The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I was coming out of the gym and a woman stopped me. She knows me from attending AA meetings (no Alanon here-but I offer to hold a separate meeting). She said that she attend ed AA to support her boyfriend. They have since broken up and he continues to drink. She expressed her disappointment, she was hurt, she didn't understand what she had done wrong, she said he had said he wanted to hang out with good people like her, and then blamed her for keeping him from his friends. He said all the contradictory things that A's say and she had all the frustrations that we Alanoners do.
The gift was that she was mirroring my behavior toward my A, repeating the exact words that I had said to him over the years, trying to understand why he did what he did and does what he does, and stopping living her/my life because we think that what we say or do can change them or the disease. Wow, what a gift for me to see myself in her. How foolish I feel but what a gift from my HP that day.
I believe that you get the gift because your HP feels you are worthy of it. Hey Nancy this might also be an opportunity to start your own Al-Anon meeting. Think so? ((((hugs))))
You received a gift and had awareness to accept it and apply it.
I had the same thought a Jerry, I know you have mentioned in prior posts about not having an Al-Anon meeting in your area. HP might be smiling on you. It only take two and more will follow.
