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I get like this sometimes and have never really found a good way to work myself out of it. I could really use some esh on how you all manage to get going again.
I know I have been under a lot of stress lately and at the moment have a bit of a head cold or something(sore throat, headache, body ache). I don't know if Its just that or what, but I hate feeling this way. Thank HP for the kids and the animals or I would sit all day and veg out. Not that I don't have stuff to do. Its just that I can't seem to force myself up off my duff to get it done. Even stuff like making phone calls I need to make for business seem to be too much when I feel this way. UUGGGHH! HOW DO I GET OUT OF THIS RUT?!?!?!
I am so glad for this site. I couldn't seem to get ahold of my Al-Anon friends today.
Thanks for letting me get it out.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
Well, I know exactly how you feel! Sometimes I sit and surf the web until I am practically in a trance! When I finally sign off I feel blah!!
Honestly, it seems the only way out is to bite the bullet and do something, ANYTHING! Then a bit of momentum takes over, plus you start to feel good because you actually DID do something.
Sometimes setting a time frame helps--at this time I will do that--and then just allow myself to loaf until then.
I'm afraid that blah feeling is more with me most of the time than I want, so I have no solutions. But, Jen, so often when I have posted you have responded to me and I have had a needed lift, so I must just say hang in there and I would bet that this morning is finding you energetic once more! You are too vibrant and positive to stay in the blahs!!
I hope it is spring where you are. Here in the deep south we are already into summer, especially in the afternoon. The marigolds I potted two months ago are wilting and sad looking with the early heat. So if you have lilacs and dogwoods and redbud...tulips and forsythia.....are you ever lucky!! I have missed having those living here in this tropical climate. And constant tropics gives me the blahs!!! Or is is just what has occurred while I have lived here in supposed paradise!! Anyway, hang in there and be extremely good to yourself. Put one foot in front of the other and move a bit. Go indulge in something high caloric and sweet..or whatever you love that you sometimes deny yourself. This, too, shall pass and new energy will arrive. Somehow it always does.
DOA- Yes, sometimes it is a matter of forcing myself to get up and get busy. Usually I do feel better. I think it didn't work as well the last few days because I do have a bug of some sort. When I went out yesterday to feed and do chores I still felt really tired and realized I have felt just a little worse each of the last couple of days. So I finally just gave up and tried to relax. I got out for some fresh air, but didn't do much of anything hard.
Christy- I wish I could watch the u-tube stuff. My dial up connection is just too slow. It takes hours sometimes to load the smallest thing.
Omajoy- I'm so glad to hear that my shares have helped you. I do feel better this morning, just tired still. You are right this to shall pass. It is spring here though reluctantly this year. The grass in my pasture is not even 2 inches tall yet. LOL But my daffodils are blooming and the lilac has tiny new leaves. The boys and I have spent the last few days planting stuff for the spring container gardens. Work has picked up finally so money is not so tight either. I might splerge on a few bulbs to plant. The mud is finally starting to dry up.
I will feel better soon. I have a lot to be thankful for. Especially all of you here to help me through the rough spots.
In recovery,
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~Jen~
"When you come to the edge of all you know you must believe in one of two things... there will be earth on which to stand or you will be given wings." ~Unknown
First off you're human...that answers a lot of questions. Humans get tired in the mind, body, spirit and emotions and when that happens some of us reach out to other, get going anyway, veg out, stay in bed and read or watch the tube or computer; any number of things. Some times acceptance helps me weather the situation. I don't deny where I am at or try to "fight" myself out of it because I'm not supposed to feel this way...trash!!
How are you doing on the physical level? ...flu and cold etc stay down! it's okay to stay down. How are you doing mentally? Confused, headachey, can't focus, dizzy?... go for a solutions before trying to work with the problem hanging over your eyebrow level. How are you doing spiritual? Well you said you were unmotivated so you don't have anything exciting going on...no alcoholic/addict to chase after and investigate and hold to the line? You're feeling down...depression maybe? How's your meditation and prayer life? Don't want to get into that either? How about a good book...like the ODAT or Courage to Change or Hope for Today (all Al-Anon CAL) and then read on specific subjects that pertain to your condition. (That one worked for me.) How are you doing emotionally? Sad, Depressed, Apathetic, Angry, Resentful, etc. There are opposite feelings (You are responsible for what you think and feel...they are choices too!) to negative feelings...go for the opposites. Got a sponsor to call and talk with? That one works also!!
So you don't have to stay in the rut pacing back and forth turning it into a trench.
I have animals so I can relate a lot to how much of a life saver they can be for me. I often struggle with moving forward and redirecting my energies. I was on total overwhem for years living around the a. I was also and can still be in a Fear Obligation and Guilt about how to move to where I need to go to.
I hope posting helps. I know it helps me a great deal. Codependence is a huge issue for me.
(((((hugs))))