Am I going to have a great Sunday or not? - Al-Anon Family Group

Breakingfree · ~*Service Worker*~

Am I going to have a great Sunday or not?

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Keep it simple while sick. Just do what you have to do and spend the rest of the time resting taking care of yourself and recuperating. Going to work running a house taking care of kids is enough when not ill so take care of yourself. When I'm not feeling well, everything seems darker heavier and more burdensome.

grateful2be · ~*Service Worker*~

(((breakingfree))) Sorry you have a head cold. Glad you have a job. As far as the bank account - I've been through that, too. Trusting that I'd done my best and the rest was up to HP helped when debits were larger than credits and HP always came through. As to moping - well, worry was more my thing. I'd try not to worry, but then I'd worry about worrying. So, I'd set a time limit to worry. "Okay," I'd say, "You have five minutes to worry." This is no exaggeration. I'd sit in my rocker and rock and just let myself worry for five minutes. The timer would go off in my head or on my stove. I'd be done with it. I'd get up. I'd tend to my life. I don't need to set a timer anymore or sit in my rocker to rock, but do catch myself worrying from time to time and stop automatically by focusing on what is happening - not what could happen. You're dealing with some really hard stuff and if you can trust you have exactly the right amount of money for you TODAY, that may be all you need to help you "get perky" again?
Love to you, too, BF.

neshema2 · ~*Service Worker*~

pinkchip wrote:
Keep it simple while sick. Just do what you have to do and spend the rest of the time resting taking care of yourself and recuperating. Going to work running a house taking care of kids is enough when not ill so take care of yourself. When I'm not feeling well, everything seems darker heavier and more burdensome.

Oh yea, me too....I echo the above....when sick nothing looks "ok" to me, I focus on the negative b/c I feel so crappy...

Now if I get a cold or knocked down with the ptsd symptoms and the after affects of all those chemicals running amok through my system, I REST....do the absolute "only what I gotta do" and leave the rest

Take care and I would do a lot of vit. C, drink a ton of water and REST as much as I could.........sending you healing hugs

Cathyinaz · ~*Service Worker*~

You can keep it simple right now and not think to much... What's good is that it never lasts. Being in the dumps doesn't last unless we let it.

(((( BIG HUG )))))

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha Breaking...sometimes I do what an elder taught me years ago..."Go with it...Play it out until there's no more drama in in or tantrums to use and then...move on". I thought he was crazy and then he told me his sponsor taught him that and it worked for him so two guys that "play it out until there's no more energy in it couldn't be all wrong". I get into funky and play it or over play it until I start laughing and looking for an Oscar, then I'm done. Have a great Sunday. Bring your best Breaking onto the stage!! (((((hugs))))) smile

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

ok here goes; Pigs who got to parties always seem to like it lots, they brush their tails and curl them up into twisty little knots, they wear their party dresses, dressed in pink and purple spotsssss they're gonna dance the piggy polka so they dress in polka dots!!!

Oh the pig and the chicken and the dog and the duck and the cat and the rooster took a ride in a truck, a dumptruck a bumpity bump truck....they went up past the meadow, then passed the mill, sped thru the valley then went up up up up overrrrrrr the hill.

Well they stopped and the driver said its time to unload... so he dumped everybody on the side of the road.. they were happy as they cried what a happy slippy slide there is nothing like a ride in a dumptruck!!!

Feel better now?? I could come sing to you!I always sing for new scared piggies. they hate it. lol I feel like death right now sweetie, we all have some stupid rock we carry. Health, lack of affection, lonely, overwhelmed, bored, sleepy, and on and on. Its freaking hard to focus away.

So today I am doing the steps, feeding, cleaning, resting, reading doing it all even though there is no smile or joy. I know it will come back. for now I feel like poop.

Some days being with out him is not ok. some times doc news is not good. some times my 14 year old cat being so ill is sorta horrible. then a stupid tiny ant bit me!

Remember Beetle juice when that couple is in hell and this guy is hung up on this sing and taken around? He got ran over by a big truck...He said,"How do I look? I am feeling a little flat." um that would be me.....hugs honey come over and we can go swimming and drown each other! lol hugs again

likemyheart · ~*Service Worker*~

When my ex was still communicating with me, I dreaded opening emails from him because I never knew what they were going to say and when they were of the negative variety, they would put a damper (or worse) on my day. Heck, even the innocuous ones would threaten to put me in a funk because I'd think, how can he write to me like none of the nastiness between us has happened?

Whiny McWhiner, I like that! Grateful's 5 minute idea is good; in the tv show Lost the head character talks about giving the fear to the count of five, letting himself be afraid, then getting back to getting the job done. Be good to yourself, the funk will pass.

Lyne · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes my Sunday took a nose dive as well. Started out OK-far from happy or content but it was OK. One call from my sister-in-law brought this big, dark, cloud. However, I had a talk with myself. I can let this one call ruin my entire day, or I can let it go (my sponsor is helping me with) and go back to being OK. I felt crappy for about a half hour and then I remembered Step 1, that I need to detach, and let go of stuff, and so except for that brief time, I've been OK today and tonight. You know, when you are used to feeling awful most of the time, it is a really hard habit to change. It's like feeling bad is the default setting and we have to figure out how to press that other button. We can do it! Lyne

yanksfan51 · ~*Service Worker*~

Breaking:

Am seeing this in the evening so I truly hope your Sunday got better and better as the day went on! I echo a few of the posts that sometimes the most helpful thing is a little mental talk with myself to assess what is happening. I like that idea of giving permission to fret about something for a finite set of time; it has seemed to me that those negative feelings can really grow when it's about fighting the bad feelings, trying to make them go away. A long time ago one of my sisters listened to me whine on an on about a breakup (ironically this was in the early stages of my courtship with my future ex-husband!!) and she told me, 'why fight feeling sad? just feel it; it's normal and it will pass'. That gave me a sense of relief and I have thought about that a lot through the years.

We're all in it with you!

YF

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Hugs BF,

A - Z gratitude list makes me feel a LOT better when I am focusing on the negative. If I catch myself really there which I have been recently .. 5 things when I get up and 5 things when I go to bed that I have to be grateful for .. it really does work.

Hugs P :)

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