The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My name is Paris and I am a grateful member of Al-anon
. The past few weeks I've really been leaning on my HP, and he is guiding me in the right direction. I have been going to many meetings, have talked with my sponsor, and been able to (mostly) control my reactions and take much better care of myself. AH has calmed down, he is working his own recovery in his own way. I have finally set some firm boundaries, one is a very big one, I am letting him take responsibility for his financial mess. For a few days there I actually considered taking on part of his enormous debt - I do have a hard time letting go - then God stepped in and gave me a good shake. I finally broke down and spoke with an attorney through my employee assistance program. My close friends, counselor and sponsor have all been encouraging me to talk to a lawyer for months now, but I was so scared to make that call. But I did it and now I know what i have to do to protect myself, and our home. Yesterday, I spoke calmly with my husband, told him it didn't make sense to put our home at risk with another loan, and it didn't make sense for both of us to be in financial risk. He agreed and is going to do what he has to do to clean up his mess. I am proud of myself for having the courage to take care of me. I'm also proud of how I handled the discussion, with love and compassion, no yelling or cursing.
(((Paris))) So much strength and power in your share. Thank you for the first experience of good news this morning that I got to enjoy in reading your post.
