Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jerry F · Jerry F

Man that was nice!! If you haven't done that lately or at all...I recommend it. Haven't been there for a while and I'm grateful I peeked in tonight. Yay!! ((((hugs))))

sheristeele · sheristeele

About 5 weeks ago, I kicked out my addicted son. We have not heard from him in weeks, but he texted and said he would like to "stop by" for Christmas. I really would like to see him, but I also do not want him to think he is allowed to stay here after that. How do I handle making sure he is clear tha...

Sam813 · Sam813

Hi everyone It's been awhile since I've posted, however you have always been with me. It's been so busy I'm in my last year of graduate school, I've been doing my best to focus on me and my well being. This is a hard time of year for all if us I'm sure, the holidays are so painful. My younger brother is an addi...

RR67 · RR67

This is the first year with no tree no gifts the first xmass my husband will be sober . I understand this but the kids don't. Lack of money due to no overtime to many dr appt for my ah and A W ( Al-anon wife ) I'm depressed for the kids , I'm depressed for my AH and myself. How do you tell kids?

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I feeling a bit down but OK. My son is now drinking 24/7 so I'm sure he's is in pretty bad shape. It's so sad. I wanted to see him for Christmas but it's not going to happen. I don't think he even knows it's Christmas. He talks about nothing....only bits and pieces of the past. He really doesn't know...

AKAZBRA · AKAZBRA

So I'm new to all of this.... My son went into treatment a little over a week ago. His drug of choice is Meth and Alcohol. Last night we had a family meeting. The first part of the meeting was a lecture and then the second was a family group meeting with other families. In between the meetings there is a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

OK so I feel much better today. I got through a stressful day yesterday as I really actually knew I would. I am OK w/ not spending too much time thinking about my dad. I had some moments of memories & then I let it go. I am so glad that I don't have to be depressed. Mostly yesterday I was just anxious. I am tr...

crazycatlady · crazycatlady

I am in full blown codependency relapse. I'm going to a f2f meeting tomorrow at 11:00. The quick version: My AH relapsed after 2 1/2 years of sobriety about 6 weeks ago...got back into program...then 2 weeks ago came home drunk, denied it, got angry and left for overnight, came back the next morning rag...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Last night after spending a few mins. with my a/a daughter, I had a fantasy of packing up and moving far, far away. I can't tolerate being around her even for a few mins. Her denial and delusions are deeply ingrained. She wanted to show me a picture of a "spirit/ghost" she had taken on her c...

Desirae · Desirae

Hello Al-a-Family, I am the Tuesday Morining Chair for MIP Al-Anon Meetings in Al-Anon Chat. I try very hard to be there, especially around the holidays, but I regret to inform you that I will not have computer access from Christmas Eve through the day after Christmas. If there is anyone willing and a...

RR67 · RR67

Well wed night was hell. I went to a meeting and I was so scared and nervous that I would arrive there on time. Since the past 30 days ah became sober . Build this controlling issue that needed to no who and where I was with . He was annualized every thing I did . So after meeting which was running late. I was so f...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Tonight my husband called to rake me over the coals because I, according to him, had told a friend of his not to hire him. He was fired from his financial consulting job in October because he was drinking on the job. He had the bright idea to get in touch with a friend of his who owns his own financial consu...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

When I came into recovery I said I was gonna change. After I went through the 12 steps and 3 more years of practicing the latter steps, it became claer to me that I needed to stop being an adult child wrapped into the insanity, chaos and control of my parents who hav enever been willing to seek recovery or he...

AlAnonDave · AlAnonDave

Im back on the daughter/granddaughter thing today. Backstory is my alcoholic/addict daughter chose to give up custody of her daughter to us and leave and go back to Michigan and had to come right back. So she came ack, under the understood condition that she live somewhere else so she can grow up and be...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

So Wednsday night my 14 year old daughter went to a nearby church at 7 pm for youth group and I called her at 9:30 to see if her and her friend were going to be coming home soon. She said something really bad happened and I needed to pick them up. So I did and she didn't want to talk about it until i dropped off her...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I come here to ask for some prayers that I will have the strengh and courage to sit and listen and have a loving and kind meeting with my son and his sponsors. We will be attending a AA speaker meeting before and visit afterwards. Please pray that my son will come...not sure at this time if he will show up. I...

cinders · cinders

I decided I was ready to send out the divorce papers today. I made a mistake though, I decided to take them by his house and drop them off because he was pretty adament about getting them right away and I wanted an oppurtunity to say good bye. He has been denying me that this whole time and it has been hard...

Umutlu · Umutlu

I am feeling a mixture of anger and frustration, with a little "just go to hell" thrown in. I'm trying not to give a damn, but its hard. This evening just my husband and I are home. It could have been nice. It should have been nice. But he started drinking this afternoon and I could tell it would...

RR67 · RR67

Is there a page on here to find where the meetings are

StargazerLily · StargazerLily

When I hear the sound of the ice jingling around in the glass, I just want to scream. Her speech begins to slur and she starts to get beligerant. I have alot of issues with anger and having her here like that is almost unbearable. I can feel myself about to break. I know when it happens it ain't gonna be prett...

Lyne · Lyne

so i've had a good week or two with my A. I didn' t think everything was fine, but I felt better, calmer, like life might be OK. Last night she went out, didn't let me know where she was, probably drank, and this morning was acting like everything is fine. Thin Things are not fine. I'm not fine. I told her sh...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok, I Hope No One Finds this offensive, but I read this & Had a Chuckle and thought maybe you would too... I Remember going thru this with my Mother when I was Drinking as a Young Teen... She didn't catch me Often, but when she did, this is about how it made me feel... Yet the "Insanity" I was...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so anxious about today & whether I should post again about my dad's death this time last year. I also would like to change my Facebook profile picture to a picture of him. Maybe it is just madness to try to do something I don't know how to do! I have a friend who may be able to show me how to do these thin...

dinolux · dinolux

Hi, I'm new here, but I've been regularly going to Al-Anon meetings for a couple months now. I'm so grateful for the meetings and I love the three regular meetings I go to each week. I've been working with a sponsor and I'm slowly starting to notice a difference in me. My Tuesday night meeting is my favori...

tortuga · tortuga

maybe some of you read my post a few days earlier... I had explored a new way of detaching by hanging up on my boyfriend when he said 'I'm drunk...' and had a more or less quiet sleep..at least more quiet than what had always followed my usual arguing with him endlessly in that state of mind, because I got wo...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Having a rough patch lately. I am depressed most of the time, except when I am at work. Last night I couldn't even enjoy spending time with our 20 month old grandson. The wife asks me what is wrong and I reply I am just sad. I start to cry. I have other issues in my life that I am trying to deal with. I thin...

mike3b · mike3b

Help....Im really struggling with this one..... My wife told me she met with someone she met in re-hab for supper.....I understand that she needs her new friends to talk to but i have a really big problem with her meeting him for dinner.....He is only 21 and my wife is 40....She told me that he likes hims...

Looking for peace · Looking for peace

In reading some of these posts, I get the idea that true change and recovery is very hard to come by. My husband is in rehab - his second attempt. The last four months of his relapse have been hell. He is not abusive, just depressed and self destructive and absent when drinking. It is so hard to know what t...

cinders · cinders

I work with a woman that does notary, so I finally was able to get the divorce papers back from her last night. I have them in hand and just could not get myself to put put them in the mailbox to him today. I know he is chomping at the bit and demanding they get sent to him asap, even saying to drop them in his ma...

sweeetr · sweeetr

How cool is that. I come home to stoned like person passed out instead of watching child cuz now has rx's and alcohol. Wth

AlAnonDave · AlAnonDave

I don't know why, perhaps airing issues with my daughter/granddaughter, or what the specific issue is, I simply feel liberated. That and working hard at just being me and loving myself just as I am and working alanon principals- I guess it's been a burden off. I don't have a thing bothering me and that'...

imom · imom

Ok...so tonight, my AH drove both of my children, and another child in a carpool and when he came home, I could smell the A on him. I did not want to fight, but I also wanted to make it very clear that I would not accept him putting any children in danger by drinking or driving. I simply said, if you're going...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

After my drama today I went to a meeting I normally don't attend. Was really nice and I was able to talk and enjoy the followship. One of the women I had know from two years ago was there and we talked alot. She wants me to chair the meetings in January. I said I didn't think I was ready but she said we will he...

twladybug · twladybug

I wish I could find answers. I wish I knew if the problem is alcholism or if we really just have a dysfunctional relationship. My recovering A broke up again with me this morning. This has happened 4 or 5 times over the last year. Every other time he later said he still loves me and wants to keep working at it...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I can only say I didn't cry, I ddin't scream, I didn't get depressed I only prayed for God to help him. ( Thought he was doing good in AA ) I was mislead again. AS told me things tonight that would in the past put me in the hospital but now I was OK. He is very sick and not in his right mind and also to stop the al...

Rich JHU · Rich JHU

Hey all, This is my first communication in any way with Al Anon. I am 29 years old, happily married with a daughter and another one on the way. I have my dream job and the best friends anyone could ask for. My life is perfect in every way but one, my family. I grew up being taught that alcohol was a way to party a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I want to say something inspirational but I don't have a lot of time. Just remember this: There is absolutely nothing that your HP & you cannot do together. You are not insignificant. You are important & worth thinking of & being loved. This time of year we remember those we love. We give wh...

AlAnonDave · AlAnonDave

I'm opening up for the first time about this difficult situation. Seeing as how I'm much worse at taking advice than giving it, I could use some of my own medicine... Long story short- I have a bipolar daughter who has wreaked havoc in my life and my wife's since day one. Once she got a few friends in High...

RR67 · RR67

today is the day I will go to meetings and try to meet p like me. I'm going to try to look at today for today and not think about yesterday . I tend to live the past issues and make them my everyday priorety. In the present day. I need to reprogram my brain try to be positive . I just want what ever normal is .

Looking for peace · Looking for peace

Well my husband is now in rehab for the second time for his alcoholism. He was in a horrible state when they came to get him today. I should be relieved - but I'm just so sad. I know I didn't cause it, but how sad To see such destruction. I love him, but I can't do this anymore. He doesn't really realize tha...

sweeetr · sweeetr

My AH is a high functioning alcoholic. He shouldve hit rock bottom when his EXAGF overdosed and he found her. She was the worse of the two of their addictive lives. So it was easier to distract ppl from how sick he was also. He now holds a very good job, but alcohol (and when he "quits drinking"...

invinciblesummer · invinciblesummer

Hello everyone. I'm having a difficult time making a decision and was wondering if anyone could share any similar experiences. My father is a very unpredictable alcoholic. Growing up he would drink and wrestle my mom in front of my sister and me, when we were teenagers he would push her and pin her unti...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

It breaks my heart to have to go to court to prevent my STBXH from getting spousal support from me. After 30 years of marriage, we have to allow strangers (my lawyer and the judge- my AH currently has no one representing him) to make decisions about our finances. My STBXH looked horrible in court today. H...

Mobirdie · Mobirdie

I have been in Al-Anon for a little over 9 years. When asked how do I help my child I have always shared what (I thought) worked for me. Things like I shut down the Bank of Mom I stopped rescuing giving him the dignity to grow up. etc All of this made good common sense until July 13, 2012. That is the date I w...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

I have been on here for months, gone to 2 Al Anon meetings and thought I was "getting it". I wasn't. The words were there and I was hearing them and knew them, but not completely. Had another breakdown in front of the wife last night. I don't consider it a failure or lost cause. The whole ti...

Andrea91 · Andrea91

Im new at this... Over the past couple of years, doctors and nurses in emergency rooms have taken me aside and handed me Al Anon family group flyers. They begged me to go, to talk, to listen. In truth, the thought of talking about my alcoholic dad was very frightening. My dad has been an alcoholic for near...

tortuga · tortuga

...because that's what alcoholics do. 4 months 'dry'...without the guidance of a program, an emotional rollercoaster for him, and all the people he's in contact with. Including me. I have been reading and coming back , not much posting lately, because there is not always the need to analyze it all, I...

RR67 · RR67

Hi I can't make a meeting would some one care to talk to me private

Jozie · Jozie

It Truly has been a Tough last 10days... I know this time of Year brings out the More "Crazy's" then we are use to on a regular basis, at least it seems true for me! Last week putting our young friend to rest was Tough! And to know that Addiction WON again, is Heart Breaking... However, His Pain i...

rellik · rellik

I went ot a family counselor the other day. The first thing she wanted to talk about was my understanding of alcoholism and if I had any questions about it. Hell yeah! Why, with the alcohol in my family and the abuse I went through as a child am I able to drink then stop when I want to and not drink for months ti...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Well all the calling has stopped so I'm guessing he's drinking again. But here I go...thinking way to much about it. I'm just writing this to keep myself honest and to stay on my side of the street. It's like I have to answer to someone ( MIP )..... It's also helps me to THINK !!! about what I'm doin...

almostgivenup · almostgivenup

I have noticed lately that my husband looks like he is 8 to 10 months pregnant. Now, I am not a doctor, but I am pretty sure it is because his liver is enlarged. He is drinking at least 1/2 a case of beer every night and when it isn't a work night, he drinks even more. I frantically called his mother this mor...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I was so proud of the way I handled things! I sat down and told my AH: He has started breakin boundaries I have set. I see personality traits developing in our son that are not healthy(I gave examples And how they mimmicted my AH behaviors) 1-I said there will be no alcohol or drinking at this house. My son...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I haven't been working my program at all for the last 3 weeks. I've totally slacked off. The flu, a bronchial infection before that, and then a new puppy have thrown my schedule for a loop. Oh, and throw in the holidays and I'm beside myself. AH and I have been going to marriage counseling weekly. Thi...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

Ok, so last night the wife and I went to a Christmas party. We were invited by a friend of mine and there were a few people from my workout class there that I knew. The wife knew really no one. She had met the invitee twice before (who is a woman, not that it really matters). The wife originally really did...

kelseyg32792 · kelseyg32792

My boyfriend is my world. He is the one that I know God made for me. After we had been together for just over half a year is when I discovered that he was an alcoholic. Now about once a month he goes through a vicious cycle of leaving me.. Because he says that I am too good for him and I deserve better. He tells me...

Looking for peace · Looking for peace

My relapsed alcoholic husband finally ask me to call to get him into rehab again. This will be the second time. He started drinking about 4 months ago after being sober a year and is now To the point where he misses work and is passed out most of the time. What do I yell my 6 and 8 year old about where daddy...

AngieP · AngieP

I've been in a relationship for 28 months, living with a lifelong A. He & I seemed to click from the moment we met & our relationship progressed quickly. My ABF/ finance also suffers from mental issue, he is a cutter & often suicidal but those episodes were always fueled by alcohol. He is co...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I am upstairs right now, while my AH sits downstairs, drinking and watching TV. He came up to tell me something, and I had a Facebook game up on my computer screen. He said "oh, you're playing a game?" and I responded that yes, I had been looking at my mom's Facebook page. Then I started to cr...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I have read 4-5 recommended books and I find helpful interesting things that apply to me in each of them. My question however. Is when my husband comes home and starts drinking a couple beers. I'm not sure how to handle it. Or can I just ignore that behaviour. Going to another room or leaving causes huge...

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	Going on the Chat room... (Preview) Man that was nice!! If you haven't done that lately or at all...I recommend it. Haven't been there for a while and I'm grateful I peeked in tonight. Yay!! ((((hugs))))	Jerry F	1	290	Dec 23, 2012 by Pushka
	What do I do? (Preview) About 5 weeks ago, I kicked out my addicted son. We have not heard from him in weeks, but he texted and said he would like to "stop by" for Christmas. I really would like to see him, but I also do not want him to think he is allowed to stay here after that. How do I handle making sure he is clear tha...	sheristeele	6	377	Dec 23, 2012 by sheristeele
	Counting my blessings (Preview) Hi everyone It's been awhile since I've posted, however you have always been with me. It's been so busy I'm in my last year of graduate school, I've been doing my best to focus on me and my well being. This is a hard time of year for all if us I'm sure, the holidays are so painful. My younger brother is an addi...	Sam813	1	310	Dec 23, 2012 by hotrod
	Telling kids xmass is canceled (Preview) This is the first year with no tree no gifts the first xmass my husband will be sober . I understand this but the kids don't. Lack of money due to no overtime to many dr appt for my ah and A W ( Al-anon wife ) I'm depressed for the kids , I'm depressed for my AH and myself. How do you tell kids?	RR67	6	523	Dec 23, 2012 by TryingToChange
	My son (Preview) I feeling a bit down but OK. My son is now drinking 24/7 so I'm sure he's is in pretty bad shape. It's so sad. I wanted to see him for Christmas but it's not going to happen. I don't think he even knows it's Christmas. He talks about nothing....only bits and pieces of the past. He really doesn't know...	Cathyinaz	2	336	Dec 23, 2012 by TryingToChange
	I think my son is using in rehab (Preview) So I'm new to all of this.... My son went into treatment a little over a week ago. His drug of choice is Meth and Alcohol. Last night we had a family meeting. The first part of the meeting was a lecture and then the second was a family group meeting with other families. In between the meetings there is a...	AKAZBRA	3	372	Dec 23, 2012 by AlAnonDave
	feel much better. (Preview) OK so I feel much better today. I got through a stressful day yesterday as I really actually knew I would. I am OK w/ not spending too much time thinking about my dad. I had some moments of memories & then I let it go. I am so glad that I don't have to be depressed. Mostly yesterday I was just anxious. I am tr...	Hoot Nanny	0	301	Dec 22, 2012 by Hoot Nanny
	Grieving the loss of trust (Preview) I am in full blown codependency relapse. I'm going to a f2f meeting tomorrow at 11:00. The quick version: My AH relapsed after 2 1/2 years of sobriety about 6 weeks ago...got back into program...then 2 weeks ago came home drunk, denied it, got angry and left for overnight, came back the next morning rag...	crazycatlady	6	603	Dec 23, 2012 by crazycatlady
	Wanting to pack up and move away! (Preview) Last night after spending a few mins. with my a/a daughter, I had a fantasy of packing up and moving far, far away. I can't tolerate being around her even for a few mins. Her denial and delusions are deeply ingrained. She wanted to show me a picture of a "spirit/ghost" she had taken on her c...	Highlyfavored	1	396	Dec 23, 2012 by Jerry F
	CHAIR FOR CHRISTMAS MORNING? (Preview) Hello Al-a-Family, I am the Tuesday Morining Chair for MIP Al-Anon Meetings in Al-Anon Chat. I try very hard to be there, especially around the holidays, but I regret to inform you that I will not have computer access from Christmas Eve through the day after Christmas. If there is anyone willing and a...	Desirae	0	268	Dec 22, 2012 by Desirae
	Guide lines boundarys set (Preview) Well wed night was hell. I went to a meeting and I was so scared and nervous that I would arrive there on time. Since the past 30 days ah became sober . Build this controlling issue that needed to no who and where I was with . He was annualized every thing I did . So after meeting which was running late. I was so f...	RR67	2	429	Dec 23, 2012 by Jozie
	Always Someone Else's Fault (Preview) Tonight my husband called to rake me over the coals because I, according to him, had told a friend of his not to hire him. He was fired from his financial consulting job in October because he was drinking on the job. He had the bright idea to get in touch with a friend of his who owns his own financial consu...	WornOutMrsFixIt	3	380	Dec 23, 2012 by AlAnonDave
	Change in Action (Preview) When I came into recovery I said I was gonna change. After I went through the 12 steps and 3 more years of practicing the latter steps, it became claer to me that I needed to stop being an adult child wrapped into the insanity, chaos and control of my parents who hav enever been willing to seek recovery or he...	WorkingThroughIt	4	404	Dec 23, 2012 by WorkingThroughIt
	My dilemma (Preview) Im back on the daughter/granddaughter thing today. Backstory is my alcoholic/addict daughter chose to give up custody of her daughter to us and leave and go back to Michigan and had to come right back. So she came ack, under the understood condition that she live somewhere else so she can grow up and be...	AlAnonDave	3	363	Dec 22, 2012 by AlAnonDave
	The cherry on top of my already crappiest few days in a long time! (Preview) So Wednsday night my 14 year old daughter went to a nearby church at 7 pm for youth group and I called her at 9:30 to see if her and her friend were going to be coming home soon. She said something really bad happened and I needed to pick them up. So I did and she didn't want to talk about it until i dropped off her...	Breakingfree	5	520	Dec 22, 2012 by pinkchip
	I ask for a prayer tonight (Preview) I come here to ask for some prayers that I will have the strengh and courage to sit and listen and have a loving and kind meeting with my son and his sponsors. We will be attending a AA speaker meeting before and visit afterwards. Please pray that my son will come...not sure at this time if he will show up. I...	Cathyinaz	5	420	Dec 22, 2012 by hotrod
	Today was harder than I thought possible (Preview) I decided I was ready to send out the divorce papers today. I made a mistake though, I decided to take them by his house and drop them off because he was pretty adament about getting them right away and I wanted an oppurtunity to say good bye. He has been denying me that this whole time and it has been hard...	cinders	4	364	Dec 22, 2012 by cinders
	What a waste of time. (Preview) I am feeling a mixture of anger and frustration, with a little "just go to hell" thrown in. I'm trying not to give a damn, but its hard. This evening just my husband and I are home. It could have been nice. It should have been nice. But he started drinking this afternoon and I could tell it would...	Umutlu	2	757	Dec 22, 2012 by Jerry F
	Daily meetings (Preview) Is there a page on here to find where the meetings are	RR67	2	375	Dec 22, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Anger (Preview) When I hear the sound of the ice jingling around in the glass, I just want to scream. Her speech begins to slur and she starts to get beligerant. I have alot of issues with anger and having her here like that is almost unbearable. I can feel myself about to break. I know when it happens it ain't gonna be prett...	StargazerLily	6	344	Dec 22, 2012 by Breakingfree
	oops i did it again (Preview) so i've had a good week or two with my A. I didn' t think everything was fine, but I felt better, calmer, like life might be OK. Last night she went out, didn't let me know where she was, probably drank, and this morning was acting like everything is fine. Thin Things are not fine. I'm not fine. I told her sh...	Lyne	3	562	Dec 22, 2012 by Pushka
	My Chuckle for the Day... ;) (Preview) Ok, I Hope No One Finds this offensive, but I read this & Had a Chuckle and thought maybe you would too... I Remember going thru this with my Mother when I was Drinking as a Young Teen... She didn't catch me Often, but when she did, this is about how it made me feel... Yet the "Insanity" I was...	Jozie	2	335	Dec 22, 2012 by Cathyinaz
	madness pure madness (Preview) I am so anxious about today & whether I should post again about my dad's death this time last year. I also would like to change my Facebook profile picture to a picture of him. Maybe it is just madness to try to do something I don't know how to do! I have a friend who may be able to show me how to do these thin...	Hoot Nanny	1	408	Dec 22, 2012 by AngieP
	Triggering topics during meeting (Preview) Hi, I'm new here, but I've been regularly going to Al-Anon meetings for a couple months now. I'm so grateful for the meetings and I love the three regular meetings I go to each week. I've been working with a sponsor and I'm slowly starting to notice a difference in me. My Tuesday night meeting is my favori...	dinolux	8	698	Dec 22, 2012 by Smukke
	selfish??? (Preview) maybe some of you read my post a few days earlier... I had explored a new way of detaching by hanging up on my boyfriend when he said 'I'm drunk...' and had a more or less quiet sleep..at least more quiet than what had always followed my usual arguing with him endlessly in that state of mind, because I got wo...	tortuga	6	380	Dec 21, 2012 by Jill Church
	Frustrated... (Preview) Having a rough patch lately. I am depressed most of the time, except when I am at work. Last night I couldn't even enjoy spending time with our 20 month old grandson. The wife asks me what is wrong and I reply I am just sad. I start to cry. I have other issues in my life that I am trying to deal with. I thin...	hdftby100	6	376	Dec 21, 2012 by pinkchip
	My Wifes has been meeting a guy from rehab for dinner....I dont know what to do..... (Preview) Help....Im really struggling with this one..... My wife told me she met with someone she met in re-hab for supper.....I understand that she needs her new friends to talk to but i have a really big problem with her meeting him for dinner.....He is only 21 and my wife is 40....She told me that he likes hims...	mike3b	15	720	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	Can they change? (Preview) In reading some of these posts, I get the idea that true change and recovery is very hard to come by. My husband is in rehab - his second attempt. The last four months of his relapse have been hell. He is not abusive, just depressed and self destructive and absent when drinking. It is so hard to know what t...	Looking for peace	11	535	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	Just for today..... (Preview) I work with a woman that does notary, so I finally was able to get the divorce papers back from her last night. I have them in hand and just could not get myself to put put them in the mailbox to him today. I know he is chomping at the bit and demanding they get sent to him asap, even saying to drop them in his ma...	cinders	4	501	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	Alcoholic finds doc to prescribe pills (Preview) How cool is that. I come home to stoned like person passed out instead of watching child cuz now has rx's and alcohol. Wth	sweeetr	5	529	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	I feel free tonight (Preview) I don't know why, perhaps airing issues with my daughter/granddaughter, or what the specific issue is, I simply feel liberated. That and working hard at just being me and loving myself just as I am and working alanon principals- I guess it's been a burden off. I don't have a thing bothering me and that'...	AlAnonDave	2	311	Dec 21, 2012 by Jozie
	insanity running rampant (Preview) Ok...so tonight, my AH drove both of my children, and another child in a carpool and when he came home, I could smell the A on him. I did not want to fight, but I also wanted to make it very clear that I would not accept him putting any children in danger by drinking or driving. I simply said, if you're going...	imom	16	713	Dec 21, 2012 by Pushka
	Meeting tonight (Preview) After my drama today I went to a meeting I normally don't attend. Was really nice and I was able to talk and enjoy the followship. One of the women I had know from two years ago was there and we talked alot. She wants me to chair the meetings in January. I said I didn't think I was ready but she said we will he...	Cathyinaz	1	331	Dec 21, 2012 by Overcome
	broken heart (Preview) I wish I could find answers. I wish I knew if the problem is alcholism or if we really just have a dysfunctional relationship. My recovering A broke up again with me this morning. This has happened 4 or 5 times over the last year. Every other time he later said he still loves me and wants to keep working at it...	twladybug	4	591	Dec 21, 2012 by twladybug
	Son is drinking again (Preview) I can only say I didn't cry, I ddin't scream, I didn't get depressed I only prayed for God to help him. ( Thought he was doing good in AA ) I was mislead again. AS told me things tonight that would in the past put me in the hospital but now I was OK. He is very sick and not in his right mind and also to stop the al...	Cathyinaz	8	599	Dec 21, 2012 by el-cee
	Newbie... at a loss (Preview) Hey all, This is my first communication in any way with Al Anon. I am 29 years old, happily married with a daughter and another one on the way. I have my dream job and the best friends anyone could ask for. My life is perfect in every way but one, my family. I grew up being taught that alcohol was a way to party a...	Rich JHU	5	556	Dec 20, 2012 by pinkchip
	I want to say something... (Preview) I want to say something inspirational but I don't have a lot of time. Just remember this: There is absolutely nothing that your HP & you cannot do together. You are not insignificant. You are important & worth thinking of & being loved. This time of year we remember those we love. We give wh...	Hoot Nanny	3	474	Dec 20, 2012 by Jen
	Daughter (Preview) I'm opening up for the first time about this difficult situation. Seeing as how I'm much worse at taking advice than giving it, I could use some of my own medicine... Long story short- I have a bipolar daughter who has wreaked havoc in my life and my wife's since day one. Once she got a few friends in High...	AlAnonDave	8	751	Dec 20, 2012 by Magster
	Trying (Preview) today is the day I will go to meetings and try to meet p like me. I'm going to try to look at today for today and not think about yesterday . I tend to live the past issues and make them my everyday priorety. In the present day. I need to reprogram my brain try to be positive . I just want what ever normal is .	RR67	6	410	Dec 20, 2012 by nmike
	He is in rehab - I should be relieved (Preview) Well my husband is now in rehab for the second time for his alcoholism. He was in a horrible state when they came to get him today. I should be relieved - but I'm just so sad. I know I didn't cause it, but how sad To see such destruction. I love him, but I can't do this anymore. He doesn't really realize tha...	Looking for peace	5	374	Dec 20, 2012 by Auntyaya
	im just curious on high functioning alcoholics (Preview) My AH is a high functioning alcoholic. He shouldve hit rock bottom when his EXAGF overdosed and he found her. She was the worse of the two of their addictive lives. So it was easier to distract ppl from how sick he was also. He now holds a very good job, but alcohol (and when he "quits drinking"...	sweeetr	8	649	Dec 19, 2012 by sweeetr
	home for the holidays? (Preview) Hello everyone. I'm having a difficult time making a decision and was wondering if anyone could share any similar experiences. My father is a very unpredictable alcoholic. Growing up he would drink and wrestle my mom in front of my sister and me, when we were teenagers he would push her and pin her unti...	invinciblesummer	4	490	Dec 19, 2012 by invinciblesummer
	Court Hearing Today (Preview) It breaks my heart to have to go to court to prevent my STBXH from getting spousal support from me. After 30 years of marriage, we have to allow strangers (my lawyer and the judge- my AH currently has no one representing him) to make decisions about our finances. My STBXH looked horrible in court today. H...	Green Eyes	6	598	Dec 19, 2012 by hotrod
	How do I pass the message (Preview) I have been in Al-Anon for a little over 9 years. When asked how do I help my child I have always shared what (I thought) worked for me. Things like I shut down the Bank of Mom I stopped rescuing giving him the dignity to grow up. etc All of this made good common sense until July 13, 2012. That is the date I w...	Mobirdie	8	631	Dec 19, 2012 by Ness
	I thought I was "getting it". (Preview) I have been on here for months, gone to 2 Al Anon meetings and thought I was "getting it". I wasn't. The words were there and I was hearing them and knew them, but not completely. Had another breakdown in front of the wife last night. I don't consider it a failure or lost cause. The whole ti...	hdftby100	8	712	Dec 19, 2012 by maryjane
	Newbie (Preview) Im new at this... Over the past couple of years, doctors and nurses in emergency rooms have taken me aside and handed me Al Anon family group flyers. They begged me to go, to talk, to listen. In truth, the thought of talking about my alcoholic dad was very frightening. My dad has been an alcoholic for near...	Andrea91	4	465	Dec 19, 2012 by Andrea91
	ABF picked up drinking yesterday... (Preview) ...because that's what alcoholics do. 4 months 'dry'...without the guidance of a program, an emotional rollercoaster for him, and all the people he's in contact with. Including me. I have been reading and coming back , not much posting lately, because there is not always the need to analyze it all, I...	tortuga	7	576	Dec 19, 2012 by hotrod
	... (Preview) Hi I can't make a meeting would some one care to talk to me private	RR67	2	542	Dec 19, 2012 by RR67
	THANK YOU AL-ANON/ACOA (Preview) It Truly has been a Tough last 10days... I know this time of Year brings out the More "Crazy's" then we are use to on a regular basis, at least it seems true for me! Last week putting our young friend to rest was Tough! And to know that Addiction WON again, is Heart Breaking... However, His Pain i...	Jozie	3	473	Dec 19, 2012 by hotrod
	New level of understanding! (Preview) I went ot a family counselor the other day. The first thing she wanted to talk about was my understanding of alcoholism and if I had any questions about it. Hell yeah! Why, with the alcohol in my family and the abuse I went through as a child am I able to drink then stop when I want to and not drink for months ti...	rellik	4	481	Dec 18, 2012 by Jozie
	OK.....stay on your side of the street (Preview) Well all the calling has stopped so I'm guessing he's drinking again. But here I go...thinking way to much about it. I'm just writing this to keep myself honest and to stay on my side of the street. It's like I have to answer to someone ( MIP )..... It's also helps me to THINK !!! about what I'm doin...	Cathyinaz	5	714	Dec 18, 2012 by Zimmy
	Intervention (Preview) I have noticed lately that my husband looks like he is 8 to 10 months pregnant. Now, I am not a doctor, but I am pretty sure it is because his liver is enlarged. He is drinking at least 1/2 a case of beer every night and when it isn't a work night, he drinks even more. I frantically called his mother this mor...	almostgivenup	3	388	Dec 18, 2012 by pinkchip
	Re established boundaries (Preview) I was so proud of the way I handled things! I sat down and told my AH: He has started breakin boundaries I have set. I see personality traits developing in our son that are not healthy(I gave examples And how they mimmicted my AH behaviors) 1-I said there will be no alcohol or drinking at this house. My son...	sweeetr	5	426	Dec 18, 2012 by Pushka
	Whew! I'm plumb tired (Preview) I haven't been working my program at all for the last 3 weeks. I've totally slacked off. The flu, a bronchial infection before that, and then a new puppy have thrown my schedule for a loop. Oh, and throw in the holidays and I'm beside myself. AH and I have been going to marriage counseling weekly. Thi...	ilovedogs	8	551	Dec 18, 2012 by Pushka
	Different situation to me (Preview) Ok, so last night the wife and I went to a Christmas party. We were invited by a friend of mine and there were a few people from my workout class there that I knew. The wife knew really no one. She had met the invitee twice before (who is a woman, not that it really matters). The wife originally really did...	hdftby100	6	472	Dec 18, 2012 by rellik
	Alcoholic boyfriend help please (Preview) My boyfriend is my world. He is the one that I know God made for me. After we had been together for just over half a year is when I discovered that he was an alcoholic. Now about once a month he goes through a vicious cycle of leaving me.. Because he says that I am too good for him and I deserve better. He tells me...	kelseyg32792	10	10161	Dec 18, 2012 by hotrod
	What do I tell my kids (Preview) My relapsed alcoholic husband finally ask me to call to get him into rehab again. This will be the second time. He started drinking about 4 months ago after being sober a year and is now To the point where he misses work and is passed out most of the time. What do I yell my 6 and 8 year old about where daddy...	Looking for peace	6	521	Dec 17, 2012 by pinkchip
	Newbie... In pain & confusion (Preview) I've been in a relationship for 28 months, living with a lifelong A. He & I seemed to click from the moment we met & our relationship progressed quickly. My ABF/ finance also suffers from mental issue, he is a cutter & often suicidal but those episodes were always fueled by alcohol. He is co...	AngieP	4	519	Dec 17, 2012 by pinkchip
	You have got to be kidding me (Preview) I am upstairs right now, while my AH sits downstairs, drinking and watching TV. He came up to tell me something, and I had a Facebook game up on my computer screen. He said "oh, you're playing a game?" and I responded that yes, I had been looking at my mom's Facebook page. Then I started to cr...	stephaniej	2	391	Dec 17, 2012 by Zimmy
	Question from experience please (Preview) I have read 4-5 recommended books and I find helpful interesting things that apply to me in each of them. My question however. Is when my husband comes home and starts drinking a couple beers. I'm not sure how to handle it. Or can I just ignore that behaviour. Going to another room or leaving causes huge...	sweeetr	5	539	Dec 17, 2012 by kaybee
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