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My two teenagers are driving me literally insane....I am at the end of my rope with them......I want to tell them get the hell out.....I have endured more than I can handle....all they do is argue and argue over the most stupid stuff....and it's not small arguing it's huge......screaming at each other with no respect for each other at all...and neither one knows how to just shut up.
How does this relate to alcoholism.....I imagine being raised in a home with a father who was an alcoholic addict has a lot to to with it. I do not blame it all on him but a lot of it I do.....they have such anger....it's been a little over two yrs since their dad passed....some days things are fine but lately OMG, it has been hell...and I mean this.....If it wasn't for my g-daughter I would just go to my mom's and let them argue and fight until they couldn't talk anymore.
You know he died, left me in debt up to my eyeballs.....finally seeing some daylight on that...now the dysfunction is taking it's toll on me and them that went on for so many yrs.....
Where is he, where was he when this family started falling apart....he was out using and now he has escaped it once again.....I am sure he did not want to die however, I have been cleaning up this mess for years and it's time for it to stop.....when is enough enough?????
Thanks for listening......I feel better...I was about to blow....I am very grateful for this board.........
Could be the weather, could be something or it could be nothing. They might just need to "dump" things that have been building up. Tim & I didn't argue that much, but once in awhile we would have a blow up. It was ugly while it lasted, but then things seemed to calm down and get better after that. I have the feeling they will for you too. Hold tight to your granddaughter. She'll see you through. Much love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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((((Andrea)))) teenagers don't have to have had an alcoholic parent as an excuse for fighting! That is what teenage siblings do!
You may want to set some boundaries. If living in your house you need some respect even if they have none for each other. There are acceptable standards of behaviour to be observed.
I'm sure you know all this, really - but agree it is horrible when going through it. Glad you can come here and vent and hopefully feel better.
I can so realte and agree with all the shares boundaries its your home. I have a 16 year old son whio is very angrey and does not speak to his dad, I have a 13 year old girl who is very hormonal. They argue a lot. Now i have put boundaies in place I have held back their allowance , removed televisio, computer games etc. I stick to what I say things are improving. I was getting very depressed and blaming my ex and my current sober ABF. BUt when enough was enough I had to take action teenager need boundaies especially if they have observed unaacceptable behaviour from adults. \yesterday my daughter went to a concert and I gave her friends a lift and picked them all up and gave her spending money. She is off svchool today I rang and asked if she had clean her room she was all stroppy and slammed the phone down. I spoke to hp asked him to help me stay detached and to give me the strength to handle this appropriatly. I rang her back told her that I expected her room to be done when I got home if not there would be consequences an that all treats would be stopping if her behviour did not improve. She could tell i meant what i was saying. When I came home her room was spotless. When I take comtrol and behave appropriatley say what I mean and mean what I say mt childre do normally come in to line. You are the adult and its your home. I do not know how old your children are. On the other hand do not beat yourself up my discipline has slipped over the years due to the craziness, but I am getting better today and I want my children to repsect me I expect it today because al anon has taught me I matter nd i want a peacful home. take what you like
Thanks for the wonderful words of wisdom, thanks for listening....I appreciate al of you very much...
I have told them enough many times....like talking to an A when they are in prime time use......may as well talk to the wall......
My son is a senior in high school, my daughter first yr of college...my no means do I want them to move out until they are ready....but enough already......
I am hoping once the snow ends things will ease.....we have been out of the house about once in the past two weeks....and the worst part is it's coming again.....so say a soft prayer for me to have a little more patience and for God to guide me thru......and if he could tell mother nature to please stop the snow so they can get out of the house........I am in desperate need of me time.....
I think at this time of year, we all get on each others "nerves." I live in Minnesota where winters are long, cold, and stormy every year. Just myself speaking here but I will go out and shovel and shovel and shovel until my frustration is gone. Once, I pretty much shoveled the whole back yard. Didn't solve my problems, but I was too tired to blow!! Just remember tomorrow is another day and spring will be coming and it will be GOOD!!
Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain (or snow )
Didn't solve my problems, but I was too
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