Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

neshema2 · neshema2

Anthony de Mello told a story about an eagle... A man found an eagles nest w/an abandoned egg...he took that egg and put it in the chicken coop where the chickens were free roaming, but had their "nesting place" he put the egg in one of the nests and sure enough a loving fat hen began to lay on t...

mm830 · mm830

I just need a friend today. It's been about a month since I really started standing up for myself with the A and it actually got better, or so I thought. Last night we were supposed to celebrate Valentine's Day I get this beautiful card and dinner. Well dinner went terrible. He started getting angry with...

hopes314 · hopes314

I know marriages are not prefect with and without an alcoholic in the picture. I am going to see a lawyer to find out if I can survive on my own with 3 kids. I don't even have the money for the divorce. that does suck. I think I will have to wait until I get a job. Alnon does promise that we can be happy with the...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

He was out of the house, he called a friend of his and said he couldn't live anymore, he called me, sounded really drunk. He needed his sponsors number to get help. He said he just couldn't deal anymore, he would just jump off the hotel roof. I called police again. This time they got him to the crisis u...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

I've been guilty of freely offering my advice whether it's asked for or not. I really need to write WAIT on both hands:) That said, I would very much appreciate ESH from you all here. I feel that I am unable to fully work my recovery with the active ABF living here. His FOO is several states away and he has bu...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I'm sorry, I couldn't stop laughing when I saw this and I'm sure it reflects a lot of OUR prince charmings LOL

hotrod · hotrod

ESHhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56752460/step-12-alanon/

oldergal · oldergal

You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling, uplifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by def...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

For some reason, I've never received a valentines day gift, or card, or notice in the paper (I ALWAYS wanted one of those lol) and it's always made me just a little sad. Some silly teenage romantic notion that I have kept with me, I guess. Intellectually, I know it's silly, but emotionally, I have always...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

The lights have been flickering with the relationship I have and had with my Dad. He was Diagnosed bi-polar later in life I have tried to place all of the things in the past in a place of understanding. The kind where I realize I was a product of my raising. There is a wonderful outcome of knowing I can un lea...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I've had some HUGE clarity in the past 24 hours things I have been really struggling with just kind of fell away and I am extremely grateful for this new level of healing or whatever it is .. I like it! I had a little slip yesterday out of the blue I looked at the tramps divorce status .. I don't know why I did ....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone I'm writing this because I need help with me. It's not ( or maybe it is ) about my son or alcohol. I am getting sicker physically. I have COPD ( mild ) but it seems to be getting worse. I can't even walk across the room and pick up lint off the floor without getting out of breath. I can't take a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am lonesome and bored right now which can always get me into trouble. I have 4 classes, a part time job, my almost 16 year old at home, but am feeling like maybe it is time to look into the love life again. I have picked some doozies for sure. God is always in control and I try to follow His lead humbly. I am not...

messedupgirl · messedupgirl

I truly hate weekends !!! walking on pins and needles , "A" is hitching to find something to fight about !! How can anyone be that miserable , I hope work calls him today my coping as always been pick up and go, i go shopping, i go visit friends, today will go skidooing with my son.... why do i al...

abbyal · abbyal

When I log in it accepts my nick name and I enter the room , then the screen goes totally black . I can still get to the board no problem , any suggestions ?

hopes314 · hopes314

I just told my husband I am done and I give up. I can not handle the lying anymore. He was supposed to stop drinking since Nov. I found bottles in the trash. Oh here comes the lies. They were empty bottles from when he stopped drinking in Nov. Oh the excuses and the lies. Go protect your addiction. I know it...

jen_nipher · jen_nipher

I hate Valentines. It was again a day full of his childish behaviour, blaming me for everything possible. Did you know that I am not suppose to put myself first, kids second and then him last? Oh, my bad! Its my fault that we fought a few years ago which resulted in him being removed from the house for almos...

Summersun · Summersun

So happy valentines! My AH and I were supposed to enjoy dinner tonight at home with a movie. I made a dessert he loves etc etc. I knew he may be working late. But now he is really late home and isn't answering his phone. Nice! Anyway I only called him twice and won't try again. And have started dinner myself....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I had a scare. I get a call from my son. He is broke down on the freeway about 10 miles from me. What in this world is he doing down near me. I was mad. I went and got him off the freeway and got him and his car to my house. It comes down to he didn't put antifreeze OR water in it and it overheated. He lied to his f...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

For those of you following the sad saga of my AH (I was doing really good w/ detaching and had told him to stay away from home until he knew what to do with his life) They released him from the hospital and sent him home in a cab but gave him a dose of Xanax for good measure. He drove around the block and cra...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Yesterday I celebrated not only Valentine's day but my dad's birthday. He died in 2011. Anyhow, I started to cry a couple of times but I didn't break down. I was able to share a dessert w/ the people at the meeting in my dad's honor & was able to share where I was at at the meeting as well. That is all I have...

Kent · Kent

Hello all. I am not a frequent visitor to this board although I have posted here before, and I have found it to be a very warm and helpful environment. My wife and I have been having a very hard time in our marriage for almost a year now. I am a recovering alcoholic in AA with almost 4 years of sobriety, and...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Hello everyone, sending love and hugs out to you all today...and yesterday. ABF is getting worse every time, doing less and less. I understand what is going on but I admit it still smarts a little. In the past several months I've become very familiar with the phrase "going to the hardware store to...

messedupgirl · messedupgirl

I said i was going to share my story, it's not an easy one to share, but the reason I am so messedup , perfect handle name for me ... been married 18 years, "A" drinks and was a drinker when we met, .. i was concern and voiced it in the wrong way, told him if he did not control his drinking he would end u...

John · John

I have read a lot of post this morning regarding Valentines Day... everything from well wishes, to feelings of loneliness. I remember the first Valentines day card I got in school. I was in the second grade. She put it on my desk. And I immediately fell in love with her! LOL Then I discovered she gave...

Grace7 · Grace7

From the Al Anon Bookmark (My Favorite thing...I read daily!) Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today I will be happy. This assume...

Miamamamia · Miamamamia

It is obvious that my sister in law is losing herself to alcohol, when is it time to butt out ? When is it time to say something, do something, as it stands looks like friends and family have made calls to her doctor informing him of her state of mind, wanting to kill herself, the drinking , the use of illega...

lsng · lsng

What a great read! I feel a little less powerless, or, I recognize that I am not the only one who is powerless, and that makes me feel a little less powerless. I dont have to check up on her. I dont have to 'convince' her she abuses alcohol I can have compassion for her. I have to get myself better. As I've sa...

Grace7 · Grace7

It's that time again folks. High and low tide of the mind. (Quick A & P for those not familiar. Our bodies are roughly 90% water. The moon regulates and controls the tides of the ocean....impressive.) Now, just what kind of pulling does this have to do with our white and gray matter (our brains...

4kidsmama · 4kidsmama

After 30 years of drinking, my AH has been sober for a little over a year, with two minor set backs that I know of. I've been with him for six years and have been through hell and back. I've learned the hard way, through disappointment and heartache, not to believe most of what this man says. Wether it was th...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I had a bad night, lost control of myself...felt better the next morning. I ended up having an awesome day. This may not sound like fun but I got my guest bedroom back in order cleaning out the closet and straightening up my crafts. I got some tools and albeit unsuccessfully tried to fix a closet door. Cle...

mongowal · mongowal

My STBEX AH (we haven't even started the divorce process yet) got busted this weekend by my niece with another woman in another city. She took a picture and sends it to me. He spends no more than a couple hours with my daughter a week, but takes another woman to another town to wine and dine her and party....

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Happy Valentines Day my wonderful MIP family You are all my special valentine today and I love you so much. You bring me love, strength and the courage to continue to move forward and be happy.

jillybean1 · jillybean1

My AH is being released from the hospital on Valentine's Day, I told him his bags and stuff would be in his car and to leave. (How is that for timing?) UGH well, I don't know how it will go over, he has vowed not to go easily. I have posted a link to one of my favorite music videos, I hope you enjoy. http...

Tricia911 · Tricia911

http://www.americangreetings.com/ecards/valentines-day/bright-and-happy-valentine/pn/3278700

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

This holiday has always been a disappointment in my relationship with my AH. Back when we were first dating, he bought me beautiful amythest earrings. We were both drunk, wandering through the jewelry store, acting stupid, until the sales clerk asked, 'Are you buying something or what?' So he bough...

hopes314 · hopes314

Who am I who stays with someone that can't give give love back. Who is nasty, mean, and argues with me. If i am the only one who is responsible I must think i do not deserve someone kind and loving. He is plowing the driveway at 7am because he has to get his alcohol. There is no love for valentines. I am bea...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Pointless vent. Sorry

-- Edited by Melly1248 on Wednesday 12th of February 2014 12:58:00 PM

Miamamamia · Miamamamia

Why is it that we are responsible for our own choices and can only control ourselves , when the choices we make are often base on the actions of our A or others in our lives ? The choices I have to make I would not have to make them if the people in my life would not be such *&^*^*( !!!!!! I should be the one d...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

HI I'm home and thinking today...... maybe thinking too much LOL I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer but in my simple world I do my hardest to try and change me. When I first came to Al-anon I thought I had to be so strong that nothing would faze me after a while. Boy was I wrong. I don't care who you ar...

ladee · ladee

I am new to alanon, but not new to 12 steps.. I am a recovering A with 29 years sober....my son,43, is the practicing A.... I finally, finally finally, after much hard work have gone no contact with him.... He has no reason to believe I meant it this time, as we have been here before....but this time the sur...

Miamamamia · Miamamamia

As I go through my journey, I find myself searching , reading, learning , today I came across this poem , and thought it would be okay to share it here with everyone ,,, the author is unknown if anyone knows who that would be great !! Letting go To let go doesn't mean to stop caring; It means I can't do it for...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have some big decisions to make and I have received an offer from his atty .. so we will see what is what as far as things go. I have a meeting with my new replacement atty next week and I just want to be settled and KNOW what it is that I want and so on. His offer is making me feel that he is smacking of desperat...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

I use to say that all the time what about me I deserve to be happy why can't I find some one to follow me and pick up my pity. Well I don't no how I wake up every day and only think about the day I'm living . I rather be a day behind then a day ahead wonder what is tomorrow going to be like . My saying would be if some on...

jen_nipher · jen_nipher

My goodness! I told my AH that I was going back to Al-Anon meetings. I realize of course that I didnt have to tell him, however the day that the meetings happen is also the day my kids take part in an afterschool program, and basically I would have enough time to drop them off at home then off to the meeting. T...

Gaby · Gaby

Just when I thought my son was doing ok again here he goes again. Sure he feels bad as the other many times prior. I have gotten involved with so many people and attended many other meetings. But why do I allow his addiction consume my life. I can not get a grip on this thing call tough love and take care of me....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

My husband has been sober for almost two years until Jan 30, he went missing for two days and not came home, or call because he was drinking at another guys house who also is a AA. The wife of his AA buddy does not care if her husband drinks every day and enables him and drives her husband around when he is drun...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hey MIP My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Growing up in an alcoholic home, and seeing what those around me had and were capable of, I grew up with some very unrealistic expectations of myself and my limitations. I grew up in a home where I simply didn't have the resources or the in...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

Tuesday night when I came home from my Al Anon meeting I found my husband passed out on the bathroom floor. I left him there. Tonight, when I got home, we actually did end up having 'the talk'. I didn't mean to, it just happened. I told him flat out that he was losing me. I told him that, while I couldn't...

lsng · lsng

I have come to realize that I have made my wife my higher power'. This has been an ongoing revelation, but it all sort of came together last night... Been keeping a journal of my thoughts 26 years (holy crap!! that long??!). I was reading through them last night, and its pretty clear I have a pattern of bei...

lsng · lsng

If I suspect drinking, do I say something? For example, while talking to my W on the phone tonight, I suspected she might have been buzzed at least. Since Ive already made it clear that I think she abuses alcohol and needs to stop, do I say something? If only to let her know that *I* know? What about when we...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Long story...well not short exactly... AH slowed his drinking down...we were happier...for some reason we decided to get a dog. Awesome awesome puppy, but she still changes the dynamic and the routine and created an enourmous amount of stress for him. Besides regular puppy stuff, we just redid our...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My AH is driving me crazy!!! My family is visiting and we stopped at a tea shop last night to check things out and my stepfather decided to order some tea so we sat at a table to drink a pot. My mother pulls out a food bar and eats it while we sit there. My AH leans over and says(in a not very nice way), "Y...

MorningGlory · MorningGlory

Today I was cleaning the fish tank and thinking why am I cleaning the stupid fish tank? Let me backup, last spring I went to a carnival. I played the game where you toss ping pong balls and try to sink the ball into a glass to win a fish. I won 3 goldfish. We didn't have a fish tank and I had no clue how to care for...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Well, the saga continues, I went to a funeral today for a friend, came home, asked my AH if he would like me to heat up some lunch for the both of us, he says no thanks, I ate already-- hands me a half empty bottle of prescription drugs. (on top of the only God knows how much wine he drank already). Says sin...

el-cee · el-cee

This family disease of ours has upped a gear, it has escalated until I am once again living with and in chaos and despair. I feel sorry for myself, why do I have to live this all over again, its never actually left my life, this god dam illness. My son who, it is becoming more and more apparent, has been stayi...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

I hadn't planned on doing anything tonight, but AH is acting...weird. Didn't got to work, laying in bed all day, throwing himself a pity party. Whatever. Gotta take care of me, getting out of the house sounds good, and there's a newcomer meeting tonight. Sounds like it's all lined up just right. ...

david62 · david62

Howdy yall, I heard this on the radio this morning. It is an old song I have heard many times..but like many songs, I don't pay too much attention the meaning of the lyrics. I listened and just had to laugh. This was most definitely my theme song 10 years ago prior to my coming to Al-Anon. David Ball : Thinki...

hopes314 · hopes314

I am going to a lawyer. All this is so scary. I don't want this to be my life but it is too much. What is so hard is that I am hanging onto the person he used to be who was sweet loving kind? I truly love this person. I don't want to divorce but it is so unheathly for me on many levels. My kids do not deserve this at al...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

tonight i went and had a visit with someone i very much respect who walks a very spiritual path .. my daughter is 10. i normally don't ask advice .. i do really know noone can give me any, except she has no idea her dad ever had any sort of addiction to drugs and she has no idea he's back in prison and doing time ....

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	I used to be that eagle... (Preview) Anthony de Mello told a story about an eagle... A man found an eagles nest w/an abandoned egg...he took that egg and put it in the chicken coop where the chickens were free roaming, but had their "nesting place" he put the egg in one of the nests and sure enough a loving fat hen began to lay on t...	neshema2	6	486	Feb 17, 2014 by mm830
	Ugh (Preview) I just need a friend today. It's been about a month since I really started standing up for myself with the A and it actually got better, or so I thought. Last night we were supposed to celebrate Valentine's Day I get this beautiful card and dinner. Well dinner went terrible. He started getting angry with...	mm830	10	447	Feb 17, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	alnon long termer - seek wisdom (Preview) I know marriages are not prefect with and without an alcoholic in the picture. I am going to see a lawyer to find out if I can survive on my own with 3 kids. I don't even have the money for the divorce. that does suck. I think I will have to wait until I get a job. Alnon does promise that we can be happy with the...	hopes314	11	618	Feb 17, 2014 by jillybean1
	He is having a mental crisis and I AM GOING INSANE? (Preview) He was out of the house, he called a friend of his and said he couldn't live anymore, he called me, sounded really drunk. He needed his sponsors number to get help. He said he just couldn't deal anymore, he would just jump off the hotel roof. I called police again. This time they got him to the crisis u...	jillybean1	8	542	Feb 17, 2014 by jillybean1
	Armchair Quarterback in need of ESH (Preview) I've been guilty of freely offering my advice whether it's asked for or not. I really need to write WAIT on both hands:) That said, I would very much appreciate ESH from you all here. I feel that I am unable to fully work my recovery with the active ABF living here. His FOO is several states away and he has bu...	Raven Juniper	7	512	Feb 17, 2014 by Debilyn
	Prince Charming in MY reality :-D (Preview) I'm sorry, I couldn't stop laughing when I saw this and I'm sure it reflects a lot of OUR prince charmings LOL	Melly1248	7	512	Feb 16, 2014 by Debilyn
	12 STEP POSTED TO THE STEP WORK BOARD (Preview) ESHhttp://stepwork.activeboard.com/t56752460/step-12-alanon/	hotrod	0	247	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	Your Mind Is Like A Garden (Preview) You are always free to choose the content of your thoughts and the direction of your life. The one thing over which you have complete control is your inner life and your thinking. You can decide to think happy, fulfilling, uplifting thoughts that lead to positive actions and results. Or you can, by def...	oldergal	12	753	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	Bestest valentines day gift EVER. (Preview) For some reason, I've never received a valentines day gift, or card, or notice in the paper (I ALWAYS wanted one of those lol) and it's always made me just a little sad. Some silly teenage romantic notion that I have kept with me, I guess. Intellectually, I know it's silly, but emotionally, I have always...	Melly1248	5	677	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	It wasn't okay back then and it's not okay now (Preview) The lights have been flickering with the relationship I have and had with my Dad. He was Diagnosed bi-polar later in life I have tried to place all of the things in the past in a place of understanding. The kind where I realize I was a product of my raising. There is a wonderful outcome of knowing I can un lea...	Mari1978	10	563	Feb 16, 2014 by hotrod
	New moments :) (Preview) I've had some HUGE clarity in the past 24 hours things I have been really struggling with just kind of fell away and I am extremely grateful for this new level of healing or whatever it is .. I like it! I had a little slip yesterday out of the blue I looked at the tramps divorce status .. I don't know why I did ....	SerenityRUS	3	456	Feb 16, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	I have a problem (Preview) Hi Everyone I'm writing this because I need help with me. It's not ( or maybe it is ) about my son or alcohol. I am getting sicker physically. I have COPD ( mild ) but it seems to be getting worse. I can't even walk across the room and pick up lint off the floor without getting out of breath. I can't take a...	Cathyinaz	13	657	Feb 16, 2014 by likemyheart
	I have been struggling (Preview) I am lonesome and bored right now which can always get me into trouble. I have 4 classes, a part time job, my almost 16 year old at home, but am feeling like maybe it is time to look into the love life again. I have picked some doozies for sure. God is always in control and I try to follow His lead humbly. I am not...	Breakingfree	7	565	Feb 16, 2014 by grateful2be
	Sunday blues (Preview) I truly hate weekends !!! walking on pins and needles , "A" is hitching to find something to fight about !! How can anyone be that miserable , I hope work calls him today my coping as always been pick up and go, i go shopping, i go visit friends, today will go skidooing with my son.... why do i al...	messedupgirl	1	320	Feb 16, 2014 by yanksfan51
	screen goes blank trying to get into chat room (Preview) When I log in it accepts my nick name and I enter the room , then the screen goes totally black . I can still get to the board no problem , any suggestions ?	abbyal	1	297	Feb 16, 2014 by John
	please change my attitude (Preview) I just told my husband I am done and I give up. I can not handle the lying anymore. He was supposed to stop drinking since Nov. I found bottles in the trash. Oh here comes the lies. They were empty bottles from when he stopped drinking in Nov. Oh the excuses and the lies. Go protect your addiction. I know it...	hopes314	3	334	Feb 16, 2014 by Jen
	again with the drama (Preview) I hate Valentines. It was again a day full of his childish behaviour, blaming me for everything possible. Did you know that I am not suppose to put myself first, kids second and then him last? Oh, my bad! Its my fault that we fought a few years ago which resulted in him being removed from the house for almos...	jen_nipher	4	364	Feb 15, 2014 by messedupgirl
	Not sure how to behave.... (Preview) So happy valentines! My AH and I were supposed to enjoy dinner tonight at home with a movie. I made a dessert he loves etc etc. I knew he may be working late. But now he is really late home and isn't answering his phone. Nice! Anyway I only called him twice and won't try again. And have started dinner myself....	Summersun	8	600	Feb 15, 2014 by NavySealWife
	He will never learn (Preview) I had a scare. I get a call from my son. He is broke down on the freeway about 10 miles from me. What in this world is he doing down near me. I was mad. I went and got him off the freeway and got him and his car to my house. It comes down to he didn't put antifreeze OR water in it and it overheated. He lied to his f...	Cathyinaz	11	646	Feb 15, 2014 by grateful2be
	I am freaking out (Preview) For those of you following the sad saga of my AH (I was doing really good w/ detaching and had told him to stay away from home until he knew what to do with his life) They released him from the hospital and sent him home in a cab but gave him a dose of Xanax for good measure. He drove around the block and cra...	jillybean1	12	626	Feb 15, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	celebrating & grieving at the same time... (Preview) Yesterday I celebrated not only Valentine's day but my dad's birthday. He died in 2011. Anyhow, I started to cry a couple of times but I didn't break down. I was able to share a dessert w/ the people at the meeting in my dad's honor & was able to share where I was at at the meeting as well. That is all I have...	Hoot Nanny	2	345	Feb 15, 2014 by Jerry F
	At a total loss (Preview) Hello all. I am not a frequent visitor to this board although I have posted here before, and I have found it to be a very warm and helpful environment. My wife and I have been having a very hard time in our marriage for almost a year now. I am a recovering alcoholic in AA with almost 4 years of sobriety, and...	Kent	4	516	Feb 15, 2014 by Jerry F
	Late but Sincere....I love you!! (Preview) Hello everyone, sending love and hugs out to you all today...and yesterday. ABF is getting worse every time, doing less and less. I understand what is going on but I admit it still smarts a little. In the past several months I've become very familiar with the phrase "going to the hardware store to...	Raven Juniper	9	517	Feb 15, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	Am i the only one like this ... (Preview) I said i was going to share my story, it's not an easy one to share, but the reason I am so messedup , perfect handle name for me ... been married 18 years, "A" drinks and was a drinker when we met, .. i was concern and voiced it in the wrong way, told him if he did not control his drinking he would end u...	messedupgirl	5	828	Feb 15, 2014 by Debilyn
	Valentines Day... memories pressed between the pages of my mind... (Preview) I have read a lot of post this morning regarding Valentines Day... everything from well wishes, to feelings of loneliness. I remember the first Valentines day card I got in school. I was in the second grade. She put it on my desk. And I immediately fell in love with her! LOL Then I discovered she gave...	John	8	546	Feb 15, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	"Just For Today" (Preview) From the Al Anon Bookmark (My Favorite thing...I read daily!) Just for today I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. Just for today I will be happy. This assume...	Grace7	2	284	Feb 15, 2014 by hopes314
	when do you intervene ? (Preview) It is obvious that my sister in law is losing herself to alcohol, when is it time to butt out ? When is it time to say something, do something, as it stands looks like friends and family have made calls to her doctor informing him of her state of mind, wanting to kill herself, the drinking , the use of illega...	Miamamamia	5	507	Feb 15, 2014 by grateful2be
	Read "Getting them Sober" last night. Thanks for the recommendation (Preview) What a great read! I feel a little less powerless, or, I recognize that I am not the only one who is powerless, and that makes me feel a little less powerless. I dont have to check up on her. I dont have to 'convince' her she abuses alcohol I can have compassion for her. I have to get myself better. As I've sa...	lsng	8	646	Feb 15, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Full Moon Alert (Preview) It's that time again folks. High and low tide of the mind. (Quick A & P for those not familiar. Our bodies are roughly 90% water. The moon regulates and controls the tides of the ocean....impressive.) Now, just what kind of pulling does this have to do with our white and gray matter (our brains...	Grace7	2	345	Feb 15, 2014 by hopes314
	How to believe in him again (Preview) After 30 years of drinking, my AH has been sober for a little over a year, with two minor set backs that I know of. I've been with him for six years and have been through hell and back. I've learned the hard way, through disappointment and heartache, not to believe most of what this man says. Wether it was th...	4kidsmama	4	502	Feb 15, 2014 by Grace7
	Thank you all for your serenity (Preview) I had a bad night, lost control of myself...felt better the next morning. I ended up having an awesome day. This may not sound like fun but I got my guest bedroom back in order cleaning out the closet and straightening up my crafts. I got some tools and albeit unsuccessfully tried to fix a closet door. Cle...	sadsusie	3	459	Feb 15, 2014 by hopes314
	Full of Insecurities Today (Preview) My STBEX AH (we haven't even started the divorce process yet) got busted this weekend by my niece with another woman in another city. She took a picture and sends it to me. He spends no more than a couple hours with my daughter a week, but takes another woman to another town to wine and dine her and party....	mongowal	3	451	Feb 15, 2014 by hopes314
	Be My Valentine (Preview) Happy Valentines Day my wonderful MIP family You are all my special valentine today and I love you so much. You bring me love, strength and the courage to continue to move forward and be happy.	Cathyinaz	7	443	Feb 14, 2014 by MorningGlory
	Valentine's Day (Preview) My AH is being released from the hospital on Valentine's Day, I told him his bags and stuff would be in his car and to leave. (How is that for timing?) UGH well, I don't know how it will go over, he has vowed not to go easily. I have posted a link to one of my favorite music videos, I hope you enjoy. http...	jillybean1	4	341	Feb 14, 2014 by Miamamamia
	Happy Valentines Day! May you Love You! (Preview) http://www.americangreetings.com/ecards/valentines-day/bright-and-happy-valentine/pn/3278700	Tricia911	2	418	Feb 14, 2014 by hopes314
	Valentines Day (Preview) This holiday has always been a disappointment in my relationship with my AH. Back when we were first dating, he bought me beautiful amythest earrings. We were both drunk, wandering through the jewelry store, acting stupid, until the sales clerk asked, 'Are you buying something or what?' So he bough...	ParisMemories	8	461	Feb 14, 2014 by ParisMemories
	Who am I (Preview) Who am I who stays with someone that can't give give love back. Who is nasty, mean, and argues with me. If i am the only one who is responsible I must think i do not deserve someone kind and loving. He is plowing the driveway at 7am because he has to get his alcohol. There is no love for valentines. I am bea...	hopes314	4	440	Feb 14, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Icky days (Preview) Pointless vent. Sorry -- Edited by Melly1248 on Wednesday 12th of February 2014 12:58:00 PM	Melly1248	6	313	Feb 14, 2014 by Melly1248
	Why me Lord ??? What did I ever do .... (Preview) Why is it that we are responsible for our own choices and can only control ourselves , when the choices we make are often base on the actions of our A or others in our lives ? The choices I have to make I would not have to make them if the people in my life would not be such &^^( !!!!!! I should be the one d...*	Miamamamia	7	730	Feb 14, 2014 by sadsusie
	Thinking about me (Preview) HI I'm home and thinking today...... maybe thinking too much LOL I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer but in my simple world I do my hardest to try and change me. When I first came to Al-anon I thought I had to be so strong that nothing would faze me after a while. Boy was I wrong. I don't care who you ar...	Cathyinaz	8	466	Feb 14, 2014 by AngelicH57
	the anger and frustration is starting... from him (Preview) I am new to alanon, but not new to 12 steps.. I am a recovering A with 29 years sober....my son,43, is the practicing A.... I finally, finally finally, after much hard work have gone no contact with him.... He has no reason to believe I meant it this time, as we have been here before....but this time the sur...	ladee	4	383	Feb 14, 2014 by ladee
	just sharing (Preview) As I go through my journey, I find myself searching , reading, learning , today I came across this poem , and thought it would be okay to share it here with everyone ,,, the author is unknown if anyone knows who that would be great !! *Letting go* *To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;* *It means I can't do it for...*	Miamamamia	4	291	Feb 14, 2014 by Lgar332
	Need some BIG prayers please .. (Preview) I have some big decisions to make and I have received an offer from his atty .. so we will see what is what as far as things go. I have a meeting with my new replacement atty next week and I just want to be settled and KNOW what it is that I want and so on. His offer is making me feel that he is smacking of desperat...	SerenityRUS	8	371	Feb 14, 2014 by milkwood
	What about ME ! (Preview) I use to say that all the time what about me I deserve to be happy why can't I find some one to follow me and pick up my pity. Well I don't no how I wake up every day and only think about the day I'm living . I rather be a day behind then a day ahead wonder what is tomorrow going to be like . My saying would be if some on...	Wisdom67	3	433	Feb 14, 2014 by milkwood
	Overreaction (Preview) My goodness! I told my AH that I was going back to Al-Anon meetings. I realize of course that I didnt have to tell him, however the day that the meetings happen is also the day my kids take part in an afterschool program, and basically I would have enough time to drop them off at home then off to the meeting. T...	jen_nipher	5	459	Feb 14, 2014 by milkwood
	The calm before the storm. (Preview) Just when I thought my son was doing ok again here he goes again. Sure he feels bad as the other many times prior. I have gotten involved with so many people and attended many other meetings. But why do I allow his addiction consume my life. I can not get a grip on this thing call tough love and take care of me....	Gaby	3	396	Feb 13, 2014 by Jerry F
	My husband has relapse for the last three weeks (Preview) My husband has been sober for almost two years until Jan 30, he went missing for two days and not came home, or call because he was drinking at another guys house who also is a AA. The wife of his AA buddy does not care if her husband drinks every day and enables him and drives her husband around when he is drun...	NavySealWife	4	471	Feb 13, 2014 by Jerry F
	Unrealistic expectations as an adult child. (Preview) Hey MIP My name is slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Growing up in an alcoholic home, and seeing what those around me had and were capable of, I grew up with some very unrealistic expectations of myself and my limitations. I grew up in a home where I simply didn't have the resources or the in...	slogan_jim	7	602	Feb 13, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Oh, wait, we are actually going to talk about this. (Preview) Tuesday night when I came home from my Al Anon meeting I found my husband passed out on the bathroom floor. I left him there. Tonight, when I got home, we actually did end up having 'the talk'. I didn't mean to, it just happened. I told him flat out that he was losing me. I told him that, while I couldn't...	SpiderArcana	8	544	Feb 13, 2014 by 4kidsmama
	Making someone else my higher power? (Preview) I have come to realize that I have made my wife my higher power'. This has been an ongoing revelation, but it all sort of came together last night... Been keeping a journal of my thoughts 26 years (holy crap!! that long??!). I was reading through them last night, and its pretty clear I have a pattern of bei...	lsng	14	630	Feb 13, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Do I say something if I think she's drinking and I've already stated in the past I think she abuses alcohol? (Preview) If I suspect drinking, do I say something? For example, while talking to my W on the phone tonight, I suspected she might have been buzzed at least. Since Ive already made it clear that I think she abuses alcohol and needs to stop, do I say something? If only to let her know that I know? What about when we...	lsng	7	604	Feb 13, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	I am still contributing to the dysfunction, and I only have myself to blame...but not really (Preview) Long story...well not short exactly... AH slowed his drinking down...we were happier...for some reason we decided to get a dog. Awesome awesome puppy, but she still changes the dynamic and the routine and created an enourmous amount of stress for him. Besides regular puppy stuff, we just redid our...	sadsusie	7	489	Feb 13, 2014 by ParisMemories
	I just need a place to vent! (Preview) My AH is driving me crazy!!! My family is visiting and we stopped at a tea shop last night to check things out and my stepfather decided to order some tea so we sat at a table to drink a pot. My mother pulls out a food bar and eats it while we sit there. My AH leans over and says(in a not very nice way), "Y...	ilovedogs	12	470	Feb 13, 2014 by ilovedogs
	Outcome Engineer (Preview) Today I was cleaning the fish tank and thinking why am I cleaning the stupid fish tank? Let me backup, last spring I went to a carnival. I played the game where you toss ping pong balls and try to sink the ball into a glass to win a fish. I won 3 goldfish. We didn't have a fish tank and I had no clue how to care for...	MorningGlory	10	679	Feb 13, 2014 by Melly1248
	Just back from the E.R. (Preview) Well, the saga continues, I went to a funeral today for a friend, came home, asked my AH if he would like me to heat up some lunch for the both of us, he says no thanks, I ate already-- hands me a half empty bottle of prescription drugs. (on top of the only God knows how much wine he drank already). Says sin...	jillybean1	10	496	Feb 13, 2014 by Mari1978
	Escalation (Preview) This family disease of ours has upped a gear, it has escalated until I am once again living with and in chaos and despair. I feel sorry for myself, why do I have to live this all over again, its never actually left my life, this god dam illness. My son who, it is becoming more and more apparent, has been stayi...	el-cee	16	475	Feb 13, 2014 by grateful2be
	First meeting tonight (Preview) I hadn't planned on doing anything tonight, but AH is acting...weird. Didn't got to work, laying in bed all day, throwing himself a pity party. Whatever. Gotta take care of me, getting out of the house sounds good, and there's a newcomer meeting tonight. Sounds like it's all lined up just right. ...	SpiderArcana	9	362	Feb 12, 2014 by Little Bird
	Thinkin' Problem (Preview) Howdy yall, I heard this on the radio this morning. It is an old song I have heard many times..but like many songs, I don't pay too much attention the meaning of the lyrics. I listened and just had to laugh. This was most definitely my theme song 10 years ago prior to my coming to Al-Anon. David Ball : Thinki...	david62	2	304	Feb 12, 2014 by hopes314
	Feeling The lost (Preview) I am going to a lawyer. All this is so scary. I don't want this to be my life but it is too much. What is so hard is that I am hanging onto the person he used to be who was sweet loving kind? I truly love this person. I don't want to divorce but it is so unheathly for me on many levels. My kids do not deserve this at al...	hopes314	6	395	Feb 12, 2014 by Debilyn
	if anyone has experience in this .. i might have asked this once before .. (Preview) tonight i went and had a visit with someone i very much respect who walks a very spiritual path .. my daughter is 10. i normally don't ask advice .. i do really know noone can give me any, except she has no idea her dad ever had any sort of addiction to drugs and she has no idea he's back in prison and doing time ....	MeTwo2	12	439	Feb 12, 2014 by abbyal
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