol. How is that? My A calls me his best fried all the time. Hope you ca uderstad with my missig key.

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...

ddub · ddub

I feel uncomfortable and I have a choice to feel worse or try to feel better. Maybe this place is rubbing off on me (hooray!! ) but I guess gratitude helps? College kids on break are even more independent and have less time for me so I am thankful they are growing & going plus maybe not so worried about...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Hope you all had a "quiet" and "happy" Christmas, and are still feeling the "serenity" of the season. I've not been on here for a while, I still keep in touch with the board, and watch whats going on. Today I wanted you...

Mariedl05 · Mariedl05

Well, we admitted my A BF into Hospice yesterday afternoon. I am just waiting to receive the telephone call that he has passed away. I am relieved, sad, hurt, numb and angry all at the same time. I wrote him a goodbye letter and read it to him. I believe in my heart that he did hear every single word I sa...

fco1922 · fco1922

I am married to a woman with a growing alcohol problem but who is firmly in denial despite being hospitalised twice (i.e. sectioned) and having had numerous run-ins with the police. She's even spent time in a state facility but still refuses to believe that there is anything wrong. I'm now fighting to...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))))), With all the extreme weather going on, just wanted to let know that I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I've been thinking about all of you when I see the hurricanes, the extreme heat, the floods, etc. Hope you all are safe and sound. Please be careful out there. I w...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My ahsober is taking our three kids on a snow trip today. I bowed out a few weeks ago because he was being a jerk and I felt it was the right thing to do (and it still is), but not because I wanted too, and it hurts. Went into Christmas with no expectations and was pleasantly surprised to have ah include himse...

omajoy · omajoy

I am grateful to those who read my pitiful post Christmas Day and took the time from your own lives to respond. I needed everything and still do. I made it through 5 hours of sleep last night, got up this morning, showered and dressed. That is a start. Husband ill and we must try to see his doctor today AGAI...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Jean here keeping it real. Lots of happy this and merry that which is all fine and good and appreciated but for those who are not really feeling all that happy and merry, here is a small humble note from me who is not feeling all that merry and/or happy either. But that does not mean I am not grateful. I am a-o...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

The gift of your acceptance of me, and I of you. Thank you Heartbroken

lin0606 · lin0606

I've been thinking about this sort of thing a lot, as we go through the first Christmas without my husband. In some ways I am so full of grief, missing him so bad. In other ways, it is so nice not to have his moods and instability to deal with. I do not miss the uncertainty of life with him - even with four ye...

texasproud2005 · texasproud2005

I've always been a holiday fanatic, especially Christmas. I'm the type that has house and yard decorations for each season/holiday. A and I were having problems after Thanksgiving so I put up the tree and a minimal amount of decorations this year. I was too tired, and zapped of good energy to do muc...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I went out last night with a friend. The only place that stays open on Sunday is the casino, so we gave it a go. I don't gamble, all I could do really was analyze everything from the second I went in the door to the second I left. That place weirds me out. The pressure to buy and drink alcohol is so severe, it see...

afmom03 · afmom03

Dear Al-Anon Family, I am spending my day today, (actually the past 3 days & nights) going back to the very beginning of posts (#236), and reading the Topics that are "catching my eyes" to read. I do not observe this holiday...and I will just leav...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

((((((MIP group)))))) Just wanted to say I wish peace and love to everyone at MIP during this season and always. I haven't posted for a long time but I still come here often and pop in meetings sometimes. This group has been very important in my recovery and I am grateful for every one of you.So many new fa...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

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Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Al-Anon Ohana and Mele Kalikimaka!! (family) (Merry Christmas) It's abit after midnight this Christmas morning and the pups are surely waiting for Poppa to come to bed so they can snuggle. Two little gratitudes. Just wanted to share that We spent the 21st, 22n...

A Family Members Birthday! · tea2

Today is David62s Birthday! Wishes ((((( David ))))) for a Very Happy Birthday! Love, Care and Hugs -- Edited by tea2 at 11:45, 2007-12-22

Roxie345 · Roxie345

I want to wish all my dear Al-anon family a wonderful holiday! I told you all i'm an Elf; LOL here is the proof. Please have a side splitting laugh on me! Love you All Roxie345 aka RoxieElf

Codependent · Codependent

We had Christmas Eve party with A's family- that is my child & I. The A showed late & with a girl with her boobs out- awful for me to say. He said he got child a gift & would be by to give it to him. He didn't show or call. We hugged at the party & I felt some of my old feeligs. However, I must ac...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I`d love to, but... 1. I have to floss my cat. 2. I`ve dedicated my life to linguini. 3. I want to spend more time with my blender. 4. The President said he might drop in. 5. The man on television told me to say tuned. 6. I`ve been scheduled for a karma transplant. 7. I`m staying home to work on my cott...

omajoy · omajoy

I have joined this site twice and cancelled myself twice. I continue to read the site many times a day, but had grown to feel this was not for me. I am the mother, not the spouse. So much of what I read was (in my own interpretation, I am sure) critical of mothers. I could not bear it. I took it personally. But...

optimistundone · optimistundone

We are cooking dinner for my AH's family. Not only are they dull, but either they are drunks or make my co-dependency look like child's play. You can't sneeze without everyone discussing it. So, I am trying to brace for them - how badly I would rather be with my family where we actually enjoy being wit...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Earth But Cloaks Your Heaven I salute you. I am your friend, and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not already, but there is much, very much, which though I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven. No peace...

afglin · afglin

I posted a couple of days ago about my husband's daughter calling and wanting ot meet him. She's 41 and he has never seen her. We had a change in plans and were able to move up the Thursday afternoon meting to today. We drove an hour away and Met K. and her husband and 6 ½ year old daughter. It went very well...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I've done it. I've left my Abf. I got a new place for myself and have now moved in alone. He also has an apartment, he shares. I helped him with moving...spent a week packing and unpacking and it still isn't nearly finished. Really I'm amazed at how quickly it all happened. I decided...

Euoria · Euoria

Since this is the time of sharing and giving; I'd like to share and give a little what I have learned and the importance of changing belief systems. So often, "it's not fair," is a cry or a wail or a hurt uttered, with justification we all have said or heard. I've been thinking on that: withou...

Diva · Diva

I wish each and every one of you the merriest Christmas ever, and hope the coming new year will be find you happy, healthy, safe, and serene. Diva

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family))))), Good morning. On this Christmas Eve, this was my reading from one of my favorite meditation books: The Promis of a New Day by Karen Casey & Martha Vanceburg (Hazelden 1991). ...... [To] take something from yourself, to give to another, that is humane and gentle and nev...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((((Dear Family))))) Wishing my MIP family a Very Happy Holiday Season, and a blessed and prosperous New Year. Thank you all for being here for me I appreciate you all more than you will ever know. I know I couldn't make it without this site and all of you! Love and Blessings, Claudia

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

The reading of this poem on Christmas Eve, I am reliably informed, is now internationally widespread and it is especially delightful and appealing to the child in all of us and so, I thought I would give you this, and even if you do not have a child to read this to, read it to the child in you and enjoy, it so...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Though this won't be the Christmas of my dreams, it will one heck of a lot better than last year. Last year my ah was with us the whole time, but was severely depressed and impaired the whole time. He was anti-social and slipped away to be alone whenever he could. For the past 18 yrs, I have orchestrated ev...

bev · bev

on friday i went to have lunch with SAH i asked him if he was working xmas day he said they didnt give him an answer,so on my way out we passed his boss,and asked him,his boss said all new employees are to work xmas day and they have new years day off...but his boss said if you wpuld like to switch from xmas to ne...

AlaMom · AlaMom

of my wonderful Alanon friends & family. I wish all of you some peace during this holiday season. The greatest Alanon/Christmas gift I have ever received was learning that everything is temporary. What seems like a crisis today will not be so in a month or a year. I hope everyone can find an Ala...

carosie · carosie

Dear MIP Family, This time of year always reminds me of how much I am grateful for and all the blessings I have in my life. This board and the chatroom are such a blessing to me. You are all a gift in my life. Your experience, strength and hope help me daily in my Alanon journey. I hold you all in my heart. ...

Just For Now · Just For Now

Everyone experiences some kind of stress in life. Money, children, work, bills...then come the other pressures...sex, A/drugs...guilt. A whole whirlwind of private hell that each and every one of us get to travel through at some point in our lives. My problem is coping. Coping with an AH...st...

optimistundone · optimistundone

I am feeling so good about life again. I am working so hard to change my co-dependent habits - counting beers/pills, letting H dictate my moods, ignoring my needs. As if that isn't hard enough, AH is fighting me every step of the way. I never realized that this journey would be so difficult. It is lon...

david62 · david62

((((Family)))) The last 4 weeks have been very "intense" for me. During that time three people I know have died suddenly and unexpectedly. Two of these were program friends and one is someone I have sat next to in meetings at work once a week for the last year. I just returned home from a memor...

round3 · round3

Part of me knows the answer to the question, "Do I belong here?", but part of me wonders. My step-dad is a recovering alcoholic with 26 years sobriety. But that sobriety didn't begin until I had lived in the home with him for 7 years - which was ALL of my teenage years. It wasn't an abusive ho...

Codependent · Codependent

What is the difference between sober and dry?

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to take a few moments to wish all of you a very blessed and lovely holiday (which ever one you celebrate). Merry Christmas, Happy Kwansa, Happy New Year and all the love and blessings I have. I hold each and everyone of you close in my heart. When things settle...

texasproud2005 · texasproud2005

The A has been gone for two weeks now. I finally quit worrying that he was going to show back up here in the middle of the night. He started calling me a little over a week ago. He's been living in the car, working day labor. When he saves enough, he gets a motel room for the night. He's buddied up with ano...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

The Awakening~~ A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blin...

Chetch · Chetch

Hi friends, I really need to vent. In the past two months my AH has spent a week in a locked detox facility, gotten a DUI, with blood alcohol of about.27, trial upcoming. He went into detox after I told him I was filing for divorce. He is supposed to be getting into an alcohol treatment program for court...

Codependent · Codependent

First, one can obviously see that I am alone on a Friday night by my many posts. The post about weakness and kindness triggered some introspection in me. I think it is possible that the reason that I am willing to trady my serenity for his chaos and rejection is because I actually love him more than I love...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

Please accept my sincere apologies, it was never my intention to cause dissension or disharmony within this valued 'family'. I am deeply distressed to think that I have done so quite inadvertantly. I am sorry too if my reaction and responses were inappropriate. Having lived with a great deal of re...

Hopeless in AZ · Hopeless in AZ

about seperating my feelings for my dad and his alcoholism. I didn't think it was possible but I'm trying. My dad came to stay with us a few weeks ago, coincidently my husband was planning a trip with his best friend back to their home town in Mexico and invited my dad to join them. I didn't think it was...

binohio · binohio

Hi to all. I think this is my third post. I havent been here in awhile. During this time I have been attending many meetings. Seems to be the only way to get through the days. Lately I have been reading many of the postings. So much of what is said hits home for me. Sort of like you all saying what I havent be...

debilyn · debilyn

I am a real believer in individual beliefs and opinions. I do however, want to request a couple things that in my experience, have helped our board be as successful as it is. If someone has a disagreement with another member, be it a moderator. sister or brother in alanon, please take it to that person in...

Loupiness · Loupiness

While driving in the car today, I shared with my teenage son that I heard that the number 7 meant "completion" and number 8 meant "new beginnings". Admittedly, I decided not to check the validity of this fact because I want to believe it. I like the number reference as it pertai...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace. The hearts of a great many have already been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict...

maresie · maresie

The library where I go to use the computer will be shut for the next few days. If need be I can go to kinkos and pay if I have a burning desire to connect so I am not totally at sea. One of my goals is to go to a face to face meeting if I can squeeze in the time. I have downloaded the schedule and will make at least o...

serendipity · serendipity

This past summer we had a death in the family. It was my best friend's daughter and my daughter's best friend. She was 4 and drown while in the care of my mother and with my 2 youngest right there. I still don't have all the details. If I have heard them I have blocked them out. We have all been doing grief coun...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Physical, Emotional & Spiritual (Preview) We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...	AlaMom	4	765	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	My Mom (Preview) Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...	jonibaloni21	9	482	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	Major case of denial (Preview) When the alcoholic in my life was drinking openly and frequently it was easy for me to accept that he was an alcoholic and easy for me to come to Alanon and feel like I needed to be here. I felt like I was making progress, accepting things and trying to better myself. Now that I am back with the A in my life and h...	KateAussie	11	642	Dec 28, 2007 by KateAussie
	0 degrees (Preview) Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...	nmike	3	583	Dec 28, 2007 by Jerry F
	Just a long vent (Preview) My ex didn't show for his last visitation. It was the day before Christmas eve. We have 3rd part supervised visitation by an agency. The girls, all on their own, had bought a little gift for him and wrapped it. And he didn't show. They were hurt and disappointed. I think my 13 yr old was not that surprised,...	serendipity	5	362	Dec 28, 2007 by Loupiness
	Merry Christmas & Happy New Year from Me & My Girls (Preview) https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70133.jpg https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70022-1.jpg Merry Christmas from me and my two precious granddaughters, ages 3 and 1 month! Love in Recovery, Becky1 -- Edited by Becky1 at 08:24, 2007-12...	Becky1	5	1112	Dec 28, 2007 by Becky1
	Frieds (Preview) The key past the m is messed up so I will have a missig letter i my posts. ha Oe of the other posts metioed usig the term frieds to cotrol. How is that? My A calls me his best fried all the time. Hope you ca uderstad with my missig key.	Codependent	7	536	Dec 28, 2007 by debilyn
	Being honest about feelings (Preview) I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...	Tiger2006	4	657	Dec 28, 2007 by debilyn
	gratitude helps? (Preview) I feel uncomfortable and I have a choice to feel worse or try to feel better. Maybe this place is rubbing off on me (hooray!! ) but I guess gratitude helps? College kids on break are even more independent and have less time for me so I am thankful they are growing & going plus maybe not so worried about...	ddub	3	462	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
	CHRISTMAS WISH, COME TRUE :) (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Hope you all had a "quiet" and "happy" Christmas, and are still feeling the "serenity" of the season. I've not been on here for a while, I still keep in touch with the board, and watch whats going on. Today I wanted you...	ally	2	373	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
	The End (Preview) Well, we admitted my A BF into Hospice yesterday afternoon. I am just waiting to receive the telephone call that he has passed away. I am relieved, sad, hurt, numb and angry all at the same time. I wrote him a goodbye letter and read it to him. I believe in my heart that he did hear every single word I sa...	Mariedl05	13	733	Dec 27, 2007 by cookie1971
	Finding the courage to go on (Preview) I am married to a woman with a growing alcohol problem but who is firmly in denial despite being hospitalised twice (i.e. sectioned) and having had numerous run-ins with the police. She's even spent time in a state facility but still refuses to believe that there is anything wrong. I'm now fighting to...	fco1922	5	628	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
	Prayers for MIP family (Preview) ((((((Family))))))), With all the extreme weather going on, just wanted to let know that I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I've been thinking about all of you when I see the hurricanes, the extreme heat, the floods, etc. Hope you all are safe and sound. Please be careful out there. I w...	Karilynn	2	420	Dec 27, 2007 by Peggy7
	Having second thoughts.... (Preview) My ahsober is taking our three kids on a snow trip today. I bowed out a few weeks ago because he was being a jerk and I felt it was the right thing to do (and it still is), but not because I wanted too, and it hurts. Went into Christmas with no expectations and was pleasantly surprised to have ah include himse...	Loupiness	12	416	Dec 27, 2007 by Jen
	being heard (Preview) I am grateful to those who read my pitiful post Christmas Day and took the time from your own lives to respond. I needed everything and still do. I made it through 5 hours of sleep last night, got up this morning, showered and dressed. That is a start. Husband ill and we must try to see his doctor today AGAI...	omajoy	6	487	Dec 27, 2007 by Jen
	If you are NOT really having a merry Xmas, its OK.... (Preview) Jean here keeping it real. Lots of happy this and merry that which is all fine and good and appreciated but for those who are not really feeling all that happy and merry, here is a small humble note from me who is not feeling all that merry and/or happy either. But that does not mean I am not grateful. I am a-o...	Jean4444	5	403	Dec 27, 2007 by leo
	The best gift ever... (Preview) The gift of your acceptance of me, and I of you. Thank you Heartbroken	Heartbroken	4	536	Dec 27, 2007 by leo
	Grief and Relief (Preview) I've been thinking about this sort of thing a lot, as we go through the first Christmas without my husband. In some ways I am so full of grief, missing him so bad. In other ways, it is so nice not to have his moods and instability to deal with. I do not miss the uncertainty of life with him - even with four ye...	lin0606	4	492	Dec 27, 2007 by Becky1
	So glad this day is over, vent (Preview) I've always been a holiday fanatic, especially Christmas. I'm the type that has house and yard decorations for each season/holiday. A and I were having problems after Thanksgiving so I put up the tree and a minimal amount of decorations this year. I was too tired, and zapped of good energy to do muc...	texasproud2005	9	652	Dec 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	I guess it's normal (Preview) I went out last night with a friend. The only place that stays open on Sunday is the casino, so we gave it a go. I don't gamble, all I could do really was analyze everything from the second I went in the door to the second I left. That place weirds me out. The pressure to buy and drink alcohol is so severe, it see...	RainyJamie	3	560	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	Old Topics/NEW OUTLOOK!!! (Preview) Dear Al-Anon Family, I am spending my day today, (actually the past 3 days & nights) going back to the very beginning of posts (#236), and reading the Topics that are "catching my eyes" to read. I do not observe this holiday...and I will just leav...	afmom03	4	518	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	still around..... (Preview) ((((((MIP group)))))) Just wanted to say I wish peace and love to everyone at MIP during this season and always. I haven't posted for a long time but I still come here often and pop in meetings sometimes. This group has been very important in my recovery and I am grateful for every one of you.So many new fa...	drucilla06	5	496	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	To the child in all of us... (Preview) http://www.time.com/time/photogallery/0,29307,1697456,00.html	Tiger2006	2	307	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	Gratitude.....OF COURSE!! (Preview) Aloha Al-Anon Ohana and Mele Kalikimaka!! (family) (Merry Christmas) It's abit after midnight this Christmas morning and the pups are surely waiting for Poppa to come to bed so they can snuggle. Two little gratitudes. Just wanted to share that We spent the 21st, 22n...	Jerry F	7	507	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	A Family Members Birthday! (Preview) Today is David62s Birthday! Wishes ((((( David ))))) for a Very Happy Birthday! Love, Care and Hugs -- Edited by tea2 at 11:45, 2007-12-22	tea2	22	684	Dec 26, 2007 by aunitedway
	Happy Holidays/Merry Christmas (Preview) I want to wish all my dear Al-anon family a wonderful holiday! I told you all i'm an Elf; LOL here is the proof. Please have a side splitting laugh on me! Love you All Roxie345 aka RoxieElf	Roxie345	7	311	Dec 26, 2007 by aunitedway
	What is choice & what is disease? (Preview) We had Christmas Eve party with A's family- that is my child & I. The A showed late & with a girl with her boobs out- awful for me to say. He said he got child a gift & would be by to give it to him. He didn't show or call. We hugged at the party & I felt some of my old feeligs. However, I must ac...	Codependent	8	829	Dec 26, 2007 by debilyn
	101 Easy Ways To Say No (Preview) I`d love to, but... 1. I have to floss my cat. 2. I`ve dedicated my life to linguini. 3. I want to spend more time with my blender. 4. The President said he might drop in. 5. The man on television told me to say tuned. 6. I`ve been scheduled for a karma transplant. 7. I`m staying home to work on my cott...	Mobirdie	2	811	Dec 26, 2007 by lin0606
	please hear me (Preview) I have joined this site twice and cancelled myself twice. I continue to read the site many times a day, but had grown to feel this was not for me. I am the mother, not the spouse. So much of what I read was (in my own interpretation, I am sure) critical of mothers. I could not bear it. I took it personally. But...	omajoy	9	488	Dec 26, 2007 by nmike
	Serenity now....serenity now.... (Preview) We are cooking dinner for my AH's family. Not only are they dull, but either they are drunks or make my co-dependency look like child's play. You can't sneeze without everyone discussing it. So, I am trying to brace for them - how badly I would rather be with my family where we actually enjoy being wit...	optimistundone	6	564	Dec 26, 2007 by optimistundone
	A Christmas message for everyone (Preview) Earth But Cloaks Your Heaven I salute you. I am your friend, and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not already, but there is much, very much, which though I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven. No peace...	Tenderheartsks	4	608	Dec 25, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	update for shocking phone call (Preview) I posted a couple of days ago about my husband's daughter calling and wanting ot meet him. She's 41 and he has never seen her. We had a change in plans and were able to move up the Thursday afternoon meting to today. We drove an hour away and Met K. and her husband and 6 ½ year old daughter. It went very well...	afglin	11	663	Dec 25, 2007 by Dale
	I left him................. (Preview) Hi everyone, I've done it. I've left my Abf. I got a new place for myself and have now moved in alone. He also has an apartment, he shares. I helped him with moving...spent a week packing and unpacking and it still isn't nearly finished. Really I'm amazed at how quickly it all happened. I decided...	annmarie	15	664	Dec 25, 2007 by round3
	Holiday Wishes to All of You (Preview) Since this is the time of sharing and giving; I'd like to share and give a little what I have learned and the importance of changing belief systems. So often, "it's not fair," is a cry or a wail or a hurt uttered, with justification we all have said or heard. I've been thinking on that: withou...	Euoria	5	430	Dec 25, 2007 by carosie
	Ho, Ho, HO!!! (Preview) I wish each and every one of you the merriest Christmas ever, and hope the coming new year will be find you happy, healthy, safe, and serene. Diva	Diva	5	376	Dec 25, 2007 by carosie
	The gift from my house to yours (Preview) ((((((((Family))))), Good morning. On this Christmas Eve, this was my reading from one of my favorite meditation books: The Promis of a New Day by Karen Casey & Martha Vanceburg (Hazelden 1991). *...... [To] take something from yourself, to give to another, that is humane and gentle and nev...*	Karilynn	3	611	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	HAPPY HOLIDAYS (Preview) ((((((Dear Family))))) Wishing my MIP family a Very Happy Holiday Season, and a blessed and prosperous New Year. Thank you all for being here for me I appreciate you all more than you will ever know. I know I couldn't make it without this site and all of you! Love and Blessings, Claudia	cookie1971	4	341	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	"Twas the night before Christmas..." (Preview) The reading of this poem on Christmas Eve, I am reliably informed, is now internationally widespread and it is especially delightful and appealing to the child in all of us and so, I thought I would give you this, and even if you do not have a child to read this to, read it to the child in you and enjoy, it so...	Heartbroken	4	896	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	Christmas thoughts.. (Preview) Though this won't be the Christmas of my dreams, it will one heck of a lot better than last year. Last year my ah was with us the whole time, but was severely depressed and impaired the whole time. He was anti-social and slipped away to be alone whenever he could. For the past 18 yrs, I have orchestrated ev...	Loupiness	2	377	Dec 25, 2007 by Jerry F
	update (Preview) on friday i went to have lunch with SAH i asked him if he was working xmas day he said they didnt give him an answer,so on my way out we passed his boss,and asked him,his boss said all new employees are to work xmas day and they have new years day off...but his boss said if you wpuld like to switch from xmas to ne...	bev	2	302	Dec 24, 2007 by cookie1971
	Merry Christmas to all... (Preview) of my wonderful Alanon friends & family. I wish all of you some peace during this holiday season. The greatest Alanon/Christmas gift I have ever received was learning that everything is temporary. What seems like a crisis today will not be so in a month or a year. I hope everyone can find an Ala...	AlaMom	3	375	Dec 24, 2007 by cookie1971
	Holiday Wishes (Preview) Dear MIP Family, This time of year always reminds me of how much I am grateful for and all the blessings I have in my life. This board and the chatroom are such a blessing to me. You are all a gift in my life. Your experience, strength and hope help me daily in my Alanon journey. I hold you all in my heart. ...	carosie	2	524	Dec 24, 2007 by cookie1971
	Stress..Happy...Anger (Preview) Everyone experiences some kind of stress in life. Money, children, work, bills...then come the other pressures...sex, A/drugs...guilt. A whole whirlwind of private hell that each and every one of us get to travel through at some point in our lives. My problem is coping. Coping with an AH...st...	Just For Now	3	287	Dec 24, 2007 by Jen
	Fighting for change tooth and nail (Preview) I am feeling so good about life again. I am working so hard to change my co-dependent habits - counting beers/pills, letting H dictate my moods, ignoring my needs. As if that isn't hard enough, AH is fighting me every step of the way. I never realized that this journey would be so difficult. It is lon...	optimistundone	7	775	Dec 24, 2007 by Jen
	Sharing the losses (Preview) ((((Family)))) The last 4 weeks have been very "intense" for me. During that time three people I know have died suddenly and unexpectedly. Two of these were program friends and one is someone I have sat next to in meetings at work once a week for the last year. I just returned home from a memor...	david62	8	495	Dec 24, 2007 by Peggy7
	Do I belong here? (Preview) Part of me knows the answer to the question, "Do I belong here?", but part of me wonders. My step-dad is a recovering alcoholic with 26 years sobriety. But that sobriety didn't begin until I had lived in the home with him for 7 years - which was ALL of my teenage years. It wasn't an abusive ho...	round3	4	464	Dec 24, 2007 by round3
	Dry and Sober (Preview) What is the difference between sober and dry?	Codependent	3	1065	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Merry Christmas! (Preview) (((((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to take a few moments to wish all of you a very blessed and lovely holiday (which ever one you celebrate). Merry Christmas, Happy Kwansa, Happy New Year and all the love and blessings I have. I hold each and everyone of you close in my heart. When things settle...	Karilynn	6	310	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Still going (Preview) The A has been gone for two weeks now. I finally quit worrying that he was going to show back up here in the middle of the night. He started calling me a little over a week ago. He's been living in the car, working day labor. When he saves enough, he gets a motel room for the night. He's buddied up with ano...	texasproud2005	4	294	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	The Awakening!! (Preview) The Awakening~~ A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blin...	Peggy7	7	409	Dec 24, 2007 by NightWatcher
	Hiding his drinking (Preview) Hi friends, I really need to vent. In the past two months my AH has spent a week in a locked detox facility, gotten a DUI, with blood alcohol of about.27, trial upcoming. He went into detox after I told him I was filing for divorce. He is supposed to be getting into an alcohol treatment program for court...	Chetch	4	1421	Dec 23, 2007 by jkiss03
	When you love your A more than yourself... (Preview) First, one can obviously see that I am alone on a Friday night by my many posts. The post about weakness and kindness triggered some introspection in me. I think it is possible that the reason that I am willing to trady my serenity for his chaos and rejection is because I actually love him more than I love...	Codependent	9	635	Dec 23, 2007 by Karilynn
	Please accept my sincere apologies... (Preview) Please accept my sincere apologies, it was never my intention to cause dissension or disharmony within this valued 'family'. I am deeply distressed to think that I have done so quite inadvertantly. I am sorry too if my reaction and responses were inappropriate. Having lived with a great deal of re...	Heartbroken	8	2482	Dec 23, 2007 by Heartbroken
	Took some of your advice..... (Preview) about seperating my feelings for my dad and his alcoholism. I didn't think it was possible but I'm trying. My dad came to stay with us a few weeks ago, coincidently my husband was planning a trip with his best friend back to their home town in Mexico and invited my dad to join them. I didn't think it was...	Hopeless in AZ	5	549	Dec 23, 2007 by Just For Now
	To post or not to post??? That is the question. (Preview) Hi to all. I think this is my third post. I havent been here in awhile. During this time I have been attending many meetings. Seems to be the only way to get through the days. Lately I have been reading many of the postings. So much of what is said hits home for me. Sort of like you all saying what I havent be...	binohio	2	490	Dec 23, 2007 by debilyn
	Thoughts for our mip message board (Preview) I am a real believer in individual beliefs and opinions. I do however, want to request a couple things that in my experience, have helped our board be as successful as it is. If someone has a disagreement with another member, be it a moderator. sister or brother in alanon, please take it to that person in...	debilyn	4	609	Dec 23, 2007 by carosie
	New Beginnings (Preview) While driving in the car today, I shared with my teenage son that I heard that the number 7 meant "completion" and number 8 meant "new beginnings". Admittedly, I decided not to check the validity of this fact because I want to believe it. I like the number reference as it pertai...	Loupiness	2	351	Dec 23, 2007 by debilyn
	Signs and symptoms of Inner Peace (Preview) Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace. The hearts of a great many have already been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict...	Peggy7	8	574	Dec 23, 2007 by ddub
	gone for the holidays (Preview) The library where I go to use the computer will be shut for the next few days. If need be I can go to kinkos and pay if I have a burning desire to connect so I am not totally at sea. One of my goals is to go to a face to face meeting if I can squeeze in the time. I have downloaded the schedule and will make at least o...	maresie	3	350	Dec 23, 2007 by leo
	Christmas and grief (Preview) This past summer we had a death in the family. It was my best friend's daughter and my daughter's best friend. She was 4 and drown while in the care of my mother and with my 2 youngest right there. I still don't have all the details. If I have heard them I have blocked them out. We have all been doing grief coun...	serendipity	8	393	Dec 22, 2007 by Maria123
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