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New - I Need To Talk About It
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I'm new to this site, having just done a google search for an online Al Anon support group. I find myself here because I could really use some support for what I've been dealing with and have no one IRL that I can talk to about it. My husband is an alcoholic/addict. His general pattern is to use, go to AA,...
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HalfAngel
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Husband enables Asister, what do i do?
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I'm between a rock and hard place. My husband admits his sister is an alcoholic but continues to let her seep into our lives. She has been abusing drugs, drinks or anything for that matter for over 20 years. I'm done but he makes excuses like "we don't know for sure she is drinking, she didn't sound...
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Feeling Low...........
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I am feeling low tonight, I can't seem to get control of my emotions. I slipped the other day, trying to talk with my AS about his drug use, it got personal as I tried to reason with him and told him that his drug use was hurting me and the rest of the family as much as it was hurting him. The response I got was t...
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DreamsOver
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Making Amends and loving this program~
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Through all of the struggles I have been facing in the past 3 months, I have found a WONDERFUL sponsor, continued to work the program, had many slips and walked many steps.... Just finished up my 9th step.......and WHEWWWW.........what a sense of release and forgiveness can be found in these s...
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shellyj123
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"Missing Out" has LEFT THE BUILDING!!!
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To everyone in my MIP Family I just want you all to know that I went back to being a "NEWBIE" because I was known as "Missing Out" and Thanks to all you wonderful people, I am "Missing Out" NO MORE!!! I am now Jozie... I want to thank Ms. Suz for helping me talk myself into it...
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Need help again :)
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I just wanted to know how to add a pic to my name... I see some cool pics and I have don't have one :( Can anyone help me with this...Thanks a bunch... Jozie...
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1st f2f...
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I made it to my 1st f2f last night....and look forward to next Monday. Thank you for your support and encouragement. Love and gratitude...Ness
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Ness
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Trust
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I am having serious issues with trust... I'm totally madly in love with this guy and I know he feels the same way about me but....I don't know why I can't just trust, why that evil little tinge of jealousy keeps popping up. It's so good and I don't want to ruin it. So he's out of town right now visiting famil...
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carolinagirl
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ANGER
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Man this woman just flies off the handle at me and anyone else within earshot, I've only just started attending Al-anon and have my second meeting in 2 days - can't wait for it - just to feel the sincerity of those around me who know how I feel and listen to my words. The peace that gives me is so welcome. But 1...
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saltire
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Did I mess up?
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Went to my therapist yesterday who reminds me a little of Laura Schlessinger- sarcastic but straight shooting. Anyway, she mocked me a little but also told me straight that the A was a narcissitic addict that did not love his son and that if I told my child that he did love him I was lying. My child is 4 an...
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Codependent
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time for some gratitiude
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I've spent a lot of time crying and in fear the past couple of weeks. I've been sick and really have gotten away from my program. Then, on Sunday night I went to bed at 8:30, and I got a pretty good sleep last night too. Suddenly, I feel a need to express some gratitude. Amazing how that works... My son ma...
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Loupiness
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Right where I need to be~all screwed up
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Those of you who have been following my story know that I have been on a roller coaster ride of emotions lately. It got even crazier the past week when EXABF wrote me an email and mentioned "finding me, no matter what"when he got to the point where he was capable of giving us a fai...
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Less destructive, but still.....
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These days I feel shakey in my recovery.I am easily triggered....in the affairs of the heart mostly.Tho I am not exploding as I did last week, I do something else that feels old and familiar and unhealthy to me.I explain feelings till I am blue in the face....I'm not always sure I am even being understoo...
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Fifi
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Have a Question???
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I have been wanting to change my name from "Missing Out" to something a little more to were I am NOW in my life, which is by far NOT Missing Out... A dear MIP friend of mine told me that I could, but the only way she found to do it was to start a new one, which means i loose all my posts and what not! So my...
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missing out
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Is this Dry Drunk Recovering Alcoholic Behavior, Mid-life Crisis or both???
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Hello There: It has been a long time since I posted here, but I do visit the message board because it is so insightful and other peoples stories and the feedback helps me to process my own situation. A bit of history here... my husband has been sober since end of June 2006. We have been married coming up on 1...
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trying to practice acceptance for my non A husband
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my marriage is falling apart. I feel safe to vent here. My husband is not an A but is in complete denial that he is having major emotional problems. He tries to put it on me but I will no longer accept that I may be his problem. He is 59 years old and on many medications for high blood pressure,high cholestero...
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Gailey
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Fighting my feeling to Take Over....
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Well, Tonight my son had a indoor soccer game, we won.... YEAH!!!! How ever the shock was that my Abrother, and his children came with my mom to watch my son play... I know this doesn't sound like much, but to me it is something... He had his children, and he managed to spend more family time with us all......
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missing out
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Some good new
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I GOT A CONDITIONAL OFFER TO SALFORD UNIVERSITY Oh my god who would have thought ME going to UNIVERSITY. Ha my week has just got soooooooooo good. Im so bloody happy.
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mum2leahnjosh
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Need to vent
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My non-drinking alcoholic husband has been driving me crazy lately watching my every move and not wanting me on al-anon sites or going to my f2f meetings. I've been giving in to it mostly with the f2f, it's too hard to fight him and listen to the rants and raves. It's bad enough when I go on-line at home whe...
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java
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How do you know...?
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Left my ABF a few weeks ago......I guess me leaving made him wake up a bit. He's been going to meetings every day and has a new sponsor. He's doing so well...he's almost a different person. He's been begging me to give him one more chance and to wait for him to get better. He wants me to still be his girl...
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reef999
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Decision making time..
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AH and have been seperated for 7 months, filed and put divorce on hold several times since. He's not ready for recovery right now and we can not live together. I've been struggling with the decision and guilt of leaving him. I'm so often consumed with thoughts of what was, wasn't and what may never...
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Marshmallow
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Detach with Love
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This is my first time on the site. Stumbled on it while doing a search for "Detach with Love". I am an ACOA and in a relationship with someone who drinks regularly, not to excess but enough to cause me to wince. Actually it seems that any alcohol use seems to make me wince. In other aspects t...
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aislinn
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Trying to detach still
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Hi (((All))) I havent posted for a while but have been here reading your es&h leaning on you all. I've been ill and ended up in hospital, am ok and recovering at home now. I think I got ill partly due to being worn out with all the stress of my Abf. He really put me through it over December whilst he was in...
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Hello~My Introduction
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Hello, this is my first post. My name pretty much sums up my feelings right now. I have a 17 year old daughter and a 12 year old son. My son has emotional problems, possibly a bipolar dx. My AH has drank as long as I've known him. He works, comes home, drinks beer, eats, goes to bed. (by himself, he is a ho...
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what happend?
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what happend to my post??????????
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matisa
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Is this Dry Drunk Recovering Alcoholic Behavior, Mid-life Crisis or both???
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Hello There: It has been a long time since I posted here, but I do visit the message board because it is so insightful and other peoples stories and the feedback helps me to process my own situation. A bit of history here... my husband has been sober since end of June 2006. We have been married coming up on 1...
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Questioning my own judgement....please share experience, strength and hope.
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Sometimes I wonder if I am being to hard nosed...are my expectations realistic? Am I setting unrealistic boundaries? I know these are questions that only I can answer for myself with the help of my Higher Power. In the meantime I would like some words of wisdom from my fellow Al Anon members. The s...
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I am new at this and need support
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I just recently got re-involved with an alcoholic. He is my first love from high school, and really means the world to me. He is a wonderful man, when he is sober. I told him from the very beginning that I did not see a future with him if he was going to be drinking. When we moved in together I told him one e...
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sheilanicole
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SOBERMAN-Invincible Alcoholic to the rescue~~~
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As the time passes since I decided to really just let it go, it seems that I can see things more clearly than before, I am guessing it is because I have stepped back from the situation and am allowing myself to feel it and see it for what it is. Ya know you really can see better without the rose colored gla...
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shellyj123
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Let go and Let God?!
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Hello, I really have created a dilemma which reminds me again of making poor partner choices. I formed a partnership approximately one year ago, actually sold my business with a 6year payout with my manager and his son. I needed help as my business was growing and I was still at home taking care of m...
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kbrixham
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Amends 101
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Before you read this, go to Yahoo! and look up "Former Klansman apologizes" I think that's the title, at least. Did you watch it? Man, that's powerful. I hear so many newcomers say how they feel the alcholic owes them amends. What struck me about the video is that, well, how many people d...
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Tiger2006
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Sarcasm in the chat room
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Ive just come home and experienced a terrible low tonight, one week since my AH told me he wasnt coming back. I tried the chat room and came out feeling rather stupid. I thought it was for like minded people who are there to support but yes, I felt stupid for sharing what was happening to me, it didnt get a go...
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Lilly Burn
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"Letting Go"
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http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/#develop
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Christy
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My favorite picture...
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My new boyfriend is 24, I'm 38 - with 3 kids.... I find it amazing that someone so young could step up and be more of a man than any "man" my age that I have ever met. So I'm sharing this picture of my new boyfriend and my son that touches my heart so deeply I can't even express it in words. It almos...
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carolinagirl
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Detachment.....blew it today, appreciate some ESH
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I blew it today with my A son..... After the scare with his health last week, his key worker said it may help him to come home for a bit, to 'normality', and I said the same to him as I said to my son that we would love to see him but that he had to go through a hospital detox and come home 'dry' and clean ( his se...
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Ness
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It's never about...
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how far you've come or how much time in how many meetings. It isn't about how far you have to go and what you have to achieve in the future. That's all important and it's not the end of it all. It's about right now. Where am I right now and what am I doing in the now and am I here with my HP and what I've been giv...
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Jerry F
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Making it one day at a time
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This my first post, although this is the first place I come every morning. I have been married for almost 12 yrs with a 9 and 11 year old. I have been seperated for 2 yrs. My husband is currently in rehab and has been for 4 mths. He basically took the kids to school one morning and never came home. It took me abo...
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New Balance
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Forgetting tools, getting hooked
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It was pay day at work yesterday. As an employee who's been there since the business opened, I am aware of how "relaxed" the corporate people are about delivering the checks on time. Yesterday, I was aware they were having a party amongst themselves at the corporate office, they had gott...
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MARESIE
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Just want say GOOD LUCK for today. I'll be sending you positive vibes Carol
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Mariner
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Beautiful HP given day~
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Wanted to come by and thank my MIP family for all of the ESH that came my way yesterday. I prayed on things, wrote them out, tossed them in my God box, and woke up this am to a beautiful day of sunshine and 55-60 degree temps(coming from a week of below freezing I am loving it) I feel better today and the ESH poi...
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shellyj123
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Not enough sleep!
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My sleep has been limited so I had a minor break last night. I was feeling empty-minded and felt a break coming on. Stress & lack of good sleep can really ruin a good healthy program. I am again being reminded to detach from other people's problems. Like my mom for instance. She had a bad experience a...
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Hoot Nanny
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business meeting
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Tonight is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. Sorry so late in posting this. MIP Al-Anon Business Meeting Feb 8th, 2009Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Appro...
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January business meeting minutes
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Chair opened the meeting with the serenity prayer. Chair volunteered to be secretary as the group secretary has stepped down. Treasurer's report was not available as we no longer have a treasurer. Meeting schedule was updated to refelct member's leaving. Seventh tradition fund raiser was discus...
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Mandy123
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Letting Go????
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Hi I am new here. Just needed to share my problems and need help and advice please. I am really in a dark place right now. I have been married for 16yrs and my recovering alcoholic husband is drinking again for the millionth time after I have discovered he has been having an affair. He drank in October for...
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smile04
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I brought it on myself......need some ESH to stop the hurt I am feeling.
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In all of my new found comfort and arrogance I went against what I KNEW and have been working on, and decided to just have a "quick peak" at the ExABF's page on MYSPACE......NOT a good idea....He has recently added yet another new "female friend" and when I saw that I literally f...
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shellyj123
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Accusations
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Please read this alone. I cant take much this much longer. I cant take the accusations agaist me. Beacause I had my hair done, "who said they like it long? your getting it done becase someone said they liked it... I wanted it. because I am tired of looking like i dont take care of mysefl... But its...
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spirit
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Sober A's v/s Functioning A's.........
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Been on these boards for awhile now, and working the steps. Have struggled many times over with situations with sober EXABF. I met him 10 yrs sober and in recovery and never knew what he was like drinking, so I never felt I had anything to compare when he exhibited certain behaviors. It...
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shellyj123
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new to the board - first post - trying to understand...
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Hi - I am new to all of this. I will attend my first alanon meeting monday night. It has been helpful reading all of your posts to try to learn what alanon is all about. I am very thankful tonight I found this online forum. My boyfriend of over a year is an alcoholic. He is attending AA, but had a huge set back Mo...
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jasobel
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~~~TLCATE~~~
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When I was down, You cared for me. When I was lost, You were there for me. You held me up, When I couldnt stand. You helped me to My feet again. You shined your light In every way You pulled me through From day to day. You guided me toward A life of peace Yo...
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shellyj123
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Religion in Program? Who are we to judge! HOT TOPIC
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Sharing about religion and not saying it is part of program? I'm totally cool with that. Hell, share about whatever you want if it's how you relate to your program. If your gonna say your specific religion is part of the 12 step, you would be wrong, and I can see I would have a problem with that, but give...
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Thanks for 20 Years - Hopefully not off topic
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Right about now, exactly 20 years ago I set down a half glass of beer. I had no idea at the time that I wouldn't have a drink of alcohol for 20 years. I had no plans to go to AA the next day - but that's where I wound up. That was just a day, and today is just another day, and tomorrow will be just another day. Th...
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Tonight just what I needed....
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Well, Tonight I went to my F2f, I think I realized, I am right were I need to be... I listened to them people chat, and talk and for once I listened to 'what' they were saying instead of "watching" them talk!!! Sounds dumb I know, but tonight there was a lady that made it 6 years in al-anon, and she...
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missing out
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When????
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Hi ya everyone. Its been 2 weeks since he walked out and Im still very upset. After everything he has done to me Im stll upset he has gone. I should be dancing on the clouds. I lay in bed last night and I cried myself to sleep. I miss the company I hate being alone at night and I know that isnt the right reason to h...
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mum2leahnjosh
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a lil prayer please
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Hey gang, Would those of you who care to please say a lil prayer for me. I am scheduled to have major surgery on Friday. Thus far, I've been too darn busy to worry about it and still have much to do before Friday while I am out of work for at least 3 weeks and up to 6. Today I had to go for pre-surg. information and...
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Maria123
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I have been out of touch for awhile but for a good reason, now I am back...
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((((((FAMILY))))))) I have been away for awhile. Some of you may recall that I have brain cancer, had a successful surgery last January to remove a tumor. But I suffer from excessive fluid on my brain, in my spinal canal. January 23, I had a spinal tap to release some of the fluid, the pressure builds up a...
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Lessons learned
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I don't often get the chance to post here much anymore but I felt the urging to share this with my old friends here. Praying that each of you are seeking a way to be Happy, Joyous and Free - regardless of the chaos surrounding us! We all have lessons to learn, we all must walk our own path - I am in NO WAY giving...
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Rita G
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my progress is pushed to the limit
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i have not posted in a while..... but tonight i need to get this out.....telling folks who understand and know only to well what i feel. ah has just been fired fron his job..... stealing money out of some ones wallet , how low can a person get. i know this was out of my control,but still i feel shame. im lef...
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ollie
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my relapse
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I found myself in the midst of old behaviors last night....out of control, irrational emotions. I felt a twinge of pain while talking with my exA on the phone briefly....someone in the background, not him, made an insensitive joke, it triggered me and I felt the vaccuum start to swirl.....I lashed ou...
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Fifi
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someone explain please
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Hello, I am a grateful member of the Al Anon Chat Room. I have met some great people there. I noticed someone dropped in to listen, they said they were an OP. I wonder is this person allowed to be here? Are they here to protect us? If someone could explain this I would very grateful. daylight
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