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Busy Busy week....lots of changes
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Hello All, have not posted in a week or so but have kept up on the reading here....always such a big help...seems like when Im about at the end of my rope I can come here and read for a bit and it helps to calm me. LOTS of changes in my household the past week or so....I made up my mind that I will no longer do th...
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What else can I do?
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Thankyou for the posts from the other nite. I have tried to call my son re: separting from his wife. I left messages on his cell phone. I don't want to call his home-I feel that I would be interfering with his wife and him. I would love to take the kids for the evening...........I am trying to LEt Go and Let G...
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Celebrating an engagement!
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Some of you will remember that I first came here, devastated by the relationship I had with my daughter, well to be honest the relationship I did NOT have with my daughter. Since then I have been learning how to focus on me; to change the things I could in me and accept the things I could not change in her. I...
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Back From Vegas
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(((((Family))))) Well I'm back home again. We had a great flight both ways. I must say, I was worried for nothing. I truly had a good time. My daughter enjoyed her birthday , and I didn't have to end up being a third wheel with her and her boyfriend Hubby was on his best behavior, going out of his way to make m...
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ftf meetings
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I just went to my first AA meeting despite not being an A. I bawled through most of the meeting. I caused the woman that was heading hte meeting enough that she wanted to talk to me afterwards. She told me about Alateen and Alanon. Once I got up the urge to speak to her (I had kept saying to my friend, Nate, I do...
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very new to this, have questions
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I've been with my A husband for almost 10 years. We've had 3 children with one on the way. I'm pretty much at my wit's end with him. After reading this board for the last few days I see I am pretty much a textbook A wife/sig. other. His biggest complaint about me is I'm a control freak. (in his words) I've alwa...
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I'm going
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To an Al-Anon meeting next Monday evening. I posted late last week my story, and thank you to everyone that responded, I did some more reserach on Al Anon, and after thinking about it and talking with my counsellor today who helped me to realize my H is alchohol dependant (he is a functioning alcoholic,...
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Thank you!
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(((((((((((Family)))))))), Thank you all for the wonderful birthday wishes. It was indeed a lovely day. Even though the sun was shining we pretended it was a rainy day. We stayed home, watched movies and ate . I made all of my favorite foods with lots of butter. Julia Child had nothing on me that d...
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Update on me...
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Today is my Friday! (assuming you don't count my 2nd job in which case Saturday is my Friday LOL) Next time I come here I will be a divorced woman! For those of you who know my story you're probably saying it's about dang time!!! ;) Monday is the court date to finalize the divorce and give me full custo...
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What if?
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I'm so blessed to have this board. I've been reading so many of the posts lately - and so many apply to my situation. (HP????) As many of you know...my on-again off-again on-again off-again 30 year romance with my A seems to be on again - albeit from a great distance. But he's been talking to me about...
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abandoned again
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Hello Everyone, I wanted to say thank you for all the replies and suggestions I have received fromall of you. Next, i don't even know where to start I cannot think or function anymore? I think I am on auto cruise control or something. It's like I am in a fog. The only thing I can do is get up (barely) get ...
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The Butterfly Story
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The Butterfly Story Before this great change comes about, The fuzzy little worm withdraws from its caterpillar world, an finds itself a place alone ,and there painfully, and with much struggling, it wraps itself tightly into a cocoon of its own making; It literally seals itself from the world. Days...
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The Chicken or the Egg
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The alcoholic in my life has been diagnosed with a serious mental illness. They won't discuss it and surprise surprise, are in denial about it. In so much denial that I was not told about it before the marriage, I found out by coming across some legal papers which contained information about the dia...
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More miracles...gosh darnit!!
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Aloha All!! I guess I'll bubble a bit and then slaunter off to bed. The family is still growing!! Step Son and Step Daughter-in-Law are now three and it is sooooo promising cause he has been clean and sober over half his life now and her also. And the new member?....a girl finally!!...and check out her...
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meditation for today from hazelden
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No decision has to bind us forever. Most of us are no longer sure what we want to be doing a year or even a month from now. When we are called upon to make decisions, any decision that commits us to a certain path in the future, we shudder. Will we be allowed to change our minds. What a change this is from earlie...
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Made two decisions
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The first decision (posted under Maria's) was to share my recovery program with a friend. Not a good decision. She called me born again and said she didn't understand. I just wanted to let her know that I had found help with my pain. The second decision was thought out by me. If my AHsober calls I need to ha...
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it only takes one little thing...
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Not even an hour after I last posted, any serenity I thought I had come to, got destroyed. I hate that! Makes me feel stupid. I phoned my AH for two purposes. First, I wanted my son to stay at the office for the day since he didn't have school. Second, my youngest had an injury, and given the medical back...
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Why are they so hurtful?
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I am working on my recovery (from my eating disorder) and here lately my A has been really big with his words. He has said some of the not so nice things to me. He talked about my weight. Working on getting a job and everytime I have good news he comes in with negative comments. Then is constantly on me on why...
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Has anyone gone through this?-I sooo h=need help!
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I have posted before-but I am so down--my son has called me on Sunday nite and said his wife and her were divorcing. I have me 83 yr. old Mom here-the start of demensia, so I have had such a stressing 4 days...and so many more to come. I love these grandkids so much--have them all the time. My son is saying his...
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I'm opening up
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I really surprised myself at my meeting last night.
We had a newcomer to our meeting, and I actually smiled at him and told him welcome, and then after the meeting gave him a big hug, told him I was glad he was there and to keep coming back!
I NEVER do that! I am a person who is terrified of new people. I'...
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Interesting...
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...you know I cannot find a single post in all of MIP where someone says: "gee, you know it was a real mistake for me to leave/divorce my alcoholic spouse, I really regret it". Just found that interesting...if I am wrong, please correct me!! Hugs, J.
PS: I am in no way saying that this is the b...
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making Amends to my spouse
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Making amends to my spouse seemed an impossible task. I couldn't find the humility or the courage. This article helped me to change my thinking: I love a man, he is a different kind of man than most, He is a special man. Most people do not understand, because he is one of many that are the so called weakling...
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Compassion and Courage
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I first just want to say that though I have not posted in a while I do think of everyone often and still read the posts. My A has now been transferred to a maximum security jail because of the violations he incurred that resulted in lock down for the extended period. Now he is double shackeled when allowed o...
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I went over “The Bridge”
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As many of you know, I have shared Letting go of those not in recovery which I call The Bridge. Letting Go of Those Not In Recovery We can go forward with our life and recoveries, even though someone we love is not yet recovering. Picture a bridge. On one side of the bridge, it is cold and dark. We stood the...
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Tough day today
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My 19 year old AD told me today that this coming weekend is the weekend she is moving out. I know this is her own journey, and I can't save her from herself. I've turned it over and taken it back a dozen times today. It's not that she's moving in with an alcoholic, but she's moving in with an abusive alcoholic...
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ty your concerns and prayers
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Thank you all for your prayers and concerns, pertaining to my surgery. I am healing one day at a time. I have so much love in my heart for all of you. I have a good hubby that has helped and took care of me. I sponsor a few people and received so much support for them as well. Alanon is and has bin my life line. So w...
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It's true... it is hard to get rid of your alcoholic
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I had read in an Alanon book that it is hard to get rid of an alcoholic. I hadn't heard from my A-bf since early February... I thought I was rid of him for good now. And not necessarily by my choosing. I was "fired" by his father. His father left a weird voice mail for me back in February; then I h...
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what's wrong with me?
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Hello All, I am having a horrible time dealing with all this pain! i can't get me mind off all the drama in my life. I have tried to let go and let god. I am trying really hardbut i feel asif i cant make a move or think until my Ah calls to let me know everything is ok. My husband is not living w/ me and our daughter...
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A new beginning...
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Hello Alanon family!
I haven't posted in a very long time. I've still been here reading once in a while.
I wanted to share with you that I'm beginning a new chapter in my life.
As many of you know, I left my Alcoholic/cocaine-addicted husband in September 2006 and my divorce was final in March of 2007...
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artygirl
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Another April Birthday Girl !!!!!!!!!!!
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(((((((((Shadow)))))))))))))))))), Happy Birthday Girl !!!!! Remember, as Kari will tell us, calories don't count today. I hope your day was a wonderful one!!! love ya, Maria
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Sponsorship...
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Ok, so I know I've not posted in a while, and a lot of things has been happening medically wise as of here recently...however I have managed to make each one of my F2F meetings except for the last 2 weeks. Which brings me to the question that I have. I contacted my sponsor to let her know that I would be there t...
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New Member and Not Sure How to Do This
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I am new to the group. A little bit about myself. I am living with an alcholic but of course he will not see that. Right now I have been battling with an Eating Disorder and have been doing that for a year. when I used to bring up about how I have this addiction and how he needs to get treatment for his addiction...
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This could get long
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I've been working on my personal inventory and find myself even more depressed. I hurt someone really bad and I have regretted it ever since (10 years ago). I was living with a guy...a normal guy. He loved me for who I was, never asked for anything from me and treated me like a princess. He had no real vi...
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Accepting what is...
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Last night the kids and I went to dinner at my husband's sister's home. His mom, brother and his wife were there too. It has gotten to the point now where only one of us is invited. My AH called to ask his sis a question while we were there and everyone hushed. Wierd. I enjoyed myself, we had wonderful, fun co...
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Deverstated!!!!
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He left. I gave him a choice booze or his familey and he left. I cant describ how I feel. Deverstated is a little of an understatment. Feels like he has ripped my heart out and stammped on it. He said he wont let me rule his life he is going to drink with or without me and I expect him to be a man he isnt. He said he d...
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Is my HP trying to tell me something?
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I got a phone call today from a very distraught woman whose husband has returned to drinking. She was crying, full of fear, desperately reaching out hoping someone could fix it, and my heart went out to her. She called me because I am listed as the AA contact for our AA meetings here, but I also qualify for...
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A long, exhausting weekend
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Just fair warning, this is really, REALLY long, and honestly, I think that I'm just working things through in my head as I post this.
I had a long, trying and exhausting weekend full of highs and lows. Jeez. I almost think my weekend was bipolar or something.
As I've mentioned before, my AH's brothe...
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I am finally ready to get a divorce!
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Its been years. I have struggled and massaged and contorted and tried and suffered and did every thing imaginable regarding puzzling over this question: to stay or to leave. I finally am ready. It just came to me one morning after I woke up: I am ready to move on. I deserve better. Even if I am driven to liv...
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still no sign
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hi everyone my A went out 9 days ago got drunk and has not been in touch since. Hes in his mums See he knows I will not accept it anymore. I have had good and bad days Thought he might have rang 2day 3rd anniversary he never This helps me to see I am doing the right thing I know he loves me but he knows its not worki...
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clarity of thought
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what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...
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One of April's Birthday Girl
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(((((((((((Kari)))))))))))) Today is the day (or is it week) that calories don't count ? Happy Birthday!!! to you. Here is your and ice cream (hmm need an emoticon for that one because ice cream is my favorite ). Wishes for a wonderful year ahead for you. Live Strong, Maria
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clarity of thought
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what a great concept and yet what a scary thing to have. With our program it isn't at all scary. Not just because because I have program, fellowship, meetings, chat room, etc. but mostly because I have me. I am progress and not perfection and I am excellent. Everyone is excellent and I am grateful for...
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You are
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You Are ..... > > > > You are strong... when you take your grief and teach > > it to smile. > > You are brave... when you overcome your fear and help > > others to do the same. > > You are happy... when you see a flower and are > > thankful for the blessing. > >...
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Should I be here?
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I have seen this question many times. In my experience,even if I don't have an A in my life,what I have learned here at MIP alanon, my life is ever so much better. I am a better person. I took a bit off from the internet pet lists I am on.Was feeling so crummy losing animals right and left to old age. My attitud...
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rebounding more quickly
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This week has been one step forward, two back, but I am rebounding more quickly than earlier in my journey. Made several errors this week in dealing with my son. He has had two awful days of discoveries/experiences with his EX which has knocked him off his sobriety once more. I, forgetting what I know t...
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jumbled thoughts
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I was reading the thread "in all our affairs" by Lin plus replies from Jerry and others. This is really a thought provoking thread that has given me a lot to think about. I was sensitive, loner, runner, fearful ....... I barely express myself, let alone express anger. I can help others but...
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Relax
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Step One: RELAX-> I don't have to be in charge or in control anymore. It's going to be okay. Step Two: RELAX-> I can simply believe that someone stronger than I can restore me to health and wholeness. Step Three: RELAX-> I can easily turn my whole life and well-being over to God, as I understand...
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Living in the now...
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Okay, I keep coming across this phrase... "Living in the now...", which encourages me to concentrate on just that, but I don't really have a clue what it means. Whilst I realise that it is healthy to live each day as it comes, my past is a part of me, and my future is what I will be, so by "Li...
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Affirmation
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Affirmations I am creative and intelligent I am a magnet for Miracles I am always in the right place at the right time I am a natural winner I am powerful magnet for Abundance I am open and willing to change I am open to all business opportunities I am committed to excellence in all I do I am success in motion...
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ONLINE SPONSOR NEEDED PLEASE
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Hi im new to alanon and im unable to attend f2f meetings due to a difficult pregnancy so i am in need on an online sponsor. please email me or respond here my email is lovingarmstrong@yahoo.com Only females inquire please.
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My HP called
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My HP works in mysterious ways. Right after I posted last night I was of course having my pity party about being left out of my AHsober's plans (a novel idea that he plans around me). Another neighbor called and invited me to supper Sunday nite. Her relatives from Hilo, HI are in town and would I like to com...
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In All Our Affairs
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I've had quite the week, with plenty of opportunities to use my alanon tools. My job, which I have been at for many years, gives me a high degree of autonomy - I basically am my own boss, within the limits of reality (budget, licensing regulations, etc). We got a new director in January, and since that ti...
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I made it!!
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This last year has been very crazy for me to say the least! Came within inches of death, took on lots of extra responsibilities, and had the toughest semester I've ever had! Somehow, I was able to get through it all.....the program has become rooted so well in my life that even when I couldn't get to meeti...
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Answers please
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This is my first time posting. I believe my husband is a functioning alcoholic. I never grew up around alcohol, sure I saw my parents have the odd drink, but neither one was the type who came home and "had to unwind" by knocking a few back. That's why this is very difficult for me to figure out...
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In a better place...
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I have been reflecting of late where I was this time last year. I am in such a better place and I am so grateful for the learning curve that seemed to be a real tough one in October of last year. So many years have passed by and it seemed as though I was always going to be stuck in the same old same old. How delig...
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Jealous of Husband's AA Friends
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Can you tell me, is it acceptable in the AA program for recovering Alcoholics to develop and maintain a close relationship to someone of the opposite sex and go to breakfast/lunch on occasion with them, go to the gym and workout with each other, call each other almost daily? I admit I am a jealous per...
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The weekend....
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Hi Alanoners,
It is the weekend to stay home. Catch up at work and at home. It is hard for me but not as hard as it use to be. Everyone leaves for the weekend. Kinda lonely. I ask my sons to call me on Sunday - is once a week too much? They usually don't call. I am having dinner with a neighbor tomorrow night. Sh...
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nmike
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Look Beyond
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Look beyond Look beyond what irritates you and you'll find those things that empower you. Look past what frustrates you and begin to uncover what drives you. Look beyond what worries you and you'll discover what inspires you. Look beyond what frightens you and you'll see what strengthens you. Look b...
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angel123
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Support and all the eggs in one basket
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I was called out(gently) at a meeting last night. I had shared a bit about feeling betrayed by someone and trouble I was having with someone who was, at one time, my biggest support. Anyway someone with only a few months in the program asked me, "With all your experience and so much more time in the p...
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Jen
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Making all th esame mistakes again?
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Dear all, At present I am socialising quite a bit and have become attracted to a man I have met. As things are still unclear with ex A, I am unable to move on, yet I find myself having deep feeling for someone who is not all that suitable for me. Our relationship is fueled by alcohol. I am not in any shape at pre...
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maire rua
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