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Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have come to a recent realization that what I have been doing and what I continue to do is to shrink the A's in my life and grow my HP in my life. If my daily life were a pie, I am systematically, day in and day out making the slice for my A's smaller and smaller and the majority of the pie is going to my HP. This pi...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))), A very early good morning to you all. I need your assistance please if you can. Back in August hubby lost his very good pyschiatrist for a better job. She spent so much time getting him stable with benzodiapzapines (sp?). She really worked wonders with him. After she left they fo...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

You know I just went through a little bout of thinking that somehow I could make my AH happy!! I seem to recall that there was a time a really long time ago when it seemed that I did. But that was an illusion, albeit a very tantalizing one because it was one hell of a year. He said I made him happy. He said I mad...

spagirl · spagirl

I'm sure compared to many of your past events and horrible occurences, this might not be a big thing, but I need advice. My mother is an alcoholic, she has been my whole life. I am a happily married adult with two beautiful children. Several times, she has destroyed key moments in my life. Today is my...

afglin · afglin

I wish there was a button to push for help. I was in chat twice this morning early. There was a person there who was asking very weird off the wall questions. They were not obscene or anything like that. Just quite confusing. I left once and returned. Three people left suddenly ...they they had been run o...

omajoy · omajoy

Today has been taking it an hour or less at a time. I am leaving Christmas behind. What little decor I did is now gone and stored. The gifts we were to have opened with our grandbaby are hidden in the closet once more...maybe later. Could not get two different doctors to answer their phones today, so no mo...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Looking back over this past year, I can say that I have been humbled. I have stuck my feet in my mouth more times than I can count. I have realized things are not always what they seem, and no amount of wishing can make it so. I have been thinking about how here on this board we all feel so connected. We are a fa...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Many of our friends seem to be missing... Among the frequent posters were Kim65, CarolinaGirl and FriendofYours Helllooooo, are you out there? Lou

debilyn · debilyn

old pig in the house is so much easier than a young one who gets into the dogs food, gets into the bird seed becuz ya left it down, takes off with your sandwich, when you go to get your drink pulls the covers off your bed, stands on your long nightgown when you bend over to pick something up that the cat knocked...

Grace7 · Grace7

The A in my life is my ex, we were married 22 yrs. I just came in from hosp. My sons found him collapsed on garage floor on Christmas Eve. He is in end stage liver disease. I'm also a nurse. I don't think he is going to get out of this one. My sons are hurting so bad, this brings back all sorts of fellings. ...

Codependent · Codependent

A yo e ever staged a i terve tio ? A yo e experie ce success? If you ca u dersta d my message... :)

roxygirl5 · roxygirl5

My son got arrested for being drunk in public and trespassing. He was at a party at a friends house and got so drunk that when he went out in front to smoke a cigarette and took a little walk he got so disoriented that he ended up in the wrong house (a neighbors). It was around 12:30 am, he opened the front doo...

omajoy · omajoy

Well, my resolve to attend f to f Friday fell through. My husband could not handle the grandchild alone as his illness continues to lay him low. I will continue to plan for next week. We kept child TH and FRI while his mother worked (well, I don't think she really worked one of the days, but that's another...

round3 · round3

I don't know what it is. Well I know what it is.......but I thought I was getting a handle on it......yet here I am feeling really weak and lonely. The holidays are done (whew), but I've got this other hurdle that's been in my subconcious for some time now. This New Year's Eve will mark the 30th anniver...

kissers · kissers

My boss told everyone they were to be at work on Saturday. He gave me 3 days notice and it was 2 days before Christmas. I was not able to get a sitter with 3 days notice on the weekend before Christmas. I sent my boss a response telling him I was not able to work on Saturday. I received my paycheck today which wa...

debilyn · debilyn

I just wanted to share this. You guys know where I am. I was leaning over hugging one of my fat hairy cats and it came to me. What I need is to be hugged by someone, and feel for that moment I don't have to do anything. I can cry and relax, and let it out. It being the pain, the memories, the hell of it all. Just be wi...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

the isolation, the aloneness has got to me and I feel drained and empty. It all seems so unnatural to me and I feel that I want to shout at the top of my voice... "HEY YOU LOT ", [meaning those members of my maternal and paternal family and my grown up children], "I am alive and I need you to at...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning family. I hope all is well with you and your families, and that you are recouperating from the chaos of the holiday. Christmas for us was quite. AH was sober (yeah) but hadn't been feeling well enough to travel to see the kids and grandkids for Christmas. I...

debilyn · debilyn

ver are u?? Hey that animal sanctuary is desperate for Help!!! It is not hard work. they may even help ya move to get there. I don't have much, true, but you could stop here on your way and rest a night. Please Mary the people are so nice, you would have a home for you and animals to. hugs debilyn

spirit · spirit

Hi, I am trying to stay strong. The relatives the friends, I have to watch how and what I say. My husbands mom had a stroke on Thurs.One relative called tonight, will be over Wed Thurs and dont know how long will stay on Friday. This person is a heavy smoker, drinker. I made the MISTAKE of saying "can...

Paws · Paws

I am new to message boards but if I don't at least type what I am feeling I think I'm going to explode. I have lived with an alcoholic for so long I'm not sure what is normal anymore. I think I will just talk to myself while I talk so I can make sense of what I am feeling. You all can read and listen if you like. I...

round3 · round3

Well I walked into my first al-anon meeting room last night. Actually - I should say it was the first time I have been in an al-anon room in 11 years. Wow. I've been in a lot of those rooms in my lifetime - even used to chair meetings, etc. But it's been 11 years since I've been there last. And there they w...

lmw · lmw

I should be sleeping now instead of writing this, but maybe if I get it down and out of my head Ill be able to go to sleep a lot of it is about my AH, not me, but Im trying to change how I react, so a little background might help. I left my AH last year; still waiting for the divorce to be final. He was thrown out of...

mykidsmom · mykidsmom

Hello, I am brand new here. I am feeling such guilt and grief and had no where else to turn, then I found this site. Just a little background.....my son went off the college 2 years ago and recently moved back home to finish school in our town. I had no idea that he had such a drinking problem until he moved ba...

Grace7 · Grace7

Hello, anyone out there? It has been months I've tried to get in the rooms, since my laptop was infected and my son fixed it. Again, since then, I only get a lined box shape with a very small X in the upper left corner of that "box" which is all blank. I have also tried to go through MIRC, again,...

ddub · ddub

Ok, this is a looonnnnggg holiday with all the kids home from schools & AH on vacation from work. Up and down, dodging balls that I feel are zipping right at me. The sinking feelings that could have made me sad as change happens, expressed in a way of gratitude earlier really helped me to look a...

AlaMom · AlaMom

We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...

KateAussie · KateAussie

When the alcoholic in my life was drinking openly and frequently it was easy for me to accept that he was an alcoholic and easy for me to come to Alanon and feel like I needed to be here. I felt like I was making progress, accepting things and trying to better myself. Now that I am back with the A in my life and h...

nmike · nmike

Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...

serendipity · serendipity

My ex didn't show for his last visitation. It was the day before Christmas eve. We have 3rd part supervised visitation by an agency. The girls, all on their own, had bought a little gift for him and wrapped it. And he didn't show. They were hurt and disappointed. I think my 13 yr old was not that surprised,...

Becky1 · Becky1

https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70133.jpg https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70022-1.jpg Merry Christmas from me and my two precious granddaughters, ages 3 and 1 month! Love in Recovery, Becky1 -- Edited by Becky1 at 08:24, 2007-12...

Codependent · Codependent

The key past the m is messed up so I will have a missig letter i my posts. ha Oe of the other posts metioed usig the term frieds to cotrol. How is that? My A calls me his best fried all the time. Hope you ca uderstad with my missig key.

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...

ddub · ddub

I feel uncomfortable and I have a choice to feel worse or try to feel better. Maybe this place is rubbing off on me (hooray!! ) but I guess gratitude helps? College kids on break are even more independent and have less time for me so I am thankful they are growing & going plus maybe not so worried about...

ally · ally

((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Hope you all had a "quiet" and "happy" Christmas, and are still feeling the "serenity" of the season. I've not been on here for a while, I still keep in touch with the board, and watch whats going on. Today I wanted you...

Mariedl05 · Mariedl05

Well, we admitted my A BF into Hospice yesterday afternoon. I am just waiting to receive the telephone call that he has passed away. I am relieved, sad, hurt, numb and angry all at the same time. I wrote him a goodbye letter and read it to him. I believe in my heart that he did hear every single word I sa...

fco1922 · fco1922

I am married to a woman with a growing alcohol problem but who is firmly in denial despite being hospitalised twice (i.e. sectioned) and having had numerous run-ins with the police. She's even spent time in a state facility but still refuses to believe that there is anything wrong. I'm now fighting to...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))))), With all the extreme weather going on, just wanted to let know that I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I've been thinking about all of you when I see the hurricanes, the extreme heat, the floods, etc. Hope you all are safe and sound. Please be careful out there. I w...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My ahsober is taking our three kids on a snow trip today. I bowed out a few weeks ago because he was being a jerk and I felt it was the right thing to do (and it still is), but not because I wanted too, and it hurts. Went into Christmas with no expectations and was pleasantly surprised to have ah include himse...

omajoy · omajoy

I am grateful to those who read my pitiful post Christmas Day and took the time from your own lives to respond. I needed everything and still do. I made it through 5 hours of sleep last night, got up this morning, showered and dressed. That is a start. Husband ill and we must try to see his doctor today AGAI...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Jean here keeping it real. Lots of happy this and merry that which is all fine and good and appreciated but for those who are not really feeling all that happy and merry, here is a small humble note from me who is not feeling all that merry and/or happy either. But that does not mean I am not grateful. I am a-o...

Heartbroken · Heartbroken

The gift of your acceptance of me, and I of you. Thank you Heartbroken

lin0606 · lin0606

I've been thinking about this sort of thing a lot, as we go through the first Christmas without my husband. In some ways I am so full of grief, missing him so bad. In other ways, it is so nice not to have his moods and instability to deal with. I do not miss the uncertainty of life with him - even with four ye...

texasproud2005 · texasproud2005

I've always been a holiday fanatic, especially Christmas. I'm the type that has house and yard decorations for each season/holiday. A and I were having problems after Thanksgiving so I put up the tree and a minimal amount of decorations this year. I was too tired, and zapped of good energy to do muc...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

I went out last night with a friend. The only place that stays open on Sunday is the casino, so we gave it a go. I don't gamble, all I could do really was analyze everything from the second I went in the door to the second I left. That place weirds me out. The pressure to buy and drink alcohol is so severe, it see...

afmom03 · afmom03

Dear Al-Anon Family, I am spending my day today, (actually the past 3 days & nights) going back to the very beginning of posts (#236), and reading the Topics that are "catching my eyes" to read. I do not observe this holiday...and I will just leav...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

((((((MIP group)))))) Just wanted to say I wish peace and love to everyone at MIP during this season and always. I haven't posted for a long time but I still come here often and pop in meetings sometimes. This group has been very important in my recovery and I am grateful for every one of you.So many new fa...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

http://www.time.com/time/photogallery/0,29307,1697456,00.html

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Al-Anon Ohana and Mele Kalikimaka!! (family) (Merry Christmas) It's abit after midnight this Christmas morning and the pups are surely waiting for Poppa to come to bed so they can snuggle. Two little gratitudes. Just wanted to share that We spent the 21st, 22n...

A Family Members Birthday! · tea2

Today is David62s Birthday! Wishes ((((( David ))))) for a Very Happy Birthday! Love, Care and Hugs -- Edited by tea2 at 11:45, 2007-12-22

Roxie345 · Roxie345

I want to wish all my dear Al-anon family a wonderful holiday! I told you all i'm an Elf; LOL here is the proof. Please have a side splitting laugh on me! Love you All Roxie345 aka RoxieElf

Codependent · Codependent

We had Christmas Eve party with A's family- that is my child & I. The A showed late & with a girl with her boobs out- awful for me to say. He said he got child a gift & would be by to give it to him. He didn't show or call. We hugged at the party & I felt some of my old feeligs. However, I must ac...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I`d love to, but... 1. I have to floss my cat. 2. I`ve dedicated my life to linguini. 3. I want to spend more time with my blender. 4. The President said he might drop in. 5. The man on television told me to say tuned. 6. I`ve been scheduled for a karma transplant. 7. I`m staying home to work on my cott...

omajoy · omajoy

I have joined this site twice and cancelled myself twice. I continue to read the site many times a day, but had grown to feel this was not for me. I am the mother, not the spouse. So much of what I read was (in my own interpretation, I am sure) critical of mothers. I could not bear it. I took it personally. But...

optimistundone · optimistundone

We are cooking dinner for my AH's family. Not only are they dull, but either they are drunks or make my co-dependency look like child's play. You can't sneeze without everyone discussing it. So, I am trying to brace for them - how badly I would rather be with my family where we actually enjoy being wit...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Earth But Cloaks Your Heaven I salute you. I am your friend, and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not already, but there is much, very much, which though I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven. No peace...

afglin · afglin

I posted a couple of days ago about my husband's daughter calling and wanting ot meet him. She's 41 and he has never seen her. We had a change in plans and were able to move up the Thursday afternoon meting to today. We drove an hour away and Met K. and her husband and 6 ½ year old daughter. It went very well...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi everyone, I've done it. I've left my Abf. I got a new place for myself and have now moved in alone. He also has an apartment, he shares. I helped him with moving...spent a week packing and unpacking and it still isn't nearly finished. Really I'm amazed at how quickly it all happened. I decided...

Euoria · Euoria

Since this is the time of sharing and giving; I'd like to share and give a little what I have learned and the importance of changing belief systems. So often, "it's not fair," is a cry or a wail or a hurt uttered, with justification we all have said or heard. I've been thinking on that: withou...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Shrinking and Growing (Preview) I have come to a recent realization that what I have been doing and what I continue to do is to shrink the A's in my life and grow my HP in my life. If my daily life were a pie, I am systematically, day in and day out making the slice for my A's smaller and smaller and the majority of the pie is going to my HP. This pi...	Jean4444	1	534	Dec 30, 2007 by Maria123
	Help please with a medical issue! (Preview) (((((Family))), A very early good morning to you all. I need your assistance please if you can. Back in August hubby lost his very good pyschiatrist for a better job. She spent so much time getting him stable with benzodiapzapines (sp?). She really worked wonders with him. After she left they fo...	Karilynn	6	737	Dec 30, 2007 by Diva
	Still thinking I can affect this disease... (Preview) You know I just went through a little bout of thinking that somehow I could make my AH happy!! I seem to recall that there was a time a really long time ago when it seemed that I did. But that was an illusion, albeit a very tantalizing one because it was one hell of a year. He said I made him happy. He said I mad...	Jean4444	8	714	Dec 30, 2007 by Jean4444
	I'm new to the board and I need advice, please HELP! (Preview) I'm sure compared to many of your past events and horrible occurences, this might not be a big thing, but I need advice. My mother is an alcoholic, she has been my whole life. I am a happily married adult with two beautiful children. Several times, she has destroyed key moments in my life. Today is my...	spagirl	8	636	Dec 30, 2007 by optimistundone
	I wish tthere was a button to push for help (Preview) I wish there was a button to push for help. I was in chat twice this morning early. There was a person there who was asking very weird off the wall questions. They were not obscene or anything like that. Just quite confusing. I left once and returned. Three people left suddenly ...they they had been run o...	afglin	2	416	Dec 30, 2007 by afglin
	leaving Christmas (Preview) Today has been taking it an hour or less at a time. I am leaving Christmas behind. What little decor I did is now gone and stored. The gifts we were to have opened with our grandbaby are hidden in the closet once more...maybe later. Could not get two different doctors to answer their phones today, so no mo...	omajoy	10	11821	Dec 30, 2007 by Peggy7
	Being humbled (Preview) Looking back over this past year, I can say that I have been humbled. I have stuck my feet in my mouth more times than I can count. I have realized things are not always what they seem, and no amount of wishing can make it so. I have been thinking about how here on this board we all feel so connected. We are a fa...	Loupiness	6	455	Dec 30, 2007 by ddub
	Missing our friends... (Preview) Many of our friends seem to be missing... Among the frequent posters were Kim65, CarolinaGirl and FriendofYours Helllooooo, are you out there? Lou	Loupiness	1	474	Dec 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	I have noticed that at eden..... (Preview) old pig in the house is so much easier than a young one who gets into the dogs food, gets into the bird seed becuz ya left it down, takes off with your sandwich, when you go to get your drink pulls the covers off your bed, stands on your long nightgown when you bend over to pick something up that the cat knocked...	debilyn	7	748	Dec 29, 2007 by Jerry F
	My A is dying-literally (Preview) The A in my life is my ex, we were married 22 yrs. I just came in from hosp. My sons found him collapsed on garage floor on Christmas Eve. He is in end stage liver disease. I'm also a nurse. I don't think he is going to get out of this one. My sons are hurting so bad, this brings back all sorts of fellings. ...	Grace7	7	890	Dec 29, 2007 by Karilynn
	Itervetio- remember I am missig letter after m (Preview) A yo e ever staged a i terve tio ? A yo e experie ce success? If you ca u dersta d my message... :)	Codependent	4	644	Dec 29, 2007 by Codependent
	HE DID IT AGAIN!!! (Preview) My son got arrested for being drunk in public and trespassing. He was at a party at a friends house and got so drunk that when he went out in front to smoke a cigarette and took a little walk he got so disoriented that he ended up in the wrong house (a neighbors). It was around 12:30 am, he opened the front doo...	roxygirl5	5	535	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Can it get worse...probably! (Preview) Well, my resolve to attend f to f Friday fell through. My husband could not handle the grandchild alone as his illness continues to lay him low. I will continue to plan for next week. We kept child TH and FRI while his mother worked (well, I don't think she really worked one of the days, but that's another...	omajoy	2	567	Dec 29, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	Feeling weak (Preview) I don't know what it is. Well I know what it is.......but I thought I was getting a handle on it......yet here I am feeling really weak and lonely. The holidays are done (whew), but I've got this other hurdle that's been in my subconcious for some time now. This New Year's Eve will mark the 30th anniver...	round3	7	655	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	I guess I am being paid back...... (Preview) My boss told everyone they were to be at work on Saturday. He gave me 3 days notice and it was 2 days before Christmas. I was not able to get a sitter with 3 days notice on the weekend before Christmas. I sent my boss a response telling him I was not able to work on Saturday. I received my paycheck today which wa...	kissers	8	745	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	With no hugs (Preview) I just wanted to share this. You guys know where I am. I was leaning over hugging one of my fat hairy cats and it came to me. What I need is to be hugged by someone, and feel for that moment I don't have to do anything. I can cry and relax, and let it out. It being the pain, the memories, the hell of it all. Just be wi...	debilyn	12	800	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Suddenly it's all too much... (Preview) the isolation, the aloneness has got to me and I feel drained and empty. It all seems so unnatural to me and I feel that I want to shout at the top of my voice... "HEY YOU LOT ", [meaning those members of my maternal and paternal family and my grown up children], "I am alive and I need you to at...	Heartbroken	7	618	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Hubby on vacation! (Preview) ((((((((((Family)))))))), Good morning family. I hope all is well with you and your families, and that you are recouperating from the chaos of the holiday. Christmas for us was quite. AH was sober (yeah) but hadn't been feeling well enough to travel to see the kids and grandkids for Christmas. I...	Karilynn	5	649	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	Marisie (Preview) ver are u?? Hey that animal sanctuary is desperate for Help!!! It is not hard work. they may even help ya move to get there. I don't have much, true, but you could stop here on your way and rest a night. Please Mary the people are so nice, you would have a home for you and animals to. hugs debilyn	debilyn	1	397	Dec 29, 2007 by maresie
	dislike holidays (Preview) Hi, I am trying to stay strong. The relatives the friends, I have to watch how and what I say. My husbands mom had a stroke on Thurs.One relative called tonight, will be over Wed Thurs and dont know how long will stay on Friday. This person is a heavy smoker, drinker. I made the MISTAKE of saying "can...	spirit	9	493	Dec 29, 2007 by stormie
	New to Talk (Preview) I am new to message boards but if I don't at least type what I am feeling I think I'm going to explode. I have lived with an alcoholic for so long I'm not sure what is normal anymore. I think I will just talk to myself while I talk so I can make sense of what I am feeling. You all can read and listen if you like. I...	Paws	2	465	Dec 29, 2007 by Paws
	Face to face meeting (Preview) Well I walked into my first al-anon meeting room last night. Actually - I should say it was the first time I have been in an al-anon room in 11 years. Wow. I've been in a lot of those rooms in my lifetime - even used to chair meetings, etc. But it's been 11 years since I've been there last. And there they w...	round3	2	495	Dec 29, 2007 by Jean4444
	Relapse is the pits.... (Preview) I should be sleeping now instead of writing this, but maybe if I get it down and out of my head Ill be able to go to sleep a lot of it is about my AH, not me, but Im trying to change how I react, so a little background might help. I left my AH last year; still waiting for the divorce to be final. He was thrown out of...	lmw	3	411	Dec 29, 2007 by lmw
	feel like my son has died (Preview) Hello, I am brand new here. I am feeling such guilt and grief and had no where else to turn, then I found this site. Just a little background.....my son went off the college 2 years ago and recently moved back home to finish school in our town. I had no idea that he had such a drinking problem until he moved ba...	mykidsmom	8	677	Dec 29, 2007 by Baffled
	Need Help Getting in Meeting Room (Preview) Hello, anyone out there? It has been months I've tried to get in the rooms, since my laptop was infected and my son fixed it. Again, since then, I only get a lined box shape with a very small X in the upper left corner of that "box" which is all blank. I have also tried to go through MIRC, again,...	Grace7	2	428	Dec 28, 2007 by nutmegger
	On the roller coaster playing dodge ball (Preview) Ok, this is a looonnnnggg holiday with all the kids home from schools & AH on vacation from work. Up and down, dodging balls that I feel are zipping right at me. The sinking feelings that could have made me sad as change happens, expressed in a way of gratitude earlier really helped me to look a...	ddub	6	481	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	Physical, Emotional & Spiritual (Preview) We often hear in this program that we need to take care of the physical, emotional & spiritual well being to become whole. I started that journey many years ago by walking through the doors of Alanon. It was the start of trusting anyone again. I started from the ground up so to speak because I was...	AlaMom	4	843	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	My Mom (Preview) Hi all, Last nite in chatroom I told ya'll my sis had my 81 yr old Mom in the ER . Well, it's her gall bladder, it's full of stones. She has COPD and emphasema and can't have surgery, so they're going to try to help her with medicine. I hope they can and it doesn't burst. She wanted to go home my sis said, but she c...	jonibaloni21	9	548	Dec 28, 2007 by Maria123
	Major case of denial (Preview) When the alcoholic in my life was drinking openly and frequently it was easy for me to accept that he was an alcoholic and easy for me to come to Alanon and feel like I needed to be here. I felt like I was making progress, accepting things and trying to better myself. Now that I am back with the A in my life and h...	KateAussie	11	697	Dec 28, 2007 by KateAussie
	0 degrees (Preview) Good morn Alanoners and Happy Holidays. Thanks for being there 24/7 with your esh and pm's. Actually it is now minus 10 degrees and a beautiful winter scene out my window. I have to work on seeing things for what they are and accepting what is. When it is degrees or less you can't run and have to accept wha...	nmike	3	641	Dec 28, 2007 by Jerry F
	Just a long vent (Preview) My ex didn't show for his last visitation. It was the day before Christmas eve. We have 3rd part supervised visitation by an agency. The girls, all on their own, had bought a little gift for him and wrapped it. And he didn't show. They were hurt and disappointed. I think my 13 yr old was not that surprised,...	serendipity	5	414	Dec 28, 2007 by Loupiness
	Merry Christmas & Happy New Year from Me & My Girls (Preview) https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70133.jpg https://i274.photobucket.com/albums/jj272/bentonwife/STA70022-1.jpg Merry Christmas from me and my two precious granddaughters, ages 3 and 1 month! Love in Recovery, Becky1 -- Edited by Becky1 at 08:24, 2007-12...	Becky1	5	1186	Dec 28, 2007 by Becky1
	Frieds (Preview) The key past the m is messed up so I will have a missig letter i my posts. ha Oe of the other posts metioed usig the term frieds to cotrol. How is that? My A calls me his best fried all the time. Hope you ca uderstad with my missig key.	Codependent	7	598	Dec 28, 2007 by debilyn
	Being honest about feelings (Preview) I couldn't hit a wall with a six-gun, but I can twirl one. It looks good. --John Wayne Many of us fake emotions because our past experiences never taught us how to use boundaries when dealing with feelings. Now we are oftentimes stumped when it comes to knowing how we should feel or act when we are faced w...	Tiger2006	4	714	Dec 28, 2007 by debilyn
	gratitude helps? (Preview) I feel uncomfortable and I have a choice to feel worse or try to feel better. Maybe this place is rubbing off on me (hooray!! ) but I guess gratitude helps? College kids on break are even more independent and have less time for me so I am thankful they are growing & going plus maybe not so worried about...	ddub	3	513	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
	CHRISTMAS WISH, COME TRUE :) (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((Guys))))))))))))))))))))) Hope you all had a "quiet" and "happy" Christmas, and are still feeling the "serenity" of the season. I've not been on here for a while, I still keep in touch with the board, and watch whats going on. Today I wanted you...	ally	2	425	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
	The End (Preview) Well, we admitted my A BF into Hospice yesterday afternoon. I am just waiting to receive the telephone call that he has passed away. I am relieved, sad, hurt, numb and angry all at the same time. I wrote him a goodbye letter and read it to him. I believe in my heart that he did hear every single word I sa...	Mariedl05	13	790	Dec 27, 2007 by cookie1971
	Finding the courage to go on (Preview) I am married to a woman with a growing alcohol problem but who is firmly in denial despite being hospitalised twice (i.e. sectioned) and having had numerous run-ins with the police. She's even spent time in a state facility but still refuses to believe that there is anything wrong. I'm now fighting to...	fco1922	5	680	Dec 27, 2007 by nmike
	Prayers for MIP family (Preview) ((((((Family))))))), With all the extreme weather going on, just wanted to let know that I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. I've been thinking about all of you when I see the hurricanes, the extreme heat, the floods, etc. Hope you all are safe and sound. Please be careful out there. I w...	Karilynn	2	472	Dec 27, 2007 by Peggy7
	Having second thoughts.... (Preview) My ahsober is taking our three kids on a snow trip today. I bowed out a few weeks ago because he was being a jerk and I felt it was the right thing to do (and it still is), but not because I wanted too, and it hurts. Went into Christmas with no expectations and was pleasantly surprised to have ah include himse...	Loupiness	12	469	Dec 27, 2007 by Jen
	being heard (Preview) I am grateful to those who read my pitiful post Christmas Day and took the time from your own lives to respond. I needed everything and still do. I made it through 5 hours of sleep last night, got up this morning, showered and dressed. That is a start. Husband ill and we must try to see his doctor today AGAI...	omajoy	6	542	Dec 27, 2007 by Jen
	If you are NOT really having a merry Xmas, its OK.... (Preview) Jean here keeping it real. Lots of happy this and merry that which is all fine and good and appreciated but for those who are not really feeling all that happy and merry, here is a small humble note from me who is not feeling all that merry and/or happy either. But that does not mean I am not grateful. I am a-o...	Jean4444	5	458	Dec 27, 2007 by leo
	The best gift ever... (Preview) The gift of your acceptance of me, and I of you. Thank you Heartbroken	Heartbroken	4	587	Dec 27, 2007 by leo
	Grief and Relief (Preview) I've been thinking about this sort of thing a lot, as we go through the first Christmas without my husband. In some ways I am so full of grief, missing him so bad. In other ways, it is so nice not to have his moods and instability to deal with. I do not miss the uncertainty of life with him - even with four ye...	lin0606	4	545	Dec 27, 2007 by Becky1
	So glad this day is over, vent (Preview) I've always been a holiday fanatic, especially Christmas. I'm the type that has house and yard decorations for each season/holiday. A and I were having problems after Thanksgiving so I put up the tree and a minimal amount of decorations this year. I was too tired, and zapped of good energy to do muc...	texasproud2005	9	711	Dec 27, 2007 by Jean4444
	I guess it's normal (Preview) I went out last night with a friend. The only place that stays open on Sunday is the casino, so we gave it a go. I don't gamble, all I could do really was analyze everything from the second I went in the door to the second I left. That place weirds me out. The pressure to buy and drink alcohol is so severe, it see...	RainyJamie	3	615	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	Old Topics/NEW OUTLOOK!!! (Preview) Dear Al-Anon Family, I am spending my day today, (actually the past 3 days & nights) going back to the very beginning of posts (#236), and reading the Topics that are "catching my eyes" to read. I do not observe this holiday...and I will just leav...	afmom03	4	567	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	still around..... (Preview) ((((((MIP group)))))) Just wanted to say I wish peace and love to everyone at MIP during this season and always. I haven't posted for a long time but I still come here often and pop in meetings sometimes. This group has been very important in my recovery and I am grateful for every one of you.So many new fa...	drucilla06	5	552	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	To the child in all of us... (Preview) http://www.time.com/time/photogallery/0,29307,1697456,00.html	Tiger2006	2	361	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	Gratitude.....OF COURSE!! (Preview) Aloha Al-Anon Ohana and Mele Kalikimaka!! (family) (Merry Christmas) It's abit after midnight this Christmas morning and the pups are surely waiting for Poppa to come to bed so they can snuggle. Two little gratitudes. Just wanted to share that We spent the 21st, 22n...	Jerry F	7	564	Dec 26, 2007 by Maria123
	A Family Members Birthday! (Preview) Today is David62s Birthday! Wishes ((((( David ))))) for a Very Happy Birthday! Love, Care and Hugs -- Edited by tea2 at 11:45, 2007-12-22	tea2	22	742	Dec 26, 2007 by aunitedway
	Happy Holidays/Merry Christmas (Preview) I want to wish all my dear Al-anon family a wonderful holiday! I told you all i'm an Elf; LOL here is the proof. Please have a side splitting laugh on me! Love you All Roxie345 aka RoxieElf	Roxie345	7	364	Dec 26, 2007 by aunitedway
	What is choice & what is disease? (Preview) We had Christmas Eve party with A's family- that is my child & I. The A showed late & with a girl with her boobs out- awful for me to say. He said he got child a gift & would be by to give it to him. He didn't show or call. We hugged at the party & I felt some of my old feeligs. However, I must ac...	Codependent	8	909	Dec 26, 2007 by debilyn
	101 Easy Ways To Say No (Preview) I`d love to, but... 1. I have to floss my cat. 2. I`ve dedicated my life to linguini. 3. I want to spend more time with my blender. 4. The President said he might drop in. 5. The man on television told me to say tuned. 6. I`ve been scheduled for a karma transplant. 7. I`m staying home to work on my cott...	Mobirdie	2	869	Dec 26, 2007 by lin0606
	please hear me (Preview) I have joined this site twice and cancelled myself twice. I continue to read the site many times a day, but had grown to feel this was not for me. I am the mother, not the spouse. So much of what I read was (in my own interpretation, I am sure) critical of mothers. I could not bear it. I took it personally. But...	omajoy	9	537	Dec 26, 2007 by nmike
	Serenity now....serenity now.... (Preview) We are cooking dinner for my AH's family. Not only are they dull, but either they are drunks or make my co-dependency look like child's play. You can't sneeze without everyone discussing it. So, I am trying to brace for them - how badly I would rather be with my family where we actually enjoy being wit...	optimistundone	6	618	Dec 26, 2007 by optimistundone
	A Christmas message for everyone (Preview) Earth But Cloaks Your Heaven I salute you. I am your friend, and my love for you goes deep. There is nothing I can give you which you have not already, but there is much, very much, which though I cannot give it, you can take. No heaven can come to us unless our hearts find rest in today. Take heaven. No peace...	Tenderheartsks	4	657	Dec 25, 2007 by Tenderheartsks
	update for shocking phone call (Preview) I posted a couple of days ago about my husband's daughter calling and wanting ot meet him. She's 41 and he has never seen her. We had a change in plans and were able to move up the Thursday afternoon meting to today. We drove an hour away and Met K. and her husband and 6 ½ year old daughter. It went very well...	afglin	11	727	Dec 25, 2007 by Dale
	I left him................. (Preview) Hi everyone, I've done it. I've left my Abf. I got a new place for myself and have now moved in alone. He also has an apartment, he shares. I helped him with moving...spent a week packing and unpacking and it still isn't nearly finished. Really I'm amazed at how quickly it all happened. I decided...	annmarie	15	718	Dec 25, 2007 by round3
	Holiday Wishes to All of You (Preview) Since this is the time of sharing and giving; I'd like to share and give a little what I have learned and the importance of changing belief systems. So often, "it's not fair," is a cry or a wail or a hurt uttered, with justification we all have said or heard. I've been thinking on that: withou...	Euoria	5	494	Dec 25, 2007 by carosie
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