Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

shimo · shimo

WEDNESDAY AM MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: Love.....etc. TOPICS: Love, Hope Expectations The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we are on is irc.chat4...

oldergal · oldergal

Please when looking into getting help with a psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, make sure they are educated, have experience with "alcoholism", it is not going to do anybody any good if you see someone, and they give you or your alcoholic a prescription for drugs and the...

oldergal · oldergal

"I Shall Look At The World Through Tears. Perhaps I Shall See Things That, Dry-Eyed, I Could Not See".---Nicholas Wolterstorff.There comes a time in life,when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it.You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, a...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

After this past week and weekend, and making a few connections, I've decided to start doing simple things that I'd stopped expecting him to pick up the slack and getting mad when he didn't (because that makes sense!). I have come to accept that I'm pretty much on my own. Besides his injury, his depres...

hopes314 · hopes314

I am so very happy that I found this web site. When I just don't know what to do with the anger, restlessness, irritability, and craziness, I can come here and get the alnon tools to maintain my serenity. The moreI can keep myself in this program the better I feel. Thanks so much for the replies to my mess...

Dia and 5 · Dia and 5

I have been dealing with my AH for 2 years now. I am not sure if it was longer, I was in denial for a long time before I could see at least a 2 year mark. Sometimes I feel strong and I can get through it and sometimes I feel like what is the point of this life with him. Why am I enduring this grief and loneliness. The...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am so angry, hurt and feel down right stupid. As some of you may know I let my 5 year old go live an hour and a half away with her dad, because her Kindergarten teacher and she were butting heads and she was coming home crying more days then not and it just seemed to be a very bad emotional start to her educati...

willieisawestie · willieisawestie

My husband is soon to be 68 years old. He is retired. He has been an alcoholic all of his life. We have been married 10 years. I did not know he was an alcoholic when I married him otherwise I wouldn't have. It was one of these whirlwind relationships that was totally wrong on so many levels. I stay wit...

clanqc · clanqc

We have been snowed in for 5 days. She has been with us, trying to act right, but when we start asking questions about what is going to do, she puts her hands to her ears. She cannot tak about it. She lost temp custody of her 3 year old to daughters psychopathic daddy, 2 hours away. How? She admitted to t...

lsng · lsng

I dont enjoy alcohol much, beyond the occasional beer. But... My wife does. When we met, she rarely drank, which I considered a plus. 5 years on...She drinks every night. Sometimes just one glass of wine/beer, sometimes a few. Sometimes she seems totally sober to me, and oftentimes, she's buzz...

Summersun · Summersun

Hi this is my first time posting on a forum so I hope it's ok to just to ask a question. So I have been married for 9 years and I have an 18 month old. When I met my husband he was in recovery having been in rehab for alcohol abuse. He was sober for around 18 months and then started to drink again. His therapist tho...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone I've been doing OK...living my life. Work has been very busy and my duties have changed somewhat but I still have a job. 4 more years and I can retire....yeppee!! Home life is better too and I'm grateful for that. My SO has been very good but still doesn't help much but that I can't contro...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

Tradition Five helps me to set three goals to work the steps for myself; to have compassion for alcoholics; and to have compassion for those who come to Alanon. What strikes me is the amount of love to be found in these three goals. First, I love myself enough to try to heal and grow by working the Twelve St...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I'm becoming very fluent in speaking with the police .. on both sides of the coast and in the middle .. good grief. I need a new profession. Anyway, my mother gave me a huge scare. I don't call her every day however I do talk to her at least a couple times a week just to let her know we are all ok and find out ho...

Desirae · Desirae

Meeting scheduled in the Al-anon chat room at 9:00AM Eastern Standard Time Current Meeting Schedule: Group Business Meeting held in this room on The FIRST SUNDAY OF EACH MONTH immediately following 7PM meeting. ~ (Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time & Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern...

hopes314 · hopes314

I have been in alnon since March. I am much stronger than before where i was frozen to do anything. I knew something was up this weekend. I found my proof alcohol in the trash. But I did know without the validation. We are putting our house up for sale because he got a new job 4 states away. I will be moved s...

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

just a word .. i had the daRnedest time logging in to step chat .. in fact, i changed my name to Serenity4uNme .. it kept saying email in use, yaddah yaddah .. so i Recreated a live.com account with the new name .. when i went back in I realised at one point i lost my page i was typing on .. grr then when i went to re...

wornoutmrsfixit · wornoutmrsfixit

Tonight I set a boundary. I told my husband that I wanted him to buy out my half of the house. After spending time with him as a man who has not been saturated with alcohol since July, I have realized that there are questions I will never have answers to, hurts that will never be truly apologized for and my ac...

bud · bud

I thought I'd provide an update to a previous post regarding my therapist. She called me yesterday and we had a long discussion regarding what happened. She apologized several times and said she was not aware of the situation and the biller was not acting on her behalf and is angry with her biller. S...

tortuga · tortuga

Over the past months I was feeling ... full of fear, frightened, horrified, lonely, destroyed, empty, sad, angry, tired, depressed, low, negative, aggressive, stupid, crazy you name it i felt it. Today, somebody mentioned to remember in all of our program work and feelings, and struggles and less...

4evatheoptimist · 4evatheoptimist

my father is an alcoholic. After many attempts and treatments he was sober for 3 years but went back on it recently. he sought help and was sober for 4 weeks but is again back on it. I have a young family of my own and have been strong and helped him for so long but it's starting to affect things between my hus...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

Well I guess I could feel it coming. I must say I was a bit surprised at how fast it came. Even with all the warnings I still melted down. I came home from the movies with the kids and he was toast -- stick a fork in him -- he was done. I got ahold of our counselor and he said to try to ride it out tonight and get h...

Jerry F · Jerry F

A few days prior to 2/8/1979 I was again planning a suicide. I had attempted it years before when married to an addict and then If HP don't want it I won't ever get to it. I decided to call help in emotional troubles and the suicide prevention center and there was no one there to help; either they were al...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I had to laugh about a few things lately, first off I'm just in this really great place of acceptance LMH really hit home with her post. It's so funny how priorities change and how I'm more able to roll with the waves that life throws at me when I take the approach of it is what it is, .. if I can change it I look...

hopes314 · hopes314

It appears my choice is to learn to live with an active A. Are there truly happy stories you can share? What was the best tool to use? Thanks Hope

Melly1248 · Melly1248

So, Getting Them Sober really blew the lid wide open on a whole lot of stuff for me. Mainly, the kinds of things ABF does to "get to me" and the crazy things I do to try to cope with them and "change his mind". (And others too). It's hard to believe that these things I have been keeping s...

shimo · shimo

MONDAY AM MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: Living fully.....etc. TOPICS: Living fully, Grief, Denial The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we are on is ir...

Jen · Jen

I'm having a hard time today getting out of my own head. Had a friend call this morning upset about gossip. I am usually really good to just listen and empathize a bit, then remind my friend that other peoples opinions are none of our business, but today I feel like I blew it and I really let it get to me and in...

SpiderArcana · SpiderArcana

So, I was ready. I had my talking points. I was full of self-righteous indignation. I was strong, and I wasn't going to go unheard any more.But when I got home, he was waiting for me, and I just looked at him and thought, 'What was the point? He asked me if I wanted to talk. I said no, not really. I didn...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I have a hot date tonight .. yes .. yes I do .. my very cute son is taking me to the movies tonight. We are going to see the Lego Movie. Actually it's an afternoon date .. lol .. still I'm looking forward to it. More good news and lots of prayers .. apparently when I was told that the stbax was in his atty's off...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Well I thought about it . I am going to start back to step one recap make it to my inventory and start the process of finding me and who I am and I don't have a Sponser anymore is there anyone that would like to help me with my step works and Sponser me I no longer have my car so getting to a meeting is not a choice f...

KennyFenderjazz · KennyFenderjazz

I haven't yet found a sponsor, so I decided I would start working the steps online. I looked at step 1 a couple weeks ago, and thought to myself "well, I know the answers to all these, this shouldn't take long" I sat down this morning to start. Two hours later, I am only halfway done, and want t...

Divedet · Divedet

Hello all, Thought I'd throw this subject out, since it's something I'm wrestling with and wondering about. I'm working through the end of a long term relationship with my AGF. She's gone, with someone new, and keeping the kids (hers) from me that we've raised together for almost 7 years. I'm ac...

bail01 · bail01

I'm not new to alcoholism, but I'm new to this board and Al-anon. My boyfriend of 3.5 years (who I live with) is an alcoholic. I knew it for a long time, but didn't really want to admit it. We fought about it a lot. In October he came to the realization himself that yes, he does have a problem. He was abusing a...

New member · AlexLeeB9901

Hello everyone I'm Alex. New to this online chat board thing. Hoping to find some help. I am from America (Louisville, Kentucky) 25 years old. Member of AA for 3 years now. Anyway, I have been in China for 5 months now and have meet an American friend who struggles with alcohol and drugs here. I am also...

hopes314 · hopes314

I look at my marriage which is broken. I don't even have enough money to get a divorce. my Ah stopped drinking and got a job. I am wondering how am I going to live with this man who cheated on me and lied to me. His recovery is God no 12 steps no counseling because they would pick on him for what he has done to me...

neshema2 · neshema2

After my workout, I went to Goodwill on the hunt for more recovery books....found two gems...one is "path to recovery" that I had been "waiting for"....the other "secussfully living w/screwed up people" that ought to be a "Goodie" THEN , I come acro...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

I've been reading "Getting Them Sober" tonight. I have avoided it because I assumed it would be completely focused on the alcoholic and how to help him but it's quite clever in the way it lets you think you are "helping him" when it's really about helping yourself. Anyway I came u...

jillybean1 · jillybean1

AH has been home from rehab for 3 days now and I am supportive in his recovery and trying to not freak out that he will relapse. I have learned so much and I (intellectually) know that nothing I do will make him drink...or not........and that I have to focus on me...........it's just that I also know that...

jen_nipher · jen_nipher

I just recently got myself back on here. I knew that I had been here before, back in 2010, but couldn't remember my username, or if I was even still a member here. Well, last night, I was looking through old posts. And... I found my old posts!! Once I saw that name, I knew it was me. It was really interesting t...

bud · bud

I slipped and allowed myself to feel awful from some things someone else said. I had trusted, admired, and respected this person. I do not know if my perception is distorted or if I understood it the same as anyone else. I know that I need to employ QTIP much more strongly here. But the point is truly a...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I always try to bring in some spirituality when I share & when I post. I hope I don't overdo it because sometimes it get pumped & excited about the HP or God or whatever you all like to call HIM or HER. I am trying to not push my beliefs on anyone. I am very passionate at times. I am not here to offend any...

willieisawestie · willieisawestie

My husband is soon to be 68 years old. He is what most people call a functioning alcoholic. He drinks anywhere from 9-12 alcoholic beverages a day. He drinks mainly scotch and vodka. He doesn't act drunk, no one would know he is a drinker, other than his red face. He is shaking these days in the mornin...

willieisawestie · willieisawestie

Why do you choose to stay with your alcoholic spouse??? I stay because financially right now I have no other choice. Just wondering.

Marie212 · Marie212

I'm an active Al-Anon member who reads daily from ODAT, etc. One of the tenants is "don't create a crisis nor prevent a crisis" when dealing with your qualifier, but I'm struggling with this one. My qualifier came home late in the afternoon very obviously under the influence and was about t...

milkwood · milkwood

AH and I have just restarted couples counselling and were asked to do a list of what we would like to share in our lives and what is separate. We worked on our lists individually and the difference in our approaches is huge. AH's list is full of emotions and feelings and states of being and my list is full...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

http://www.onecraftymother.com/2014/02/philip-seymour-hoffman-how-could-he.html?m=1

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

Hello I'm posting today because I'm in my right mind . Since I been trying to heal me and find me and tend to me , I realize I'm a lot of work . I'm back to seeing my therepist who loves the fact I'm attempting to reach out for resource to help me . Just because my A sober 1 year is back to the cry pity and guilt trips...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I also feel like dancing & singing & being the best me I can be! I am so grateful today. I think I will go home later & blast my satellite radio! I have to relish & cherish the time I have to spend celebrating. One of my friends said we have the permission to be silly! I can do that every day. So...

JamesMS1984 · JamesMS1984

Dear All, Hi my name is James MS. I am a greatful member of Al-non for many years. This is my great attempt to carry the message of recovery in all my affiairs. When I first came to Al-non I was a mess. I was riddled with alcoholism and defects. My personal hygiene was terrible. I went to university in a out f...

Lyne · Lyne

I never really understood why members don't crosstalk in F2F meetings, but I got it this past Tuesday. We are each working on ourself. And that's why I respect everyone there. We are honestly trying to better ourselves, by self-reflection. It's actually really cool. I've just finished my firs...

astallaslions · astallaslions

I feel much like a hypocrite. I was spouting the importance of compassion and understanding to another on a board the night before, and now here I am, enraged. He was a week in. Yet, I am not surprised as he has done nothing to seek support. No meetings. No therapist or substance abuse counselor. He has ho...

Tricia911 · Tricia911

Al-Anon Meeting at 9PM EST tonight 2/7/14 in the chat room. Hope to see you all there!

Aloha · Aloha

Today I ran into a challenge that had me upset with a couple employees. We're going through a large change here in the business and I asked several of the staff members to communicate some of the changes with clients. I sent this via an email and almost immediately two of them started peppering me with em...

John · John

I have been working hard at bring our site up to date and bringing a new, fresh look to it. Please look around it, read the material on it, and then come back to to the message board and post under the Topic... "Site Facelift.. what do you think?" (This one) And tell me what you think of the changes that hav...

oldergal · oldergal

likemyheart · likemyheart

Sometimes I think of my journey with my ex-A, as bad as it was, as awful as it was to be screamed at, blamed, bullied - as bad as it was and as many tears as I cried, the pain that drove me to Al-Anon, the outcome, my now, was worth it. Yesterday someone calls me up to say he had bad news for me, my mind went to - some...

pinkchip · pinkchip

It's been more peaceful. The best program tool I came up with is "I am not God!" (as if thats a new thought). I always thought I understood that saying "there is a God and I am not it." I didn't realize I was making myself into some kind of God of rehab or something. I was hold...

Pamela1954 · Pamela1954

Things have not been good since my adult son got home from rehab. The plan is for him to get on his feet financially and move out in 2-3 months. We had been going in his room looking for evidence of him using and found questionable things. Our counselor says we are to back off so we have, but it is so hard. ...

Daughter · Daughter

I posted here nearly one month ago when my AM suddenly died in a tragic car accident after what we assume to be a night of binging. As I'm sure you all understand all too well, I was losing "my mom" for many years before that due to her disease. I have grieved the lost of the person I knew for so long...

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	WEDNESDAY AM MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: Love.....etc. (Preview) WEDNESDAY AM MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: Love.....etc. TOPICS: Love, Hope Expectations The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we are on is irc.chat4...	shimo	0	114	Feb 12, 2014 by shimo
	The Right Shrink (Preview) Please when looking into getting help with a psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, counselor, make sure they are educated, have experience with "alcoholism", it is not going to do anybody any good if you see someone, and they give you or your alcoholic a prescription for drugs and the...	oldergal	5	227	Feb 12, 2014 by pinkchip
	There Comes A Time in Life.... (Preview) "I Shall Look At The World Through Tears. Perhaps I Shall See Things That, Dry-Eyed, I Could Not See".---Nicholas Wolterstorff.There comes a time in life,when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it.You surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, a...	oldergal	5	512	Feb 12, 2014 by hopes314
	Doing for me (Preview) After this past week and weekend, and making a few connections, I've decided to start doing simple things that I'd stopped expecting him to pick up the slack and getting mad when he didn't (because that makes sense!). I have come to accept that I'm pretty much on my own. Besides his injury, his depres...	SpiderArcana	13	490	Feb 12, 2014 by hopes314
	A safe place to be (Preview) I am so very happy that I found this web site. When I just don't know what to do with the anger, restlessness, irritability, and craziness, I can come here and get the alnon tools to maintain my serenity. The moreI can keep myself in this program the better I feel. Thanks so much for the replies to my mess...	hopes314	5	317	Feb 12, 2014 by Jerry F
	New, Dealing with AH he makes me feel so crazy (Preview) I have been dealing with my AH for 2 years now. I am not sure if it was longer, I was in denial for a long time before I could see at least a 2 year mark. Sometimes I feel strong and I can get through it and sometimes I feel like what is the point of this life with him. Why am I enduring this grief and loneliness. The...	Dia and 5	7	415	Feb 11, 2014 by Dia and 5
	Let down again by the exAH yeah big surprise...... (Preview) I am so angry, hurt and feel down right stupid. As some of you may know I let my 5 year old go live an hour and a half away with her dad, because her Kindergarten teacher and she were butting heads and she was coming home crying more days then not and it just seemed to be a very bad emotional start to her educati...	Breakingfree	10	405	Feb 11, 2014 by Debilyn
	Noticing things with alcoholic husband (Preview) My husband is soon to be 68 years old. He is retired. He has been an alcoholic all of his life. We have been married 10 years. I did not know he was an alcoholic when I married him otherwise I wouldn't have. It was one of these whirlwind relationships that was totally wrong on so many levels. I stay wit...	willieisawestie	8	470	Feb 11, 2014 by Debilyn
	Seeking suggestions for husband and wife to agree on boundaries for 37 year old adult semi functioning daughter (Preview) We have been snowed in for 5 days. She has been with us, trying to act right, but when we start asking questions about what is going to do, she puts her hands to her ears. She cannot tak about it. She lost temp custody of her 3 year old to daughters psychopathic daddy, 2 hours away. How? She admitted to t...	clanqc	4	440	Feb 11, 2014 by clanqc
	Does she have a drinking problem? (Preview) I dont enjoy alcohol much, beyond the occasional beer. But... My wife does. When we met, she rarely drank, which I considered a plus. 5 years on...She drinks every night. Sometimes just one glass of wine/beer, sometimes a few. Sometimes she seems totally sober to me, and oftentimes, she's buzz...	lsng	14	688	Feb 11, 2014 by Debilyn
	Not sure what to do about my husbands drinking. (Preview) Hi this is my first time posting on a forum so I hope it's ok to just to ask a question. So I have been married for 9 years and I have an 18 month old. When I met my husband he was in recovery having been in rehab for alcohol abuse. He was sober for around 18 months and then started to drink again. His therapist tho...	Summersun	10	443	Feb 11, 2014 by Debilyn
	Good Morning (Preview) Hi Everyone I've been doing OK...living my life. Work has been very busy and my duties have changed somewhat but I still have a job. 4 more years and I can retire....yeppee!! Home life is better too and I'm grateful for that. My SO has been very good but still doesn't help much but that I can't contro...	Cathyinaz	4	319	Feb 11, 2014 by Debilyn
	Courage to change reading Pg 42.. Feb 11 .. (Preview) Tradition Five helps me to set three goals to work the steps for myself; to have compassion for alcoholics; and to have compassion for those who come to Alanon. What strikes me is the amount of love to be found in these three goals. First, I love myself enough to try to heal and grow by working the Twelve St...	MeTwo2	2	489	Feb 11, 2014 by Green Eyes
	My weekend excitement .. (Preview) I'm becoming very fluent in speaking with the police .. on both sides of the coast and in the middle .. good grief. I need a new profession. Anyway, my mother gave me a huge scare. I don't call her every day however I do talk to her at least a couple times a week just to let her know we are all ok and find out ho...	SerenityRUS	4	246	Feb 11, 2014 by Green Eyes
	TUESDAY MEETING 9AM (EST) – TOPICS: BELIEVE IN SELF; JADE; SAY WHAT YOU MEAN/MEAN WHAT YOU SAY/DON'T SAY IT MEAN (Preview) Meeting scheduled in the Al-anon chat room at 9:00AM Eastern Standard Time Current Meeting Schedule: Group Business Meeting held in this room on The FIRST SUNDAY OF EACH MONTH immediately following 7PM meeting. ~ (Morning Meetings) Mon. - Fri. at 9am eastern time & Sat - Sun. - 10am eastern...	Desirae	0	154	Feb 11, 2014 by Desirae
	rollercoast ride (Preview) I have been in alnon since March. I am much stronger than before where i was frozen to do anything. I knew something was up this weekend. I found my proof alcohol in the trash. But I did know without the validation. We are putting our house up for sale because he got a new job 4 states away. I will be moved s...	hopes314	9	363	Feb 11, 2014 by hopes314
	A word on the step board And love this insight .. =) (Preview) just a word .. i had the daRnedest time logging in to step chat .. in fact, i changed my name to Serenity4uNme .. it kept saying email in use, yaddah yaddah .. so i Recreated a live.com account with the new name .. when i went back in I realised at one point i lost my page i was typing on .. grr then when i went to re...	MeTwo2	1	196	Feb 11, 2014 by Jerry F
	Feel Like Crap Tonight (Preview) Tonight I set a boundary. I told my husband that I wanted him to buy out my half of the house. After spending time with him as a man who has not been saturated with alcohol since July, I have realized that there are questions I will never have answers to, hurts that will never be truly apologized for and my ac...	wornoutmrsfixit	17	419	Feb 10, 2014 by grateful2be
	the therapist (Preview) I thought I'd provide an update to a previous post regarding my therapist. She called me yesterday and we had a long discussion regarding what happened. She apologized several times and said she was not aware of the situation and the biller was not acting on her behalf and is angry with her biller. S...	bud	8	421	Feb 10, 2014 by bud
	i feel… like dancing (Preview) Over the past months I was feeling ... full of fear, frightened, horrified, lonely, destroyed, empty, sad, angry, tired, depressed, low, negative, aggressive, stupid, crazy you name it i felt it. Today, somebody mentioned to remember in all of our program work and feelings, and struggles and less...	tortuga	6	245	Feb 10, 2014 by 4evatheoptimist
	Angry and confused newbie (Preview) my father is an alcoholic. After many attempts and treatments he was sober for 3 years but went back on it recently. he sought help and was sober for 4 weeks but is again back on it. I have a young family of my own and have been strong and helped him for so long but it's starting to affect things between my hus...	4evatheoptimist	7	473	Feb 10, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Relapse 3 days out of rehab (Preview) Well I guess I could feel it coming. I must say I was a bit surprised at how fast it came. Even with all the warnings I still melted down. I came home from the movies with the kids and he was toast -- stick a fork in him -- he was done. I got ahold of our counselor and he said to try to ride it out tonight and get h...	jillybean1	8	363	Feb 10, 2014 by 4evatheoptimist
	35 years yesterday... (Preview) A few days prior to 2/8/1979 I was again planning a suicide. I had attempted it years before when married to an addict and then If HP don't want it I won't ever get to it. I decided to call help in emotional troubles and the suicide prevention center and there was no one there to help; either they were al...	Jerry F	16	456	Feb 10, 2014 by MeTwo2
	So much to choose from :) (Preview) I had to laugh about a few things lately, first off I'm just in this really great place of acceptance LMH really hit home with her post. It's so funny how priorities change and how I'm more able to roll with the waves that life throws at me when I take the approach of it is what it is, .. if I can change it I look...	SerenityRUS	2	433	Feb 10, 2014 by Breakingfree
	i need stories of hope- can you really live with an active A (Preview) It appears my choice is to learn to live with an active A. Are there truly happy stories you can share? What was the best tool to use? Thanks Hope	hopes314	7	453	Feb 10, 2014 by Tasha
	Who knew? (Preview) So, Getting Them Sober really blew the lid wide open on a whole lot of stuff for me. Mainly, the kinds of things ABF does to "get to me" and the crazy things I do to try to cope with them and "change his mind". (And others too). It's hard to believe that these things I have been keeping s...	Melly1248	9	461	Feb 10, 2014 by Tasha
	MONDAY AM MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: Living fully.....etc. (Preview) MONDAY AM MEETING 9AM (EST) - TOPICS: Living fully.....etc. TOPICS: Living fully, Grief, Denial The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html. There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we are on is ir...	shimo	0	162	Feb 10, 2014 by shimo
	My bucket runneth low today. (Preview) I'm having a hard time today getting out of my own head. Had a friend call this morning upset about gossip. I am usually really good to just listen and empathize a bit, then remind my friend that other peoples opinions are none of our business, but today I feel like I blew it and I really let it get to me and in...	Jen	5	378	Feb 10, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Update: The talk....er, sort of (Preview) So, I was ready. I had my talking points. I was full of self-righteous indignation. I was strong, and I wasn't going to go unheard any more.But when I got home, he was waiting for me, and I just looked at him and thought, 'What was the point? He asked me if I wanted to talk. I said no, not really. I didn...	SpiderArcana	8	481	Feb 10, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Nice weekend :) (Preview) I have a hot date tonight .. yes .. yes I do .. my very cute son is taking me to the movies tonight. We are going to see the Lego Movie. Actually it's an afternoon date .. lol .. still I'm looking forward to it. More good news and lots of prayers .. apparently when I was told that the stbax was in his atty's off...	SerenityRUS	5	170	Feb 10, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Inventory (Preview) Well I thought about it . I am going to start back to step one recap make it to my inventory and start the process of finding me and who I am and I don't have a Sponser anymore is there anyone that would like to help me with my step works and Sponser me I no longer have my car so getting to a meeting is not a choice f...	Wisdom67	2	180	Feb 10, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Step 1 - not so simple! (Preview) I haven't yet found a sponsor, so I decided I would start working the steps online. I looked at step 1 a couple weeks ago, and thought to myself "well, I know the answers to all these, this shouldn't take long" I sat down this morning to start. Two hours later, I am only halfway done, and want t...	KennyFenderjazz	7	375	Feb 9, 2014 by MeTwo2
	Anger, psychological vs spiritual (Preview) Hello all, Thought I'd throw this subject out, since it's something I'm wrestling with and wondering about. I'm working through the end of a long term relationship with my AGF. She's gone, with someone new, and keeping the kids (hers) from me that we've raised together for almost 7 years. I'm ac...	Divedet	8	562	Feb 9, 2014 by MeTwo2
	New and confused (Preview) I'm not new to alcoholism, but I'm new to this board and Al-anon. My boyfriend of 3.5 years (who I live with) is an alcoholic. I knew it for a long time, but didn't really want to admit it. We fought about it a lot. In October he came to the realization himself that yes, he does have a problem. He was abusing a...	bail01	12	577	Feb 9, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	New member (Preview) Hello everyone I'm Alex. New to this online chat board thing. Hoping to find some help. I am from America (Louisville, Kentucky) 25 years old. Member of AA for 3 years now. Anyway, I have been in China for 5 months now and have meet an American friend who struggles with alcohol and drugs here. I am also...	AlexLeeB9901	5	238	Feb 9, 2014 by Jerry F
	i feel i am stuck (Preview) I look at my marriage which is broken. I don't even have enough money to get a divorce. my Ah stopped drinking and got a job. I am wondering how am I going to live with this man who cheated on me and lied to me. His recovery is God no 12 steps no counseling because they would pick on him for what he has done to me...	hopes314	13	484	Feb 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	I guess I am growing up (Preview) After my workout, I went to Goodwill on the hunt for more recovery books....found two gems...one is "path to recovery" that I had been "waiting for"....the other "secussfully living w/screwed up people" that ought to be a "Goodie" THEN , I come acro...	neshema2	5	296	Feb 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	Getting Them Sober. (Preview) I've been reading "Getting Them Sober" tonight. I have avoided it because I assumed it would be completely focused on the alcoholic and how to help him but it's quite clever in the way it lets you think you are "helping him" when it's really about helping yourself. Anyway I came u...	Melly1248	14	541	Feb 9, 2014 by Melly1248
	trying to mind my own business (Preview) AH has been home from rehab for 3 days now and I am supportive in his recovery and trying to not freak out that he will relapse. I have learned so much and I (intellectually) know that nothing I do will make him drink...or not........and that I have to focus on me...........it's just that I also know that...	jillybean1	5	819	Feb 9, 2014 by bud
	looking back (Preview) I just recently got myself back on here. I knew that I had been here before, back in 2010, but couldn't remember my username, or if I was even still a member here. Well, last night, I was looking through old posts. And... I found my old posts!! Once I saw that name, I knew it was me. It was really interesting t...	jen_nipher	4	296	Feb 9, 2014 by bud
	Exorcising my reactions to a trigger (Preview) I slipped and allowed myself to feel awful from some things someone else said. I had trusted, admired, and respected this person. I do not know if my perception is distorted or if I understood it the same as anyone else. I know that I need to employ QTIP much more strongly here. But the point is truly a...	bud	6	321	Feb 9, 2014 by bud
	spiritually speaking... (Preview) I always try to bring in some spirituality when I share & when I post. I hope I don't overdo it because sometimes it get pumped & excited about the HP or God or whatever you all like to call HIM or HER. I am trying to not push my beliefs on anyone. I am very passionate at times. I am not here to offend any...	Hoot Nanny	2	215	Feb 8, 2014 by karma13
	First Time Here--have questions. (Preview) My husband is soon to be 68 years old. He is what most people call a functioning alcoholic. He drinks anywhere from 9-12 alcoholic beverages a day. He drinks mainly scotch and vodka. He doesn't act drunk, no one would know he is a drinker, other than his red face. He is shaking these days in the mornin...	willieisawestie	4	275	Feb 8, 2014 by jen_nipher
	New to this. Curious Question?? (Preview) Why do you choose to stay with your alcoholic spouse??? I stay because financially right now I have no other choice. Just wondering.	willieisawestie	8	419	Feb 8, 2014 by SpiderArcana
	Prevent a crisis? (Preview) I'm an active Al-Anon member who reads daily from ODAT, etc. One of the tenants is "don't create a crisis nor prevent a crisis" when dealing with your qualifier, but I'm struggling with this one. My qualifier came home late in the afternoon very obviously under the influence and was about t...	Marie212	15	1177	Feb 8, 2014 by Jen61
	Need to share this (Preview) AH and I have just restarted couples counselling and were asked to do a list of what we would like to share in our lives and what is separate. We worked on our lists individually and the difference in our approaches is huge. AH's list is full of emotions and feelings and states of being and my list is full...	milkwood	9	362	Feb 8, 2014 by Raven Juniper
	A powerful message (Preview) http://www.onecraftymother.com/2014/02/philip-seymour-hoffman-how-could-he.html?m=1	ParisMemories	3	265	Feb 8, 2014 by hotrod
	Guilt trip are ok (Preview) Hello I'm posting today because I'm in my right mind . Since I been trying to heal me and find me and tend to me , I realize I'm a lot of work . I'm back to seeing my therepist who loves the fact I'm attempting to reach out for resource to help me . Just because my A sober 1 year is back to the cry pity and guilt trips...	Wisdom67	7	516	Feb 8, 2014 by el-cee
	I agree Tortuga! (Preview) I also feel like dancing & singing & being the best me I can be! I am so grateful today. I think I will go home later & blast my satellite radio! I have to relish & cherish the time I have to spend celebrating. One of my friends said we have the permission to be silly! I can do that every day. So...	Hoot Nanny	5	255	Feb 8, 2014 by tortuga
	Al-non : The message of 12 Step recovery in all my affairs (Preview) Dear All, Hi my name is James MS. I am a greatful member of Al-non for many years. This is my great attempt to carry the message of recovery in all my affiairs. When I first came to Al-non I was a mess. I was riddled with alcoholism and defects. My personal hygiene was terrible. I went to university in a out f...	JamesMS1984	3	455	Feb 8, 2014 by DavidG
	no cross talk (Preview) I never really understood why members don't crosstalk in F2F meetings, but I got it this past Tuesday. We are each working on ourself. And that's why I respect everyone there. We are honestly trying to better ourselves, by self-reflection. It's actually really cool. I've just finished my firs...	Lyne	8	711	Feb 8, 2014 by DavidG
	Dealing with relapse (Preview) I feel much like a hypocrite. I was spouting the importance of compassion and understanding to another on a board the night before, and now here I am, enraged. He was a week in. Yet, I am not surprised as he has done nothing to seek support. No meetings. No therapist or substance abuse counselor. He has ho...	astallaslions	6	447	Feb 7, 2014 by maryjane
	Friday Evening Friends topic tonight is: Acceptance Friday Friends meeting acceptance Friday night Al-Anon meeting (Preview) Al-Anon Meeting at 9PM EST tonight 2/7/14 in the chat room. Hope to see you all there!	Tricia911	0	6029	Feb 7, 2014 by Tricia911
	Oh that's right... they're alcoholics... (Preview) Today I ran into a challenge that had me upset with a couple employees. We're going through a large change here in the business and I asked several of the staff members to communicate some of the changes with clients. I sent this via an email and almost immediately two of them started peppering me with em...	Aloha	6	455	Feb 7, 2014 by Awaken
	Site Facelift.. what do you think? (Preview) I have been working hard at bring our site up to date and bringing a new, fresh look to it. Please look around it, read the material on it, and then come back to to the message board and post under the Topic... "Site Facelift.. what do you think?" (This one) And tell me what you think of the changes that hav...	John	24	395	Feb 7, 2014 by oldergal
	This Could Be True .... (Preview)	oldergal	6	264	Feb 7, 2014 by el-cee
	Simple Acceptance (Preview) Sometimes I think of my journey with my ex-A, as bad as it was, as awful as it was to be screamed at, blamed, bullied - as bad as it was and as many tears as I cried, the pain that drove me to Al-Anon, the outcome, my now, was worth it. Yesterday someone calls me up to say he had bad news for me, my mind went to - some...	likemyheart	8	475	Feb 7, 2014 by el-cee
	What's working today (Preview) It's been more peaceful. The best program tool I came up with is "I am not God!" (as if thats a new thought). I always thought I understood that saying "there is a God and I am not it." I didn't realize I was making myself into some kind of God of rehab or something. I was hold...	pinkchip	8	368	Feb 7, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Adult son recently home from Rehab and I suspect he is drinking again. (Preview) Things have not been good since my adult son got home from rehab. The plan is for him to get on his feet financially and move out in 2-3 months. We had been going in his room looking for evidence of him using and found questionable things. Our counselor says we are to back off so we have, but it is so hard. ...	Pamela1954	16	1235	Feb 7, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	One month since AM passed and it's only getting harder (Preview) I posted here nearly one month ago when my AM suddenly died in a tragic car accident after what we assume to be a night of binging. As I'm sure you all understand all too well, I was losing "my mom" for many years before that due to her disease. I have grieved the lost of the person I knew for so long...	Daughter	10	543	Feb 6, 2014 by MeTwo2
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