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I just wanted to share with those of you that went through our drama with us (and those that didn't too) that hubby is 3 yrs sober today.
He continues to amaze me. He has his own personal program (does not attend AA, never did). I have never seen any dry drunk behavior nor has he faltered and had a slip. He's been called a miracle by some here, and I have to agree. I am so proud of who he has become.
As most you you know he works in Anchorage. Last night there was a gathering of his co-workers, paid for by his employer at a pizza, wings and beer place. He had e-mailed me from work and said he was going to attend and would be home around 7:00 p.m., which is 10:00 my time.
We talk every night, usually aroun 11:00 my time. So midnight rolled around and there was no answer. Those old fears were trying there darndest to bubble up. I took a deep breath and made myself stop. I managed to stay in the NOW and out of the illusion thatI was conjuring up. I got the chance to practice what I preach for about 3 hours..lol
He finally called around 12:45 a.m., knowing I'd be worried. He was late because he had spent the last hour and a half taking co-workers that had too much to drink their homes. They just had a 4" snowfall in a few hours and roads were bad. He doesn't consider this enabling. He said he was paying it forward out of gratefulness. He has a completely different perspective then what I have. I asked him if he told them his story since he literally had a captive audience in the car. He said No, then explained. He knows he is lucky to be alive after what he endured. He wanted to give them a gift to quietly celebrate his 3 years sobriety (unbeknownst to them) in his own way.
The gift, he said, was to those men and their wives and children. "It was to get them home alive so they might have the opportunity he had to get sober".
They just think he's a nice guy and know nothing of his 20 yr. journey out of hell. Talk about being humble and grateful!! Wow!! Those wives and children have a human angel they don't even know about.
I never thought that I'd be learning from him of all people, but I surely am.
Christy
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Thanks Christi wow 3 yrs , I sure remember those days when we talked late into the nite not knowing if he was going to live or die . Ya know my husb never talks to his buddies about sobriety either until they ask . funny how that goes , he is an example of how u can change your life around and feels if they want sobreity they will ask . Hugs to hubby and you . Louise
I think making sure no one gets killed isn't enabling. At the same time i would have to wonder about someone who put themselves into that position in the first place (knowing I did it). I'm glad those people had your husband to help them out.
You know as much as I dislike my ahsober right now, I truly hope that someday he will be happy and use his life to help other people. Thanks for posting, Christy. So cool....
Blessings, Lou
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Sometimes what you want to do has to fail, so you won't ~Marguerite Bro~
You know what both you and your hubby mean to me. I am so proud of him and glad he made it back to the land of the living. I remember those scary days with you, especially in the chat room. We all prayed that he would get better. He certainly is a miracle. You brought tears to my eyes this morning dear friend. I don't think I've ever told you this, but there were many times when I would tell his story to my beloved Tim. He would always get excited to hear them. Your hubby was an inspiration to mine. He brought him hope when there were many times he didn't have that. For that, I will always be eternally greatful to you both. Next time you have the pleasure of wrapping your arms around him, give him an extra hug for me. Tell him I said thanks for looking out for Tim, even when he didn't know that he was doing that. Congrats to your family! You are so deserving of all this. Much love and blessings to your family and the animals too. Love you girlfriend. Thanks for being a huge part of my life. I couldn't gone on this journey without you.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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It done me good to read what you said. My hubby and I had 16yrs of sobriety then he slipped. It lasted four months. They were the worst four months of my life, gone was my friend because indeed that is what he was. Through his disease I found Al Anon. The best thing that ever happened to me was finding those rooms. That was five years ago and today we have an even better relationship. He also has his own personal program ( does not attend AA ) and you made me realise that I dont praise him enough in my shares. He is truly amazing in his attitude to life and people and often he is the one to remind me about my program. Why dont I praise him I wonder? Its not because I dont trust him.
I remember those scary days with you, especially in the chat room. We all prayed that he would get better. He certainly is a miracle. You brought tears to my eyes this morning dear friend. I don't think I've ever told you this, but there were many times when I would tell his story to my beloved Tim. He would always get excited to hear them. Your hubby was an inspiration to mine. He brought him hope when there were many times he didn't have that. For that, I will always be eternally greatful to you both. Next time you have the pleasure of wrapping your arms around him, give him an extra hug for me. Tell him I said thanks for looking out for Tim, even when he didn't know that he was doing that. Congrats to your family! 
You are so deserving of all this. Much love and blessings to your family and the animals too. Love you girlfriend. Thanks for being a huge part of my life. I couldn't gone on this journey without you. 
