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I just need too talk
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Some time ago I came into this group because I had found out my daughter was drinking. Since then she went to treatment and I prayed her life would get on track. Last night I found she is drinking again and her husband has left her. I can't say I blame him and I believe nothing she says.The fact is though she i...
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Bluelady
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Immediate help needed please
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She caught me off gaurd. Our cell phones are missing or broken for about a week now. Due t the snow my ABF called his mother from the house phone to check in last night. Well first thing this morning she calls to ask if he went to work today and that her power is off. Well without thinking I gave her his work num...
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glad
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Momentary Weakness
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Tonight I was watching this special on CNN. It just came on while I was on the treadmill at the gym. It was about how cheap and easy it is to get pain pills in Florida and how people can even track them to places like Kentucky and Tennessee for large profits. My mind instantly went to why the A wanted to go t...
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Codependent
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Reality is sometimes quite nauseating
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So I posted here a while back about my dilemma with getting my brother out of my house. I had set a deadline of February 5th for him to be moved out. Being the good little sister that I try to be, February 5th came and went and I wouldn't put him out on his ear because he had not received his last paycheck from...
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Gypsy_Phisch
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How Do You Know?
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Hi, I am new to this site so I thought I would share a little about me. I was raised in an alcoholic home. Mum was quite functional, went to work during the week, got smashed on the weekends and that was the "norm". I married an alcoholic when I was 21, divorced him when I was 30. During the end of t...
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Rainie
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Thank you Canadian Guy!
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((((((Family)))), Just wanted to give a GREAT BIG SHOUT OUT thank you to Canadian Guy. His offer of Toby Rice Drews' book was a wonderful help to a dear friend. I got her the book Getting Them Sober. She was a little intimated by Alanon. But after reading her book she understood what was going on wit...
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Karilynn
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Friends
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It seems that many of us on this site try to be friends with our exes. Just questioning the wisdom of those choices and how that works out for everyone....?
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Codependent
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Moral Support
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My ex AH is stuck in Wilmington, NC with nowhere to go, can't get into any recovery houses he says. It's freezing cold and windy here today. He's at the library messaging me saying that he feels like he can't go on. I feel like an evil B!t@# because I won't drop what I'm doing and go help him out yet again....
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carolinagirl
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I feel good today
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Just wanted to pass it on!! Life can be SO good. Had a home decorating party last night with 10 women and it went great. Can't remember the last time I laughed that long and that hard. Today, I'm just smiling!
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Sweet Stanley
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Reality has kicked home today
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today has been a really bad one. emotionally. i have witnessed my AH removing any possessions he had left in his home that we shared and putting them in the Biffa bin not 20 feet from where i live. the temptation to run out and claim anything i wanted to keep was almost too much but i managed to close the c...
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miss lucy
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Resentments !!!
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In the dictionary it states........ "Resentment" can result from a variety of situations involving a perceived wrong. The dictionary also defines "resentment" as a feeling of displeasure of indignation from a feeling of being wronged. From time to time that definition ...
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RLC
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Breaking Up is Hard to do...
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Hi there MIP support group! I really need your ESH today... Its been 3 days since I broke up with the (ex) ABF. I miss him and am second guessing my decision. I have not contacted him since Friday and he has not contacted me. I want him to at least know that I am thinking of him - but that could have good or ba...
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Festfan
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He left rehab..
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Found out today that the A left the rehab a couple of days ago. His mom was fuzzy on the details as to why, etc. I just got this strange text from him tonight that said "Got any advice for a new local?" I was picking up my child from his mom's after my church class and showed it to her. She said ma...
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Codependent
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Grateful....
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I First want to say THANK YOU to ALL that Responded to my "In Need Of Sunshine & ESH Please :O)" Post... I learned alot of wonderful things & I hope that i can use them to help me move thru this step... I have been at it for a while now, so have decided that till I can get a date with my Sponsor...
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Jozie
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Girls please read this book
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this post is aimed mainly at the girls amongst us (sorry boys - no disrespect intended) when i was in therapy i was asked to read Women who love too much by Robin Norwood. Some of you have commented on several of my posts that you wish you had my strength, my hope and my determination to make something out o...
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miss lucy
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How to deal with this?
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I just got home from my meeting and found AH more drunk than he has been in months. When I walked in the door, he was at the bottom of the stairs, hauling a bag of stuff into the garage. I noticed something on the wall, so I went downstairs and looked at it. He had made a hole in the wall (which we just had pain...
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cdngirl
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Reflecting on Valentine's Day-I hate it!
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Well as most of you know this time of year is hard for me, and I'm working my program hard, but still struggling. Still trusting though that even though this waiting and being still is HARD, that is is what I am meant to be doing. Valentine's Day is approaching, and it makes me think of my first V day with EX...
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shellyj123
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The AH is coming back (LONG)
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So the ex AH just left about 3 weeks ago after staying with me almost 3 months. I said in the beginning "NEXT" in regard to the new /old girlfriend (knew from childhood and reunited on facebook) and him trying so desperately to find someone to rescue him and save him from himself. Soooo thi...
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carolinagirl
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and so the disease progresses
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Disease is progressingIve heard today my Ason is up in court next week for trying to break into a chemist shop (looking for diazepam no doubt). He has also broken a bone in his foot trying to kick the door down in another shop (looking for drink) so that will be another court appearance. He is now never sob...
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Ness
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In Need Of Sunshine & ESH Please :O)
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At Times I have these Ruts that never seem to give up or in... This last 5-7 days have been Super Trying, not so much on my Program... Just everyday (Out of My Control things)... 1st would be the Snow storm that brought close to 36" inches of snow & dropped it in our way...lol... I have shoveled, p...
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Jozie
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Why?
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Why is it that I read all the insightful, inspiring messages here and feel strong and no longer alone and ready to tackle these problems and then get home and get sucked right into my Abf's constant, daily drama? He is a dry drunk that has pretty much broken any feeling I have for him and I've told him so. ...
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lizzakiss
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Power and Control...
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Help me out on this please. All feedback is welcomed. I'm revisiting an old reaction (Don't react!! LOL my bestest slogan personally given by an early sponsor) to another person's innate practice of power and control. My stomach is flexing and not so that I can create a 6 pack abs condition. Its b...
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Jerry F
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Still grieving the past, and just when I thought I was done
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First I wanted to say Thank you to all the folks yesterday for the responses, emails to my post.....Another one bites the dust:) For anyone to tell me that I am helping ease their pain through a difficult times means so much to mean, it lets me give back and that is what I hope to do more of....eventually...
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shellyj123
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Which is worse?
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Which is worse? Leaving him and missing him. Or him leaving and missing him. He left me and our marriage five years ago. When I have clarity, I realize that he was gone "mentally" many times before he actually left. I fight my obsession of the mind. He's gone, moved on, we have little contact....
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nmike
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Watchin' My Motives!
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Okay, friends ... today I need to take a look at my motives! I just had a conversation with my AH. During the conversation, I told him that I was worried he may be getting sick again. It seems like a good thing to be able to convey how I feel, and I am allowed to care. It's surely a fine line, though. W...
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White Rabbit
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Another one bites the dust!
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Well to make a long story short........the guy I was dating and I broke up today. As I wrote this am I had been thinking about it for my reason, he had been for his. It didn't happen the way I had wanted it too, but it was a good thing. The sad part is I knew when I woke up this am that it had to happen, yet I knew h...
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shellyj123
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Letting go of worry when loved ones drink
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My ex A boyfriend is drinking again. Since he left we have become friends, chat, talk etc. He is binging weekend with his new girlfriend and its become a disaster. Sounds totally crazy. I am trying to distance myself from it but I can't hellp but worry, its been over 24 hours since I have heard from him. Th...
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jasobel
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This is Feburary and today is the 8th
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That means that since I found the doors of the Al-Anon Family Groups on this same day in 1979...for 31 years I've never missed a blessing. I am most of all grateful beyond my wildest expression and to stay that way I will keep coming back. That MIP has become a part of my program is also a blessing. My...
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Jerry F
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Confusion
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I've posted quite a bit about confusion. I've been completely loaded down with it. Infact, if my posts have a common theme, it is CONFUSION. I am trying to sort through all my feelings and intentions and hopes and needs and wants and try to come to some sort of permanent decision about my (possibly) dr...
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Rora
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i feel like i am in mourning...is it normal?
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hiya all...i have returned...my trip to my daughter's was just great and just what i needed. however, since being back i have sunk into a real low...lower than i have been for a long time. having decided that it is a no go with AH i should be feeling positive and looking forward. truth is i am not feeli...
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miss lucy
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First convention..........mixed feelings
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Ive been to my first convention this weekend.....it was my home groups 35thIts 6am (UK )Im exhausted, Ive had a bad night of flashbacks.........see Overcomes PTSD post below.One of the speakers at the AA meeting was a girl of 30..........could have been my son sitting there.....same story, same ho...
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Ness
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Hope
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I just realized that this is February and that means Valentine's day is coming. S I wanted to post something about love. I proposed to my wife in a parking lot. It wasn't very romantic. and I know you find that shocking because I'm a very romantic guy. So I tried to think of another way to do it that would be m...
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Wolfie
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What do I do?
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Briefly... my ah is a member of a church band. Needless to say lying and bs are common while he is among these folks. during a very stressful month about 6 mos ago, I e-mailed the church and fessed up to the real guy they were dealing with. They jumped on the bandwagon and were insisting I come in and they...
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angelbreeze127
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Secondary Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome
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I've heard it said that if we stay in the alcoholic situation long enough, we become as sick as the alcoholic. I have found that to be true. What is disturbing to me is that I seem to be experiencing PTSD symptoms some 6 months after the divorce. Mind you this is not my first divorce from an alcoholic. I have...
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Overcome
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A little confusion
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"If we could extract the "I" from our thoughts, some of us would lose our focus. We have a tendency to think only of our comfort, our convenience, our point of view, our feelings, and our happiness. What if we made a conscious effort every day to put someone else first? What would it cost...
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carolinagirl
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The A called this Morning
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Left me a message saying he was doing well. He sorta admonished me that he didn't like the fact that I only texted him and didn't ever answer my phone and perhaps that was why he had been out of touch. I did not call rehab about possible drug use. Don't know if he is/was using, but have decided to mind my ow...
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Codependent
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Just trying to be still.....Expectations v/s Desires..........ESH needed
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The past few days I have been struggling....Grateful but struggling somewhat.<BR><BR>For some reason EXABF has been in my thoughts over and over again and I have been praying to HP to please remove any thoughts or feelings I have left for him in my mind and heart. It is hard to...
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shellyj123
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You're making ME sick
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I posted about this a year ago or so but I have found it very interesting to ponder -- in our English language we use expressions like, 'you are giving me a head ache' , 'you are making me feel this or that' or 'you are making me crazy'. It is like we are victims by this language. Our personal power is given t...
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kitty
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Drunkathons
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when I was with the ex A I really jumped full throttle into his stories of what he was going to do. I would rage and rail and rage some more about what he didn't do and I would really put a lot into all the things he "promised'. Recently I have had the grace to have a co worker who is an alcoholic in my compa...
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maresie
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Dry Drunk Infidelity
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I am new here and looking for those who can offer experience, strength and hope for dealing with an affair. My AH is 8 years sober. When we met, he was very active with meetings and sponsorship. Actually, one of the things which attracted me was the AA principles he was teaching me without my even kn...
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ElizabethP65
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BLENGER GIRL!!
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I see your online. We need an OP in chat to boot someone who's been causing problems all week. Looks like he's got a new ip!
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Melissa21
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Fantasies and Fairy Tale Endings
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I'm catching up on reading this morning and have gotten through only a few topics when two things jumped out at me and almost SMACKED me they were so relevant... the fantasies in my head and the illusion of a fairy tale ending. I started to comment as a reply to someones post - but decided to go ALL OUT wit...
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Festfan
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Looking for Al-Anon Lit. and need help
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Hi Everyone! In the chatroom the other day I mentioned I was looking for books/websites etc... to help me with the 12 steps, and a member mentioned a "Blue Print" book that helped with step 4. Another member mentioned a different book that covered questions for all the steps, but, I cant r...
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Suzi1965
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lonely
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MY ABF has accepted he is an alcoholic he has been in AA since May 2009 and had a slip in Nov went straight back to AA. He has moved into his mums and is fighting hard to beat this disease. He lost his job when he had the slip also. He says he needs to sort his life. He needs to get a job, get a driving licience p...
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Tracy
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Help Ive been banned from the chatroom and dont know how to fix it...
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I just tried to get in the chat room and it says I have been added to the channels Auto Kick Ban List?? I was there earlier with no problems. Will someone please tell me how to fix this please. I dont want to miss my meetings... Thanks guys!
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Suzi1965
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Appreciate your help with a 12 Traditions Question...
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I have a speech class and wanted to do one of my speeches on Al-Anon (I have been in the program 2+ years). I want to speak only on my personal experience and of course, not anything that anyone else has said in a meeting or anything like that, but I'm wondering if I may be crossing a line by speaking about it p...
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Jay N
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Update on my situation
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Things are slightly improving on the home front. I am still going with the marriage option and I am reconciled with that decision. I can't see the future but I hope it improves the situation for everyone. Only time will tell. I have decided to start getting the focus back on me doing what I need to be d...
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carolinagirl
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A Recovery Event
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If anyone from AA or Al-Anon happens to find themselves in Dartmouth, Nova Scotia with nothing to do on the weekend of Feb. 19-21, feel free to drop in to the Holiday Inn on Wyse Road for the 32nd annual midwinter roundup. Its gonna be a blast.
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Wolfie
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OP PLEASE in chat!!
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I think we have a couple ppl harassing us...for sure one and I think he's inviting his friends. We've even typed in something to go to another room and they are following...
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Melissa21
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NEED OP'S IN THE ROOM AT NITE
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CAN WE GET A COUPLE OF OPS IN THE ROOM ABOUT 10--ISH AT NITE - IN COGNITO WOULD WORK. WE HAVE THIS WHACKO WHO COME IN ABOUT 9-12AM LATELY WHO LOVES TO DISRUPT EVERYONE AND SENDS NASTY REMARKS INTO THE ROOM . KEEPS CHANGING NICK NAMES . AND IP ADDYS ALSO .. WHEN ASKED TO LEAVE HE LIKES TO FLOOD THE ROOM ... ...
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abbyal
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Confused over a Recovering A. Please help!
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Hi Everyone, I have never done this before, and I am new to Al-Anon, that being said, I am no stranger to Alcoholics and their behavioral and emotional tendencies. So here is my story and subsequent question. I share a long and varied past with a now recovering alcoholic. We have spent the past five ye...
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HollyGolightly
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New here and need advice about alcoholic brother's behavior!
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Hi all. I am new here and my brother is an alcoholic. He has drank for many years (it never was a problem till about 6 years ago). He is only 34, but I am wondering if he has signs of the so called "wet brain' It is like his whole personality has changed even when he claims he has only had 2 beers. He acts...
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Suri81
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Milestones
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It seems that every milestone I reach, something changes in me. I guess that is the way it is supposed to be. One of my friends, actually my sponsor is celebrating 40 years this weekend. I hope she doesn't mind me saying so. I have been able to reflect on my 40th bday lately. It was a very difficult time for...
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Hoot Nanny
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What matters most is how you live your life, not what you have to show for it,"
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the above quote is from Jenny Sanford. Some of you may remember her husband then Governor of South Carolina had a very public issue. I have to say I admire her detachment, focus and clarity. If you are interested she will be on 20/20 on Friday with Barbara Walters. There are some people who do recover...
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maresie
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A question ...
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What is the difference for you between loving someone and being detached from them vs not loving them?
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Rora
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He says he's in treatment?
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So my sons father is supposedly in treatment. He says he's doing it so when court comes and I bring up his past habits it wont matter anymore. Or is it really court ordered from his DUI in Sept that he insists was dropped weeks later after a piss test showed his level below the limit? Last night on my way home...
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Melissa21
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unacceptable behavior - again
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So here I am again on this same topic. I have been married to my recovering A for 6 years. In those 6 years it has always been our house rule that there is no smoking in our house. In the last week, I came hoe to find a cigarette butt floating in the toilet. I told AH that it was unacceptable. I don't want ou...
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supermom
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You know who you are... A simple Thank You.
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A few weeks back I asked the members of Miracles In Progress for financial help so the needs of the newcomer into the MIP Recovery Homes could be better met by Rose and I during such a trying economic time. I believe in accountability and transparency in such matters. To say the very least, I was absolut...
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John
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Am I expecting too much
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I've thought about joining al-anon several times, but could never get up enough courage to take that first step. this should be the happiest time of my life. After 6 years of fertility treatments, I finally brought home a beautiful daughter 2 weeks ago. But I'm married to a functional alcoholic. H...
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montrose
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Extended Family
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I am sort of relapsing I guess. I have this Step Sister. Her personality type as I see it is of convinces. When I am in town everything is great, everyone is family. When I leave town, the phone calls stop and its like the visit never happened. I always feel a bit burnt after leaving. This situation o...
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ARSK
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