Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

bluebee · bluebee

Hi everyone. I am new here and I hope this is the right place for me to share. If not, please let me know. My boyfriend began rehab last week for alcohol addiction. Treatment is 6 months. As a result, he broke up with me. First of all, I was taken aside a bit. I knew he liked to drink a lot (it escalated in the las...

NMW · NMW

I broke up with my abf 4 months ago. Second time around, I thought I could handle it because I loved him. He is a good person. this time around I think the diease progressed. He wasnt' as attentive and somethings got short with me. He seemed angry, sad, depressed, and resentful. He got some bad news about s...

MapleMom · MapleMom

I have had a few very good days. I have spent less time so focused on AH and focusing more on myself and my children. I have started spring cleaning in and around my house, and I must admit over the past year things have slid pretty bad, do to my own back injury last year other crisises, and AH not helping out...

CindyLou · CindyLou

I don't mean, like, what is the definition of it. I know what it is and I know what I am suppose to be doing, but I mean HOW?? HOW do I get to the point where I can? What are some tips and hints....like baby steps where to start????? My husband is an alcoholic. He will not admit it. In fact, he said he loves d...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

Hi everyone. I was just looking for some advice, experience, etc. I'm currently in a relationship with my Abf-sober. Though he hasn't taken a drink in 8 years, he has not been active in his program for the better part of 2 years. He has been sporadically going to meetings for the past 6 months I woul...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I have a commitment with my lawyer and will be unable to get back home in time. Hopefully, another OP will be present but if not, it would be good if another member could step-up and chair. Thanks Love in recovery, Shimo (aka Jeri)

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

There's so much that I can't give. I'm not talking about things. I am talking about emotions. I think there are 2 primary reasons that I feel like I can't give this to others. The first is because I wasn't given these as a child. The other is because I don't feel like someone people would want love from. I f...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Many of you know that in April 2009 I discovered that all my jewelry had been stolen. It turned out to be the neighbor who helped me when Pipers took sick shortly after Tim passed. Today I received the court papers for an order of protection for both Pipers and I for a year. She's now a co...

intothewoods · intothewoods

Hey, MIP Family! Here's another update from my life in Limbo. (I'm leaving my AH in May after I graduate college, legal separation, moving in with my best friend in another state, hopefully to go to grad school in a year.) This past weekend I drove to my folk's house and told them about what's been going o...

glad · glad

My higher power has already been so good to me today I have to share. background first- I've been physically emotionally depressed the kind that you know is just bad- the imbalance where I'm pretty sure I'd still feel sad no matter what. Well first blessing is I know it's gonna pass but as I was having a g...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I AM STILL SEARCHING FOR SERENITY & PEACE OF MIND! I STILL; THANKS TO MY HIGHER POWER, HAVE SOME PIECE OF MY MIND! I GUESS I WILL ALWAYS BE SEARCHING; FOR SOMETHING! I HAVE NOT "ARRIVED'' YET & I NEVER WILL. SOMETIMES I AM ON A CONSTANT SEARCH FOR MEANING IN MY LIFE: LIKE WHAT IS MY PURPO...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I have come to this board and have written a couple of posts since finding my AH drunk after being sober for nearly 5 months. I appreciate the replies, the knowledge, the wisdom and getting to the core of me and my unhealthy ways that have developed from living with him. Thank you, thank you. I am readin...

QOD · QOD

My exAH/bf contacted me yesterday morning to find out how the kids were and to see if we were on the "off and off". I told him I thought we needed to talk. So he came over last night after he got off of work. I went into this conversation thinking we were definately going to end things. I had ac...

chezza · chezza

Gratitude for me at the moment in turn has given me the power to let it begin with me. For me that means I can share my experience and strength that I have gained through praticing al-anon slogans, trusting and sharing at meetings with friends/sponsor in my every day life which in fact is rewarding for ev...

RLC · RLC

A lady in my Tuesday f2f Group gave an anology I had never heard before. But, it really hit home with me. She said she told her A husband that they suffered from "The Triangle Effect"----She loved him---- He loved Alcohol----And Alcohol didn't love either one of them. I don't think anyone co...

Katy · Katy

I had a microscope I swapped for a mirror! Rose tinted glasses, I swapped for varifocals! a broken record I swapped for an hearing aid! a callculator I kept but instead of adding up the defcit's I started adding up the credit! bricks I swapped for barriers! there must be tons more, your turn! Katyx

LinnieLee · LinnieLee

I've come to this board because I need support and advice. I feel lost and have no clue what to do. My BF and I have been together for about 4 months now but we've known each other for 16 years and he's been an alcoholic since the age of 12. We were best friends first and then we started dating on and off through...

joanlee · joanlee

Hello I am new to Al-anon, and I'm having a problem with the detachment theory in one area, and that is drinking and driving. It does not make common sense to me to let someone get in a car if they are drunk. Is this supposed to make him suffer consequences and teach him a lesson? How about the fact that he cou...

lmw · lmw

I have sole custody of my three kids, and the day-to-day stuff is all mine: meals, homework, baths, bedtime, laundry, etc. Visits with Dad are always playtime - he has none of the responsibility of parenting, just the fun stuff. (I'm stating a fact here; but I wouldn't change places for him for a...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

One of the things my seminar stressed this weekend and that really helped pull me out of my self pity, was the idea that I must take responsibility for my future. There is a pay-off when I remain in self-pity - there is no risk and I believe that I am somehow hedging against future pain. Yesterday and this m...

speck31 · speck31

I am finally to the point that I want to ask my ex-Abf to not contact me for at least a month. I probably should ask for more but that's what I can start with. I wrote a letter earlier trying to explain how I feel and how I have a hard time telling others how I really feel...but I am trying to now. And that I need...

QOD · QOD

I have not heard from my exAH/bf since the last Thursday texting wars. Well, actually he did text me on Saturday to see if I had his birth certificate. I don't and I have let him know that in the past. I have no clue what he needs it for, it cannot be good but I just don't give a rip. I have actualy enjoyed som...

late4kay · late4kay

I am a recovery alcoholic with a lot of time in recovery. I've also spent 3 1/2 years in alanon following a difficult marriage to a non-recovering alcoholic. I'm currently in a terrific relationship with a wonderful man with just a little more sobriety than I have. The difficulty for us is his 26-ye...

Bettina · Bettina

Hi everyone, Im back, I was invited back and am grateful and appreciate the invite. When I left I was in a very ugly place and want to apologize if I offended anyone or caused any dis unity. Im here to get encouraged and to give any encouragement when I can. I feel my experiences can help another family al-a...

Katy · Katy

It's been a bit of a time here lately, at christmas I caught swine flu gave it to my husband, and that caused him to have acute liver failure, his buisiness is struggling in this ressesion, and then his mother passed away suddenly,so this week we had the funeral, my husband is in recovery and after the fun...

kerry5 · kerry5

Hi Everyone, Tonight is our Step Tradition Meeting, We are on Tradition 10 tonight. We have had a hard time in these meetings getting people to share on these topics because there are more newcomers and they dont share on these topics. The meetings are usually ended early. I am asking for the help of...

mom25 · mom25

This is my 1st post here. Wasn't sure if I really belonged here, but after doing some reading here, I do. I have been married to my AH for 21 years, not always too happily because of his drinking. I have left him twice both within the first 5 yrs. Only for a few days. I almost divorced him in 2003 because he...

Gailey · Gailey

I have been thinking about what to do with my A son for quite some time now. The other morning I woke up early and I had somehow made a decision in my sleep (answer from HP) that he needs to go, sober or not, for my own sanity. Now, he really doesn't give me any grief but I just cannot continue watching him go dow...

Slugcat · Slugcat

not sure if this belongs here. my husband has not drunk since his last bout..... not going there atm. but ihave a father figure, a very close relative who will not stop over eating. he also smokes, has diabetes now, high blood pressure and is obese, i would say morbidly obese. hes waiting for a stomach st...

Panda5 · Panda5

I am just starting with accepting that I need Al-Anon support. I have been married almost 3 years and with my AH for almost 5 years. He is out tonight. His phone is off and I am not anxious. I have no control over his usage or binge. I feel like I can only keep myself and our children safe. I can only pray for him...

MapleMom · MapleMom

I have had it with AH. He was on a bender for the better part of last week, after we had what I thought was a very deep connection a few days prior. I did well not saying anything to him, I worked hard to let it go(wasn't easy) and on Saturday he mislead me as to what he was doing and I thought he was going to be ho...

miss lucy · miss lucy

i knew in my own mind that my marriage to AH was almost definitely over - i just didnt think the ending of it would have been quite so unpleasant. AH and i have been living apart since January and i had given him an ultimatum that if he hadnt sorted himself out by August (my birthday) then our marriage was ove...

BetterLife · BetterLife

Hi! Short intro, I had a flirtation with Al-Anon 2 years ago when I was having trouble dealing with others bad habits. Turns out i felt that I had some of my own. Too immature. I didn't know myself. Then I hit a spiral that involved a guy who i thought I loved...and a best friend who dumped her fiance and...

Katy · Katy

Jeez I thought it meant deception! like I thought humility was humiliation! and I often wondered why my husband could talk the talk and not walk the walk, but now I tend to rely on ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER TO ME THAN WORDS! Jerry F, if you had of adopted me earlier I would of been ok sooner? Katyx that you came in...

roygbiv · roygbiv

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Tulsa4604 · Tulsa4604

I am chairing a meeting on Humility tomorrow night, so I want everyone's input on where their humility in Al-Anon came from. What humbled you?

FreudinSlip · FreudinSlip

Hello All, I'm new to this. My therapist suggested I check out Al-anon meetings or ACOA meetings. I found an al-anon meeting in my area, I've gone a couple of times, but I'm a bit lost. I mostly just sit in the back and listen because I don't really get what is going on, some things that people say I can relat...

addictiondoc · addictiondoc

Hi Everyone!I am a doctor that specializes in drug addiction/alcoholism. I am committed to helping family members who have a loved on with an addiction. It's a tough disease that destroys a lot of families so I try to help people in many different ways.Thanks

skootr73 · skootr73

Hi! I'm new to this board. Just wanted to put a quick shout out that I'm glad to find y'all. It will be nice to have a supplement to my f2f meeting. Looking forward to being blessed with lots of ES&H! Thanx-Skootr

sdisnie · sdisnie

Which is worse? Wondering where your drunk husband is for an entire week while he's on a bender and then having to take him to the hospital when he can't stop....about twice a year..... Or.....having to send your kids off with him and his new girlfriend every Saturday and soon every other weekend for t...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So today, AH had huge melt down resulting in relapsing after 4 days of sobriety. He got two guns and brought them to bed with him., I called 911. I managed to remove the guns from his possession and locked all weapons in my car. The sheriff's officer spoke with him and he admitted to wanting to hurt himsel...

Festfan · Festfan

Hello friends at MIP, Wow, I am really seeking ESH today. I haven't posted in a while, but I have been keeping up on reading. I am struggling with my relationship with my AexBF. I ended our relationship at the beginning of February and had begun to be accustomed to more peace in my life - at least as it re...

Bluelady · Bluelady

Hello, I just wanted too give you a update on how we are doing. Chris has been sober 1 month. Yesterday she got a promotion at her work, she will get her Masters in a month on got top grade in her mid term. I won't tell you everything is just great but I won't give up on her. We are working on it together. She is ge...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

So I went to an amazing seminar this weekend that is supposed to "change lives". I got ALOT out of it and I FEEL great, but there is a part of me still wrapped up in the obsession and abandonment I felt in my relationship. It is a complicated one, that's for sure. Today I just feel that familiar tu...

Katy · Katy

Doing the same thing's over and over and getting the same results? practice practice practice, it works it really does, light bulb moment, what can I take form that? Well, I have been practicing learning learning learning, and now I am just on the cusp of ok I get that now what? Just do it, ya can't just th...

cdngirl · cdngirl

A week ago, I was talking to my sponsor about how to pray, what to ask for, etc, as sometimes I feel like I'm doing it wrong because I wasn't getting anything out of it. She suggested to ask God for a sign that he is there for me, guiding me. So I prayed on that the past week. Yesterday, I had a horrendous day...

sdisnie · sdisnie

It's one thing to be able to detach from the ex AH....I can do that a little better....my problem is trying to detach from the new girlfriend who is now in control of his life. For whatever reason she decides to pick up where I left off. My problem with her is I know her, and I know the type of person she is, a...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi wondered I live in Englad and would love to watch when love is not enough. I have SKY (digital television) which has about 4 different CBS american channels. I also have to Hallmark channels. Then there is the time differences to consider. not sure if I will b able to get this movie , can you buy it?...

Sunset · Sunset

Hello everyone, I go by the nick hummer, but use to be sunset. I am just apologizing for the other nite when I was a bit disgruntled over a lady reading her poetry in the chatroom. I just thought that because it was not conference approved literature that it should not have been shared in the chatroom. ...

Kiki52 · Kiki52

I'm new to MIP, but not to Al Anon. I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone. I think this will be a great addition to my recovery program

bluerose · bluerose

I am feeling very troubled at the momment. I am 4 weeks from my divorce from my AH being final. But I am not free from the ravages of this awful disease. My AH comes to my house as he pleases, most visits are nasty and unpleasant. He has made so many threats from burning my house down, raping me and promises to...

Gailey · Gailey

Thank you! You are a lovely, caring person. Gail

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

I'll keep this simple. I have been married for 25+ years to a wonderful man who happens to have the disease of alcoholism. He relapses every 3-5 months. He is active in support groups. I can hardly deal with the relapses after a 10 year period of going through this. It is ugly. I have anxiety and ins...

Nicomanti · Nicomanti

I'll try to make this as short as possible! My mother is a severe alcoholic, the problem is that she hides it pretty well. Her husband works out of town and is very rarely ever home (he also drinks A LOT). She only really has one friend who also drinks a lot, and who she very rarely sees, so no one really sees h...

david62 · david62

Hi Family, I just finished reading "When Love is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story" this morning. In it mention is made of the Stepping Stones Foundation that was created near the end of her life to provide for, among other things, the preservation of the home she and Bill shared which they c...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Well, what a week, last week has been. To make a long story short, I went on vacation with my sister. I knew that my AH was hitting the bottle hard, I didn't know the last time he had been to work, I didn't check and I didn't call him in. I decided that this was it. He is responsible for himself. I spoke with my d...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))), With St. Patrick's Day right around the corner, I'd like to offer a suggestion. We all know how hard it can be on all of us - especially with an active A in the house. AS if addicts needed another excuse to drink or drug. (They do it b/c they are addicts.) If things are tough remember th...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Wow I have sat here for a half an hour looking at the computer screen knowing I want to post but what do I want to say. Daughter took my car on Thursday she has a suspended license for DUI. I called her and she let the call go to voice mail...I left message and she called back..Told her to bring car back and s...

Katy · Katy

I think I can change that feeling now into acceptance and humility, I have carried resentment around with me way to long, and when I looked deep into myself, I thought ermmmmmm it's only me keeping this resentment a live, let it go, and swap it for acceptence and low and behold I feel lighter, light bulb m...

MapleMom · MapleMom

So today, I think my lesson for myself is learning to take it one day at a time. AH has his weekly curling game to go to and usually he comes home drunk from this. Since we had our big talk a week ago, things were good and in the past couple of days he has come home after having a couple to last night I know he had...

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	New here. Need help please - ex in rehab (Preview) Hi everyone. I am new here and I hope this is the right place for me to share. If not, please let me know. My boyfriend began rehab last week for alcohol addiction. Treatment is 6 months. As a result, he broke up with me. First of all, I was taken aside a bit. I knew he liked to drink a lot (it escalated in the las...	bluebee	12	698	Mar 22, 2010 by bluebee
	Any Ideas???? (Preview) I broke up with my abf 4 months ago. Second time around, I thought I could handle it because I loved him. He is a good person. this time around I think the diease progressed. He wasnt' as attentive and somethings got short with me. He seemed angry, sad, depressed, and resentful. He got some bad news about s...	NMW	9	642	Mar 22, 2010 by NMW
	Finding my independance (Preview) I have had a few very good days. I have spent less time so focused on AH and focusing more on myself and my children. I have started spring cleaning in and around my house, and I must admit over the past year things have slid pretty bad, do to my own back injury last year other crisises, and AH not helping out...	MapleMom	10	728	Mar 22, 2010 by Robinks
	How do you DETACH? (Preview) I don't mean, like, what is the definition of it. I know what it is and I know what I am suppose to be doing, but I mean HOW?? HOW do I get to the point where I can? What are some tips and hints....like baby steps where to start????? My husband is an alcoholic. He will not admit it. In fact, he said he loves d...	CindyLou	16	1109	Mar 21, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	Am I kidding myself? (Preview) Hi everyone. I was just looking for some advice, experience, etc. I'm currently in a relationship with my Abf-sober. Though he hasn't taken a drink in 8 years, he has not been active in his program for the better part of 2 years. He has been sporadically going to meetings for the past 6 months I woul...	lizzakiss	5	680	Mar 21, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I have a commitment with my lawyer and will be unable to get back home in time. Hopefully, another OP will be present but if not, it would be good if another member could step-up and chair. Thanks Love in recovery, Shimo (aka Jeri)	shimo	4	465	Mar 21, 2010 by Carol_Lynn
	All this has gotta go somewhere! (Preview) There's so much that I can't give. I'm not talking about things. I am talking about emotions. I think there are 2 primary reasons that I feel like I can't give this to others. The first is because I wasn't given these as a child. The other is because I don't feel like someone people would want love from. I f...	seekingserenity	8	711	Mar 21, 2010 by tlcate
	Justice (Preview) ((((Family)))), Many of you know that in April 2009 I discovered that all my jewelry had been stolen. It turned out to be the neighbor who helped me when Pipers took sick shortly after Tim passed. Today I received the court papers for an order of protection for both Pipers and I for a year. She's now a co...	Karilynn	8	678	Mar 21, 2010 by Andrea12
	another update from limbo (Preview) Hey, MIP Family! Here's another update from my life in Limbo. (I'm leaving my AH in May after I graduate college, legal separation, moving in with my best friend in another state, hopefully to go to grad school in a year.) This past weekend I drove to my folk's house and told them about what's been going o...	intothewoods	4	555	Mar 20, 2010 by blender_girl
	Acceptance (Preview) My higher power has already been so good to me today I have to share. background first- I've been physically emotionally depressed the kind that you know is just bad- the imbalance where I'm pretty sure I'd still feel sad no matter what. Well first blessing is I know it's gonna pass but as I was having a g...	glad	3	496	Mar 20, 2010 by intothewoods
	Serenity; peace of mind (Preview) I AM STILL SEARCHING FOR SERENITY & PEACE OF MIND! I STILL; THANKS TO MY HIGHER POWER, HAVE SOME PIECE OF MY MIND! I GUESS I WILL ALWAYS BE SEARCHING; FOR SOMETHING! I HAVE NOT "ARRIVED'' YET & I NEVER WILL. SOMETIMES I AM ON A CONSTANT SEARCH FOR MEANING IN MY LIFE: LIKE WHAT IS MY PURPO...	Hoot Nanny	5	622	Mar 20, 2010 by Bettina
	Learning so much from this board (Preview) I have come to this board and have written a couple of posts since finding my AH drunk after being sober for nearly 5 months. I appreciate the replies, the knowledge, the wisdom and getting to the core of me and my unhealthy ways that have developed from living with him. Thank you, thank you. I am readin...	wifeofalcoholic	6	544	Mar 20, 2010 by xeno59
	We talked last night (Preview) My exAH/bf contacted me yesterday morning to find out how the kids were and to see if we were on the "off and off". I told him I thought we needed to talk. So he came over last night after he got off of work. I went into this conversation thinking we were definately going to end things. I had ac...	QOD	6	738	Mar 20, 2010 by Bettina
	My journey through gratitude with changing attitudes (Preview) Gratitude for me at the moment in turn has given me the power to let it begin with me. For me that means I can share my experience and strength that I have gained through praticing al-anon slogans, trusting and sharing at meetings with friends/sponsor in my every day life which in fact is rewarding for ev...	chezza	3	818	Mar 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	"The Triangle Effect" (Preview) A lady in my Tuesday f2f Group gave an anology I had never heard before. But, it really hit home with me. She said she told her A husband that they suffered from "The Triangle Effect"----She loved him---- He loved Alcohol----And Alcohol didn't love either one of them. I don't think anyone co...	RLC	3	1167	Mar 19, 2010 by Jerry F
	what tools have you swapped in your tool box? (Preview) I had a microscope I swapped for a mirror! Rose tinted glasses, I swapped for varifocals! a broken record I swapped for an hearing aid! a callculator I kept but instead of adding up the defcit's I started adding up the credit! bricks I swapped for barriers! there must be tons more, your turn! Katyx	Katy	4	553	Mar 19, 2010 by nmike
	Hi everyone, I'm new here and lost... (Preview) I've come to this board because I need support and advice. I feel lost and have no clue what to do. My BF and I have been together for about 4 months now but we've known each other for 16 years and he's been an alcoholic since the age of 12. We were best friends first and then we started dating on and off through...	LinnieLee	9	650	Mar 19, 2010 by MapleMom
	driving (Preview) Hello I am new to Al-anon, and I'm having a problem with the detachment theory in one area, and that is drinking and driving. It does not make common sense to me to let someone get in a car if they are drunk. Is this supposed to make him suffer consequences and teach him a lesson? How about the fact that he cou...	joanlee	5	646	Mar 19, 2010 by joanlee
	A Good Day! (Preview) I have sole custody of my three kids, and the day-to-day stuff is all mine: meals, homework, baths, bedtime, laundry, etc. Visits with Dad are always playtime - he has none of the responsibility of parenting, just the fun stuff. (I'm stating a fact here; but I wouldn't change places for him for a...	lmw	4	662	Mar 19, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	Responsibility for ME and my quality of life... (Preview) One of the things my seminar stressed this weekend and that really helped pull me out of my self pity, was the idea that I must take responsibility for my future. There is a pay-off when I remain in self-pity - there is no risk and I believe that I am somehow hedging against future pain. Yesterday and this m...	RunnerChick	7	869	Mar 19, 2010 by glad
	I wrote a letter... (Preview) I am finally to the point that I want to ask my ex-Abf to not contact me for at least a month. I probably should ask for more but that's what I can start with. I wrote a letter earlier trying to explain how I feel and how I have a hard time telling others how I really feel...but I am trying to now. And that I need...	speck31	3	506	Mar 19, 2010 by speck31
	Still no word (Preview) I have not heard from my exAH/bf since the last Thursday texting wars. Well, actually he did text me on Saturday to see if I had his birth certificate. I don't and I have let him know that in the past. I have no clue what he needs it for, it cannot be good but I just don't give a rip. I have actualy enjoyed som...	QOD	5	580	Mar 19, 2010 by QOD
	Help! (Preview) I am a recovery alcoholic with a lot of time in recovery. I've also spent 3 1/2 years in alanon following a difficult marriage to a non-recovering alcoholic. I'm currently in a terrific relationship with a wonderful man with just a little more sobriety than I have. The difficulty for us is his 26-ye...	late4kay	5	745	Mar 19, 2010 by John
	Hello everyone, Im back! (Preview) Hi everyone, Im back, I was invited back and am grateful and appreciate the invite. When I left I was in a very ugly place and want to apologize if I offended anyone or caused any dis unity. Im here to get encouraged and to give any encouragement when I can. I feel my experiences can help another family al-a...	Bettina	4	641	Mar 19, 2010 by John
	Just thoughts! (Preview) It's been a bit of a time here lately, at christmas I caught swine flu gave it to my husband, and that caused him to have acute liver failure, his buisiness is struggling in this ressesion, and then his mother passed away suddenly,so this week we had the funeral, my husband is in recovery and after the fun...	Katy	2	499	Mar 19, 2010 by Katy
	Calling All Oldtimers Need Help Tonight! AT Meeting (Preview) Hi Everyone, Tonight is our Step Tradition Meeting, We are on Tradition 10 tonight. We have had a hard time in these meetings getting people to share on these topics because there are more newcomers and they dont share on these topics. The meetings are usually ended early. I am asking for the help of...	kerry5	4	631	Mar 19, 2010 by kerry5
	Hello (Preview) This is my 1st post here. Wasn't sure if I really belonged here, but after doing some reading here, I do. I have been married to my AH for 21 years, not always too happily because of his drinking. I have left him twice both within the first 5 yrs. Only for a few days. I almost divorced him in 2003 because he...	mom25	3	540	Mar 18, 2010 by pineapple
	boundaries (Preview) I have been thinking about what to do with my A son for quite some time now. The other morning I woke up early and I had somehow made a decision in my sleep (answer from HP) that he needs to go, sober or not, for my own sanity. Now, he really doesn't give me any grief but I just cannot continue watching him go dow...	Gailey	5	789	Mar 18, 2010 by Karilynn
	dont know if this belongs here i need to rant (Preview) not sure if this belongs here. my husband has not drunk since his last bout..... not going there atm. but ihave a father figure, a very close relative who will not stop over eating. he also smokes, has diabetes now, high blood pressure and is obese, i would say morbidly obese. hes waiting for a stomach st...	Slugcat	10	991	Mar 18, 2010 by Kiki52
	New Here, hello (Preview) I am just starting with accepting that I need Al-Anon support. I have been married almost 3 years and with my AH for almost 5 years. He is out tonight. His phone is off and I am not anxious. I have no control over his usage or binge. I feel like I can only keep myself and our children safe. I can only pray for him...	Panda5	4	875	Mar 18, 2010 by abbyal
	Gave my final ultimatumn (Preview) I have had it with AH. He was on a bender for the better part of last week, after we had what I thought was a very deep connection a few days prior. I did well not saying anything to him, I worked hard to let it go(wasn't easy) and on Saturday he mislead me as to what he was doing and I thought he was going to be ho...	MapleMom	6	651	Mar 18, 2010 by Bettina
	the straw that broke the camel's back! (Preview) i knew in my own mind that my marriage to AH was almost definitely over - i just didnt think the ending of it would have been quite so unpleasant. AH and i have been living apart since January and i had given him an ultimatum that if he hadnt sorted himself out by August (my birthday) then our marriage was ove...	miss lucy	8	793	Mar 17, 2010 by miss lucy
	New here, revisiting the Al anon life. (Preview) Hi! Short intro, I had a flirtation with Al-Anon 2 years ago when I was having trouble dealing with others bad habits. Turns out i felt that I had some of my own. Too immature. I didn't know myself. Then I hit a spiral that involved a guy who i thought I loved...and a best friend who dumped her fiance and...	BetterLife	5	781	Mar 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	PERCEPTION! (Preview) Jeez I thought it meant deception! like I thought humility was humiliation! and I often wondered why my husband could talk the talk and not walk the walk, but now I tend to rely on ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER TO ME THAN WORDS! Jerry F, if you had of adopted me earlier I would of been ok sooner? Katyx that you came in...	Katy	1	573	Mar 17, 2010 by nmike
	RecoverySpeakers.org (Preview) them.http://www.recoveryspeakers.org/Home/FileCatalog.aspx?SearchText=alanon	roygbiv	3	2156	Mar 17, 2010 by abbyal
	Humility (Preview) I am chairing a meeting on Humility tomorrow night, so I want everyone's input on where their humility in Al-Anon came from. What humbled you?	Tulsa4604	6	1836	Mar 17, 2010 by xeno59
	Hello All I'm new to this. (Preview) Hello All, I'm new to this. My therapist suggested I check out Al-anon meetings or ACOA meetings. I found an al-anon meeting in my area, I've gone a couple of times, but I'm a bit lost. I mostly just sit in the back and listen because I don't really get what is going on, some things that people say I can relat...	FreudinSlip	7	987	Mar 17, 2010 by xeno59
	Introducing myself (Preview) Hi Everyone!I am a doctor that specializes in drug addiction/alcoholism. I am committed to helping family members who have a loved on with an addiction. It's a tough disease that destroys a lot of families so I try to help people in many different ways.Thanks	addictiondoc	9	608	Mar 17, 2010 by kitty
	New & Want to Say Glad to Be Here (Preview) Hi! I'm new to this board. Just wanted to put a quick shout out that I'm glad to find y'all. It will be nice to have a supplement to my f2f meeting. Looking forward to being blessed with lots of ES&H! Thanx-Skootr	skootr73	5	582	Mar 17, 2010 by Tracy
	Which is Worse? (Preview) Which is worse? Wondering where your drunk husband is for an entire week while he's on a bender and then having to take him to the hospital when he can't stop....about twice a year..... Or.....having to send your kids off with him and his new girlfriend every Saturday and soon every other weekend for t...	sdisnie	6	656	Mar 17, 2010 by nmike
	So Angry With Crisis Center (Preview) So today, AH had huge melt down resulting in relapsing after 4 days of sobriety. He got two guns and brought them to bed with him., I called 911. I managed to remove the guns from his possession and locked all weapons in my car. The sheriff's officer spoke with him and he admitted to wanting to hurt himsel...	Acatnip	11	735	Mar 17, 2010 by Acatnip
	ESH needed to deal with AexBF (Preview) Hello friends at MIP, Wow, I am really seeking ESH today. I haven't posted in a while, but I have been keeping up on reading. I am struggling with my relationship with my AexBF. I ended our relationship at the beginning of February and had begun to be accustomed to more peace in my life - at least as it re...	Festfan	7	794	Mar 16, 2010 by Festfan
	update on daughter (Preview) Hello, I just wanted too give you a update on how we are doing. Chris has been sober 1 month. Yesterday she got a promotion at her work, she will get her Masters in a month on got top grade in her mid term. I won't tell you everything is just great but I won't give up on her. We are working on it together. She is ge...	Bluelady	3	785	Mar 16, 2010 by Rocky38
	One of those days... (Preview) So I went to an amazing seminar this weekend that is supposed to "change lives". I got ALOT out of it and I FEEL great, but there is a part of me still wrapped up in the obsession and abandonment I felt in my relationship. It is a complicated one, that's for sure. Today I just feel that familiar tu...	RunnerChick	2	604	Mar 16, 2010 by hotrod
	A ha moments! (Preview) Doing the same thing's over and over and getting the same results? practice practice practice, it works it really does, light bulb moment, what can I take form that? Well, I have been practicing learning learning learning, and now I am just on the cusp of ok I get that now what? Just do it, ya can't just th...	Katy	4	534	Mar 16, 2010 by Hoot Nanny
	A sign (Preview) A week ago, I was talking to my sponsor about how to pray, what to ask for, etc, as sometimes I feel like I'm doing it wrong because I wasn't getting anything out of it. She suggested to ask God for a sign that he is there for me, guiding me. So I prayed on that the past week. Yesterday, I had a horrendous day...	cdngirl	2	679	Mar 16, 2010 by hotrod
	Need help detaching from A's new girlfriend (Preview) It's one thing to be able to detach from the ex AH....I can do that a little better....my problem is trying to detach from the new girlfriend who is now in control of his life. For whatever reason she decides to pick up where I left off. My problem with her is I know her, and I know the type of person she is, a...	sdisnie	4	737	Mar 16, 2010 by lizzakiss
	Movie (Preview) Hi wondered I live in Englad and would love to watch when love is not enough. I have SKY (digital television) which has about 4 different CBS american channels. I also have to Hallmark channels. Then there is the time differences to consider. not sure if I will b able to get this movie , can you buy it?...	Tracy	3	535	Mar 16, 2010 by Melissa21
	Apology (Preview) Hello everyone, I go by the nick hummer, but use to be sunset. I am just apologizing for the other nite when I was a bit disgruntled over a lady reading her poetry in the chatroom. I just thought that because it was not conference approved literature that it should not have been shared in the chatroom. ...	Sunset	6	681	Mar 16, 2010 by blender_girl
	Hey Everyone (Preview) I'm new to MIP, but not to Al Anon. I'm looking forward to getting to know everyone. I think this will be a great addition to my recovery program	Kiki52	3	564	Mar 16, 2010 by blender_girl
	Do I have to go into hiding? (Preview) I am feeling very troubled at the momment. I am 4 weeks from my divorce from my AH being final. But I am not free from the ravages of this awful disease. My AH comes to my house as he pleases, most visits are nasty and unpleasant. He has made so many threats from burning my house down, raping me and promises to...	bluerose	13	710	Mar 15, 2010 by bluerose
	For Hotrod (Preview) Thank you! You are a lovely, caring person. Gail	Gailey	1	541	Mar 15, 2010 by hotrod
	HOW DO I DETACH??? (Preview) I'll keep this simple. I have been married for 25+ years to a wonderful man who happens to have the disease of alcoholism. He relapses every 3-5 months. He is active in support groups. I can hardly deal with the relapses after a 10 year period of going through this. It is ugly. I have anxiety and ins...	wifeofalcoholic	8	1666	Mar 15, 2010 by xter
	Desperate for advice! (Preview) I'll try to make this as short as possible! My mother is a severe alcoholic, the problem is that she hides it pretty well. Her husband works out of town and is very rarely ever home (he also drinks A LOT). She only really has one friend who also drinks a lot, and who she very rarely sees, so no one really sees h...	Nicomanti	9	1128	Mar 15, 2010 by skootr73
	An Early morning lesson from Lois (Preview) Hi Family, I just finished reading "When Love is Not Enough - The Lois Wilson Story" this morning. In it mention is made of the Stepping Stones Foundation that was created near the end of her life to provide for, among other things, the preservation of the home she and Bill shared which they c...	david62	3	587	Mar 15, 2010 by maresie
	back in treatment (Preview) Well, what a week, last week has been. To make a long story short, I went on vacation with my sister. I knew that my AH was hitting the bottle hard, I didn't know the last time he had been to work, I didn't check and I didn't call him in. I decided that this was it. He is responsible for himself. I spoke with my d...	Sweet Stanley	4	599	Mar 15, 2010 by Karilynn
	A positive twist on St. Patrick's Day (Preview) (((((Family))), With St. Patrick's Day right around the corner, I'd like to offer a suggestion. We all know how hard it can be on all of us - especially with an active A in the house. AS if addicts needed another excuse to drink or drug. (They do it b/c they are addicts.) If things are tough remember th...	Karilynn	3	733	Mar 15, 2010 by MaryPoppins
	I just need to post this... (Preview) Wow I have sat here for a half an hour looking at the computer screen knowing I want to post but what do I want to say. Daughter took my car on Thursday she has a suspended license for DUI. I called her and she let the call go to voice mail...I left message and she called back..Told her to bring car back and s...	fishinmama	7	825	Mar 15, 2010 by fishinmama
	Resentment! (Preview) I think I can change that feeling now into acceptance and humility, I have carried resentment around with me way to long, and when I looked deep into myself, I thought ermmmmmm it's only me keeping this resentment a live, let it go, and swap it for acceptence and low and behold I feel lighter, light bulb m...	Katy	8	778	Mar 15, 2010 by blender_girl
	Me learning one day at a time. (Preview) So today, I think my lesson for myself is learning to take it one day at a time. AH has his weekly curling game to go to and usually he comes home drunk from this. Since we had our big talk a week ago, things were good and in the past couple of days he has come home after having a couple to last night I know he had...	MapleMom	3	562	Mar 15, 2010 by pineapple
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