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Lyne · Lyne

Greetings~The song by Paul Simon keeps sounding in my head lately. I think I've "accepted" my spouse's addictions, yes plural, and then yesterday I'm wondering why there is no change. There is no change because she doesn't want to change! It is I who wants her to change. Yep, still cra...

rehprof · rehprof

Hi everyone -- YES - I too have received spam messages (PM) from this board. I suspect it is because of our recent thread on relationships. There are people out there who troll boards and dating sites to find lonely people to exploit...and get them to send money etc. My PM message said it was from Senegal...

hope4today · hope4today

Long story short, my husband is an alcoholic and he just got a DUI last week. Problem is, this isn't his first, and he could possiby face some time in jail. We have three kids, 8,7 and 4 and I'm trying to keep our life as normal as possible for as long as I can. Luckily, I have a fabulous support system in both o...

willowtree · willowtree

Here are a few things that are going on for me and I really need some ESandH. I started the steps with a sponsor and I am on step 4 now. My sponsor said that we do a step a week. So I immediately felt rushed from the get go. I was having trouble finding my HP and she told me that she was surprised that i was havi...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I just gotta do it! I have so much to say that I am so excited that I am having a hard time typing as usual. I am so blessed w/ a better outlook on life along w/ less pain. The doctor gave me some medicine that might actually be working. It makes me feel so much more positive & gives me a better attitude. I hav...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Is anyone getting spam private messages from someone with no posts wanting to be a friend?

rellik · rellik

So my AW relapsed two nights ago. Program worked for about half of the situation. I was able to rein in my actions, no belittleing no berating no isolation or coldness. That was the good part, the emotions not so good. In any case I have chose not to drink, in support of her recovery. So I haven't drank in a m...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I was trying to post & the computer went off-line here at the library in my small town. I had a slew of wonderful things to say but I guess they weren't meant to be. I am grateful that the computer came back on. So, what I was saying basically was about recovery espcially mine. I have come a long way &...

Elizabeth10 · Elizabeth10

Ever since I was young, the A in my life (father) has been up high on a pedestal. I always assumed when he wasn't drunk that he was always right and how could anyone ever dislike him? I've carried this into my adult life and it is so hard to stop. He has always been a nagger/criticizer and still is. It really d...

Grateful Member of Al-Anon :) · Jozie

Well I have Survived the Storm of Hurricane Sandy, and Thank God above for Every bit of the Blessings I Recieved During it! My Thoughts and Prayers are with All that Had it worse then I, Mine was Minimal at Least, Little Water in Basement, flickerin lights, but Nothing Worth Complainin about after watc...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Do you guys ever get any spam private mesages? I got one today, related to a post I made and got to admit it's kind of creepy. Does anyone else get these?

Pushka · Pushka

My STBAX's mom whom he is living with is in the hospital. She is gravely ill. She is an alcoholic as well as a smoker. She has cut way back on the drinking (at one point years ago had stopped completely after many years of hard drinking unfortunately started again when her spouse passed away) and she ha...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I lost my job today

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t51399472/step-2-alanon/

Zimmy · Zimmy

I have truly seen how insane my thinking is! The last week or so I can see I have started shutting down and slipping into old behaviours. Isolating and not communicating. I'm not even sure why. But I saw my insantity last night so I think that is progress. I ended taking my 4 year old out with me to avoid...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP Family I live in downtown Manhattan on the 10 th floor and have been without Internet, electricity, heat, hot water, etc. since Monday. A very kind friend just drove to my apartment and brought me to their home where there is all the comforts of home. Internet, heat, hot water for a bath and TV. A...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Lately, a lot of my shares have been about relationships, companionship and loneliness. I know it sounds like complaining and self-pity but finding a life partner is something that is very dear to me and I want to use the rooms of t...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

For the first time in a LONG time I am actually NOT dreading the weekend and the looming possibility that the wife will crack open the wine. Things seem to be going better and while I am still very cautious when it comes to her drinking I choose to remain optimistic for ME! Every time I start to think that...

Umutlu · Umutlu

I have the opportunity to go to a fun and formal ball next month with my husband and friends. Dinner and free drinks. I want to go, but I'm anxious about my husband drinking too much. The last time we went to a party like this he got really drunk (so did a lot of other people mind you). Part of me says I should go...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Wanted to get some input from others here. I have been toying with this question over the last couple of weeks. My AW's drinking from what I see has gotten much better. I'm not nieve enough to think she has completely stopped but I don't see nearly as much of it like I once did. She has never been the dri...

willowtree · willowtree

I go to alanon and am really getting help from it and was recently talking to an old timer in AA who told me that he thinks I am an alcoholic. I haven't drank in 10 years and don't ever have any desire to. I did party when I was younger and could get pretty wild and do stupid stuff at times but I have a family now...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I hope everyone follows suit! I'm going home tonight, going to relax, hand out candy, watch TV and veg :) The boys are with dad this year, I'll see them when they get home about 9pm tonight. On a side note, tagged onto the post last night - he apparently left the VA sometime after 11:30pm. He's at his home...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I will not play into his moods, I will not fall prey to the alcoholics 'emotion' of the moment. I will let him be miserable if he needs to be and not worry about whether I'm at fault for this negative attitude. I will work my program, say the serenity prayer, and then go do something for myself. LIKE GO FO...

Misst1976 · Misst1976

Hi My mum came out of rehab 6 days ago, and I think started drinking the day after. She was so positve in rehab and it was her decision to go in the first place, she spent the last of her savings on going. But is now back on the drink hard and fast. Drinking from 7.00am right through the day, and is back to not was...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Like growing up in any type of home, we develop patterns. Patterns of thinking, doing and reacting. The Al-anon program has allowed me to work on breaking some of those patterns. Through my sharing and service work, I have been able to gain the confidence and self-esteem that I always wanted. Howeve...

Aimee · Aimee

Hello! I'm in a kind weird situation right now with a woman I'm bringing through the 12 steps and I'm not sure how to proceed. I met with her last night to give her the instructions on her 4th step inventory and she told me she has decided she is an alcoholic. Now I believe alcoholism is a self-diagnosed co...

aprilla · aprilla

Hi everyone I'm new And I'm very happy to say there is a AL Anon group near me and I am attending my first session next week. Finally, A working programme that will bring some sanity and structure to my life after a long time of uncomfortable feelings and urges that swallowed me up and not knowing why. Fro...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I seem to be in the darkest, most despair filled place I've been in recent memory. My ex-husband (who is not my qualifier) has been piling on the crap, and I'm having a really hard time coping. He and his attorney pulled a fast one in court earlier this month and had an order entered against me, the resul...

Maxine12stepper · Maxine12stepper

Hello Everyone, My name is Maxine and I would say Im a 'non' alcoholic, I dont crave drink drugs or food, but I certainly have something wrong with me where I need to fill that emtpy hole i have in me, with something, I have drank, i have taken drugs before, but I can put them down, lucky me eh, bu...

rainbojo66 · rainbojo66

Hi friends, So glad to have found MIP again. I have had one helluva year since I have been on the message boards. Just having spent a weekend with my very alcoholic sister and then having to cut ties with her, my mother has brain cancer, my husband has been worse with his drinking and I feel like I am getti...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

I say "suppose" because sometimes it's hard to see it's progress at the moment but I think this is. I have time to digest it. So the exRBF and I have been spending time together but he's aware its a different level. I'm working on me and can I continue to focus on my program and learn the things...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Who ever you are, where ever you are at now and no matter how you have been affected. My prayers and thoughts and my HP being sent your way. Detach from it...get safe...stay safe. (((((hugs))))) Aloha No

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Not trying to complain but here I go! I am very disappointed about my ultrasound yesterday! I had to have a full bladder & was uncomfortable but that is not the jest of it; there were two techs examining me--one after the other. I guess the first one couldn't get it right. I was very frustrated w/ the 2...

Minaret · Minaret

Hi, I just came back to this site a few days ago to post about my agony of dealing with my AH and his drinking. Last night he went back to AA, this time to a different meeting. This meeting was in another town, other people. They were glad he was there and supported him. He came home still angry and...

orchidlover · orchidlover

I have been working a lot these days on the kinds of outbursts I used to have around the ex A and indeed which i can still have in my life. For me being around people who are using in different ways is a real source of boundary making that sometimes I don't know how to do. In a few weeks a manager who is rife wit...

Overcome · Overcome

I am in the process of purchasing a new car. Tomorrow (Thursday) they want me to come in to finalize the paperwork at 4:30 p.m. Central time. I should get done in time to be back for the 9 p.m. E.S.T. (that's 8 p.m. my time- Central) MIP Step/Tradition meeting, but I'm not sure. I would sure appreciate it if...

Minaret · Minaret

I am fairly new to al-anon, I went to about six meetings over the course of the last two years (there are only two meetings a week in my small town). During that time (as I've mentioned on here before), I was an emotional wreck and cried nearly the whole time non-stop. It was really hard on me emotionally an...

house cat · house cat

My husband is going to meetings faithfully. He has a sponsor and is currently working on step 4. He hasn't relapsed or anything, but the subject of smoking keeps coming up in our relationship. We both quit 2 years ago, but he keeps doing it and then lying about it, and then blaming me for the behavior....

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

This is really a time to call upon the spiritual part of my program and have faith, keep hopeful but I'm struggling with that this morning. I'm waiting for news from family and my former sponsor who are in the path of the storm. I found myself feeling resentful last night as I listened for updates on t...

JAMIE74 · JAMIE74

I don't post much so a little history. AH went to rehab last year, his drink of choice whiskey and drug of choice meth. He did good about 8 months. He's back to using and drinking beer. But slowly working his way back to whiskey. He sneaks other types of liquor that he thinks I don't notice, trying to get...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi everyone I'm a new but have been reading the stories for about 2 weeks now and everyone is so nice with lots of love and support. I have been seeing a counselor for about 3 months and it has helped but she continues to ask that I attend Al-anon. I have been twice but can't seem to continue going. I gue...

Jerry F · Jerry F

at 7pounds 11 ounces and 20.5 inches tall he made his appearance at 6:01PM last evening. It was my granddaughters first child and our second great-grand child. We camped out side her door for over 12 hours as she did as instructed for over 24. I was concerned for her because she was so child like and d...

jwall · jwall

Hello! I am 18, freshmen in College, and still living at home. My mom is an alcoholic, and has been prior to when I was born. Shes been to rehab 4 times, most recently a couple months ago. She was sober for a month, and then began drinking again. Right now I dont have a car and she is my ride to and from school, a...

mehere80 · mehere80

Why do I say that I'm ok when people ask how I am? I don't feel ok. I feel depressed, damaged, injured, desperate. My husband is finally trying at our marriage and I can't for the life of me accept it. I can't let him in. I have this pain in my chest, and my heart beats so hard. I feel some deep, agonizing pai...

Lizabelle123 · Lizabelle123

My AH knows that I am not interested in sleeping with him when he is drunk however we have very differing views about what constitutes drunk. I think he starts acting like an idiot after 2-3 drinks, he thinks it comes a lot later. Problem is he is extremely amorous when he's drinking and my saying no alw...

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

hey all, thanks to al anon i'm seeing my role in my own misery and how I bum myself out. I notice it in little things, like how I tell stories that are about bad things happening, or how I focus on the negative aspects of my life. Bottom line, I'm not an alcoholic, and I don't want alcoholics to tell me story....

Jozie · Jozie

This Past Weekend, I had some Good & Some Bad, Lots of Happy, & A Little Sad! And I Can Honestly Say, it was the Most Balanced Weekend I have had in a while, when it came to Mind, Body & Spirit! I have Handed My Expectation back to HP, and I have Left My Assumptions at His Feet as well! And So Far So G...

MJseeksSerenity · MJseeksSerenity

I am new to Al-Anon. I spent 21 days with my ABF while he was in a rehab facility. I went to the facility every single day and sat in all the lectures with him and the meetings, and I also went to my own meetings to try to learn all I possibly could about this disease that has followed me around my entire life....

Cher S6 · Cher S6

I am new to this site. I am attending my first al non meeting tomorrow at 12. My brothers is the A in my life and is currently in detox...again and wants me to puck him up tomorrow. I'm so worn down, stressed and tired. I'm one of only two family members left that help him. I have a family of my own and the guilt i...

Wendy O · Wendy O

I am struggling with his continued selfishness even with him in recovery. He never considers my feelings, needs or wants. It is always what he wants. I need advice. Trying to work my program, but I am experiencing anger. I always thought his self absorbed personality was because he was activel...

stephaniej · stephaniej

Today I had a much-needed reminder of how far I've come in my program. I still struggle a lot in how I deal with my AH, and how I work my program in that relationship. But I also have a very, very dear friend dating back to 7th grade, who has struggled with alcoholism since high school. He has always been v...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Still trying to quit these 2 things. Finding all I want to do is smoke and drink coffee more than ever! Anyone have any advice on why things like this are so hard for adult children and codependents? This would be in the same category as problems with food, spending, distraction, etc.

hdftby100 · hdftby100

So, here's how the weekend went... We went camping with our grandson. The wife only drank one bottle of wine (half Friday night and the other half Saturday afternoon). I consider that a small victory. We have started to have some money issues due to the economy and a little reckless spending on her p...

NovSun · NovSun

Hello MIP Family, Just a quick update. The AH is 23 days sober today. This might be an actual record. He has not done the 90 meetings in 90 days thing as he previously so boldy announced, but he IS attending 4 times per week. And that is a HUGE improvement over the "I hate AA, I don't believe in God...

LulaMay · LulaMay

So I came close to a mental melt down between home and work this month. So I am trying to take care of myself. I treated myself to an overdue hair cut. I cut 13 inches off and donated it to locks of love. I colored my hair as well and feel phenomenal. I was so scared but once I was there....I could not believe ho...

Ness · Ness

Remembered today, & every day, with love. Ness xx

New Me · New Me

I'm new here and I haven't attented Al anon yet. I plan to, and reading these forums has encouraged me. I am currently separated and seriously considering divorce. My AH and I have been married 4 and a half years have a two year old who currently lives with me. My AH would go on weekly benders that last...

newdarsh · newdarsh

My sister is an alcholic. She calls me on the phone 4 to 8 times a day. Today, I couldn't take one more phone call of listening to her slurring words; I told her that I loved her very much, but not to call me until she was sober, and I hung up. I have not done this before because I feel so bad for her and her situati...

atheos · atheos

So, so many people in the world have a bitter, cynical "life sucks, get used to it" attitude... when I was at the point in my life where I was at risk of succumbing to the same belief, my fellow Al-Anon members loaned me their strength, optimism, and hope until I got my own back. For most of my lif...

souljoy · souljoy

Well it's gone from weird to weirder and today is the day he tells me I have never accepted him for his mental illness and that hurts him. Okayyyyyy never mind you are drinking everyday once again after 4 years of sobriety. Never mind you want me to bring in a third party in our relationship. Never mind you...

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	still crazy after all these years (Preview) Greetings~The song by Paul Simon keeps sounding in my head lately. I think I've "accepted" my spouse's addictions, yes plural, and then yesterday I'm wondering why there is no change. There is no change because she doesn't want to change! It is I who wants her to change. Yep, still cra...	Lyne	4	334	Nov 5, 2012 by Lyne
	Spam Messages TOO!! (Preview) Hi everyone -- YES - I too have received spam messages (PM) from this board. I suspect it is because of our recent thread on relationships. There are people out there who troll boards and dating sites to find lonely people to exploit...and get them to send money etc. My PM message said it was from Senegal...	rehprof	5	318	Nov 5, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Scared to death, but holding it together... (Preview) Long story short, my husband is an alcoholic and he just got a DUI last week. Problem is, this isn't his first, and he could possiby face some time in jail. We have three kids, 8,7 and 4 and I'm trying to keep our life as normal as possible for as long as I can. Luckily, I have a fabulous support system in both o...	hope4today	5	493	Nov 5, 2012 by Jerry F
	Question about the steps (Preview) Here are a few things that are going on for me and I really need some ESandH. I started the steps with a sponsor and I am on step 4 now. My sponsor said that we do a step a week. So I immediately felt rushed from the get go. I was having trouble finding my HP and she told me that she was surprised that i was havi...	willowtree	7	469	Nov 4, 2012 by willowtree
	I gotta do it! (Preview) I just gotta do it! I have so much to say that I am so excited that I am having a hard time typing as usual. I am so blessed w/ a better outlook on life along w/ less pain. The doctor gave me some medicine that might actually be working. It makes me feel so much more positive & gives me a better attitude. I hav...	Hoot Nanny	5	347	Nov 4, 2012 by hotrod
	Spam (Preview) Is anyone getting spam private messages from someone with no posts wanting to be a friend?	hdftby100	1	209	Nov 4, 2012 by rehprof
	Drinking for me??? (Preview) So my AW relapsed two nights ago. Program worked for about half of the situation. I was able to rein in my actions, no belittleing no berating no isolation or coldness. That was the good part, the emotions not so good. In any case I have chose not to drink, in support of her recovery. So I haven't drank in a m...	rellik	10	478	Nov 3, 2012 by maryjane
	I dunno; what do I know? (Preview) I was trying to post & the computer went off-line here at the library in my small town. I had a slew of wonderful things to say but I guess they weren't meant to be. I am grateful that the computer came back on. So, what I was saying basically was about recovery espcially mine. I have come a long way &...	Hoot Nanny	2	291	Nov 3, 2012 by UK Jane
	Putting the A on a pedestal (Preview) Ever since I was young, the A in my life (father) has been up high on a pedestal. I always assumed when he wasn't drunk that he was always right and how could anyone ever dislike him? I've carried this into my adult life and it is so hard to stop. He has always been a nagger/criticizer and still is. It really d...	Elizabeth10	3	677	Nov 3, 2012 by pinkchip
	Grateful Member of Al-Anon :) (Preview) Well I have Survived the Storm of Hurricane Sandy, and Thank God above for Every bit of the Blessings I Recieved During it! My Thoughts and Prayers are with All that Had it worse then I, Mine was Minimal at Least, Little Water in Basement, flickerin lights, but Nothing Worth Complainin about after watc...	Jozie	5	368	Nov 3, 2012 by DavidG
	Off Topic: Spam messages (Preview) Do you guys ever get any spam private mesages? I got one today, related to a post I made and got to admit it's kind of creepy. Does anyone else get these?	slogan_jim	7	382	Nov 3, 2012 by DavidG
	Argh .. Prayers please (Preview) My STBAX's mom whom he is living with is in the hospital. She is gravely ill. She is an alcoholic as well as a smoker. She has cut way back on the drinking (at one point years ago had stopped completely after many years of hard drinking unfortunately started again when her spouse passed away) and she ha...	Pushka	6	344	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	And, just when you think things can't get any worse (Preview) I lost my job today	stephaniej	10	413	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	2ND STEP POSTED TO THE STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t51399472/step-2-alanon/	hotrod	1	265	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	3 steps forward....3 steps back (Preview) I have truly seen how insane my thinking is! The last week or so I can see I have started shutting down and slipping into old behaviours. Isolating and not communicating. I'm not even sure why. But I saw my insantity last night so I think that is progress. I ended taking my 4 year old out with me to avoid...	Zimmy	4	482	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Grateful (Preview) Hi MIP Family I live in downtown Manhattan on the 10 th floor and have been without Internet, electricity, heat, hot water, etc. since Monday. A very kind friend just drove to my apartment and brought me to their home where there is all the comforts of home. Internet, heat, hot water for a bath and TV. A...	hotrod	15	695	Nov 3, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Relationships (share) (Preview) Hi everyone, my name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.Lately, a lot of my shares have been about relationships, companionship and loneliness. I know it sounds like complaining and self-pity but finding a life partner is something that is very dear to me and I want to use the rooms of t...	slogan_jim	5	385	Nov 2, 2012 by DavidG
	Positive weekend... (Preview) For the first time in a LONG time I am actually NOT dreading the weekend and the looming possibility that the wife will crack open the wine. Things seem to be going better and while I am still very cautious when it comes to her drinking I choose to remain optimistic for ME! Every time I start to think that...	hdftby100	3	255	Nov 2, 2012 by Jerry F
	Go to party or not? (Preview) I have the opportunity to go to a fun and formal ball next month with my husband and friends. Dinner and free drinks. I want to go, but I'm anxious about my husband drinking too much. The last time we went to a party like this he got really drunk (so did a lot of other people mind you). Part of me says I should go...	Umutlu	5	339	Nov 2, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Looking for opinions... (Preview) Wanted to get some input from others here. I have been toying with this question over the last couple of weeks. My AW's drinking from what I see has gotten much better. I'm not nieve enough to think she has completely stopped but I don't see nearly as much of it like I once did. She has never been the dri...	hdftby100	6	481	Nov 2, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	someone really upset me (Preview) I go to alanon and am really getting help from it and was recently talking to an old timer in AA who told me that he thinks I am an alcoholic. I haven't drank in 10 years and don't ever have any desire to. I did party when I was younger and could get pretty wild and do stupid stuff at times but I have a family now...	willowtree	14	731	Nov 2, 2012 by UK Jane
	I'm going to have a Happy Halloween (Preview) I hope everyone follows suit! I'm going home tonight, going to relax, hand out candy, watch TV and veg :) The boys are with dad this year, I'll see them when they get home about 9pm tonight. On a side note, tagged onto the post last night - he apparently left the VA sometime after 11:30pm. He's at his home...	AStrongerMe	4	337	Nov 1, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Ignoring their moods (Preview) I will not play into his moods, I will not fall prey to the alcoholics 'emotion' of the moment. I will let him be miserable if he needs to be and not worry about whether I'm at fault for this negative attitude. I will work my program, say the serenity prayer, and then go do something for myself. LIKE GO FO...	ilovedogs	7	533	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	Relapsed straight from Rehab (Preview) Hi My mum came out of rehab 6 days ago, and I think started drinking the day after. She was so positve in rehab and it was her decision to go in the first place, she spent the last of her savings on going. But is now back on the drink hard and fast. Drinking from 7.00am right through the day, and is back to not was...	Misst1976	4	405	Nov 1, 2012 by shelbylisa
	Breaking patterns (share) (Preview) Like growing up in any type of home, we develop patterns. Patterns of thinking, doing and reacting. The Al-anon program has allowed me to work on breaking some of those patterns. Through my sharing and service work, I have been able to gain the confidence and self-esteem that I always wanted. Howeve...	slogan_jim	2	487	Nov 1, 2012 by aprilla
	Sponsoring an alcoholic? (Preview) Hello! I'm in a kind weird situation right now with a woman I'm bringing through the 12 steps and I'm not sure how to proceed. I met with her last night to give her the instructions on her 4th step inventory and she told me she has decided she is an alcoholic. Now I believe alcoholism is a self-diagnosed co...	Aimee	8	613	Nov 1, 2012 by glad lee
	Newbie, In need of your support (Preview) Hi everyone I'm new And I'm very happy to say there is a AL Anon group near me and I am attending my first session next week. Finally, A working programme that will bring some sanity and structure to my life after a long time of uncomfortable feelings and urges that swallowed me up and not knowing why. Fro...	aprilla	4	449	Nov 1, 2012 by rellik
	Hopeful that my MIP family can lift me up today (Preview) I seem to be in the darkest, most despair filled place I've been in recent memory. My ex-husband (who is not my qualifier) has been piling on the crap, and I'm having a really hard time coping. He and his attorney pulled a fast one in court earlier this month and had an order entered against me, the resul...	stephaniej	10	513	Nov 1, 2012 by rellik
	Hi everyone, newcomer here xxx (Preview) Hello Everyone, My name is Maxine and I would say Im a 'non' alcoholic, I dont crave drink drugs or food, but I certainly have something wrong with me where I need to fill that emtpy hole i have in me, with something, I have drank, i have taken drugs before, but I can put them down, lucky me eh, bu...	Maxine12stepper	8	688	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	Trying to get back... (Preview) Hi friends, So glad to have found MIP again. I have had one helluva year since I have been on the message boards. Just having spent a weekend with my very alcoholic sister and then having to cut ties with her, my mother has brain cancer, my husband has been worse with his drinking and I feel like I am getti...	rainbojo66	4	451	Nov 1, 2012 by pinkchip
	Progress I suppose (Preview) I say "suppose" because sometimes it's hard to see it's progress at the moment but I think this is. I have time to digest it. So the exRBF and I have been spending time together but he's aware its a different level. I'm working on me and can I continue to focus on my program and learn the things...	AStrongerMe	6	306	Nov 1, 2012 by pinkchip
	Victims of Sandy (Preview) Who ever you are, where ever you are at now and no matter how you have been affected. My prayers and thoughts and my HP being sent your way. Detach from it...get safe...stay safe. (((((hugs))))) Aloha No	Jerry F	3	411	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	got it done; just waiting... (Preview) Not trying to complain but here I go! I am very disappointed about my ultrasound yesterday! I had to have a full bladder & was uncomfortable but that is not the jest of it; there were two techs examining me--one after the other. I guess the first one couldn't get it right. I was very frustrated w/ the 2...	Hoot Nanny	4	387	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	Wanted to share an interesting story (Preview) Hi, I just came back to this site a few days ago to post about my agony of dealing with my AH and his drinking. Last night he went back to AA, this time to a different meeting. This meeting was in another town, other people. They were glad he was there and supported him. He came home still angry and...	Minaret	2	494	Nov 1, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	urgency (Preview) I have been working a lot these days on the kinds of outbursts I used to have around the ex A and indeed which i can still have in my life. For me being around people who are using in different ways is a real source of boundary making that sometimes I don't know how to do. In a few weeks a manager who is rife wit...	orchidlover	4	526	Nov 1, 2012 by orchidlover
	Need someone to cover Thursday's Step/Tradition meeting (Preview) I am in the process of purchasing a new car. Tomorrow (Thursday) they want me to come in to finalize the paperwork at 4:30 p.m. Central time. I should get done in time to be back for the 9 p.m. E.S.T. (that's 8 p.m. my time- Central) MIP Step/Tradition meeting, but I'm not sure. I would sure appreciate it if...	Overcome	0	260	Oct 31, 2012 by Overcome
	Trying again, but just want everything to end (Preview) I am fairly new to al-anon, I went to about six meetings over the course of the last two years (there are only two meetings a week in my small town). During that time (as I've mentioned on here before), I was an emotional wreck and cried nearly the whole time non-stop. It was really hard on me emotionally an...	Minaret	4	383	Oct 31, 2012 by Breakingfree
	feel really beaten down (Preview) My husband is going to meetings faithfully. He has a sponsor and is currently working on step 4. He hasn't relapsed or anything, but the subject of smoking keeps coming up in our relationship. We both quit 2 years ago, but he keeps doing it and then lying about it, and then blaming me for the behavior....	house cat	11	588	Oct 31, 2012 by Maxine12stepper
	waiting for news (Preview) This is really a time to call upon the spiritual part of my program and have faith, keep hopeful but I'm struggling with that this morning. I'm waiting for news from family and my former sponsor who are in the path of the storm. I found myself feeling resentful last night as I listened for updates on t...	tiredtonite	7	345	Oct 31, 2012 by stephaniej
	The better I get...the worse he seems to get (Preview) I don't post much so a little history. AH went to rehab last year, his drink of choice whiskey and drug of choice meth. He did good about 8 months. He's back to using and drinking beer. But slowly working his way back to whiskey. He sneaks other types of liquor that he thinks I don't notice, trying to get...	JAMIE74	5	542	Oct 31, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	I need help (Preview) Hi everyone I'm a new but have been reading the stories for about 2 weeks now and everyone is so nice with lots of love and support. I have been seeing a counselor for about 3 months and it has helped but she continues to ask that I attend Al-anon. I have been twice but can't seem to continue going. I gue...	Cathyinaz	8	625	Oct 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Daniel 10/27/12 (Preview) at 7pounds 11 ounces and 20.5 inches tall he made his appearance at 6:01PM last evening. It was my granddaughters first child and our second great-grand child. We camped out side her door for over 12 hours as she did as instructed for over 24. I was concerned for her because she was so child like and d...	Jerry F	15	554	Oct 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Alcoholic mom (Preview) Hello! I am 18, freshmen in College, and still living at home. My mom is an alcoholic, and has been prior to when I was born. Shes been to rehab 4 times, most recently a couple months ago. She was sober for a month, and then began drinking again. Right now I dont have a car and she is my ride to and from school, a...	jwall	5	361	Oct 30, 2012 by UK Jane
	I'm not ok (Preview) Why do I say that I'm ok when people ask how I am? I don't feel ok. I feel depressed, damaged, injured, desperate. My husband is finally trying at our marriage and I can't for the life of me accept it. I can't let him in. I have this pain in my chest, and my heart beats so hard. I feel some deep, agonizing pai...	mehere80	14	592	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	Differing opinion of how much is too much and AH is highly sexual when drinking (Preview) My AH knows that I am not interested in sleeping with him when he is drunk however we have very differing views about what constitutes drunk. I think he starts acting like an idiot after 2-3 drinks, he thinks it comes a lot later. Problem is he is extremely amorous when he's drinking and my saying no alw...	Lizabelle123	5	545	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	Seeing my role in a crappy situation (Preview) hey all, thanks to al anon i'm seeing my role in my own misery and how I bum myself out. I notice it in little things, like how I tell stories that are about bad things happening, or how I focus on the negative aspects of my life. Bottom line, I'm not an alcoholic, and I don't want alcoholics to tell me story....	jorjorjor	4	461	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	Are you Listening? (Preview) This Past Weekend, I had some Good & Some Bad, Lots of Happy, & A Little Sad! And I Can Honestly Say, it was the Most Balanced Weekend I have had in a while, when it came to Mind, Body & Spirit! I have Handed My Expectation back to HP, and I have Left My Assumptions at His Feet as well! And So Far So G...	Jozie	4	519	Oct 30, 2012 by Minaret
	What do you do when ABF begs you to help him stop drinking? (Preview) I am new to Al-Anon. I spent 21 days with my ABF while he was in a rehab facility. I went to the facility every single day and sat in all the lectures with him and the meetings, and I also went to my own meetings to try to learn all I possibly could about this disease that has followed me around my entire life....	MJseeksSerenity	11	464	Oct 30, 2012 by Highlyfavored
	New to this site. (Preview) I am new to this site. I am attending my first al non meeting tomorrow at 12. My brothers is the A in my life and is currently in detox...again and wants me to puck him up tomorrow. I'm so worn down, stressed and tired. I'm one of only two family members left that help him. I have a family of my own and the guilt i...	Cher S6	7	410	Oct 30, 2012 by glad lee
	Having trouble dealing with his continued selfishness (Preview) I am struggling with his continued selfishness even with him in recovery. He never considers my feelings, needs or wants. It is always what he wants. I need advice. Trying to work my program, but I am experiencing anger. I always thought his self absorbed personality was because he was activel...	Wendy O	10	694	Oct 30, 2012 by Wendy O
	Working My Program! (Preview) Today I had a much-needed reminder of how far I've come in my program. I still struggle a lot in how I deal with my AH, and how I work my program in that relationship. But I also have a very, very dear friend dating back to 7th grade, who has struggled with alcoholism since high school. He has always been v...	stephaniej	5	456	Oct 30, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Coffee & Cigarettes (Preview) Still trying to quit these 2 things. Finding all I want to do is smoke and drink coffee more than ever! Anyone have any advice on why things like this are so hard for adult children and codependents? This would be in the same category as problems with food, spending, distraction, etc.	WorkingThroughIt	10	529	Oct 30, 2012 by denro
	Weekend Camping and other... (Preview) So, here's how the weekend went... We went camping with our grandson. The wife only drank one bottle of wine (half Friday night and the other half Saturday afternoon). I consider that a small victory. We have started to have some money issues due to the economy and a little reckless spending on her p...	hdftby100	2	412	Oct 29, 2012 by Jerry F
	Happy Thursday (Preview) Hello MIP Family, Just a quick update. The AH is 23 days sober today. This might be an actual record. He has not done the 90 meetings in 90 days thing as he previously so boldy announced, but he IS attending 4 times per week. And that is a HUGE improvement over the "I hate AA, I don't believe in God...	NovSun	3	299	Oct 29, 2012 by NovSun
	Taking Care of ME (Preview) So I came close to a mental melt down between home and work this month. So I am trying to take care of myself. I treated myself to an overdue hair cut. I cut 13 inches off and donated it to locks of love. I colored my hair as well and feel phenomenal. I was so scared but once I was there....I could not believe ho...	LulaMay	1	327	Oct 29, 2012 by jorjorjor
	My son 30/10/76-27/10/11 (Preview) Remembered today, & every day, with love. Ness xx	Ness	8	473	Oct 29, 2012 by Ness
	Can I trust him? (Preview) I'm new here and I haven't attented Al anon yet. I plan to, and reading these forums has encouraged me. I am currently separated and seriously considering divorce. My AH and I have been married 4 and a half years have a two year old who currently lives with me. My AH would go on weekly benders that last...	New Me	14	614	Oct 29, 2012 by New Me
	Constant Phone Calls (Preview) My sister is an alcholic. She calls me on the phone 4 to 8 times a day. Today, I couldn't take one more phone call of listening to her slurring words; I told her that I loved her very much, but not to call me until she was sober, and I hung up. I have not done this before because I feel so bad for her and her situati...	newdarsh	8	604	Oct 28, 2012 by abbyal
	Realizing how much this program has given me (Preview) So, so many people in the world have a bitter, cynical "life sucks, get used to it" attitude... when I was at the point in my life where I was at risk of succumbing to the same belief, my fellow Al-Anon members loaned me their strength, optimism, and hope until I got my own back. For most of my lif...	atheos	5	349	Oct 28, 2012 by UK Jane
	Sigh (Preview) Well it's gone from weird to weirder and today is the day he tells me I have never accepted him for his mental illness and that hurts him. Okayyyyyy never mind you are drinking everyday once again after 4 years of sobriety. Never mind you want me to bring in a third party in our relationship. Never mind you...	souljoy	2	299	Oct 28, 2012 by Jerry F
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