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so, I just found out that AH will be in the hospital for a few days. He's meeting with the crisis team, then talking to a psychatrist. Its so peaceful here without all that! I don't think I want him back here... I'm not some cold hearted b@%$^ that doesn't care about his well being, I still care.. I just don't want to be around him. I don't want to go and see him, or talk to him. Praying to HP that he will be ok.
You need time to process what happened (I read your other thread). When someone is running around with an axe and acting all crazy around you and your kids, it would be normal for you to have some trauma reaction. You truly were a victim. Feeling numbness and detachment from the incident is a normal feeling after experiencing a violent trauma. Hopefully his own behavior scared him and may serve as his "rock bottom." More will be revealed as they say...
I agree that some higher good has intervened for your safety and peace of mind and serenity. Offer up some gratitude and don't spent the quiet time judging yourself for feeling the peace. (((((hugs)))))
I am glad you are getting a little time to catch your breath. I second the motion to not waste the precious time with self judgement. You have the right to choose how and where you want to go from here. One of my favorite slogans is JADE ... I do not have to... justify, argue, defend or explain ... the decisions that are best for me. I often need to remember that when making decisions that my exah, family or friends may not understand or like. Keeping you and yours in my prayers.
Evian, do you have an agency there that helps people deal with domestic violence? Maybe talking to them will help you outline what your options are and decide what you really want to see happen. And, they help people to see that what they are going through is not acceptable and that they are not the only one it is happening too.
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
As with other stories, mine is still being written. CAS (Childrens Aid Society) showed up and to make a long story short... My AH is not allowed to reside in the same house as us right now. They said he leaves, or you and the kids leave, if that didn't happen.. Then they were taking my kids away. Last night I had to take the kids and stayed in a hotel for the night.. He insisted that he had no where to go, so he came back home and I left. He is leaving tomorrow to go 2 1/2 hrs from us. To my parents house. Anyway.. In order to see the kids, he must do something about his drinking and anger issues.. He doesn't comply, we don't see him... So... From this point on.. I am now a single mom. Just to be clear, he is not home tonight either but at a friends house for the night ( funny that he couldn't go there last night.
