Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

danielle0516 · danielle0516

Hi everyone, just wanted to share something that I feel lends intself to the ODAT philosophy...which I think I'm doing better at embracing or practicing. Yesterday was one of the worst days I've had in a long time. Alarm clock didn't go off in the morning, I was exhausted as my dog was really sick the nig...

B_L · B_L

These boards are always full of horror stories and requests for advice on how to handle horrendous situations, but I thankfully don't have any horror stories to tell at the moment. My previously hopelessly drunk girlfriend got her 30-day coin and is doing well, working the program, attending meet...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

I got an urgent e-mail this afternoon from one of my wife's friends saying she needs to speak to me about something "urgent and important". This friend does not know my wife has a drinking problem or goes to AA. She said she couldn't live with herself if she didn't do something knowing the kid...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Well, I had a very difficult time finding the meeting place! It was raining, street was rather dark, tall trees all around blocking addresses. I fought back the thought that perhaps I wasn't meant to find the place. But I pressed onward knowing it was just fear. I finally found the place. A lady was...

canyonbarb · canyonbarb

Brief history: I stopped drinking almost 15 years ago and my husband stopped getting drunk 13 years ago. He continued to drink occasionally, one or two beers. Initially, I was scared each beer would reignite his addiction. I didn't understand it, but I let my guard down and began to trust him. I...

delhommefan · delhommefan

Okay one, WHY am I afraid to attend a meeting?? I keep saying I'm going to go. I know I need to go but I always chicken out! I am not antisocial at all and I really know this is something I need to do. Someone please tell me I'm not going to be like one of three people there...I freak out every time! And two, I'm...

xeno59 · xeno59

It saddens me tonight to tell you that I will be stepping down effective immediatly as a chair for the immediate future. The reasoning for this is not of importance to anyone but myself, HP and John. I will just say that upon much prayer and relection it has become clear to me that for now I may not be the bes...

Nutbar · Nutbar

Hi, my wife has been sober for one year which is good for her however I am still very lonely. I have been diagnosed with anxiety and am seeing a psychologist and this is helping. However, if I have an anxious moment and blame my wife for the slightest little thing she throws a tantrum at me and says I'm just t...

samsam · samsam

Hi everyone, I'm new to this space. I've been in recovery for my own addiction for 12 months and doing really well. Unfortunately my wife of 10 years has not coped well with my recovery. I believe she is a "dry" alcoholic, as she put down the single-malt whiskey four years ago and did not enter...

Niecy · Niecy

Long story short, ah of two years, in recovery working the steps. Other then aa and work, he's borderline non functional. I'm running ragged caring for our two young kids, our house, bills, and working myself. He only thinks of himself and when he returns from work, he eats, leaves a trail of mess and go...

Aynot · Aynot

I met my bf 15 years ago. We have a 14 year old child together that he just met for the first time in January this year. He was drunk when he drove 16 hours to our home in Alabama. I was disappointed in him because this was not him 15 years ago. He chose to meet our son for the 1st time and he was drunk. Alcohol has...

Ruby · Ruby

I'm having a difficult time with dealing with my Al/ad daughter and doing what I need to do to stop the enabling I'm doing. Her husband left her with thier 6 y.o. daughter last week, I've been keeping her 16 y.o. son for the past 6 months or more. He is on ss which is her only income since her husband left...

Tracy · Tracy

I shared how I thought Hp wanted me to let go of my sober ABF. Again me rushing into major decisions. Today we spoke he shared how i am on his back all the time attcking him. He is sober, he is attending lots of meeting and mixing with people in recovery. He is taking his time to correct his health he needs...

searching4peace · searching4peace

I am looking for some practical advice regarding finances. I have ran the budget and controled the finances in our family for the last 8 years. For some of that time I worked also but now I am a SAHM. My AH is an active alcoholic at this point in time. Now that you're all caught up here is my dilema. I don...

Lala03044 · Lala03044

Hello, I have not visited this forum in quite some time. I'm grateful it is still available. I don't dare tell anyone how I'm really feeling about my marriage right now, not even my sponsor. My sponsor is dealing with her own marriage to a recovering a. Hubby and I were married in 1990. Growing up...

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

Interesting, but something snapped inside me last week in a good way. I'm sure it's related to me working on myself, a little more than usual but I'm suddenly not feeling as down as I was. In fact I feel happy! Not that things have improved all that much at home, maybe not at all. But it's bothering me le...

nadjjaa · nadjjaa

Hi, my name is Dawn and I'm trying to decide if my husband is an alcoholic. I know - duh - I should probably go to a meeting, but I go back and forth deciding if its for me. Here's the background info, maybe some of you can help. My husband, Scott, has always loved his beer, but he never had a problem with it un...

Evian · Evian

I was working my program the night it all happened. Walking away from situations that I deemed uncalled for, which led to him having more anger. Police were called, blah blah blah, anyway, we have been told to separate, he is not to be around the kids. If he wants to see them, the worker (from Childrens Ai...

KimmyJo · KimmyJo

Just curious on this... Do they need a recovery program as bad as we do? Can they be normal happy people without following the steps & attending meetings? Do they all have the "Dry Drunk" syndrome if they are not working a program? My RAH, tells me his new job & new location is all he ne...

linbaba · linbaba

Over on the CODA Board we are starting a Book study and a step study, it's based on Melody Beatty Books, but truthfully the step study will be using (and I quote) "I am going to be using "The Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps" as my core resource in starting the step threads for this...

Stillalive2dream · Stillalive2dream

Ok I'm going to try to keep this short because if I described all the craziness that happened it would take me forever and trigger me and I wouldn't be in a good place bringing it all back up. My ex-abf broke up with me months ago which at the time I thought was the worst thing that ever happened to me because I...

Steph444 · Steph444

Well, I had such a good enlightening day yesterday, and I'm very thankful for it because today has been a true test. Husband got up this morning all hung over of course from his birthday celebration last night, and would not stop trying to fight with me. I hid in the bedroom for a while and when I came out...

pinkchip · pinkchip

By sheer coincidence, my alcoholic ex lives across the street from my current boyfriend. I started having minimal contact with him again after about 2 years of no contact. His life is still so out of control and turbulent. He has made friends will all the other neighbors around who drink and use dru...

Tracy · Tracy

I am having a break from my Sober ABF (7 months). As I have nmentioned I need to get off his back and focus on me. However I am missing him so much I really just want to ring him and sort it out. But he does not live his life how I want to, he is in early recovery and can not be a true partner we are both sick and nee...

Rora · Rora

As some of you may know my Mom has recently passed away. There is so much about that fact to deal with that it makes my head and tummy hurt. The rainbow of emotion is so colourful and psychodelic. As with many families under these circumstances, sometimes there are rifts about money and the wishes of t...

searching4peace · searching4peace

I went to the meeting with my AH's outpatient counsellor today. I have decided I don't want to be involved in his recovery. I am opting out of further sessions. He can continue attending on his own. I have done a lot of thinking and praying the last little while. And I have taken inventory of my actio...

Steph444 · Steph444

A few hours ago, I thought of posting here. Today is my husbands birthday, and, of course, he isn't home. I didn't expect him to be. I haven't heard from him all day. Most of the day I've been feeling down, remembering birthdays in the past....all that stuff. So, I logged onto the meeting here t...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

Well, last June I attended my first Al-Anon meeting. It was a speaker's meeting, so I didn't have to sweat having to say anything. After is was over, I quickly showed myself to the door. I'm going back tonight. I'm going to stick around this time 'cuz I feel the need. Let ya all know how it goes.

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

The topic at the meeting I went to tonight was maturity. Interesting, I never would have identified myself as immature before I started going to Al Anon. If anything, it was quite the opposite--I was extremely mature, thank you very much! But after learning a few key elements of the program I realized...

blender_girl · blender_girl

My son woke up with a sore throat, strep is going around, so we will be the first ones at the doctor's office this morning at 8AM CST. Hopefully someone can step in and run the meeting today. Thanks! bg

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Ohana (family) we are okay; actually just outside of the tidal wave zone and at a higher elevation than the people who got sea damage. My wife just let me know that one person on the other side (west) of the island lost a house to the ocean. Connected family in Japan is okay...in a different provie...

Crossroad · Crossroad

I have been down this road before. Lost my way. Now I am back looking for the strength to once again know that I can't fix it all. Believe me, I know that. But a recent blow caught me off guard and here I am close to panic mode.

blender_girl · blender_girl

It's been a very long time since I last posted - shame on me! I'm still here, though. Still chairing the Friday AM meetings unless something comes up. This is a vital link to my program, for which I am extremely grateful. I'm giving you fair warning - this will be long! So what's been going on with blen...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I feel very anxious today & I really don't know why? I am just feeling like life is passing me by sometimes & also feel like I need to reach out again. So, I get on MIP & tell it like it is. I have a very supportive husband & mother who are right there when I need them. Is that enough? sometime...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Sometimes it is really back to basics for me. Nothing more and nothing less. These little sayings can sometimes sound quite glib, but really, they are gems. When there are too many things to take on board and everything seems to be a bit too much I have to get down to PRACTICAL RESONSIBLE LIVING and sim...

Cloudsea · Cloudsea

Hi, all: This is the first time in many months I have posted a thread of my own. My H of 22 years is an 8 months' sober A. I go to f2f Al Anon meetings, although with my insanely busy work schedule and traveling, I probably only get to one a month. I come here several times a week. My issue is that I am starting...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, My partner been sober for nearly 7 months now, he was in rehab for 5 months and has been in supported living for nearly 2 months. I am getting on with my own life but I am finding that I am becoming really impatient. He has been told by hospitl he needs n op on his foot. He says this could take up...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I feel like I am making some bad decisions and feeling like a screw up. Yes I am a perfectionist and tend to be hard on myself, but I am also a wreck right now. At work yesterday my boss told me that I was having conversations with customers that were inappropriate and he was right, before I could own my actio...

heartlessxxnoise · heartlessxxnoise

I just turned 23 recently and found myself in the absolute worse place in my life. I've realized that drinking has taken over my entire life. I awake up and one of the first things I think about is what I am going to drink and when...just in order to feel alright. I never had a real drink until I was a sophomor...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, I read my books this morning and tried to hold my situation up to the serenity prayer. I rang my sober BF. I told him I was getting at him because my needs were not getting met. We chatted about for a while it was quite upsetting you see I love him but he is only 7 months sober and I have given my al...

Steph444 · Steph444

I went to two more alanon meetings last evening and I realize that I am not comfortable at any of them. I have always been a lone soul. I hate crowds and groups. I love what they have to offer, but is that the only option? Would a private counselor be as effective? I see the wisdom here, and I want more th...

Limey · Limey

I'm new to Al-Anon and I'm looking for some perspectives on controlling behaviour and enabling. Essentially I have had enough of my alcoholic partner's behaviour and I have ended the relationship because I can no longer tolerate being lied to, being stolen from and being on the receiving end of insu...

searching4peace · searching4peace

Does anybody have any experience with the 'harm reduction' model of alcohol addiction treatment? I had never heard of it before. I found out this week that it is the model used at the out patient treatment center my husband is attending. I am really concerned about this. Seems like they are setting h...

Overcome · Overcome

Wanted to make MIP members aware of something that happened at Friday morning's meeting. I suggested the topic of "creating chaos" as it is described in our ODAAT daily reader. Someone else mentioned the topic of Stop and Think (or something to that effect). A MIP member gave a &quo...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Today I was thinking about how several years ago, before I had any recovery, a counselor said, "Doing the same things over and over and expecting different results is INSANE." It occurred to me what a different meaning this statement has to me now. I've heard people say it often in meetin...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

When I hear about all that is going on in the world today, it makes me so grateful! I have a safe place to live(so far) & hope for the future. I haven't had to struggle w/ much as far as Mother Nature rocking my world really since 1996 when our area was flooded. It is kinda funny to tell the story now but the...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I wrote earlier this week about my AH being away at his parents for the week. I stated how much I enjoyed his absence. Well...he's coming back tomorrow and I don't want him to! My stomach is starting to act up and I think it is the stress of knowing he is returning. I was having a huge belly-laugh with my girl...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Been missing you all here, and deeply feel it. Truly in survival mode. Its the 6th night I've been up with my daughter who has a broken shoulder. Surgery to be determined, in the meantime it is vicodin and advil every 5 hrs or so. I was stingy at first, giving only one vicodin, but the pain was pretty muc...

swisfun1 · swisfun1

After some time I kicked my boyfriend out. He has been using ever day since and now is using drugs. I know he lies, his family tells me he is a great liar; but today the threats are bad. He says he owes a dealer money (it has gone from $100 to now $42) and I won't give him any. He has stolen so much. Now he say...

Steph444 · Steph444

Well, I sat down this morning and wrote out my exit strategy. Only is keeps me living here for way too long. 17 months to be exact. Hopefully I'll be able to shave a couple of months off that. I'll keep working on that. I went to bed last night and all was well. Got the text earlier in the evening saying m...

Gailey · Gailey

Following the earthquake in Japan, the U.S. State Department "strongly urges U.S. citizens to avoid tourism and non-essential travel to Japan" through April 1. I am suppose to be traveling to Japan on 3/25 to see my granddaughter, my son and his wife. My granddaughter will turn 1 year old...

Rora · Rora

I am struggling with FEAR. I think I always have, I am just learning more and more about it and it is at the forefront of my awareness now. Like many here, I have a history of being quite reactive. My reactiveness would be an emotional reaction to a situation that I am realizing now was almost always lin...

nmike · nmike

I was coming out of the gym and a woman stopped me. She knows me from attending AA meetings (no Alanon here-but I offer to hold a separate meeting). She said that she attend ed AA to support her boyfriend. They have since broken up and he continues to drink. She expressed her disappointment, she was hurt,...

lifegoezon21 · lifegoezon21

I don't know if anyone here can help me with some ideas but I figure it's worth a shot. My 26 yo brother has been struggling with alcoholism & drug addiction for almost 10 years now. He's spent time in jail,gone to mandated (aka crappy) rehabs, and been close to death twice. It breaks my heart to see hi...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

My AH went to be with his parents for the week. This is the first time we have been apart in ages. I am a teacher, and he was there all through summer vacation and Christmas Break (b/c he is unable to work due to his withdrawal from benzodiazipines). This week I am on March Break. When he decided to go to his pa...

BEACHCOL · BEACHCOL

I could go on forever but I will try and summarize, after liviing with an active AH for 20 years I filed for divorce after a crisis. After I filed, I came to realize I did it out of anger and hurt and withdrew the complaint. My AH has now turned me into the victim and is saying how I have hurt him for the past 20 ye...

Unenlightened · Unenlightened

Hi, I am 51 and have a group a friends who have been together since Junior High. Lately, we all gather twice a year for an extended weekend and play nickle poker, chat, play some dics golf, etc.... We have a Super Bowl weekend coming up at my place. We often drink wine while playing poker or with dinner, but...

member922 · member922

and leave the rest? I have learned a lot from this program and in therapy. I am using better judgment, I think. My question. I don't live with my Abf. I spend a fair amount of time with him, mostly at my place where I don't have to be around his habit and he is also not under the influence. He has started hel...

freeagain · freeagain

Jerry and Aloha and all the rest of our Hawaiian friends.....prayers on the way for all and Japan.

Debilyn · Debilyn

Is there anyone else from MIP in Hawaii? Jerry my son called and told me whats going on. You were the first person I thought of! I hope you and yours are ok! Please check in if only for a minute brother! You know I love you! Debbers....

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Horrible day - then Amazing day (Preview) Hi everyone, just wanted to share something that I feel lends intself to the ODAT philosophy...which I think I'm doing better at embracing or practicing. Yesterday was one of the worst days I've had in a long time. Alarm clock didn't go off in the morning, I was exhausted as my dog was really sick the nig...	danielle0516	5	911	Mar 19, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Doing Something Nice for Your Drunk (Preview) These boards are always full of horror stories and requests for advice on how to handle horrendous situations, but I thankfully don't have any horror stories to tell at the moment. My previously hopelessly drunk girlfriend got her 30-day coin and is doing well, working the program, attending meet...	B_L	26	1408	Mar 19, 2011 by flopadopilus
	My wife's friend has contacted me--said she needs to talk to me about something (Preview) I got an urgent e-mail this afternoon from one of my wife's friends saying she needs to speak to me about something "urgent and important". This friend does not know my wife has a drinking problem or goes to AA. She said she couldn't live with herself if she didn't do something knowing the kid...	usedtobeanyer	10	1559	Mar 19, 2011 by White Rabbit
	Update: My 1st Friday Night Meeting (Preview) Well, I had a very difficult time finding the meeting place! It was raining, street was rather dark, tall trees all around blocking addresses. I fought back the thought that perhaps I wasn't meant to find the place. But I pressed onward knowing it was just fear. I finally found the place. A lady was...	GailMichelle	3	823	Mar 19, 2011 by Jerry F
	Confirmed husband has been hiding drinking for months.... (Preview) Brief history: I stopped drinking almost 15 years ago and my husband stopped getting drunk 13 years ago. He continued to drink occasionally, one or two beers. Initially, I was scared each beer would reignite his addiction. I didn't understand it, but I let my guard down and began to trust him. I...	canyonbarb	5	3646	Mar 19, 2011 by canyonbarb
	Haven't Been On For A While... (Preview) Okay one, WHY am I afraid to attend a meeting?? I keep saying I'm going to go. I know I need to go but I always chicken out! I am not antisocial at all and I really know this is something I need to do. Someone please tell me I'm not going to be like one of three people there...I freak out every time! And two, I'm...	delhommefan	5	883	Mar 18, 2011 by RLC
	Sadly Stepping Down as Meeting Chair for the Immediate Future (Preview) It saddens me tonight to tell you that I will be stepping down effective immediatly as a chair for the immediate future. The reasoning for this is not of importance to anyone but myself, HP and John. I will just say that upon much prayer and relection it has become clear to me that for now I may not be the bes...	xeno59	5	867	Mar 18, 2011 by wp
	At my wits end, please help...... (Preview) Hi, my wife has been sober for one year which is good for her however I am still very lonely. I have been diagnosed with anxiety and am seeing a psychologist and this is helping. However, if I have an anxious moment and blame my wife for the slightest little thing she throws a tantrum at me and says I'm just t...	Nutbar	14	1108	Mar 18, 2011 by Nutbar
	My story (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to this space. I've been in recovery for my own addiction for 12 months and doing really well. Unfortunately my wife of 10 years has not coped well with my recovery. I believe she is a "dry" alcoholic, as she put down the single-malt whiskey four years ago and did not enter...	samsam	8	876	Mar 18, 2011 by samsam
	going crazy with anxiety (Preview) Long story short, ah of two years, in recovery working the steps. Other then aa and work, he's borderline non functional. I'm running ragged caring for our two young kids, our house, bills, and working myself. He only thinks of himself and when he returns from work, he eats, leaves a trail of mess and go...	Niecy	11	3138	Mar 18, 2011 by Nutbar
	Its a mess. I feel lost. (Preview) I met my bf 15 years ago. We have a 14 year old child together that he just met for the first time in January this year. He was drunk when he drove 16 hours to our home in Alabama. I was disappointed in him because this was not him 15 years ago. He chose to meet our son for the 1st time and he was drunk. Alcohol has...	Aynot	3	1051	Mar 18, 2011 by hotrod
	Need courage to take action (Preview) I'm having a difficult time with dealing with my Al/ad daughter and doing what I need to do to stop the enabling I'm doing. Her husband left her with thier 6 y.o. daughter last week, I've been keeping her 16 y.o. son for the past 6 months or more. He is on ss which is her only income since her husband left...	Ruby	7	958	Mar 18, 2011 by RLC
	My sickness. (Preview) I shared how I thought Hp wanted me to let go of my sober ABF. Again me rushing into major decisions. Today we spoke he shared how i am on his back all the time attcking him. He is sober, he is attending lots of meeting and mixing with people in recovery. He is taking his time to correct his health he needs...	Tracy	4	779	Mar 18, 2011 by Debilyn
	Practical advice regarding finances (Preview) I am looking for some practical advice regarding finances. I have ran the budget and controled the finances in our family for the last 8 years. For some of that time I worked also but now I am a SAHM. My AH is an active alcoholic at this point in time. Now that you're all caught up here is my dilema. I don...	searching4peace	8	932	Mar 18, 2011 by pinkchip
	Confused About Dry Drunk and my Marriage (Preview) Hello, I have not visited this forum in quite some time. I'm grateful it is still available. I don't dare tell anyone how I'm really feeling about my marriage right now, not even my sponsor. My sponsor is dealing with her own marriage to a recovering a. Hubby and I were married in 1990. Growing up...	Lala03044	9	7265	Mar 17, 2011 by Lala03044
	strangely serene.....and grateful. (Preview) Interesting, but something snapped inside me last week in a good way. I'm sure it's related to me working on myself, a little more than usual but I'm suddenly not feeling as down as I was. In fact I feel happy! Not that things have improved all that much at home, maybe not at all. But it's bothering me le...	mjhyankees	5	647	Mar 17, 2011 by Lala03044
	New - my story. Help and advice please! (Preview) Hi, my name is Dawn and I'm trying to decide if my husband is an alcoholic. I know - duh - I should probably go to a meeting, but I go back and forth deciding if its for me. Here's the background info, maybe some of you can help. My husband, Scott, has always loved his beer, but he never had a problem with it un...	nadjjaa	15	954	Mar 17, 2011 by nadjjaa
	I was doing so well.. and know it's all for the best (Preview) I was working my program the night it all happened. Walking away from situations that I deemed uncalled for, which led to him having more anger. Police were called, blah blah blah, anyway, we have been told to separate, he is not to be around the kids. If he wants to see them, the worker (from Childrens Ai...	Evian	7	846	Mar 17, 2011 by buick23
	Do they need a RECOVERY PROGRAM as bad as we do??? (Preview) Just curious on this... Do they need a recovery program as bad as we do? Can they be normal happy people without following the steps & attending meetings? Do they all have the "Dry Drunk" syndrome if they are not working a program? My RAH, tells me his new job & new location is all he ne...	KimmyJo	10	937	Mar 17, 2011 by danielle0516
	Book and Step Study (Preview) Over on the CODA Board we are starting a Book study and a step study, it's based on Melody Beatty Books, but truthfully the step study will be using (and I quote) "I am going to be using "The Codependent's Guide to the Twelve Steps" as my core resource in starting the step threads for this...	linbaba	0	2974	Mar 16, 2011 by linbaba
	Ex-abf Weird MindGames, Powerplays, and Emotional Rollercoaster rides (Preview) Ok I'm going to try to keep this short because if I described all the craziness that happened it would take me forever and trigger me and I wouldn't be in a good place bringing it all back up. My ex-abf broke up with me months ago which at the time I thought was the worst thing that ever happened to me because I...	Stillalive2dream	5	3061	Mar 16, 2011 by pinkchip
	What a Difference A Day Makes (Preview) Well, I had such a good enlightening day yesterday, and I'm very thankful for it because today has been a true test. Husband got up this morning all hung over of course from his birthday celebration last night, and would not stop trying to fight with me. I hid in the bedroom for a while and when I came out...	Steph444	3	684	Mar 16, 2011 by pinkchip
	HP wants me to be reminded of what it was like (Preview) By sheer coincidence, my alcoholic ex lives across the street from my current boyfriend. I started having minimal contact with him again after about 2 years of no contact. His life is still so out of control and turbulent. He has made friends will all the other neighbors around who drink and use dru...	pinkchip	8	793	Mar 16, 2011 by danielle0516
	faith (Preview) I am having a break from my Sober ABF (7 months). As I have nmentioned I need to get off his back and focus on me. However I am missing him so much I really just want to ring him and sort it out. But he does not live his life how I want to, he is in early recovery and can not be a true partner we are both sick and nee...	Tracy	2	681	Mar 16, 2011 by kitty
	I had to bring it here.... Off Topic.... a bit long.... (Preview) As some of you may know my Mom has recently passed away. There is so much about that fact to deal with that it makes my head and tummy hurt. The rainbow of emotion is so colourful and psychodelic. As with many families under these circumstances, sometimes there are rifts about money and the wishes of t...	Rora	8	761	Mar 16, 2011 by xeno59
	Opting out. (Preview) I went to the meeting with my AH's outpatient counsellor today. I have decided I don't want to be involved in his recovery. I am opting out of further sessions. He can continue attending on his own. I have done a lot of thinking and praying the last little while. And I have taken inventory of my actio...	searching4peace	8	1120	Mar 16, 2011 by kitty
	What a Day (Preview) A few hours ago, I thought of posting here. Today is my husbands birthday, and, of course, he isn't home. I didn't expect him to be. I haven't heard from him all day. Most of the day I've been feeling down, remembering birthdays in the past....all that stuff. So, I logged onto the meeting here t...	Steph444	6	879	Mar 16, 2011 by Bettina
	I'm Gonna Do It! (Preview) Well, last June I attended my first Al-Anon meeting. It was a speaker's meeting, so I didn't have to sweat having to say anything. After is was over, I quickly showed myself to the door. I'm going back tonight. I'm going to stick around this time 'cuz I feel the need. Let ya all know how it goes.	GailMichelle	9	886	Mar 16, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Maturity (Preview) The topic at the meeting I went to tonight was maturity. Interesting, I never would have identified myself as immature before I started going to Al Anon. If anything, it was quite the opposite--I was extremely mature, thank you very much! But after learning a few key elements of the program I realized...	usedtobeanyer	3	883	Mar 16, 2011 by xeno59
	Sorry for the late notice, but I need someone to chair this morning's meeting!!! (Preview) My son woke up with a sore throat, strep is going around, so we will be the first ones at the doctor's office this morning at 8AM CST. Hopefully someone can step in and run the meeting today. Thanks! bg	blender_girl	1	1542	Mar 16, 2011 by xeno59
	MIP = Love (Preview) Aloha Ohana (family) we are okay; actually just outside of the tidal wave zone and at a higher elevation than the people who got sea damage. My wife just let me know that one person on the other side (west) of the island lost a house to the ocean. Connected family in Japan is okay...in a different provie...	Jerry F	19	1220	Mar 16, 2011 by xeno59
	Hanging by a thread (Preview) I have been down this road before. Lost my way. Now I am back looking for the strength to once again know that I can't fix it all. Believe me, I know that. But a recent blow caught me off guard and here I am close to panic mode.	Crossroad	7	1146	Mar 15, 2011 by Crossroad
	The Power of Conscious Decisions (Preview) It's been a very long time since I last posted - shame on me! I'm still here, though. Still chairing the Friday AM meetings unless something comes up. This is a vital link to my program, for which I am extremely grateful. I'm giving you fair warning - this will be long! So what's been going on with blen...	blender_girl	7	897	Mar 15, 2011 by likemyheart
	more anxiety! (Preview) I feel very anxious today & I really don't know why? I am just feeling like life is passing me by sometimes & also feel like I need to reach out again. So, I get on MIP & tell it like it is. I have a very supportive husband & mother who are right there when I need them. Is that enough? sometime...	Hoot Nanny	4	703	Mar 15, 2011 by Hoot Nanny
	A moment of gratitude makes a difference in your attitude (Preview) Sometimes it is really back to basics for me. Nothing more and nothing less. These little sayings can sometimes sound quite glib, but really, they are gems. When there are too many things to take on board and everything seems to be a bit too much I have to get down to PRACTICAL RESONSIBLE LIVING and sim...	Suzannah	2	1470	Mar 15, 2011 by Debilyn
	Anniversaries (Preview) Hi, all: This is the first time in many months I have posted a thread of my own. My H of 22 years is an 8 months' sober A. I go to f2f Al Anon meetings, although with my insanely busy work schedule and traveling, I probably only get to one a month. I come here several times a week. My issue is that I am starting...	Cloudsea	9	670	Mar 15, 2011 by Cloudsea
	Acceptance (Preview) Hi everyone, My partner been sober for nearly 7 months now, he was in rehab for 5 months and has been in supported living for nearly 2 months. I am getting on with my own life but I am finding that I am becoming really impatient. He has been told by hospitl he needs n op on his foot. He says this could take up...	Tracy	5	479	Mar 15, 2011 by kitty
	Messing up (Preview) I feel like I am making some bad decisions and feeling like a screw up. Yes I am a perfectionist and tend to be hard on myself, but I am also a wreck right now. At work yesterday my boss told me that I was having conversations with customers that were inappropriate and he was right, before I could own my actio...	flopadopilus	6	1008	Mar 15, 2011 by flopadopilus
	I'm new (Preview) I just turned 23 recently and found myself in the absolute worse place in my life. I've realized that drinking has taken over my entire life. I awake up and one of the first things I think about is what I am going to drink and when...just in order to feel alright. I never had a real drink until I was a sophomor...	heartlessxxnoise	9	878	Mar 15, 2011 by kitty
	space. (Preview) Hi everyone, I read my books this morning and tried to hold my situation up to the serenity prayer. I rang my sober BF. I told him I was getting at him because my needs were not getting met. We chatted about for a while it was quite upsetting you see I love him but he is only 7 months sober and I have given my al...	Tracy	4	801	Mar 15, 2011 by pinkchip
	Without alanon (Preview) I went to two more alanon meetings last evening and I realize that I am not comfortable at any of them. I have always been a lone soul. I hate crowds and groups. I love what they have to offer, but is that the only option? Would a private counselor be as effective? I see the wisdom here, and I want more th...	Steph444	15	1651	Mar 14, 2011 by Steph444
	Controlling Behaviour and enabling (Preview) I'm new to Al-Anon and I'm looking for some perspectives on controlling behaviour and enabling. Essentially I have had enough of my alcoholic partner's behaviour and I have ended the relationship because I can no longer tolerate being lied to, being stolen from and being on the receiving end of insu...	Limey	4	1459	Mar 14, 2011 by pinkchip
	Harm Reduction? (Preview) Does anybody have any experience with the 'harm reduction' model of alcohol addiction treatment? I had never heard of it before. I found out this week that it is the model used at the out patient treatment center my husband is attending. I am really concerned about this. Seems like they are setting h...	searching4peace	7	1222	Mar 14, 2011 by pinkchip
	"The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved" (closed) (Preview) Wanted to make MIP members aware of something that happened at Friday morning's meeting. I suggested the topic of "creating chaos" as it is described in our ODAAT daily reader. Someone else mentioned the topic of Stop and Think (or something to that effect). A MIP member gave a &quo...	Overcome	3	890	Mar 14, 2011 by hotrod
	Doing the same thing over and over (Preview) Today I was thinking about how several years ago, before I had any recovery, a counselor said, "Doing the same things over and over and expecting different results is INSANE." It occurred to me what a different meaning this statement has to me now. I've heard people say it often in meetin...	White Rabbit	5	783	Mar 13, 2011 by flopadopilus
	boy I sure am grateful! (Preview) When I hear about all that is going on in the world today, it makes me so grateful! I have a safe place to live(so far) & hope for the future. I haven't had to struggle w/ much as far as Mother Nature rocking my world really since 1996 when our area was flooded. It is kinda funny to tell the story now but the...	Hoot Nanny	4	744	Mar 13, 2011 by Lala03044
	hubby returning tomorrow...ugh (Preview) I wrote earlier this week about my AH being away at his parents for the week. I stated how much I enjoyed his absence. Well...he's coming back tomorrow and I don't want him to! My stomach is starting to act up and I think it is the stress of knowing he is returning. I was having a huge belly-laugh with my girl...	looking_for_peace	3	904	Mar 12, 2011 by Jerry F
	survival mode and round 2 (Preview) Been missing you all here, and deeply feel it. Truly in survival mode. Its the 6th night I've been up with my daughter who has a broken shoulder. Surgery to be determined, in the meantime it is vicodin and advil every 5 hrs or so. I was stingy at first, giving only one vicodin, but the pain was pretty muc...	Loupiness	5	757	Mar 12, 2011 by nmike
	Do they ever stop with threats? (Preview) After some time I kicked my boyfriend out. He has been using ever day since and now is using drugs. I know he lies, his family tells me he is a great liar; but today the threats are bad. He says he owes a dealer money (it has gone from $100 to now $42) and I won't give him any. He has stolen so much. Now he say...	swisfun1	7	1002	Mar 12, 2011 by Debilyn
	Exit plan and 2am events (Preview) Well, I sat down this morning and wrote out my exit strategy. Only is keeps me living here for way too long. 17 months to be exact. Hopefully I'll be able to shave a couple of months off that. I'll keep working on that. I went to bed last night and all was well. Got the text earlier in the evening saying m...	Steph444	3	787	Mar 12, 2011 by pinkchip
	I cannot believe this is happening (Preview) *Following the earthquake in Japan, the U.S. State Department "strongly urges U.S. citizens to avoid tourism and non-essential travel to Japan" through April 1*. I am suppose to be traveling to Japan on 3/25 to see my granddaughter, my son and his wife. My granddaughter will turn 1 year old...	Gailey	4	807	Mar 12, 2011 by Christy
	the "F" word..... FEAR.... (Preview) I am struggling with FEAR. I think I always have, I am just learning more and more about it and it is at the forefront of my awareness now. Like many here, I have a history of being quite reactive. My reactiveness would be an emotional reaction to a situation that I am realizing now was almost always lin...	Rora	8	805	Mar 12, 2011 by Lala03044
	A Gift (Preview) I was coming out of the gym and a woman stopped me. She knows me from attending AA meetings (no Alanon here-but I offer to hold a separate meeting). She said that she attend ed AA to support her boyfriend. They have since broken up and he continues to drink. She expressed her disappointment, she was hurt,...	nmike	4	806	Mar 12, 2011 by Karilynn
	Rehab (Preview) I don't know if anyone here can help me with some ideas but I figure it's worth a shot. My 26 yo brother has been struggling with alcoholism & drug addiction for almost 10 years now. He's spent time in jail,gone to mandated (aka crappy) rehabs, and been close to death twice. It breaks my heart to see hi...	lifegoezon21	4	1209	Mar 11, 2011 by supermom
	Loving his absence...but feel guilty about it (Preview) My AH went to be with his parents for the week. This is the first time we have been apart in ages. I am a teacher, and he was there all through summer vacation and Christmas Break (b/c he is unable to work due to his withdrawal from benzodiazipines). This week I am on March Break. When he decided to go to his pa...	looking_for_peace	7	740	Mar 11, 2011 by supermom
	INSANITY at it's best (Preview) I could go on forever but I will try and summarize, after liviing with an active AH for 20 years I filed for divorce after a crisis. After I filed, I came to realize I did it out of anger and hurt and withdrew the complaint. My AH has now turned me into the victim and is saying how I have hurt him for the past 20 ye...	BEACHCOL	3	776	Mar 11, 2011 by Rora
	Newbie in need of advice. (Preview) Hi, I am 51 and have a group a friends who have been together since Junior High. Lately, we all gather twice a year for an extended weekend and play nickle poker, chat, play some dics golf, etc.... We have a Super Bowl weekend coming up at my place. We often drink wine while playing poker or with dinner, but...	Unenlightened	5	860	Mar 11, 2011 by Unenlightened
	Is it always alright to take what you like... (Preview) and leave the rest? I have learned a lot from this program and in therapy. I am using better judgment, I think. My question. I don't live with my Abf. I spend a fair amount of time with him, mostly at my place where I don't have to be around his habit and he is also not under the influence. He has started hel...	member922	7	859	Mar 11, 2011 by Jerry F
	Stay Dry Hawaii (Preview) Jerry and Aloha and all the rest of our Hawaiian friends.....prayers on the way for all and Japan.	freeagain	1	852	Mar 11, 2011 by Jerry F
	JERRY CHECK IN PLEASE!! (Preview) Is there anyone else from MIP in Hawaii? Jerry my son called and told me whats going on. You were the first person I thought of! I hope you and yours are ok! Please check in if only for a minute brother! You know I love you! Debbers....	Debilyn	4	849	Mar 11, 2011 by Suzannah
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