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needhope · needhope

Hi all, I am new here. I have been spouse to an in denial high functioning alcoholic and substance abuser for 25 years. This man has emotionally abused me the entire time. He is very clever and was very, very good at blaming me for his bad behavior. He is truly Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde. Really good at putting...

sandydv · sandydv

Having a down day. Had bad night last night. It started out okay, did my own thing, went for a run, worked out, felt good. H came home slept woke up and drank beer, typical... Was having conversation with my teenage daughter, she was frustrated looking for work. H decides to interupt, to disagree wit...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I am anxious and would appreciate some calming energy. I know my worries are just my own bad habits, but why cant I shake them? There is a flutter in my chest and my mind keeps racing, foxused on what ifs. I look forward to the day when this disease ( his and mine) is not the primary focus of my attention. I rea...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" is a subtitle to a book, A Tree Full of Angels, written by Macrina Wiederkehr. This morning, after reading the MIP board - part of my daily Program work now - I went outdoors to put some bill payments into my mailbox. No one was outdoors. No mowers running. ...

alexmaui · alexmaui

So, when do I achieve perfection? I left my AH 2 1/2 years ago after 8 years of chaos and pain.... I left, rented a sweet little house and found serenity. I kept going to my f2f meeting and was recovering. My husband is a sweet man, who is damaged by this escalating disease. So, I tried to maintain a connecti...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I made a discovery about recovery last night. I took my A bf on a wonderful weekend getaway July 4th and paid for everything. Bed and Breakfast, tennis, beach, and relaxing. We truly had a wonderful time. Of course, before this trip we barely have seen each other the last two months as I have been less to...

Rinn · Rinn

i am having a hard time. For those who don't know the back story in brief husband started using meth seven months ago. He has been out of home for a few months. I filed for separation back in may. Today I got the order by default because he refused to respond. I also got a restraining order to prevent hi...

Bettina · Bettina

Came across this in my morning readings, hope this is inspirational as you go thru your own storms. "Everything has profound meaning. There is no need whatsoever to vacillate between elation and despair at each turn of events. There is no such thing as a storm that will continue blowing , wreak...

Lyne · Lyne

Well I haven't wanted to "know" this but my son has pot addiction even though he isn't using at the moment, and he has developed dependence on pain meds from two back surgeries. I don't know whether it's the guilt from leaving his father years ago, or I have been too dependent on him for emoti...

Bettina · Bettina

"The very best thing you can do for the world is to make the most of yourself." unk

John · John

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Just another day! I guess I am grateful. I am not angry. I am not hungry, well maybe. I am not tired. I am not lonely. So, why am I bored? I am going through a time of reflection again. Crazy as it seems, I had a dream that my older sister was dying & that in her pain & suffering she didn't want anything t...

Bettina · Bettina

" Embrace the beauty of imperfection". unk -- Edited by Bettina on Tuesday 9th of July 2013 02:21:14 PM

Gaby · Gaby

Let me start from the beginning: when my A son relapsed after being sober for 3 years he went straight to the hard core drug.. After I thought I was teaching him tough love he went on a week run. I was looking for him every where in our small town and one of his A friends at the fourth day found him came to my door...

neshema2 · neshema2

I am a very good swimmer, so summer and its pool season is my time of year When I am cutting through the water, over hand stroke, swimming effortlessly I have no soft tissue issues in my left lower back that even hurts my upper leg...I have no worries b/c its just the water and me...I have no age b/c I am at one...

phly1001 · phly1001

Hello, I am new to these boards - but I have been considering joining Al-anon for quite some time. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have an 18 month old daughter. Our lives are pretty much perfect except (what for it), my husband is an alcoholic. He has admitted that he has a pro...

Leoko · Leoko

I am a mother of a 37yr old Ah. who has had liver failure twice already. The doctors ssay a few more months of drinking and she will die. I told her she had to leave my home and is now living in the streets drinking up a storm. She told me she will kill herself by drinking. But I noticed there are 12 steps here so...

Tina L · Tina L

I went to visit my husband in the mental hospital today. he is on the road to recovery. i just started to talk to u guys who care enough to read my blog. i don't know where to start but from the people i have been reading from going to meetings will be my first priority. i never have time for me but if i don't st...

neshema2 · neshema2

Bettina · Bettina

I went to the hospital today to see my X, was there two weeks ago and he looked better than today The nurse talked to me and told me that all organs have failed and the liver is shutting down. They also told me he had pnuemononia, which when I called they never told me he had it. But he over came it. They also pe...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

Thank u all for ur posts. I read and re-read them over and over and just let everything sink in. I was that frog being boiled. Now that I reflect on it, it was a push here and their and verbal abuse was continuous. And I just stayed in the pot hoping it would cool down. I would love to post pics but If I post anyth...

Heidi H · Heidi H

Hello all, Hi, I am Heidi and I live with my AH--married since 2010, sober since November 29, 2011. I am new to these boards but not to the concept. I joined several message boards to help me cope through a very difficult pregnancy loss in 2003, and I found the rapport and fellowship so helpful. I am hopin...

newgirl17 · newgirl17

It has been very sad for me these last couple of days. My face and body have bruises it is a constant reminder that I need to get better for me. My husband does not recall beating me he said he doesn't even remember getting home. He was not remorseful nor did he take responsibility for what he did. He said IF I...

In The Forest · In The Forest

I KNOW I need to attend a face to face meeting but I am very nervous and could use some encouragement. I have never been to one before. I am never comfortable doing new things in new places with people I don't know and that makes me nervous. Luckily the meetings are in the church I grew up going to which will b...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

First attempt to make my prayer candles. They are far from perfect but it's practice not perfection isn't it Thank you MIP and Thank you Path to Serenity.

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

Even though I knew it was going to happen, when I saw my grandson yesterday at a family gatering, he came with my son who he trying to "squat" at his 1 br apt. Anyway seeing him looking so sad and troubled, I couldn't take it and had to leave early, my brother walked me out to my car and I couldn't...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I don't know about you, but I get tired of tv and internet coverage of "famous people." It truly doesn't matter to me who scores the highest, is the prettiest or most handsome, is having a meltdown, a baby or a haircut in Hollywood, Royalty or the world of competition. Some of the folks who ar...

In The Forest · In The Forest

This is my first time posting here but I have been reading a lot and trying to learn. It has provided me a lot of knowledge and comfort. I am still just trying to accept the reality of my situation. I have never been to a face to face meeting but I am trying to get brave enough to do that. I am here because my husb...

Gaby · Gaby

Right now at this moment.. I am thinking about my son.. I just can't seem to keep the focus on my and my recovery. I spoke with him on Sunday and he sounds great and is so in touch with his higher power.. And I told him I have fears!! He responded that he has to work on him and he can't control how I feel and I need t...

gorby928 · gorby928

Well had my first meeting in 4 weeks about 2 hours ago & it was well needed. Was good to talk to the group & it has cleared my head for now. Even when I come home to my AW whos on a roll and a bottle and a half up & offering me scotchs,hey ho.

Tina L · Tina L

Hi i am new her My name is Tina l. I have had the roughest month in my life. I had to put my husband in a mental hospital because he was so messed up on drugs and alcohol that he tried to kill himself by od-ing. they found him mentally incompetent and he has bipolar 1. i have to go see him today and i feel very alone...

Gaby · Gaby

I have not been on here since my last visit with my son. I am working on my recovery in healing, but i am having a hard time on letting go.. I stop and think (PROJECTION) what is it going to be like when he comes home. If not home just back in the town he ran a muck.. I see my son so spiritual so close to his god and be...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am supposed to be getting ready for work, but after checking my email and reading one from the exAH, that and checking my bank account I have just lost my motivation. I need to shake it off rub some al-anon on it and get my perky self out the door. Sometimes for what seems like no reason I let myself do the po...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: Just want to share some thoughts of gratefulness today: Grateful for: --this board, where I have read in others' posts descriptions of my own life, and have learned so much from all of you about the true nature of human strength --my three kids, all thriving, beautiful, smart and percept...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on t...

grateful2be · grateful2be

"Bear witness to the situation and have faith that the right thing to do will emerge." Jeff Bridges Loved this message as it came through it's messenger this morning. Thought I'd share it.

neshema2 · neshema2

ONE day at a time I am trying to fill a vacancy (need to work 2 ams per week and need 2 more days to equal that) So, here I am projecting and wondering "OMG, what if this happens or that happens????" the usual what ifs fear based garbage so....ONE day at a time TODAY my needs are met no set backs...

likemyheart · likemyheart

Sorry Paula, I love fireworks, spent a hundred on them but I went to a place where tons of people all gather to light them, the local volunteer fire dept patrols and puts out fires, its a hoot for pyromaniacs. We were there a bit when my daughter announced she had lost an earring, one of those expensive thi...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

It's so hard not to cry about what we can't fix and the feelings are strong within. I often say WHY WHY is this still happening after all he has been through. I want so hard to just go away and never come back to watch the one my love destroy himself. I get the text and am asked for comments and I don't answer...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

So everything is OK but not great yet! Still struggling w/ recovery from surgery. My eyes seem to be OK but I am still nervous about them--my next appt. is on the 23rd--month post-op on the second surgery. I still feel like I want to touch them when they bother me. I also am struggling w/ washing my hair in t...

callmemara · callmemara

I realize that if I leave it needs to be because I am at my wits end and can't take it anymore and not to try to manipulate or control his behavior. That being said though, part of me thinking about leaving is hoping it does give him incentive. He is often on the cusp, knowing he has a problem then denying it. I...

KLotus · KLotus

I went to pick up my daughter from a supervised evening visit with her (A) father, at his parent's house. With a protection order in place, he is supposed to stay away from me, though I am able to drive to their house to pick up my daughter - so he stays in the house. Last night, he was standing in the drivew...

DavidG · DavidG

the past... my attitudes... one day at a time. I think I came into this forum from another MIP programme... I think mebbe I have some sort of leadership there... I come here for support- and to sort out my loyalty with Alanon. My loyalty has grown a lot... and so has my peace of mind... Lately I went to see...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Went to the Credit Union today after posting on anger. There have been several issues there (and there is no other where the same thing doesn't happen in one way or another in our City) since I became a member that tend to set my teeth on edge as I breathe, feel, wait and practice. My tongue wants out, out...

neshema2 · neshema2

I guess this ??? was just too dumb to get answers... I think I will continue shunning her ------ I remember 4 letters J A D E -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:00:16 PM -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:01:34 PM

Overcome · Overcome

Sorry I didn't put this on the Chat Room board, but for some reason it won't recognize my password. My laptop is in the shop, which is what holds my scripts, and also how I work around mom's unpredictable Alzheimer's behavior (I am more mobile). I have a desktop in the basement, but if mom is up, I can't log...

Pushka · Pushka

I've been doing pretty good for the most part .. I can tell I missed meetings this week and I am going to look at getting into one tonight, being the 4th I don't know if I will be able to or not. Meaning .. if the meeting is going on being the 4th and all. I have totally kicked my program out of the window at the...

likemyheart · likemyheart

So, I said in a previous post that I lost my keys at the free-for-all fireworks fun last night. What strikes me as amazing is, upon hearing that I couldn't find my keys, my daughter dug in her purse, found a copy of my car key and proclaimed that we could make it home. During the ride home she remarked that ma...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Hi Friends When I try to view this site on a blackberry or on a Nook, I am unable to read the text. It looks like the color scheme for the mobile version has changed, and the text is very light grey on a white background. Has anyone else had this problem?

Pushka · Pushka

Well yesterday pretty much didn't go according to plan on any level. The kids and I made the most of it as we always do. Life is what it is .. with the disappointments can come great joy .. looking for it is part of the gift I want to give my kids. See the good out of the bad and let go of the bad. Today I though...

rehprof · rehprof

Hi MIPers... You know, anger is a normal reaction to being betrayed, lied to, stolen from, etc. Sometimes when folks vent on the board...I sense, just sometimes, people being condescending, as if somehow if you are angry you are not very far along in recovery. I don't think anger is inconsistent with...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My exAH had a lot of the normal A things going on, but he was so good at telling me I had a natural beauty without all the make up and hair do's put on. I am now dating a guy that has let me know he prefers when I am all done up. The funny thing is, he doesn't dress up much and is super casual and it makes me down grade m...

Pushka · Pushka

I'm REALLY excited for Monday (I have court nothing special or new .. LOL) .. I AM excited though as I just found out one of the RA's I know his daughter is starting an Alateen group here in town every Monday night .. I'm over the MOON!!! VERY excited!! My daughter is having a fit about going and I just laugh...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm sitting here at my 'puter reading bleary eyed with my left index finger bandaged and stitched. I posted H.A.L.T. earlier before going to work and made it to work without incident. After I got there I got incident. I was too Angry and Tired and miscued a cut I was doing to some detached ginger sta...

neshema2 · neshema2

Here is wishing that ALL my alanoners, MIP family have a GR8 and fun filled 4th of July Daughter dysfunctional is not speaking to me b/c I won't be mired in her drama and passive aggression, so I'll mosey down a 2 mile drive to the public pool which is lovely and nice people and have some fun and chat w/the...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

My name is Paris and I am a grateful member of Al-anon . The past few weeks I've really been leaning on my HP, and he is guiding me in the right direction. I have been going to many meetings, have talked with my sponsor, and been able to (mostly) control my reactions and take much better care of myself. AH has...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Last Nights topic at the Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG. Wish you all were there. It was a hummer and I am grateful for it cause HP kept prodding me on the important points to listen to with an open mind. It isn't only the poor me feelings. It can be and has been demonstrated thru anger and rage. I...

Venera · Venera

Hello again! Is there a hope that small kids will grow up normal without any dependencies and issues if one parent is normal? My kids are 6 and 8 now, I am starting to work on my co-dependency. We are still living with my AH and we have good times and sometimes my AH locks himself in the room for a few days and d...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I left my AH a week and a half ago. It was more than the alcohol...but I still hope for him a chance at recovery. I understand that I cannot control what he does, it is not my responsibility. I don't want to coerce him into going to AA, but I do want to try to make it easier to reach out. I just don't know...I was...

sportychick · sportychick

Last August we moved from Vancouver Canada back to my home country of Sydney Australia. My qualifier is Canadian. This week my qualifier Husband has had a really bad eye infection. Turns out he has viral conjunctivitis. I have had a hard time showing him compassion because the way he carries on you wo...

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	new and need help (Preview) Hi all, I am new here. I have been spouse to an in denial high functioning alcoholic and substance abuser for 25 years. This man has emotionally abused me the entire time. He is very clever and was very, very good at blaming me for his bad behavior. He is truly Dr.Jekyll and Mr.Hyde. Really good at putting...	needhope	6	428	Jul 11, 2013 by grateful2be
	a down day (Preview) Having a down day. Had bad night last night. It started out okay, did my own thing, went for a run, worked out, felt good. H came home slept woke up and drank beer, typical... Was having conversation with my teenage daughter, she was frustrated looking for work. H decides to interupt, to disagree wit...	sandydv	4	426	Jul 11, 2013 by Debilyn
	Anxiety (Preview) I am anxious and would appreciate some calming energy. I know my worries are just my own bad habits, but why cant I shake them? There is a flutter in my chest and my mind keeps racing, foxused on what ifs. I look forward to the day when this disease ( his and mine) is not the primary focus of my attention. I rea...	ParisMemories	12	327	Jul 11, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	"Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" (Preview) "Seeing the Holy in the Ordinary" is a subtitle to a book, A Tree Full of Angels, written by Macrina Wiederkehr. This morning, after reading the MIP board - part of my daily Program work now - I went outdoors to put some bill payments into my mailbox. No one was outdoors. No mowers running. ...	grateful2be	17	568	Jul 11, 2013 by Theoceancalls
	Progress not perfection (Preview) So, when do I achieve perfection? I left my AH 2 1/2 years ago after 8 years of chaos and pain.... I left, rented a sweet little house and found serenity. I kept going to my f2f meeting and was recovering. My husband is a sweet man, who is damaged by this escalating disease. So, I tried to maintain a connecti...	alexmaui	7	366	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	frustrated, and wanting to be further along than I am in recovery ** (Preview) I made a discovery about recovery last night. I took my A bf on a wonderful weekend getaway July 4th and paid for everything. Bed and Breakfast, tennis, beach, and relaxing. We truly had a wonderful time. Of course, before this trip we barely have seen each other the last two months as I have been less to...	giraffe13	7	419	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	feeling guilt, and missing him. (Preview) i am having a hard time. For those who don't know the back story in brief husband started using meth seven months ago. He has been out of home for a few months. I filed for separation back in may. Today I got the order by default because he refused to respond. I also got a restraining order to prevent hi...	Rinn	8	677	Jul 11, 2013 by orchidlover
	Hope thru the Storm! (Preview) Came across this in my morning readings, hope this is inspirational as you go thru your own storms. "Everything has profound meaning. There is no need whatsoever to vacillate between elation and despair at each turn of events. There is no such thing as a storm that will continue blowing , wreak...	Bettina	5	326	Jul 10, 2013 by PP
	sad reality about son (Preview) Well I haven't wanted to "know" this but my son has pot addiction even though he isn't using at the moment, and he has developed dependence on pain meds from two back surgeries. I don't know whether it's the guilt from leaving his father years ago, or I have been too dependent on him for emoti...	Lyne	3	367	Jul 10, 2013 by hotrod
	Thoughts! (Preview) "The very best thing you can do for the world is to make the most of yourself." unk	Bettina	2	232	Jul 10, 2013 by hotrod
	My dysFUNCTIONAL Family... (Preview)	John	7	573	Jul 10, 2013 by neshema2
	just another day(real quick) (Preview) Just another day! I guess I am grateful. I am not angry. I am not hungry, well maybe. I am not tired. I am not lonely. So, why am I bored? I am going through a time of reflection again. Crazy as it seems, I had a dream that my older sister was dying & that in her pain & suffering she didn't want anything t...	Hoot Nanny	1	273	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	good thoughts (Preview) " Embrace the beauty of imperfection". unk -- Edited by Bettina on Tuesday 9th of July 2013 02:21:14 PM	Bettina	1	205	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	Just thinking!!! Uggggg (Preview) Let me start from the beginning: when my A son relapsed after being sober for 3 years he went straight to the hard core drug.. After I thought I was teaching him tough love he went on a week run. I was looking for him every where in our small town and one of his A friends at the fourth day found him came to my door...	Gaby	4	361	Jul 9, 2013 by Jerry F
	Pools...Peace....and maybe a bit of Progress?? (Preview) I am a very good swimmer, so summer and its pool season is my time of year When I am cutting through the water, over hand stroke, swimming effortlessly I have no soft tissue issues in my left lower back that even hurts my upper leg...I have no worries b/c its just the water and me...I have no age b/c I am at one...	neshema2	10	417	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	Just need to talk to someone (Preview) Hello, I am new to these boards - but I have been considering joining Al-anon for quite some time. My husband and I have been married for almost 8 years. We have an 18 month old daughter. Our lives are pretty much perfect except (what for it), my husband is an alcoholic. He has admitted that he has a pro...	phly1001	3	452	Jul 9, 2013 by sick_lupie
	Am I in the wrong place? (Preview) I am a mother of a 37yr old Ah. who has had liver failure twice already. The doctors ssay a few more months of drinking and she will die. I told her she had to leave my home and is now living in the streets drinking up a storm. She told me she will kill herself by drinking. But I noticed there are 12 steps here so...	Leoko	6	505	Jul 9, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Visiting (Preview) I went to visit my husband in the mental hospital today. he is on the road to recovery. i just started to talk to u guys who care enough to read my blog. i don't know where to start but from the people i have been reading from going to meetings will be my first priority. i never have time for me but if i don't st...	Tina L	12	554	Jul 9, 2013 by Tina L
	another "sorta" ten things we can do to more forward (Preview)	neshema2	3	262	Jul 9, 2013 by Breakingfree
	emotions I haven't felt in a long time. (Preview) I went to the hospital today to see my X, was there two weeks ago and he looked better than today The nurse talked to me and told me that all organs have failed and the liver is shutting down. They also told me he had pnuemononia, which when I called they never told me he had it. But he over came it. They also pe...	Bettina	11	604	Jul 8, 2013 by neshema2
	thank you for all the support (((hugs))) (Preview) Thank u all for ur posts. I read and re-read them over and over and just let everything sink in. I was that frog being boiled. Now that I reflect on it, it was a push here and their and verbal abuse was continuous. And I just stayed in the pot hoping it would cool down. I would love to post pics but If I post anyth...	newgirl17	9	448	Jul 9, 2013 by neshema2
	Lost and worried (Preview) Hello all, Hi, I am Heidi and I live with my AH--married since 2010, sober since November 29, 2011. I am new to these boards but not to the concept. I joined several message boards to help me cope through a very difficult pregnancy loss in 2003, and I found the rapport and fellowship so helpful. I am hopin...	Heidi H	9	483	Jul 9, 2013 by Lyne
	getting through... (Preview) It has been very sad for me these last couple of days. My face and body have bruises it is a constant reminder that I need to get better for me. My husband does not recall beating me he said he doesn't even remember getting home. He was not remorseful nor did he take responsibility for what he did. He said IF I...	newgirl17	25	436	Jul 9, 2013 by orchidlover
	Need Encouragement About Attending Face To Face Meeting (Preview) I KNOW I need to attend a face to face meeting but I am very nervous and could use some encouragement. I have never been to one before. I am never comfortable doing new things in new places with people I don't know and that makes me nervous. Luckily the meetings are in the church I grew up going to which will b...	In The Forest	10	772	Jul 9, 2013 by In The Forest
	Prayer candles (Preview) First attempt to make my prayer candles. They are far from perfect but it's practice not perfection isn't it Thank you MIP and Thank you Path to Serenity.	Cathyinaz	14	342	Jul 8, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Grandson is homeless! Grandma had a meltdown! (Preview) Even though I knew it was going to happen, when I saw my grandson yesterday at a family gatering, he came with my son who he trying to "squat" at his 1 br apt. Anyway seeing him looking so sad and troubled, I couldn't take it and had to leave early, my brother walked me out to my car and I couldn't...	Highlyfavored	8	453	Jul 8, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	People and occupations of value (Preview) I don't know about you, but I get tired of tv and internet coverage of "famous people." It truly doesn't matter to me who scores the highest, is the prettiest or most handsome, is having a meltdown, a baby or a haircut in Hollywood, Royalty or the world of competition. Some of the folks who ar...	grateful2be	4	383	Jul 8, 2013 by grateful2be
	Family Dinners With The In-Laws Create Anxiety (Preview) This is my first time posting here but I have been reading a lot and trying to learn. It has provided me a lot of knowledge and comfort. I am still just trying to accept the reality of my situation. I have never been to a face to face meeting but I am trying to get brave enough to do that. I am here because my husb...	In The Forest	19	856	Jul 8, 2013 by In The Forest
	My feelings and emotions!!!! Ugg (Preview) Right now at this moment.. I am thinking about my son.. I just can't seem to keep the focus on my and my recovery. I spoke with him on Sunday and he sounds great and is so in touch with his higher power.. And I told him I have fears!! He responded that he has to work on him and he can't control how I feel and I need t...	Gaby	7	564	Jul 8, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	First meeting in 4 weeks (Preview) Well had my first meeting in 4 weeks about 2 hours ago & it was well needed. Was good to talk to the group & it has cleared my head for now. Even when I come home to my AW whos on a roll and a bottle and a half up & offering me scotchs,hey ho.	gorby928	6	357	Jul 8, 2013 by Breakingfree
	LOST (Preview) Hi i am new her My name is Tina l. I have had the roughest month in my life. I had to put my husband in a mental hospital because he was so messed up on drugs and alcohol that he tried to kill himself by od-ing. they found him mentally incompetent and he has bipolar 1. i have to go see him today and i feel very alone...	Tina L	15	460	Jul 8, 2013 by Tina L
	Fear ;( (Preview) I have not been on here since my last visit with my son. I am working on my recovery in healing, but i am having a hard time on letting go.. I stop and think (PROJECTION) what is it going to be like when he comes home. If not home just back in the town he ran a muck.. I see my son so spiritual so close to his god and be...	Gaby	6	588	Jul 8, 2013 by Gaby
	Am I going to have a great Sunday or not? (Preview) I am supposed to be getting ready for work, but after checking my email and reading one from the exAH, that and checking my bank account I have just lost my motivation. I need to shake it off rub some al-anon on it and get my perky self out the door. Sometimes for what seems like no reason I let myself do the po...	Breakingfree	10	417	Jul 8, 2013 by Pushka
	grateful (Preview) Hi Everyone: Just want to share some thoughts of gratefulness today: Grateful for: --this board, where I have read in others' posts descriptions of my own life, and have learned so much from all of you about the true nature of human strength --my three kids, all thriving, beautiful, smart and percept...	yanksfan51	6	298	Jul 7, 2013 by PP
	Feelings are ok (Preview) I heard something at a meeting this week thtat has stuck with me. Feelings are not good or bad, right or wrong. They are just feelings. It is how I choose to react to the feeling that is important. I can still feel sad, angry, frustrated, happy, anxious...whatever. The hard part is choosing how to act on t...	ParisMemories	7	373	Jul 7, 2013 by Tina L
	Perhaps a bit of wisdom from Hollywood? (Preview) "Bear witness to the situation and have faith that the right thing to do will emerge." Jeff Bridges Loved this message as it came through it's messenger this morning. Thought I'd share it.	grateful2be	1	269	Jul 7, 2013 by Debilyn
	What slogan am I working today (Preview) ONE day at a time I am trying to fill a vacancy (need to work 2 ams per week and need 2 more days to equal that) So, here I am projecting and wondering "OMG, what if this happens or that happens????" the usual what ifs fear based garbage so....ONE day at a time TODAY my needs are met no set backs...	neshema2	2	266	Jul 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	Response to Jerry's thread, tonights fireworks, life (Preview) Sorry Paula, I love fireworks, spent a hundred on them but I went to a place where tons of people all gather to light them, the local volunteer fire dept patrols and puts out fires, its a hoot for pyromaniacs. We were there a bit when my daughter announced she had lost an earring, one of those expensive thi...	likemyheart	8	404	Jul 7, 2013 by FAITH1988
	My son (Preview) It's so hard not to cry about what we can't fix and the feelings are strong within. I often say WHY WHY is this still happening after all he has been through. I want so hard to just go away and never come back to watch the one my love destroy himself. I get the text and am asked for comments and I don't answer...	Cathyinaz	21	722	Jul 7, 2013 by Breakingfree
	everything is OK (Preview) So everything is OK but not great yet! Still struggling w/ recovery from surgery. My eyes seem to be OK but I am still nervous about them--my next appt. is on the 23rd--month post-op on the second surgery. I still feel like I want to touch them when they bother me. I also am struggling w/ washing my hair in t...	Hoot Nanny	4	402	Jul 7, 2013 by neshema2
	Should I stay or should I go now? (Preview) I realize that if I leave it needs to be because I am at my wits end and can't take it anymore and not to try to manipulate or control his behavior. That being said though, part of me thinking about leaving is hoping it does give him incentive. He is often on the cusp, knowing he has a problem then denying it. I...	callmemara	10	551	Jul 7, 2013 by neshema2
	Sighting (Preview) I went to pick up my daughter from a supervised evening visit with her (A) father, at his parent's house. With a protection order in place, he is supposed to stay away from me, though I am able to drive to their house to pick up my daughter - so he stays in the house. Last night, he was standing in the drivew...	KLotus	14	406	Jul 7, 2013 by KLotus
	The things I cannot change... (Preview) the past... my attitudes... one day at a time. I think I came into this forum from another MIP programme... I think mebbe I have some sort of leadership there... I come here for support- and to sort out my loyalty with Alanon. My loyalty has grown a lot... and so has my peace of mind... Lately I went to see...	DavidG	13	601	Jul 6, 2013 by DavidG
	Customer service, lies, patience and practice (Preview) Went to the Credit Union today after posting on anger. There have been several issues there (and there is no other where the same thing doesn't happen in one way or another in our City) since I became a member that tend to set my teeth on edge as I breathe, feel, wait and practice. My tongue wants out, out...	grateful2be	12	419	Jul 6, 2013 by grateful2be
	my post and ?? was too dumb....I deleted it (Preview) I guess this ??? was just too dumb to get answers... I think I will continue shunning her ------ I remember 4 letters J A D E -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:00:16 PM -- Edited by neshema2 on Friday 5th of July 2013 04:01:34 PM	neshema2	11	469	Jul 6, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Need Sunday chair substitute (Preview) Sorry I didn't put this on the Chat Room board, but for some reason it won't recognize my password. My laptop is in the shop, which is what holds my scripts, and also how I work around mom's unpredictable Alzheimer's behavior (I am more mobile). I have a desktop in the basement, but if mom is up, I can't log...	Overcome	1	265	Jul 6, 2013 by grateful2be
	And so it begins (vent) (Preview) I've been doing pretty good for the most part .. I can tell I missed meetings this week and I am going to look at getting into one tonight, being the 4th I don't know if I will be able to or not. Meaning .. if the meeting is going on being the 4th and all. I have totally kicked my program out of the window at the...	Pushka	12	2315	Jul 6, 2013 by Pushka
	lost keys and Zen thinking (Preview) So, I said in a previous post that I lost my keys at the free-for-all fireworks fun last night. What strikes me as amazing is, upon hearing that I couldn't find my keys, my daughter dug in her purse, found a copy of my car key and proclaimed that we could make it home. During the ride home she remarked that ma...	likemyheart	2	364	Jul 6, 2013 by hotrod
	Mobile Site Question (Preview) Hi Friends When I try to view this site on a blackberry or on a Nook, I am unable to read the text. It looks like the color scheme for the mobile version has changed, and the text is very light grey on a white background. Has anyone else had this problem?	ParisMemories	6	278	Jul 6, 2013 by Pushka
	My weekend plans (Preview) Well yesterday pretty much didn't go according to plan on any level. The kids and I made the most of it as we always do. Life is what it is .. with the disappointments can come great joy .. looking for it is part of the gift I want to give my kids. See the good out of the bad and let go of the bad. Today I though...	Pushka	1	324	Jul 6, 2013 by neshema2
	Anger is Normal (Preview) Hi MIPers... You know, anger is a normal reaction to being betrayed, lied to, stolen from, etc. Sometimes when folks vent on the board...I sense, just sometimes, people being condescending, as if somehow if you are angry you are not very far along in recovery. I don't think anger is inconsistent with...	rehprof	17	516	Jul 6, 2013 by Lyne
	No make up or up do and I am still beautiful (Preview) My exAH had a lot of the normal A things going on, but he was so good at telling me I had a natural beauty without all the make up and hair do's put on. I am now dating a guy that has let me know he prefers when I am all done up. The funny thing is, he doesn't dress up much and is super casual and it makes me down grade m...	Breakingfree	15	538	Jul 6, 2013 by neshema2
	Kids :) (Preview) I'm REALLY excited for Monday (I have court nothing special or new .. LOL) .. I AM excited though as I just found out one of the RA's I know his daughter is starting an Alateen group here in town every Monday night .. I'm over the MOON!!! VERY excited!! My daughter is having a fit about going and I just laugh...	Pushka	4	297	Jul 6, 2013 by hotrod
	OK...H.A.L.T...reviewed... (Preview) I'm sitting here at my 'puter reading bleary eyed with my left index finger bandaged and stitched. I posted H.A.L.T. earlier before going to work and made it to work without incident. After I got there I got incident. I was too Angry and Tired and miscued a cut I was doing to some detached ginger sta...	Jerry F	9	497	Jul 5, 2013 by ParisMemories
	HAPPY 4TH OF JULY MY ALANONERS........ (Preview) Here is wishing that ALL my alanoners, MIP family have a GR8 and fun filled 4th of July Daughter dysfunctional is not speaking to me b/c I won't be mired in her drama and passive aggression, so I'll mosey down a 2 mile drive to the public pool which is lovely and nice people and have some fun and chat w/the...	neshema2	4	343	Jul 5, 2013 by waveofhealing
	Recovery a day at a time (Preview) My name is Paris and I am a grateful member of Al-anon . The past few weeks I've really been leaning on my HP, and he is guiding me in the right direction. I have been going to many meetings, have talked with my sponsor, and been able to (mostly) control my reactions and take much better care of myself. AH has...	ParisMemories	2	327	Jul 5, 2013 by wornoutmrsfixit
	Self Pity ... (Preview) Last Nights topic at the Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG. Wish you all were there. It was a hummer and I am grateful for it cause HP kept prodding me on the important points to listen to with an open mind. It isn't only the poor me feelings. It can be and has been demonstrated thru anger and rage. I...	Jerry F	8	567	Jul 5, 2013 by canadianguy
	Small children (Preview) Hello again! Is there a hope that small kids will grow up normal without any dependencies and issues if one parent is normal? My kids are 6 and 8 now, I am starting to work on my co-dependency. We are still living with my AH and we have good times and sometimes my AH locks himself in the room for a few days and d...	Venera	15	939	Jul 5, 2013 by unsureoffuture
	I left but I hope for help for my AH (Preview) I left my AH a week and a half ago. It was more than the alcohol...but I still hope for him a chance at recovery. I understand that I cannot control what he does, it is not my responsibility. I don't want to coerce him into going to AA, but I do want to try to make it easier to reach out. I just don't know...I was...	sadsusie	12	526	Jul 5, 2013 by grateful2be
	The family disease. (Preview) Last August we moved from Vancouver Canada back to my home country of Sydney Australia. My qualifier is Canadian. This week my qualifier Husband has had a really bad eye infection. Turns out he has viral conjunctivitis. I have had a hard time showing him compassion because the way he carries on you wo...	sportychick	4	429	Jul 5, 2013 by sportychick
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