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Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

so, i havent been on the boards lately to post, but ive been reading. so much of what we post and share out speaks volumes as to the depth this disease can go to do harm. ive returned back to work after the summer break onky to be crazy busy and tired and yes, raising a child and living with an active alcoholic...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

My quick must share beautiful moment son had regarding serenity having been an alcoholic and an addict for nearly half of his life he finally made it to rehab nearly two years ago now and is studying to be a counselor, kid you not well he finally got a job in a rehab while he finishes his sc...

neshema2 · neshema2

gotta Laugh at this one......Cousin arrived in town Tues......Haven't heard from her until todayshe slept all day Wed....Understandable....tiredyesterday she checked up on her rental house in my town....tenents are leaving and behind on rent.....understandable, I would want to be on top of t...

neshema2 · neshema2

Well this past 2 nights I have been working step 7.......asking creator, Great Spirit to remove this awful defect of mine called ill will, resentment and anger towards a LIST of folksI have been angry at Creator for not helping me meet my needs better.....even tho I believe creator only works in the sp...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Recently my sister-in-law lost her mother. I really don't know what to say to her or my brother. It is awful to not be there & help her through this. She is such a sweet soul. Her mom was a gem. I am stuck in shock even though we knew this was coming. Her mom has been sick & in the hospital numerous time...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I have to say that I really like the advantages of that. I just included my brother in a response to someone's post and vallah after three months of not hearing a peep from him, he texts me bright and early this morning shortly after I posted here. I'm sad at the condition of our relationship but glad to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Just recently got home from introducing the program to the families of clients of a local rehab and of course to the counseling staff. My partner in it is a member who has recent time and the willingness to grow and experience as a teacher. If you have never ever intoduced the program to a whole bunch...

gofred123 · gofred123

I received many nice responses from my post and left my last statement that I was going to support my wife in any decision she decides to follow. Well I have. I retuned to aa to continue the 12-steps program, have come to some peace with my self in supporting my wife's recovery that will continue in anoth...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

When you walk through a storm hold your head up high And don't be afraid of the dark. At the end of a storm is a golden sky And the sweet silver song of a lark. Walk on through the wind, Walk on through the rain, Tho' your dreams be tossed and blown. Walk on, walk on with hope in your heart And you'll nev...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I want to start by saying I am grateful for MIP being here for me For some reason I have no ESH for myself or anyone else right now. I'm like frozen in time. I'm not sad but I'm not happy. Not sure if it's fear or worry. I'm just not myself. I think about what is going on and I do think it might be because I w...

sweeetr · sweeetr

Ive been praying about my daughter (23yrs old) being attracted to the same alcoholic/addict type ppl I have all my yrs... Her dad (my ex ) is a A and my current husband is a A. Im stepping back and trying to let her learn for own self. Shes def is learning the hard way. And Her grandma spoke with me about us be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Courage to Change has been a helpful part of my recovery. I have a really bad memory but I know today's reading is a good one. I will probably read it again because I tend to forget almost every thing I read that can be important. Sometimes I would rather read light reading because I am in the moment & do...

rehprof · rehprof

You know you are codependent when you feel guilty driving by a hitchhiker. ..

abusedwife · abusedwife

I have been with my husband for over 8 years. When I finally agreed to marry him it was truly because I was pregnant. We are from a small town and the Lord forbid if we weren't married or if he was going to have a child born based on the help of the system. Things were really great for the duration of the pre...

tortuga · tortuga

.... or so I am thinking right now. that's the deep source of most of my issues with life. The A is just one trigger that pushed this to the limit and this pointed it out to me. But the problem is mine I have to admit. FOCUS. what a small word with such big importance. What brought since i can remember diffic...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

Just am lonely tonight. Doesn't matter who I'm around yet as I type this I realize right now that with other alanon members, the lonliness is much more bearable .. Had an epiphany though and recognizing this is truly part of my own personal acceptance process .. darkest before dawn as usual .. Would li...

neshema2 · neshema2

Daughter #2 tried me AGAIN!!! ....I told you all about the "dinner" she stood me up on about 2-3 weeks ago and didn't even apologize for it and that it was something she INSISTED upon....a "mom and daughter dinner" HER idea...And she pulled the head games on me again, ...and h...

Heronbeach · Heronbeach

My BF is an alcoholic/addict. Right now he is using but had a 5 month sober period. He says I'm never happy, even when he was sober he says I was never satisfied. Is this uncommon? I feel as though he may be right....he is drinking and using I'm enraged. If he is sober then I always figure he will mess it up any...

lonelygirl101 · lonelygirl101

Im a 23 yr old singe mom who grew up with an alcoholic for a mother and an absent father. I was put into the CYS at the age of 12 and stayed there till i was 18. My mother passed away 2 years ago in feb and now i am struggling with more issues than i ever had while she was alive. I am now a 23 yr old single mom who is ha...

Peggy7 · Peggy7

Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace. The hearts of a great many have already been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict...

Baffledinva · Baffledinva

First thanks for reading as I can't wrap my head around something. Been dating/engaged to a woman on and off for 3 years. She is 44 y/o with Alc and Cocaine Addiction. Been through many treatments. Longest sober is 90 days ( for last 6-7 years). Anyway I have been supporting her, she lived with me till she...

dori711 · dori711

He never quit drinking, but he cut down a bit or maybe not. I thought I had mastered the step to not nag him about his drinking and I haven't been. Sometimes I cry silently, but say nothing. The problem that I am having a hard time with is his temper. Usually he loses it with me. We use to work as a te...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everyone: Every once in a while, I take a look at the 'diary' of old posts and private messages since HP directed me hear in 2012. It is helpful for me to see where I was, the journey, where things are at now and through all of it....all of you. I wanted to take a few moments to just express gratitude for a...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the worldwide fellowship of al-anon. There is a young lady that I have befriended in the fellowship that I have began to take an interest in. She is the daughter of another member. We've been talking over the last few weeks and I got her phone...

deacon · deacon

Where can I find that posting? I am great at setting boundaries but maybe not so good at keeping them. I am wondering if it is a learned skill or if I have the wrong idea of what a boundary is. Thanks.

Aloha · Aloha

I thought it important to bring this day's reading up because more often than not, there are members who are under the circumstances of being faced with physical violence. Today's reading is very poignant and I realize for me it must be taken to heart should I find myself under similar circumstances e...

Gaby · Gaby

This maybe to soon for me thinking. But as most of you know my son (by choice) admitted himself in a Christian Base Recovery House. I am very proud and support him on his sobriety. We talked today and there I am hearing myself say to him " I have fears " well I can hear his fustration because he say...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

So lately I have been trying to focus on me. Leave it in HP hands. No snooping, no asking questions just moment to moment. Last night I was carrying my 13 month old around at bedtime and my A gave her his cell phone to play with. She was pressing buttons and up popped a fb msg from A to this girl he had an affair w...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Very grateful right now. There was just an incident in my building in which a young man got stuck in an elevator. It was a new elevator that was just put in, and it got stuck. I began to hear some ringing of the emergency bell and some ye...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Guys I have been pretty grounded this week. Yes I know because my son is safe in rehab but still I think I'm doing OK. So much OK that I had to stop and get my car serviced with a oil change. While I was waiting I get a text from a friend and she asked if I would stop by for a little while. I usually just go ho...

karma13 · karma13

I cross posted this on the other list I'm on so if you see this twice, ignore :) So I have a close friend at work that I trusted, obviously I should not have trusted her..but my higher power puts people in my life to learn a lesson. Long story short, she decided to tell my boss on Friday that I don't do my job wel...

phoenixmagicgirl · phoenixmagicgirl

My AM continues to drink daily. It's an on going battle to sit back and do nothing until she wants to take that 1st Step. I just talked with her and told her how much it hurts us to see her go through this..just existing not really living...how we're here to support her but until she hits her rock bottom and a...

Milehi-tlc · Milehi-tlc

First time posting but long time lurker. I want to thank all the posters here for their shares. It has helped me more than I can say. Last year my husband of 30 years started drinking again after 20, or so, being dry without a program. All the abusive behaviors returned And he started hanging out at th...

FAITH1988 · FAITH1988

Hi everyone, I have not been on the board for awhile. Retreat week end of July at son's rehab an eye opener. AS is doing good, has returned to his work who paid for rehab (God Bless Them) and enrolled back at the university ( employer pays for that too) and still goes to intensive outpatient 2 nights a week a...

qwerty49 · qwerty49

Okay so received a text from my alcoholic mother saying 'I'm going to bed now to have a stroke, thanks daughter'.... I had a panic attack & it upset me so much.. & next day i received another text 'If i'm to come to Cornwall I have to come tomorrow, because i have to be back'. I told her i was upset abo...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Had an awareness as to what some of my problem was last week. I wasn't feeling right with meetings because my focus got off track. It's so wonderful to have this program because I learn so much more awareness of my own issues and where things stem from, where my unhappiness comes from, and now I'm learn...

islandtime · islandtime

You know when it's been quiet, And you are lulled into a false sense of "maybe this isn't so bad", something's gonna hit the fan. So here's last night. I stay in the den at night, have become quite content to be by myself, comfy and cozy. With a kitty or two. On the laptop or watching TV. Th...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

This past week I was very happy to start back at square one. I truly understand now that I need to focus on myself and my own recovery. The last 2 months have been hell, even worse than all the months leading up to this past July. The reason I feel this way is that I've finally had to swallow the knots in my thro...

joker · joker

It's been 4 months now since I have seen my alcoholic ex-bf, that was violent toward me. He remains in jail for abusing me. I am today, so grateful to be free of the insanity. I am now living alone and loving each day and I feel no sense of lonlyiness. Is that normal? I do not feel the need for another relation...

neshema2 · neshema2

I had the greatest talk w/my cousin who is my favorite of all relatives....she rates up there , maybe even more than my A brothers whom I love.........She and I grew up together....the respite i got from my hell was at her house w/her parents....we are fraternal cousins and very close in age.... we play...

NoTactician · NoTactician

Hi there I am new to this board, so I hope it's ok if I just jump in. My husband is currently passed out in our bed. He phoned me after work and asked me to come and meet him downtown... I did, and he was sitting at a bus stop, pretty drunk, and looking so sad it broke my heart. I managed to drag him home (the most mo...

gofred123 · gofred123

I have been sober for 6 months, 14 days, 23 1/2 hours and feel I have listened to every aspect of what I did not achieve in the marriage prior to my dry date. I have and continue addressing each aspect and have made changes and advancement in each category and there have been times when things seemed to be...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am frustrated a bit. Actually this time of year we have our annual Al anon speaker cruise on the lake. It is a boat that has a lot of space below. I guess I might be over-reacting a bit. I am just under a little stress. I couldn't find the shoes I was looking for to wear today. I guess I am being a bit silly about...

Rose50 · Rose50

I last had contact with my son on Monday via text. He said he was doing good and that maybe we could have lunch the following day. Per his words, it would finally be his treat. Well he didn't call on Tuesday and I haven't heard from him since. I sent him a text today...no response. He either relapsed again or...

Heronbeach · Heronbeach

My boyfriend is smart, well educated, and a crack addict. How do I deal with this? He moved out two weeks ago, got his own place and has been on a couple benders since. He will drink and automatically want to get high. I feel like I don't even know this person who goes downtown Seattle to buy crack from shady...

el-cee · el-cee

I have messed up once again concerning my son and I's relationship. To recap - I asked my 20yr old son to leave the home on February this year which he did do - fast forward past the fear, worry, guilt then acceptance, a bit of peace and building bridges (mixed with a bit of enabling). During the summer I le...

Ness · Ness

1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing - that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was no power greater than ourselves and the rest of the world was insane. 3. Made a decision to have our loved ones and friends turn their wills a...

Lyne · Lyne

A really cool thing about my alanon brain is that there is a link I can click on that takes me right to HP! Have a great day everyone, Lyne

sportychick · sportychick

I have shared on here before about my relationship with my mother. My mother is an untreated Adult child of an Alcoholic. My husband and I with our 3 year old son are currently living back at my parents place and hope to purchase our first home together in the New year. I am grateful for my parents for allow...

Heronbeach · Heronbeach

I have broken up with my boyfriend of about a year and a half. The breakup was mutual, but hard for both us. He is an alcoholic/addict. He will be sober for certain amounts of time, then it all goes downhill and he'll go on these benders, which can even lead into crack binges. It always ends with him crying a...

Lyne · Lyne

When my alanon brain is kicked in I have all the healthy tools I will ever need, to survive the harsh world in good form. When I slip back, which I know will happen from time to time, I wonder how I have made it this long getting thrown around by life and people. I bet that folks that learn from Alanon befo...

neshema2 · neshema2

I have been promising miss pittie/lab a new playmate and I have been wanting a baby again in the house to play with and train and a companion pet for me and for miss pittielab as the old lab that I rescued is not gonna be around that much longer I decided to put my depression over lack of work aside and save a li...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Hi everyone. I have an issue and would like your ESH today. For those that have followed my posts, you know that my AH has been up and down, back and forth in recovery. He is now just about a month sober. I am very proud of him. He is going to AA meetings. His actions have changed, he is more open, more honest, m...

sweeetr · sweeetr

So yesterday evening after my AH worked a 12 hour day. Picked up our mower brought to my daughters house and started mowing. My daughter picked up all the dog stuff outside and waved at him. The ABF and his buddy stayed in the house the full two hours it took to mow 1/2 the yard since he had to mow one high set...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi-So I had a rough couple days with my A, mostly Sun.-Tues. Old hurts came back, obsessive thinking, re-living painful things that were done to me. But I released it in my F2F meeting last night, and somehow today I am not as distraught. But what I realized is that even though I took a step back, I beli...

el-cee · el-cee

I have been popping in and out again after a bit of a break but tonight I read over some of my own old posts from almost 1 year ago. The people on this forum are so special and I had forgot that. When I was low or down or crazy the wise words from the people here really helped me. I have been having a bit of a crisis...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

I know I must make the right choices for myself and my children when the time comes. I am not supposed to worry about what has not yet happened. My gut is telling me though I know my A has not hit rock bottom yet. I will have to stand aside and watch. I ask my HP for strength so that I may be strong enough and wise e...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

This has been a week of surprises I been on the good girl list . I'm appeasing my spouse I been in my new bedroom where I no I belong right now. I trying my best to get thru every day . I'm gonna keep this short . I'm scared . I went out to the book store tonight and was not home when husband came home from work . I did...

debhud · debhud

today is so beautiful outside. thinking about my AS and all of the things we used to do before he become so acutely ill with alcoholism. we used to hang out and laugh so hard. he is one of the funniest people i ever met in my life. and we used to talk and share so much. and go to the lake and have just the bes...

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	just needing to connect (Preview) so, i havent been on the boards lately to post, but ive been reading. so much of what we post and share out speaks volumes as to the depth this disease can go to do harm. ive returned back to work after the summer break onky to be crazy busy and tired and yes, raising a child and living with an active alcoholic...	Theoceancalls	3	423	Oct 4, 2013 by pinkchip
	Serenity Moment (Preview) My quick must share beautiful moment son had regarding serenity having been an alcoholic and an addict for nearly half of his life he finally made it to rehab nearly two years ago now and is studying to be a counselor, kid you not well he finally got a job in a rehab while he finishes his sc...	Peggy7	6	466	Oct 4, 2013 by Rose50
	Well HELLOOO Detachment and ZERO expectations, I am SO glad U R here!!!!!! (Preview) gotta Laugh at this one......Cousin arrived in town Tues......Haven't heard from her until todayshe slept all day Wed....Understandable....tiredyesterday she checked up on her rental house in my town....tenents are leaving and behind on rent.....understandable, I would want to be on top of t...	neshema2	8	635	Oct 4, 2013 by neshema2
	STEP 7....CLEANSE me of these unwanted feelings PLEASE!!! (Preview) Well this past 2 nights I have been working step 7.......asking creator, Great Spirit to remove this awful defect of mine called ill will, resentment and anger towards a LIST of folksI have been angry at Creator for not helping me meet my needs better.....even tho I believe creator only works in the sp...	neshema2	10	530	Oct 4, 2013 by neshema2
	letting go... (Preview) Recently my sister-in-law lost her mother. I really don't know what to say to her or my brother. It is awful to not be there & help her through this. She is such a sweet soul. Her mom was a gem. I am stuck in shock even though we knew this was coming. Her mom has been sick & in the hospital numerous time...	Hoot Nanny	1	257	Oct 4, 2013 by Jerry F
	The Awakening (Preview) A time comes in your life when you finally get it... when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your...	Peggy7	7	633	Oct 4, 2013 by tortuga
	Loving at a distance (Preview) I have to say that I really like the advantages of that. I just included my brother in a response to someone's post and vallah after three months of not hearing a peep from him, he texts me bright and early this morning shortly after I posted here. I'm sad at the condition of our relationship but glad to...	tiredtonite	5	611	Oct 3, 2013 by neshema2
	Service... (Preview) Just recently got home from introducing the program to the families of clients of a local rehab and of course to the counseling staff. My partner in it is a member who has recent time and the willingness to grow and experience as a teacher. If you have never ever intoduced the program to a whole bunch...	Jerry F	4	321	Oct 3, 2013 by Tasha
	Posted a question 3-days ago and here is my follow-up, am I right (Preview) I received many nice responses from my post and left my last statement that I was going to support my wife in any decision she decides to follow. Well I have. I retuned to aa to continue the 12-steps program, have come to some peace with my self in supporting my wife's recovery that will continue in anoth...	gofred123	7	840	Oct 3, 2013 by maryjane
	You'll never be alone (Preview) When you walk through a storm hold your head up high And don't be afraid of the dark. At the end of a storm is a golden sky And the sweet silver song of a lark. Walk on through the wind, Walk on through the rain, Tho' your dreams be tossed and blown. Walk on, walk on with hope in your heart And you'll nev...	Mari1978	4	549	Oct 3, 2013 by Jerry F
	Good Morning (Preview) I want to start by saying I am grateful for MIP being here for me For some reason I have no ESH for myself or anyone else right now. I'm like frozen in time. I'm not sad but I'm not happy. Not sure if it's fear or worry. I'm just not myself. I think about what is going on and I do think it might be because I w...	Cathyinaz	6	448	Oct 2, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	DID I HANDLE THIS RIGHT ?? re: my adult daughter (Preview) Ive been praying about my daughter (23yrs old) being attracted to the same alcoholic/addict type ppl I have all my yrs... Her dad (my ex ) is a A and my current husband is a A. Im stepping back and trying to let her learn for own self. Shes def is learning the hard way. And Her grandma spoke with me about us be...	sweeetr	6	644	Oct 2, 2013 by Jen
	C2C (Preview) Courage to Change has been a helpful part of my recovery. I have a really bad memory but I know today's reading is a good one. I will probably read it again because I tend to forget almost every thing I read that can be important. Sometimes I would rather read light reading because I am in the moment & do...	Hoot Nanny	2	467	Oct 2, 2013 by Jen
	a sign of codependence... (Preview) You know you are codependent when you feel guilty driving by a hitchhiker. ..	rehprof	9	478	Oct 2, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	GAl (Guardian ad Litem) lack of Chemical Dependency Knowledge and Self Assessed Alcohol Evaluation (Preview) I have been with my husband for over 8 years. When I finally agreed to marry him it was truly because I was pregnant. We are from a small town and the Lord forbid if we weren't married or if he was going to have a child born based on the help of the system. Things were really great for the duration of the pre...	abusedwife	4	517	Oct 2, 2013 by abbyalana
	the key to serenity is focus... (Preview) .... or so I am thinking right now. that's the deep source of most of my issues with life. The A is just one trigger that pushed this to the limit and this pointed it out to me. But the problem is mine I have to admit. FOCUS. what a small word with such big importance. What brought since i can remember diffic...	tortuga	5	464	Oct 2, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	So .. Angry God ? tired tonight .. (Preview) Just am lonely tonight. Doesn't matter who I'm around yet as I type this I realize right now that with other alanon members, the lonliness is much more bearable .. Had an epiphany though and recognizing this is truly part of my own personal acceptance process .. darkest before dawn as usual .. Would li...	MeTwo2	9	491	Oct 2, 2013 by Mari1978
	A good breakthrough in boundaries and detachment (Preview) Daughter #2 tried me AGAIN!!! ....I told you all about the "dinner" she stood me up on about 2-3 weeks ago and didn't even apologize for it and that it was something she INSISTED upon....a "mom and daughter dinner" HER idea...And she pulled the head games on me again, ...and h...	neshema2	8	442	Oct 2, 2013 by Ness
	Sober or not, he says I'm never satisfied. (Preview) My BF is an alcoholic/addict. Right now he is using but had a 5 month sober period. He says I'm never happy, even when he was sober he says I was never satisfied. Is this uncommon? I feel as though he may be right....he is drinking and using I'm enraged. If he is sober then I always figure he will mess it up any...	Heronbeach	24	903	Oct 2, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Hey (Preview) Im a 23 yr old singe mom who grew up with an alcoholic for a mother and an absent father. I was put into the CYS at the age of 12 and stayed there till i was 18. My mother passed away 2 years ago in feb and now i am struggling with more issues than i ever had while she was alive. I am now a 23 yr old single mom who is ha...	lonelygirl101	2	352	Oct 2, 2013 by hotrod
	Signs and Symptoms of Inner Peace (Preview) Be on the lookout for symptoms of inner peace. The hearts of a great many have already been exposed to inner peace and it is possible that people everywhere could come down with it in epidemic proportions. This could pose a serious threat to what has, up to now, been a fairly stable condition of conflict...	Peggy7	7	506	Oct 2, 2013 by grateful2be
	I just can't wrap my head around it (Preview) First thanks for reading as I can't wrap my head around something. Been dating/engaged to a woman on and off for 3 years. She is 44 y/o with Alc and Cocaine Addiction. Been through many treatments. Longest sober is 90 days ( for last 6-7 years). Anyway I have been supporting her, she lived with me till she...	Baffledinva	10	573	Oct 1, 2013 by Peggy7
	Again. (Preview) He never quit drinking, but he cut down a bit or maybe not. I thought I had mastered the step to not nag him about his drinking and I haven't been. Sometimes I cry silently, but say nothing. The problem that I am having a hard time with is his temper. Usually he loses it with me. We use to work as a te...	dori711	10	614	Oct 1, 2013 by Tasha
	thank you all MIP family (Preview) Hi Everyone: Every once in a while, I take a look at the 'diary' of old posts and private messages since HP directed me hear in 2012. It is helpful for me to see where I was, the journey, where things are at now and through all of it....all of you. I wanted to take a few moments to just express gratitude for a...	yanksfan51	10	510	Oct 1, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Dating in the fellowhip (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the worldwide fellowship of al-anon. There is a young lady that I have befriended in the fellowship that I have began to take an interest in. She is the daughter of another member. We've been talking over the last few weeks and I got her phone...	slogan_jim	16	646	Oct 1, 2013 by ilovedogs
	Neshema, in one of your posts you mentioned that John had a posting on boundaries (Preview) Where can I find that posting? I am great at setting boundaries but maybe not so good at keeping them. I am wondering if it is a learned skill or if I have the wrong idea of what a boundary is. Thanks.	deacon	3	664	Sep 30, 2013 by Mari1978
	Regarding violence: Sept. 29th's Courage to Change (Preview) I thought it important to bring this day's reading up because more often than not, there are members who are under the circumstances of being faced with physical violence. Today's reading is very poignant and I realize for me it must be taken to heart should I find myself under similar circumstances e...	Aloha	5	360	Sep 30, 2013 by neshema2
	FEAR FALSE-EVIDENCE -APPEAR -REAL (Preview) This maybe to soon for me thinking. But as most of you know my son (by choice) admitted himself in a Christian Base Recovery House. I am very proud and support him on his sobriety. We talked today and there I am hearing myself say to him " I have fears " well I can hear his fustration because he say...	Gaby	6	609	Sep 30, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Msg from my HP (Preview) So lately I have been trying to focus on me. Leave it in HP hands. No snooping, no asking questions just moment to moment. Last night I was carrying my 13 month old around at bedtime and my A gave her his cell phone to play with. She was pressing buttons and up popped a fb msg from A to this girl he had an affair w...	Mari1978	7	518	Sep 30, 2013 by Mari1978
	Intense situation, brought back feelings (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Very grateful right now. There was just an incident in my building in which a young man got stuck in an elevator. It was a new elevator that was just put in, and it got stuck. I began to hear some ringing of the emergency bell and some ye...	slogan_jim	10	759	Sep 30, 2013 by RunnerChick
	I did something I hadn't done in 5 years (Preview) Hi Guys I have been pretty grounded this week. Yes I know because my son is safe in rehab but still I think I'm doing OK. So much OK that I had to stop and get my car serviced with a oil change. While I was waiting I get a text from a friend and she asked if I would stop by for a little while. I usually just go ho...	Cathyinaz	11	577	Sep 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	esh? work situation (Preview) I cross posted this on the other list I'm on so if you see this twice, ignore :) So I have a close friend at work that I trusted, obviously I should not have trusted her..but my higher power puts people in my life to learn a lesson. Long story short, she decided to tell my boss on Friday that I don't do my job wel...	karma13	16	560	Sep 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	An update on my AM (Preview) My AM continues to drink daily. It's an on going battle to sit back and do nothing until she wants to take that 1st Step. I just talked with her and told her how much it hurts us to see her go through this..just existing not really living...how we're here to support her but until she hits her rock bottom and a...	phoenixmagicgirl	1	292	Sep 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	Getting Used To It (Preview) First time posting but long time lurker. I want to thank all the posters here for their shares. It has helped me more than I can say. Last year my husband of 30 years started drinking again after 20, or so, being dry without a program. All the abusive behaviors returned And he started hanging out at th...	Milehi-tlc	7	577	Sep 29, 2013 by grateful2be
	Son is now 125 days sober (Preview) Hi everyone, I have not been on the board for awhile. Retreat week end of July at son's rehab an eye opener. AS is doing good, has returned to his work who paid for rehab (God Bless Them) and enrolled back at the university ( employer pays for that too) and still goes to intensive outpatient 2 nights a week a...	FAITH1988	5	602	Sep 29, 2013 by phoenixmagicgirl
	Learning to not react is like sticking me with a hot rod and expecting me not to move or make a sound! (Preview) Okay so received a text from my alcoholic mother saying 'I'm going to bed now to have a stroke, thanks daughter'.... I had a panic attack & it upset me so much.. & next day i received another text 'If i'm to come to Cornwall I have to come tomorrow, because i have to be back'. I told her i was upset abo...	qwerty49	8	819	Sep 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	Jealousy and envy (Preview) Had an awareness as to what some of my problem was last week. I wasn't feeling right with meetings because my focus got off track. It's so wonderful to have this program because I learn so much more awareness of my own issues and where things stem from, where my unhappiness comes from, and now I'm learn...	ilovedogs	14	1101	Sep 29, 2013 by Melly1248
	it's only a matter of time ` (Preview) You know when it's been quiet, And you are lulled into a false sense of "maybe this isn't so bad", something's gonna hit the fan. So here's last night. I stay in the den at night, have become quite content to be by myself, comfy and cozy. With a kitty or two. On the laptop or watching TV. Th...	islandtime	8	520	Sep 29, 2013 by Melly1248
	Hope is gone... (Preview) This past week I was very happy to start back at square one. I truly understand now that I need to focus on myself and my own recovery. The last 2 months have been hell, even worse than all the months leading up to this past July. The reason I feel this way is that I've finally had to swallow the knots in my thro...	Raven Juniper	10	569	Sep 29, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	grateful (Preview) It's been 4 months now since I have seen my alcoholic ex-bf, that was violent toward me. He remains in jail for abusing me. I am today, so grateful to be free of the insanity. I am now living alone and loving each day and I feel no sense of lonlyiness. Is that normal? I do not feel the need for another relation...	joker	5	424	Sep 29, 2013 by Jerry F
	A LOVING and AWESOME amend (Preview) I had the greatest talk w/my cousin who is my favorite of all relatives....she rates up there , maybe even more than my A brothers whom I love.........She and I grew up together....the respite i got from my hell was at her house w/her parents....we are fraternal cousins and very close in age.... we play...	neshema2	4	470	Sep 29, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	bewildered newbie, help please? (Preview) Hi there I am new to this board, so I hope it's ok if I just jump in. My husband is currently passed out in our bed. He phoned me after work and asked me to come and meet him downtown... I did, and he was sitting at a bus stop, pretty drunk, and looking so sad it broke my heart. I managed to drag him home (the most mo...	NoTactician	11	576	Sep 28, 2013 by neshema2
	Need help in understanding my wifes lack of love and desire to leave marriage (Preview) I have been sober for 6 months, 14 days, 23 1/2 hours and feel I have listened to every aspect of what I did not achieve in the marriage prior to my dry date. I have and continue addressing each aspect and have made changes and advancement in each category and there have been times when things seemed to be...	gofred123	16	867	Sep 28, 2013 by Ms S
	rain might ruin the cruise! (Preview) I am frustrated a bit. Actually this time of year we have our annual Al anon speaker cruise on the lake. It is a boat that has a lot of space below. I guess I might be over-reacting a bit. I am just under a little stress. I couldn't find the shoes I was looking for to wear today. I guess I am being a bit silly about...	Hoot Nanny	1	348	Sep 28, 2013 by Bettina
	This is taking a toll on me (Preview) I last had contact with my son on Monday via text. He said he was doing good and that maybe we could have lunch the following day. Per his words, it would finally be his treat. Well he didn't call on Tuesday and I haven't heard from him since. I sent him a text today...no response. He either relapsed again or...	Rose50	17	773	Sep 28, 2013 by Rose50
	Dealing with alcohol/crack addiction (Preview) My boyfriend is smart, well educated, and a crack addict. How do I deal with this? He moved out two weeks ago, got his own place and has been on a couple benders since. He will drink and automatically want to get high. I feel like I don't even know this person who goes downtown Seattle to buy crack from shady...	Heronbeach	4	1275	Sep 28, 2013 by neshema2
	Son issues continued (Preview) I have messed up once again concerning my son and I's relationship. To recap - I asked my 20yr old son to leave the home on February this year which he did do - fast forward past the fear, worry, guilt then acceptance, a bit of peace and building bridges (mixed with a bit of enabling). During the summer I le...	el-cee	15	463	Sep 27, 2013 by grateful2be
	12 Steps of Pre-Programme (Preview) 1. We admitted we were powerless over nothing - that we could manage our lives perfectly and those of anyone else who would allow us. 2. Came to believe there was no power greater than ourselves and the rest of the world was insane. 3. Made a decision to have our loved ones and friends turn their wills a...	Ness	12	624	Sep 27, 2013 by qwerty49
	alanon brain con't (Preview) A really cool thing about my alanon brain is that there is a link I can click on that takes me right to HP! Have a great day everyone, Lyne	Lyne	2	299	Sep 27, 2013 by hotrod
	Hard time accepting my mother for who she is. (Preview) I have shared on here before about my relationship with my mother. My mother is an untreated Adult child of an Alcoholic. My husband and I with our 3 year old son are currently living back at my parents place and hope to purchase our first home together in the New year. I am grateful for my parents for allow...	sportychick	6	520	Sep 27, 2013 by qwerty49
	Going through a lot of grief right now. (Preview) I have broken up with my boyfriend of about a year and a half. The breakup was mutual, but hard for both us. He is an alcoholic/addict. He will be sober for certain amounts of time, then it all goes downhill and he'll go on these benders, which can even lead into crack binges. It always ends with him crying a...	Heronbeach	6	625	Sep 27, 2013 by grateful2be
	I love my alanon brain (Preview) When my alanon brain is kicked in I have all the healthy tools I will ever need, to survive the harsh world in good form. When I slip back, which I know will happen from time to time, I wonder how I have made it this long getting thrown around by life and people. I bet that folks that learn from Alanon befo...	Lyne	3	432	Sep 27, 2013 by Jerry F
	NEW BABY (Preview) I have been promising miss pittie/lab a new playmate and I have been wanting a baby again in the house to play with and train and a companion pet for me and for miss pittielab as the old lab that I rescued is not gonna be around that much longer I decided to put my depression over lack of work aside and save a li...	neshema2	10	395	Sep 27, 2013 by neshema2
	Dealing with Alcohol at Work (Preview) Hi everyone. I have an issue and would like your ESH today. For those that have followed my posts, you know that my AH has been up and down, back and forth in recovery. He is now just about a month sober. I am very proud of him. He is going to AA meetings. His actions have changed, he is more open, more honest, m...	ParisMemories	3	486	Sep 27, 2013 by hotrod
	Re: mom protection part 2 (Preview) So yesterday evening after my AH worked a 12 hour day. Picked up our mower brought to my daughters house and started mowing. My daughter picked up all the dog stuff outside and waved at him. The ABF and his buddy stayed in the house the full two hours it took to mow 1/2 the yard since he had to mow one high set...	sweeetr	6	872	Sep 26, 2013 by sweeetr
	keeping the faith (Preview) Hi-So I had a rough couple days with my A, mostly Sun.-Tues. Old hurts came back, obsessive thinking, re-living painful things that were done to me. But I released it in my F2F meeting last night, and somehow today I am not as distraught. But what I realized is that even though I took a step back, I beli...	Lyne	5	327	Sep 26, 2013 by el-cee
	Forgot what a great place this is!! (Preview) I have been popping in and out again after a bit of a break but tonight I read over some of my own old posts from almost 1 year ago. The people on this forum are so special and I had forgot that. When I was low or down or crazy the wise words from the people here really helped me. I have been having a bit of a crisis...	el-cee	9	504	Sep 25, 2013 by el-cee
	Realization (Preview) I know I must make the right choices for myself and my children when the time comes. I am not supposed to worry about what has not yet happened. My gut is telling me though I know my A has not hit rock bottom yet. I will have to stand aside and watch. I ask my HP for strength so that I may be strong enough and wise e...	Mari1978	3	492	Sep 25, 2013 by hotrod
	Something's wrong I sense it (Preview) This has been a week of surprises I been on the good girl list . I'm appeasing my spouse I been in my new bedroom where I no I belong right now. I trying my best to get thru every day . I'm gonna keep this short . I'm scared . I went out to the book store tonight and was not home when husband came home from work . I did...	Ms co-dependent	8	611	Sep 25, 2013 by Tasha
	i MISS my son! (Preview) today is so beautiful outside. thinking about my AS and all of the things we used to do before he become so acutely ill with alcoholism. we used to hang out and laugh so hard. he is one of the funniest people i ever met in my life. and we used to talk and share so much. and go to the lake and have just the bes...	debhud	7	567	Sep 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
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