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Ok, I know what I'm supposed to do in this situation and that's NOTHING. Mind my own business, keep my mouth shut, etc. But some days it's just so dang hard! That's why I'm posting here. I am so angry at my A. I'm so tired of doing almost everything around here by myself. Yes, some things can be let go if he doesn't do them but there are some things that have to be done, they won't wait for a day when he's not drinking. So after doing my own work for the day I also have to do half of his chores (the ones that won't wait) because he started drinking at noon and is already passed out. Maybe it's a good thing he is, it makes it easier to not have a confrontation. By the time he wakes up I'll be OK again, calm and reasonable instead of the crazy angry person I am right now. I'm going to go finish my-his work, give myself a facial (something I've been promising myself for days) and read my literature. Hey, I'm already feeling better. Just writing this here has helped. I don't want to yell at him, I want to stay calm but sometimes if I don't get this stuff out I think I'll burst! Thanks for letting me rant.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with having those feelings and emotions. I've been there, done it, and will do it again. But, whether you realize it or not.........You are doing much better..........You know why?.........You didn't throw a frying pan yet !!!!!.........No I'm not going to let you forget about that. LOL.
be proud of yourself you went from a hundred down to zero while you were posting only by "thinking" of how you were going to take care of yourself. Amazing how it works "when" and "if" we work it.
I bet there are several pages in the "Courage to Change" and "One Day at a Time" books on Anger. Might be good reading.........But not until after your facial. ...Always TCOYF.
Thanks RLC, I do feel much better now. My usual ways of taking out my anger (when I'm not throwing frying pans) is to go in the garden and pull weeds or take my dog for a long walk. But today I didn't have time for either of those. Someone mentioned in the meeting tonight that they didn't want to use this just as a place to vent. I don't want to do that either but there are times when I really do need to express what's going on with me and this is a great place for me to do that. I always feel better afterward. (Kind of like attending a meeting.) I did do some reading although I never made it to ODAT. I started with Courage to Change and after I read the seven pages that deal with anger I had plenty to think about for quite awhile! (By the way, the facial was great)
Greetings "rant". I am fairly new to the program. I for one don't mind reading when someone "rants." I need to see that other people are going through exactly what I have been going through and I get to "see" how other people handle these situations. This helps me. So, "rant" away.
Glad you got your facial, I may have to try one of them!!
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, It's about learning to dance in the rain.
