Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Steph444 · Steph444

I went to two more alanon meetings last evening and I realize that I am not comfortable at any of them. I have always been a lone soul. I hate crowds and groups. I love what they have to offer, but is that the only option? Would a private counselor be as effective? I see the wisdom here, and I want more th...

Limey · Limey

I'm new to Al-Anon and I'm looking for some perspectives on controlling behaviour and enabling. Essentially I have had enough of my alcoholic partner's behaviour and I have ended the relationship because I can no longer tolerate being lied to, being stolen from and being on the receiving end of insu...

searching4peace · searching4peace

Does anybody have any experience with the 'harm reduction' model of alcohol addiction treatment? I had never heard of it before. I found out this week that it is the model used at the out patient treatment center my husband is attending. I am really concerned about this. Seems like they are setting h...

Overcome · Overcome

Wanted to make MIP members aware of something that happened at Friday morning's meeting. I suggested the topic of "creating chaos" as it is described in our ODAAT daily reader. Someone else mentioned the topic of Stop and Think (or something to that effect). A MIP member gave a &quo...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Today I was thinking about how several years ago, before I had any recovery, a counselor said, "Doing the same things over and over and expecting different results is INSANE." It occurred to me what a different meaning this statement has to me now. I've heard people say it often in meetin...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

When I hear about all that is going on in the world today, it makes me so grateful! I have a safe place to live(so far) & hope for the future. I haven't had to struggle w/ much as far as Mother Nature rocking my world really since 1996 when our area was flooded. It is kinda funny to tell the story now but the...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

I wrote earlier this week about my AH being away at his parents for the week. I stated how much I enjoyed his absence. Well...he's coming back tomorrow and I don't want him to! My stomach is starting to act up and I think it is the stress of knowing he is returning. I was having a huge belly-laugh with my girl...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Been missing you all here, and deeply feel it. Truly in survival mode. Its the 6th night I've been up with my daughter who has a broken shoulder. Surgery to be determined, in the meantime it is vicodin and advil every 5 hrs or so. I was stingy at first, giving only one vicodin, but the pain was pretty muc...

swisfun1 · swisfun1

After some time I kicked my boyfriend out. He has been using ever day since and now is using drugs. I know he lies, his family tells me he is a great liar; but today the threats are bad. He says he owes a dealer money (it has gone from $100 to now $42) and I won't give him any. He has stolen so much. Now he say...

Steph444 · Steph444

Well, I sat down this morning and wrote out my exit strategy. Only is keeps me living here for way too long. 17 months to be exact. Hopefully I'll be able to shave a couple of months off that. I'll keep working on that. I went to bed last night and all was well. Got the text earlier in the evening saying m...

Gailey · Gailey

Following the earthquake in Japan, the U.S. State Department "strongly urges U.S. citizens to avoid tourism and non-essential travel to Japan" through April 1. I am suppose to be traveling to Japan on 3/25 to see my granddaughter, my son and his wife. My granddaughter will turn 1 year old...

Rora · Rora

I am struggling with FEAR. I think I always have, I am just learning more and more about it and it is at the forefront of my awareness now. Like many here, I have a history of being quite reactive. My reactiveness would be an emotional reaction to a situation that I am realizing now was almost always lin...

nmike · nmike

I was coming out of the gym and a woman stopped me. She knows me from attending AA meetings (no Alanon here-but I offer to hold a separate meeting). She said that she attend ed AA to support her boyfriend. They have since broken up and he continues to drink. She expressed her disappointment, she was hurt,...

lifegoezon21 · lifegoezon21

I don't know if anyone here can help me with some ideas but I figure it's worth a shot. My 26 yo brother has been struggling with alcoholism & drug addiction for almost 10 years now. He's spent time in jail,gone to mandated (aka crappy) rehabs, and been close to death twice. It breaks my heart to see hi...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

My AH went to be with his parents for the week. This is the first time we have been apart in ages. I am a teacher, and he was there all through summer vacation and Christmas Break (b/c he is unable to work due to his withdrawal from benzodiazipines). This week I am on March Break. When he decided to go to his pa...

BEACHCOL · BEACHCOL

I could go on forever but I will try and summarize, after liviing with an active AH for 20 years I filed for divorce after a crisis. After I filed, I came to realize I did it out of anger and hurt and withdrew the complaint. My AH has now turned me into the victim and is saying how I have hurt him for the past 20 ye...

Unenlightened · Unenlightened

Hi, I am 51 and have a group a friends who have been together since Junior High. Lately, we all gather twice a year for an extended weekend and play nickle poker, chat, play some dics golf, etc.... We have a Super Bowl weekend coming up at my place. We often drink wine while playing poker or with dinner, but...

member922 · member922

and leave the rest? I have learned a lot from this program and in therapy. I am using better judgment, I think. My question. I don't live with my Abf. I spend a fair amount of time with him, mostly at my place where I don't have to be around his habit and he is also not under the influence. He has started hel...

freeagain · freeagain

Jerry and Aloha and all the rest of our Hawaiian friends.....prayers on the way for all and Japan.

Debilyn · Debilyn

Is there anyone else from MIP in Hawaii? Jerry my son called and told me whats going on. You were the first person I thought of! I hope you and yours are ok! Please check in if only for a minute brother! You know I love you! Debbers....

Gailey · Gailey

Hope you are in a safe place. Praying for all in Hawaii now. Tsunami to hit 9:00 EST

livin4him · livin4him

Hi all! I am new to this forum but have been reading for a few days. Hubby is in rehab and have to say it is a relief. We've been together 20 years and have a wonderful life so I don't really understand why he puts it all in jeopardy to use. Anyway, just reading it looks like there is not much hope for relatio...

RoseODAT · RoseODAT

Well I have not attended a F2F meeting in quite a while. Hardly have time. My best friend calls me an "optimist" considering it all....but I'm not sure for now. She's definitley not program, and I need program and this is the best I can do for now so bear with me please. Schools taken up quite a b...

knowmadic · knowmadic

So AH and I have been separated for almost 2 months now. He is living back at home with his mom. He is still drinking and smoking weed. I have been doing my program and have learned so many new tools and skills. We agreed to try to "work on ourselves" and being together. I realized the 2 do n...

Honeypie · Honeypie

Just wondering....how do you handle the naysayers in your life? The people on the outside, the ones who think they are helpful but make comments that are hurtful? I have a friend who thinks I am dumb for hoping A bf sticks to his AA program. Thinks I should just cut ties and run. I am hopeful and encouraged...

searching4peace · searching4peace

I am noticing a bit of a trend around my house lately. A lack of respect. No repsect for others. No respect for things. No respect for self. And it seems to be universally affecting all who live here. I don't think it's new. I think it's been here for quite some time. I just never really had a name for...

Very Very Tired · Very Very Tired

Last night, a few things our preteen DD and DS said are weighing heavily on me. As I went into our DS's room to say good-night, he said: DS: "I asked Dad when we could take a trip to Grandma's." (MIL lives about 1000 miles away and we haven't been to their house in 4-5 years--though they come to v...

kkth63 · kkth63

I know this is going to sound really naive of me. I'm not sure if my boyfriend who I have been living with for 4 years is considered an alcoholic or not. I would say he is, but just need to get some help deciding what to do. He is self employed and keeps alcohol in his fridge at work. He has lots of friends who s...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi All... Sorry I have been Gone for a Bit, things here are their Usual Insanity only this time of year it dont have to do the Many A's in my life... Just the Usual, Work Slow, Tax Season :( (Should say Uncle Sam Pay out) ... Soccer, Spring Cleanin... You name it its on my "To Do List".... I'm sitti...

Evian · Evian

So, today was like any other day. AH started drinking around 11 am. No issues all day until kids came home from school. I was spending some time with one of the boys, and AH starts saying how I show the kids too much affection, and they dont have to have so much attention. It went from there to other things, a...

DadtoCandE · DadtoCandE

Sadly my wife plummeted into a relapse last week. She was making life threatening decisions during the binge. I had been contemplating divorce but held off for a while. I'm not sure how "normal" it is, but this was the worst episode yet. Driving, drinking cleaning solution in an at...

Jennifer · Jennifer

My big old ego was having fun with me pushing this idea that I needed to forgive something I was not quite grasping yet. It must be in my nature to look externally when I starthaving those thoughts of there is something you need to do and it has to do with this topic. But as I was meditating on what exactly was...

hazeleyed · hazeleyed

I recently was told by our couples therapist that I needed to read a book called It Will Never Happen to me by claudia black. I could totally relate to this book and realized I am truly an ACA. I started attending ACA meetings a week prior to new years 2011. I've been with the same man for 2.5 years and I NOW r...

Evian · Evian

so, I just found out that AH will be in the hospital for a few days. He's meeting with the crisis team, then talking to a psychatrist. Its so peaceful here without all that! I don't think I want him back here... I'm not some cold hearted b@%$^ that doesn't care about his well being, I still care.. I just don...

Stillalive2dream · Stillalive2dream

My exabf broke up with me several months ago. Our relationship was so dysfunctional. We were together for years. Anytime he wouldn't get his way he would break-up with me. Well the week before he broke-up with me he was texting me that he loved me and was glad I was in his life. Then the next week he broke-u...

Honeypie · Honeypie

Just a quick update. I am still finding I have to make a conscious effort every day to keep turning A bf over to HP. I have to remind myself not to obsess over his detox and his progress with his own sobriety. I am trying to remain supportive, but not ask him if he went to a meeting or had a drink or is struggling...

sean126 · sean126

Hi my name is Sean and I live in Ireland. I have been living with my partner for 16 years, he is a recovering alchohilic, I came from a previous alchoholic relationship. Although my partner does not currently drink, he has had other addictions (spending, debting) which have dramatically affected my l...

likemyheart · likemyheart

My AH is extremely jealous of any male person I have any contact with - i find myself justifying the need to talk with whomever it is (and getting angrier about having to justify my right to talk to whomever i please as time goes by) so I'm wondering, does intense jealousy go in hand with the alcohol abuse o...

searching4peace · searching4peace

I got into a huge argument with my Dad on the phone this morning. Yelling and interupting each other. It wasn't full of profanity or anything like that. But certainly it was ridiculous. I realized about 20 minutes into it that I had completely missed the mark. D'oh! Old habits are hard to break. I...

seb308 · seb308

Im new to Al-Anon even though the A in my life is now sober. I wish I would have gotten help when he was actively drinking, but at the time I didnt feel worthy of help because he is just my boyfriend, and felt like it was easy for me to leave as opposed to ones who are married to an A, or has a parent who is. I kind of...

grammie · grammie

Hello MIP family, I will be unable to chair the 9pm meeting tonight, 3/7/11 I am sorry to have waited so long to ask for help, I'm not feeling well and would really feel better knowing someone will chair tonight. Many thanks in advance to who ever steps up to do service, Bless you..hope you have a wonderfu...

oscarmom · oscarmom

One too many" when we were married, just you and me life was so happy, fun and carefree we were just 2, but soon I would see that little by little 2 became 3 the third was the booze, starting off slow and over the years began to grow poured out the bottles when you were drinking and then wondered wha...

RachelW · RachelW

1. I signed up to chair a meeting in April. What exactly do I do? Is it just reading through the preamble and such, or do I need to prepare anything? 2. Where can I buy the ODAT, Courage to Change, or AA "Big Book" books? I see them on Amazon but I'd like to support local Al-Anon meetings through my...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

I had to have a conversation with my MIL last week and even though I am divorcing her son, I still have to pick up my 2 year old from her 1 day a week. She lied to me about something little and I knew it right away, I can't figure out why and never will. She has undermined me with my husband and kids for years an...

searching4peace · searching4peace

We made a spur of the moment quick trip home for the weekend. My father in law is not doing well and I really wanted a chance to see him, and for our kids to see him, one more time. He is an alcoholic. He has been drinking heavily for over 35 years. And he is going down hill quickly. His kidneys are shuttin...

Evian · Evian

he's getting worried... or so he says. I have been going to my counselling sessions, going to my Al-Anon meetings... working on me. I cut and coloured my hair, just got a new job (ok, it may only be at McDonald's, but it's a job... I can't be picky), and just in general... feeling good, and feeling happy, d...

Loubelou · Loubelou

Hi everyone, I went to my first Al Anon meeting on Thursday night, and I'm so glad I did. I feel a bit all over the place. I even feel I don't really have the right to be at Al Anon or on these boards, as it's only my boyfriend and we haven't been together that long - just under a year. I'm not sure of the rules here...

Honeypie · Honeypie

After a long debate with myself, I went to see my A bf after work today. I miss the person, not the alcohol. I knew it would be hard to see him, that he would try to manipulate me to accept his drinking, but I decided to visit him hoping I would catch him in a sober state. A bf was fairly sober saying he missed me a...

jackgeo · jackgeo

what exactly is co-dependency?

searching4peace · searching4peace

Made it to my F2F tonight. First one in three years. And it was really hard to walk in there. Why? I don't know. I'm going to have to do some searching and see what it was that upset me so much. I walked in and before I could even hear what was being said I was in tears. Maybe some of it was relief. Just to...

Honeypie · Honeypie

Well, I am very proud of myself. I stuck to my boundaries all weekend and did not give in to the numerous phone calls and text messages I received from A bf throughout the weekend. I kept myself busy focusing on things I wanted to do and I actually did them. No compromise, no putting them on hold. Just me for...

flopadopilus · flopadopilus

For the first time in my life I am feeling renewed. I found Al-Anon around the beginning of the year and at that time my life was completly upside down! I had been seperated from my husband since April and I was so tired of his drinking I could not focus. Today I am waiting the 120 days until our divorce will...

Honeypie · Honeypie

Forgive me if this is long. I have been struggling the last few days. Yesterday was an eye-opener for me. I took 2 steps forward, one big step back and today feel like I just made a huge step forward. I talked to A bf's friend who is an active member in recovery in AA. I told her what has been happening with A bf...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

So...my AH hasn't been to work in a month. He was on sick leave from June to November. Went back to work in December and January...and here we are again. He is still undergoing withdrawal from clonazepam (prescription). He can not get a doctor to help him any more. His own doctor told him not to come back....

RLC · RLC

When I got up this morning at 6:15 am to take my Labs out I noticed the power was off in our house. At 7:30 my wife called the power company and they arrived a few minutes later to see what the problem was. My wife went out when the power person arrived. Shortly after she came back in crying and telling me someo...

peppurr · peppurr

My husband as an alcoholic. He died a year ago. My 24 yr old daughter has become my husband. I don't think I can go through this again.

mjhyankees · mjhyankees

I had a tenuous grip on this to begin with and again feel like there isn't any. Yes there are things in my life to be grateful for but for every one of them there's and equal and opposite problem. I'm no good with denial...it would be great to pretend that everything is ok and go tip toeing through the tuli...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Well, maybe my title isn't quite right, but I have been doing a lot of reading and thinking about how I see alcohol and how I classify drinkers. I've been feeling guilty lately because I've been judging everyone I know who drinks. We were at a party last weekend and AH and I were drinking NA beer while ou...

Heather123 · Heather123

Is it really possible to find peace and happiness with an active A? My AH is my best friend. He's been there for me when nobody else could be. He's given me the unconditional and unfailing love and support that I've never had from anyone else. He takes care of me better than he takes care of himself. W...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, My partner has been sober for 6 months 5 in rehab and rest in supported living. I am tired I keep slipping into resntfulness that although he is sober life is still so difficult and hard. He is in early recovery he is going to meetings most days and is doing good. I just feel like I need time f...

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	Without alanon (Preview) I went to two more alanon meetings last evening and I realize that I am not comfortable at any of them. I have always been a lone soul. I hate crowds and groups. I love what they have to offer, but is that the only option? Would a private counselor be as effective? I see the wisdom here, and I want more th...	Steph444	15	1576	Mar 14, 2011 by Steph444
	Controlling Behaviour and enabling (Preview) I'm new to Al-Anon and I'm looking for some perspectives on controlling behaviour and enabling. Essentially I have had enough of my alcoholic partner's behaviour and I have ended the relationship because I can no longer tolerate being lied to, being stolen from and being on the receiving end of insu...	Limey	4	1389	Mar 14, 2011 by pinkchip
	Harm Reduction? (Preview) Does anybody have any experience with the 'harm reduction' model of alcohol addiction treatment? I had never heard of it before. I found out this week that it is the model used at the out patient treatment center my husband is attending. I am really concerned about this. Seems like they are setting h...	searching4peace	7	1149	Mar 14, 2011 by pinkchip
	"The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved" (closed) (Preview) Wanted to make MIP members aware of something that happened at Friday morning's meeting. I suggested the topic of "creating chaos" as it is described in our ODAAT daily reader. Someone else mentioned the topic of Stop and Think (or something to that effect). A MIP member gave a &quo...	Overcome	3	819	Mar 14, 2011 by hotrod
	Doing the same thing over and over (Preview) Today I was thinking about how several years ago, before I had any recovery, a counselor said, "Doing the same things over and over and expecting different results is INSANE." It occurred to me what a different meaning this statement has to me now. I've heard people say it often in meetin...	White Rabbit	5	706	Mar 13, 2011 by flopadopilus
	boy I sure am grateful! (Preview) When I hear about all that is going on in the world today, it makes me so grateful! I have a safe place to live(so far) & hope for the future. I haven't had to struggle w/ much as far as Mother Nature rocking my world really since 1996 when our area was flooded. It is kinda funny to tell the story now but the...	Hoot Nanny	4	680	Mar 13, 2011 by Lala03044
	hubby returning tomorrow...ugh (Preview) I wrote earlier this week about my AH being away at his parents for the week. I stated how much I enjoyed his absence. Well...he's coming back tomorrow and I don't want him to! My stomach is starting to act up and I think it is the stress of knowing he is returning. I was having a huge belly-laugh with my girl...	looking_for_peace	3	847	Mar 12, 2011 by Jerry F
	survival mode and round 2 (Preview) Been missing you all here, and deeply feel it. Truly in survival mode. Its the 6th night I've been up with my daughter who has a broken shoulder. Surgery to be determined, in the meantime it is vicodin and advil every 5 hrs or so. I was stingy at first, giving only one vicodin, but the pain was pretty muc...	Loupiness	5	691	Mar 12, 2011 by nmike
	Do they ever stop with threats? (Preview) After some time I kicked my boyfriend out. He has been using ever day since and now is using drugs. I know he lies, his family tells me he is a great liar; but today the threats are bad. He says he owes a dealer money (it has gone from $100 to now $42) and I won't give him any. He has stolen so much. Now he say...	swisfun1	7	934	Mar 12, 2011 by Debilyn
	Exit plan and 2am events (Preview) Well, I sat down this morning and wrote out my exit strategy. Only is keeps me living here for way too long. 17 months to be exact. Hopefully I'll be able to shave a couple of months off that. I'll keep working on that. I went to bed last night and all was well. Got the text earlier in the evening saying m...	Steph444	3	726	Mar 12, 2011 by pinkchip
	I cannot believe this is happening (Preview) *Following the earthquake in Japan, the U.S. State Department "strongly urges U.S. citizens to avoid tourism and non-essential travel to Japan" through April 1*. I am suppose to be traveling to Japan on 3/25 to see my granddaughter, my son and his wife. My granddaughter will turn 1 year old...	Gailey	4	745	Mar 12, 2011 by Christy
	the "F" word..... FEAR.... (Preview) I am struggling with FEAR. I think I always have, I am just learning more and more about it and it is at the forefront of my awareness now. Like many here, I have a history of being quite reactive. My reactiveness would be an emotional reaction to a situation that I am realizing now was almost always lin...	Rora	8	739	Mar 12, 2011 by Lala03044
	A Gift (Preview) I was coming out of the gym and a woman stopped me. She knows me from attending AA meetings (no Alanon here-but I offer to hold a separate meeting). She said that she attend ed AA to support her boyfriend. They have since broken up and he continues to drink. She expressed her disappointment, she was hurt,...	nmike	4	739	Mar 12, 2011 by Karilynn
	Rehab (Preview) I don't know if anyone here can help me with some ideas but I figure it's worth a shot. My 26 yo brother has been struggling with alcoholism & drug addiction for almost 10 years now. He's spent time in jail,gone to mandated (aka crappy) rehabs, and been close to death twice. It breaks my heart to see hi...	lifegoezon21	4	1140	Mar 11, 2011 by supermom
	Loving his absence...but feel guilty about it (Preview) My AH went to be with his parents for the week. This is the first time we have been apart in ages. I am a teacher, and he was there all through summer vacation and Christmas Break (b/c he is unable to work due to his withdrawal from benzodiazipines). This week I am on March Break. When he decided to go to his pa...	looking_for_peace	7	671	Mar 11, 2011 by supermom
	INSANITY at it's best (Preview) I could go on forever but I will try and summarize, after liviing with an active AH for 20 years I filed for divorce after a crisis. After I filed, I came to realize I did it out of anger and hurt and withdrew the complaint. My AH has now turned me into the victim and is saying how I have hurt him for the past 20 ye...	BEACHCOL	3	716	Mar 11, 2011 by Rora
	Newbie in need of advice. (Preview) Hi, I am 51 and have a group a friends who have been together since Junior High. Lately, we all gather twice a year for an extended weekend and play nickle poker, chat, play some dics golf, etc.... We have a Super Bowl weekend coming up at my place. We often drink wine while playing poker or with dinner, but...	Unenlightened	5	795	Mar 11, 2011 by Unenlightened
	Is it always alright to take what you like... (Preview) and leave the rest? I have learned a lot from this program and in therapy. I am using better judgment, I think. My question. I don't live with my Abf. I spend a fair amount of time with him, mostly at my place where I don't have to be around his habit and he is also not under the influence. He has started hel...	member922	7	788	Mar 11, 2011 by Jerry F
	Stay Dry Hawaii (Preview) Jerry and Aloha and all the rest of our Hawaiian friends.....prayers on the way for all and Japan.	freeagain	1	762	Mar 11, 2011 by Jerry F
	JERRY CHECK IN PLEASE!! (Preview) Is there anyone else from MIP in Hawaii? Jerry my son called and told me whats going on. You were the first person I thought of! I hope you and yours are ok! Please check in if only for a minute brother! You know I love you! Debbers....	Debilyn	4	791	Mar 11, 2011 by Suzannah
	Jerry (Preview) Hope you are in a safe place. Praying for all in Hawaii now. Tsunami to hit 9:00 EST	Gailey	3	777	Mar 11, 2011 by Suzannah
	New and really don't understand (Preview) Hi all! I am new to this forum but have been reading for a few days. Hubby is in rehab and have to say it is a relief. We've been together 20 years and have a wonderful life so I don't really understand why he puts it all in jeopardy to use. Anyway, just reading it looks like there is not much hope for relatio...	livin4him	11	1426	Mar 11, 2011 by livin4him
	Optomist? Not sure.... (Preview) Well I have not attended a F2F meeting in quite a while. Hardly have time. My best friend calls me an "optimist" considering it all....but I'm not sure for now. She's definitley not program, and I need program and this is the best I can do for now so bear with me please. Schools taken up quite a b...	RoseODAT	2	816	Mar 11, 2011 by kitty
	Do I need to respond? (Preview) So AH and I have been separated for almost 2 months now. He is living back at home with his mom. He is still drinking and smoking weed. I have been doing my program and have learned so many new tools and skills. We agreed to try to "work on ourselves" and being together. I realized the 2 do n...	knowmadic	7	720	Mar 11, 2011 by knowmadic
	How do you handle the naysayers? (Preview) Just wondering....how do you handle the naysayers in your life? The people on the outside, the ones who think they are helpful but make comments that are hurtful? I have a friend who thinks I am dumb for hoping A bf sticks to his AA program. Thinks I should just cut ties and run. I am hopeful and encouraged...	Honeypie	11	1105	Mar 11, 2011 by Rora
	Self respect. (Preview) I am noticing a bit of a trend around my house lately. A lack of respect. No repsect for others. No respect for things. No respect for self. And it seems to be universally affecting all who live here. I don't think it's new. I think it's been here for quite some time. I just never really had a name for...	searching4peace	3	1129	Mar 11, 2011 by abbyal
	Guiding children through the maze of an A household (Preview) Last night, a few things our preteen DD and DS said are weighing heavily on me. As I went into our DS's room to say good-night, he said: DS: "I asked Dad when we could take a trip to Grandma's." (MIL lives about 1000 miles away and we haven't been to their house in 4-5 years--though they come to v...	Very Very Tired	9	863	Mar 11, 2011 by doritobreath
	Don't know what to do (Preview) I know this is going to sound really naive of me. I'm not sure if my boyfriend who I have been living with for 4 years is considered an alcoholic or not. I would say he is, but just need to get some help deciding what to do. He is self employed and keeps alcohol in his fridge at work. He has lots of friends who s...	kkth63	5	628	Mar 10, 2011 by kkth63
	As the Water Rises.... (Preview) Hi All... Sorry I have been Gone for a Bit, things here are their Usual Insanity only this time of year it dont have to do the Many A's in my life... Just the Usual, Work Slow, Tax Season :( (Should say Uncle Sam Pay out) ... Soccer, Spring Cleanin... You name it its on my "To Do List".... I'm sitti...	Jozie	3	1135	Mar 10, 2011 by Jerry F
	gotta love all the fun stuff we have to deal with (Preview) So, today was like any other day. AH started drinking around 11 am. No issues all day until kids came home from school. I was spending some time with one of the boys, and AH starts saying how I show the kids too much affection, and they dont have to have so much attention. It went from there to other things, a...	Evian	9	623	Mar 10, 2011 by Evian
	intervention ... pointless? (Preview) Sadly my wife plummeted into a relapse last week. She was making life threatening decisions during the binge. I had been contemplating divorce but held off for a while. I'm not sure how "normal" it is, but this was the worst episode yet. Driving, drinking cleaning solution in an at...	DadtoCandE	10	929	Mar 9, 2011 by Aloha
	Back on track (Preview) My big old ego was having fun with me pushing this idea that I needed to forgive something I was not quite grasping yet. It must be in my nature to look externally when I starthaving those thoughts of there is something you need to do and it has to do with this topic. But as I was meditating on what exactly was...	Jennifer	2	564	Mar 9, 2011 by Debilyn
	new here and I am venting....sorry (Preview) I recently was told by our couples therapist that I needed to read a book called It Will Never Happen to me by claudia black. I could totally relate to this book and realized I am truly an ACA. I started attending ACA meetings a week prior to new years 2011. I've been with the same man for 2.5 years and I NOW r...	hazeleyed	6	819	Mar 9, 2011 by hazeleyed
	Update Re: gotta love.... (Preview) so, I just found out that AH will be in the hospital for a few days. He's meeting with the crisis team, then talking to a psychatrist. Its so peaceful here without all that! I don't think I want him back here... I'm not some cold hearted b@%$^ that doesn't care about his well being, I still care.. I just don...	Evian	6	1031	Mar 9, 2011 by Evian
	Humiliated. Why do I do this to myself? (Preview) My exabf broke up with me several months ago. Our relationship was so dysfunctional. We were together for years. Anytime he wouldn't get his way he would break-up with me. Well the week before he broke-up with me he was texting me that he loved me and was glad I was in his life. Then the next week he broke-u...	Stillalive2dream	7	858	Mar 9, 2011 by jackgeo
	update on my progress (Preview) Just a quick update. I am still finding I have to make a conscious effort every day to keep turning A bf over to HP. I have to remind myself not to obsess over his detox and his progress with his own sobriety. I am trying to remain supportive, but not ask him if he went to a meeting or had a drink or is struggling...	Honeypie	5	690	Mar 9, 2011 by maryjane
	Is Al Anon for me? (Preview) Hi my name is Sean and I live in Ireland. I have been living with my partner for 16 years, he is a recovering alchohilic, I came from a previous alchoholic relationship. Although my partner does not currently drink, he has had other addictions (spending, debting) which have dramatically affected my l...	sean126	6	703	Mar 9, 2011 by sean126
	Does alcoholism and intense jealousy go hand in hand? (Preview) My AH is extremely jealous of any male person I have any contact with - i find myself justifying the need to talk with whomever it is (and getting angrier about having to justify my right to talk to whomever i please as time goes by) so I'm wondering, does intense jealousy go in hand with the alcohol abuse o...	likemyheart	6	7166	Mar 9, 2011 by abbyal
	It's all about me. (Preview) I got into a huge argument with my Dad on the phone this morning. Yelling and interupting each other. It wasn't full of profanity or anything like that. But certainly it was ridiculous. I realized about 20 minutes into it that I had completely missed the mark. D'oh! Old habits are hard to break. I...	searching4peace	6	514	Mar 9, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Having trouble figuring out where I fit in (Preview) Im new to Al-Anon even though the A in my life is now sober. I wish I would have gotten help when he was actively drinking, but at the time I didnt feel worthy of help because he is just my boyfriend, and felt like it was easy for me to leave as opposed to ones who are married to an A, or has a parent who is. I kind of...	seb308	6	822	Mar 9, 2011 by KimmyJo
	Need someone to step up tonight (Preview) Hello MIP family, I will be unable to chair the 9pm meeting tonight, 3/7/11 I am sorry to have waited so long to ask for help, I'm not feeling well and would really feel better knowing someone will chair tonight. Many thanks in advance to who ever steps up to do service, Bless you..hope you have a wonderfu...	grammie	1	553	Mar 8, 2011 by RachelW
	hubby sober a year now! wrote a poem for al anon (Preview) One too many" when we were married, just you and me life was so happy, fun and carefree we were just 2, but soon I would see that little by little 2 became 3 the third was the booze, starting off slow and over the years began to grow poured out the bottles when you were drinking and then wondered wha...	oscarmom	2	764	Mar 8, 2011 by RachelW
	A few questions from a Newbie.... (Preview) 1. I signed up to chair a meeting in April. What exactly do I do? Is it just reading through the preamble and such, or do I need to prepare anything? 2. Where can I buy the ODAT, Courage to Change, or AA "Big Book" books? I see them on Amazon but I'd like to support local Al-Anon meetings through my...	RachelW	6	814	Mar 8, 2011 by RachelW
	Denial all around (Preview) I had to have a conversation with my MIL last week and even though I am divorcing her son, I still have to pick up my 2 year old from her 1 day a week. She lied to me about something little and I knew it right away, I can't figure out why and never will. She has undermined me with my husband and kids for years an...	flopadopilus	7	922	Mar 8, 2011 by pinkchip
	Such a hard weekend. (Preview) We made a spur of the moment quick trip home for the weekend. My father in law is not doing well and I really wanted a chance to see him, and for our kids to see him, one more time. He is an alcoholic. He has been drinking heavily for over 35 years. And he is going down hill quickly. His kidneys are shuttin...	searching4peace	4	953	Mar 8, 2011 by pinkchip
	As I'm getting better.... (Preview) he's getting worried... or so he says. I have been going to my counselling sessions, going to my Al-Anon meetings... working on me. I cut and coloured my hair, just got a new job (ok, it may only be at McDonald's, but it's a job... I can't be picky), and just in general... feeling good, and feeling happy, d...	Evian	10	445	Mar 8, 2011 by Evian
	New here (new to Al Anon, too!) and feeling a bit lost (Preview) Hi everyone, I went to my first Al Anon meeting on Thursday night, and I'm so glad I did. I feel a bit all over the place. I even feel I don't really have the right to be at Al Anon or on these boards, as it's only my boyfriend and we haven't been together that long - just under a year. I'm not sure of the rules here...	Loubelou	5	1182	Mar 8, 2011 by Loubelou
	Saw A bf today (Preview) After a long debate with myself, I went to see my A bf after work today. I miss the person, not the alcohol. I knew it would be hard to see him, that he would try to manipulate me to accept his drinking, but I decided to visit him hoping I would catch him in a sober state. A bf was fairly sober saying he missed me a...	Honeypie	8	746	Mar 7, 2011 by parfait624
	co-dependency (Preview) what exactly is co-dependency?	jackgeo	4	734	Mar 7, 2011 by Jerry F
	What a stupid end to a promising night. (Preview) Made it to my F2F tonight. First one in three years. And it was really hard to walk in there. Why? I don't know. I'm going to have to do some searching and see what it was that upset me so much. I walked in and before I could even hear what was being said I was in tears. Maybe some of it was relief. Just to...	searching4peace	8	1006	Mar 7, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Stuck to my boundaries (Preview) Well, I am very proud of myself. I stuck to my boundaries all weekend and did not give in to the numerous phone calls and text messages I received from A bf throughout the weekend. I kept myself busy focusing on things I wanted to do and I actually did them. No compromise, no putting them on hold. Just me for...	Honeypie	6	529	Mar 7, 2011 by Debilyn
	Feeling blessed (Preview) For the first time in my life I am feeling renewed. I found Al-Anon around the beginning of the year and at that time my life was completly upside down! I had been seperated from my husband since April and I was so tired of his drinking I could not focus. Today I am waiting the 120 days until our divorce will...	flopadopilus	4	888	Mar 7, 2011 by GailMichelle
	Any advice would be greatly appreciated (Preview) Forgive me if this is long. I have been struggling the last few days. Yesterday was an eye-opener for me. I took 2 steps forward, one big step back and today feel like I just made a huge step forward. I talked to A bf's friend who is an active member in recovery in AA. I told her what has been happening with A bf...	Honeypie	8	695	Mar 7, 2011 by Cloudsea
	I know he will never change (Preview) So...my AH hasn't been to work in a month. He was on sick leave from June to November. Went back to work in December and January...and here we are again. He is still undergoing withdrawal from clonazepam (prescription). He can not get a doctor to help him any more. His own doctor told him not to come back....	looking_for_peace	5	937	Mar 6, 2011 by Jerry F
	I Feel Violated (Preview) When I got up this morning at 6:15 am to take my Labs out I noticed the power was off in our house. At 7:30 my wife called the power company and they arrived a few minutes later to see what the problem was. My wife went out when the power person arrived. Shortly after she came back in crying and telling me someo...	RLC	11	882	Mar 6, 2011 by Jennifer
	It's happening again.... (Preview) My husband as an alcoholic. He died a year ago. My 24 yr old daughter has become my husband. I don't think I can go through this again.	peppurr	5	676	Mar 6, 2011 by abbyal
	What Higher Power???????? (Preview) I had a tenuous grip on this to begin with and again feel like there isn't any. Yes there are things in my life to be grateful for but for every one of them there's and equal and opposite problem. I'm no good with denial...it would be great to pretend that everything is ok and go tip toeing through the tuli...	mjhyankees	21	1049	Mar 6, 2011 by flopadopilus
	Confused about the definition of an alcoholic vs an alcohol abuser (Preview) Well, maybe my title isn't quite right, but I have been doing a lot of reading and thinking about how I see alcohol and how I classify drinkers. I've been feeling guilty lately because I've been judging everyone I know who drinks. We were at a party last weekend and AH and I were drinking NA beer while ou...	ilovedogs	8	1230	Mar 5, 2011 by Jennifer
	Whether or not the alcoholic is drinking? (Preview) Is it really possible to find peace and happiness with an active A? My AH is my best friend. He's been there for me when nobody else could be. He's given me the unconditional and unfailing love and support that I've never had from anyone else. He takes care of me better than he takes care of himself. W...	Heather123	5	804	Mar 5, 2011 by Bettina
	guilt (Preview) Hi Everyone, My partner has been sober for 6 months 5 in rehab and rest in supported living. I am tired I keep slipping into resntfulness that although he is sober life is still so difficult and hard. He is in early recovery he is going to meetings most days and is doing good. I just feel like I need time f...	Tracy	2	778	Mar 5, 2011 by GailMichelle
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