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This poem is from a great article on detachment. It can be found at: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/#develop
"Letting Go'' * To "let go'' does not mean to stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else. * To "let go'' is not to cut myself off; it's the realization I can't control another. * To "let go'' is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. * To "let go'' is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. * To "let go'' is not to try to change or blame another; it's to make the most of myself. * To "let go'' is not to care for, but to care about. * To "let go'' is not to fix, but to be supportive. * To "let go'' is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. * To "let go'' is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own destinies. * To "let go'' is not to be protective; it's to permit another to face reality. * To "let go'' is not to deny, but to accept. * To "let go'' is not to nag, scold or argue, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. * To "let go'' is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try to become what I dream I can be. * To "let go'' is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it. * To "let go'' is to not regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. * To "let go'' is to fear less and love myself more.
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Thanks for posting this. Letting go is something that I, like many others, have such difficulty in doing. It feels completely unnatural to me, at the same time extraordinarily freeing.
You know how much I love that website. It's chock full of great things and it can only make your life better. Talk about living strong! I believe that letting go and detaching with love is one of the healthist and best things you can do for yourself as well as your loved ones. I will print this out for my niece. She's a perfectionist and sometimes feels the need to "fix" her parents rather than let go. But she's new to this program, so baby steps it will be. Thanks for posting that. Much love and blessings to you and your family. Kiss the critters for me.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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Talk about living strong! 