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KimmyJo · KimmyJo

I read this the other day and put myself as the frog. It answered my question of: Im a smart, loving wife, mother, friend, daughter...Why didnt I see the destruction happening in my life, living with an alcoholic until I was cook to death?? When you put a frog into a hot boiling pan of water, the frog will...

babybear · babybear

I'm new here... Heck, I'm new to everything, as it was only yesterday that I found out my husband is an alcoholic. I know, that has to sound ridiculous, but it is what it is. I'm in a new world, a fog, not knowing what to do or where to turn and feeling very lonely. Until a year ago, he was my best friend, my...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

I'm not going to make it to my usual face-to-face meeting tonight because of lovely blizzard warnings in our area, so I thought I would post here. I just started going to Al-Anon. I don't have a sponsor yet. I have also started going to a therapist who specializes in counseling both the addict and the f...

kyrp · kyrp

Well, where to begin...met Sam a year ago...I was his mom's nurse. He mostly treated me like a queen, during our dating (7months ago). There were times, however that he didn't. Blamed his not being able to get an errection on me...saying I was fat, my stomach was too big, my hair was blonde..he was attra...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Was feeling pretty low, well real low. I called a dear JW sister, a wonderful older lady who was so kind to me. She is so wise. What she said fits for so many here too. She told me she would have been disappointed in me if I called and said I was happy and ok. That my spilling my heart, the pain, the loss, the feel...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

I really wish I could deposit my OH in a rehab centre but that option is unavailable to me - on the NHS (in UK), at least. I could really do with the respite if nothing else. OH is drinking again in earnest despite having been hopsitalised for 3 weeks last year during which he nearly died. At the weekend he wa...

alexmaui · alexmaui

I moved out from my AH 4 days ago. It had been a rough three years and i had been thinking of leaving everytime he went on a binge or got out of rehab and started drinking again. Then I just did it ...somehow the pieces fell into place. Found a cute place i could afford, packed and moved midst much crying and be...

DadtoCandE · DadtoCandE

OK, I'm going to meetings 1-2 a week, I haven't got a sponsor yet, but have a lead. Last weekend was my older boys 15th birthday, we took him and his buddies snowboarding at bear mountain. My AW and I ski'd with my younger son on the beginner slopes. The place was really ripe for a slip up. The &q...

okwitt · okwitt

My world started really falling apart in August when my son's liver and muscles shut down. He's recovering slowly very slow and finishing court ordered recovery house, has about 3 weeks to go...I'm really scared I can't handle_______________but

freeagain · freeagain

I heard in one meeting that AA's who are also members of alanon are NOT allowed to hold positions of service such as GR or SR... Are they allowed to hold in group positions such as treasurer, secretary etc? Is the tenets of alanon on line somewhere? I know my groups have the book, but I won't see it till tomo...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Song of the day http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BksJ99wIuCw I hate that my life has been affected by alcoholism today. Usually I am gratful for the lessons and skills I have gained from my experiences in life but today I am not ... today I hate it. I dated a man a few years ago and was not ready to date,...

Trudystar · Trudystar

Good Morning family it is 01/31/10, and I can not get into the meeting. This is the second time this has happened where it the meeting website would not even allow me to connect. I hope you have a good meeting I will try to get in later today.

clep · clep

My 21 year old daughter moved home a couple of weeks ago. She lived with her father for a year and a half. My son missed her terribly and is very glad she is home. The problem is that she is out with her friends constantly. We rarely see her and our son is hurt and frustrated with the fact that she doesn't se...

KimmyJo · KimmyJo

Ps...I dont want to be a frog anymore....LOL -- Edited by KimmyJo on Sunday 30th of January 2011 08:55:01 PM

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

So, today I was cleaning out the pool and the filters despite the freezing cold water. I found a beer bottle label in the main filter and pulled it out. In the past, I would have accused AH of drinking this fancy Russian beer knowing full well that he would blame a neighbor for their trash blowing into ou...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I think Al-Anon encourages us to detach. In this detaching, we aren't expected to totally pretend nothing bad has happened, right? We are encouraged to state our feelings without pointing fingers or judging. Is this correct? Maybe there should be some fine print about the fact it could blow up in you...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I am hoping someday I get blessed with that again. Again I am very grateful for all I have. Its not that. I've forgotten what happiness feels like. Hate admitting that. Though I put my first months rent down today. (c: So we will be here awhile. I can take my time. Clean up as much as I can here before I let go...

Laura Baker · Laura Baker

I have cut myself off from my 30 year old son. I pray for the surrender he needs to get well. But struggle with the guilt of my decision to cut ties. I wish God would have me know that I am doing the right thing. Is it my ego that makes me think that others are judging the choice I made? Am just looking for affrima...

Evian · Evian

I think I've had enough. Enough of the lies, the cheating, the excuses. I'm tired of tiptoeing around him and having to tell the kids to tiptoe as well. It's sad that they know that Dads been drinking, just by his demeanor these days.. My one son asked me one day last week... "how much has he had so far...

Another family member made the choice · quietearth

My aunt killed herself last Thursday in the bathtub where my sister tried to drown herself in alchohol for hours at a time. I'm feeling very tired and have become run down this past week holding in all my emotions in the presence of my family. I've gone into dark spiritual space a couple of times, this is t...

Aloha · Aloha

http://tinyurl.com/5skujvb I was reading today's Dear Abby online with interest. The column received a lot of backlash from the community in regards to advice that had been given regarding it being okay to give alcohol as a gift. There were a lot of interesting responses, obviously from many peopl...

KimmyJo · KimmyJo

Just a question, maybe its more of a thought?? Pretty much all A are alike. Their patterns, behaviors are very similar. * Thats why we have so much in common, right? So does the same rule apply to A that are in recovery, sober? *I have been researching alot about behaviors, success stories...

Tracy · Tracy

I have been doing some self estem work on myself and it appears that my internal mind talk tells me I am not important and puts lots of demands on me. E>G I should be strong, fix things, put others first, I AM NOT IMPORTANT. I never slept last night realising the unmeetable demands I have placed on me I a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All...I haven't back checked on a phone call my Eldest Son and I were having in which he said that his cousin, the eldest son of my younger brother was coming for a visit...Actually was running from the trashing his alcoholism was doing to his family. My son and I talked about what it use to be like,...

reqforpeace · reqforpeace

Hello everyone...I am new to this site, I guess out of desperation. I have a father who is an Alcoholic. We was clean for 16 years, that was between my college years up to my mid 30s. He started drinking again about 5 years ago..Its been just awful. I also live many states away, so its hard to keep tabs on hi...

member922 · member922

Just wanted to share a bit. I am no longer irritated by my bf's smoking anymore. He doesn't do it around me and I hardly ever think about what he is doing while he is home all stressed out. He can do what he needs to. He doesn't do it here. I am very fortunate that I do not live with this man. I highly doubt I...

roxygirl · roxygirl

My son is 27 yrs. old and he went to rehab from 4/10 - 6/10 and then moved into my house so he could get back on his feet. I thought to myself, this is it, he is going to finally get his life back on track! And he started out going to AA meetings for the first month. He got a part time. He was living at my house for...

babygirl71 · babygirl71

I haven't posted for awhile. My A did a week in detox and decided he was getting out. I made perhaps the colossal mistake of letting him come home. He said he was going to leave treatment regardless, that he had done treatment, that he just needed to detox, etc etc. Plus- I was scared about doing it on my own...

clep · clep

My A decided a while back to go into his old profession that does not mix well with his disease or with another shortcoming is concerned that is a huge factor in our relationship. I was deeply upset at his choice. The job he has now is for a wonderful family man that has strong values. He has lots of flex...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Woke up with a bad stomach, weak. But becuz of Al Anon I think ok this is how it is. Didn't try to figure out why, or fight it. I just did not feel good. So I took tiny steps. Cleaned all the drawers in the kitchen out, some cubboards too. Took all the pics down and stuff off my walls and shelves packed'em.tosse...

Finding Courage · Finding Courage

Hello. I am brand new to this site, and to Al-Anon. I have attended two meetings (two Monday nights in a row), and am already feeling more hopeful. I know I have a long road ahead of me. My spirit is pretty bruised these days. I am hoping to find a place in addition to my meetings. Everyone was so nice a...

bakoshelly · bakoshelly

Hi, I am new to this posting and found it by accident. I have been sporadic with Al-Anon meetings, had a sponsor who didn't follow up, so I used it as an excuse to give up last time. I found myself with another alcoholic...REALLY?? Ugh. I am open to any encouraging words and suggestions to keep me on tr...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I was stumbling through some old files the other day, and found my "list" that I prepared for my 'family conference' that I had with my ex-AW at her treatment center. I was asked to speak to my wife (at the time) and her counselor, and tell my wife exactly how her drinking had affected myself a...

Aloha · Aloha

This morning I felt compelled to read all of my daily readers before starting my day in full. I have a copy of ODAT at home, Courage to Change in my car, and Hope for Today in my desk. I needed everything I read out of each reader. I was exaggeratedly cranky yesterday afternoon. I have a huge project looming...

kath · kath

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VaVg0cWkgAw

Hayes · Hayes

I am just so pleased I went tonight. I really am. I don't feel alone in this. When for the past few days I have felt total despair, so alone in this. Almost wanting to end it all. Tonight, I feel hope. We are focussing on Step 1 which is just perfect. I heard the words letting go of this fight. And I think, I thi...

KimmyJo · KimmyJo

Yes, I attend Alanon meetings. Yes, I read the books. Yes, I pray and pray and pray. Yes and Yes and Yes..... After 15 years of marriage, there are alot of layers that have been damaged. Like a onion, Im trying to peel a layer off.......one day at a time. With my AH coming home from rehab next week, it h...

terrysys · terrysys

after 7 years and many attempts I finally made my AH leave. it was the hardest thing I've ever done. a week later he's going to AA and begging to talk and be better. after all the hurt and hate I don't want to go back, I don't care that NOW he wants to get better, that it took filing for divorce for him to reali...

Jozie · Jozie

Ya Know, Its Funny how just when you think Your Day Couldn't get any worse, you wake up and Realize it really isn't that bad...lol... I am So Grateful for a Program that Allows me to see such things, I remember when I was Younger and would have a Bad day over just about "Any" thing that didn't go &...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hairline Fracture in Disk Degenerative Disk Disorder Herniated Disk (2) Knee Surgery (acl, mcl, meniscus and cartridge) Loose Bones Removed from elbow Those are the ailments that contributed to the need for pain medication in my husbands life. His job is not a light duty job. He operates heavy mac...

hopeful332 · hopeful332

Hello all I been sitting here for the last couple of hours trying to get myself to an alanon meeting but its not easy. I been dealing with this disease for the last 4 years with my daughter. She is now almost 20 years old and left our house again last night because we discovered she was stealing from us again...

casa · casa

I won't be able to chair tonight's meeting. Would someone please cover? Thank you so much! :)

kath · kath

The Voice of Truth tells me a different story...I love that song by Casting Crowns. I have listened to the lies of my AH for way too long. I am wavering today. I should not have read all the hateful messages telling me that I am an unfit mother and that I am a whore because for so long I have believed every litt...

kath · kath

Just started back up with college this semester. Did well last semester, two A's and a B in a really difficult class!! I am no longer taking our daughter to visit her father who is an A. The environment is bad for all of us. He has to get high all the time so when we are there he leaves but comes back smelling li...

Fiddleman · Fiddleman

Hi All I am thinking today about how to maintain detachment and move forward in dealing with my A son, age 27. It seems I can make progress in my Al Anon program, both F2F meetings, plus readings, working my steps, etc. but where the rubber meets the road it is still difficult. My goal is to achieve sereni...

clep · clep

My A has had a sponsor for the past year. His sponsor's wife was my sponsor. For many reasons I dropped that scenario and my sponsor a few months ago. He dropped his sponsor as we fought about him all the time. There were a few things the sponsor was advising him on that I would not accept. That was one i...

maresie · maresie

Prior to al anon if I met someone who was an alcoholic or addict I didn't make a decision regarding boundaries because I doubted my perceptions. I had no trust in my abilty to assess other people. I gave them the benefit of the doubt for years and years. This week a new woman started at my job. She lives c...

floridawife · floridawife

So I went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. WOW, That was hard!!! I honestly didn't think it would be that hard. I think I started crying before the meeting even started. I calmed down some until the subject of detachment came up. That is a tough subject for me and something I am having trouble with. I k...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I had my best friend call me. I was pretty down this morn. He told me I needed sleep. Ok I am always telling you guys to nap, I forgot to do it myself! so I did. Woke up feeling better. Guess what? I am putting my down payment on my cabin on Monday. I put my horse on CL. Not ten min. later I got an email. It was the sam...

stephaniej · stephaniej

My AH arrived home very early on Thursday morning, and is leaving to return to his jobsite today. I had some issues during the weekend, including watching, in spite of myself, *very closely* how much he drank. But I didn't say anything. A few times I had the opportunity to make some very passive aggre...

monarae · monarae

has anyone out there experienced anything like this? the rage doesnt always seem to be brought on by anything particular but escalates to total anger over the smallest thing.

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I really don't know if I will be able to do this detachment thing. I am somewhat prone to anxiety. I need to keep check on it and use relaxation exercises, etc. When my AH isn't drinking and is paying attention to the family, I hardly need to do a thing to check my anxiety. This is a big thing, b /c my job is dif...

sunflowergirl · sunflowergirl

I hope its ok to share how great the f2f meetings are here :) I mean I know you all kept telling me how great they are, but I kept putting it off and thought I could get by without them. Well they are just another great tool to put in my box, having a real meeting to get to, to be at and contribute to helps me so...

jettiesgirl · jettiesgirl

I finally, after giving ABF too many chances and repeatedly getting hurt and lied to and taken advantage of, basically cut him out of my life. For my sake and my daughter's. I've been working my program, focusing on me, etc. But at the same time I was still hanging onto the insane hope that he would hit bot...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My former sponsor would have either or both had a good laugh or/and then had a heart attack if he had witnessed me take the "Don't" away from the slogan "Don't React". I did and did it well...I had other choices but flew past that awareness in a mircosecond and then got myself good...

dhotch · dhotch

My brother is 35 and an alchoholic. He doesn't think he has a problem. He recently moved back home with my parents and my 2 sisters. He doesn't have a job nor a driver's license. Recently, he has started to become more agitated after being at the bar all night. He comes home late and barges into my si...

jereh · jereh

I have a wonderful 4 year old grand daughter named Natalie. Not going to get into a lot of details here but Natalie's mother is actually one of my step daughter's. My step daughter has a very serious drinking problem, cannot hold a job. We have had legal custody of Natalie in the past and pretty much ra...

Aloha · Aloha

It's really a whole new world when I'm living by myself. I don't get the volume of exterior drama that I had when I lived with the exAH. This is such a great opportunity, but at the same time, it's also a very tempting place for me to get complacent about working my program. Nothing's stressing me out with t...

Bettina · Bettina

"When you look at plants in winter, most have neither flowers or leaves. The may seem to be not alive at all, but thats not true. They are waiting for the right time to bloom, they are waiting for the best time for them. In the same way you need to believe in your own inner strength and wisdom, utilize...

wintergirl · wintergirl

are there any chats that are open now for alanon support. can not get out to a meeting right now. hoping to go next week.

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	ARE YOU FEELING LIKE A FROG??? (Preview) I read this the other day and put myself as the frog. It answered my question of: Im a smart, loving wife, mother, friend, daughter...Why didnt I see the destruction happening in my life, living with an alcoholic until I was cook to death?? When you put a frog into a hot boiling pan of water, the frog will...	KimmyJo	7	1177	Feb 1, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	What do I do now??? (Preview) I'm new here... Heck, I'm new to everything, as it was only yesterday that I found out my husband is an alcoholic. I know, that has to sound ridiculous, but it is what it is. I'm in a new world, a fog, not knowing what to do or where to turn and feeling very lonely. Until a year ago, he was my best friend, my...	babybear	8	956	Feb 1, 2011 by TT5
	Feeling empty (Preview) I'm not going to make it to my usual face-to-face meeting tonight because of lovely blizzard warnings in our area, so I thought I would post here. I just started going to Al-Anon. I don't have a sponsor yet. I have also started going to a therapist who specializes in counseling both the addict and the f...	Very Very Tired	4	1091	Feb 1, 2011 by abbyal
	boyfriend just finished detox, and I'm feeling myself fall into a deep depression..help!! (Preview) Well, where to begin...met Sam a year ago...I was his mom's nurse. He mostly treated me like a queen, during our dating (7months ago). There were times, however that he didn't. Blamed his not being able to get an errection on me...saying I was fat, my stomach was too big, my hair was blonde..he was attra...	kyrp	5	1058	Feb 1, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	Acceptance (Preview) Was feeling pretty low, well real low. I called a dear JW sister, a wonderful older lady who was so kind to me. She is so wise. What she said fits for so many here too. She told me she would have been disappointed in me if I called and said I was happy and ok. That my spilling my heart, the pain, the loss, the feel...	Debilyn	4	794	Feb 1, 2011 by Loupiness
	It begins again (Preview) I really wish I could deposit my OH in a rehab centre but that option is unavailable to me - on the NHS (in UK), at least. I could really do with the respite if nothing else. OH is drinking again in earnest despite having been hopsitalised for 3 weeks last year during which he nearly died. At the weekend he wa...	Tattyhead	3	752	Feb 1, 2011 by abbyal
	left..but still codependent (Preview) I moved out from my AH 4 days ago. It had been a rough three years and i had been thinking of leaving everytime he went on a binge or got out of rehab and started drinking again. Then I just did it ...somehow the pieces fell into place. Found a cute place i could afford, packed and moved midst much crying and be...	alexmaui	5	849	Feb 1, 2011 by abbyal
	doubt and denial start to creep in (Preview) OK, I'm going to meetings 1-2 a week, I haven't got a sponsor yet, but have a lead. Last weekend was my older boys 15th birthday, we took him and his buddies snowboarding at bear mountain. My AW and I ski'd with my younger son on the beginner slopes. The place was really ripe for a slip up. The &q...	DadtoCandE	2	879	Jan 31, 2011 by RLC
	I'm Back? HELP (Preview) My world started really falling apart in August when my son's liver and muscles shut down. He's recovering slowly very slow and finishing court ordered recovery house, has about 3 weeks to go...I'm really scared I can't handle_______________but	okwitt	3	734	Jan 31, 2011 by okwitt
	Technical question (Preview) I heard in one meeting that AA's who are also members of alanon are NOT allowed to hold positions of service such as GR or SR... Are they allowed to hold in group positions such as treasurer, secretary etc? Is the tenets of alanon on line somewhere? I know my groups have the book, but I won't see it till tomo...	freeagain	1	707	Jan 31, 2011 by Jerry F
	I wish I knew how to swear in another language (Preview) Song of the day http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BksJ99wIuCw I hate that my life has been affected by alcoholism today. Usually I am gratful for the lessons and skills I have gained from my experiences in life but today I am not ... today I hate it. I dated a man a few years ago and was not ready to date,...	Jennifer	8	822	Jan 31, 2011 by Jennifer
	Can not get into meeting (Preview) Good Morning family it is 01/31/10, and I can not get into the meeting. This is the second time this has happened where it the meeting website would not even allow me to connect. I hope you have a good meeting I will try to get in later today.	Trudystar	1	471	Jan 31, 2011 by Samsgram
	My daughter moved home (Preview) My 21 year old daughter moved home a couple of weeks ago. She lived with her father for a year and a half. My son missed her terribly and is very glad she is home. The problem is that she is out with her friends constantly. We rarely see her and our son is hurt and frustrated with the fact that she doesn't se...	clep	5	728	Jan 30, 2011 by clep
	ARE YOU A FROG???? (Preview) Ps...I dont want to be a frog anymore....LOL -- Edited by KimmyJo on Sunday 30th of January 2011 08:55:01 PM	KimmyJo	1	1321	Jan 30, 2011 by glad lee
	Proud of myself today! (Preview) So, today I was cleaning out the pool and the filters despite the freezing cold water. I found a beer bottle label in the main filter and pulled it out. In the past, I would have accused AH of drinking this fancy Russian beer knowing full well that he would blame a neighbor for their trash blowing into ou...	ilovedogs	6	748	Jan 30, 2011 by ilovedogs
	trying to follow through and it always blows up in my face (Preview) I think Al-Anon encourages us to detach. In this detaching, we aren't expected to totally pretend nothing bad has happened, right? We are encouraged to state our feelings without pointing fingers or judging. Is this correct? Maybe there should be some fine print about the fact it could blow up in you...	looking_for_peace	5	1171	Jan 30, 2011 by Aloha
	How do you find happy? (Preview) I am hoping someday I get blessed with that again. Again I am very grateful for all I have. Its not that. I've forgotten what happiness feels like. Hate admitting that. Though I put my first months rent down today. (c: So we will be here awhile. I can take my time. Clean up as much as I can here before I let go...	Debilyn	10	744	Jan 30, 2011 by Debilyn
	Detachment with love (Preview) I have cut myself off from my 30 year old son. I pray for the surrender he needs to get well. But struggle with the guilt of my decision to cut ties. I wish God would have me know that I am doing the right thing. Is it my ego that makes me think that others are judging the choice I made? Am just looking for affrima...	Laura Baker	3	1638	Jan 30, 2011 by abbyal
	Just venting is all (Preview) I think I've had enough. Enough of the lies, the cheating, the excuses. I'm tired of tiptoeing around him and having to tell the kids to tiptoe as well. It's sad that they know that Dads been drinking, just by his demeanor these days.. My one son asked me one day last week... "how much has he had so far...	Evian	4	922	Jan 30, 2011 by Debilyn
	Another family member made the choice (Preview) My aunt killed herself last Thursday in the bathtub where my sister tried to drown herself in alchohol for hours at a time. I'm feeling very tired and have become run down this past week holding in all my emotions in the presence of my family. I've gone into dark spiritual space a couple of times, this is t...	quietearth	7	1028	Jan 30, 2011 by Debilyn
	Really strong response to alcohol in a Dear Abby column today (Preview) http://tinyurl.com/5skujvb I was reading today's Dear Abby online with interest. The column received a lot of backlash from the community in regards to advice that had been given regarding it being okay to give alcohol as a gift. There were a lot of interesting responses, obviously from many peopl...	Aloha	7	2461	Jan 29, 2011 by freeagain
	Why Is there a difference ???? (Preview) Just a question, maybe its more of a thought?? Pretty much all A are alike. Their patterns, behaviors are very similar. * Thats why we have so much in common, right? So does the same rule apply to A that are in recovery, sober? *I have been researching alot about behaviors, success stories...	KimmyJo	7	832	Jan 29, 2011 by abbyal
	need o vent sorry (Preview) I have been doing some self estem work on myself and it appears that my internal mind talk tells me I am not important and puts lots of demands on me. E>G I should be strong, fix things, put others first, I AM NOT IMPORTANT. I never slept last night realising the unmeetable demands I have placed on me I a...	Tracy	4	724	Jan 29, 2011 by f2fmember
	Generational Alcoholism (Preview) Aloha All...I haven't back checked on a phone call my Eldest Son and I were having in which he said that his cousin, the eldest son of my younger brother was coming for a visit...Actually was running from the trashing his alcoholism was doing to his family. My son and I talked about what it use to be like,...	Jerry F	6	1023	Jan 29, 2011 by glad lee
	New to this site...needs suggestions/advice (Preview) Hello everyone...I am new to this site, I guess out of desperation. I have a father who is an Alcoholic. We was clean for 16 years, that was between my college years up to my mid 30s. He started drinking again about 5 years ago..Its been just awful. I also live many states away, so its hard to keep tabs on hi...	reqforpeace	9	858	Jan 29, 2011 by pamela0926
	Think I have made some progress (Preview) Just wanted to share a bit. I am no longer irritated by my bf's smoking anymore. He doesn't do it around me and I hardly ever think about what he is doing while he is home all stressed out. He can do what he needs to. He doesn't do it here. I am very fortunate that I do not live with this man. I highly doubt I...	member922	4	691	Jan 29, 2011 by member922
	Sober but DISRESPECTFUL and ABUSIVE! (Preview) My son is 27 yrs. old and he went to rehab from 4/10 - 6/10 and then moved into my house so he could get back on his feet. I thought to myself, this is it, he is going to finally get his life back on track! And he started out going to AA meetings for the first month. He got a part time. He was living at my house for...	roxygirl	6	1034	Jan 29, 2011 by Karilynn
	Feeling like a failure (Preview) I haven't posted for awhile. My A did a week in detox and decided he was getting out. I made perhaps the colossal mistake of letting him come home. He said he was going to leave treatment regardless, that he had done treatment, that he just needed to detox, etc etc. Plus- I was scared about doing it on my own...	babygirl71	7	849	Jan 29, 2011 by abbyal
	HP is guiding (Preview) My A decided a while back to go into his old profession that does not mix well with his disease or with another shortcoming is concerned that is a huge factor in our relationship. I was deeply upset at his choice. The job he has now is for a wonderful family man that has strong values. He has lots of flex...	clep	2	595	Jan 28, 2011 by RLC
	Just stuff (Preview) Woke up with a bad stomach, weak. But becuz of Al Anon I think ok this is how it is. Didn't try to figure out why, or fight it. I just did not feel good. So I took tiny steps. Cleaned all the drawers in the kitchen out, some cubboards too. Took all the pics down and stuff off my walls and shelves packed'em.tosse...	Debilyn	8	738	Jan 28, 2011 by DreamXL
	Brand new (Preview) Hello. I am brand new to this site, and to Al-Anon. I have attended two meetings (two Monday nights in a row), and am already feeling more hopeful. I know I have a long road ahead of me. My spirit is pretty bruised these days. I am hoping to find a place in addition to my meetings. Everyone was so nice a...	Finding Courage	4	725	Jan 28, 2011 by SteppingUp
	Newby (Preview) Hi, I am new to this posting and found it by accident. I have been sporadic with Al-Anon meetings, had a sponsor who didn't follow up, so I used it as an excuse to give up last time. I found myself with another alcoholic...REALLY?? Ugh. I am open to any encouraging words and suggestions to keep me on tr...	bakoshelly	4	710	Jan 27, 2011 by abbyal
	Family Conference.... (Preview) I was stumbling through some old files the other day, and found my "list" that I prepared for my 'family conference' that I had with my ex-AW at her treatment center. I was asked to speak to my wife (at the time) and her counselor, and tell my wife exactly how her drinking had affected myself a...	canadianguy	13	1255	Jan 27, 2011 by SteppingUp
	Have fun, replace instead of eliminate and keep the focus on me. (Preview) This morning I felt compelled to read all of my daily readers before starting my day in full. I have a copy of ODAT at home, Courage to Change in my car, and Hope for Today in my desk. I needed everything I read out of each reader. I was exaggeratedly cranky yesterday afternoon. I have a huge project looming...	Aloha	3	864	Jan 27, 2011 by kitty
	song (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VaVg0cWkgAw	kath	3	756	Jan 27, 2011 by looking_for_peace
	First F2F Meeting in Quite A While! (Preview) I am just so pleased I went tonight. I really am. I don't feel alone in this. When for the past few days I have felt total despair, so alone in this. Almost wanting to end it all. Tonight, I feel hope. We are focussing on Step 1 which is just perfect. I heard the words letting go of this fight. And I think, I thi...	Hayes	4	718	Jan 27, 2011 by member922
	WHY AM I IN THE FOG????? (Preview) Yes, I attend Alanon meetings. Yes, I read the books. Yes, I pray and pray and pray. Yes and Yes and Yes..... After 15 years of marriage, there are alot of layers that have been damaged. Like a onion, Im trying to peel a layer off.......one day at a time. With my AH coming home from rehab next week, it h...	KimmyJo	6	1532	Jan 26, 2011 by Emi
	help staying stong (Preview) after 7 years and many attempts I finally made my AH leave. it was the hardest thing I've ever done. a week later he's going to AA and begging to talk and be better. after all the hurt and hate I don't want to go back, I don't care that NOW he wants to get better, that it took filing for divorce for him to reali...	terrysys	4	857	Jan 26, 2011 by Phoe
	The Brighter Side :) (Preview) Ya Know, Its Funny how just when you think Your Day Couldn't get any worse, you wake up and Realize it really isn't that bad...lol... I am So Grateful for a Program that Allows me to see such things, I remember when I was Younger and would have a Bad day over just about "Any" thing that didn't go &...	Jozie	1	734	Jan 26, 2011 by hotrod
	Am I enabling? (Preview) Hairline Fracture in Disk Degenerative Disk Disorder Herniated Disk (2) Knee Surgery (acl, mcl, meniscus and cartridge) Loose Bones Removed from elbow Those are the ailments that contributed to the need for pain medication in my husbands life. His job is not a light duty job. He operates heavy mac...	Sincerely	5	832	Jan 26, 2011 by Rhivenn
	My 19 year old daughter (Preview) Hello all I been sitting here for the last couple of hours trying to get myself to an alanon meeting but its not easy. I been dealing with this disease for the last 4 years with my daughter. She is now almost 20 years old and left our house again last night because we discovered she was stealing from us again...	hopeful332	5	1094	Jan 26, 2011 by Jerry F
	CHAIR NEEDED FOR TONIGHT'S MEETING! (Preview) I won't be able to chair tonight's meeting. Would someone please cover? Thank you so much! :)	casa	0	415	Jan 25, 2011 by casa
	believing the truth (Preview) The Voice of Truth tells me a different story...I love that song by Casting Crowns. I have listened to the lies of my AH for way too long. I am wavering today. I should not have read all the hateful messages telling me that I am an unfit mother and that I am a whore because for so long I have believed every litt...	kath	5	1090	Jan 25, 2011 by kath
	encouragement (Preview) Just started back up with college this semester. Did well last semester, two A's and a B in a really difficult class!! I am no longer taking our daughter to visit her father who is an A. The environment is bad for all of us. He has to get high all the time so when we are there he leaves but comes back smelling li...	kath	6	751	Jan 25, 2011 by kath
	Need Help with How to Maintain Detachment and Feel OK detachment son Steps 1-3 (Preview) Hi All I am thinking today about how to maintain detachment and move forward in dealing with my A son, age 27. It seems I can make progress in my Al Anon program, both F2F meetings, plus readings, working my steps, etc. but where the rubber meets the road it is still difficult. My goal is to achieve sereni...	Fiddleman	6	7040	Jan 24, 2011 by Jerry F
	I finally told him the truth. (Preview) My A has had a sponsor for the past year. His sponsor's wife was my sponsor. For many reasons I dropped that scenario and my sponsor a few months ago. He dropped his sponsor as we fought about him all the time. There were a few things the sponsor was advising him on that I would not accept. That was one i...	clep	1	830	Jan 24, 2011 by pinkchip
	self doubt (Preview) Prior to al anon if I met someone who was an alcoholic or addict I didn't make a decision regarding boundaries because I doubted my perceptions. I had no trust in my abilty to assess other people. I gave them the benefit of the doubt for years and years. This week a new woman started at my job. She lives c...	maresie	6	1003	Jan 24, 2011 by Rita G
	Went to my 1st f2f meeting Saturday (Preview) So I went to my first f2f meeting on Saturday. WOW, That was hard!!! I honestly didn't think it would be that hard. I think I started crying before the meeting even started. I calmed down some until the subject of detachment came up. That is a tough subject for me and something I am having trouble with. I k...	floridawife	3	548	Jan 24, 2011 by abbyal
	Miracle after miracle (Preview) I had my best friend call me. I was pretty down this morn. He told me I needed sleep. Ok I am always telling you guys to nap, I forgot to do it myself! so I did. Woke up feeling better. Guess what? I am putting my down payment on my cabin on Monday. I put my horse on CL. Not ten min. later I got an email. It was the sam...	Debilyn	15	1394	Jan 24, 2011 by Jennifer
	Celebrating my Triumphs and Progress (Preview) My AH arrived home very early on Thursday morning, and is leaving to return to his jobsite today. I had some issues during the weekend, including watching, in spite of myself, very closely how much he drank. But I didn't say anything. A few times I had the opportunity to make some very passive aggre...	stephaniej	2	705	Jan 24, 2011 by canadianguy
	my husband is an alcoholic and has become a rageaholic (Preview) has anyone out there experienced anything like this? the rage doesnt always seem to be brought on by anything particular but escalates to total anger over the smallest thing.	monarae	3	2315	Jan 24, 2011 by Nalina
	Having an AH increases my amxiety symptoms (Preview) I really don't know if I will be able to do this detachment thing. I am somewhat prone to anxiety. I need to keep check on it and use relaxation exercises, etc. When my AH isn't drinking and is paying attention to the family, I hardly need to do a thing to check my anxiety. This is a big thing, b /c my job is dif...	looking_for_peace	4	925	Jan 24, 2011 by Debilyn
	Another great f2f (Preview) I hope its ok to share how great the f2f meetings are here :) I mean I know you all kept telling me how great they are, but I kept putting it off and thought I could get by without them. Well they are just another great tool to put in my box, having a real meeting to get to, to be at and contribute to helps me so...	sunflowergirl	3	692	Jan 24, 2011 by Jerry F
	Saying Good-Bye (Preview) I finally, after giving ABF too many chances and repeatedly getting hurt and lied to and taken advantage of, basically cut him out of my life. For my sake and my daughter's. I've been working my program, focusing on me, etc. But at the same time I was still hanging onto the insane hope that he would hit bot...	jettiesgirl	9	1204	Jan 23, 2011 by jettiesgirl
	Attacked my serenity tonight... (Preview) My former sponsor would have either or both had a good laugh or/and then had a heart attack if he had witnessed me take the "Don't" away from the slogan "Don't React". I did and did it well...I had other choices but flew past that awareness in a mircosecond and then got myself good...	Jerry F	11	1063	Jan 23, 2011 by Fiddleman
	Need some advice about very serious situation (Preview) My brother is 35 and an alchoholic. He doesn't think he has a problem. He recently moved back home with my parents and my 2 sisters. He doesn't have a job nor a driver's license. Recently, he has started to become more agitated after being at the bar all night. He comes home late and barges into my si...	dhotch	11	1202	Jan 23, 2011 by xeno59
	Step daughter's drinking (Preview) I have a wonderful 4 year old grand daughter named Natalie. Not going to get into a lot of details here but Natalie's mother is actually one of my step daughter's. My step daughter has a very serious drinking problem, cannot hold a job. We have had legal custody of Natalie in the past and pretty much ra...	jereh	4	847	Jan 23, 2011 by xeno59
	Keep the focus on me. (Preview) It's really a whole new world when I'm living by myself. I don't get the volume of exterior drama that I had when I lived with the exAH. This is such a great opportunity, but at the same time, it's also a very tempting place for me to get complacent about working my program. Nothing's stressing me out with t...	Aloha	5	1511	Jan 23, 2011 by sunflowergirl
	Inspirational Words... (Preview) "When you look at plants in winter, most have neither flowers or leaves. The may seem to be not alive at all, but thats not true. They are waiting for the right time to bloom, they are waiting for the best time for them. In the same way you need to believe in your own inner strength and wisdom, utilize...	Bettina	6	2705	Jan 22, 2011 by Jerry F
	chats for support (Preview) are there any chats that are open now for alanon support. can not get out to a meeting right now. hoping to go next week.	wintergirl	1	574	Jan 22, 2011 by Christy
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