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roxygirl · roxygirl

Hi everyone, I have a question. My son is 26 yrs. old and he is the alcoholic. He voluntarily went to the hospital last night and had himself admitted because he is depressed and felt suicidal. He finally admitted he needed help. I thank God for that! He said he had no choice, that he lost everything...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I would like to share some lyrics to a song that has really touched me and has kind of been my song for a while now. You've got your reasons Reasons just to walk away No one would blame you if you didn't want to face the pain You find yourself Up against the wall You're scared to push cause it might fal...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Grrrrrr I am so angry at myself. I had a mega slip the past month and a half. STILL living with exbf. We were still acting as though we were together. He took a turn this week and turned into this horrific individual - not wanting to be near me, saying nasty things. The worst part is that I convinced myself...

miss lucy · miss lucy

just taking time out from studying to catch up with you all..... my there has been some real progress since the last time i was here for a lot of you! "taking care of you" is beginning to work and it fills me with hope. while i was reading through the posts i had missed i was struck by a common thr...

jasobel · jasobel

I read someone post somewhere that its OK to post here everyday. I am going through a tough time, a trial of faith and a trial of someone I love getting close to hitting bottom. My ex boyfriend whom I write about is in a terrible cycle downward. He was sober 9 months with me - left for another alcoholic woman...

jasobel · jasobel

Has anyone faced this confusion? I friend of mine recently told me I don't have faith. I said what - of course I have faith I have a strong belief in my higher power. Then I realized he a is right. I have a strong belief that a HP exists - that is is all loving, all knowing and wonderful. I belief in the after lif...

Ness · Ness

Sorry in advance for this vent but my head is about to burst.My Ason (33) is due in court (maybe even been there already, I dont know) for criminal damage....and has another similar charge pending......all in the pursuit of drink. I never thought, as a mother, I would utter these words....... but I h...

SheWolf · SheWolf

My A has been home from treatment, about 1month, and I am very unhappy. He was gone 4 months (we thought the issue was depression, he had a breakdown, where he pushed me through the laundry room doors and threatened me (he has never done anything like this before), he was arrested, with his parents for 1...

glad lee · glad lee

Laughter is the sound of recovery... have a great day (((everyone))) Blonde in a BlizzardIt was snowing heavily and blowing to the point that visibility was almost zero when the little blonde got off work. She made her way to her car and wondered how she was going to make it home. She sat in her car w...

abbyal · abbyal

I talked to mbub this morning - she is doing well sounded positive . Docs felt the procedure went well did what it was intended to do , she has new meds and will go back to docs in two weeks by then they will know how they will continue to treat the tumor. She may go home tomorrow if all goes well . she says t...

pineapple · pineapple

This is an update to my post a few days ago, ¨I have to do this¨. Anyway, since getting AH to the Dr. he found nothing obviously wrong with him except his drinking. AH said he wanted to quit and it's been three days so far. He looks so much better already. Had some withdrawal symptoms the first two days, but...

Ness · Ness

All last week it was one stress on top of another......my serenity had crumbled and Tuesday night I was planning going to my f2f next day to try and find some healing in the room.Wednesday I woke to a silent snow-world, there had been a huge dump of snow overnight. I thought I wont impose on husb to drive me...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello All... ;) My Winter Slump is still in full swing, the snow outside is still at over a foot, the sun did try to come out a couple times thru out the week, but there was to much to melt... I started my Week off "Wonderfully", went to the Movies with some Girly's from our Home Group... BIG HELP....

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, My soon to be ex "A" has been emailing me lately as this is our only form of communication at this time. Today I had two emails in my inbox and they were nothing but bait. The "I am sorrys" and the "I wish I wasn't such a failure" and the "I wish I was the man that y...

RLC · RLC

HP keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 11:58:07 AM -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 12:05:26 PM

Andrea12 · Andrea12

((((((((((Friends)))))))))), My two teenagers are driving me literally insane....I am at the end of my rope with them......I want to tell them get the hell out.....I have endured more than I can handle....all they do is argue and argue over the most stupid stuff....and it's not small arguing it's h...

maresie · maresie

After a year of putting back together my physical health (and I"m not finished yet) I have come to see my denial at the ex A's drinking, using and general insanity crossed the line into my own life. I certainly had enormous denial about the issues with my health, my financial picture (totally rui...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

For those of you who have alcoholic spouses who have done some really disgusting, embarassing things when they are drunk, how do you get past that. I mean really? Peeing in the fridge? Peeing on the tv? My AH has done a lot of things while he's drunk and I just don't see him as the same person anymore - I...

Katy · Katy

Some things just jump right out and bite ya bum, I'm not too good with words some people can just write very few and get it right out there, me I have to write essays, but the the thing is, it all takes time to process what it is, I read to understand it fully and then struggle to try and apply it to my life, even...

ElizabethP65 · ElizabethP65

On Sunday, February 6, I posted a question asking for ESH from those of you who have dealt, successfully, with infidelity by a dry alcoholic. I was very grateful for the 3 very helpful replies. There is one reply, which I wanted to read again because it was so powerful to me. Now it's gone. You know who you...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So I told a friend of mine I gave him 90 days before he would be in jail. He called me from somewhere Thurs and Fri. and he was sleeping w/ ppl for a place to stay. Fun, fun, fun. I got a strange call late Sat. night and sure enough he was in jail. I looked it up online and see he is in til the 22nd. So I thought,...

LeesesPieces · LeesesPieces

So here's my story. Where I came from, what happened, and where I am today. I am 27 years old and have been married to my husband 5 months, we've been together 5 years. He is a recovering alcoholic. He was drinking and using for the first 2 years of our relationship, and thankfully has 3 years sober and cont...

Jerry F · Jerry F

HOPE!! Just found out that the state legislature is considering a proposal that all the liquor licensenees in the state have their employees that handle alcohol from the establishment to the drinker be educated on alcohol and the effects it has on drinkers plus a few other twists. I have no idea if t...

grammie · grammie

Good morning fellow members Because I believe so strongly in the power of prayer, I am asking as many who care to to join me in prayer today for mbub. Some of you may know her and others not, she is having treatment today for a tumor in her head. I believe that the more prayers go up the better able HP is able to...

wdiagw · wdiagw

I have to get this off my chest. My husband is an alcoholic. He accepts that he is an alcoholic; he embraces the fact that he is an alcoholic; he brags to buddies about how much he drinks. He doesn't think he is doing anything wrong because he still gets up in the morning and goes to work every day. His ac...

freeagain · freeagain

I had a great weekend full of recovery. It was our annual round up here. I hadn't been in a couple of years. This year it was gently suggested that I go. For me. I have missed it so. The speakers, the fellowship. Seeing friends who I haven't seen in years in some cases. Just the love. So, I went. The speakers w...

tlcate · tlcate

Hello Family, So I have had this idea rolling around in my head for quite some time. I am getting ready to do my second round of the steps with my sponsor. I have always had this urge to really get into some deep discussions here with my MIP family regarding the steps and learn what the people I spend so muc...

pineapple · pineapple

Since I found this site I've learned so much. Mostly to take care of me first which includes learning to detach from my AH. I've quit nagging him about his drinking, I don't yell at him or argue about the help I don't get from him. I don't try to make him eat, shower or do anything else. I've let him be even whe...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

This has been talked about on this board before but it is now imminent and I am feeling increaslingly sad. AH and I met on Valentine's day 40 years ago. He gatecrashed a party I held with fellow flatmates. I got talking to him at the end of the evening, he asked me out and the rest, as they say, is history. We h...

Ness · Ness

Hi folks.....a friend sent this to me, I like it......... thought you might too. Don't know the original source.........maybe you will. 1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing - that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I am the mother of an addicted adult son. I love my son very much and someday I hope he will love himself also. I cringe when I hear people giving their opinion on addicts and what should be done about them. "They (addicts) should be put into prison with the key thrown away", I would never put up...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Where do I begin? It has been hectic past couple of weeks and not being able to get here hasn't helped. The first trauma/drama was husband having chest pains and being admitted to the hospital and getting a 2nd stint put in his heart. He had a blockage of over 93% in his artery. They said it was so close that...

lindseymommyof2 · lindseymommyof2

Okay, so I confronted my A Fiance, who has been drinking off and on since I met him. The only reason he stopped in the past was his DUI..SO-little background- He's got 4 DUI's went to treatment, 6 times I think. He at first said, no way I am not going to quit blah blah...then the next day(which was yesterd...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Family, I came across the following, which I wrote back in July 2008 [how time flies] and thought it worth posting again as I have kept it safe to happen upon it again someday. That someday is today: "Gratitude leads to humility - so I am told, and if that is the case then I need to make sure that my humi...

miss lucy · miss lucy

am back! been at AH's side for the past two days, nursing him back to health. oh yes! despite him wrecking the former marital home and destroying a lot of my possessions, and despite my being resolute that i could see no future for us, when he text me in the middle of the night saying he was really ill...

RLC · RLC

Family, It doesn't snow in Alabama very often, but it is as I post. For those of you who are not aware, just the mention of snow in our forecast causes a stampede of grocery shoppers that wipe out every loaf of bread and every gallon of milk available while the rest of the world laughs at us. We treat 2&q...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

(((((Hello my Friends)))))). First of all Happy Valentines Day to all of you young at heart out there...and for those of you are still couples may you treasure these simple things in life....a card...a hug or even a happy valentines day wish from the one you love....... I have been having some sad mome...

Katy · Katy

We do what it is that we think we not ought to hoping that we will get what it is that isn't possible! Curtesy of our very own Jerry F, ya just gotta love him to bit's, I do mwah x Katyx

vlc · vlc

One of the three C's, anyway. Hi. I'm new, sponsorless, and hoping for a little guidance. I think I've got the "can't control it" and "can't cure it." It's just a matter of making it habitual in my day-to-day life. I'm having trouble, however, with the "didn't cause it.&qu...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

First of all, thank you to everyone who offers ESH to me whenever I post, I take what I need and remember it when I'm going through things. I am so happy to have found this site, it keeps me grounded in between F2F meetings. My step.... tonight my Abf told me that he loves me. He had therapy today and appar...

Bluelady · Bluelady

My daughter is going to treatment again. Her husband said they can talk with no promises on what thier future will be. I did go too the al-anon meeting here last night. To my surprise I am not alone. Our stories are different yet all the same. I could have written most of the posts others did. Last night I ju...

malady · malady

I've been in the al-anon program for seven months now and I had been told to try and hold off on any major decisions for the first year. Seven months ago my AH finally admitted he had a problem and saught help. This admission was made after about a month of me completely shutting him out.. He entered himsel...

bszab · bszab

Hello. I am new here, but not new to Al Anon. Aside from being an alcoholic, my Father is very, very ill. I honestly do not know how is body is even functioning. He looks so sick. Every day I wonder if I will get "the call". I even have a hard time talking to him on the phone. He is really out of contr...

Rebecca 31003 · Rebecca 31003

Greetings, You wil have to pardon me but I do not know all the acronyms for this forum as I am very new to understanding addiction and this forum. In fact this is my first outreach I guess you could say. My Husband is recovering from Achoholism and addiction to opiets. I am deeply in love with my husband...

Mattie · Mattie

The current issue of the New Yorker has an interesting article on alcohol by Malcolm Gladwell (author of The Tipping Point, etc.) He talks about evidence for what alcohol really does. People have considered it a drug that lowers your inhibitions, but some researchers think that what it really doe...

pineapple · pineapple

Ok, I know what I'm supposed to do in this situation and that's NOTHING. Mind my own business, keep my mouth shut, etc. But some days it's just so dang hard! That's why I'm posting here. I am so angry at my A. I'm so tired of doing almost everything around here by myself. Yes, some things can be let go if he d...

Tracy · Tracy

My ABF is in recovery and we chat about the programme sometimes. He has started to identify how sick other people are in his family etc. It is lovely to watch him grow although I am keeping the focus on my recovery as I have so much work to do myself. Here is a good example. Before the A I was married for 1...

maire rua · maire rua

I certainly hate having to put up with the tantrums that A's have when someone says no to them, at the moment I am curing my new stove which means burning all the black wax and excess polish off, all doors and windows are open as this is a process. A wanted to use a wire brush on new stove, categorically told h...

Codependent · Codependent

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MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

I am married to a dry drunk who acts like a total jerk most of the time. Note to the alanon police, LOL, I didn't call him a jerk, I said he "ACTS" like a jerk most of the time, LOL. Anyway, LOL... I have adjusted, detached, and moved on emotionally for the most part, but at times his behavior is...

bszab · bszab

Yesterday for the first time in 17 years...I got the brunt of my A Father's anger. I know that I am not "exempt" from the anger. It's just that I haven't been one of his targets for a very long time. There were 12 years where we had no contact in between there. Anyways, I am really trying to set bou...

lindseymommyof2 · lindseymommyof2

How do you stay in a relationship with an alcoholic? My fiance is a functional alcoholic, has 4 DWI's, three were before we met which we have been together 4 years...he got the fourth when my youngest was 2 months old and my oldest was 17 months..we were out of town and he got wasted rolled his truck. He dri...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

All of the stresses are finally getting to me. The major one is financial. I don't even want to begin to think how we're going to handle all our financial problems when AH gets out of jail - the way it looks now, it's going to take YEARS to get back on track. Anyway, I find myself taking a lot of this out on m...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Hello family, I haven't posted in a while. Lots of things going on. A revelation of sorts has happened to me. I have spent alot of time in the last few months putting my focus on the ex. One thing I noticed is I go to fantasy land. Watching my thoughts I find while in this state, my thoughts are always on...

Bluelady · Bluelady

I get what everyone is saying about enabling and I don't want too do that. My question is, it is very cold out, she has no place too live, she has a job but the money is all gone. If I give her money to live how can that be wrong? How can I say well you are on your own. Her husband is gone and I know in my heart he is not...

Bluelady · Bluelady

Some time ago I came into this group because I had found out my daughter was drinking. Since then she went to treatment and I prayed her life would get on track. Last night I found she is drinking again and her husband has left her. I can't say I blame him and I believe nothing she says.The fact is though she i...

glad · glad

She caught me off gaurd. Our cell phones are missing or broken for about a week now. Due t the snow my ABF called his mother from the house phone to check in last night. Well first thing this morning she calls to ask if he went to work today and that her power is off. Well without thinking I gave her his work num...

Codependent · Codependent

Tonight I was watching this special on CNN. It just came on while I was on the treadmill at the gym. It was about how cheap and easy it is to get pain pills in Florida and how people can even track them to places like Kentucky and Tennessee for large profits. My mind instantly went to why the A wanted to go t...

Gypsy_Phisch · Gypsy_Phisch

So I posted here a while back about my dilemma with getting my brother out of my house. I had set a deadline of February 5th for him to be moved out. Being the good little sister that I try to be, February 5th came and went and I wouldn't put him out on his ear because he had not received his last paycheck from...

Rainie · Rainie

Hi, I am new to this site so I thought I would share a little about me. I was raised in an alcoholic home. Mum was quite functional, went to work during the week, got smashed on the weekends and that was the "norm". I married an alcoholic when I was 21, divorced him when I was 30. During the end of t...

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	HELP, I NEED ADVICE! (Preview) Hi everyone, I have a question. My son is 26 yrs. old and he is the alcoholic. He voluntarily went to the hospital last night and had himself admitted because he is depressed and felt suicidal. He finally admitted he needed help. I thank God for that! He said he had no choice, that he lost everything...	roxygirl	6	728	Feb 20, 2010 by Karilynn
	Life changing stuff (Preview) Hi all, I would like to share some lyrics to a song that has really touched me and has kind of been my song for a while now. You've got your reasons Reasons just to walk away No one would blame you if you didn't want to face the pain You find yourself Up against the wall You're scared to push cause it might fal...	Mandy123	2	801	Feb 20, 2010 by glad
	Haven't been here for awhile --- MEGA RELAPSE FOR ME (Preview) Grrrrrr I am so angry at myself. I had a mega slip the past month and a half. STILL living with exbf. We were still acting as though we were together. He took a turn this week and turned into this horrific individual - not wanting to be near me, saying nasty things. The worst part is that I convinced myself...	RunnerChick	8	1107	Feb 20, 2010 by Festfan
	why me? (Preview) just taking time out from studying to catch up with you all..... my there has been some real progress since the last time i was here for a lot of you! "taking care of you" is beginning to work and it fills me with hope. while i was reading through the posts i had missed i was struck by a common thr...	miss lucy	3	873	Feb 19, 2010 by nmike
	What to do about an active alcoholic? (Preview) I read someone post somewhere that its OK to post here everyday. I am going through a tough time, a trial of faith and a trial of someone I love getting close to hitting bottom. My ex boyfriend whom I write about is in a terrible cycle downward. He was sober 9 months with me - left for another alcoholic woman...	jasobel	6	1459	Feb 19, 2010 by RLC
	Have alot of belief in HP but don't have faith :( (Preview) Has anyone faced this confusion? I friend of mine recently told me I don't have faith. I said what - of course I have faith I have a strong belief in my higher power. Then I realized he a is right. I have a strong belief that a HP exists - that is is all loving, all knowing and wonderful. I belief in the after lif...	jasobel	3	809	Feb 19, 2010 by kitty
	I know it’s no use railing against life.........but sometimes...... (long...sorry). (Preview) Sorry in advance for this vent but my head is about to burst.My Ason (33) is due in court (maybe even been there already, I dont know) for criminal damage....and has another similar charge pending......all in the pursuit of drink. I never thought, as a mother, I would utter these words....... but I h...	Ness	4	935	Feb 19, 2010 by maresie
	Unhappy and discouraged...long, please read...help! (Preview) My A has been home from treatment, about 1month, and I am very unhappy. He was gone 4 months (we thought the issue was depression, he had a breakdown, where he pushed me through the laundry room doors and threatened me (he has never done anything like this before), he was arrested, with his parents for 1...	SheWolf	8	1020	Feb 19, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Blonde in a Blizzard (Preview) Laughter is the sound of recovery... have a great day (((everyone))) Blonde in a BlizzardIt was snowing heavily and blowing to the point that visibility was almost zero when the little blonde got off work. She made her way to her car and wondered how she was going to make it home. She sat in her car w...	glad lee	3	898	Feb 19, 2010 by Mandy123
	About Bub (Preview) I talked to mbub this morning - she is doing well sounded positive . Docs felt the procedure went well did what it was intended to do , she has new meds and will go back to docs in two weeks by then they will know how they will continue to treat the tumor. She may go home tomorrow if all goes well . she says t...	abbyal	3	741	Feb 19, 2010 by Mandy123
	so far so good (Preview) This is an update to my post a few days ago, ¨I have to do this¨. Anyway, since getting AH to the Dr. he found nothing obviously wrong with him except his drinking. AH said he wanted to quit and it's been three days so far. He looks so much better already. Had some withdrawal symptoms the first two days, but...	pineapple	4	659	Feb 19, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Right where I needed to be. (Preview) All last week it was one stress on top of another......my serenity had crumbled and Tuesday night I was planning going to my f2f next day to try and find some healing in the room.Wednesday I woke to a silent snow-world, there had been a huge dump of snow overnight. I thought I wont impose on husb to drive me...	Ness	6	1113	Feb 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	HP N Awareness... What a Week... (Preview) Hello All... ;) My Winter Slump is still in full swing, the snow outside is still at over a foot, the sun did try to come out a couple times thru out the week, but there was to much to melt... I started my Week off "Wonderfully", went to the Movies with some Girly's from our Home Group... BIG HELP....	Jozie	4	962	Feb 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	I can see the worm and I am not biting (Preview) Hi all, My soon to be ex "A" has been emailing me lately as this is our only form of communication at this time. Today I had two emails in my inbox and they were nothing but bait. The "I am sorrys" and the "I wish I wasn't such a failure" and the "I wish I was the man that y...	Mandy123	5	920	Feb 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	A Short Prayer That will Help Us To "Not React" To Our Alcoholic !!! (Preview) HP keep your arm around my shoulder and your hand over my mouth. HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 11:58:07 AM -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 17th of February 2010 12:05:26 PM	RLC	12	1958	Feb 18, 2010 by Hunny
	When is enough enough??? (Preview) ((((((((((Friends)))))))))), My two teenagers are driving me literally insane....I am at the end of my rope with them......I want to tell them get the hell out.....I have endured more than I can handle....all they do is argue and argue over the most stupid stuff....and it's not small arguing it's h...	Andrea12	9	1052	Feb 18, 2010 by Tattyhead
	Denial (Preview) After a year of putting back together my physical health (and I"m not finished yet) I have come to see my denial at the ex A's drinking, using and general insanity crossed the line into my own life. I certainly had enormous denial about the issues with my health, my financial picture (totally rui...	maresie	4	1259	Feb 18, 2010 by White Rabbit
	wdiagw's post got me to thinking (Preview) For those of you who have alcoholic spouses who have done some really disgusting, embarassing things when they are drunk, how do you get past that. I mean really? Peeing in the fridge? Peeing on the tv? My AH has done a lot of things while he's drunk and I just don't see him as the same person anymore - I...	N8SMOM	9	1071	Feb 18, 2010 by White Rabbit
	The significant problems we have created cannot be solved at the same level of thinking at when we created them! (Preview) Some things just jump right out and bite ya bum, I'm not too good with words some people can just write very few and get it right out there, me I have to write essays, but the the thing is, it all takes time to process what it is, I read to understand it fully and then struggle to try and apply it to my life, even...	Katy	8	1242	Feb 18, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Dry Drunk Infidelity...help. (Preview) On Sunday, February 6, I posted a question asking for ESH from those of you who have dealt, successfully, with infidelity by a dry alcoholic. I was very grateful for the 3 very helpful replies. There is one reply, which I wanted to read again because it was so powerful to me. Now it's gone. You know who you...	ElizabethP65	8	4406	Feb 17, 2010 by RoseODAT
	Update (Preview) So I told a friend of mine I gave him 90 days before he would be in jail. He called me from somewhere Thurs and Fri. and he was sleeping w/ ppl for a place to stay. Fun, fun, fun. I got a strange call late Sat. night and sure enough he was in jail. I looked it up online and see he is in til the 22nd. So I thought,...	carolinagirl	3	598	Feb 17, 2010 by Tracy
	Been gone awhile and desperate for help. (Preview) So here's my story. Where I came from, what happened, and where I am today. I am 27 years old and have been married to my husband 5 months, we've been together 5 years. He is a recovering alcoholic. He was drinking and using for the first 2 years of our relationship, and thankfully has 3 years sober and cont...	LeesesPieces	6	1423	Feb 17, 2010 by Tracy
	Here is a little something to pray for. (Preview) HOPE!! Just found out that the state legislature is considering a proposal that all the liquor licensenees in the state have their employees that handle alcohol from the establishment to the drinker be educated on alcohol and the effects it has on drinkers plus a few other twists. I have no idea if t...	Jerry F	14	1480	Feb 17, 2010 by Mandy123
	Prayer Request for mbub (Preview) Good morning fellow members Because I believe so strongly in the power of prayer, I am asking as many who care to to join me in prayer today for mbub. Some of you may know her and others not, she is having treatment today for a tumor in her head. I believe that the more prayers go up the better able HP is able to...	grammie	7	1059	Feb 17, 2010 by Andrea12
	I have to talk to someone; I can't handle this anymore (sorry-long) (Preview) I have to get this off my chest. My husband is an alcoholic. He accepts that he is an alcoholic; he embraces the fact that he is an alcoholic; he brags to buddies about how much he drinks. He doesn't think he is doing anything wrong because he still gets up in the morning and goes to work every day. His ac...	wdiagw	12	1355	Feb 17, 2010 by Andrea12
	What a good weekend (Preview) I had a great weekend full of recovery. It was our annual round up here. I hadn't been in a couple of years. This year it was gently suggested that I go. For me. I have missed it so. The speakers, the fellowship. Seeing friends who I haven't seen in years in some cases. Just the love. So, I went. The speakers w...	freeagain	6	935	Feb 17, 2010 by supermom
	Step Work on MIP??? (Preview) Hello Family, So I have had this idea rolling around in my head for quite some time. I am getting ready to do my second round of the steps with my sponsor. I have always had this urge to really get into some deep discussions here with my MIP family regarding the steps and learn what the people I spend so muc...	tlcate	12	920	Feb 17, 2010 by Iamhere
	I have to do this (Preview) Since I found this site I've learned so much. Mostly to take care of me first which includes learning to detach from my AH. I've quit nagging him about his drinking, I don't yell at him or argue about the help I don't get from him. I don't try to make him eat, shower or do anything else. I've let him be even whe...	pineapple	13	1125	Feb 16, 2010 by Iamhere
	Valentines Day (Preview) This has been talked about on this board before but it is now imminent and I am feeling increaslingly sad. AH and I met on Valentine's day 40 years ago. He gatecrashed a party I held with fellow flatmates. I got talking to him at the end of the evening, he asked me out and the rest, as they say, is history. We h...	Tattyhead	12	704	Feb 16, 2010 by carolinagirl
	12 Steps of Pre-Program (Preview) Hi folks.....a friend sent this to me, I like it......... thought you might too. Don't know the original source.........maybe you will. 1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing - that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was...	Ness	5	909	Feb 16, 2010 by Festfan
	Why Do People Think They Are All Above It? (Preview) I am the mother of an addicted adult son. I love my son very much and someday I hope he will love himself also. I cringe when I hear people giving their opinion on addicts and what should be done about them. "They (addicts) should be put into prison with the key thrown away", I would never put up...	DreamsOver	13	1122	Feb 15, 2010 by barisax
	NEW * Addiction to oxycontin, what do I do? (Preview) Where do I begin? It has been hectic past couple of weeks and not being able to get here hasn't helped. The first trauma/drama was husband having chest pains and being admitted to the hospital and getting a 2nd stint put in his heart. He had a blockage of over 93% in his artery. They said it was so close that...	wildthang86	7	2875	Feb 15, 2010 by barisax
	is this to good to be true? (Preview) Okay, so I confronted my A Fiance, who has been drinking off and on since I met him. The only reason he stopped in the past was his DUI..SO-little background- He's got 4 DUI's went to treatment, 6 times I think. He at first said, no way I am not going to quit blah blah...then the next day(which was yesterd...	lindseymommyof2	9	965	Feb 15, 2010 by abbyal
	The changing tide in my recovery (Preview) Family, I came across the following, which I wrote back in July 2008 [how time flies] and thought it worth posting again as I have kept it safe to happen upon it again someday. That someday is today: "Gratitude leads to humility - so I am told, and if that is the case then I need to make sure that my humi...	Suzannah	2	940	Feb 15, 2010 by hotrod
	had an awful fright! (Preview) am back! been at AH's side for the past two days, nursing him back to health. oh yes! despite him wrecking the former marital home and destroying a lot of my possessions, and despite my being resolute that i could see no future for us, when he text me in the middle of the night saying he was really ill...	miss lucy	8	1067	Feb 15, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Snow In Alabama ??? (Preview) Family, It doesn't snow in Alabama very often, but it is as I post. For those of you who are not aware, just the mention of snow in our forecast causes a stampede of grocery shoppers that wipe out every loaf of bread and every gallon of milk available while the rest of the world laughs at us. We treat 2&q...	RLC	8	1070	Feb 15, 2010 by Karilynn
	Have A Wonderful Valentines Day (Preview) (((((Hello my Friends)))))). First of all Happy Valentines Day to all of you young at heart out there...and for those of you are still couples may you treasure these simple things in life....a card...a hug or even a happy valentines day wish from the one you love....... I have been having some sad mome...	Andrea12	5	860	Feb 14, 2010 by hotrod
	Another little Gem that spoke right to my heart! (Preview) We do what it is that we think we not ought to hoping that we will get what it is that isn't possible! Curtesy of our very own Jerry F, ya just gotta love him to bit's, I do mwah x Katyx	Katy	2	849	Feb 14, 2010 by hotrod
	Help with 3 C's (Preview) One of the three C's, anyway. Hi. I'm new, sponsorless, and hoping for a little guidance. I think I've got the "can't control it" and "can't cure it." It's just a matter of making it habitual in my day-to-day life. I'm having trouble, however, with the "didn't cause it.&qu...	vlc	11	3830	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
	I took another small step for me.... (Preview) First of all, thank you to everyone who offers ESH to me whenever I post, I take what I need and remember it when I'm going through things. I am so happy to have found this site, it keeps me grounded in between F2F meetings. My step.... tonight my Abf told me that he loves me. He had therapy today and appar...	lizzakiss	3	660	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
	Where we are today (Preview) My daughter is going to treatment again. Her husband said they can talk with no promises on what thier future will be. I did go too the al-anon meeting here last night. To my surprise I am not alone. Our stories are different yet all the same. I could have written most of the posts others did. Last night I ju...	Bluelady	10	1023	Feb 14, 2010 by maresie
	I'm doubting my actions (Preview) I've been in the al-anon program for seven months now and I had been told to try and hold off on any major decisions for the first year. Seven months ago my AH finally admitted he had a problem and saught help. This admission was made after about a month of me completely shutting him out.. He entered himsel...	malady	6	992	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
	New here.... (Preview) Hello. I am new here, but not new to Al Anon. Aside from being an alcoholic, my Father is very, very ill. I honestly do not know how is body is even functioning. He looks so sick. Every day I wonder if I will get "the call". I even have a hard time talking to him on the phone. He is really out of contr...	bszab	9	898	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
	Trust (Preview) Greetings, You wil have to pardon me but I do not know all the acronyms for this forum as I am very new to understanding addiction and this forum. In fact this is my first outreach I guess you could say. My Husband is recovering from Achoholism and addiction to opiets. I am deeply in love with my husband...	Rebecca 31003	9	1009	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
	New Yorker article on alcohol (Preview) The current issue of the New Yorker has an interesting article on alcohol by Malcolm Gladwell (author of The Tipping Point, etc.) He talks about evidence for what alcohol really does. People have considered it a drug that lowers your inhibitions, but some researchers think that what it really doe...	Mattie	2	974	Feb 14, 2010 by maresie
	Rant (Preview) Ok, I know what I'm supposed to do in this situation and that's NOTHING. Mind my own business, keep my mouth shut, etc. But some days it's just so dang hard! That's why I'm posting here. I am so angry at my A. I'm so tired of doing almost everything around here by myself. Yes, some things can be let go if he d...	pineapple	4	652	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
	hooks (Preview) My ABF is in recovery and we chat about the programme sometimes. He has started to identify how sick other people are in his family etc. It is lovely to watch him grow although I am keeping the focus on my recovery as I have so much work to do myself. Here is a good example. Before the A I was married for 1...	Tracy	3	1317	Feb 14, 2010 by Jerry F
	Irritability (Preview) I certainly hate having to put up with the tantrums that A's have when someone says no to them, at the moment I am curing my new stove which means burning all the black wax and excess polish off, all doors and windows are open as this is a process. A wanted to use a wire brush on new stove, categorically told h...	maire rua	4	1012	Feb 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	ESH (Preview) What does ESH stand for?	Codependent	3	912	Feb 14, 2010 by TwistedServant
	A ME Day! (Preview) I am married to a dry drunk who acts like a total jerk most of the time. Note to the alanon police, LOL, I didn't call him a jerk, I said he "ACTS" like a jerk most of the time, LOL. Anyway, LOL... I have adjusted, detached, and moved on emotionally for the most part, but at times his behavior is...	MaryPoppins	7	625	Feb 13, 2010 by TwistedServant
	Where and how to draw the line (Preview) Yesterday for the first time in 17 years...I got the brunt of my A Father's anger. I know that I am not "exempt" from the anger. It's just that I haven't been one of his targets for a very long time. There were 12 years where we had no contact in between there. Anyways, I am really trying to set bou...	bszab	4	983	Feb 13, 2010 by TwistedServant
	falling out of love (Preview) How do you stay in a relationship with an alcoholic? My fiance is a functional alcoholic, has 4 DWI's, three were before we met which we have been together 4 years...he got the fourth when my youngest was 2 months old and my oldest was 17 months..we were out of town and he got wasted rolled his truck. He dri...	lindseymommyof2	6	1674	Feb 13, 2010 by lindseymommyof2
	Stress (Preview) All of the stresses are finally getting to me. The major one is financial. I don't even want to begin to think how we're going to handle all our financial problems when AH gets out of jail - the way it looks now, it's going to take YEARS to get back on track. Anyway, I find myself taking a lot of this out on m...	N8SMOM	7	597	Feb 13, 2010 by Iamhere
	A bit of an update (Preview) Hello family, I haven't posted in a while. Lots of things going on. A revelation of sorts has happened to me. I have spent alot of time in the last few months putting my focus on the ex. One thing I noticed is I go to fantasy land. Watching my thoughts I find while in this state, my thoughts are always on...	fishinmama	2	642	Feb 13, 2010 by tlcate
	What I don't understand (Preview) I get what everyone is saying about enabling and I don't want too do that. My question is, it is very cold out, she has no place too live, she has a job but the money is all gone. If I give her money to live how can that be wrong? How can I say well you are on your own. Her husband is gone and I know in my heart he is not...	Bluelady	12	1434	Feb 13, 2010 by Diva
	I just need too talk (Preview) Some time ago I came into this group because I had found out my daughter was drinking. Since then she went to treatment and I prayed her life would get on track. Last night I found she is drinking again and her husband has left her. I can't say I blame him and I believe nothing she says.The fact is though she i...	Bluelady	8	1382	Feb 12, 2010 by maresie
	Immediate help needed please (Preview) She caught me off gaurd. Our cell phones are missing or broken for about a week now. Due t the snow my ABF called his mother from the house phone to check in last night. Well first thing this morning she calls to ask if he went to work today and that her power is off. Well without thinking I gave her his work num...	glad	7	1050	Feb 12, 2010 by maresie
	Momentary Weakness (Preview) Tonight I was watching this special on CNN. It just came on while I was on the treadmill at the gym. It was about how cheap and easy it is to get pain pills in Florida and how people can even track them to places like Kentucky and Tennessee for large profits. My mind instantly went to why the A wanted to go t...	Codependent	6	1636	Feb 12, 2010 by Charlie
	Reality is sometimes quite nauseating (Preview) So I posted here a while back about my dilemma with getting my brother out of my house. I had set a deadline of February 5th for him to be moved out. Being the good little sister that I try to be, February 5th came and went and I wouldn't put him out on his ear because he had not received his last paycheck from...	Gypsy_Phisch	5	786	Feb 12, 2010 by Charlie
	How Do You Know? (Preview) Hi, I am new to this site so I thought I would share a little about me. I was raised in an alcoholic home. Mum was quite functional, went to work during the week, got smashed on the weekends and that was the "norm". I married an alcoholic when I was 21, divorced him when I was 30. During the end of t...	Rainie	6	785	Feb 12, 2010 by Festfan
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